Ep 82 "It's Not That Serious. Or Is it?

I love y'all? Man, I really do. Thank you for coming back to see us. How you doing a j I'm good man, just chilling out, trying to sell out. The heat, thank god? Is raining a little bit now? It seems like it rain every day. It do, but it's good, like we need to rain. To me, feels like a redo, a reknew, like a little fresh slate. Yes. I like when it rains. Yeah, my friends said, sins don't get no rain. That's why Las Vegas stay so dry.

That might be true. I don't know. I like when it rains the grass be looking at all fu green and ship. The grass likes it. What'd you do this? Weekend. I didn't do ship. I can't even think of one thing eight food that I shouldn't eat. Nothing wash my partner from penis. Well, I'm gonna do that anyway. That's just how I get down. That's just how I do. I'm gonna do that anyway. That's just how I do. Oh what say, I got a penis this weekend. It's like I say, and I took a shower this weekend,

like everybody knows that. Oh, I just want to do that anyway, because that's just how Oh, that's just how I am. That's what she said. I um. I flew to Atlanta this weekend to do a photo shoot for a friend's clothing line that's about to drop Bell Interest Clothing. It's exciting. I'm gonna wear one of her pieces for the live show, soidy. It's very cute, sexy little blazer number with a skirt. So yeah, that's what I did.

And girl, it was how this funk out there trying to take pictures to be sexy and cute and clothes and its six bit myself pressed my silk pressed baby that back of my neck. It was an afro under these tracks because I had clippings, girl, mistake. I should have just braided this ship up and put them just sold the hairry in instead of clipping it in between my hair, real hair was swelling like hair stylers kept having to like pull me to the side and like

refect my hair. Yeah, key, damn it. Yeah, was a great experience though. It's fun. What's the name of the clothing line again? Bell airis clothing? Okay, I think it's dropped. The actual release date is August twenty. She's got some cute pieces, y'all, so be on the lookout for that. Yeah, we like black women in business, Okay. Yeah, I didn't get to brought all this little outfits to wear to the club. Aunt didn't go nowhere? All we can and

did you see them down? Monkey pox is popping up in the lanty better say you're asking the house and and sanity sanitize everything you touch. They keep talking about monkey pox is all over the place. But I ain't seen one monkey yet nowhere. Girl. He's got that monkeys out here, y'all. Please, there plenty of them. I ain't see now monkey running around Atlanta yet. I don't know

any stupid internet news. What's going on. Well, this isn't really stupid, and I do want to start to show off by sending out some super duper loving light to Brittney Grinder. Britney Griner was sentenced last week to nine and a half years for um little under a gram of soil. Yeah, I'll just be out here with my ship. I'd be all in the way of just puffing it right quick. But we aren't in Russia a luxury. We

have recreational we haven't medicinal purposes. But yeah, she got caught up um back in February, right before Ukraine and Russia went started the war. So it's just a bad timing basically. But she was already over there for you know, a while playing basketball supplement her m w n B a income here in America, so she's been over there. She came into the country with the ship in her bag accidentally. I feel like she was starting mm hmmm, because I'm pretty sure she does that all the time. Yeah,

I'm sure she does that all the time. It's just like you said, it was bad timing for that, and because of who she is, that was like, yeah, we're gonna keep this one right here. Yeah. I actually, I actually went to Russia. I spent some time in Russia, and I lived in the Ukraine for a year. Did you know that? Yeah, you told me about that before. I was an exchange student in the Ukraine and my mama did not want me to take my blacks out there,

and she was so against it. But I begged and pleaded, and because I was such a scholar, they sent me for free. My high school paid for me to go and I stayed there a year and it was a great experience. I mean, it was fun. I did. I was constantly reminded that I was black because at the time, this is all right, what what years it's probably like to thousand. I just told how old I am, bitch. I always tell how old I am, so they know, okay, they know how your old, as they know that we

around the same age. T way back to the story. So as soon as I got off the plane, y'all, and I went to the home of the family I was staying with, which they were very successful, wealthy family. The student that was gonna, you know, go to the US in my place. She came up to me and she was like, I never see black like this, can I touch? She never seen black like this up closer in person, that's what she And she was like all

up in my face, trying to touch my face. And I had to get real South Carolina ghetto right out the game. Get the funk off me. This what you're trying to do, like personal space. I think that's one of the curses with social media is that we have now given a lot of people access to our blackness

that otherwise don't need it and would not have had it. Okay, so now they get to really like put us on their microscope see how we are without actually fucking with us, right, And that's even worse as far as I'm concerned, because then they might base it off of the brachet. And that's why and this is why. I you know, girl, like what other and I don't give a funk who get mad? Okay, but what other group of black black Excuse me? What other group of men do you see

like working on social media? Well, I mean culturally, twerking is a black thing, you know what I'm saying on a pole? On a pole? What other what other group of men? So the way that we're displayed on on on social media, on the internet, on TV, it doesn't represent us as a whole. It just doesn't the representation representation we got. I agree, it does not, and it's nothing wrong. Like I used to watched Loving Hill Pop faivorbably I don't watch it anymore, but I don't think

