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Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that we talked back, A show dedicated to you negroes and you pros and everybody else in between. Hello, beautiful people, it's your co host AJ Holliday. What's up team now?

I like how you came in today full of energy and I got none.

I don't even got no blood. I had no energy. Been just gone.

Hey y'all, it's Tan Bama. I love y'all. Thank y'all for tuning in again.

What's up girl?

How your weekend outside of bleating?

I was outside yesterday. That's why I got zero energy today.

What'd you do?

Just hanging out? It's a new spot down here and Charleston. Y'all check it out if you're in the city. Uh, it's called the Montague Room.

I was about to come there yesterday. The Drosan for what I tell you, just to take my homegirl out going through it. So I was gonna bring her down there. But we looked at the weather and they said it was about the rain.

Real it definitely rain, Yeah, it definitely rained dry. Yeah, but you know, Chausa is a very good place just to hang out for a day because we have a lot of good food options. Downtown has always lit. You know it's gonna be you know, majority beach, but you can have a great time down there, and we have a very lovely rooftop bar. It's one of my favorite places here. It's just so like it's almost like being in Tuloom in Charleston. Maybe it's called ritual. It's really

I didn't do shit this weekend. I literally when I got home from work, I stayed in the house. I did not come back out till just now, like today, and it's Monday, y'all. So I stayed in the house. My hair fucked up. Like, let me tell you something. I worked out. I told you I was trying to operation up the big My back is in full swing, and I worked out like a mad woman last week and I literally I did the JJ Smith ten day

Oh god.

Now, well, my hair is nappy as fuck. So I didn't go nowhere except for the gym.

That's all I did, is this black women, man, I hair really be holding us back. Fuck that hair. That summer of y'all got to get the workouts and get some braids or something, I don't know.

Get you a wig and just take it off to go to the gym and go.

Yeah, money through Friday. It's a weig hat for me. Money through Friday. Hat weig hat hat wig money through Friday.

I'm about to go get some of those bohemian knotless braids with all the like curly hair mixed in it. I like get that tomorrow.

I want I think I showed it to you. I want that fairy hair, man, I want the folox mixed with like the curly hair.

Yeah, I went that next after my birthday. Yes, that's so cute, But that that look was more fair like curly hair than it was locks. She just clipped in a couple of locks. I would want it where it's more locks most of the lots. Yeah, I like that, but that's cute.

Them dad full locks took my hairt a little bit. I don't know, Maybe I'll do it again.

Then my couchie hairy. My couchie is so hairy right now?

What what are we talking about?

I'm sorry, I just felt like I needed to share that, like my wax girl quick out of nowhere. And y'all know, I had that surgery so I couldn't get no wax for a long time. So I'm finally healed and now I want a wax. My pussy looked like but we.

And that's hot outside. I'm just hot. Do something with that.

Yeah, I might have the ner this ship. I'm had to find somebody new because it's not giving what it's supposed to give right now and I'm working out m M.

It's given onion giving number one, extra onions.

Girl, because that hair. I don't know about Yuba, bitch. Between that and my left under arm, I got to be careful with life, Okay, I got to be real careful in the summertime.

I need to have to come back to work. She was so.

Good, y'all. Let's get into the stupid end of that news. That's enough why I got that weekend. It's something else I want to say, but I can't remember anyway, y'all. Kim Kardashian says she cries herself to sleep at night because she's a single parent. What do you think about that? Tom?

You know what as a stay at home, just to stay at home. Because I ain't got no kids, I really don't have much of opinion. I don't know what it's like to be in there with no four four kids.

Mama, mama, mama, mama.

I could imagine like you might cry yourself to sleep at sometimes. I remember how I knowing I was as a kid. I remember like holding my fingers under the door bathroom door, my mom trying to take a shit, and I remember her saying, God, damn, I can't even take a shit by myself.

I remember hearing her say to that too, because it's like it's an unconscious thing. I think that kids do like you. Just I don't know. Mama's doing something other that, and watch me do dumb shit. So now let me interrupt her or disturb her as soon as she get on the fucking phone. You need something all of a sudden, I don't know.

So I can imagine that she's not lying. Even with all the help that she has, even with all the money that she has, it's probably still hard now A mom afore like a real because I don't really consider her a single mom because she got so much, you know, help at her back and call, but like a real single mom, like a like a black woman living in the hood with four kids. When she say, it hit a little different to me.

