Ep. 9 "Tired of the Shrimp?"

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So you know, our first episode, we had some guys on and they were we were trying to figure out why men cheat, as if we don't know it's a choice, right. So this time, so that men don't feel like we just man bash, we have some women on so we can better understand why women cheat. Right. But here's the kicker. These women are all married. They are not single cheeters. They are married cheaters. Excellent, excellent. These women are in

witness protection. We talked at witness protection to make sure that they're safe from your judgment because your motherfucker's dead as hell. So listen in. Hello, ladies, how are y'all doing? Thank you for coming out. We talked back today. I'm so happy to be here. Thank you, thank you for having us. So, um, tell us your names and tell us a little bit about yourself. Well, my name is Time Tisha, and I am a real state agent. I have been married to my high school sweetheart for eighteen years.

We have been getting since fifteen. I have four kids, and um, I guess I would say I like traveling just kind of you know, getting out, getting out the house and kind of just having some self care and self time because you know, marriage and kids do all got seeds of you know, one seat where you put yourself back seat. So I man kind of like this leave back to the because you never know when your last day will be your last. Dame absolutely So you

said you were married eighteen years. Yes, yes, same same dick, eighteen whole year, whole years. And I'm gonna got a cab any being faithful years years. That's what that's the tea I'm trying to get to. That's so for social Security years. Eighteen years. But we had dated since we were fifteen. So alright, real quick, let me just ask you this the first time. We're just gonna talk about the first time you stepped out. You can introduced the second. First. Oh,

I was going to the station next. I mean, yeah, years got me like you tell me about Eddie lay to tell me a little bit about your girl. I'm sorry, I almost forgot. Well, I'm Stacy and as they say, a domestic engineer, a housewiter. Um, I'm our marriage number two. My first marriage was lasted about five years and this one is rolling into her seven. Um. I have three children of my own and two step children. Um, he says, he said. You know, we just like to do our

own things sometimes. But for the most part, you know that nice wife, hpecial baby, that takes care of home, that perfect step for wife, m and then the whole outside of that. Every now and then, whenever I can get a chance, we're talking. Absolutely, I don't open up. I'm getting rid. So ladies, all right, So we did like a video earlier about women being tired of the shrimp.

I don't know if y'all got to hear it, but we discuss how, you know, in relationships, people get tired of the same old thing over and over and over again. And that applies not only just to men, it applies to women as well. So when that happened, because I know y'all have been tired of the shrimp, when that happened to y'all, what did you do? How did you handle it? How did you move? Because women move a lot smarter than men. So this is teacher, Um, I

guess you know. I always tell people that since we've been together so long, my husband and I change. I changed, he's changed different seasons, you know. So I'm not the same person that I was in my teams, my twenties, my thirties authorities. Um, you know, I'm not the same person that I was going to be first got together. So I've gone from teams to twins, thirties, and when I started realizing that things were the same with him, but I wasn't. You know, the first thing it to

us to do is to communicate, and I did. I communicated. Now I was born say working. You know, I'm not the same person that like this and like that sexually, mentally or whatever. And you know, I don't think he was receptive known to that. You know, I think he was just comfortable with you know, going away in here

that's what is going to be. And so I think what happened is just that, you know, I was out working place, friendship turned to one thing or another and then go to the first one happening, because there's been many it's always the word husband, that game. Hey, look you know what he makes for the most part. You know, I have a philosophy that, um men, women need a reason to cheat. Men oftentimes just need a time and a place. So obviously your workplace, the opportunity do you

present presented itself. But you communicated to your husband, hey I'm not happy or um I know, therapy, counseling do you did you guys do any therapy anything like that? We did that early on, um and but it didn't last long. It wasn't lone enough. Um, he's the kind of person that he wants that that outside image to kind of always look with. So you have to preach somebody else in your or your business. You know, No,

he doesn't want that looks. So unfortunately, I think he would be content with the factor knowing that you are uncoppy at home, but you're just going to sit back and there and bring it because you know we're like that. We're like to James, were like the perfect person and couple when we're out in the streets, and that was okay with him. That I was lonely as well. Every night. You know, I'm at home texting and you know, born

in lonely because I'm you're not listening to me. I'm telling you about spoke the person ever and you're just not listening to what my needs are. So it was almost like you kind of type my names and what else do you expect me to be? All right? So when you told him like I'm unhappy, did you just come out and say it or was it like subliminals or like how I wouldn't know how to express that to my nigga, Like, baby, yo, Dick, ain't that good? But it's not all about sex, right, it's other things