I'm the turret audience. But that is a part of that. That's the subculture within the culture, right But there's so much more to us than just what the and I just feel like that's what's dominating right now. Yeah. But but back to Brittany Grinder, Like, man, I just I was so like when I saw the headlines last week, like I got so I was vibrary and so low because I couldn't believe it. You couldn't tell me that she was going to get like not like a slap on the risk risk, but like not nine and a

half years. And so the thing is that they said they had to sentence her and then in negotiations will now and take place for the for the swap, if there is to be a swap. But you know, in February they swapped this Trevor I forgot his last name, but he was like a U. S. Marine. They swapped him back in February or March but he had been

in prison over there for five years. And to people who are trying to compare like her drug charge and Russia and comparison to a Biden isn't doing in America for the black men who are arrested or who have been in prison for um marijuana over here for decades. And she's like that, it's just not the same. You cannot compare a US prison to a Russian prison. You can't. I have sat there and I was trying to figure out, like where they're gonna have her at? What are you

gonna house here at? I looked at so many videos of the prisons that they have over there, like, I hope she makes it. The ship is not as inhumane as fuck, they said some of the women if they most of the women in Russia gets sentence for drugs, That's what they said. So there's one prison where the women commit suicide as opposed to happen to do time at this particular facility. Wow, that's so scary. That's scary. And so it's not the same, you know what I'm saying.

We understand. I understand who the fuck y'all voted for. Told y'all, nigga is not the vote for that dude. Y'all voted for him, and he did ship he said he was gonna do. But you can't none of these. You can't come pair, you can't compare, you know what's happening over here to to ship in Russia. And then also, I want to say this and then we can move on to the next topic. Y'all just standing solidarity with with Britney Grinder. I don't want to hear nobody saying,

oh she knew better. How many times over here y'all trying to say free, free, such as such, when y'all know he a cold blood and motherfucking killer, but y'all still say free him. But when it comes to a black woman that you can't fuck right, it's people. Somebody can suck her, you know, like maybe not no dudes. That's yeah, woman, I'm talking about men. It's the men that I'm seeing that saying oh she knew better. You know what I'm saying, Oh yeah, it's not women that

I'm seeing that saying that. So I don't don't there's no justification for the treatment that she's receiving. It's just not um. So I hope she comes home soon. I feel like she's coming home soon, very soon. I feel that her. Have you ever seen that movie Broken Down Palace? Y'all,

guys are a movie buff. It's a it's a really good movie called Broken Down Palace, and it's about these actually two white girls from the US who went on like a vacation abroad and they who are having a good time and met this beautiful man who invited them to go somewhere else and really he used them as a drug depoise, take a whole bunch of drugs. But he was Was that based on a true story? Yes, I feel like I saw it. I feel like I've

seen it before. And these girls took his backpack and they got caught with this amount of drugs and now they're in like I think it was like some Asian country, like I don't know where it was, I don't want to lie, but in this prison and they literally never got to leave, never like but the end of the movie, the girl was still in prison and she had been there for a long time and it was it's a very sad movie. I mean, it's a good story and it made me think of the Brittany Grinder situation. I

hope she doesn't have to stay like they did. But if you ever get a chance, check that be all that is good. Yeah, our heart is with you, Britney Grinder. We hope you come home soon for real. Yeah, And you know, I don't know, did you watch Stranger Do you watch Stranger Things? Nelix? I watched UM the first season and then I kind of fell off. Everybody talk about it so much that I feel like I should go back and watch it at least watched the last season. This last season got so many gems in it, and

y'all know how I feel. They have to give out get our consents, so they put a lot of things in movies. They literally have dark matter trapped in laboratory UM in Russia. Okay, so this is this the that that season is based in Russia's some parts of it. But listen, I feel like Britney Grinder might be a direct descendant of some ancient civilizations. I don't know sa Marian's or um the an ANARCHI I don't know, but she's pretty tall, and we know basketball players in America.

They are our modern day giants. So maybe Russia knows something about Brittany that she doesn't even know about herself, but I'll leave that they you can go do some research on that. Yeah, we're gonna put We're gonna have a j with her theories of conspiracy on our patriarch. This is not a conspiracy. It's not a conspiracy. Listen, let me break the numbers down right quick, just one one to one to second. Brittany Grinder is six ft nine. They sentenced her to nine point six years, right. They

they reported March six that they had Brittany Grinder in custody. Right, that's that's your three six and nine. Okay, that's your three six and nine. Google three six nine, everybody just google to three six nine, because once you understand three six, now you understand the universe. These people do things in numbers all the time. Is your mantrea? Okay? Next? Uh? Next? So yeah, like I'm saying, we're gonna start our patriarch real soon. I just like to get people a different