Right, yeah, because I think I pictured Kim Kardashian as a woman that's single as opposed to a single mom. So she was like, so like, yeah, when you're in it, I mean, especially when you're babies, and when they're babies in your feeding, there's madness going on. It's like full madness, she continues, Right, she says, she's detailing that you have no idea what's going on in the mornings. Kardashian adds, it's like I always have to do one of my

Girl, Get you some motherfucker help, Like you literally could harry somebody to be standing there in the dark waiting on you to cut on the bathroom light to do.

Yes, like come on, Kim, and you know everybody, the thing is that she didn't have to leave her husband, She didn't have to get a divorced shouldn't met me shut.

I don't like how y'all be doing Kanye, man.

I really love Kanye.

Kanye had a bitch out there. It's a black duck tape this past week.

Miss me with that.

He ain't have a bitch doing nothing. Them bitch just be wanting to He.

Got Kim hell for being nicked and now his new bitch, his new wife literally had on black electric tape as an outfit.

I don't know why they be doing this, Like y'all just want to be this man.

You so bad, you.

Wouldn't be as muse if you know what I am not. Somebody see you now walking in the Noble with your little black duck tape out fit on.

Y'all haven't seen that video where JT is yelling at lit UZI, like they walking into like an apartment store and something. He just takes off running like a little badass kit and she's like, what the fuck you doing? That would beat me with Kanye and his ass up all day, nigga. I would have the mama teeth on all day for Kanye if you don't sit through. And that's what he needs a lot of these men that's their damn need, man, they do. They need their mama to bot badass kids, all right.

Ari says that she doesn't want to be married the money bag because of the baby mamas. And what I think it is is she don't want to pay child support.

You to her own money, absolutely, because you know, when you merge, get married, you're one. So whenever those mothers. I think he has like eight kids, she has one. So if I get married to you, they're gonna be

Right, don't think I can ever be with a nigga who got eight kids?

Right like what I look like having the ninth I'm confused, right, girl? Ye you didn't let that dick make a slave out of him? I can't.

I'm scared of it. Eight people, and I wonder how many different baby mamas.

I was talking to a nigga. He had two kids, and I was like, okay, I can do two, and then a third one popped up three years old. I was like, yeah, I'm gonna go ahead and check on out. I ain't call that nigga since.

You ever had a dude. You ever ask a guy if he has any kids and he's like nah, And then all of a sudden, he just pops up with a newborn. You like, but I thought you didn't have any kids. He was like, well, the baby wasn't here yet. And I had nobody saying that like that to me, but that happened to me once upon a time.

These men are fucking crazy.

I done had a nigga not claim one of his kids, and I was like, well, I someone told me you have a son. Because he has a daughter too. He only told me about the daughter and I was like, somebody told me you have a son, and he was like, I ain't seen that little nigga in years, yo.

Ill that's I.

Immediately stopped talking to him. I was like, well why not, because he's literally, from what I understand, he's like an hour and a half away.

They called him looking just like him, looking just like you.

Somewhere he's like his mama won't let me see him. And if that little nigga, when that little nigga grow up, if you want to find me, he find me. Ill. I could not believe that he said that. Yeah, that's how it was. I was like, I gotta go, and I ain't talked to him since.

Yeah, that's disgusting. And any woman that would continue to deal with a man who talks like that about a child, mm hmmm.

You won't do my baby like that.

Yeah, And it's probably because he only he probably stole fucks with the daughter's mom. You know, the love is transferable from the woman to the child as far as I'm concerned, even when it's a man's child.

These guys have a weird way of showing love. But I'm with ari, girl.

Let me tell you do the wedding, do the shit under God, don't gut, don't sign know. People work with the government, girl. And this nigga probably already on child support for somebody. And if he makes more money, especially when y'all merge money, they can go to court and request more money or just let him have two more kids so he can max out like Nick Cannon max out at ten. She's a smart girl as far as I'm concerned. She has one kid twenty seven. Like, no,

Right because she can't see him.

He sees her exactly.

Wow, that's scary. Sounds about white.