as well, not just sex. Yeah, it's not even just sex. And it was just more of communication, time spent um, sponsority, the romance and they keep your mind. We've been together for so so long, so you know, it wasn't all a long time. I didn't just reword to take everything out and just say I hate blah blah blah blah blah. You know, it was slowly, you know, a conversation after like the next day, ins getting intimate of can we try something different and we try this way? And you

always used to like it that way? Well, yeah, I used to being now just like I might want to know, you know, I don't know. Yeah, yeah, I mean you want to know, Like you know, it's not just like different things turn me on as I get older, so you know. And I've even asked you to bring a female in to and he declined. He declined, Yes, Oh wow, that's unusual. Yeah, the old school, old spirit type man. Yes, hold on, before we get into anything else, let's pay

some bills real quick with for women. Intimacy starts in the mind. You know what I'm saying. It's not all physical like we can't argue all day and not like each other all day long, and when it's time to go to bed, you're tapping me on my shoulder something, dick, and you ain't been nice to me all day. Because I I do that, I will start just so we can't have like, oh no, y'all toxic toxic don't want in toxicana too. Yeah, but sometimes that makes it a

little bit more intense. You don't feel like that when I smashed this pill over your face and try to choke you while I'm riding you that. Don't everybody do that? But organic arguments? Yeah, y'all want you to sun the shot out of me after organic argument. But I'm a feel crazy if I started an argument just so you can smash me up. I don't understand. It's crazy. So no therapy. He didn't. I guess he didn't receive the therapy.

My question, do you think, uh, your man feels the same way about you that you're feeling about him during that time? Um? I don't do so, you know because I think that if he was pretend and you know he has other hobbies outside and you know I used to all these thinks like we gotta be up up to somebody else. There's no way. But you know he comes home, he's the bills. He just has outside our hobbies. He likes working on the cars, and so that's his

hobby to have multiple projects. So that's what I think was actually taken away from me because it's almost like that hobby was like a few bales. And I don't think we understand that if they have video games, that they got car projects. So they've got football. That's another woman. And so I don't know about anybody else who's listening that with you. That's not gonna work. And I don't get that attention. I'm gonna find it somewhere else because

I think that's still really good. What if what if he just had you food like you had him food and you think he working on the car, but he working on caresia casa. So would you feel away if like to know that other women are desiring your men, like sometimes that bring a little spice, you don't think.

So yeah, and this is two sha and yes I do, because that's the whole point of me trying to bring another woman in because I think if I was to see him with another woman, watch it, see it I want to get that jealous arousal if that makes sense. You know. Um, as crazy as it sounds, I've even set him up from the beat with the ex girlfriend and he went on bait and so I wanted to get here play by play. I was hoping he was gonna smash so that we came home and we were

good that night. But he was a gentleman. Nothing happened, and I'm like, ship, you know what he just what if he doesn't know that that's what you want to hear? So he he knows when I tell you, like, hey, I want this is what we need to do. I want you to hear. Hey, I we're recorded on it. I want to see it, you know. So I'm that wife. I mean, I think we've been gonna so long that you got to get creative. So it might sound crazy to some viewers, but whenever you get in your household

that works for you, guys, let it. Do ain't long for that ship, Okay, Now, I do want my man to be desirable, you know, like if I taught him cheating, I probably wouldn't leave. How well, burn, I ain't set me nigga up because I know people. I know that for certain, because when we got together, I knew he was the home and that's what made him desirable for me, because he tried to get with me prior to me getting married the first time, and I turned him down

because I was like, no, you worked too hard. I don't want me to go to work all the time. I want me to don't boy, And that's what I got and I'm married and that should get worked. Yeah, don't you don't want a dope boy no more? Because this regularly the office new security. That's why I'm a domestic engineer. I can stay home and do whatever I want. I drive a very very nice car. You know, I

have a very nice home. He tells me, I don't want you to go to work, and I have no desire to go to work, you know, So that part is what I desire from a dope boy. But of course, you know, I come from an era we thought about like New Jack City Ship like that, like wee me and Teacher grow up in the nineties. So that's mean, you know, rewards sold dope. There wasn't nothing me to give you, like seeing grand or twenty grand. You know, do what you want. But these new dope boys they're

making no money. Now you got to get them in a little for one kicked me. I gotta worry about nobody keeping in my dough. You know, I know that for sure he's gonna pay the bills and things like that. So if he did step out, I wasn't sure because I ain't gon towere. I'm seven years. I've had two more years before I could get part of you know,

years and one day. But you know, right, I mean, just like said, it's for someone else to design that turns you on because you're like, okay, but that that feeling came along with time, right, because if y'all were fresh in a relationship, you wouldn't be okay with somebody. None of us want a man that nobody else wants. I always say that, like I want my man to be able to get bitches. I'm not necessarily saying I want him to have fucking bitches, but I want to

know that I'm not just desirable. Yeah, I don't want to be the only person want my nigger, Like I don't want you at that point, just like right, I don't have me like they please. I don't want nobody for a start, sunny, because it's words getting played by nothing. That's nigga the most man that you know other bitches want, like you understand why women want him, but some nigga you're don't settled for and he's pep playing. You know, I can't handle it, Like I know you're ugly play me.

