EP 81 "Seduction vs Manipulation"

best stop budgeting. Mother a month, this ship said, asked me two thousand dollars on dining and drinks, three thousand dollars on personal care, two thousand dollars on shopping, two thousand dollars under categories and uncategorized, and then two thousand dollars on entertainment and recreation. Bitch, did you pay any bills? I ain't hear that. No utilities. Oh wait, it's more loan payments eight hundred dollars, although in transport nine hundred dollars.

I ain't spend up, but two hundred dollars on grocery. YoY, y'all, listen, listen, I follow money, and we have been in the recession since last October. For what they're trying to say, and then they're trying to change the definition of recession same way they change the definition of vaccine and vaccination. Let's be clear, we're in a recession and you're spending like that. Girl, You've gotta buy a lot of silver and gold. I don't. I didn't realize I spent that much money last month.

I'm sad. That's how I'm here. Salads be y'all live like drug dealers. Y'all, y'all make the money right back, and y'all spending that's that's that's just how it goes down. I'm not spending no month in the month of August money. You know what you need? You need a motherfucking baby to stop budgeting that. Don't you wish that bad? Look on me? Dy Bobby. You know they say mom has come with a with a loaf of bread. Bitch sh all My friends were kids rich. Meanwhile, I'm just out here. Goodness,

I'm gonna do better this month. Dad is ridiculous. Girl. We got a lot of this month to try and look, try it again. What's the other month, September? Try to get a September. I'm not going on. I didn't go anywhere this weekend. This weekend, I didn't spend no money. How the fund did I still managed to spend that money. You don't order nothing to your house this weekend? Oh yeah I did. See. Look I didn't leave to spend money. I spent it from home. How her My weekend was cool?

Ship my dad? Uh, we're actually I hope none of my family and my daddy side listened to the show. But anyway, because I'm talking a little bit of ship about that. So one of my older aunts, she's about to she's the age of my excuse me, she's not my aunt, one of my older cousins. She's an auntie age, but she's an actual cousin. She's my mom's niece, but my daddy's niece. But she's the same age as my mom, is what I'm trying to say. So this is an

older person. So she had like a gathering for all the cousins ages eighteen to fifty at my dad's house. So it was like a meet and Greek, you know, for the cousins. Sorry, I know more majority thing, but I don't know like people's kids. Um, she had like a whole thing. She said a prayer for about I don't know twenty minutes, and everybody kept saying a man to get her to stop, but she fucking wouldn't. But she was just trying to, you know, cover us, you know,

on my daddy side of the families. Like everybody dies of heart disease or they get murdered. Like the niggas isn't either in prison or dead, and the women die young of heart disease. Like most of the people are older, older people exactly, and like I'm there right, and I'm like and macarda cheese. Now, they just all they had was hot dogs, hamburgers, and a bunch of crabs, you know, Charlston, that's the thing, blue crabs. I don't know how many damn crabs I ate this weekend. So thank god they

had something there for me to eat. But yeah, but everybody just unhealthy, barely on road ton Like I literally be in the mirror talking to my stomach, bitchet. I want my stomach to stay how it is, Like I don't want to be walking around with that big gass booty do. Oh yeah, all of them got a booty do over there. They ain't gonna invite you to the next custure man, I'll be feeling like a celebrity around

the people you've been at. Bitch 'all know nowhere. No, you can't have my number, give them your number for what, But they can call me cousin, cousin. That's the favorite thing. Girl, Just because we were lad, you think you could use me. No, they ain't nobody trying to use you. They're trying to build a relationship with you. A family. The motherfucker' don't want to ride. They need some money. They don't want

to bond. They might need bond, But I love my family though, so it was a good time drinking and eating crabs to get to see my daddy. I love my daddy. I'm so in love with my dad. Yep. My daddy is getting old, man, and they can move and slower and slower. It's crazy watching your parents get old. You know they are always be It's like superheroes and your eyes. And then they get a whole ship wow, walking slow. How was your weekend? I didn't do ship

but spend money apparently. God damn, I didn't go nowhere at all this weekend. I chilled. I would like I was exhausted from all the birthday festivities all month of July. Apparently I've been running a muck So I didn't do nothing this weekend. I just uh smoke weed and watched UM rap Shit. I like that new show on HBO if y'all need something to watch rap shit, it's Eastern Ray's new show. Uh. It has two I love Chameleon, yeah she's in it, and I'm not sure the other girl.

She's a new face to me. Um, but they both wrapped and they start a rap group and it's such a cute little show. I like it. So I watched that this weekend. And P Valley. If y'all watch um if y'all have stars, or you can get on somebody else the stars, watch P Valley. It's uh very entertaining Pussy Valley or d Valley, whichever one you want to call it, because there's a lot of uh male uh love triangles going on as well as female. So yeah, it's a good show. Watch it. That's what I did

this weekend. And I smoked weed and I bought some tequila. I had me a little drink of drink and that was it. I didn't really how mm hmmm. Had my little friend, my little friend came over and that was it. Nothing too special. In fact, he owed me a hundred fifty dollars because I had bought the dinner on my uh my door dash and he's supposed to give me that money back. And I just realized that he'd give me that hundred feety dollars for dinner back. I'm gonna

need that. Let me find out paying for dick. Look like I did I did on Friday. Look's see we do by dinner? Okay, I don't mean to back in good. Yeah, I'll be like, let me get your phone. That's how i'dy. Let me heard your phone. I'm ordering. I'm ordering the uber off your phone. I'm ordering the food off your phone. Like, who's be forgetting Let me help you? Remember? It's cool. I know I'll get it back. What we got going on?