White, white people, she said. She narrowed the numbers down to six people and texted her stepfather after going with her gut instinct. After he responded, hey, ty, let's talk, she explained that he should tell her mother what was happening before exposing him in a fallow up video. She addressed to people who said she should have made stepdad fantasy content. What what is wrong with you?

Know?

What this is why this. I'm not human. I don't give a fuck. I'm not I'm not like these people. This is weird.

Yeah, that's weird, she said.

When I caught him, he denied it to all his friends, and obviously my mom got rid of him right away. If you want to talk about family trauma, my stepdad watched me have sex with my partner for two months. This is wild. This is wild. She ended up having to block him. It goes on and on and on and on. But girl, could you imagine.

I couldn't imagine having sex on only fans in the first day inn place first.

So I mean, like, you aren't his child and you're an adult now. But it is weird as fuck because he essentially raised.

Her, right, So he always been having sexual fantasies about her since she was.

A kid, right And you know, like she's mentioned laundry like he did her laundry, And now here you are asking like what panties I'm wearing? So were you?

Girl?

Let me not y it gets that's disgusting.

So Republican City council member Matthew Riley arrested for allegedly smoking crack and pass it out. It was newly released Bodycare for the show's moments. Cranston City councilman Matthew Riley was found unconscious in his car after allegedly smoking crack cocaine. This nigga forty one years old, and was arrested Monday morning.

This is not a nigga, a beige nigga. This is a white man.

No exactly.

Oh yeah, you got it. It's still a nigga.

Okay was arrested Monday morning after a responding officer discovered him passed out in the driver's seat of his car with a glass pipe and a lighter in his hand. He had him a good badge, baby. He didn't even putting the pipe down, and the video shows the officer shaking Riley, a Republican who represents War six away, before searching him in his vehicle. She was like, you were

I know addiction is very hard man damn. So he did resign apparently, and this happened in Rhode Island. It's a Rhode Island Republican counsel and you see how to keep making sure you know Republican like that fucking matters like crack comes in all shape sizes, crackheads.

Joe Brown, little oozy verts. I want a rock was playing in the background. Officer I made that I haven't go back and look like, bitch, ain't no way.

Yeah yo, because you imagine he was like, it's not a cruck park. What crack pipe?

Like, bit, what crack pipe?

This is a peace pipe.

I'm a politician.

No, you are crackaholic, that's what you are. So apparently the contents did test positive for cocaine and hmm Fenton al, y'all listen, if you listen to this show and you are on drugs, read some literature, reconsider do something because this is killing people.

Or at least find out where your community narcia and distributor is so you can have that available to you, so you can possibly be possibly save your own life. Niggas just die every day.

Yeah, I don't know, it's wild. I know that people will be cutting drugs now. They just you're not a chemist, don't know what the fuck you're doing. So I've been told that a pinch of fentanyl can kill you. Did you see that video online once where the dog it was a police officer. I mean she accidentally touched some fentanyl during an arrest and immediately was like they had to give her nor can. She was passing out.

Damn mm hmm.

That's wild man. That stuff is very dangerous.

It's very strong, very powerful. Yeah, I don't know. Well, I hope mister Ridley get his life back together.

Yeah, where a regular crack at like crackheads lived forever, they died from gilling ship like cancer and stuff. They never actually died from smoking crack. Right.

It's wow, y'all are ruining drugs for everybody.

Right because they're sprinkling the ship on the weed now, like I don't want no magic or my ship. Listen, all right, y'all, we're talking about spending block this week, Okay, it's summertime.

It usually just happens during the winter. But there's a lot of people, you know, coming back.

Listen, my d's got a lot of skirt.

Skirt. Yeah, they trying to check the temperature on that pussy, trying to check the temperature. Trus see what's going on.

It's her right now, Y'all's her. I don't know if y'all wanted to know, but it's her. We're just saying, Harry, yeah, bitch, we'll be right back, y'all.

All right, y'all, we are bad. Yeah, all right. So I saw Kresha and post this acting bad with the nigga. I told y'all I was done with and you know we've all been there, so I wanted us to have a conversation about spinning the block. Bitch.

I don't like spending the block. I can spend on you, but don't try to spend on me. I'm offended, really.

So you have never dealt with a guy that spun the block on you?

Absolutely, But I'm always looking at your eyes from the corner of my eye, like why are you here?

