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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Waving Back by Mistake, Handling Bad Haircuts, Separating Groceries on Belts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about waiving back to someone by mistake, handling bad haircuts, separating your groceries on supermarket checkout belts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you think someone is waving at you and you wave back but they were actual...

Mar 31, 202531 minEp. 261

Vacationing at All-Inclusive Resorts, Demanding Cash at Weddings, Using Other People's Waterpiks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle vacationing at all-inclusive resorts, demanding cash donations at weddings, using other people's Waterpiks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Broadway's Legacy Robe A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: All-inclusive Resorts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What does "voluntary ca...

Mar 24, 202552 minEp. 260

Bailing on Bad Accommodations, Attending Virtual Housewarmings, Moving Meetings "Up," and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about bailing on bad accommodations, attending virtual housewarming parties, moving meetings "up," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the proper etiquette when your deli order is more than you wanted? How do I bail as a houseguest when the ...

Mar 17, 202531 minEp. 259

Naming Dogs in France, Going to Open Houses, Reading Books in Bathrooms, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle naming dogs in France, going to real estate open houses, reading books in bathrooms, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dog names in France A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Real estate open houses QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you provide reading material in your gue...

Mar 10, 202539 minEp. 258

Accepting Unwanted Packages, Eating Duplicate Salads, Celebrating Letter Openers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about accepting unwanted packages, eating duplicate salads, celebrating letter openers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: At what point can I stop holding mail and packages for my home's previous owners? Was it odd that a restaurant chef wanted me...

Mar 03, 202531 minEp. 257

Complaining in Restaurants, Backing Out of Weddings, Taking People's Airline Seats, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle complaining in restaurants, backing out of weddings, taking people's airline seats, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Gifting knives A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Complaining in restaurants QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Getting out of a wedding, Choosing the right soap ...

Feb 24, 202553 minEp. 256

Holiday Break: Dining Late in Spain, Taking Care of Pets, Using Toilet Bowl Brushes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle dining late in Spain, taking care of pets, using toilet bowl brushes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUS...

Feb 17, 202546 min

Bringing Ice to Parties, Ignoring Dungeon Masters’ Quests, Texting at the Movies, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about bringing ice to parties unprompted, ignoring Dungeon Masters' quests, texting at the movies, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to bring ice to a party without asking the hosts first? How do I respond to an acquaintance's texts accus...

Feb 10, 202531 minEp. 255

Making Introductions, Attending Super Bowl Parties, Avoiding Bad Salad Dressings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle making introductions property, attending Super Bowl parties, avoiding bad salad dressings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Making introductions A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Super Bowl parties QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can we talk about the perils of the double ch...

Feb 03, 202552 minEp. 254

Ignoring Spouses on Airplanes, Sipping From Cocktail Straws, Using Napkins Outdoors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ignoring spouses on airplanes, sipping from cocktail straws, using napkins outdoors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it bonkers to not sit with your partner on an airplane and to not acknowledge each other for an entire flight? Is a coc...

Jan 27, 202529 minEp. 253

Ordering Espresso in Italy, Asking for a Raise, Deflecting Rude Questions, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle ordering espresso in Italy, asking for a raise politely, deflecting rude questions, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ordering espresso in Italy A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to ask for a raise QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the best way to respond to rude inq...

Jan 20, 202545 minEp. 252

Remembering Wedding Anniversaries, Throwing Yourself Parties, Examining Other People's Zippers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about remembering wedding anniversaries, throwing yourself housewarming parties, examining other people's zippers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for my boss to take home the leftovers from the office lunch he provides? Should you re...

Jan 13, 202532 minEp. 251

Holiday Break: Eating Cake With Ice Cream, Behaving in Movie Theaters, Cutting Nails in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating cake with ice cream, behaving in movie theaters, cutting nails in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CO...

Jan 06, 202542 min

Holiday Break: Buttering Bread Properly, Going on First Dates, Ringing Bells for Service, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle buttering bread properly, going on first dates, ringing bells for service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUS...

Dec 30, 202449 min

Holiday Break: Blasting Holiday Lights, Announcing Weddings in Holiday Cards, Reciprocating Expensive Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about blasting holiday lights, announcing weddings in holiday cards, reciprocating expensive gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW ...

