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This show co host a j Holiday. What's up, damn y'all? This is Insomnia Long. That's my name today in Somnia Long. I'm not tam Bam because I'm motherfucking sleepy. I did not sleep all night like, not a wink, not a wink asleep.
Why you gotta baby?
This show is dedicated to you niggas at host today because that's how I'm feeling. Why you ain't sleep? My mind just would not shut off. I did everything that puts me to sleep. I I masturbated like three times. I closed my eyes and thought about Drake. I got up and did like some exercise. I got up and read. Nothing worked. Nothing worked. I stayed up all night and before I knew it, so I started to doze off like four and then I hear Bella crying, so I
get up to see what's wrong. She does shit up her cage like I'm talking about disgusting shit, and her paws are all dirty. So now I got to clean her up, clean the cage out, clean the bathroom floor because now the bathroom floor has poop on it, so now I have to mop. So finally I get back in the bed. I'm still laying there with my mind on whatever. It just won't I think I masturbated again after that. You just didn't want nothing, had shitty gloves. No,
I'm cleaned up by now. Obviously I didn't go back to bed with shit anywhere, silly. And then six o'clock she did it again. Six am, she did it again. She pooped up again. So and then it was starting to get ready for work.
Are you Are you drinking like energy drinks and stuff like that? Are too much coffee during the day because I'll do it to you.
No, So typically I just have one cup of mushroom coffee in the morning. That's what I've been having all year, and it hasn't done that to me.
So I don't know, girl, try meditation. I use this app call sinc tuition. I think I've mentioned it here on we talked back before. But y'all if y'all got a problems sleeping and shit like that, or just trying to get into meditation. That shit works like for real, for real, but it might sound like somebody walking in your house though it sounds.
I tried brown noise. I tried meditation on YouTube. I tried everything. Last night, I just could not sleep. It was my sleep. I ge, it's really bad. Ever since I got back from La.
M I don't know, man, what aside from that? How was your weekend? Cha?
My weekend was okay. I mess was flaring a little bit this weekend. It was that's a conversation for another episode. Saturday night, I saw one of my friends message me and she was like, Hey, I have to take my client. I'm trying to secure this client and his plus one isn't coming. Would you like to come with us to see Kat Williams. So I went with them to see Kat Williams other weekend and he was fucking hilarious. He
was so good. Tory Hart, she did okay, she you know that joke at the end that's supposed to be that big ha ha. It bombed real bad. I mean it did. She'll get better, yeah, as she go. But she had some funny moments. I mean, all her comedy was about him, but that's fair because all his comedy was about her and the kids at one point, So I'm not mad at that. But it was a really good show. If Kat Williams is coming your way, y'all should go see him. He's really funny. And he did
not talk about nobody. I mean, he did talk about people, but not the people that we thought he was gonna talk about.
Did he talk about Kevin Hart, He didn't know.
He didn't talk about like any comedians, politicians, and sh talked about the election. Y'all gotta go see it. I'm gonna tell you, I don't want.
To always talk about politics, that's all asking.
Yeah. Yeah, he definitely talked about politics. And he talked about you know, being in this world and now's a time where you literally could be anything you want to be, Like, it's the best time to be alive. And then he literally put a video of a kid. I didn't laugh at this part. I want my soul wanted to, but I just stared in the sky of a kid, a
blind kid playing football. He's like, y'all were living in a town where you can do whatever you want and this poor baby was just running all over the field.
Looking ship for that.
Yeah.
This weekend was Saint Jude Hospital Annual Celebrate a Hope, So I joined everybody down in Memphis, Tennessee, the most filthiest city in America, Sorry Memphis. Well, I just want to know where is the suburbs, where are the nice areas? And of course I did not take none of them towards this. Actually I did tour the campus, the actual hospital campus, which is really nice. But it was a
good time. We got to try to find some type of way to implement some of their initiatives in the show possibly And you know, the sneaker ball that they had last year was super clunked. This year, child they had Dougie Fresh Tweet performed, Eric Benney performed. Oh it was lit and.
It looked like a good time. It looked like a good time.
They had like a little seventies party on Friday night. But aside from all the fun stuff, the kids that they had come speak. You know, I'm gonna tell y'all, I was tired of crying.
You did.
Yes, this year they had like little boxes of Saint Jude Hospital and Napkins on your table just because they know they're gonna make your ass cry off fucking weekend. But you know, the research that the hospital is doing, it's a good thing. I have my reservations about some stuff, but for the most part, cancer exists, and we need people around the clock trying to figure out all these different diseases. Man, so you can care kids at least. You know, all these kids seem like they'd get hundred
years older. Like the way they talk, you would think they're way older than they actually are. It's crazy.
Well, maybe their soul is older.
That's what I be thinking. I feel like that that is the spiritual side of that thing. I do feel like they might be older spirits yep show.
You guys, it is the first day of Black History Month, and you know every year we're going to do a Baddie who talks back to celebrate our female Black history. And I, you know, I was thinking about it, and I was like, who should we start this year off with? And who better than Coretta Scott King? Since everybody won a Coretta, I need y'all to know some of the things about her. You know why she was so special. She wasn't just Martin Luther King's wife. She had accolades
and things that she did on her own. She took an early stand on the Vietnam War just after doctor King was killed, so weeks after he was killed, she was doing his speech about in an unpopular opinion at the time, so she was by herself saying that this war is wrong and calling on Linda B. Johnson to bring the troops home. So she was out there doing the speech only weeks after Martin Luther King had been murdered. She also is the reason why there's an MLK Day altogether.
She started the King Center, and she called for nationwide celebrations in support of Martin Luther King and states beginning to pass their bills making King's birthday and national holiday. And it took a year because John Conyers and Edwards Brooks from Massachusetts Republicans, they're introduced to bill to honor him, but it wasn't recognized until she started calling on all the states to start recognizing her husband period. So that's
how we yes they did, Yes they did. She went on to meet with Wynnie Mandela after Nelson Malandela was prison She went to share love with that woman and Soweto and later describes it as one of the greatest meaningful moments of her life. And she took a stand on people living with HIV and AIDS in the lgbt community long long before many others. So she was definitely one of the first advocates for LGBTQ and HIV and a's survivors or people living with that. So she has
done many many things. Coretta Scott King, we salute you. You are a battie who talks back.