A stupid ass internet news this week? A single winner one of the Mega Millions jack pot, which was an estimated with one point two billion dollars. Yes, girl, it's probably an old Hispanic person. It's always an old white person, it really is. You saw it? Damn? Why what what y'all gonna do with that? Man? I'm really jealous, Okay, I'm trying not to be jealous about it, because I did play, and I've been doing my little money rituals all fucking month, well all of the July actually for

the New Moon the end of July. Like, why the fuck all I needed was one of the million. I didn't need the whole because that's like they would probably settle, not settle, but like could take a lump some of what a half a million, I mean a half a billion. We'll find out what their name is and start messaging them. Maybe they've seen you. No, so the jackpot was one point too, so they do like the cash out, they're probably gonna get like four hundred and something thousands, especially

a million. What am I talking about? Four hundred and something million dollars? Right? Yeah? Would you do the cash out or take that? Absolutely? Because we we could see right now a dollar is not worth the same tomorrow, you know, as it is today, and vice versa, So it's always best to take the lump some ship. With inflation,

how much you're really getting. Yeah, she's gonna keep going up, so yeah, you gotta you gotta get that lump something and then try to convert it into some to some other ship, bitch, you ain't guy to confer four seventy million and nothing, just it's a lot. Yeah, But what happens when they'd be like, um, you see what happened in China, how they locked the doors at the bank. They're not letting people get their money out. They basically saying like that this money in this bank is for

investment purposes money. Yes, what happens when the banks, because that's what happens in a recession and depression. The bank if everybody start running to the bank for that paper fiat money, they're gonna be like, oh, you can't get that money. That's why you have to have tangible things like silver and gold. So yeah, I would definitely do half of that ship in silver and gold if I could, If they would let me buy that much, I would. My great grandma I remember, she would not put her

money in the bank. She used to put her money in old uh coffee ground cans and bury it because she was alive during the recession. Right, can believe in no fucking bank? Well you shouldn't, because you technically can start a bank with fifty if we wanted to open a bank, we can open a bank. The banks make money off of everybody else money. While I'm giving you two percent interest on your money, I'm charging somebody else to borrow your money. That's how the banks work. Smucking bullshit.

It's really bullshit. So yeah, I would take my lumps some in uh gold, thank you. What would be the first thing that you would buy? Uh? I don't know, Okay. The first thing I would buy would probably be my dream home in Barbados on the ocean, ocean front villa, next estate in Barbadoes. That would be the first thing I buy. I swear because I'm just like that and my soul is supposed to be I just Uh. The first thing I'm gonna do is just like spoil my

mama with everything she want. That would be the first thing. What you want, Mama, house, a car, a man, I'll buy you a man out this bitch. What you want. Look, all the nigs got a price. Shit, they definitely be right there. I don't know that's the first thing I'll do, though, I'll get get settled. I might not even tell anybody. I fucking one bitch. If I hit your ass up and be like, damn, what's your bank account number? And if you try to act like you don't wanna give

it to me. I'm like, all right, cool, I ain't gonna never call your ass again. Bit, you wanna trust me. You know I would give you my bank account. You already got it. How about that. I know that's what I was about to say. You know I would give it to you, but you already got bit check your account, check your account, but I just checked your ass. Bitch,

these niggas, I know. I was laying in bed thinking about, like if my ticket, you know one, how many people are accounts I would bless And I thought about fifteen people I would give a million off the gate. Just yeah, if I got four something million, like that wouldn't be shifting me to give out. Yeah, it's fifteen people. I would throw a million right in their pocket right away, Yeah, like no questions. And then all this ship in my house, I was thinking everything here I would leave in this

motherfucker's nothing I would take with me. Maybe pictures my grandma old photo albums. That would be the only thing I would want to take all this other year I live right in this motherfucker holds no value, Like I still be trying to make my money out airbnb. That bitch out. I take this to girlfuck that I'm leaving all this ship here, I still be trying to make more money. Like people were mad because some celebrities is

playing the Megan millions. Like if I had it, am, I would still be playing, Like right, what the hell? But I still need rich people for wanting to be rich, they have to maintain those riches, you know what I'm saying, Like y'all see basketball players who go broke five years after retirement. Like if you don't know money and don't matter if you're a millionaire today, you can still be broke tomorrow. These niggas is just in a different tax bracket.