perspective to look at things. I appreciate. I appreciate it. Sometimes I'd be like this this bit crazy. But then sometimes I'd be like that makes some fucking sense. You really, you really with somewhere with that one girl, You really have me and I always go somewhere. Yeah, sometimes maybe if you want to go with me far, sometimes it'd be too far from me. But then a lot of times you'd be making sense. For real, friend, I'm here for it most of the time. Don't tell you don't

tell people. A lot of times you're not motherfucking friends, so you're always supposed to be where I'm at. That's just trying my best I try, my best friend, try all right. Next, who going to jail for COVID fraud? Okay, Biden? Oh fucking far and head ass. Look now, let that about our president. There was a time you couldn't talk about the president at all, but since Obama, you know, you can say whatever you want to say about the

president and get away with it. Apparently. Um I remember growing up where they said like secret Service to pull up at your goddamn house, was saying something about the president. But now it's seeming as now we're calling our president of farmheading. Listen. That was nice, Okay, that was nice, But Biden says, you can't hide. We're going to find you. We're gonna make you pay back what you stole and

hold you accountable under the law. Listen, I know my payment dates, I'm paying my ship back, and I'm confused. You know, I can understand, like the millions of dollars that people may not be able to pay back that they got um from you know, the P P P and all these different disaster disaster funds and all the ship. But okay, my little, my little piece I got, I got your mother like a money like I don't want

to give it back. I just feel like if you got billions of dollars to send the Ukraine, why you need mind back? Clearly? You straight you know what I'm saying, Like you are the interest off all that credited money is what he used to send over to Ukraine. So now you want to collect from the people exactly. But no, that's not right. I don't know if I got it by it we don't see. And a lot of people I guess even if you got your ship forgiving, are he coming? Is he coming after those people as well?

Because you had to show documentation to have things forgiving? Right, So I wouldn't. I wouldn't. I could only assume that you know, they're probably going after people who uh got you know, upward large yes, large, large amounts of money and you know, people were lying they was wild and bad to getting big money and then going to buy a Bentley, like are you serious that's what you wanted to do, and and then pulling up to your project

house potmans pulling up in apartments with a Bentley parlay. Now, I mean we were saying that like Potman's so we associate that with black people, but white people was running the muck with the P P P and E I D L ship as well. They probably got the most money. And they were buying bullshit too, because I remember a guy out in Florida had the lambows the rollies that yes, that the government um um confiscated from him. M So it ain't just sus. That's the show who they're coming for.

But don't you care. Let's get into that. Don't you care? This past week she cut her hair off and shaped her eyebrows, And at first I was like, is it a Britney Spears kind of meltdown situation? How she like? You like that? But I like it? And Richard happy and I do what the funk I want y'all and was like, and you got the face for it because I could, Yeah, yes that I was in the story the other day and I saw this girl. She had

her hand. I was like, oh, you're so pretty, because I already know I can't pull off a ball head. That if you could do a ball head with no brows nor nothing, you like real life, yes, me and my damn daddy had I couldnot do it. I got a peanut right in the back of my head, like you know, wearing them a little nuts in the bad like that should just stop right there. Yeah, it's just

like a little nugget right there in the back. And my mom joke with me, that was my brain right there in the back of your head, that little that little ball right there was my whole brain right there. You're mom and me for that, all right. So apparently kim Ka and Pete Davidson has call it quits after nine months. How you feel about that? Do you care? Do we even care? I mean, I saw, why do you want this woman with four child for four kids? Anyway?

And apparently they said that he had recently tried to ask her to marry him, and I guess that that's probably made her run like she just got out of a marriage, she's still in a marriage. Yeah, she requested from the courts to be legally like to be legally a single person. So she wanted to be separated from Kanye. And then there's reports out that he has now went through his fifth attorney for the divorce, so they still working at shot out. She's still married. She's still married.

I didn't think they were actually together in the first place. I thought it was pr stunt. She just was trying to have fun, That's what I think. I like, she got this younger guy opposite of what she typically dates, which is white. She always days black men, and he's a young white man, and she just was looking for some fun. I don't think she was looking forward to be to go to serious. And I think maybe before Pete almost called a man sky, before Pete got to

too involved emotionally involved, she called it quiz right. She did um an interview and she literally said, like when she met him, she was DTF. That don't sound like taking him serious at all. She's not looking for no, no real relationship. He's twenty eight. Kim k is like forty one, Come on, what are we talking about? What

then are we already talking about? So Kanye then took to his Instagram post and post posted like a fake article, Um, like a Times article that read, uh, Skeet is dead in wait what it's that Skeet Davidson dad at And it was like New York Times article And Kim K tweeted like, how does Instagram even lest somebody posting bullying type ship like that up there? And um and allowed it to stay because it was posted like last night, middle to night and I just checked and now it's down.