I'm gonna do my best to get your ass back so I can drop you. You ain't gonna with men. So look, before we move on to the next segment, let's have a word for our sponsors. So let me ask you this. Have you ever been caught doing something wrong and how did you get out of it? Story Once upon a time not long ago. Yeah, um, yeah, so I switched phones. My phone die and so that's my thing. I'm still talking to that. Um. So, yeah, I switched phones because my phone had died or some thing.

And so, um my husband's in kind of like the computer field, so he's he's savvy on that. So I went to Atlanta and met up with an old friend and apparently I was did not disable my message your account, and so my husband was able to see all of my messages and so I get to call it my hotel,

Like did you Funa whoa what we're talking about? And you know, I've been doing this long enough that when you started asking specific questions, you know, some ships, so I can't not and so, um, pretty much, yeah, he he found out about it. He knew he read all the text text messages from the fact that, you know, the guy was all in my good night before and how store I was, and he read every day detail. And um, that was to get out of it. I don't think it's gonna get out of it because I

still think that he's hurt to this day. But um, that was probably about two years ago. Did you did you from around? To be honest with you, he's been around for about four of my affairs. No wait wait what the side? The side nigga been around? No, my husband has stayed after learned about four different affairs. And how many affairs have you learned about? Um? None? Oh you're the nigger? Yeah, yeah, that's name. Yeah, I'm sorry

to ask this, but what what is your husband's dick like? Um, it's medium, it's the shp It's it's medium shrimpish, you know. But yeah, so it's medium shrimpish. But at the end of the day, I think that was not a gil breaker because I know I had a game provider. Like, he's a great husband, he's a great kid, um, you know,

great father to the kids. Um. So it was like I've had worse, but also didn't have all these other plusses with Okay, so we're talking about so he has the eighty and you're you've been going out to complete your happiness trying to find this twenty right damn it man. So now women who like some women like you know you asked him like, hey, can you live with a man with bad sex? Could you be with a man with bad sex? Women always say yes, but it's obviously

a lie. You're gonna eventually cheat, right, Yeah, I think I believe it's if it doesn't if you don't do what I think it's gonna be, it's definitely gonna be close to you doing it. This is stacy now for me, I have not cheated at all. All the reason why it's like I really times I'll be reading about me because I think with me and my husband, like I said, we've been married for seven years and we've known each

other for a little bit of time. Matter of fact, he he we started dating because I was sucking his best friend and what his myst friend. RCA went and told him about me, about what we were doing, and he told him. He was like, you know, y'all, needuld be together because we like crazy bitches and she crazy. And so after that he started presuminging. So when we started dating, you know, I was I always you know, it was a little stand office because I'm like, you know,

I don't want to come between your best friend. But clearly he wanted me that bad because he was like, he doesn't matter about the best friend. But even though we've been married, you know for seven years, I think there's between us. We don't trust each other and up because I don't trust to say, as far as he can throw you know, he don't trust me as far as he can. But you're not cheating on each other. So why why is the trust only as far as

you can throw me? I guess you know, well, my opinion is is probably because how he acquired you, maybe how he acquired me, and because I know I know firsthand his past. You know, it's it's different when you marry someone, um you know that nobody knows about you know, where we're from is very small here, So I probably know about five or six girls that he's spoke and their friends we can not really friends, but associated with me,

you know. And I mean I'm sure he he thinks he knows about what I've done in the past, but you don't really know. You really really don't know what we probably would have married. Yeah, I think sometimes men find comfort and knowing. Like you said, just y'all from a small time town. So he can find out about you if he needed to, if he wanted to, and he probably has. So he probably may not say anything, but he probably knows some ship. Why because the means

like trust. I don't trust no fucking body. I have faith that people do do the right thing. That doesn't necessarily just for my lover, but just people in general. And see, I think with us, it's like, um My Musban likes the floss, he likes really nice things, you know, he likes, he takes joy. And now I'm saying, Okay, I can do this for my wife. I've give him my wife this, I can do this that the third and plus when a lot of people see us together, like damn, how do y'all you know together? I mean,

