Ep 87 "Six Flags Over #WTB"

love y'all. Show somebody to talk back and talk some ship. Hey, y'all. Shawnji is my my Instagram friend. I don't know when we started following each other, but she's a super dope artist Okay from Brooklyn. Yeah, tell our listeners a little bit about yourself, what you got going on. I paint like a lot of vaginas. I think other things too, but I mostly known from my vaginas. Take them to look like really pretty and just nice and ship like that. And I like to paint things that's like from like

my life story. So that's basically where most of my art comes is probably why I like, I painted a lot of giants at the time when I was paying the collection, you know, so what you like pussy like that,

that's the thing. Everybody asked me that, but I really don't, like I'm strictly dicky, but it's just like I think it's like the power in it, I'll say, and like the power that it possessed, and like from painting that I kind of realized, like even like posting on Instagram, like my dms were looking at so crazy, and it's like I barely post myself strictly from artwork. So I'm like, okay, yes, I went to your Instagram page and those pussies do look like flowers. Oh no, my look like it though

look a little different than that. Everybody's gran look different, but I promise you was gonna looks like a beautiful flower to the right person. And it's crazy because when I started paying them, I didn't even look at mine, and then then I was painting with it. I was like, oh, ship, because this isn't such like an odd place like you asked people like, have you ever actually seen it? You know what I'm saying. That's like when people do like

an no bleaching. I'm like, but have you even seen You're asking nobody to be bleached even know what it looks like. Yeah, so Sean Sean is gonna be co hosting with us today, so let's get into our weekends. What the hell y'all had going on? Again? I don't do much in nothing. I just hung out. I did go out to dinner. Um, I'm dating, that's what the funk I'd be doing, lying always like I ain't do nothing, and then she her weekend be fools. It's not foolish.

It's just me doing regular things and sometimes I might do it with somebody else, but other than that, it's just what I'm saying. That's that's not true. But not this weekend, I had afro punk and like this was this was like the first time doing afro punk in Brooklyn. I think it maybe like two years, so it was like it come back afro punk and it was fun.

Like we met a lot of dope people. And then I, like Loki Hokey, like ran into like Burning Boy's wife because like she came to her booth and when she was like talking us and ship and I was just like talking her up. So I was like oh um, you know, like because she was eating, so I'm like, oh what is I was like, She's like, no, I gotta the b I P. And I was like oh, like um, she was like yeah, but I hate festivals. I'm like, oh, why are you here? She was like

fro my husband. I was like, oh, what's it your husband? She was like he's bird of boy and I said really. I was like, oh, I'm happy to know that he's actually gonna be here. Because I had went to gonna see him in Atlanta, he didn't show up. It was like I was like mad excited to see him, but it was like every time I went to gonna see him eating, this show up. So I didn't want to get excited for Africa. I was I'm not gonnacited. So

I see him soon. So when I see her, I was like, oh, wow, this is your head and me He's like, he's really here, He's really gonna perform. So now he performed it it was like a dope b asst it was. I was happy he was there. I was happy to trying to get to see him. So wasn't he with uh Stefan Stefan DN? So he was married then or he's married after because I know just recently he was um some other Jamaican rapper or artists a woman UM took like little sneaky pictures of him

in the bed with her. Yeah. Yeah, I was like you miss, I was saying, it's like, is that really him? Because I had googled it later. But then I was like, you know how sometime I can't have multiple ways because I repeated it to her and she didn't look crazy, So I was like, you know, like sometimes I was like, maybe it's like one of his wives, and she'd just

be like incongnigo. She was like, yeah, I hate coming to festivals, its like, and she like really wasn't the because we were crossing from the v I P. And I was like maybe she was working with me. But he did perform what you had going on town, y'all. I didn't do ship this weekend. I didn't have uh nothing going. Oh I'm lying. My mama birthday, I went to Columbia. Damn, I sun that up. I'm sorry, Mama.

Friday night I didn't go nowhere because I was trying to recoup my money from uh bawling out in Jamaica last week. So I had to chill this weekend. It was either chill I go on a date. And I ain't feel like being bothered with no dates, so I just chilled. And then Saturday, I went down to Columbia, South Carolina. It was my mom thirty seventh birthday and said, thirty seven. That's what she said. I had that. I was trying to do the kick in my head. I

was like, thirty that's what we were celebrating, y'all. I don't know what to tell you. That's what she said. I respected so right, And you said that ship so casually like it was right right, it was correct. And we watched um, the new Top Gun movie or the newer Top Gun movie that came out. That ship was so good. I was on the edge of my seat. Yeah,

y'all gotta watch it. Actually really really good. Because I chose to go see um Doctor Strange over that that was probably good too, but not Top Gun is something else. I really enjoyed it. So we sat there and let me tell you what I did. I made a big deal. I was like, why don't have nets sweet for your birthday? Y'all? We need to get some dessert. I was like, take mama to go get her some doughnuts or cake or something. So my sister and my mom went to go get some dous so I could. I did that so I

could smoke a joint outside. Why didn't gone like y'all need to get about it? It is we really, God is the same thing. When I go to visit my mom and at lasts and I know you know, I'll just smoke, I like open the window in my bedroom, and I know she know i'd be highest. I try to be respectful at least not smoking in front of her rights exactly. That's all. I'm in a hotel and like steam it out and ship. But I think they caught me on the ring camera anyway, So I ain't

wan't fooling nobody, y'all. So let's let's get into stupid internet news, all right. So I wanted to start with the purge, the so called purge that's supposedly happening in Illinois. Had y'all seen that they're calling this something like a purge, right, but it's not really a purge. So apparently they're getting rid of their cash bonds system um in Illinois. So what that means is people can get out of jail until the right So I don't know why they're calling

it a purge. I take offense to it personally because I feel like, y'all, y'all think about your nigga is about to get out the niggas that can'tform bond about to get out of jail. Yeah, that's exactly what it is, because there are no more criminals than the rich people are people who can't afford their bond who get out of jail and still be on the street to commit crime until they go to court. It's the same thing.