But it's been up there most of the after that's not it's not. But then NYT did a whole video burying him, and it was video he just had his head, he had a Pete Davidson head. Okay, that's that's kind of dark and sick. Okay, you don't think that's dark and sick. So you don't think that's how most Hollywood people are, or people with a lot of money, Like, yes, motherfucker. So you mean you think that only regular people are serial killers and stuff like that. You think that their

exempt from me and fucking psychopaths. No, they probably do him and a lot of people. They have the means to do. What the funk they want to get away with him, But we don't be looking at them. Girl, I remember like maybe but maybe about five six years ago, there was a decapitative body found in Hollywood Hills, like in a in a prominent ass neighborhood of a West

Indian man. Yeah, like who did that? And the ship just and then how about that that billionaire or a millionaire who just went to prison for killing all those black gay men. You know what I'm talking You know what I'm talking about. Yes, girl, For years, Niggas was coming up dead at his house. He was drugged him up. Fuck them. They might have a you know, overdose, or maybe he was causing him to have an overdose and getting away with it safe out here. Okay, she is

getting real weird outside. Mm hmmm, wicked, wicked, wicked, Yeah, girl, we're both to think about his whack ass. So was Ashanti his side piece at the time, That's what I'm confused on. So, yes, he was married at the time, him and him and his wife and swoopsode. They didn't get a divorce until now. I don't know how long they were separated, but they didn't divorce until so we know whatever relationship that him and um A Shanty had

going on his way earlier than that. But why I know, drink champs get you drunk so you could talk shit. Come on, man, ain't no way like you put that girl business out there like that twenty years ago, because she's still popping. There's not no regular woman. This is a shanty we're talking about. Yeah, a shanty still walking around here, extra fucking fine. And that's why he did, And that's why he might because if she was fat and ugly now with a bunch of kids, he wouldn't

have mention her ass on the show. Not at all, Not at all. It kills me, all right. So if a woman is dealing with a married man and she comes out and says anything about it, then they're like, I ain't you was okay with it, so you should have kept your mouth closed. But if a man does it, nobody is giving him and saying like, why are you telling on her? Like shut your fucking mouth too, Yes,

chatty Patty, shut up, chatty Patty. He's really he really, um, Like the interview is like three and a half hours. I haven't started listening to Yes, so I've only seen like the little clickbait stuff that's online. But I even saw a clip where um, he basically said that jay Z would periodically ask him if DMX is better than him back in the day, like like as a rapper. Yes, yeah, Why would you tell that that's something that somebody asked you,

like in confidence? You know what I'm saying? What's up? Wait? So jay Z asked if he thought DM next was better than jay Z. Yes? Better, yeah, yeah yeah. So this goes back to nigga. It's not me you can't be vulnerable with. It's your friends you can't be vulnerable with. Don't confuse the two is, y'all. Niggas really be somebody different for your friends, but your woman know who exactly? Who then are you? So now it's your friends down to use some sh it against your ass? Because why

why would he do that? Right earth gotty? I'm looking at him sideway and shout like I definitely would have some money put to the side and make his ass disappeared because I don't I don't like way, hey j what I mean? They could be like legally make him shut the funk up or permanently make him shut the funk up, either one whatever, whatever. If I'm a millionaire, just listen, just so y'all know for future reference. Y'all.

Motherfucker's let me get a b if you want to shut up for ever, moving right home because this bit crazy and Jemini, y'all were going to pay some bills and we're gonna come back with our main topic. Are you coming to the cookout? Are you bringing your nigga to the cookout? Are not? Or is it? Is it even your nigga? That's what we're gonna talk about. We'll be right back. So apparently Tam and I have a uh,

what is it? A difference in opinion? Okay when it comes to dating oftentimes, right, And I was telling her how I took a guy friend of mine to like a family gathering at my dad's house and this is a friend and this is how I introduced him to my family as a friend. Now I can count on one hand how many men I've had around my family. Right, But I don't see a problem with bringing a nigga to the cook out that that's not your man. I'm confused. I'm not bringing no niggas to nothing at my family

house unless we're together. They don't get to be introduced to my family if they're at my house and I FaceTime with my mama. Don't say a word till I hang up with my mama because we're not Oh, you need to shut up, sir. So wait a minute. They can't come to the cookout and they can't like talk on it all. No, just be quiet because she don't need to know who you are unless you're my man. I just I just really don't think it's that serious, especially when you're getting to know stages and you hanging

out with somebody. So if this is somebody I already hang out with on the weekend, right, and then that makes it different if you're talking about First of all, what are you talking about? You know that I haven't had sex in years. Girl. In the beginning of the episode, sun like a shower, Like a shower, remember, he was like, I don't have to miss your fucking because that's just

something I do. That's just who I am. Yeh'll see how this miss me up here showing up lying, just lying, listen, whatever, Okay, this is somebody, so but so what y'all can still be like friends and this is who I want to hang out with, and hey, I'm about to go do this for a couple hours. Used to come come with and the thing is that I didn't even expect him to actually come, but he did. So I see when you invite someone to meet your family, that's typically that's