But look, we're talking about what we're gonna buy as soon as we get the money. You see what I'm saying, Like it's gonna start even and out the more ship you buy. I want to goddamn asking. All right, we just talked about all I didn't even say nothing about what I would buy. I just talked about all the money I would give away. I just realized that I

didn't even say my mama. In fifteen people, I didn't say nothing for my You're nice because I need to get the funk away first and then and then because imagine like people gonna be busting your door down about this money. You have seen videos of people being murdered, not videos, but new its headlines. People got murdered after they won lottery. Yeah, there there's a lot of recurse. Yeah, so I needed I needed these safers and Ship, I might get that check with my mama name the herd

cash it right now. There ain't nothing for us to worry about. We still got go to work, so he's still regular. What else happened? Um? Oh, you're gonna talk about Beyonce album just right quickly? So the album came out, y'all? Okay, renaissance, you know, started something new. How do y'all feel about the album? I only listened to a few songs. Uh, that breaks my heart, Ship, I cannot break my soulf. I can't listen to that song. But I listened to a few other songs on the album. How do you

like it? Uh? I love Beyonce this this particular album. I don't feel like I was the target audience for it. I do like, um, Church Girl was good and what's the thick? I did like that? When those are the two songs that I kept playing from the album, but it did not, uh give me the feelings that like Lemonade gave me or b they gave me. It just didn't do the same for me. But I still love Beyonce. I'm always going to be a big fan of hers. But yeah, it wasn't. It wasn't my favorite Beyonce album.

It's for the girls, not the girls. That's how I felt about it. Yeah, because the girls. The girls are loving it now, the girls, they're loving it. But yeah, no, mm hmm um. The Baby. There was a video released over this past weekend of the Baby in the Miami interrogation room and he's just running off at the mouth and people are like saying, oh, he's a sneez looking at him snitching, But really, if you listen to what he's saying, he's just defending himself, right, Yeah, that's all

I saw, you Know. To me, snitching is when you're telling some ship that don't have nothing to do with why you're arrested. He was only talking about what was happening in whatever situation, which I don't even remember that whole ordeal what he's talking about. But I don't consider that a snitch. And I got a real problem with civilians calling people snitches, Like you don't know what you wanna do when you get in a real situation to be calling somebody a snitch, because the majority of y'all

would really be snitching in a real way. Sorry, nigga, I'm just trying to come home in a real way. So I don't think what he was doing with snitch and he was really defending himself. And my question is where's your lawyer? And how did this video get on the internet? It like some first forty eight ship, Like what the what? What? I was laughing when I watched it, because though it's because why every time a nigga in the interrogation room that motherfucking room must be cold, is

because they always have their arms and their sleeves. It don't never fail. They pulled their arms into their shirt every single time, this cold interrogation room, Like he was nervous arms coming in and out the shirt because woman he had Like what, yeah, I never noticed that, but you'll be looking at it in detail. I never realized that that's true. So is that a side of lying? What is that? I always feel like a nigga from the tail when he put his arms in the shirt down.

That's what I'll be thinking. It must be like some psychology to make the room cold. Does doesn't uncomfortable? Right? Okay? They want to get the funk about of this, So whatever I gotta do to get out of here, I'm gonna do. Yep. Is that seduction or manipulation? Right? Because yeah, I didn't think what he was doing with snitching at all. I wish you would stop saying that, and I wish that video was not on the internet. I just don't like talk about other people like not no, like street ship.

I don't like talking about people street ship, Uh, legal issues. It's scary for me. It's a scary situation for me. But what else happing Neo and his wife or going back at it back at it again on the internet they're oh by you know, Gossip of the City. I think that's that blog they've been reporting on his ass for the longest. Then they could ben had a side bitch. I feel like Cristal Smith knew about it. She cleared the air. She was like, she was not with him

while he was with his ex. He didn't, he didn't, she didn't know him at the time, so people can stop saying that ship like you know, you keep them, how you get him? A heartway that that saying goes. She was saying that, yeah, you losing how you get him? Yeah, she was saying that that they were She didn't even know him when he was with his ex wife, so you know, trying to dispel that lie. But uh yeah, like she she knows that man, She know that man,

but not hear fucking bitches man, either you'renna deal? What are you? Are you or you weren't. I feel like I thought that they were married before, but from some other ship I've seen, this is their first marriage. They just recently got married two months ago. Now. They were saying they were renewing vials, but there was not a marriage certificate out there prior to now. From the information

I've seen, I just don't understand. I'm seeing a lot of people air their dirty laundry via social media, like Tyrese and his girlfriend. I not made my stomach sick. Why do why do people take to social media to air their marital affairs and their relationship problems on social media? I just don't understand that, Like, why y'all want people in your business like that, right, because I've never seen any side checks come out about NEO, so obviously they

stay in place. We would know nothing if y'all break up. Y'all break up. But to me, it's kind of like manipulat It's it's kind of manipulative when you put stuff like that on on an internet. So she could very well be hurt, but it's almost like it's kind of man pipulative to put him on blast like that. M hmm. I wouldn't do that. Yeah, I wouldn't do that to a man. That's embarrassingly because especially when you love someone, y'all go through like ship and y'all my end up

back together, and now you're looking crazy, you know. I'm like, now, I know, I've talked some about my ex on this damn show, but nothing too crazy. And don't nobody know who he is? That's different. I would never like if people knew who he was, I wouldn't just be putting out no goddamn p s A about the nigga. Well, some people do know who he is, who you people who know you and know him. It's like this many people. It's not the whole internet. It's just different it's nothing.