Happy Black History Month. I guess.
You guess why?
You guess you know it's all It's year round for me, chill, but you know this is our time February. Let me drop this eminem before we get in the stupid internet news messy uh messy memes. So uh this is from Twitter. I found this tweet and this girl says a nigga and a Nike suit and some Aaron Max's ain't never asked me, what do you bring to the table. That's a brunch boot nigga question. I agree, Yeah, them niggas wild turn on necks and blazers on.
What kind of shoes your nigga had on that time?
Oh Chelsea boots? Yeah, that nigga ain't never asked me what I bring to the table either, So there's that part. Because most of the time he would have on an Adidas track suit.
I like, I like like them Nike tech suits because them dick prints be dick print.
Yes, came me give me some great sweatpants.
I loved about. Like, that's my gift for at Christmas time. Let me get you a Nike tip bribe every time, every time little Central hoodie and the Nike tick some sneakers, the match child.
Let's get into the stupid ind ofnet news now, all right, Nicki Minaj ruined the whole fucking weekend. She ruined it, okay, So she okay, She's not okay, She's not okay, and she is the hit dog that's been howling all fucking weekend after Meg the Stallion dropped her single Hiss on Friday at twelve midnight, and Megan Dadian also went on a breakfast club you know, via a telephone call, and she said, all hit dogs on Hauler. I'm not talking about anybody in particular, but if he feel us about you,
bitch is about you. So she dropped the line in the song saying these bitches ain't mad at Meghan, Ain't mad at Meghan's law, That's all she said. So that was enough for Nicki Minaj to go on a rant, a seventy two hour rant. And then also on Sundays, she dropped some Bigfoot disc that she already had in a cut for Megan to stallion. So that also indicates that, bitch, you did have a smoke with that girl. How you
already got a disc track ready? Because she was playing the shit on the live she was on for seventy two hours.
Yeah, that shit was crazy, first of all Meghan's last. So I had to go do some research on that because the father of the child, a young child, ten year old baby named Megha, had been murdered by her neighbor who was a sex offender. And this is before sex offenders were required and that's how the law became. So he's offended by the song or you know, him using her daughter. But I feel like, you know, it brings more awareness to the law, you know, instead of
him being upset. You know, that's just bringing more you know, people to know what that law is exactly. Now. His I don't like the name because I mean, are you a snake?
I think I think snakes get a bad rap if you look up the actual h I guess an esoteric meaning of a snake is not a negative thing. So I don't know. I don't think snakes are bad omens, so I don't look at that way.
Mm. I don't like snakes. I never like snakes. It's always been like a negative you know, energy when it comes to snakes, serpents and things like that. But I mean, okay, I get it. His it means like she's you know, that's what a snake does when NI gonna attack, right, So okay, I get it. The song was good. I like it. It's good for the gym.
But I definitely had my gym playlist today.
Why ain't so mad? Why is these ladies so mad?
Nicki Minaj is doing what I believe Little Kim did to her when she came in the game. It's like, bitch, you gotta pay homage because I've been the only bitch here for a long time. Nicki Minaj, you mid forties at this point, these young girls is kicking the door down to hip hop. It ain't nothing you could do about it. You can still be the queen or whatever. If that's, you know, the self proclaimed queen and be the best rapper and drop all the metaphors. But you can't deny Magnae Stallion's talent.
Talent.
Yeah, that girl, Monie Slaughter, she's the one. I saw a tweet from her suggesting that the family needs to sue Megan. How you gonna sue her for a law that?
Yeah?
Why did y'all let them name that law after your child?
Yeah? They'll never win that one.
Yeah, that's I don't even think they have a lawsuit. You know, it's just like another thing at this point, another thing.
But you know what really pissed me off, you know, because I mean, rap beef has been happening then since forever, So that's fine. It's the lyrics about her dead mom that was just below the belt for me. I felt like it was a lie.
I don't know. I would take Nicki Minaj's if I were Megan, I would take Nicki Minaj's suggestion to conjure up my dad mother and sick her on that ass is what the fuck I would be doing right now because I saw a video with some little bitches dancing in front of Meghan and Stallions mama Grave. So this is your hometown. People doing the type of nasty shit to you because it's some other rapper that they're choosing a sideway because people just don't like you from home.
That's just what it is like. They they you cool as long as you so kind on their level level, but when you get too far for them to touch, they want to humble you and bring you back down.
Today Lan your mama Grave.
Yeah, like just disgusting.
Yeah, this I hope somebody beat the ass.
Yeah, that girl is under a spiritual attack. Man, I don't know what the hell. Who the hell Mega Stallion. I'm pissed off on the other side of this thing. But she has been having all types of issues since she came into gaming. That's when you know you a whole threat.
She says, I ain't playing with y'all pussy, So why y'all coming from me a favorite bar? Yeah?
People, Well, I don't like how they doing MEGANE. Stallion And you know, for Nicki Minaj to be a woman, I'm stole a magde Stallion on that Tory Lane shit. Okay, no she didn't. He didn't put a bullet in her foot, but it's proven that she had bullet fragments in her foot. The whole thing is, why are you shooting at a woman, whether or not she got directly hit or not. At
what point is this okay? So Nicki Minaj, you know, based on your track, recketing your family, people can draw a lot of conclusions about who you are because you are surrounded by some shady ass motherfucking people. Honestly, if you can get mad at a one little hitter, quit a line, two words shit that mega stagion said, you might need to do some reflection. You need do some reflecting. Excuse me because.
I went, I went and looked up the what he got in trouble for her husband, Nicki Minaj, And he was they were sixteen year olds.