But here's the crazy part about it. All right, here's the list of offenses for which Illinois law enforcement cannot detain criminals. So you can commit aggravated battery, aggravated d UI, aggravated fleeing, arson, burger burglary, drug induced homicide, intimidation, kidnapping, robbery, second degree murder, and threatening a public official and then

go home. What did drunk induce homicide? Though? Like, you get high and killed somebody and go right, O, man, you know you or you supplied them You supplied them with the drugs that caused him to die. Oh snap, I think you're right, because now I said you got high and they killed somebody. I think you're right. Now, that's what I found to I'm like, man, I like

making motherfucker's crazy. No, so stupid. Yeah, so um. I think that the cash bond system should have been revamped a long time ago because you know, it kind of plagues the lower income communities, people who can't afford. Like I'm gonna give you all a perfect example. Do y'all know who text tone is? And we actually he doesn't have a bond at all, so I can't really talk about him, but he has literally been in county jail

for six years, waiting on court. So if they're they're gonna have a cashless uh, if they're gonna get rid of cash bonds, they need to really really do speedy trials. So if somebody belongs in prison, you'll need to hurry up and convict them. There's no reason why somebody should be sitting in county jail because they won either don't have a bond or can't afford the bond, and they're waiting on waiting for court. Because as far as I'm concern, if they sitting jail to three or four years, you've

already convicted them time serves. No, it's true something like that. My home girl's sister, her name was Lane Lean, and she actually passed away at Rikers Island. But it was basically like the same thing. Yeah, it was. It was a big thing. Like they ended up suing the city. I think they finally got their settlements, so like I'm really happy for her, but like yeah, like, um, she was in just she started having like a seizure or something and the thing. But it was like it was

the same thing. It was like cash bond. I think it was like five dollars something like that, and it was like for something real stupid. But you know, like that's how the city be taking money from people. It's really some bullshit. Like I'm really happy that they're finally closing on Rikers Island because there'd be people in there waiting for a court dating there for like months. Yeah, I feel like they're kidnapping people off the streets. It's

lynn concern. Yeah, we're not your slavery because you really don't in county jail and stuff. You're not working. Yeah, you get this lazy. It's like we're just it's just so Rikers Island was a county jail, it's not it's a jail because can your city is kind of different. So I don't want to I don't know if it's necessarily county, but I know it's like a holding place, like it's not a prison. So it's so I think like it would basically be considered in a sense like

a county jail because it's not. It's not a president it's really just like a holding place until you're ready to go to court. Yeah. So yeah, So I mean by holding people family members in a county jail, right, you're forcing the family now to pay for phone calls, to play for canteen and all these things when they have an event actually been convicted of a crime yet. So it's like you're punishing, punishing the person in prison and the family and know all that ship too, but

everybody just it's just it's just sucked up. So the state is what is still making money, the county is still making money off that. So you agree with this new law as long as the trousers speedy, Yes, And you know it was brought forth by the Black Caucus, so it's a part of like prison reform supposedly, and you know, I just don't like how they're putting the titles out there like it's now going to be a purge like black people just because that's who it is.

That's who ends up stuck in prison waiting for bond because white people commit the same crimes, but they're not sitting in prison, you know what I'm saying, because they can bond out majority of them or other people. I don't just want to say white people. But in America, so y'all know. Yeah, So I don't think it's just abouty a perth situation. I also but on the other side, I don't think that niggas should just be getting a ticket for Arson. Yeah, Arson, but niggas don't really do

niggas really coming with Arsenal? When I say niggas, I don't really just be talking about black people, I mean everybody. So, yeah, I don't agree with that ship. I mean, excuse me. I agree with them kidnapping though, Like kidnapping, somebody doesn't snatch your ass up and then they find you and they take you home and then they have to let him go after he didn't kidnap you till he go

to court. I feel like on the type of kidnapping though, because like you know, like if you do like a home invasion, they'll consider that kidnapping because like if you don't let someone leave the vicinity. So sometimes now you like you tie somebody up and through them in some ship, it's like literally like they'll be like, oh, you didn't let me leave, So they'll just be adding they add more charges to you just to try to figure out what that he gets to stick. Yeah, but do they

determine which one is worse? You know, I would hope, So, yeah, I don't know. We'll see what else comes out of that, but for now, that's what's happening in Illinois. So I saw a video online. I think it might have been on Jasmine Brand and I had to go pull it up to see exactly what it was. But it was Chelsey um Hillary Elsie and Hillary Clinton talking to um Meg the Stallion about essentially, when's the last time y'all seeing Hillary Clinton? Because she had house in her bag

on the breakfast club. She always trying to be down to somebody like she's go away, She's trying to work on the black vote. That's what it is, Tammy. It's always that's what they're trying to do and then they get in the office and you don't do ship for us anyways, but it looks so fake though. Yeah, so they were talking about right, so this was um. Evidently they have a show now her and her daughter Apple

TV is a series called guts Um. They debuted on Friday with this Meg the Stallion episode and the idea of the of the two of them going across the country on a road trip to talk to different women who they think are like inspiring in some type of way. Right, So they started with Meg the Stallion. But I do think it's pandering to black people for that vote. We I believe she's about to try to run for president.

Show is to make Hillary Hillary Clinton palatable for people because people like she don't have no personality that most of us like. She just doesn't seem like. I think that's what they're trying to do, and they're gonna use go through every culture to try to get their vote.

And they started with because like black women are like popping out or like everywhere, because even like it's crazy when I'll be going to the city and just looking at like the billboards and stuff like that, it's so many black women on billboards were like natural here, and it's like we're like we're popping right now. So I just feel like, like like you said, it's like pander into the vote, like you know what I'm saying, Like people are starting to realize that you need the black vote,

like you need black people. And it's so crazy for me because I started as a sneak artist and um I had did some sneakers for it was an exclusive for urban outfitters. I would have to be like twenty two at the time, and the first thing I did was like a girl with the afrol and that lady. I'll never forgetting that white lady came to me and said I can't sell that because because black people weren't marketable.

She's your dad as told me that, and I'm like she's old, like she's so you're thinking like later, you know what I'm saying, But that's so not like to see it now. And that's why I like, even with my brand, I only use black models because I will never forget on that lady said that's to me, like you're literally gonna tell me my skin isn't marketable, Like

that's crazy. Yeah, that's wild. And when have black women not been Yeah I have not been popping, yes, yeah, but it's only cool when somebody else is doing it. So how do y'all feel about that? Though? How do y'all feel about Because to me, oftentimes, when they want to speak to the black community and when they want to speak to the black collective, they go to music artists, they go to entertainers. They don't go to black people who are in politics oftentimes, like that's not who they

put on the forefront. They go to people like CARDIV who knows nothing about politics. No, it's true. And even like when um, what's his name? And he was like, you're not black if you don't vote for me, Like in that one little second, it shows you, like what they really think about. It's like you y'all really think we're mindless, Like yeah, you know what I'm saying, because, like you said, why don't you guys going to the black politics? You guys are coming to so like what

like pop culture? You know? Like like they think that we don't pay attention to these other things when we do, we do. But our pop culture does fuel our our society in a way. Like people listen to artists and rappers and musicians more than they're listening to the Stacy Abrams. You know, they're not going to her, they're not on her Instagram live waiting to see what Stacy Abrams gotta say. But we also have some artists that a little bit more.