I just feel like all my niggas is a spin I might as well be on the motherfucking Ferris Wheel.

I definitely keep the same niggas and hea your rotation over the years.

Yeah, yeah, it's easier, no new notches than your belt, right.

No, you definitely get some new notches in between them. Same niggas, Yeah.

But not not every notch is a new notch, right, So that's I'm okay with that. So I went and looked on Oprah Daily dot com and I found a list of questions to ask yourself before you let someone spend the block or before you spend the block on someone. Do you you in the block? Right?

Yeah? I definitely not. Hey, bighead, Wait a minute, I think that spend the block, actually spent the block on somebody? Oh I lied, And this is just I told you about this just recently, somebody I spent the block block on because I did do them kind of dirty back in the day. So I spent the block like because you know, over the years, he just kept, you know, trying to get back with me, like, man, you should come such and such visit me da da da da.

Did he try to come back and spend it yea, yes.

And I'm like, nah, I tried spinning. Yeah, no more spinning.

Okay, here, I'm trying to think. Have I ever spun the block on my nigga girl? You know I was spinning spin it on like this?

All right?

Uh So here's the things that Oprah Daily dot Com says that you should ask yourself before you spend the block, all right, is the main issue that drove you apart resolvable? Half the time, we never even revisit that ship before we spend the block. We beat on forgot why we was mad. Sometimes I have to go back through my text thread to see why I stopped fucking with a nigga.

Nah, I usually know exactly why I don't.

I beat on forgot, depending on how much the time it was like I was mad at that nigga for something.

See, you might be petty. It takes me a while to leave somebody alone.

I just I just I just changed my I don't like I heat you. I literally just changed my HBO password on a watch gut and but thrones now beat.

Like he probably was right there, what a hole at the same time when his cable went out, like, oh, let me call you don't got no cable.

You ain't got no cable, nigga, watch it on your phone, watch whatever you can. You're gonna have to scroll Instagram, nigga.

All right.

Uh So the next thing is says, do you both agree on what your past differences were?

I feel like maybe that's why I stop talking to people, like and you know, we talk about this a lot of perception, how people perceive what happens. I feel like a lot of times men have a good time in a relationship.

Meanwhile you just over that shit.

It's like they don't have the same They don't interpret what's going on in the relationship the same way.

No, I don't think ever, I don't think it's always differently.

They're never exactly why you left, or never understand or they may understand it right, But they're intentionally, which I feel like they dont acting like you don't know what the hell I'm talking about, to further drive me nuts. Right, So now I got to block your ass because I want to keep my sanity.

Why do we spend the block? Though? Typically it's like there's something, Yeah, there's something, you.

Know, I have a saying and you are what you eat, therefore you are who you beat. Yes, right, so there's something about this person that you see yourself and them a little bit in order for you to.

Deal with them.

So that's probably why it's just the familiality or the dick bomb that pard like, I know this one is going to do it for me, right, I don't feel like trying a new one.

That's a lot of the reason why I ever spend the block.

Right?

Have you given each other enough space to know how to do things better this time? You know what? There is someone that I had been talking to you that when we were talking or we were living in Europe when we were talking and he was just a wild boy. He was like just you know, doing all the things, getting real money for the first time because we're in

Don't choose me now, you know through.

But I like him more now because he just seems like more subtle, not even humble, just more grown.

Because these niggas go get that, these holes need me headcut and they be acting brand new in two days because it only lasts about forty eight hours.

But he is better now though, So I think there is something that comes with like time, you know, like a little growth on both parties. Because I wasn't no saint, you know.

One of my homegirls, so she was dating a guy who was much older than her when we were in our twenties and early thirties, and you know, he was trying to get to the bag, like he was trying to get So now he's a millionaire. So now she's more subtle, doesn't have to be outside as much, and now she's like reconsidering the relationship and like what she could have done differently earlier on.

But so he don't want her now, Well he's in a relationship now.

She wants to be like, man, he we don't have sex enough, got some problem okay, especially older men, right, because was that on our show or somebody else to show we were talking about when men reach their their sexual peak.

I think it's on everybody's.

Show, like us our age like fucking out of both pants?

Yeah right now My age is fluid. But you know when you get to a certain age out of and then men they usually get there.