normally a big deal. I really don't feel like that's meeting and like, so people did have questions, you know, even but I haven't seen y'all and how long? So y'all want to know how to fun my life don't change, like and where your bitch and where your baby daddy? Like, uh, this is just my friend. But see that's the questions that I don't want to entertain. So that's why I don't bring anybody unless it's something where I could say, yeah, this is my man and let me let me introduce

you to my man agres. You know, I just want to be able to say that that isn't married man, he married. Yes, okay, here this is my man. Um what's that finance dude from Jonathan Jonathan um majors. Yes, this isn't playing me that that is my boyfriend. He's whatever you too to the cook out, that's who your boyfriend? Bit like he is literally, oh my god, yeah that's my boyfriend. That girl I just claimed him. How you gonna when I just said, he is on my vision boards.

You see her screen saver girl as my listen listen right next to the app the six pack, Like that's my whole boyfriend. Girl. Look, I never heard said you like him girl? Ever since Lovecraft Country, I've been on that nigger. What's the basketball player you like? Sergery ba? I let you have him, Okay, I leave you a lot of he's been doing a lot of Instagram like facial facials. He's given me too much metro lately, so I'm off for him. He's still fine. I let you

have him, and that's how you're gonna do me. You can have him. I don't want that, dude. I want Johnson. Major's a You're just so fine. Yeah he is. Y'all know he played a Lovecraft Country and that that other movie. Jay Z only came on Instagram to promote that The Harder They Fall couple some months ago. Yes, he's he's actually doing a movie with the up my old crush from back in the day, um the one that was with um oh girl, Steve Harvey, Darter, Oh, Michael B. Jordan.

They're doing a movie together. I saw that. That's a masturbation festival for me. I ain't gonna at much watch that movie out. No, I don't want to go to the movies to see that. I got planned, sent me in a whole of date night for the niggas meet y'allathing Michael in my rooms, getting it in, and for the movie shame Goodness. But yeah, So I had one of my friends, this is really my girlfriend, uh, my

friend real. He came to my he lives in my building downstairs for me, and he came by my family, came for my birthday and we got on a grill and I had like so much food. So I was like, real, you home, you know if you want to come by and get some food, you can't. He's like, yeah, I pull up. So he got to meet my family and I have not brought a man around my family since for like two thousand and sixteen. But he's just my friend. And they just was like so confused, like they just

didn't even know how to act around niggas. My mom like, are you gonna make his play for him? Get your heads up and make the play for him. I was like, my dad's not my nigga. Let him make his own food. That's just my friend. Like and my dad was like, what's up, my boy, and like just being so happy because he's ready to have like a son in law kind of energy. Bro, that's not that so I would never bring another guy around unless it's something serious, because it was ready to make him in my hood. I

just don't think it's that serious. I don't think it's that serious. And I feel like you could be friends with somebody. I think we okay, I don't know do we do? We look too far into like things with the opposite sex. You know what I'm saying, Like why I can bring my home girl, but I can't bring this this guy friend. I and I understand the sex part, right, but if this is a good friend of mine who I already be hanging out with, like, I don't see

the big deal. And maybe it has something more so to do with me because I also one of my uncles. And then my cousin had asked me something at the cookout, right, Other than that, my daddy ain't asked me ship. You know what I'm saying, Like he's been around my mom, but my mom gonna be asking me because I he's my friend, that's it, your your special friend whatever, he's my fucking friends. But everybody in the family, even if they don't ask you any questions, they're gonna be like,

that's your nigga and the head. That's not true, though, I think it depends on me, Like they're not just bringing they're not used to you bringing dudes around, not saying like I just be bringing all the type of niggas around my family because it's just not niggas. But I don't think they know me like that to even question me because I've been away for a long time. So now when I come to come intent, like when I'm now in town and I do like family ship,

they probably don't know how to take me either. So what's the energy like? And then you also have to look at the energy that y'all sharing with each Did you make his plate for him? We was eating crabs, Like, yeah, I got whatever he needed while he was there, because that I mean, that's also like even if you bring your home girl, like your home girl don't like to get up and get their own food. Family don't be

bringing me ship. You don't bring me ship. When have you been when have you ever been in like like whenever you went about it, you are clearly you dude be doing ship. You just had a crab ball where he was making that nig plate. First of all, the crabs dumped on the table and everybody go eat crabs. Like, I don't have to do much, but like getting him a drink or something like that. Yeah, you wouldn't have got me. No, let's be real, you wouldn't have got

me a drinker. You would have appointed me to where the drink said. That's that's not true. First of all, I am, I serve people, so I went. I know that sometimes people are uncomfortable in front of other people's families and friend and ship like that. So I wouldn't put you in an awkward position to have to get up and do things for yourself when you may not be comfortable doing that. Me, on the other hand, I

mean your fucking mama refrigerator, Like I'm comfortable. Like if you say I can do, I'm going to, especially when it come to food. Yeah, I just saw me in the right direction. Look, I just saw a post online. It was like a video and it was like these two black guys and then the dude bringing up late the food and it was like how you act when somebody bringing you a plate of food, like looking around like, oh,

I didn't know you were feeding me. I'm like, nah, I'm the type that's gonna meet you with the plate, bitch. So you don't gotta walk too far. But I'm never afraid to be myself in any setting, but some people are, so I would always if I bring somebody around my people, I'm gonna make sure they're good man or a woman.