Yeah, he was fifteen and sixteen at the time. Like it's not like he was a forty year old man dealing with a young girl. So when people people talk about him, they're acting like this should happened yesterday. And he was forty and the girls fifteen. They were both children, kids, knew kids, and he served his time. And I'm not saying that he did or didn't do this thing, because listen, right, we all been young in school, should be happening. People
be doing stuff and people regret stuff sometimes. I'm not saying that's what it was. It could very well be that, because that's why he's suggested right over time, right, that's.
What I was looking at. I was like, damn, I thought he just did something to thirty years ago. He was a king himself.
Yeah, he was a kid.
He's definitely being unfairly persecuted as like an adult child molestor when he was just a kid himself. But this is a lesson for y'all if y'all got teenage kids or kids that to tell them that the things they the decisions that they make very young, can still dictate how their life goes as an adult. So they have to start making wise decisions right now, absolutely, because the quarter of the public opinion will fry yo ask forever for something you did when you was fifteen years old. Right.
And so Nikki's defending her husband because this is a thirty year old case, but your brother just got sentenced within the last five years for getting a fourteen year old pregnant. So regardless of what the head dog is hollering, because it's the truth, next case, right, all right, So there is a woman going viral on social media and Twitter, and this story isn't new and Tam, you actually sent this to me earlier today. So her name is Gail
Louis Lewis. Yeah, so when I saw the pitch, I'm like, wait a minute, bitch, is that might then landlord from Georgia her name was Gail's I had to like go but no, that's not her anyway. So Gail has been married for twenty five plus years to a man and apparently during the pandemic she found that found out that he was cheating. The recent video, you see her pulling up on this guy at the airport, him and the girl. Everybody looking confused because they've now been separated for two years.
So this is still this girl's old man and there's Gail and her husband are still going through a divorce. So Gail went through story time on TikTok child and I hit Instagram telling the story on viral right telling the story. So people are a noown suggesting that she is trying to get on Real Housewives of Atlanta and this is why this is happening. I don't know how you had it. She does have a video with Candy burgess.
So I don't know. Now TikTok done started diving into this bitchus life and basically saying, bitch, you keep him, how you get him? Because apparently he was married to a woman thirty years ago at this point, right when he was introduced to her. So she's saying he started out by lying, saying that he was getting a divorce, which is why she even started dating a changing. Yeah, but she said the nigga was fat, and she ain't
really wasn't. She wasn't really attracted to him. But he was nice, right, nice, meaning he'd probably be breaking bread because he breaking.
He took care of He took good care of her. Yeah, took good care of her. Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something. I would have I would have looked the other way, baby. I would have looked the other way and got me a thirty eight year old because he's sixty, so she looked like she's in
her you know, she's an older lady. I would have finally got me a little thirty five to thirty eight year old and been on trips with my nigga money, taking my young nigga on trips like yeah, to play that game.
And you know, and pisses me off. Like I'm reading through the comments on Instagram and like men like, oh, women get cheap. This the random shit men like to say, right, And this is why I'm always like, men leave the relationship. Women just do the paperwork right, So men really feel like, oh, you left, no matter what caused you to leave. You're the one that filed for divorce. You're the one that ultimately ended this relationship, but you've been left the relationship.
He had been in a relationship with this younger woman for years. When she found out mm hmm, and then she was like he was kind of relieved about it. He was basically she just saw.
Her name start Alne.
Yeah, I can imagine like living a hole up double fucking life. That shit gotta be exhausting. This nigga got to be a Scorpio because when I tell y'all, Scorpios have a high capacity for bullshit, like they will carry on two foulk flaged relationships like it ain't shit, bitch, everybody piscey is too. I had a pison try to put me in a thrupple, and that's the word.
A throuple.
Try to move me in all the type of shot like, nah, nigga, if you in that type of time, you got to pay for me to live someplace else. I am not trying to be in the house with yo, bitch. I don't like women, and even if I did, would make you think I'm like yo, bitch. There's that part.
Than she wanted a divorce, she was all hurt. I would have definitely had me a new nigga, same flight, the same flight you took to Paris. I would being on the same flight on the same time, just a different day with somebody else.
So the side check. Her name is Sabrina Hutton, so you know she's still with this guy. And the video that's going viral then at the airport again is because they've been separated. So like, bitch, why are you running up on us now?
I'm about to turn this into a chick.
Nigga exactly, even man exactly.
But that's a scary part though, like because you know, when you're getting older as a woman and there's these younger women out here, your man wants to because she looks like her kind of she looks like a younger version of her mm hmm. So it's like he trade you in for the newer bottle.
That's real cheating. When a man go get a woman that resembles you, Like, that's really cheating. I need you to go get a different looking bitch, Like you have a type. I'm the prototype, right and you like cheating with people who resemble me, Like that's in real life cheating.
It's like getting a car and you're driving to twenty sixteen and now you want a twenty twenty three, twenty four.
And you know it's so sad because women automatically start, you know, questioning themselves and it's not and never have it never has anything to do with a woman. This is a choice this man is making to cheat, like it was his choice, and he did it for a very long time without you finding out about.
It, and he was still like, I love you, baby, I miss you. You couldn't go on this trip, and I would have been like, I love you baby too. My flight laying at seven, so I'll see you when I get home. I hate you couldn't go on my truth with me.
Yeah, man, I'm definitely a one upper.
I'd be fucking some thirty five year old fitness trainer.
Like that's why y'all get these niggas something to deal with. It ain't no way I'm gonna beat the only one crying broken hearts was made for two, bitch. When you cry, I cried. We cried together. That's what Lomo said. You saw he's a nice looking man now, so obviously like she was taking good care of him. She was like,
I earned everything I have. I was wiping his ass when he was sick, like obviously he might have been sick prit during COVID and shit, shit, when he got better, he went and took his bitch to Paris.
Right as soon as I get better, baby, were going away.