It doesn't compare it to Neo and his wife. Yeah, and I mean that's and it's also how I how I would talk about an X. It's just different. I'm talking about my life experiences at that point. It's not me putting on blast for something in particular. It's just like, this happened, and this is what happened in this particular situation. It is also my business to down. But the way that they do it, like celebrities do it online, is really blasting the other person. That's what they're trying to do.

That ship with what's the nigga um tyrese that he's a narcissist. He is a narcissist that girl, and say shit, he really didn't have nothing to put out about her. He just basically was telling fans to spam her. Yeah, go in and go d m her Like that's weird, old behavior. I don't like that. Don't send no word, don't send your fans to harass me. Yeah no, this wasn't in our mentions. But did you see that video that guy who goes around he's like, Oh, what's the

freakiest thing you've ever done? Did you see that? And that man was like, I sucked my own dick and came in my own mouth. No dick out here. It's trouble. Listen, they're really trying to do some population control because if nigga start learning how to suck over for that day, flexible, I said, asked to be catching at the goddamn cramps. Ain't that flexi dick? Now? I had an X where it was a video going around of a person suckingly

on dick and it looked like him. Bitch, he did not like that that video was going around the job. If you can sun, if you were flexible enough and you had a dick, would you suck your own dick? Why not not suck my own dick? Dog? Why not? Is that the same as sucking and titties? Because I do that. If you look at your own titty, why wouldn't you suck your own dick. My titty ain't big enough to get into my face. My titty won't come to my face. Are you trying to fit yourself? Yea,

they won't get there. I'd definitely be sucking by teams. I don't know. I'm about the suck a whole dick. If I was a man, come on, man, that's a little extreme. No, it's your dick. Is it gay? You can't be a game with yourself? No, that's allo auto sexual, right, I guess I don't know. I don't know about that. I don't know. I'm not a man. I don't know. I don't know. If I were a man, i'd probably feel different. Men gonna say no, but they probably done.

Tried to something on Dick. He bawled up in the bed, trying something on Dick doing getting a Charlotte horse in your stomach? Yoga, naga, suck y'all, Dick, I know it, all of yoga. Bayes. Listen, did you see that video with that girl? I believe it's a skit. Okay, half of these videos I see online. I think it's like people just doing ship for clickbait. But it's a guy

dropping her off at the airport. And basically because team and fucking he was like, I can't I'm dropping your ass off and I cancel your ticket back home, which we know that he can't cancel her ticket. It's in her name. She'd have to cancel. Even if he paid for it, she'd have to cancel it. So that's another way I know that's in bullshit, but I thought someone if they did pay for it, they can't cancel your ticket.

I know, I know you can put a security code on your ticket to keep anybody from tampering with it, though he would have to. He would have to have a woman then calling then cancel her ticket because the airline and the airlines ain't gonna let you do that. A man can't call and cancel your ticket. It's in your name once it's paid for it. But how how do they know? Like with the climate today, you could be very well say you that moment and they can't

say you're not right, girl. I don't know. This ship is so sketchy, but anyway, she needs to. Uh, hey, yo, this Katherine Jones and I want to cancel my motherfucking ticket. What they're gonna say? I can't say ship you have sound like what's doing from St. Louis delivered? No? No delivered? Yeah yo called, Well that's something called no. I don't know whatever that boy, David, that's when you have sound

like yo, I want to cancel my ticket? Yeah, but she needs that, she needs that, she needs the food out um episode. We have an episode for that. It was episode go back and look at it. Flute out one on one. All the rules are getting flew out. One. You never leave without no money, never, never, that's the biggest mistake. You don't want to be dependent on nobody like that. That's friend because you know, and then you have people saying, oh, why would you like the guy?

Whole thing is like you flying out and ain't fucking like what's up with that? But who's to say that she didn't have all intentions to fuck but you did something, you know, Yeah, you got body older like that, cheesy bits around it, and she saw it like all type of reasons why women change their minds and then to change their mind exactly. But you know what the problem is, tim is that nigga's sucking regardless. There's gonna be nothing

a woman can do to turn a man off. Okay, he gonna suck you at least and then and then play with your ass after that, like exactly, but he gonna sto fun. Y'all mad at us because we got standards and integrity and goddamn, I don't know, self esteem. All these different things will make me not want to let you funk on me when I know, like gonna be disgusted while it's happening. It's kind of his breath. Here you from behind and hold his breath. Nasty sank

as it wouldn't be he just for this might as well. No, nigga, four hundred dollars old clarinal, he's still playing for it. Have some self respect, So y'all look at that. That's crazy or you ain't sucking. He didn't flut, y'all. He don't spend money. How dare you? Like? Y'all don't know what could happen in between time, like, especially if you're chatting it up sex and sexting it up with a man like you're set to do this. I am anyway, you know I'm not flying awhere where I'm not right.