M hmm. Okay, So yes, I was making a nigga drink, getting him some water if he needs to, instead of him going When people see you doing that, I don't care because guess what, I can bring another nigga in next week, like next It's really not that it's not that serious to me though there's no other nigga for me to bring just in case. But that's like you minimize the dynamic that you have with them. Man. No, I'm not saying that. Okay, No, I don't. I don't

think I'm minimizing it. It's just that I think a lot. I think for what black women, we need to watch our attachment issues. We need to live in a moment more with relationships. Understand the older you get, you start you know, looking at uh, your fertility, all these different things we start calculating right when we're dating and the older you get and you're single and all these different things. But you have to take some situations for whatever it is.

So like I said, that's my friend, Okay, I'm not trying to force him into a relationship by taking him around my damn family. Yeah, you know, because if he do the same thing, he would expect me to not feel like that either, But some women would if if a man you take me to meet his mom, your mama, we try to gather together, and I'm gonna go together together. But the nigga mom and I met five bitches this year, Like you're not even special, like you think, yes I am.

Don't tell me that. This is why I don't funk with mama's right now, Okay, because moms to be lying like they need your mama, that that means something because I'm so good with mama's. Like if I'm not good at anything else, I'm so good with moms. Oh my god, I'm the queen of finesse and mama's. So you think finesse and the mom is like getting like your way to the man's heart kinda is that why you do it.

I don't Uh, it might be a you know, last week episode, a little bit manipulation here, Honestly, honestly, I just if I love a guy, I want his mom to love me too, Honestly, that's really. If I really like this man, I want his mom to like me just as much. It depends. Your mama have to be married, your mom have to have a man because if it's problem, yeah,

because those are the hardest wants to win. But I'm not trying, Like I feel like, if somebody's family makes it hard for me, I'm just not working with them. I'm not ever battling anybody's family. Remember again, I've done it. I would kill him with kindness, Like it's gonna be like if you really just if you act like you don't like me, you just a hater at this point because I've been so nice to you, Like, there's no

reason not to remember this one guy. I won't say who it is because y'all would know him if I said it. We used to. This is years ago, and we were seeing each other and his mom came to visit for the summer, and I swear his mama called me every day to take her to Walmart. And I used to think like them, you couldn't have got that ship yesterday. But I would take her as every single

day to Walmart. It never failed. She called me and I like, and she would pray for me on the phone, and then I come get her, take her to Walmart, drop her off. It if I never go in with her, and I just drop her off at the front door, and I watched the door to wait for her to

be at the front door again. And I picked her up from the front door and then take her back to the house and she come out with like an apple or something like bullshit, Like it would just be like she didn't want to get out the house, yeah, something, and she just wanted to hang out and get out of the house. But I would take her every day. And that's back when I didn't have a lot of responsibility, honestly, because right now I had the uber her ass. I

couldn't give her that much time now. But and she loved me, like I probably could call her right now to pray with me and she would. Yeah. You know, if I can't smack your sister, I just don't want to be with you no more. What toxic? If I can't smack your mama. I don't think we should. Why do you want Why do you want to smack somebody mama? Because adults be needing, Nate asked, whoop. Sometimes even mama's even want to even on my side, but they don't, stupid,

I don't have mama's on my side. I have had a mom on my side too, and she's a real family member to me, and so is their son, so like that's my family at this point, we're not, you know, ain't nothing like that. But that's the only mom I ever liked. And then you know nigga who ain't got no mom? I liked them too. I did have a one relationship where his mom she was always on his side no matter what. But she did like me and she was always nice to me, but she definitely took

her son's side on everything. And I used to be like, are you really listening to the facts? And he would call her every time we got That's how I was about to say, like why why are you even discussing what's going on with the mom? Like what the fun? Because he would call her every time for advice, and then she would call me to have a conversation with me because she's just trying to help us have an amicobal relations amicable relationship. That was her word. No, I

don't need your mom and my business. And it used to be like a lot of things, I'd be like, do you hear yourself? Like you sound crazy? Because you know what type of relationship is she? And with the father with his dad? Because are you in a relationship with a narcissist? Are you in a relationship? Was she even in a relationship and getting very much single? Yeah? I don't got No. I can't take no advice from you, ma'am.