A laughing sorry Gil gil Lewis. Yeah, Twitter, let me this one last little piece, because remember we had episode just recently about being a girl's girls, and if you are habitual sidebitch, you are not a girl's girl. So Sabrina tweeted recently saying, we are black women with the fists different shades of black. We build, We don't tear down other black women. We have felt the pain of being torn down, and we have decided that we will
be deliberate about building each other. And then I can't even see what else fishes says anyway, that's a side bitch. Tweet to tweet, I am that people don't even believe what they.
Say, right, and then fucking that girl man for years and years and years. But can you be like for you can't? I guess maybe she for all women and stuff for that one right, for all black women except.
Gail Shan fuck bitch's name, Gail.
That's how she felt, y'all.
Rent A Center is now renting out Jordan's shoes for nineteen dollars and ninety nine cents a week, with a buy it now price tag of five hundred and twenty five dollars.
How do you feel about that, Tim, Renais Center been taking advantage of poor people for forty years. Goddamn it. That's It's so sad because there's a black mom or a black dad who wants to give their kids what the other kids have, and the kids love the Jordan sneakers and they're gonna do it, and they're gonna get raped. I mean, you don't never pay a right price for any of that shit at Rena Center, Right, you get a couch, your couch be sent seven thousand dollars for
a little seat. After you finish painting it off.
So y'all know that when you do like renter Center, like the buy now, paid later thing, that interest adds up. So you could do the buy now for these sneakers for five hundred and twenty five dollars, but if you do the monthly payment of the weekly payment of nineteen ninety nine a week, you'll end up spending one thousand dollars, one thousand and fifty dollars for a pair of Jordan's.
One thousand dollars. Yes, oh Lord, have mercy. And it's somebody gonna do it because they just want to give their baby some shoes.
I don't think nobody buying, no motherfucking j is from in a center. I don't even try.
I promise you, I promise you somebody. Yeah, I don't even know if the Jordan's is real.
Yeah, that Jordan probably got like a little bubble belly.
On him doing the split in the air. Jordan didn't do that, Like, who is that?
Wilin?
Don't do that, guys, just give him some new balance.
So shame all right, y'all listen, when we get back from this break, I want to talk about something I had a lot of good conversation this weekend, and I realized there's two types of people in this world. There's the blockers and the non blockers.
And I'm a blocker extraordinail.
We'll be back after this break, all right, So we're back, y'all. I want to talk about the psychology of blocking people. Y'all heard, Tammy says she was a blocking extraordinary. Our producer Taylor makes fun sized tea. She says she's the queen of so people brag about how many people they block and how quick they block, and I feel like it's a power trip personally. That's how I feel about blocking,
people say. After some conversations this weekend, one girl says she got her fucking mama blocked and she unblocked her daddy before. So have you ever blocked your family members? Tammy? In the midst of being a person who's blocking.
I've never. I've never blocked any of my bit.
Came from bitch. That's how you feel when you're going to block somebody's Typically.
I'm in bitch bo when I'm blocking somebody like bitch that blocked bitch, so mother fucking heart pussa as home.
But uh, I never.
Blocked any of my family members, no matter how mad I've gotten at them or I never even blocked women. It just be niggas that getting blocked. Honestly, I can't think of one woman I've ever blocked. I've just men get blocked in my On my side, I would block a nigga, It'll be bubbles coming across the screen which me and they typing block bitch, You'll never send that message to me. Ho, So I blocked them like that, But uh, that's it.
Yeah, I've never blocked like. I would never block my family member because I mean, I would feel horrible if something would happen and they couldn't reach out to me, right, So I would never block family niggas. I have definitely definitely blocked men. My ex in particular, I had to wait for that nigga to message me from his one hundred and eighty thousand Instagram pages so that I can block every single one of them. And so to this day, I feel like somebody messaging me and I feel like
it's him. My intuition says it's him fucking with me still on the Internet. I don't know. I might be tripping. I might just be shell shocked a little bit, but some people are deserving of being blocked. I feel like, if you're in a relationship though with somebody, and you don't plan on breaking up with that person, I don't think it's okay to block. I feel like it's abusive to block your significant other if you plan on unblocking him.
Yeah it is. It is abusive if you just blocking them so they can't communicate with you, and then unblock them when you're ready to communicate this file.
Yeah, that's fucked up. So I feel like that's when it becomes like a power trip. You know what I'm saying.
I have, I have. I ain't gonna even front though. I have blocked the nigga and then unblocked them so I can say, ain't another thing, motherfucker, and then I see what I'm saying and then block them again.
Now I've definitely blocked somebody in the midst of them responding. That's my favorite, Like especially random weirdos on the internet, Like if they be don sense some whack shit, I'm a censorship back and you can see when they're responding and you just hit block while they're responding. I like that.
I love that.
I blocked strangers all day long, but people I love, even if we're trying to work through some shit, I don't really want to block you. I know sometimes women like we want to see that he trying to get in contact with us.
Right?
If I block you yet, the only way you're gonna get in contact with me is via cash app okay, hell, PayPal. You can send your message in the subject title, right, and I don't take no motherfucking dollars neither.
I unblocked the nigga after he came in bed for me to unblock him. Come on and blocked men block me, man, I've taken them off the block list, but eventually they end up right back the fuck there.
How would you feel if you unblock somebody only to find out that they have you now blocked? What?
I'm confused because you blocked them because nobody blocks you. Right.
That's where he confessed he'd never been blocked.
I've never been blocked.
You above block reproach.
You know, I have been blocked by one person that I know I'm not sure about. You know who else? It might be some other people, But guess what, I didn't know because I ain't want to talk to your motherfucking ass anyway, you know that part.