You know, they can go to a care, they can go to they if they want to go that route. There are still some men, and I would like for it to be a black man. How about that that they go to and and have a sit down conversation with. They're trying to get that young vote, that young as twenty, these young people, that young vote, that's who they're trying to get with WOP. They're not trying to get tr fans.

They're already probably already secured their vote. But I think that like even with them trying to get the younger bo I feel like they're like not, I feel like they're telling their short, their self short. Because even as we're talking about it right now, even feel like the younger kids, I feel like they see what they're doing, like I see you, you know what I'm saying. Like I feel like this younger generation is a lot smarter. So even though like it's true, like like those are

the people that they listen to. I think you kind of have to come harder than talking about who on this show, like like, treat me like I'm intelligent, MEGANA Stallion And I didn't see it, so I don't know what she said to MEGANA Starian has a whole last degree, Like teach to treat her like she's intelligent. Talk to her about some real ship. You know what I'm saying, Because you just want people to vot, because it could you tell people making this DOLLI You're like, what are

your what's the word I'm looking for? Like when they put an outline of all the stuff that's important to them, like what are your like what are we your political agenda? Exactly? Agenda? Like if you want to come sit down with Megan the Stallion talk about that, then, like give these kids more credit, right, But this motherfucking TikTok and ask motherfucker's be stupid sometimes, like you know, like I mean one of them is that's smart, but that's true. I don't know.

I just want them to put some respect on the black community. Yeah, me, That's what I need them to do today, not tomorrow, and not after. We don't vote. I need them to put some respect on the black community. But um, yeah, yes, ray J down went wild. Did y'all check that out that I missed that I'm missing? I was tuned in. Okay, screenshot and all types of ship. I feel y'all in know what happened screen recording Like, sorry, ray J, I needed to see them TEX messages up

close and personal. So ray J is pissed at Chris J general at the whole conduct Kardashian family, Kim and Chris um for the most part, because you know, they did the sex tape. How many years ago now about twenty years ago, they did a sex tape. And what ray J is trying to do now is clear his name because the Kardashians have been, you know, slandering him on the backside as far as business goals, as far

as based on what he's saying. So he's trying to clear his name because there it's out there as if ray J put a flick out of them having sex and that's not what happened. Ray J showed the contract that they both signed for four hundred thousand dollars a piece, the production contract. Yeah m hmm, with Kimmy's handwriting on it. When I tell y'all, ray J had all this ship up on the rector, He had the receiver dector screen in a mansion and a Dominican of public going through

all this ship. Now how somebody put that on YouTube? I have to smoke a joy and watch it. So what was the initial narrative that came out with the six tape? Does anybody know that? Because what was it? What did they agree to? Because I know that it didn't come out like Kim Kardashian does porn like will.

They made it seem like she was Yeah, they made it seem like she was victim of elite intimate moment with her boyfriend, that she was leaked right and say that like, um, she sewed them or something like that. Mm hmm. I can't remember that. It was so long ago. I saw that on on TMZ. You never even got to see it. I was too young to watch that when it came out. No, not. That's why when y'all said twenty years ago, I had to say back, like damn that SHI made me feel old, But yeah, that

really was twenty years ago. I didn't maybe even though I can't say because I was already watching nat Ship at that age. Sorry guys, but I didn't watch that one because so it wasn't like, because you know, this is before you know what I'm like, and it's like, oh oh J Trials and I was like, what five, So it wasn't like, you know what I'm saying, It didn't really need much to like, okay, right, So Chris Strip so recently, Chris Jenner, she took a lie deteck

to test to prove that it wasn't a production. She had some fake guy, some actor basically performed this lie deteck to test. How don't we know he was an actor? Ray J posted Demand's YouTube page like ray J posted receipt ship. Yes this is a fake a fake person. Yeah, ray J did that. Yeah, because you know Kim Kim Kardashians. So what happened was this is how the ship all started.

So Kim was crying because the kid pulled up on him with the Roadblocks ship right pulled up on her with roadblocks, a roadblocks porn of her, right, which son did sent it to the child because I think it was like an ad or something on Roadblocks that he was playing. Yes, so Roadblocks even said that that isn't possible. So even that scene could have been created, even that scene on Keeping Up with the Kardashians was probably fake, yes,

probably fabricating. So that's how the ship started. So ray J is feeling like, you know this to all these years, y'all have been putting his narrative out there as if I'm the one or somebody associated with me was the person who leaked the video. If it's me and you with a video and our plan is to leak it,

then that's one thing. But they have been, you know, making it edit as if ray J and whoever leaked this porn of Kim K. So now ray J is just basically trying to exonerate himself and let everybody know it was a production. Her mama was on it, and on it. Her mom actually watched one of the videos and said, no, let's go with the other one because it makes Kim look better. All these things. That's a real weird I Spur Slim Mama pimp ship. But that

family not for nothing. That family always been kind of iffy to me. I ain't even gonna lie like and I just I feel like, honestly, because ray J's I don't know if y'all seen that clip from the Winny william Show, but ray J's mom told him not to do that ship like you're a black man, Like you're not gonna like you're a man and you're black, Like you're not gonna do yourself. That's not gonna happen for you.