he's not a bad thing guy at all. But I mean I'm pretty straight, you know. So they as like, well, how do you end up with her? So I think I'm just one of those nice things that he's acquired, and you know, therefore he'll do whatever he has to do in order to keep me happy and keep me here. And I think the same thing with mine. Mine is very not flossy to himself, not somebody that's on social

media like that. Don't want people in this business is marriage country country boy, And here I am coming from Jersey. When I live down here, um a city like Nade country boy, that didn't work, you know, So I like the attention. I like, you know, if I walk into a room, I'm I'm only got that room, not about fifteen twenty people. So being that he's so quiet and prison just to himself, we didn't Nash, you know, But

eighteen years later, here we are basically yeah. Yeah, and it works sometimes, you know, but also when you get to other categories like sets, intimacy and things like that, it doesn't work. It works when we're paying deals, it works more discipline these kids. It works when we're trying to be empires and things like that. But it doesn't work in all areas with that union game. So it's okay. So have y'all had because we've we've had episodes about

open relationships. We actually had a guy on who has been an open marriage for open relationship for five years. Have y'all ever had a discussion with your husband's like, hey, we should just be in an open marriage. Like, I love you, I want to spend the rest of my life with you, but sometimes I want to experience other people. Yeah, I have, because you know, you know, you realize my

track record is something wrong. Yeah this is teacher apparently something about working and so yeah, I did I get approaching with that and once again being that old school country boy, No, we're not having that at all, you know. And I'm like, well, we're gonna keep following the same path because apparently you're not the most to me. You

like to keep this trophy wife. But at the same time, you know, I have needs, you know, you know, because even to this day, I have a twenty twenty three year old dope boy right now, um, and I am like in my forties, and so it's like, I, you know, I don't know, I don't know sor right when you laugh and I'm drinking that possibly goes over here. I'm so all right, all right when you're you said your husband has found out four different occasions you're not really

good at how your ship. I just want to say that you shouldn't. That's part for but yeah, more times. Okay, that what you have to think about. It's been through the duration of um twenty years plus known each other. So some of those things were before we got married, got together, things like that. So I mean some of the things we would have times we're here, let's start fresh, let's go in and see what we've done, let's talk about stuff or whatever, that kind of thing. So, um, no,

I'm good. The only thing about getting caught was that phone situation. But the other times it more like before we really got good into our marriage. You know that it was more or less before we got married, when we were college things like that. Tica. Did you ever have fear of losing your husband? No, that's yeah, yeah, and you know what I used to. But I actually think that I don't know if marriage materials for me,

you know, being marriage is for me. But I think I stayed because I came from um a household where it was a single bomb trying to raise kids, and I see it that game to me and my siblings, and so I think I stayed more for the children. To be honest, I think I did. You know, if you could hear this, he'll slap your heads between the way I told you can come get slipping with y'all. Same way. Though, this is the only thing like when a woman says, it's like so on, but these men

are feeling the same exactly. Yeah, they just they kind of put us on a pedestal. You know, I asked my fiance, they don't put me on a pedestal. And that's not saying like, don't think highly of me, but don't think that I'm supposed to be just this perfect person because you aren't, right and I'm you know, I'm

not perfect. I'm gonna fall short. But for whatever reason, like men pet women put women on this pedestal, I guess we probably contribute to that because we lie, you know what I'm like, We don't tell people everything a lot of times, you know what I'm saying. So I'm

a really honest person. Why I well, no, I'm on this person right, So I like to be able to tell people exactly who I am, right, But then sometimes some men are used that against you, like some women just like, oh, I'm you know I have only been with two people, But that's a fucking lie, like you know what exactly exactly why lie? And then when you when a man comes to me, is like, I'm not a liar. I'm gonna tell you what it is and then you're gonna do it in my face and your

parents to Now this is Stacy talking. I learned this from my being married the first time. You know, you try to be open honest things like that, and um that will always come about you and ass So the second term around, it's not that I lie at all as far as things like you know how many people are being with or whatever, because I mean if I tried to lie about that, I was gonna give me the side out like I know, I know, damn well,