I'll just stay home, okay. But if I get there and it ain't what it should be and I don't feel comfortable comfortable enough to do it, I'm not nigga, and you can feel how you want to feel about it. And guess what I got sucking money because I never worried about not being able to get back to where I'm going, right, y'all, bitch has better grow up? Yeah, don't go nowhere with no money. That's the first rule.

Your mama should have talked to you that you don't be depending on the nigga because then you gotta pay for your flight with your COUCHI like, you really gotta pay for it with your COUCHI at that point, you can't clariner that pussy. Oh you could, you could after pay it though, after pay definitely got flights. Yeah, you know, you can't clariner a flight, but you can't clariner that pussy. Then shame all right, y'all right, one more thing, y'all, Mystical ass is back in fucking jail with no bond

for rape and a few other charges. These names exist in our community. Dog, we gotta stop acting like they don't. Will have, yes, people will have. All excuse is for these predatory men, you know, because they only men, are only concerned about the people under their fucking roof technically, you know, but these these guys exist out here. Man, We don't be making this ship up. Most most Black women in particular are attacked by people they know. It's

not strangers. A lot of times there's people we know that's crazy, but Mystical gives off rape vibes. Honestly does he? I always thought he was so fine, nice looking man, Like why you need to take pussy? The way he'd be yelling in him song watch yourself, show me what you're working with. Guys, just thick is scary. This nick is yelling at me. So I feel like he gives rap people with Somebody gonna be mad about these jokes, y'all. These are we're not making fun of rape. Okay, it's

not wasn't he in the military. Does he have PTSD or something? I remember him being in the military, right, Oh, I don't know. I don't mm hmm. But he did seven years before for rape. Got arrested again in two thousand seventeen for rape, but they said they couldn't prosecute because it wasn't enough evidence, supposedly, and then now here's and now here here he is again like he's a rapist, like he gets off from taking it. He's a rapist.

I don't know, but listen, this this kind of leaves us into what we want to talk about briefly to day. We want to talk about manipulation versus seduction. We'll be right back, y'all. Okay, y'all. So I was talking to Tam and I know y'all know Taylor fun Sized t Yeah, our producer, and we were talking about like, like I said, I don't know. I know I'm not the only one that this has happened too, but I don't think men

consider this uh predatory behavior kinda anyway. Have you, guys, Tammy, have you ever been in a situation where you just like you're around a guy made in a close setting with a man, right, And I don't want to I don't want to say it's rape, right, but you got a little more pressured than you would have liked to, and you engaged in sexual activity when you really didn't want to. H and I have just blocked the neck and goes to them afterwards, right if they want to do.

I definitely have been in the situation when I was much younger in my early twenties where I engaged in sex that I really didn't want to have but the pressure was just a lot and I did right, But I can't I couldn't call it right because I consented to something I didn't really want to do. So so that's why I want to talk about like manipulation versus seduction, because I think like a lot of men think that damn, I kissed her in the neck. That didn't work. Let

me try someplace else. Like they keep trying different orogenous zones to see if they can get you going right. But if somebody got to tell you no, move stop, I'm just chilling too many fu times. And then I don't know, maybe you just get on top of him. I don't have somebody humped the hell out of me with clothes on before, and that's just like borderline disgusting rape. Okay, yeah, we were fully clothed, but he dry humped me for a long time. Yes, And I was like, you don't

gonna clean up? He was like, it's not that much like this actually happened. So not to make fun of the situation, but this ship happens. And I want to say to younger women because I feel like even when men get older, this is not something that they probably go around doing. You know what I'm saying. But when that testosterone click kicks in a lot of times, men can't control themselves. Yeah you know, so women, we just you know, to get it over with. You might engage

in some ship that you didn't want to do. So is that manipulation or is it seduction? Combin Right? So, um, I like to look up the definitions of words, because clearly we know what manipulation is and we know what seduction is. But you know, when you look up definitions,

you get a better context of things sometimes. So, uh, manipulate is to handle or control, typically in a skillful manner, alter, edit, or remove, examine, or treat a part of the body by feeling or moving it with the hand, control, or influence a personal situation cleverly, unfairly, unscrupulously. Um. And then yeah, that's basically it. That's manipulation mm hmm right um. Attempting

or attractive thing. Okay, so even we if we look at seduction like that, like maybe this person is already attractive to you, He's already already kind of tempting, so he might do a couple of little things and that gets you there to go ahead and and go on. So I guess it becomes manipulation when you really don't want to, Right, how do men maneuver in a world like that? See, it's kind of fucked up for the guys because his attention may not be to manipulate you.