Okay, I got one big matter of fact, I got one person that got me blocked, which is an ex best friend of mine, which I don't know why you got me blocked. I'm not even checking for your life. I didn't realize she had me blocked. T maybe two years after we stopped speaking, somebody sent me a link to her page and without really explaining what it was, and I clicked on the link and I'm like, what is this because I guess I'm blocked from whatever it is that you sending me because I can't see the
person's page. But apparently it was her fucking crusty ass girl. Hey, and I was I have been blocked by men's girlfriends, So do you have any guys that you're blocked? But he isn't the one who actually did it. It's like, whoever, the girlfriend is some random person. I had a white lady block me about a nigga. One time I met
this nigga at the MTB National Tire and Battery. I was getting all change and we just Instagram friends, like instantly, like just chatting on Instagram every day for about a year. And I had said something to him about having that white girlfriend, when like all of a sudden, now he got a girlfriend, right, and it's a white girl. His baby mama was a white girl too, so I knew he was in the white women. So I was just fucking with him about now having another white girl. I'm like, damn,
you don left the other white girl. You had a baby, You had a baby with this white girl, and you left her for this older white lady. So apparently the bitch sat of messages, the wife's sat of messages, and I didn't realize who the fuck it, well, not wife, but now a new girlfriend. I didn't realize who her man was, but she messaged me from her page. I
didn't realize who the fuck she was talking about. But then I tried to go like message, I'm like, hey, your bitch messaging me on Instagram and I was blocked. So I've definitely gotten blocked from people from the woman.
Or she made that nigga blocking that part.
So then, yeah, I got blocked, but I wasn't trying to get him or nothing like that.
Yeah, I don't think. I can't think of a time where I got blocked, except for all that one girl. We were friends for a long time, and we got into it and I threatened her. I told you that story. I ain't gonna tell the listeners.
Ain't hurting what happened. Just summarize it.
Okay, So my friend, she was my friend, and how.
Long your friend?
We started? We became friends in the first grade. We're adults by this time, right, She's living in Atlanta. I came to spend the weekend because I was moving to Atlanta, and I was like going on like interviews for jobs. And before I came, she was letting me know that her money was fucked up, so she wasn't gonna be able to do anything. And at that time, I was dealing with somebody who had a lot of money, so I was like, my money, your money, no worries, We're
gonna do all the things. Bought her clothes, got her some bone, did her hair like, bought us food, like I really, you know, I'm showing love. I'm staying at her house. It's all good. We're friends. She had some dude coming over to she had money for weed, so she had bought her some weed. And I'm not smoking because I'm obviously trying to get employed. So I'm not partaking. And she comes in the room and asks me, can
I buy her some cigars? And this dude was on the way to come smoke with her, and I was like, well, wy don't you ask old Buddy to get it? He on the way here. She's like, I don't want to ask him for that, but you want to ask me? You want to ask me all this shit. I just spent a lot on you at this point, so old Buddy comes over and I go out in the kitchen and she says, so, I'm like, damn, I ain't got no guards. I was like, oh, can you stop and grab some could you go run and grab some guards?
And she was he was like yeah and left. And then she got so mad at me that I did that. She was like, I told you I didn't want to ask him for nothing. I was like, you didn't ask him.
I did.
I I accident for you, bitch. So then they smoked, they did whatever they did. I was like in another room, and then it was like eleven o'clock at night. She comes to the room and it's like, I'm about to leave, so what you about to do? Like, basically, I gotta get out of her house. Yo, and it was poor and rain and I lived three hours away, so like we got into a screaming match. I left her house or whatever. But I told her all the money that I spent on her this weekend, I'm gonna need it
back in full. I was gonna be her ass.
And she blocked you.
She sent me a cashier's check for like six hundred dollars or something like that, and then it bought me.
That's fair, bitch ruing me my money first though, Yeah, that's a fair I guess it's a fair blocking. But girl, she's be embarrassed, Like how you letting this man have access to your pussy? You can't get a ninety nine cent pack of blunts from him?
Right? And then why you used applying.
The weed and coochie and probably the condoms too, or maybe you're letting the nigga fuck you wrought it? You can't ask for a pack of blunts.
And I fed you. I'm the one who fed you that night. I'm the one who, like I did all these things, and you're gonna put me out in the rain because I asked a nigga for a cigar for you. I ain't even smile with y'all, you know, like, bruh girl, fuck you. Yeah, it's still fuck you to this day too.
Like that's how I feel about anybody who used to be friends with It's fucking fuck y'all people, man, just goddamn wardos. Get my homegirl who got one my eggshone? Girl who got me blocked? It's just so weird, like nobody's checking for your life, ma'am. Mind you my page is open because I don't got nothing to high, like I want you to see me. There's that part and I and knowing her mentally, like her mental I know
she's looking. I'm not going to block you. You got me blocked all while you probably lurking on my shit right anyway, there has to be like some type of psychology behind blockers. I actually found an article on psych mechanics dot com. It's the psychology of blocking and unblocking. It says human are a social species. Among the most profound human needs are the need to belong and feel included.
This is like blocking people on social media. I feel like strangers should get blocked if you harassing me, Like that's the only repercussion we kind of got. It's just the block your ass cush you out and block you. It says, blocking someone on your phone is a modern form of social exclusion. It's a way of communicating to the block person, I don't want you in my life. I don't want anything to do with you. Getting blocked by someone you care about can be very hurtful and humiliating.
It can make the one depressed. It can make the one maybe it meant someone. It can make someone feel depressed and lose their self worth. Social exclusion is painful. Why would you want to block someone? The answer is simple, they're causing you pain. So in a relationship, if you're not planning on leaving that person immediately, is not okay to just be blocking and unblocking them. You know what I'm saying, Because if you block me, I'm not talking
to you no more. I'm not waiting for you to unblock me so I can finish where we left off. You're not going to be able to reach me no more.
Yeah, it's fuck you, and that's what I would expect. If I block you, it should be fucked me after that, go go away, get period.
So they're inflicting harm on you, so you want them out of your life. It's perfectly valid self protective measure measure. Everyone should be able to choose the people they want in their lives. But again, like I said, it becomes abusive when you blocking and then unblocking people blocking. Yeah, all people in your life can be categorized into two categories, blocked and unblocked. People you've blocked, you've blocked for a reason.