I see you out so I know. But you know, like I mean, the things that I feel that we lie aboll is married women. It's like, you know, like I've heard on this on the should before when um Tam Bawn said, you know you sleep with the guys like five minutes or whatever. He feels like he just

knocked it out the part. You know, as a single woman, you're not apt to say you know that ship was barby, you know, as a married room, your spirit, those feelings, you're like, oh that's great, waiting for the fall asleep and you need to pull out your toy, do what you gotta do or what you're gonna work the next day. Oh gosh, I just I'm still feeling. I'm on age. So you gotta go in and just help, you know, relieve yourself, you know, because you just try to spare

feeling and just try to keep the home happy. You know. In my case, you know, if I'd rather not purchase give us because I know the ship. Even though he may he may act like he's taking the constructive criticism, but that ship's gonna through with his ego for months and months to come. Yeah, and they can be honest with us, like my man can tell me like I don't then had all these three sims out of your cousin as long as you ain't sucking them right now, I really don't give a fun. But you can't tell

him about anything anything you've done. Um, you can't tell him about any man. You know, I'm fun like it's gonna come up. So basically, okay, I'm engaged, I'm not married yet, So basically with y'all bitches, y'all married bitches is telling me to lie. Well, I don't think it's PA's. It's probably about keep the feast, because once you get married, you gotta think about it. People are in it for

the long run from forever. So do you want to bruce his ego and chip away at his ego or his heart every year that you're married because you're too honest? Is it that women's hearts are stronger than men? Then? Because you can tell me anything and it's not going to bother me to the point to where I'm not gonna let you sleep at night. I'm gonna bring it up every other day. It takes too much energy had to be to be mad about it. I think that

women have always been stronger. But I also will say, once you get married and do two years in, let's have this conversation again, because that strong heart that I was as a single woman is not the same heart that has as a married woman. Because when you start having your children, when you start having you know, married life careers, all that you change it's not the same single life, because I swear I wouldn't have to have him feel like I was single. Everything, Like, hey, I

gonna move on to the next one. But when you are in for the long run and you have other people looking up to you or waiting or expecting or in the result, you change a little bit. So yeah, let's but we'll have this conversation after you get married, um, and then see if it's that same heart and the same honesty driven. Um, you know you're choose, You'll choose your battles. You're just like, okay, this shi even worth you know, and acting like a little bit because trust me,

you tell them and you hurt their feelings. It's different world. They'll never let you forget it. They're like they'll dwell on that ship forever. You're saying you're going out somewhere, and you didn't told him something that I already can't go to Walmart. So hey, look, I'm at a whole nigger house. When I'm at a Mark and I literally being t J Max for two hours sometimes obviously I was sucking dicking them to hours and I didn't even know that all. Yeah, so don't come on tired because

if you come on time, damn what the fuck? So y'all really don't think y'all men fucking anybody else. I honestly feel like side, really feel like they both they definitely be. They gotta be. It's no way especially um no, I promise. And when I tell you that, I wouldn't even be surprised or hurt because I've been like, yeah, I deserve. I'm just waiting for it, and I think I'm getting it through my kids acting up, but I'm

not getting it through him. Like we have this app for our kids and we can keep up with them and we're all on the app. I don't don't have got damn app because I know I don't know what I'm adventure out. So I don't want to be at My ex boyfriend is in prison, right, my ex boyfriend. I never was thinking he was eating, but this nigga like was literally fucking bitches five o'clock in the morning. So pussy is open at five am, they's supposed to

be getting fucked. I didn't realize this ship was that deep until like he's in prison now, right, so now he has a whole kid out here at the same age as how long he's been in jail, So you were cheating. But I didn't know you were cheating because of how he moved like he literally was always in the house. But the thing about it, and you know every situation right with mine, I'm talking to you several times during the day because it's something that on house related.

When you get off, you're calling me. Um. With that app, I'm seeing where you're app and then you pull up the same time each day and that is seven days a week. So you got your nigga on the app, but you on the app. Yeah, I refused him, but I used the excuse that I told my kids, I'm not being on the app seat I can't catch y'all because I want y'all. I want to sneak up on y'all because I want to make sure y'all doing right. So I'm not on the app though. You real slick

T think you got a big dick. Okay, got a big y. She gotta check all right in your relationship? Are you the alpha and he's definitely the beta male? Is he a beta mail or would you consider him an alpha male? He's a beta male? What about you, Stacy? My husband, Um, I let him in the alpha. I let him feel like this is idea, Oh so she didn't just that if I want something, I'm knocking the let up. So if I wanted, I'm gonna keep and if you're telling me you're gonna do it, I'm gonna

hold your ass to it, you know. So I let him be the man. You know, I knew that if I if I want to take control, I can. But because of the position that I played, you know, I allowed him to. It makes him feel good to say, Okay, I'll pay you all the deals. I'm like, that's great, you know gold to dude, you gotta do. But I know if I had to good, But you know, it's just I just sit back and let him do what he do. You know, I feel good with allowing me to have the alpha role. I don't want to be

