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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnemawww.wereyouraisedbywolves.com

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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Episodes

Rescinding Getaway Invitations, Staking Unwanted Yard Signs, Choosing the Right Stationery, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about rescinding weekend getaway invitations, staking unwanted yard signs, choosing the right stationery, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do when someone I'm dating gives my spot on a trip away before I have time to ...

Jun 22, 202631 minEp. 311

Flying the Danish Flag, Ducking Out of Weddings, Roasting in Cocktail Attire, and More

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Jun 15, 202640 minEp. 310

Ending Endless Brunches, Dealing with Double Dippers, Greeting Bus Riders, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ending endless brunches, dealing with double dippers, greeting bus riders, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you handle a fellow diner whose constant storytelling stretches a meal to three hours? As a host, how do you p...

Jun 08, 202626 minEp. 309

Asking About Brian, Living With Homeowners Associations, Redirecting a Birthday Gift, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking "Where is Brian?", living with homeowners associations, redirecting a birthday gift to a different recipient, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Where is Brian? A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Homeowners Associations QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: ...

Jun 01, 202640 minEp. 308

Second Helpings: Sitting on Suitcases, Going on Ghost Tours, Being Disappointed by Mahi-Mahi, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle sitting on suitcases before a trip, going on ghost tours, being disappointed by mahi-mahi, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com E...

May 25, 202646 min

Finding Cat Hair in Food, Picking People's Brains, CCing the Wrong Person, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about finding cat hair in food, picking people's brains, CCing the wrong person, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I have handled a holiday guest whose home-baked cake turned out to contain cat hair? Is it rude when you a...

May 18, 202631 minEp. 307

Receiving Black Napkins, Squatting in Strangers' Kitchens, Slurping Smelly Foods, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle receiving black napkins in restaurants, squatting in strangers' kitchens, slurping smelly foods on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkins 201 A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making phone calls on airplanes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Sho...

May 11, 202640 minEp. 306

Outrunning Your Friends, Bragging About Possum Sweaters, Renaming Your Coworkers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about outrunning your friends, bragging about possum sweaters, renaming your coworkers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the etiquette of running your own race when you've signed up with friends? What's the proper age to sta...

May 04, 202628 minEp. 305

Earning Girl Scout Badges, Washing Strawberries in Soda Fountains, Whisking Away Cake Plates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle earning Girl Scout badges, washing strawberries in soda fountains, whisking away cake plates, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The "Social Butterfly" Girl Scout Badge A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Soda fountains QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it ru...

Apr 27, 202643 minEp. 304

Outing AI Videos, Evicting Lingering Guests, Reserving Paper Towels, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about outing AI videos, evicting lingering guests, reserving paper towels, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to tell someone that a video or post they sent you is obviously AI-generated? How do you get a friend to leave y...

Apr 20, 202619 minEp. 303

Decoding Different Cultures, Pursuing Dry Cleaners, Blasting Techno Music, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle decoding different cultures, pursuing dry cleaners, blasting techno music, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: "The Culture Map" by Erin Meyer A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Food delivery services QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the best way to foll...

Apr 13, 202647 minEp. 302

Second Helpings: Removing Shoes on Airplanes, Exiting Weddings Early, Welcoming Guests In, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about removing shoes on airplanes, exiting weddings early, welcoming guests in, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyr...

Apr 06, 202623 min

Second Helpings: Eating Baguettes in France, Spitting Wine at Tastings, Returning Gifts to Guests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating baguettes in France, spitting at winery tasting rooms, returning gifts to guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE ...

Mar 30, 202640 min

Leaking Phone Numbers, Venting About Registries, Requesting the 'Man of the House,' and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about leaking phone numbers to strangers, venting about baby registries, requesting the "Man of the House," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do when someone shares your phone number without your permission? Am I right t...

Mar 23, 202630 minEp. 301

Very Special 300th Episode Extravaganza

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 300th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah count down their top ten favorite etiquette questions and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TOP 10 QUESTIONS: What’s the best way to handle being surprised by four extra houseguests? (Episode 281) What do you do if you're asked to chaperone a children's birthda...