Dec 23, 202432 min

Celebrating Christmas With Fried Chicken, Tipping in Coffee Shops, Showing Gratitude for Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle celebrating Christmas in Japan with fried chicken, tipping in coffee shops, showing gratitude for gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: KFC for Christmas in Japan A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Tipping screens in coffee shops QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When should ...

Dec 16, 202444 minEp. 250

Gifting Frozen Vegetables, Enjoying Public Restrooms, Obsessing Over Necklaces, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about gifting frozen vegetables, enjoying public restrooms, obsessing over necklaces, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Our neighbors gave us a bag of frozen vegetables as a holiday present...how should we respond? What's the proper etiquette when...

Dec 09, 202432 minEp. 249

Experiencing Lucha Libre, Perfecting Guest Rooms, Spying On Neighbors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle experiencing Lucha Libre, perfecting guest rooms, spying on neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Lucha Libre A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The perfect guest room QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about being asked to split the cost of an over-the-to...

Dec 02, 202450 minEp. 248

Hiding From Window Washers, Riding in Rental Cars, Lowering Toilet Lids, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hiding from window washers, riding in rental cars, lowering toilet seat lids, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should you do when your high-rise windows are being washed? What should you do if someone asks you for the addresses of mutu...

Nov 25, 202429 minEp. 247

Autumn Break: Mistaking Customers for Employees, Forgetting Previous Introductions, Washing Dishes Before Returning, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about mistaking customers for store employees, forgetting you've been introduced before, washing dishes before returning them, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for ...

Nov 18, 202425 min

Surviving Burning Man, Staring at Tattoos, Sending Extra Holiday Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle going to Burning Man, staring at tattoos, sending extra holiday cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: FBI Hostage Negotiation Tips A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Burning Man QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How long is it permissible to stare at someone's tattoo? The pri...

Nov 11, 202447 minEp. 246

Handling Stray Hairs, Backing out of Dinner Parties, Tipping for Strangers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about handling stray hairs, backing out of dinner parties, tipping for strangers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do if my curly hair gets stuck in someone’s beard during a hug? Can we back out of a dinner party after seeing the gu...

Nov 04, 202430 minEp. 245

Sitting on Suitcases, Going on Ghost Tours, Being Disappointed by Mahi-Mahi, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sitting on suitcases before a trip, going on ghost tours, being disappointed by mahi-mahi, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sitting on suitcases A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Ghost tours QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about colleagues who haven't checke...

Oct 28, 202450 minEp. 244

Picking People's Brains, Dividing Group Gifts Fairly, Whittling Excessive Guest Lists, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about picking people's brains, dividing group gifts fairly, whittling down excessive guest lists, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you tell a stranger that there's an issue with their clothing? What do I do about a neighbor who keeps wanti...

Oct 21, 202437 minEp. 243

Holiday Break: Squeezing Grapefruits, Paying for Damaged Pans, Photographing Great Danes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating grapefruits, paying for damaged pans, photographing Great Danes in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE C...

Oct 14, 202444 min

Savoring Soufflés, Responding to Condolence Notes, Keeping Cutlery at Buffets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle savoring soufflés properly, responding to condolence notes, keeping cutlery at buffets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Soufflés A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Responding to condolence notes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do when someone double downs on inco...

Oct 07, 202451 minEp. 242

Avoiding Dance Videos, Roaming Around in Robes, Enforcing Coaster Usage, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about avoiding dance videos, roaming around B&Bs in robes, enforcing coaster usage in one's home, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to tune out and look at one’s phone when one's host insists on everyone watching their teenager's dance ...

Sep 30, 202427 minEp. 241

Crossing the Equator, Going Apple Picking, Deciphering Bathroom Signs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle crossing the equator, going apple picking, deciphering bathroom signs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Crossing the Line Ceremony A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Apple Picking QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What can be done if you accidentally confuse a photo of someone ...

Sep 23, 202443 minEp. 240

Passing Along Discounts, Letting Toilets Mellow, Avoiding Wearing Black Tie, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about passing along discounts, letting toilets mellow, avoiding requests to wear black tie, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If someone gives you money to purchase something and you receive a discount, should you pass along the savings? If a part...

Sep 16, 202437 minEp. 239

Managing Multiple Chopsticks, Behaving at Baggage Claims, Whining About Wedding Menus, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle managing multiple pairs of chopsticks, behaving at baggage claims, complaining about wedding menus, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Using two sets of chopsticks in China A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport baggage claims QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I respon...

Sep 09, 202443 minEp. 238