There.

What is it? It's not libido because that's what women.

Have men havelabido everybody libido?

Oh, I thought that was a feeling.

We just don't get our beatle libido catered to like men do like.

They don't want my beat up, my beat o, please sir?

Okay.

The next question is your ex open to getting back together, because that's another thing. You spend a block on the nigga and he'll just do you like that.

Yeah, but he wanted me back and then once I got back there, you know, that's like an ongoing thing for me. I always tell people, Yeah, I feel like a lot of men just like the idea right until they actually get me, and then you're trying to treat me all type of ways.

I think some it's all about a challenge oftentimes with me, like niggas want to like just conquer right or see if they still have access. It's not even really about having me. It's about having access to me still.

You know that's one thing women need to you know, how we be telling I got all these niggas, I got somebody's gonna do whatever I want them.

I don't never say niggas do I have y'all, I don't hear nothing.

A lot of these dudes just want to know that they still got access. You can be entertaining somebody. They feel like little pool when you start talking to somebody else or how they come with the bullshit. Just so don't be letting nobody call you'all phone in the middle of the night on some bullshit.

No, like that nigga on the elevator we just seen and I was like, un handy, you've been texting me ever saying this boy, you ain't even think about me.

Now you see your crummy paws off me.

Unhand me, sir.

This nigger we walk into elevated tas like this nigger and I'm like, who's this young man?

The next one? Are you afraid you won't find someone else? That's another reason why people spend the block because they go back to what, like you said, it was familiar. You know, this is something familiar. It may not be the best, but it is something that I know, get right that I know it's the lesser evil. Sometimes people feel like, read that question again. Are you afraid you won't find someone else?

I feel like a lot of women go through that.

You know what I'm saying. It's like almost like.

You're ready to go, you leave, but then the dating scene.

Is true crash. So you're about to start this new conquest with a new batch of niggas that I ain't doing with a new batch of men, right, And you gotta figure out everybody's little quirks and likes and dislikes. And it's very it's time consuming, it's nerve wrecking. It's just like, damn, my mother will go back to my old nigga, deal with that dumb shit.

I got a story.

I know him.

I remember I broke me and my guy had broken up and we had been together for some years. And this is me firstly back outside and I wasn't fucking with nobody for a couple of months. I just like, I need some time to myself. So finally I'm back outside and I'm dating and I went out and I met this man and he was so fine. This was like a one night stand, right, and he was so fine and we were like kissing. We went to his house. We were kissing, is all passionate, like something out of

Yeah, it was a mistake. It was a big mistake.

And I just thought he was about to lay it down because he was so fine and the passionate kissing.

He might have been maybe because he was maybe he was excited.

Was it little like Roger rabbit, like a little rabbit pumping fast and it was little. I couldn't feel it.

That's different.

I cried, nigga back, I spun the block. But maybe I miss you. Let's try again after that experience. So last question, will you ask your X the tough questions, like the tough questions about like why are our relationship dissolved and what can we do to make it better this time. Man, I feel like the people I've left, I'm not going back, like for real, like the real relationships you're in, like that last.

Years, Like you tried for a really long time. Why are you going back? I feel like you just need to remember the bad things.

That's what that to keep you away for that person, you.

Know, because when when you're in a relationship, you're always trying to weigh the good and the bad to try and stay. And oftentimes women just need one reason to stay. Give me one reason to stay here. Yet I turn back around.

That's a real thing, right, Give me me wh a million reasons to league?

Right, But he'd be like, baby, I love you.

I love you too, and right back, And then you were and then you're reminded shortly after why the fuck you left in the.

First acting exactly so like the actual real relationships though, the relationships you're in for many many years. I feel like you know why you left. You tried for a very long time. You gave a lot of grace. It just wasn't working out. And a lot of times people just are better as friends. So the guy I told you about that I spun the block on because I did do him dirty, like and I don't know two thousand and eight or so, e remeybody I told you to do? Who hacked my Facebook page?

That?

No, it was soldier boy. So I spun the block on him, like after I got out my last relationship and during that relationship, like I never would entertain anybody. My ex knows now for sure that I will ignore the fuck out somebody I don't fuck with m Like, you know, while we were in a relationship, he would always like accuse me of doing this. And when I don't fuck with you, I make it known. So now he gets to feel that. So this this person was

Well, I don't think it's necessary to like just be homies first, You don't think so?