But if you don't like him, and he don't know that, then it looks like he manipulated you, you know, right, And see that's why I always be like, y'all think I'm crazy, But I don't like to go to like if I don't want to fuck at this age and then like I and I because I've putting myself in situations I really should not have, right, so you see ship you know in hindsight, But I don't like to go on close settings with any man if I don't plan on having sex with them, like I'm not coming

to your house eleven o'clock at night, and not because women shouldn't be able to. But we know the stories. You know, some men can't control themselves. And you don't know somebody until you know them, right, so you might think he's cool and then you get there and he fucking violates you. Yeah, that's fair. I do you know, I go where I want to go when I want to go, and I don't feel like any type of way about it. I got a gun, I carry a

gun with me. I would go to a nigger house at eleven o'clock with no plans, and I'll leave my pussy at home, but bring my pistol with me. You hear me? All right? So seduces, entice someone into sexual activity, attract someone to a belief or into a course of action. That is, um, yeah, I know I can't read hold on. Attract someone to believe or into a course of action. Uh, that is fool fool hardy, fool hardy, fool heart free, fool hardy f O l h A r d y

that's the word. Yeah. However, what is foolhardy? I don't even know that. I don't know. It's as invisible, in advisible, or fool hardy. Uh, seduce, seduces, seducing, Yeah, all of these acts attract powerfully. So I think the only difference is, like beauty is in the eye to beholder, Like we said, like, it's only manipulation if the bitch don't like you, and that's kind of unfair. But what if I like you,

but I don't want to suck you right now? And here you are pressuring me to funk like I want to fuck you at some point, but not right now. So you know, women, uh, it's like almost you have to have you know, ten times the wopower not to have sex when men can do whatever they want to do, right, Because if you don't fuck you a bit, if you do, fuck your whole. You know, what I'm saying is, so you have to be real meticulous, like it's almost sucking

like a surgeon with this relationship ship. If you want somebody for more than sex, right, if you want somebody to like you, you you you can't fuck them fast, right. Well that's not necessarily depends on the person, right, but but the majority, you know, maybe maybe i'd be a lot of times. Maybe I'm speaking from more personal situations because I do what I want to do right, But I feel like the relationships I've been in, uh for some reason, like later on in arguments, it comes up

like how fast I sucked them? Did you not want to fun? Were you not like touching my titties and caressing me and cohersing me into this act? And then when I actually do it a year later, you're saying something about yeah because the first night, yeah, I had somebody shamed me after we had sex, like in a public place and then shame me for doing it with them, And I'm like, way, that was what you hear you? Yeah? That was your I did to fuck that movie theater

and now you want to embarrassing me. It's like what you picked that movie? That's a bull suck you because why why are we like the things that women do, like what you are natural? Because we're sexual being STUPI get, it's like you get. It's like you get shunned on for doing it. It's normal, right, mm hmm. So men need to stop pressure women out here to funk if their own wanna fuck, if they don't want to fuck

the woman. You know what I'm saying, because then when I do smash your ass, I'm a whole It's it's a double standard that ship right there. It really is. It's an ugly double standard with men and women when it comes to the whole ship. Because the needy kid just roll around in the mud and he's the man. But if a woman does anything, oh she is a dirty come dumpster. You fucked in a movie theater with a slut. I fucked you in a movie theater. We're

going together. I thought we was a couple, right, whatever, No, you ain't no damn couple. You're just a dirty hoore. A month in the middle of argument, right, I literally have been in full blown you know relationships women and that type of ship comes out. That was my boyfriend who was sex slush shaming you, alright, slush shaming me for something he encouraged me to do in the movie theater.

I don't know, but yeah, like I was saying, if I do not want to have sex with somebody like now on a days like I'm not, I'm not going close settings with them because anything can happen. I don't want to have regrets because I'm gonna sucking ghoti as the next day. Settings. Where are you gonna smoke weed at? Miss see? That's I don't smoke weed like that. I don't smoke like that. I mean there's always Hey, I'm gonna stop by. We can sit in the car and smoke.

Maybe we could sit outside, and so I'm coming in your house, somebody snacks, listen to music, watch the TV. We're gonna smoke, tell some jokes because you know, I'm gonna tell some jokes and then I'm gonna go home. And it shouldn't have to be I have to be so guarded. I think you to have have to have a certain level of discernment when you're going like you gotta know, I mean, there's no way to know for sure.

That's what I'm saying. You don't know people to you know him, but you have to have a level of discernment when you're going in people's house. Yeah, I'm a pretty good judge of character. Like I said, I was younger, younger days, and I'd like to talk about these things because this is ship that bitches in college is going through right now. These are things younger women are going through right now. And they probably think it's only them,

but this is being pressured to have sex. And you really don't want to have sex with a person, but you go ahead and do it. That is manipulation. That is manipulation. You want to have sex with somebody and you'll already talked about it, and he coming, you know, rubbing you up and rubbing your feet first and kissing you at like all of all of four play type things that go into sex. That's different. Mm hm. You

know what I'm saying. But somebody just forcefully just harassing your asked I won't go to sleep like you know, like you, I have stayed over to a man's house and had to get up and leave. You know what I'm saying, Like the whole thing was for me to come stay tonight. Right, not necessarily smash, I never put that out there, but I come stay tonight. You cannot sleep in men's beds. They're not gonna go to sleep that test stop. Strong stopped kicking in, and they're gonna

harass you all night long. You're gonna have to go home. You've never been in that situation. Oh absolutely, I don't go, though, Boy, calmed down, you stay there. I'm not. I'm not staying because I'm not gonna be able to sleep, and half the time I'd rather sleep in my own bed. Anyway, I'm not gonna be able to sleep, and you just harassing me, touching me all night. Get no, eventually they stopped. If they got good sense, they'll just stop and go