And that's exactly what happened. I mean, granted, he's still a millionaire and I'm still here, but like I think home Girls like a billionaire now mm hmm, yeah, yeah, now you want to be mad, but it's kind of like you should have been smarter, like and I get him, and I like really versed out, like people were like, I don't know, I think nobody's really gonna like I'm just gonna change like the success of the Kardashians. I

hope it does. I hope that when we're here on that I really hope it does, because then ain't gonna do ship just about two weeks. They're gonna be onto something else and people ain't gonna care about what because then he posted the unfortunately he posted d ms that he had. It came a couple of months ago, and

nobody cared about that ship. Yeah, nobody cared for real. Yeah, I guess it's because we can't see any new fucking like this old ship nobody, you know what I'm saying, Like, do y'all think that maybe now maybe they'll be okay because they don't need the black community anymore. Did y'all see Kim Kai's most recent photo shoot, The American Dream? She has these blonde eyebrows. Blonde, Yeah, Now they're transitioning over Yeah. Yeah, So that's why I don't. I don't

think they really can't. I think like they like just transition now. I don't don't, but I hope he gets to clear his name and you know, like get his deals right there, but like, get your money, black man, get your money. I listen, all right, y'all, we're gonna take a break and we're gonna get into uh today's topic. We'll be right back, so listen. I put a post online um on the podcast stage to try and get

women to engage a little bit. So I basically posed a question to women, asking, you know, what are some things about yourself that men may consider red flags? And I intentionally did not ask men what some women's red flags are because maybe I want to point out the biggest one women may have, which be which would be accountability. If we can't point out what's wrong with us and what our own bullshit is, that's some accountability issue. So anyway,

I'll start, Okay, I'll start. We're gonna go into some general ship that you know, people responding with, even some guys, but I'll start with one of my can I just can I just say this start shine you next, and then we're gonna just move on with life because I really don't be doing shop girl bite anyway. All right, so lesten y'all. I'm gonna be honest with y'all. One

of my big red flags would be deflection. Okay, So like in the midst of an argument, I may bring up something you did in the past to justify my current behavior, right, And I've recognized over time that's not okay, especially if I supposedly got over that thing you did. But I feel like the reason why I do that is because I like to think of myself as a really forgiving person. Right, So then if I do some ship, I don't want to feel like you're dragging me about it. Yeah,

Like I don't want to feel dragged about some ship. Right, So now if I'm I feel like, damn we even now, right, why are you dripping? Like get over it now? And that's not fair. That's why we're moving forward. Yes, I feel like we even, Like why can't I get the same grace I gave you for the same thing. What's the problem? Because you ain't them and they ain't you? Right, I understand that, but I'm still a working progress. Got ain't through with you yet. That's my John. What's one

of yours? Is like I like free food, and I like, literally tell you that. So like if they're like he's like, you know, trying to talk to me, like trying to I'd like cool, Like I like free food. And then I realized that they think I like them, but it's like I don't like you, but you offered me free food, so I'm gonna go out with you to have this meal. So like your opportunity, that's it. I'm an opportunity. If there's not food, be they're taking it. That's a food tunist.

I'm an opportunist. If there's no I'm definitely taking it. So yeah, I was, and I have some pictuations with niggas giving me free food because that's really what I call it, Like it's free food. And like then they started acting crazy after like this one do he um he gave me free food because like I know he gave me the frue food today that I met him, Like he came and sat down while I was eating and was like, oh, you're cute and like buying me

drinks and everything like that. And then I'm like, it's free food and I'm going after that. This one who was blown on my phone acting all types of crazy and I guess because I didn't ask my phone he was feeling the type of way. And then let's saying I know he's texting me like oh it's over for you, and was like that that's like threatening me and acting crazy like I know you snitched on me, all types of ship and then he's like yeah, he's like wrong number.

He was like wrong number, but um, I ain't heard from you. What how you doing? And I'm like does he think that she is cute? Like I think you're something, nigga. You're working crazy and I would not be calling you like I like that nigga on everything. He's still be trying to trying to hit me up through other numbers and like other Instagram pages, you're fucking crazy. So I guess I was like by slapping the face back from me being a person who likes free food. But that

definitely is my red flag. I like free food. It's not about liking free food, though. Come on through a therapist, Tammy, come on through a therapist. Please please break it down to her what that is exactly? That to us, you are using people for what you want, yes, free food. So that would make you an opportunitist or a user

at times, and that's not uncommon. Women do that. Women like free ship, and sometimes we will obtain it from people who want more from us and knowing that we don't want more from them, and that is definitely a red flag. That's my good dinner whore. I should put that on a T shirt dinner wore. Okay, So I guess if we're gonna do this, I guess, then apports and I just make up something so y'all don't feel left out. Um, I'll say one of minds is overreacting.

Sometimes ship don't call for level twenty. It could just be a ten level issue. And I'll go from zero to one hundred in a matter of moments and it's like, did you like, damn, can you be a niggas piece, Like just calm down and listen and don't respond. So when just quick to respond and just go off the deep end. That's one of mine. I know I do that ship and I like, damn, my shipping up broke your window. Huh window that don't be be calling and hanging up. You know, I love your mom, Andy. Look

that goes into one of my other red flags. I don't like niggas with mamma's or sisters. Like that's a red flag for me with men, and a red flag for yourself your mama alive. I can't do this, you know, no, you want to know what I guess I say, Like, that's a red flag for me to like, I don't like me nobody's mom. Like I'm not trying to meet your mom like like you got kids, I do not want to see your child Like I like, I'm not gonna beet that mama. Don't care. Just but your seafood

dinner and your sausage dinner and go home. That's all I need. Give me a good meal. We could you up for about five minutes after and I'm bead. No, I don't know. You want to come meet? No, like your mom's gonna be home. No, Nick, I'm not coming over. They're like, your my mom's nice. Yeah, your mom's like said every girl you bring there, No, I'm coming. And that's what your mama. I love mama's I'd be trying to win mama's. I like to I like, by the time I get done with your mama, she's gonna like

be more than you. That's how I'll be wanting to do it. Did y'all see this meme online? What's not a meme? Sorry it's I forgot what Paul cast it was. But the guy, one of the guys on the podcast pose a question like, so, who who sits in the front seat, your your wife, your girl, or your mom? And the guy here asked it was like, my girl, Like if my girl, you know, arbitrarily volunteers, like give up the front seat to my mom, that's her business.