I'll take marriage advice from married people, and I'll take relationship advice from you know people, I mean dating advice from people who out here actually dating. I don't want no marriage, uh, no dating advice from nobody who's been married for fifteen years. You don't even know what the hell going on out here right now, right, And I don't want no relationship advice from somebody who's not in

an a successful relationship or marriage, right. I agree, Yeah, because you're gonna be coming with all your trauma and maybe maybe what you would have done differently, But I'm not dealing with the same man that you might have been dealing with. It could be all type of things. But I don't know. I'm taking friends to the cookouts. I'm taking friends to people to places with me. I am, you can't come to my ship. I am I bring you a play after this over. I don't. I just

really don't see the big deal. I don't. I don't want you to meet my parents until not just my parents, my sister. It's not that what y'all think. Y'all hit us up. Let us know. Is it that serious? Meeting a man's family on some regular that's my friend, even if y'all kicking it intimately, Like, what's the big deal with meeting the family and friends? Like I like to meet new people? Maybe that's my thing. I like to meet new people. I like. I definitely like, like, you know,

cookouts and house parties. I like that over a club any day. So yeah, you can invite me, but I'm not going. What about a round of guy and his friends? So is that not that's the same thing, Like a guy invites you out with him and his homeboys and the couples, like a couple of things. I could do that if it's not, If it's if it's super new. No,

I ain't. I barely know you. I don't want to know your friends if I feel like that's the part of getting to know somebody, trying to see Like, so this guy, his family isn't here, but I would want to know how is his family. I would want to know that, because what if we do get serious, I didn't know if you came from a fucked up family or not. Right, So I agree there, but we would have to be headed toward that direction first. I would have to know if I want head there without knowing

your family background. No more, I don't. I don't want to head there because what happens is like you head there, now you're there, right, and then you're having all these behavioral issues out this motherfucking now you got to now you now you finally see mama and whoever else is like, oh,

this is why. But had you met them earlier on, it would have saved you some time and your insurance if I like to you know, I come from a crazy family, you know, and I just don't want people to be like, oh, let me go meet her family and determine who she is because of how they are. Because my family of the chain, you know, like they

of the change. So I don't want I can't. I don't want to use that as my determining factor, not saying that I come from a bad family and my family is great and everybody's like funny, you're gonna laugh your ass off. But there is a little element, a little coop, you know. I mean, that's all families. I feel like that's kind of like the dynamic across the board. But I don't know. I need to see how you interact with your daddy, how you interact with your mama

like that. That's really what I'm looking for. I'm not really even looking for like interaction with the siblings and stuff, you know. I want to see that though. I want to see Yeah, I want to see that. But once we're determining that this is getting serious and this could be something real. But prior to that, no, no, thank you, and the friend thing, like you don't even want to take me around your friends to early, because if we're just getting to know each other and we need smash it,

I might leave you for one of your homeboys. You know. If we had sex yet and we and we're hanging out, we're actually just friends at this point, right, friends? All right? So how you listen? How do how do you pull that out home? Let's go to break right quick. And then I want to hear how we would apply that in a situation. Y'all. We'll be right back, okay, damm, Like, I know we joke about this type of ship all

the time, but what's the application for this? Okay? Like, you meet a guy, y'all kicking in y'all haven't had you haven't been intimate yet? You go, I don't know, maybe he invites you out do bowling with his friends. They do this every Saturday night. Whatever. Girl friends, home, girls, whoever, everybody else. You get to pick somebody else though there's somebody else there? How how do you go about doing that? Like? How do you say? I would I would never be

the aggressor. Honestly, they would have to like come at me. And if I'm not feeling in you, Like Jeffrey, he's cool, but here's uh Andre over here, and Andre is like making me laughing if he's you know, more entertaining me than Jeffrey. And then he comes around and sliding my d m S. I might holler at Andre, I might I never fucked Jeffrey. We just went on a date. You know, I don't owe Jeffrey ship. We already know men think pussy they never even have before is on

reserve for them. So you know you'll still be a hole in Jeffrey's eyes. Right, Well, ho ho ho, Merry Christmas. I don't getting about that now. If we if if Jeffrey and I slept together, then okay, all his friends are off limits. I don't want that type of stigma. But we did nothing. You're just somebody I hung out with. Switch right, Are you gonna automatically start trying to hook Jeffrey up with somebody else? You know, I got a

good friend for you. You know, honestly, if I think there's someone that Jeffrey might get along with better than me and vibe with, like definitely, why not If he would be up to it. He might be salty with me, you know, fucking bitch with my homeboy, But if you are a real decent dude, he probably wouldn't, you know, And you know it just depends. Yeah, I don't know that I've ever been in that situation or like picked somebody else over the friend. But listen, yeah, like if

it hasn't happened. I might not be the aggressor. I might not be at the bowling alley like walking up to your homeboy like that. I like you, Yeah, but if your own boy don't give a funk about you or jumping my dad and d MS or something. Oh, it's on so general. Consisus a j It don't mean nothing, Like, don't take it too serious. If she invites you to the family cook out. Let's be clear. I like you a lot, and I want to hang out with you