No, I think so, man, because some of some of my guy friends that you know, maybe I had been intimate before, or maybe we just you know, just straight platonica the whole time I've known them. They know me to my core, you know what I'm saying. So it's never like any weird ass misunderstandings, like they know who aj Ashley is? Right with that niggas like why are you playing with me? Like I don't know who the fuck I am?

So did you not present yourself the same way?

Yes, the very same way. So it's just a different level of respect. I think that men generally respect their female friends more than they respect women they actually deal with.

Yes, I don't know if I'm the same way around my platonic male friends that I am around guys that I'm dating.

At first, what's different.

Because I'm a fart in front of one of my homeboys, I can be like, excuse me, my nigga, you know, like I'm like a whole nigga. I'm if I have to, it would not be on person. Yeah, okay, if it happens, I would never like to sleep. I would not lift up my leg to fart in front of my homeboy. I'm not like that, But if it happened, I wouldn't be you know, I wouldn't feel a way.

Can you be at home by yourself lifting your leg up in fart, lifting my leg up.

No, but you know how guys play with each other, right yeah, no, no, absolutely not. But I wouldn't feel like if I farted in front of a guy I was dating, I would be hugely embarrassed. Right but my homeboy, i'd be like, nigga just when.

That's what I'm saying. So, your mate, your lifetime partner, you should be comfortable farting in front of them. No, they don't give a damn. They could be a guy you just met.

No, men do care about stuff like that.

I know they do, which I'm saying like I wouldn't do it, but if it happens, it's not going to be like I didn't know. Women farn't what are you doing? No?

Okay, yeah, I don't want nobody who's gonna be like weird about it. My mom never farted in her life. Yes she did, Yeah, but I just I would not do that in front of someone. I would be mortified if I did it in in front of somebody. It took me so long to even you know, go number two at my.

Guy's house that you'm hiding like a cat.

Yes, I'm like, go get me some ice creep right down, bigga, God, hurry up, get out of here, like, go somewhere so I could use the bathroom. It took me so long.

So I don't like people who want to come talk to me while I'm taking a shit, like I already know what you smell, like like know you?

That's when you really really in there, that's when you're really comfortable with each other.

Can I have some privacy? I don't like people like I don't know how we going into this type of shit, literally, but do men like I don't want to say, violate you like it could be a hot summer day. Have you ever had anybody like swipe your butt crack on a hot summer sunny day?

No, what the fuck?

Like why you want to know me that intimately? Like swipe smell? Who did that to you? Multiple people have done that to me in life.

You must be walking around a little wingy.

Like I do have HBO and I'm fully aware of it. That's why I shower the way I do. You're never gonna smell me just outside funky. But at what point do you think you don't stink? You? Not you about?

Should you talking about good?

Yes? Like just straight violating, like I just want to see what you sell, Like why I feel like there's some things women have to keep like a secret. You know what I'm saying. I don't believe in women getting dressed in front of men, Like can I get my space so I can do my magic? Bitch?

You know it is my man. I don't mind getting dressed in front of them. I don't know, but it's just some things that I do need my privacy for for life, like and that number two.

Oh, go the fuck away.

Get out my space, like right now, Or like I had a guy I used to like him so much. He was so fine. This was in college, but he just was so fucking goofy as fucking He used to do stuff that would piss me off. Like we'd be like laying down watching TV, having like just chilling good vibes. We just smoking. All of a sudden Dutch oving me. Do you know what that is like? And put the and hold me under the blanket with his fart. Nigga,

That's discussing, is that, Jordan?

You do that?

Like I'm gonna fight you.

But we were I mean essentially kids. I mean we were college and you.

Weren't doing them crazy like that's terrible. Yeah, it was gross.

I don't like that. I don't want to know you like that.

Okay, So we all know recently that Nellie and as Shanty have spun the block. We talked about this in our stupid Internet news in another episode, it's cool spend the block. It's been ten years. He has been innother relationships. I don't know any other relationships she's been.

In has been public.