But I would never put her in a position to have to just get out the car get in the back seat because my mama getting in the car. She was like, it's nothing wrong with that back seat, Like my mama can sit back there. But we know that that might be a thing for some mama's, and I think that's because mama's, especially black mamas in particular, maybe having his son husbands, I would move from Mars's mom

to sit in the front. It would just it would just be my personality to respect his mom to say, same way, I put my own mama in the front. I'm gonna put your mama there too. Now I can't front. I don't think I will move. I'm not based in the back. I'm not moving me because it's not like if I if she was already in the front seat and they're picking me up from somewhere, I wouldn't have her move from me next to him. I would just

get in the back. So I would never expect for her or my husband to then expect me to move because his mom is getting in the car. You know, once you get married, especially like that's your media family, I'm sorry your wife, Like if she's not going good between you and your wife, like the whole family ship dynamic going to fall apart. So things have to always be good between you and your wife. You're gonna let

your your mama come in between that. But showing his mama respect and treating her the same, with the same respect as you treat your own. I sat your dick. Your mama can't do that. I need a little bit more respect. I'm sorry your mama could do that. But oh, you know where were living here? Like ship going on? Man? Yeah, man, it's a weird ship going on outside seeing that. I've seen a video where a girl says she did have a threesome with a guy and his mom. What I

see that ship? No, No, that's disgusting. But that's that's not insett. It's definitely inset. I guess it depends on how you actually have the three something what I mean likes the way to do it. The mom has sucked her son's dick. That's the different positions in the three something. No, yeah, there's they need therapy for real, Like right, yeah, that's not okay. But no, even if I'm still like, if I'm sucking your dick or whatever, that means, I like

you a lot. If I'm putting your dick in my mouth, and if I love you and ship, then I'm gonna love your mama too, like I'm gonna try to. I am. I love you so much. I love your mama for making you, So I'm gonna be I'm gonna be good to her too. I don't be almost making you, but I can still love about she in the back seat. The car is clean. I'm not gonna get up, especially my feet her. I'm not getting up. Get up for that, lady, get your I think it's necessarily don It's like I

don't have that much ego in it. It's that's an ego thing, y'all. That's not an evil thing. The fact that like the car is playing, you could say in the back I shouldn't have to get up and move for you. What if she's like on a cane, And but if she's in the can, she probably belongs in the back. So you probably gotta get a sprint of man, every reason, every reason to keep yours right, you bigger Carniggs. Your mama needs space back there, all right? Listen for me.

I do have a couple of a couple more of my own red flags, and we can get it to some of the red flags that, um, you know, some women responded with some other ones I came up with, but these are mine, right, Um, I probably offered too much information about myself too soon because I'm an open book and I don't really care who I talked to about my life for real. That's why we have a podcast. Like I'm gonna say whatever it is. So if you can't handle that, then you probably not the person for

me anyway. I do want to be in a relationship with somebody that I could be myself all the time, Like that's really really important to me. So if I find myself having to omit things high things about myself, you probably ain't for me anyway. So whatever, but that could be a red flag for some men like you

oversharing um. Also, in the past, I have had a tendency to share relationship trauma like should I might have went through in another relationship with somebody I'm currently talking to, because things just be relative, Like you're having a conversation, you'd be like, oh man, yeah, my ex such is said is such. But men, I have had somebody point that out to me that I do that, right, But then I then started, you know, making sure I'm listening to when they're talking and they do the same thing.

It's just different. They can just see what You can always see what somebody else doing, but not what you're doing. Yeah, because the same way I think, like that's probably like one of my my red flag too, is like I overshare and the oversharing I give a lot of times it's like crazy stories. So I think, like, so I try to like stop doing something like I used it.

I feel like it's be like yo, this bitch is crazy, and they just be ready to write to write me off, because like my one, it does get kind of crazy, like I got like stories for days, like I've been telling about times when I like dow tables on people and like may season. I mean, I don't alway start trying not to do that no more. You know, I'm trying to be a changed person. But like there, but I had to realize that I need to stop telling nigg is that because they're gonna be like, yo, what

the fund is wrong? But and like keep it pushing. As long as you don't act crazy, you won't get that type of reaction from me. Like I just be matching energy. But it's like my thing is always like if we have we have, If we're here, we're here. You know what I'm saying, Like it's like go hard to go home. So we get to that point I'm gonna go to go hard to go home, and I'm not gonna go home, so I'm gonna go hard. So you're one upper flag, so you can't bow out gracefully.

Now I don't bow out gracefully. We see, I see the collection I'm out to drop like in the summer about this one nigga. Oh girl, I met the whole coloring book about that dirty dig nigger, A whole color. I'm make sure to saying, y'all, Si, yeah, send me word. I see y'all. Because they just need to learn shiveries. I'm gonna get some in a nice coloring book. They want to be a little fun niggers, but a nice color you could color that bit you and learn sugary

like I'll need something this all the time. Like my pettiness knows no bounce. I don't even trying to go there with people because another flag. Yeah yeah, this conversation is riddled and sucking red flags. Who I ain't gotta say ship right, all right, all right, No, I got all right. So here's one of mine that sometimes I'm sure men can can be off putting by me doing this.

Sometimes I will let my personal insecurities get the best of me and require constant validation from my partner at times, like just needing too much of them to lift me that I'm not lifting myself and I'm just requiring that too much of them, And I know that can be a red flag. I'd be like I look fat in this like this and just like all this, and nigga like, girl, I eat you right now in front of all these people, relaxed, Like why you don't see yourself like I see you? Right?

You know that's a problem, you know sometimes that's something that I have to work on, you know not let I mean, we all have our insecurities, but you just can't allow them to get the best of you and use your mate as the source of your validation, you know, right. And I think that everybody wants a confident made right, So if you're always just like pointing out your insecurities, that's not really confident. So men like confident women too, So baby like, yeah, you want to lose some weight,

then go do it and stop talking about it. So I have had But if a nigga say that to me, that's a problem, Like, don't address me that way. Well, they may not say it in that way maybe he's a little bit nicer. I'm just saying that sometimes. Yeah, like I work out with you and you want to go out at you, I'll be good. Yes, I want Sheriff Troy from uh with your Scott you know, you know be that way with me, Troy. You got all

the movie references. Yeah, because I had a guy told tell me one time, like, that's one of the things even like about women is that, you know, getting naked and then you start talking about the things about your body you don't like you want to know. It's crazy when I got clothes on, But when I'm naked, I'm feeling my element. I'd be like, that's the only time. What's I'm naked? It's all the way on. Baby, it looks like you want to be stuffing. I'm about to

give it to you. Yeah, that's where a god I'd be feeling powerful is fuck naked. I bet your strippers feel like that too, probably, yep, ye got to like it's with clothes on it I'll be feeling like, is this cute? I look right but naked, I'm good. I'm goot your baby, teach your face right here, put your head it right here. So Sean you got one more before we get into this list. Are you good? I think I'm good, but I might come up with something. Yeah,