and my family. Like what with me, I'm gonna be expecting a ring at some time in the near future. You mean my daddy, Ni, we better be getting married next year. That's that's the type of time. You know. My daddy is so cool, Like I love my daddy so much. My daddy don't ask me ship you hear me. He ain't getting excited like like hes gonna be like, yeah, I'm drone like that and that, like just regularly like

just nice, good people. That's it. That's all. I've really got to find somebody because when real was there, my daddy was just because all right, my family is nothing but women. It's a bunch of women. It's no guys. The guys that were in my family someone had passed away jail, you know, the things that happened to black So there are not very many black men left in my family. So when Real came over, my daddy was just let's go upstairs to the roof or shoot spool

real like. He was just so excited to have like some male energy in the room. So and then my sister and my older sister, she a lesbian soul. She with a woman like it's nothing but bitches. So I really need to find a guy to bring home and take serious. But it won't be probably till even if I meet you today, it won't be till three Christmas until you get that invite. Niket terrible, that's terrible. I just I don't know. I think I just feel like this is a that's a part of dating. For me.

It's a part of dating, and that's all we're doing. We're just kicking it with dating. We have fun together. We laugh, We laugh most of the time. So if this's who I like to laugh with, why can't laugh with him and my other my people? That's all. It ain't that serious. I think women we should just enjoy the moment something times, you know, and just y'all saw with uh, Laura London, you know, just just experiencing people. I'm into that. I'm into experiencing people. I don't want

to own nobody. You're free, You're free to move about the country. I'm a Gemini. I definitely like to be motherfucking independent while in a relationship. And so is this guy here gemini too, So it's just like, yeah, don't don't stress me. I'll about some ship. I won't stress you out. It's not that serious. So I feel like those be like the best relationships like friends. No, m it's too much pressure. I feel like we put too much pressure on each other in relationships, and I don't

want to pressure anybody into anything in life. Yeah, I do. I think my last guy, I definitely, uh, you know, let him know how big of a deal it was for him to meet my family. So by the time I did invite him to meet my family, he has so much anxiety about it, Like and then when he shook my daddy hand, like he didn't look my daddy in the eyes and stuff, and I was like, oh, I'll never marry you. I had decided right then Wow, why are you're not looking my daddy in the eyes

when you're talking to him? Wow? Was that tripping? Is that too? No? I mean no, but I mean maybe listen, you needed to have Maybe you should have done that earlier. Maybe he should have met your daddy sooner. You could have been the relationship earlier. Like, if that's really all it took, you didn't know. Now that's saying it. But I like people who just be cool. They could be in any setting. They're just chilling everybody like them. You can't be like scared, go find that out? How do

you find that out? Yeah? But I mean, like, still, you need to be serious. We need to be serious. I kid, just bringing around my daddy. I don't think it's that serious. I'd be listening. I like, this is this is why all the people that I like, I love when they are all in the same place. I guess so much joy Like when this set of friends is around, this set of friends, like, I'd be so happy that all my favorite people like together. That's fun for me. Meanwhile, y'all, I have been invited to ship

girl white been ats? Where what have I been doing? Like, like, you want to come up with me and this nigga I like crabs that line. All right, So y'all we're nearing the end of the show obviously, and I just wanted to remind everybody that, uh, it is currently uh the Lion's Gate Portal portal open between like either I think, um, it's at its peak today. So obviously our show is all pre recorded. So today is August eighth, okay, this week,

so the portal is at its peak today. So any magic anything you want to manifest, uh, you want to meditate on on you know, some more uh being abundant anything, this is what you want to do today, right, and it's the gate is going to be the portals open no today to eight today. Well, they ain't gonna here this till I understand. He's not gonna here till Thursday. But if you let me finish what I'm saying, then we can. I can, I could wrap it up. Okay.

So the portal the portals open from they of July through August the twelfth, right, which is Friday, So you have they still have time, you know what I'm saying, to do any magic manifestation they want to do, just do some research research on um um the lions Gate. So it's uh leo the moon is in leo um right now, Okay, so just look it up. It's just a magical time of the year. It happens every time

I think I manifested some magic. Today my friend me and him rode out to look at some pretty u uh in Edgewood and we was on the way back to his space and it's like twelve red lights. You gotta go through twelve lights to get to his house, and all of them was green, And I told him all of them are gonna be green. He said, that's only happened to me one time in fifteen years. I was like, it's gonna be all green today, and they were.

If but it do be that type of ship or even just like pulling for me, It's like it'd be simple as little ship. I'd be like, you know what, just gonna parking space in the front every time, Like that be for me. Every every time, like I think about something and it goes as planned, I'm like, this is this is all the ship for me? Like you got the power to manifest your own destiny. So today it's at that peak. I like it. I feel energized. I did my work out to David ate some mothering

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