the head bach in charge. I really don't. It is. It's very exhausted, and I guess my my alpha roll comes in from more make sure, householders in order, kids online, things like that. But from a financial aspect, I don't have to pay anything. Everything's taking care of about him. But because he's that keep the peace type person, he really gonna argue when the kids try to jump bad if you want to sit back and I argue, but I'm really like, I'm trapping on my shoes, Like, Okay,

we want to fight, I'm gonna have a conversation. Kids like don't you probably gonna do so he's that keep the peace. But it's because we were raised different, and you know, when you get to know him, I realized our up room is different. I'm from the city he's from. I introduced him to a lot of things that he didn't have, Like they never really did a Christmas tree. You know, We've traveled so many different places. I was his first time ever on a plane, and so it

was just so many different things. I think that's what's made his love for me really beat because I introduced him to a lot of things he would have never done before. So you got turned to go out the woods. You're pretty much those be the best ways though some day Yeah, until they started sucking their cousin or something. You're his whole first cousin. Hey, look that's what they're

cheating with family. Yeah, that's my You're gonna see some damn text messages in video footage of cousin think This is stacy like um with me and my husband. You know, we don't touch like some people like I know I was called to his phone. You know, we don't touch each other's phones. We don't. You know, there's a lot of things not Sometimes it's like a double edged sword because I don't know a lot of ship, you know, not because I'm like you know, if I look for it,

then I'll find as you know, for him. You know, I could be doing my own things this. They could be on the phone all day long. You're don thinking he's looking at TikTok and ship. But I come downstairs, I looking over that shoulder, I'd be seeing fucking em. But you know what, I don't even get because I don't want you to ask for my phone, right and look that's me all day long. Don't touch my phone. I'm not touching yours because I'm not into her in

my own feelings. Yeah, and I'm good with that, you know, just having our lives to do over and us having our lives separate, you have to maintain some type of individuality. Well yeah, definitely. Yeah, and this is shure. My phone has locked on it and know I over at night. Yeah, we're unlocking this phone. But I have his code, and you know my kids have the code. Took my phone in and the again, something was that happened to me,

But he doesn't have to hold to it. But now, because like you said, I mean, I need something that's mine. You know, if everything is open and joined and shared, what is it that I have? You know, I don't have anything. And I start feeling like you lose yourself, Yes, you lose your identity. Yeah, so you're not even on the same phone, man. And when I go with like when I've had a couple of surgery, when I go on with surgery, I said, my phone into surgery, I

have my home. Brother, Like, there's something happens to me. Take the mother, smash it against break this long. I'll be talking to others. I've experienced that though my one of my cousins, her um long term. She was a long term side bitch basically because this is somebody else's husband that she was living with. They were living together. This nigger had a heart attack and his phone was there, like he died, and I literally watched her fucking face her and like from sad to angry as fuck. While

this nigger was dead. I said, I don't want to end up from having at getting cleanated, because all right, put the bitch in the dirt, watched that bitch down the saint. Nobody in the house, none of my ship. He's gonna burn it all. Look, I tell you right now, all my messages get deleted. I am not keeping anything. Names have been changed to the anti flow Joyce keeping nothing in there. Every message, every picture goes into a special vault. No man him while plant emoji exactly. You know,

you know, trying to get with this new age. So the three year old dope boy that you got on the side, does he know that you're married or do you like, how do you engage with these men outside? Like, yeah, yeah, he knows that I'm married. He has his son's mother who he's with, just because if they aren't. She's saying, oh you won't see him, y'all have y'all to that

type thing. And I could care less about it because you know, I have a house and the take care of so it's more or less a fun thing whenever, um we meet up. But you know one thing, like I just had a conversation with him last night. I told him, look, I got some street smarts to me. I'm from Jersey, so don't play with me when it comes to you trying to say, hey, I'll give you twenty grand to leave, like I asked him that you give me twenty graham, so you're coming with me, like

we're gonna be together. No, I'm still gonna be over here. But then I ain't going nowhere because I could triple that twenty grand stand over here where I'm at. So you know, it's a matter of I think because he thinks I'm older and he's young, and he's feel he's gonna be able to get me. But I've been doing this because I'm a nigga so exactly. And it's also the unattainability that he's probably obsessed with, like trying to get you, keep you man like he probably don't really