Mar 16, 20261 hr 27 minEp. 300

Getting Married on Fridays, Putting In-Laws to Work, Singing Foreign National Anthems, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about getting married on Fridays, putting in-laws to work, singing foreign national anthems, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to get married on a Friday? Should I wear shoes when giving a piano lesson in my home? How do ...

Mar 09, 202626 minEp. 299

Closing Letters Properly, Feeding Finicky Visitors, Blinding Fellow Drivers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle closing letters and cards properly, feeding finicky out-of-town visitors, blinding fellow drivers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Signing letters and cards A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cruise ships QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do abou...

Mar 02, 202645 minEp. 298

Dropping State Names, Double-Thanking for Gifts, Arriving at Funerals Early, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dropping state names, double-thanking for gifts, arriving early for funerals, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is a city sufficiently well known not to need the state name with it? Is it bad form to text a photo of yours...

Feb 23, 202626 minEp. 297

Second Helpings: Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about faking wedding start times, asking for gifts back, clipping nails in church, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask....

Feb 16, 202624 min

Herding Sheep in Iceland, Watching Hockey Respectfully, Hailing Cabs in Winter, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle herding sheep in Iceland, watching hockey games respectfully, hailing cabs in winter, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Réttir (Annual Icelandic Sheep Roundup) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Watching hockey QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you navi...

Feb 09, 202634 minEp. 296

Waiting on Forgotten Gifts, Noticing New Wigs, Gossiping About Monarchs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about handling forgotten Secret Santa gifts, noticing a coworker's new wig, gossiping about monarchs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should you do about a Secret Santa who never gave you a gift? Should you acknowledge a cowo...

Feb 02, 202626 minEp. 295

Jumping Over Babies, Asking Callers to Announce Themselves, Giving Plants Without Pots, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle El Colacho, asking callers to announce themselves, giving plants without pots, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: El Colacho (Baby-Jumping Festival) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using new call screening technology QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do ...

Jan 26, 202641 minEp. 294

Dressing for Vague Galas, Pushing In Dining Chairs, Taking Cookies Prematurely, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dressing for galas when the invitation is vague, pushing in chairs after dining, taking cookies prematurely from buffets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should one wear to a bank gala with a vague “Disco Jungle” theme?...

Jan 19, 202635 minEp. 293

Apologizing in Mongolia, Speaking for Other People, Lying to Waiters, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle apologizing in Mongolia, speaking for other people, lying to waiters, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Apologizing in Mongolia A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Email etiquette basics QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to tell an old colleague I sa...

Jan 12, 202642 minEp. 292

Enduring Dishes You Dislike, Managing Ungrateful Gift Recipients, Acknowledging Victories Without Praise, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about enduring holiday dishes you dislike, managing ungrateful gift recipients, acknowledging victories without praise, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should you do if your mother-in-law keeps making you a special Thanksgivi...

Jan 05, 202626 minEp. 291

Second Helpings: Ordering Espresso in Italy, Asking for a Raise, Deflecting Rude Questions, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle ordering espresso in Italy, asking for a raise politely, deflecting rude questions, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE ...

Dec 29, 202543 min

Second Helpings: Watching Kalle Anka, Receiving Compliments, Bringing Empty Containers to Restaurants, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle watching Kalle Anka in Sweden, receiving compliments, bringing your own empty food containers to restaurants, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit a...

Dec 22, 202541 min

Setting Dessert Cutlery Correctly, Attending New Year’s Eve Parties, Deflecting Donation Requests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle setting dessert cutlery correctly, attending New Year's Eve parties, deflecting donation requests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Setting dessert cutlery A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: New Year's Eve Parties QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you ...

Dec 15, 202545 minEp. 290

Curbing Phones at Dinner, Inviting Near-Strangers to Baby Showers, "Participating" in Hot Air Balloon Trips, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about curbing phones at dinner, inviting near-strangers to baby showers, "participating" in hot air ballon trips, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I deal with dinner guests who use their phone at the table? What should I...

Dec 08, 202527 minEp. 289

Pluralizing Names on Cards, Tipping Mariachi Bands, Wrapping Other People's Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle pluralizing names on holiday cards, tipping Mariachi bands, wrapping other people's gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ask.wyrbw.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Pluralizing names on holiday cards A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Mariachi bands QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to send...

Dec 01, 202536 minEp. 288
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