They've caused you inconvenience and pain. The people you've not blocked, you've chosen to keep me alive. They add value to your life. Like many things of life, things are always black and white. There's gray areas. So somebody blocking you just to because they think that they are more special for some reason, weirdo weirdo behaviors. I guess that's the gray area. Possibly, when you're unsure whether or not to keep a person in your life, you may keep blocking
and unblocking them. Your confused actions are reflection of your confused mind. Now, a variety of situations can lead to this type of indecision. Let's go over some of them. Blocking an unblocking an acquaintance slash friend. You know, someone you've added to your contact list, you've talked to a couple or maybe a few times maybe your friends, but not that close. But you're still unsure whether or not
to deepen your relationship with this person. The situation may lead to you, excuse me, the situation may lead you to block and unblock them. So recently, I had a conversation with my homegirl on Sunday because she said, this guy, she she's known him, right, but they just recently ran into each other again. And she said she blocked him because she hasn't been on a date with this guy yet,
even when she knew him from before. Like you know how somebody tried to holler at you, y'all chat it up a little bit, and then y'all kind of lose contact. So this is now them reconnecting. She saw him at event at an event, so she said she, well, she went out to dinner with a homeboy and it's actually this this person is actually a mutual friend of ours too, just to her our friend, right, So she was out to dinner with him. So the guy then texts her and was like, hey, what you got going on? Like
you out in the boutance. She was like, yeah, I'm out to dinner with a friend. So he then text her and said, oh, you want a date, So she texts back, no, Lol, I am out with a man, but it's my friend. We're at dinner. So the guy then says, oh, okay, you want a date, So she says She kind of stopped responding after that, but he continues to like badger her about whether or not this male acquaintance is a date or not. This is somebody
who had never taken her out on a date. Why are you overly concerned?
Right?
So, and then this is a conversation via text exactly, So she just blocked him. She had the conversation with another friend, and her other friend didn't understand why she blocked him. That is toxic behavior. And if somebody's doing that to you in the beginning of relationship, it's going to end the way it started. Right, Absolutely, that person has control issues because here you who are you? Yeah? Like, as soon as I give you my number, that's pussy on reserve. Like and if I were on a date,
how could you? What could you do?
Like? This ain't a date, but tomorrow there I do have a date.
Right, So she blocked him. I feel like that is very appropriate. Hm. I'm definitely not about to go back and forth that you via text message, like we don't have nothing going on yet, Like.
I don't need for you nothing.
Yeah, he's a maniac, big red flag. Let's see your partner blocking in it. Blocking in a romantic relationship is usually done by partners with an avoidant attachment style. In the past, I wouldn't say I have avoidant attachment styles, because I do like the address shit head on even more so now more than ever. But if I feel like I've said enough and you still want to go on and on and on and on and on about this thing and it's causing me mental anguish, I just
might block your ass. I just might block you until I'm in a better headspace because you're violating my boundaries at this point, because you want to allow me time to regroup, right You're trying to force me, force a response, or force more conversation out of me. That's just isn't there. I just don't have the capacity for it right now. So Yeah, I'm gonna have to block you.
Now. I done block the nigga that I knew that if I kept allowing him access to me, he was still gonna get my pussy. Like I had to like block him like.
As soon as you hear his.
Yeah, like I had like soul ties and connections to him that just was like irrefutable. And I was just like, I got to block this nigga because I'm never gonna leave him alone if I don't. I definitely had to block people like that.
He tried. Wasn't calling you, he was. He was calling you, akuccie. That's what that was about. There blocked him, mm hmm. No. The couch was like, no, let him stay. But I had to block her.
I had to block.
Get It says when a relationship gets too close for them, they use blocking as a deactivating strategy to meet their space needs. However, not all avoidance do that. Some understand that blocking is an extreme step. A friend once complained that her boyfriend blocked her when he was at work and then unblocked her when he had to talk to her. I told her blocking is an extreme step. Yeah, you what, you will be single by the time you clock out, bitch right, pardon me.
Blocking me at you know what, I don't like what a motherfucker have. Do not disturb on. That's like a formal blocking in my head. I will call back, you know when it says you know the second time you go through, I'm calling twice, bitch.
Well, I have mine set up that way, so then you know, because you can keep it to where nobody's calls can come in. But I do have a set to where if somebody calls more than once, it'll allow a call to come through.
This I'm assuming my thin every time I'm a call twice, every time I.
Know people put their phone and do not to stir my shit going at nine to twenty five pm and I'd be trying to see it.
My sister I was like, what if it's an emergency, She's like called nine one one, right.
I can't do nothing for you, no way, especially if we're in the same vicinity. I'm not in the same area. What can I do for you?
Oh no, but something.
That's control, Okay, So let's go to ego. It says more reasons ego Blocking someone makes you feel powerful and boost your ego. You feel like a king who exiled a meek subject from his kingdom. People obsessed with power and control may more likely block others when a relationship starts to go south. Blocking someone before they block you is a way to get the upper hand on the other person. I'll exclude them before they exclude me. That's what I feel about blocking for real. It is an
ego trip. Oh that because to be the self proclaimed queen of blocking its weird oh behavior to me, Taylor.
I definitely want off you by blocking you while you typing? I will What was it? What was that? No?
Absolutely nothing?
But okay, so I know that's toxic as fun, but only if it's deserving. I don't be blocking with somebody pouring out their heart and I'm like, that's it. I don't want to hear anymore.
So this an article actually says power trip is the psychological blocking of someone about your ego, and I agree. It says delete and block. That's the first piece of advice given when you need to move on. But what's the psychology of blocking someone? What does it achieve? How long is you're block list? Right now? I just got one person.
As long as I am tall, my shit, as long as I am tall. It's people. I don't even know who the fuck number it is on that list. There's so many numbers on that list, Like, I don't even know who this is, but whoever it is, good Riddan's motherfucker.