want you. It's only two niggas in this world. I really want you, and that's a nigga who really loves you and one who ain't suck it. And I told him, I was like, look, I would risk it off. You tell me he was gonna be with me a hundred percent. You know I'm lying, But ship is sounded again in the nest you know, in the next stage. But I'm like, look, tell me you want me, I'll risk all that's fine, and so I'll light you later. Yeah, I bet you will because you're not And so I don't care how

much you want to throw this way. I'm not leaving where I'm at when I have equity and I have houses and we have cars and so, you know, it's one of those things like yes we can play, we can meet up and things like that, and yes, you make me feel young because you are Austin telling me I'm the most beautiful thing in the world. And when I send you pictures, I get compidents from him, so I don't get from my own household, you know. So it feels good. But at the same time, I know

actually speaks out of the words and I'm stupid. Mm hmm, yeah, girl, on leave your young niggas. They did me a little tangy anyway, nobody got time to be packing the bag lunch for no young niggas. You gotta take that dick off and drop that dick off. All of them, all about our husbands were young niggas too. You know. It was different, is, you know, than what it is now.

You know, like in the beginning, everything was fresh hot, you know, you just beating my bast out like nobody, you know, like like you was working for a job and I was like, okay, yeah, you got the position. But then when they get older, all of young needs turned over and they go through changes and there dick don't get hard like it's used to ship. It changes. That's where it's wives. We have to still make them feel like it's still that young bull before reality it

is it is you know, I have that sex. It's vacations or like we'll do staycations, We'll leave the kids and trying to go, um you know, get a room for a couple of days or whatever because they're old enough to stay home and watch themselves. But that's the best sex. And I think it's because you don't have to think about the stresses of every day or whatever.

And so yeah, that's the best one. Now, So what do you think y'all could do, like to make your relationship is better with your husbands where you don't or do you think this is just gonna be it? This is just how your life is going to be. I know, um Stacy. Stacy said she hadn't cheated no, not, because I mean I've had some spectacular bit in my life. So really, I mean for me, if I reach, it would be more an emotional cheat. And once I go there,

I don't think that I can go back. So you know, if I have a little bit stocking ego, that's the beast I can do. But what I'm getting out of it, you know, So I don't think that I would cheat because if I cheat, I'm gone. So your sexual fulfillment takes a back seat to everything else for the rest of your life, for the rest of my life, because I mean at times we get gremors of light here

and then you know it's not awful, right. But I think really where my downfall was in the beginning is that I didn't communicate as much as I needed to, as far as telling him like that's you, you know, so I would just need you know. But now that I'm gonna go, oh, do you know how old people

say with something to see what's on my mind? Because I mean, what you're gonna think you're gonna leave me because I was working honest right right, Let's see, I just want to be honest from the beginning because to me, that's all the open relationship is like the open lines of communication, Like I should be able to say something to you what out having it come back in my face. Yeah, you should, But it just really depends on the type

of man that you have. And it's okay because we all we're supposed to change and evolved and things like that. Our bodies change, you know, like I have to explain to my husband before you know, you might haven't even took my right TV and just roll over and put it in just splitch flash. But now you know I'm not a microwave. I'm over the crop part. You gotta damn you get flowing. Wants to get flown good. But you can't just think you just push on button and

she's right, pressure is yours in a microwave. Air Fryertle air Fryer puts out right there, little christ and I like the question. I'm not sure who asked it by saying, you know, it's ours. Our sexual desire is going to have to be that seat, you know, possibly it will it possibly will be that seat. But at the end of the day, if I was to give up the eight for the twenty, would it be worth it? Because if I have some money. You would just you know,

blow my back out every night. Am I gonna have to worry that you're bringing me home STD, bringing on another baby to care for? You know that kind of stuff. So that's not having ship. Yeah, And so I think at the end of the day, I think I'm okay probably with um letting that stay back seat because I

know the AD is far greater than that. So you know, I've been able to kind of sit back and you know, talking with Casey and some other friends about business opportunities and starting things because I'm trying to put my energy of what's lacking there in my need for attention and stuff like that into business moves, right, And now I've been able to open up a couple we put it into like you know, starting the businesses and things like that.

So that's what I've been kind of you and so you know it's gonna be a safe space for me. I believe. Well, that's good, that's healthy. This was Oh good, y'all. Thank you for sharing your hotels. Ain't got no hotel, Stacey hotels living her goddamn head. I don't Stacy to get fucked. I don't know how are you gonna do that, but it's a guy out here that we can line up for me. Look, I do got a dick delivery service, no attachments, no feelings, just dropping dick off and go ahead.