Yeah, I heard her dating floor Rider at some point. Maybe possibly, I don't know. We just know that she's just been findings hell on vacation with somebody's for the last ten years. We don't know what she's been doing, especially for her birthday. I live for a Shanty birthday pictures. Right, he looks good, Nelly. I just feel like if he was going to spend the block, I feel like you should come with a ring. Shouldn't coming? It needs to

Well, they have to get to read know each other. They're different.

How does that take shit for me at least are you, because you're a grown man. At least for you, like three months if I already known you. I'm pretty sure they spoke to each other over the last ten years. It's not like they con You think that Nellie and Shanti just never had any contact in the last ten years and now maybe not.

You never know, girloo, you never know. You never know. They might have. First time they seen each other was on that versus stage for all we know.

I don't know, but if he's going to spend the block, I feel like he should come with.

All a ring in three months.

At their age, what you're waiting for? You don't waste how many years before? You just waste ten years of another woman's life. What are you here for?

They wasted each other's time.

No, I'm pretty sure Shanty wanted to be married before. I'm pretty sure she's a woman.

That don't be shit. I'm a woman. I'm scared girl, I'm a commitment for That's what my therapist tell me.

Let's unpack that for a moment. Why do you think it is that you're afraid of commitment? Tam them?

Can I lay back? I'm just kidding all right. So I think I'm afraid of commitment because I don't want to choose the wrong person. I don't want to choose wrong And I have so many options too, that makes it harder to pick one. When you got like endless niggas in your dms, endless niggas every time you walk out the door.

That's that's everybody. That's most I do want to say most women, because all women don't have all those options. But if you're an attractive woman, you definitely got dick on our three.

Yeah, everywhere I go.

But it's hard for you to pick one. What do you entertain? At some point you have to You have to entertain at least one person, right, So is the person you're entertaining somebody that could potentially be your mate or is it somebody that is not?

Also, that's some bullshit, so we both want the same thing. Nothing, So you are choosing, I'm not choosing.

That is choosing. It's not you are choosing because if you're given this person the available time when you are available, if you're setting aside setting aside time for an unavailable person, you could be setting aside setting aside the same time for somebody who is available.

You know what. More recently here I have been making time for people who make time havelftime. Yeah, okay, yeah, but it is a fear of mine because I just don't I just don't want to end up. I be ready, y'all. I love love. I mean, I just want to love first dates. What is it called?

What is it called?

When? Where's the what's the area where they had the babies at? After birth?

War?

This bitch got more war? Stay with me yesterday? All right?

Baby? Have you maybe?

Al right? Baby? All right, baby, I'm gonna call you back, getting ready to record. Baby, bitch, how many babies do you have? Babies? Meanwhile, I'll be like, all right, my boy, I'm gonna at you.

That's all.

I love them, Okay, I know, y'all, my baby.

I got one baby.

It'd be different niggas, all of them, all right? So do you have any last words for this?

No? But I feel like, meanwhile, meanwhile, while I'm calling everybody, baby right, whichever baby steps up to the plate and does all the things I need right, that'll beat it forever.

Baby.

So in the meanwhile, all these niggas is that nigga?

All of them is baby?

Yes, Okay, let's be clear. That's what they do. This is me. I'll let you my boy, thank you for dinner.

I'm scared. That's another thing. It's not just the options, the endless options and the fear of choosing wrong. I'm just scared somebody gonna fucking hurt me really badly too. Like I've been there before. I've been there anytime I've really allowed myself to be opened up, opened and vulnerable and like completely submit to a nigga. They take my little heart and they drop it on the ground.

But are you opening up to the right people?

Apparently not when you do pick so I don't know, And like they always seem like the right person at the time when I allow myself to be.

And then show up with that representative and usually you don't find out who the.

Fuck he is until after a second. Yeah, oftentimes, so.

Once I've been conquered, that's how I feel, like, Oh, I allowed this person to conquer me now and now they playing with my top.

Yeah, women chase after they give the pussy up before we have all control, and I ain't got time for that. Then all of a sudden, what happened? Like why am I look for him. Now in the dark in the daytime.

Is my online trying to find use car parts for this nigga. You know, I just had a flash back.

But as far as spending the blog, I had a homeboy tell me recently that he has intentionally like he saw a girl in the club that he tried to holler at before. And this is not somebody he actually got with. This is just somebody who didn't give him a chance. Like when he saw her one other time, he tried to haller at her and she like, So, I don't know, maybe his aura was different this day.