Y'all tell me, I give a nigga her number at block it immediately. That is so fucking where, Like why you even give him the number? You're on no problems because.
Sometimes niggas be scary. Yeah, Like if I give you a nigga a man my number and I don't want to talk to it's because I'm intimidated and I'm like, Okay, this nigga he could hit me. I feel like he's violent. Let me just go ahead and you know, oblige give him the number and then when I walk away block.
Some of these niggas be scary. Yeah, but he's still got the number, Like he could still reach out to you if he was persistent enough, he could still figure out how to ring that phone. So I just rather not give you my number that that's not all.
Yeah, I don't be wanting to go back and forth sometimes with the scary ones. And then I used to give him fake number, but then they'll call a dale right then it's like.
Oh shit, exactly, that's the way. How do men not think that that type of shit is weird?
Yes, it's crazy.
One of my friends, Why y'all think that's normal?
Fourth of July? We was in the grocery store and this guy tried to get her number, and she was kind of rude to him. I will say, like she wasn't the nicest on how she let him down. She was like, look at you and look at me. That's what she told that nigga, And he punched her in the face and broke her nose right there in the Harris Teeter.
Yes, did y'all call the police? Yeah, get arrested. And he left, He left the site.
He left out the store. Yeah, he got away.
What did he look like for her to say that?
Nothing? He wasn't together, He was not together. She's a really pretty girl, but don't it's not okay to be nasty and rude to people. But that didn't warrant a broken nose, though, And ever since then, I was like, I'm just gonna be nice.
Yeah, man, Because the male ego is very fragile. The thing is is that you have to know your hollow level. Why did you think you can roll on me? You saw me, You see me, and you see you. So her saying that to him push it into perspective so much so he ain't has ship to say that bitch, that nigga was like, it's OJT on the job training for this bitch right now in middle of Harris Tee then Star.
The grocery store on fourth of July.
Yeah, I would have ran to the car and I probably would be in prison right now for killing that nigga. Yes, you're not about to hit me, but you be like she was in so much shock, I mean, blood pouring from her face.
She's like, you know, like I just got hit, Like for real.
You obviously abused women. Also, you out here trying to find new victims. And she saw him for exactly.
Who he was mm hmm.
Obviously exactly because trash he was. He was trash, so she, I mean, regardless of why. I feel like she had to take a punch for it. But I don't know, maybe to save another woman's life, I don't know, somehow mm hmm. Well you didn't. You ain't trying to jump on him. I was stuck.
Everybody was like, and now I'm just trying to help her. I would have fuck on.
Got hit with my friend man because I'm trying to hit him. I'm trying, I'm trying to do something to him. I'm trying to.
Get out of him. He punched her and got up out of there, and us was just standing there looking at her like, what the fuck just happened? It just happened too fast. Hmmmmm mm m.
All right, so this article says the block the block action is extremely powerful. It doesn't give anyone an explanation. It leaves unresolved business and what if you happen to see them on the streets afterward? Awkward? Right? So yeah, when I don't feel like I guess not for me, but I feel like that's another reason why people block. They don't want to explain themselves. They don't want to have to even fix what the actual issue is. They just block so they don't have to deal with it.
So if it's also a form of escapism as well, because I mean, you can't deal with confrontation at all. Like I said earlier, I'll have the conversations with once I feel like I've talked enough. And you know a lot of times men will act like they don't understand what the fuck you're saying. Now you feel like you're going crazy because you've been talking in circle, saying the same shit over and over again, and he acting like, what what you mean?
You're focusing on one small part of what you're saying.
Block blow okay, and it says it's blocking about ego. The whole blocking thing is up our trip, all about ego. Surely there's a better way to handle personal issues than simply blocking them from ay from your cyber life and expecting that to be it. Now, there is one situation for which blocking is perfect. If someone is harassing you, causing you pain and upset, or leave you or they won't leave you alone. In that case, go ahead and block all you like. That psychology of blocking in this
case gives you the power back. It allows you a sense of relief and peace of mind and stops your days from being ruined as a result of messages and unwanted posts on social media. Feece. So this is regards to social media.
Do you have like stalkers? I can say that word stalkers on social media?
Who people that just I try to be I have a few people blocked who are sending some really weird shit. So no, I don't think I have any right now, and I try to not create any. Sometimes it's impossible because a lot of people be they be, they create shit about you in their minds and there's nothing you can do about it.
Bruh, bruh. I got about three different niggas that be in my DM saying crazy shit, and I'll be like, I'll be back and forth about should I block them or should I be able to watch where these motherfucker's at right, you know, I'll be back and forth about which one I should be, cause niggas literally be in
there talking to theyself. Listen, if you messaging somebody and they ain't never said nothing back, and you continue to have conversation, you might need to see mental care, Like, seriously, why are you continuing to talk to yourself in somebody dms as? Wow?
And even in real life, I occasionally run into those type of people. I'll say it happens to me like once every two years. You fuck wand and give your phone number to a dude, and it's like he's calling you back before you can call him back. Like y'all have had a conversation, you say, hey, let me hit you back, and they're calling you back within thirty minutes
or so before you can even call them back. Red flag that type of shit or text you day after day after day after day after day when you're not responding to them and they continue to text every single day, talking to themselves and your DMS or via text. I meet people like that and that as a mental health issues. I don't know exactly what it's called, cycle, whatever it is, but yeah, that's a problem. It says, Yes, you might feel a sense of relief if they've been a real
nuisance in your life and other means haven't worked. But overall, it's a day then a cut off point. It makes you feel like you found the ultimate solution. The problem is you haven't really have you. Let's assume this person is local to you. The chances of you bumping into one another at some stage are pretty high. What will you say to them? If you do? Will you say anything at all? No? If I blocked you, I'm not saying nothing to you if I seen in public, like, that's so weird.
Right you never existed?
Yeah, Like now you're just some nigga that I used to know. That's why I blocked you.