to being mad, don't. I'm making some bacon and eggs. If you got something, this motherfucker I'm making for you in the morning, and I'm gonna go home. But it just depends on you have to have those type of conversations though, Like I would let the nigger know that I ain't bringing up pussy with me. That don't stop them from trying. But at least they were full worn right, Yeah, but in their minds, especially in young men mind, they can finesse you. Yeah, they think they can finesse because

they are hunters, right. Men are our hunters, so that's why we yeah, by nature, So that's why you do give it up too easy. It just becomes like a turn off of them because they want to feel like they caught you. Yes, that's what they want to feel like. They want to feel like they caught you and and

got you to do something. Like I was telling the nigger once, I was like, dude, already knew I was working ifore I came here, like, you ain't have nothing to do with that, And he does not like to hear that, like like I set the whole ship up in my mind, like my whole day was set on fucking him tonight, Like you have nothing to do with that. I hit you out, what's your address? We hadn't been

up some dates, like what's your address? I had never been this house before, And now like I'm we've had conversations after the fact in his mind and in his mind he got me to fuck right. I lined you up all day. I lined your ass up all day. Like men, when a woman gives you pussy a lot of times, like willingly, Okay, it has nothing to do with you. She already knew. Yeah, you didn't finess the situation. You didn't manipulate decision, but sometimes sometimes you do. Sometimes

they do. I don't definitely gave us some pussy, like damn the next day, I did not mean to get that whatever, because you probably put on matching brown pennies. You did something a little extra in the show. Yeah, mother fun, we'll be prepping now. We definitely will prep to not get a couci up the case. I just just in case the pussy there not like it was a nigger, Like I really wanted to fucking, but I wanted to wait because I wanted to get to know him better. So I wore a holy drawl. I wore

some holy ass patties. I was like, I cannot let him see these draws, and then I still fucked him bawling patties up in this trash can think it. Don't got no standards. They don't give a damn about no hole. Pat you right through that hole in them draw They're easy. Goodness. I was joking, y'all some of the stuff. Sometimes I really just be making up ship for it to be funny, not that though that really did happen. I don't know, man, I just say middle thing is to my old life

a lot. And you know, you're living, you learn, and I don't know. I just I don't know. I have a niece who is twenty four, and I'd be trying to tell her stuff. But everybody just be wanting to learn on their own. Yeah, life is going to be your best teacher. Yeah, instead of just living vicariously through other people like they just got to know it, learning

from your mistakes. I posted about that um, that girl getting fluid out and the guy and I posted about, you know, putting your security question on your ticket so nobody can tamper with your ticket, and he was like, a guy came on the post, like, how did you learn that? I said, bitch the hard way? So I'm putting their information out so someone doesn't have to learn

the hard way, you know. Yeah. Look, now he gonna be like trying to figure out how he could set a security code for first for a bitch ticket, right, See, damn the information out there. You can't be telling that all the secrets. Look He like, how you know? Right? Yeah, you know, fun the game up for the young holes, not if they see niggas don't listen as much as the women. So if you get that to be at first, you'll be up on game. I don't know, I don't know.

People just gotta be careful out here, man, Just be careful, don't you know? Have have some discernment. Okay. I feel like that's that's the majority of women's issues. We will be complaining about these men, but we just be out here and fucking Willie knelling it, just yelling it along. No accountability for the ship that happened to you, like you gotta have accountability, right and now there's monkey pop ship going around. You fly out to the wrong you're

gonna come back and we're gonna see it. That walker, she ain't gonna be a little different, a whole lot of different. It's gonna be a bumpy rolled ahead. So my advice would be not to fly out and nobody right now until they get that ship contained, because girl, I feel like it's not it's it not just like a chicken pox on steroids. It is definitely chicken pox on steroids. Because that girl's that you saw that video, that girl from Atlanta her face who with yeah too,

Like I don't even scared of COVID for real. But listen, my fucker's gonna want to be walking around looking crazy now, right, nigger's rare to die and'll be walking around looking at ugly. Nig's just taking their chances to COVID. But that mucky pox, bro, Yeah, because you know how my chicken pox tore us up, you know, starring and stuff. So imagine like black people's skin is just different. Um. What I don't like about

the monkey pots about any of these diseases. They always try to say it originated in Congo, like they want to say all these diseases originated in Africa. But we know who brought the diseases to the Indians, right, We know who brought smallpox. We know they got a whole book written on dirt. The name of the book is dirt.

If y'all want to go out there and look and check it out and see how counterparts weren't washing and we had to teach them how Okay, So all these diseases really originated from them through through like a natural progression of bacteria and viruses and ship like that, or they created it in a fucking lab and they can't detain it. That's what's happening. So stop putting ship onto Africa.