To you, but now you just doing it as a reveal. Yeah, because I didn't like you when you were fat.

So there are some revide revenge spinners. Yeah here, y'all be careful.

No, I know a guy that does that to women, Like he used to be fat and now he's not, and now he getting all the girls that he couldn't get when he was fat, so he could play them. Oh that's great, that's him out there barking. Would you like to do and tell your.

Oh we can go back to Diddy and Karesha like so so then it just last week she said she was out of that relationship. She wanted her own nigga, her own nigga this summer, all this shit, now you back outside. Hey, I don't judge my friends when they do shit like that. If you like him, I love him, so yeah, I'm okay when my friends spend the block on a dude. To allow a dude to spend the block, I don't try to deter them me neither.

I don't have I can't. I am in no position to tell anybody anything about their relationship when it comes to that.

Spend the block, spind it. If you want to spend the block on my only.

My only advice is just wear a condom. That's my only. He's a common guy.

Just go get tested. See y'all can slip and slide, like make a whole date out of it.

You know, you can get tested today and then he can follow and then come back to you with girl put in a lot unless you're getting tested every day a Christian, that's what he gave us, these kind.

Of skin you So God gave y'all condoms connors be irritating like Cucie. Okay, y'all did not create that. God did.

He created the mind that created that. So I'm just here for it. I don't ever want to be nowhere like, oh what happened to Tammy? Oh y'all didn't hear? It's so sad.

Because I have got.

Something in my vagina. Like, No, I don't want to be like on a be because it's some dick. No, that's just not how I'm going about it.

That could happen from your husband.

It is. But then at least I made a viow before God. Now this was Guy's decision for me. I guess I don't know both.

Ways, That's what I'm saying. I'm just playing, y'all. Safe sex, always practical play. You gonna make a whole date out of going and get tested together. Get y'all people work and have like a pink slip party.

That is the worst idea, because what if somebody slip come back fucked up. Now it's no longer a party.

A memorial ship.

Yeah, go get your tests and bring your paperwork back.

Niggas be cheating off their girlfriend tests or whoever they want test, So you've got to make sure they bring their own tests with their social and name on it.

Niggas do not go get the first of all, they just don't go to the hospital period. That much. Black men are they be on I've seen black men literally on their deathbed before they'll even go to the hospital. Like, why won't you go check on yourself?

That's why you need a wife. Y'all out here not making sure your women do the same thing. Goad bitches. Be'all have with bad livers pussy good though, because you went to the obg y am, but you ain't had a full physical.

You point at me like you talk about I'd be going to the door.

My heart, my heart bad, and my pussy good. Like, girls, that's crazy. We need to do a damn a physical challenge for the month of June.

What do you mean, Like, yeah, go get a full physical, get a full blood work up.

Okay, Yeah, make sure you're good, you know, get you some Obamacare.

I have to Well, you can't get obamacare right now, I think the it is closed. But you can prepare for the end of this year to go get you some health care, or just go get you some health care if you get afforded, you know. But I have to get I have to get my body checked all the time, just because I have MS, so they're always usually checking my levels, my blood work and all that good stuff. But people don't go often at all.

Nope, they be scared too.

And I can understand the fear though, like sometimes ignorance is bliss, especially like if you got something going on, you might be scared to go. I can get I understand that.

Today's just gonna be around here violating other people.

Then I know, but I understand the fear though, so ooh lot.

I don't like talk about stuff now.

That's why it's just easier to just put on a condom. Anytime I ever fuck without a condom, I go to bed like this at night.

Thank God. If you ever can't sleep just.

Laying in the dark with my eyes offen, I'm not doing that no more. I be like you sleep.

Peacefully up sull do.

Y'all.

These are jokes. Okay, let's be clear anyway, bitch listen, spend the block or not be careful. That's the that's my word, right, you know what I mean? Because sometimes certain people will and hit your phone. It's like, is this nigga coming to bring me some shit? I do think that about certain people, like does he have a special delivery he's trying to drop off? Because why are you on my phone right now?

It's the dick they're trying to drop off. But what's in it?

Right? What's in the dick?

They might not know exactly, So why are you here?

Sir?

He careful y'all listen.

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