I gave us like five good don't scare. Don't scare the niggas all the way off Sean, don't stop talking to much about myself crazy. Okay, So look, I do have one more exes having access, so I do not really exces, but people I've dealt with in the past, Like say, for instance, you're talking to somebody and you realize y'all realize it's mutual, right, y'all realize y'all are better office friends. I have to discard these friends because

I get into a serious relationship with a man. Yes, I don't think you should have to do that, because I don't require that for my mate. I don't require you to cut off good people. Do you see what I'm saying? If it's somebody who was like sucking your life up and who's gonna be a liability when we really when we really get ship popping, like no no liabilities now. But I know a lot of assets, and I don't just want to cut people off just because

you have an insecurity. Yeah, I don't want you to be communicating with no woman that you used to fuck like and y'all just be talking on the phone and when you mad at me, let me tell you what Timmy did. No, don't be telling nobody who had yo dick in day mouth what I did. But what if it's like it's like they just like friendly, like, oh, I'm just checking in, see how you're doing. Like, oh, happy birthday man and Christmas like that, bitches, birthday already

happy because I'm here now. I don't like outside the one day who I'm doing the artwork about my track record for like the last four or five years has been really good. Like every nigga that I've been with, like we're like still cool, like we're friends, and like even if they have a girlfriend, we're still like friendly. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, And I'm not talking about like somebody you're a constant contact with, just like occasionally, like I gotta change my phone number because I got

in a relationship with you. That's a problem for me. But some men may do that as a red flag that I have that that people I've been with um are still still have my number, I still have access to me. Even with social media. You could be with somebody who has a problem with men liking stuff and sending U d M messages like that? How do you do nothing about that? We can't live in a world like that, So how can you live in a relationship like that? No, it's true, and I and also tell me,

I see what you're saying. But I think it's different with women because women have a little bit more integrity than men, and then we also know other women. Right, So I don't think a man can have female friends, but I think women can have male friends. Well, how that's gonna What I'm saying is is that a woman can maintain male friendships and not want to have sex

with those guys. Right, But those same guys if she called him and be like, hey, you want to get this pussy, even if you ain't never fun with him in twenty years, he's probably gonna say yes. And that's why we can't do this. That's why you can't all together. Right, I hate to kill everybody, to shoot everybody. I'm gonna take you all right on down to Illinois. Come, I take a trip to guy out every my friend, your friend.

That's all go. But like, but you think it goes both ways with like man, because I have guys that like I'm friends, Man, I would never have sex with them, and I feel like they would never have sex with me. Like I feel like it really is like a brother sister type of thing. I think if I was like to be like, yo, what the funk? I think it were like like like a curveball for them, Like what the fund is happening? Like what? Like you know what I'm saying because we've been so friendly, right, so those

are actual friends people you've not been intimate with. Yeah, yeah, so that red flag that I said is what it was excess still having access? Well no, I know for like the red flag, but as far as like men and women being friends, right, yeah, absolutely should be able to have friends of the opposite sex, but but not excess. Well it's not like an exit just somebody that you have sex with. No, no, sean no. So it's like I was just gonna make it in any great shape

or form. I It's like just no, no, no, is that realistic? It's not just gotta keep it to yourself. That's what I feel like, Yeah, you're gonna have too, because I'm not gonna be okay with it. What are you What are y'all talking about? Why are y'all still talking? Like what y'all got to talk about? Still? I don't know to carry your asks, you need to go on somewhere. I guess I'm not that possessive and I like and

we talk about open relationships all the time. I'm not saying like that's what I would that's the type of situation I want, But I want my man to be able to tell me whatever the funk it is, whatever they got going on. No, I'm not okay with you talking to a bit who probably still wants you about me.

I have a problem with that. Yeah, yeah, And I feel like you have to be friendly and not talking about our relationship, Like y'all can talk about other guys, current events, policy time, aside from taking your ass to Chicago. If y'all play with and something like like they would know like no, like his girl, don't play that like she's sucking crazy, you know what I'm saying, Like I feel like, yo, like, don't play for his girl like that, like we're just friends because I feel like we just

don't care about that. I feel like like you like you just like you like you be having friends like yeah, that she used to like with like with there a good connection and they always look out for you. Still, right, this just be like girl, Johnny got a new girlfriend, but I talked to that Nick all the time. I could take him right now if I wanted. That's because that's probably how you be saying, bitch, no, no, I don't want these houmes. Man, I did not want these homes. Man.

Look as I'm looking at this list, I'm like picking up on my other my other red flags. Okay, so look after X is still having access to you here, I have noted. Okay, and this could I could, it could beat me healthy conflict resolution. I'd be ready to go, That's what I noted. And I do be ready to go. So what you mean, like and like when you get into an argument that's just so deep, I'd be ready to just dip out, like I wanna, I want to

leave the relationship. So you don't want to be too you want to leave the relationship, I'd be ready to leave the relationship. I'd be ready the conversation is too vulnerable, not the conversation, but if we're we're in the midst of like an argument that I just feel like it's just like you know how I guess the comprehension thing, right, I'm not comprehending you. You're not comprehending me. So that's why there's a disagreement. We're going back and forth about

the same thing. I'd be ready to end the relationship because of that, because we don't under yes, when it is that's always made for me, I do be running. I'd be ready to get the funk about it there, because if we're not understanding each other, how can we have a relationship. That's what the work that's putting you gotta do the work. And maybe that's why I don't have a man now because I'll be putting in work.

I just I don't like like you know what I'm saying, Like yeah, because we come up from an instant gratification society, and like if things ain't good, we're ready to move on to the next thing or just be by myself. I don't even be ready to move on. I just be ready to just have a little peace because I just be thinking about like, um, are you even mad? Black woman? And idea I could do bad by myself like that, you know what I'm saying, Like if I'm

like constantly like, are you gonna find with somebody? I like? Like Like you said, I could just be by myself. It's like, listen, I can had a tent in some batteries for all this, Like it's not that deep. It's not worth the stress, right, ain't nothing like no real dick and somebody holding you at nice It's nothing like it. But like not if you're stressing me, like I wanna be stressed out over there, at least you can follow up with some You just gotta find out what you like.