I don't even I'm sorry to who's this man? I'm sorry to this man, kiky palmer voice. I don't even know who you are, sir. The real reason.
I'd be wanting people to know I'm ignoring them. See, when you block somebody and they're hitting you up, you don't know if they're hitting you up or not, and they don't know whether or not you're getting the messages. But if you're not getting like a little bunks back, you know you're not blocked, and you know I'm seeing your messages, So you know that I'm consciously ignoring your monkey ass. That's that That feeds my ego, knowing that you know that I don't fuck with you. I'm not gonna block.
See, that's definitely that's definitely huge ego. I want you to eliminate. I don't even want to see any inkling of your existence anymore.
And bye bye blockmastering. I don't like blocking. Don't block me, bitch, I'm coming to your motherfucking house.
I don't block women. I've never I never felt the need of block a woman me that.
I think women just have a little bit more emotional intelligence. We be having to block men because they really be losing it. I'm pretty sure some men who we we don't know women how men know them. So I wouldn't have a reason to block a woman. I'm not interested in women in that way.
Taylor says blocking is energy protection. So and I concur I guess I got to protect my energy from these energy ciphers. Yeah, ye oh.
So one last piece of this conversation, this is the difference between ghosting and blocking. It's worth mentioning that ghosting and blocking are two different things. When you go someone, you might still be friends with them and they can get They can probably still see the activity on your fees. But you cut off contact with them by simply not speaking, you become a virtual ghost. In our opinion, ghosting is worse than blocking. It's like leaving a carrot dangling in
the air. You're giving them something but not going the whole way. So maybe I'm a ghoster. You're also literally ignoring messages, and that is literally the worst being ghost It makes you furious. It's a pitting me of rudeness. Of course, blocking is literally ending all contact and visibility of any activity you post online the lot you're invisible
to them, at least in online world. The difference is that the difference in excuse me, The difference is that the psychology of blocking someone is a literal full stop. So maybe I need to block completely then mm hmm. Some motherfuckers don't get a shit twisted right.
Just you be wanting them to know you see, I don't want to see you. I don't want to see you anymore.
I just want you to know I'm cool, man, Like, just go away. Why why are you forcing me to have to take an extra action if I'm already not fucking with you? Like, why can't you take that as a hint.
Some people can't take the hint, So you got to go on head and hint they ass to the blockless. I block so many people, it'd be a motherfucker. I'd be trying to call or I'll be like, oh, oh, I got the nigga block.
You see abuse y'all me in a long time? Oh wait, he blocked? Talk about me too, y'all abusive? Y'all abusive? That's ego ship. Why are you trying to reach out to somebody who you blocked?
Whatever I did, whatever I was mad about, I guess I'm over it at this point. Ardam forgot some ship I was mad about. They got a nigga blocked?
So you call like, what why block you? What happened last time? Like? What you did?
Why are we speaking a long time, and then if I'm reminded, I'd be like, oh, that's right. Block.
I had a what about homeboys? Said? A girl hit him up, like what's up? Why are you gonna be hitting me up? And he was like, bitch, you blocked me like she was checking him on social media, but he was blocked on the phone, right, that's me. That's me, and then reblocked the nigga once he wasn't saying what she wanted. I got to do better, man. Anyway, are y'all blockers? I want to hear from the listeners. Do y'all just be blocking people? That's y'all?
Go to yep real quick? Bitch, why I will? I'm gonna work on not just blocking people when I'm mad, like they gotta be worth it because I have. I'll block and unblocked when I'm over it. But just men, sorry to you fellas. God ain't through with me yet.
I would suggest, if you have a little bit of care about the person that you're blocking, you would try communication first. Try that first, and if you there's no resolution, there's no resolve. If you block them, do not unblock them. That should be a permanent decision. When you block somebody, it should not be used as a timeout for adult people. Shit me, y'all childish, y'all child to say, y'all have value relationships.
You need a break.
Yeah, I'm not doing it. I'm not doing that if I'm so fucking with you, if I'm be thinking about your ass later on, like, I'm not doing it.
I don't know, I'm.
You did. Oh wait, wait, wait, this is people. If you're struggling, or is anybody out there struggling with being blocked? Is being blocked by somebody you like, love a family member, Is it fucking with your mental health because this person has now blocked you out of there, blocked you from their lives. No, I'm talking to the listeners. Does anybody feel some type of way out there about having been blocked? Let us know what celebrities got, y'all blocked? I got people.
I got a few people blocked when we talked.
Back because you just said some shit.
It was maybe an episode when we was on somebody else show. Anyway, it was a clip that we put up and the men was just going ham. I think the dating one dating while not having money. We want to tell our show matter of fact, empty thoughts. We was on empty thoughts and Niggas was mad about the conversation and the listen. I'm not arguing with y'all. Could bat have ass? Bitches, nigga bitches, I'm blocking your ass. I'm blocking you.
I will, I.
Said on Fridays, Fridays, I argue with you. So anybody want to argue, hit me up on Fridays. I got a little bit more time Friday. A nigga asked me last week because he commented on some shit, like I just comment on something, and why I gotta get into arguments with men. I'm commenting my single comment. Now here you are commenting on my comment and starting argument with me, and well really not starting because I didn't have to engage, but I did, and he was like, it's Saturday, you
should get out. I said, actually, it's fucking Friday, and I got time. So if y'all want to argue, hit me up on Fridays between twelve and five.
It just really depends on what I got going on in am I my period? If I'm on my period, you might get a little fight out of me just because it's fun. But for the most part, no, I'm cool.
Last last to chop all of this up. If it helps your mental health to block somebody, then I guess it is okay. I again, I would suggest trying to communicate if you actually care about this person, as opposed to using the block method as a form of time out abuse.
As for me, insomnia along. Block these niggas out your life until you feel.
Like fucking with them with Gia gaddawn and I hope when you do try to hit that nigga up that you like that you're blocked.
Why would you hope that for me? See, that's some hater shit to say right there.
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