I'm not need to start a company like that. Dull be a multimillion dollar damn started started. I'm joking that never happened. But no, I wouldn't say for anybody who istincting about getting married in a serious relationship, just to find just listen to what we're saying. Make sure you know who you're marrying, over all the scenarios of what comes with being married, and understand that. You know, it's okay to walk away before you go down the altar, you know, and you don't have to see up here

and married that person if it it's not fit. You know, I think we're trying to put we, you know, square pigs in a circle hole, and it's not gonna work like that, you know, So if you can do me, if I had to do it over again, if I had to read this, I would not be married to the person where I'm with. And I say that with everything because I know I have heard him tremendously and I really didn't do it on personally on purpose. But

I really would not go down this path. I would have took my twenties into um embrace them and kind and do things to kind of live. And that's what I tell my kids because I don't want them to end up like me and their father. I don't want to be You shouldn't be a wife in your twenties. You should be living miamiing worlver you want to, you know. And I tell my daughter that I'm more all with her? Do you miss your whole face? And now you're making my hopefully exactly on this whole stays to hand her

whole face. So that's why I have not cheated. Yeah, oh yeah, so and that makes sense. I guess that's where you've got two perspectives of one who missed their whole phase, one you did not, and then the outcome of it seventy years later, basically the same. We're both lines of the movie. Because your twenties, for any young women listening, your twenties is for firing niggas when they don't act right. It is not for constant compromise. You twenties.

You have the option to pick, choose and refused. Yes, thank you. Ladies so much for coming on our show and sharing your lives and your stories with us. We appreciate you. Yes, and we won't be following up because I'm pretty sure listeners are going to enjoy this episode, right, So if they have questions, just just if you got questions for Staysty and Teacher, let us know. Anyways, hold

on before we go. Yeah, so y'all have any great dumb bit stories to share with us aside from I'm not calling your situations dumb bit shit because it's just a regular life ship, but like any situations where you just felt played right mm hmmm, um, I would say what I was in my twenties before I got married. I slept with like up and Kim of NFL player, and you know, at that point, I'm thinking like, let me go ahead and get the piston whoever who is going to take care of the long term. And so

after we stepped together, he blocked me. I don't know. I thought it was good. My ship was wet like I was twenty and so it was like get you like an ocean. So I don't know why I got blocked, but I just think it was a game. But here I am thinking of I can capitulated plan and with him it was just you know, everything else. So I did. I felt played because I thought I was gonna be one of those girls at the NFL pick way, catch them, you know, kissing them on the field. And it was

not that way, So you don't be my story. It was that T shirt, Stacy, that was T shirt. That's my T shirts been hurt. Stay do you have one? You know? I mean, let's just leave. I don't think I do have one, only because I always had a mentality them to get that nigga before getting so like when I was going through my own fingers, I was really sucking home like there was no screws attached, Like I didn't care if he was in the NFL. I'm in your home boy, And then both of y'all, yes,

I have before. I mean I think one time I gave even nigging my like my PlayStation or something younger than or whatever, and he was in collegue and he hit the fourth I was pretty spectacical, so I did. I bought game PlayStation and after that we were talking to some good dumb bit stories. They ain't really dumb bit stories. That's fight all us put some head one time, and he's I think it's so fired all about my

pocketbook while he was eating his pussy. You know, my body was gone until I got to the gas station because I didn't let him funk. I just he just ate my pussy. So now trying to buy some batteries for my vibrator and my fucking five dollars is gone. I don't think, yeah, you got me beat because I guess my story didn't work. I'm sorry you want the up got it? It probably don't even fight dollars. It

might have been like from two to fight all. You should have been right, all right, really appreciate it, y'all have a good word. Thank you again. Alright, girl, I just don't know what type of bitch I'm gonna be in the marriage. Will I be uh Mary Magdalene over here or will I be like Stacy? I don't know. I guess it depends on the dick. Huh. I definitely don't want to be married for a long time and

halfway miserable. For none of them sounded miserable though. They just sounded like they have decided that this is what it is and this is how it's gonna be. And they decided. Though, so how do men field like, God, damn, girl, fuck your husband. Good. But here's the thing, all we know is what they told us. They might be securing their marriage because their men are keeping what they're doing so secret. They're moving like they got a dead white beach in the trunk, you know what I'm saying. That's

how they're moving with it. You think he's working on the car, but really he really, you know, doing his thing. And if you're doing it that way, that's how I wanted to be done. I wanted so secure that yes, expect I mean, people are gonna do show. You can't be married for eighteen fifty years and you know nothing happened. Nothing happens in your relationship like that to me is respect. We never finding out either we open with it or just move stealthily. Nigga. So if you enjoyed this episode,

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