I just feel like you have to decide what stress you're willing to put up with when it comes to these men, Like you're not just gonna find no fucking perfect as nigga who's just gonna come perfectly healed and just perfect for you, and he ain't gonna never stress you, and she ain't never gonna get hard, and like that's gonna happen in any relationship. And why are we going back to men? Y'all? See what happened? Do you see what happened? Why are we talking about minute? All? Right? Now?

That's exactly and that's why I wanted to have this conversation because it's y'all fault. Goddamn it. I don't care I said it because it almost seems like we can pinpoint, you know, every single issue about men, but when it's time to look at our own ships, we just it's almost like I'm like this because of that. I'm like this because this person did that. Your energy, right, I want to stay I want to stay clear that this next one might be number one on the list for

a lot of women. Uh, it's fallen in love too fast. We all think about that. M hmm. I think it's true. I'm trying not to think about it because you know, I in love like in my head, but I try not to say anything because because I know it's like a thing. I like remind myself that, like you know, you're just romantic in this person, you really don't know him like that. So I'll do like all the ship.

But like as fact as I could quote for fall in love, it is, I can fall out of love because they in my head already know that, like it's just me not me. I like to keep myself in check. I'm a cancer. So as soon as I fall in love, I turned in the fucking Marry Poppins snow white in the seven doors, and the birds be chirping in the the be singing in my ear and ship and then the nigga hurt my feelings. Then I'll be mad at myself. You did it again? To me, you did it again?

You know, fail for this ship? Right, I've been there so many times. That's why now I'd be like sean thro, tell yourself a dreams, like don't say God talk to you, but you might be manifesting it not to work when you do that. And sometimes I think that too, Like sometimes I think maybe I'm being too pessimistic. So it's like weird, because nobody wants to be played, you know what I'm saying, Like, nobody wants to feel played. Because it's even like you know, like when you crost me

here answer and it's like what do I call him? Again? Like I know he's seen a miscall, you know what I'm saying, Like those type of stories in your head. That's not my man. I don't either, but I feel like maybe that's the problem. Well, okay, so here's the thing. Maybe in my twenties I probably would have looked at this a little bit different, but nowadays I really don't

got time to play with you. I'm gonna say exactly what I want, exactly how I'm feeling, exactly how I feel about you, and then you can go on if that's not if you're not winning none of that ship. Right, So I might even tell you because late you know what, I love you. If you ain't with that, you probably should leave me to fu alone, right, say this pussy or not not even just the pussy. It is everything

that come with exactly. So um yeah, So it's it's possible that women we do have those attachment issues we've talked about in the past, falling in love too quick and expecting the person to be at the same space in the relationship that you are at the same time. It's almost inevitable because a lot of times two people are not in love at the same time. It's just

for whatever reason, it's that way. And I guess when you do find somebody that you're in love with at the same time, and I'll get married and I'll do all the little things. I don't know. Do you think's like my grandmother. She's always telling me, like, never love someone more than they love you, and if you do, don't show it, like she always. Yeah, So that's what women are told because we think that's that's how relationships work.

But then that's also how you create stalkers. Okay, when this man is so in love at you, he loves you more than he loves itself at this damn point, you love so now you that that comes out that I would think that if I love somebody more than they love me, it's gonna kinda uh I mean, excuse me. If this man loves me then more than I love him, it's gonna kind of show in the relationship and the things that we do to each other, you know what I'm saying. So somebody's gonna be lacking. It's gonna be

a lack somewhere. But right, But do you think most relationships are like that where it's like one person loves someone more than the other, even if it's like uh fifty three right. Yeah. I don't think so either. I don't think it's ever I think like like they're showing in different ways like in a yan yang, and I feel like that's when it's like that's probably like your person. But I don't think it's ever like equal. There's always one person chasing another and y'all flip flop sometime. Yeah,

that's how I feel too. I feel like it might be like different moments where like yeah, but it's never like a smooth just like you know, fifty situations. Attitude attitude problems ladies who got an attitude? Black women, that's across the board for us, we're just born with one.

We're born with our middle finger up like what, yeah, I'll be feeling like it's even had a whole situation at Afro Functions now was one of the guys like I simply had because I had to move my stuff, you know, always telling you I was like moving my stuff. So I had asked to some of the people have like cars and you know, like you can't drive your car on the thing. So I just like, I'm high, it's impossible that someone can help me, Um, you know,

move my stuff. This man's gonna say, not me. You could go over there, And I said, okay, like what you said it like that because I'm like, like the attitude doesn't even called for. So then I went and I asked when else this same motherfucker's gonna pull up and be like, oh he gotta do. So I thought, like I was trying to keep myself calm because I was like, now I feel like you're catching the attitude with me for no reason. I'm like, I literally just

asked the question. It said yes and no question. He's like, oh, well, we gotta do ours that I said. I see. Now we're still talking just so catch your fucking attitude me. I don't know, you like, just say no. I just asked to kid, someone help me. That's it. But it's but I feel like it's like they're waiting for us to have an attitude for no reason. Like I just asked the question. I see what you're saying. So basically it's almost like black women are expected to have this attitude,

so we're always um. People always come to us, you know with the it's like yeah, like they feel like they have to have their guards up from like Jump Street and it's like, bro, like I live and I was mad nice. I was like, excuse me. I didn't even ask him if you could do I was like, it's it possible I could get somebody to help me. I didn't even so when he was like not me, but you who goes, I was like, I'm not even arguing with you because the attitude wasn't even called for us.

I was like okay, and I just moved to the other feel now I'm on the other field, and you still find and then you're sitting there looking at me like you want to start saying like what the fund is your problem? You're waiting for a problem, like that's what is you want a confrontation. If the answer is no, then't cool. I'm just gonna go ask somebody else, you

know what. UM Like you know another uh time where I feel like black women are treated like we're going to have an attitude, so I'm gonna give you poor service. Sometimes when people are of other races are serving black women at the table, we don't get the best service because they'll be like they're gonna have an attitude and

they're not gonna too Yeah yeah, yeah, all right, y'all. So, like we already talked about accountability or the inability like thereof accountability, um to see our own bullshit, you know, UM assisting that men excuse me while insisting that men take accountability for the ship. So those are red that's a red flag. UM shutting down, ignoring, or lack of conflict resolution. I think we talked about that. M hm. Actually we didn't talk about shutting down. So, you know,

not being able to communicate with a woman. So you're a grown man, you have communication skills, but you're with a woman who lacks communication and comprehension skills. You know, what do you do? That's just not something that's solely um male trade. We know men don't like you can talk, but there are some men who are who do well, I mean communicate, but then you end up with somebody

who can't communicate. Right. Another one somebody wrote down was um, just say another personal just put that down one or nine I personalized ship that don't have anything to do with me. A lot of women do that. We'll take some ship that is his ship and make it our ship and make it about us with the I I I I I I M. I'm going through this and you're making it about you right now, right, I can give you all of it. Well, I won't do that.