What they want to do is they want to keep going into Africa and stealing them natural resources over there, right, So, oh, this this area, all these people just got all these diseases and y'all all over there and making people sick to get them out of their natural habitats. That's what they're doing. They're killing the people, y'all. You know, we gotta pay these bills. We'll be right back. Dumb bitch stories because we've all been a dumb bitch at least

once or twice. Story this week. Um, you know a lot of times we get stories they don't really be like dumba story. This is motherfucker's gonna tell us say business, but I'm here for it. Okay. She don't really need no advice based on this, and it's kind of long, but I feel like the whole thing needs to be read for context. So uh. She starts off by saying, I would like to remain anonymous. Okay, so you're anonymous. Um, so I started working with this coworker April. Now, if

you can remember, this was pandemic. Uh, this was peak pandemic. So due to that, we were both able to tell our significant others that we had to work hours that weren't usual times we went in. We were we were sucking once a week. Every week we would take one day out the month and get a hotel room and spend the day together. This went on forever. Excuse me, this went on. This went on for over a year. I'm add to this. Mid story. This went over. This

went on for over a year. Things were just getting too heavy. Feelings got involved. We both started saying I love you. He was pressing me to leave my husband. He was going through a divorce. Supposedly, My intentions were never to leave my husband. I just wanted the side dick. I told him we needed to stop because my husband started getting suspicious, taking drastic measures. I just went to no contact, but that backfired. He was blowing out my phone,

so I blocked him. He started emailing me, calling, texting me through other another, other numbers. He was like, okay, okay, okay, we'll do it your way. No feelings, just fucking I'm like, all right, So when he goes, can I see you? Naively, I agreed so we hook up again. The next day, he sends me still images screenshots of us. I'm staring at my phone. I'm staring at my phone trying to figure out what I'm looking at. My heart. My heart sunk to the pit of my gut. I had to

pick my job off the floor. This motherfucker recorded us having sex without me knowing. The thing was he would always ask me when we were, when we were doing it if he record, and I'm like, sorry, that's a hard no. I replied back, what the fund is that? What the excuse me? I replied back, what the funk is that what I think it is? And he's like, yep, it's a whole movie. I said, send it to me. He said, nope, this is through text. She like, this

is a good writer, this person. Okay, let's be cleared. Reader. My immediate response was I'm calling the cops as a joke. He's like, call him frustrated. I told him, if you don't send me that video in one minute, I'm never speaking to you again. He says, don't be like that. I'll show you in person. I texted him back times up. At first, I was like, okay, maybe I'm overreacting, but no, I trusted him and I felt so violated. I told him that was not okay with me, and he did

it anyway. I was betraying my husband and he did that to me. I was so mad, humiliated. I could not believe this is happening. I didn't know what he was going to do with the film recording blackmail me send it to my husband. I was living in fear, and she says update. Since then, he stayed trying to reach out to me, so I left him on read on read what part of I'll never speak to you again? Don't you understand no means no um? He ended up

breaking excuse me. He ended up taking a leave of absence from work for five months for personal reasons home slash life. He came back to work made two popping up on me while I was on the clock. Our schedules are posted for all employees to see. He had the fucking nerve to ask me how I was. I turned my head, shook it and thought, you must have wash your mind. So when he goes, well, at least I know you ain't dead. I wanted to be like and if I was, why the funk would you care?

But I held strong and kept my mouth shut the way I should have in the beginning, don't get me wrong. And sex was amazing, and if it was for that, I'd probably and if it wasn't for that, I'd probably would have still been working with him. But he moved the way he moved, and I'm glad I've seen it. When I did, I was about to risk it all for a little sneaky ass, sneaky link. Shea though my husband with the Merryman was the worst thing I've ever did in my entire life. That's her dumb big story.

Yeah you almost got jammed up, my girl. Yeah, he could have extorted you for money, but he still got it. He still has the video. He still can't extort her, not really extored, because I mean, that's why they have the laws now against like for revenge porn. So you really don't have to worry about that type of ship

because her thing. Niggas care about that. If he got a girl, he probably gonna care, Like, why are you releasing footage of you having sex with somebody else and you got a wife or a girlfriend, you know what I'm saying. So m H, I don't know. I don't like ship like that. That has happened to me, and it's kind of triggering. Okay, somebody records you and then tried to Uh well, I consented to the recording, but he posted a still image, like she's saying he's sending

her still images to the phone. This nigga posted a still image online. You know that story. Oh yeah, yeah, I got that phone. I got the picture of my phone. Shut up deleted, bitch, what's wrong with you? Break girl? So I don't know who screenshot that little quick image. Anybody could have. Somebody probably got it, but I know he still has the video. Also, I don't it's not in my possession, so I don't like that either. I got I got some real law your money if they

can ever try it. Okay, right, well, I'm glad that ended well for you since because that could have went totally bad. She better hope he just dies. Really, how else is he gonna get the footage? Like? How else can you be like okay with it being out there knowing this if this person hasn't, like, what what could she do? That's a helpless as feeling. Yeah, um, I only send out news that I don't mind the world seeing. So if you get like a new picture of me, or if it's a video of me, if the world

see it, I ain't gonna feel that bad. I look amazing in it, right. All you're gonna do is turn me up bit mine. Now, somebody might do it. Then you see how you feeling when it actually happens. I know my daddy is still alive. Please don't put that out there. So I was just joking, all right, y'all listen, y'all may be careful out there. Just be careful, Just be fucking careful. But anyway, if you enjoyed this episode, tune in every Thursday on an I Heart radio app.

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