Let me just go to the next one. I was ready a second with got a perfect example of that, but I won't. Um. I saw a comment from someone that said they ignore people, so I comment back to her and I asked her, what does she mean by that, And I said, like ignoring in a relationship. She said yes, So I may be guilty of that too, Like we're getting into it. I may not answer my phone for your ask for the rest of the day, you know, because I don't feel like you're calling me to um,

let's move on. Maybe if you're calling me to continue on with the ship bullshit from earlier, I don't want to talk to you. So I know that I've ignored somebody for a while two weeks. I ain't know people too, because I feel like I don't want to say anything I can't take back. So that's like the best way for me to handle it. And I know that's probably not like the best thing, but at the toss up of the two, it's like I'd rather just do ignoring than like saying some ship we're like, you know what

I'm saying, and I can't take that ship back. But I shouldn't be more mature than that, Like that is something I need to work on, because it's not like the best way of communication. See, if someone does that to me, it will triggered my abandiment issues and then I overreact. Then you ignore me, and now you win. Shill missing you know, you ignore me. Now you'll got no wish you consequences. Consequences. Procrastination was another. Oh, that's

that's one of mine. I feel like that's just humans. Yeah, Like a red flag of my everyday life is procrastination. Yes, and it's like I can't even do the things I want to do? What the fund is my problem? Right? Um? Okay, So apparently men consider a single woman with their ship together red flag because something has to be wrong with you. Yeah. One of my girl friends said that one of my red flags was that I ain't got nobody yet, Like, how you ain't got nobody? You see me to have

your ship together? You're attractive, you funny, Like, why are you single? Something's wrong with you? That's eating meaning money more I began, But then it's like, but then, why are you single? Because we're both sitting here. Okay, that's a whole another episode. Uh, Because I think that, you know, for the most part, I believe that women want love. Women want to be loved. We don't want to be single. I believe that men thrive when they're single. They may

not realize, well they may not. Actually, I feel like married men thrive a little bit more than single men. You know, some people can do it being single, but most married, most successful men are married. Right. But we're living in it. I think we're living in a time where, you know, if we're in the black community, we want to talk about the black community. A lot of people don't put a lot of black men don't see the

importance of marriage or relationships. I think men like they want to be loved too, but they try to front like they like they don't like they don't want to

be like it's whatever, you know what I'm saying. And sometimes I think because I think like in the media, that's like how they I mean, they change it now, but I feel like in the media that's a lot of times how they put trade black men, and then because that's what they see you on television, they try to like, you know, like marry that because they feel like that's what it is to be a black man. Like even like in the music and ship like that. I feel like it's a lot of marrying and not

them like really like being who they are. Because I feel like to be loved, it's like a normal human trait I think everyone wants because it's a good feeling. You know what I'm saying. So even like we're like, how like black man cheating and ship like that, I feel like a lot of it, even though like I feel like something just can't keep the di they dig together.

But like sometimes I think, like, no, I think you're just cheating because you feel like you're supposed to when you think it's okay, Like it's not even necessarily because you really you know what I'm saying. It's just like because like you just feel like, oh, I'm a man and this is what men men do, so you just go out and do whatever. Right, so biblically, because biblically, you know, people like to go back to the Bible

and talk about women and blah blah blah. But the Bible doesn't mention anything about if you want to do that, because that's a lot of reference. God's people use the Bible as right, especially when trying to dictate what women need to be doing. The Bible says the man can't be alone. They didn't say anything about women not being able to be alone. And the Bible also says man should love women as Christ love the Church and don't say shit about women loving men. But y'all, we need love.

Women need stand out numbers. I mean we out number men. Yeah, for another reason too, m hmm. I feel like somebody meant to be alone. Yeah. I feel like even that statistics is fake because I mean, we got to calculate on how many men are incocerateds. So we're talking about available men on the streets. Some things we just can't control, you know what I'm saying. They could very well be damn in the same amount of women as there are men.

We would never know. And as long as men think that it's less of them and more of us, and that means that's why they should have five or six different women, they'll continue to do that ship. But we have to put our fun down to be like n nigger, it's equal playing grounds, equal playing field. Stop playing. Picked

a woman and get married. I want one, like I want to be in a relationship with like women and just me, but maybe beyond fifteen years down on line, let's add somebody so I can they can share the load. Let's add somebody because that's still and that's what women don't think take into consideration. That's a big job being married. Like you know, I realized being single down that you know, some days I don't eat. I just go to sleep.

But when you got a family, you're responsible for their nourishments. And now I gotta make sure you and your kids, or if we got kids again, I gotta make sure everybody eat every single day. Like that is stressful. Trying to figure out just yes, that is very stressful when that's the tip of the iceberg, exactly, Sean. At least people what the fun. They can find you at John You guys can find me at Sewan Reginald dot com. That's s h A W N G O R I G I N A I always oh R I G

I M A L s A after like singing. But yeah, Sean does I comm at. My Instagram is at m R S Originals, and y'all can see all my beautiful vagina art plus other things. I have some stuff from our penises now to ask it for it, but yeah, come to see my art and all the wonderful other things that I make because I just like to make ship. And what's your T shirts? Say you got on right now? This one's my good pussy T shirt. Hear me? We need I got you? I'm an, said some nuncs of y'all.

I'm saying you'all some slides too. I seen you have the two pieces. I'm saying you have a whole good pussy set. Tell me the good pussy they go with the good pussy said, already got all right, all right, y'all listen, so listen. If you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday on an I Heart radio app or wherever the fun you get your podcast that. This is your co host AJ Holiday two point Oh. Y'all can find me on instagrams. Also, um, y'all, keep them

dumb bit stories coming in SA series. That's a dumb friend. Excuse me, ask a dumb friend, ask a black friend. All that good ship? Tamn? What you got? Oh that's all? I ain't really got ship? Oh, y'all following me on Instagram official tam bam and once again, I love y'all. Thank y'all for tuning in. Remember to speak now and never hole yo piece y'all. We're talking to y'all. By bye,