Ep. 80 "Polyish"

I wasn't out there like it was out of body experience. Now, did you I know I sent you that posted that girl talking on Facebook about the mother fucking cues and niggas was a tippet. She said, they can't she could wait for their dusty ask to get the hell up out of Charlotte and they and did you see comments? Yes, yes, y'all. Hey it's Tam Bam, y'all. And they ran her from philm. You can't talk about a group of the whole body of people like that. No, right, a whole fucking frat

because of a couple of people. Now, I'm gonna tell you the older niggas, they were the worst. Okay, and this is just being in a couple of places. I went to um in Uptown. Child, girl, if that man listened, see now this is why I might not get married, because if I find out my husband is like a real simple at sixty five, Like I got a real problem with that, these thiggas with simps simps drooling at the fucking mouth. Just I don't want that to be

my life. You know, my husband just can't wait to get out of town to be a whole at sixty A man Mr what was his name? Damn? What was his name? Mr? Bruno? What is that he was? He came up to me on Friday, Mr Bruno, Mr Bruno, Like he was like, can I sit down next to your baby? Yes, sir girl. They' goddamn granddaddy d's that was out there and the younger ones they just looking sweaty just in the streets. You know how to you know, to look eating air COUCHI on that air COUCHI getting eating.

I couldn't take a girl. I was so aggravate. I'm like, I'm out there with my home girl. I'm like I'm ready to go, Like this is not my cup of tea. I'm ready to go. Yeah. I stayed in after Friday night. I stayed in. The rest of them, I just wish I would have stayed barking at me. They were scared than me barking me. I was like, oh ship, that's all you heard all day? My dog? Get okay, get someone was real fine. But I can't handle all of

them congregated together. There's just too much. What happened is stupid internet news. Child. What we got going on. We gotta gotta god dad preacher getting robbed uh in New York. Lord, Okay, so apparently this man's congregation got robbed for somewhere uh around four hundred thousand dollars in in belongings their estimating uh lamar white head. Okay, he's a bishop in New York.

I don't know. It looks kind of scam likely to me. Okay, it looks like it's given insurance fraud to me, I don't know where you think, yes, given it was looking like scammera scam gate, it's given scam and the middle of service you just see him getting down on the ground and armed men walking into the damn church recorded so that I mean I would be some good evidence for the insurance companies to show. Hey, look it's on camera.

How we got robbed? I don't know, but this man would be riding around New York and it got damn Bentley drop topos, and we know that's one of the one Charlotte drug dealers. He looked like a Charlotte drug deal He looked like exactly listen that I might. I might just get into the church business one day. I just feel like, my word, you know, I might get into that business. You don't pay taxes. Get your nice little five and one seed three were in there, but

you're gonna have Are you gonna preach the word? I would probably be more like I don't know if y'all know who Reverend Ike is, but I would probably be more of a Reverend Ike. I would be preaching about self and and manifestation. That's what I would be preaching about. I would be preaching the real truth. Mm hmm, yeah, that would that would be my gospel. Uh A J's house,

a hustle, the whole house, not the whole house. I don't know, but I feel like he Finessing, He Finessing and Seance Companiana Dayan congregation because he probably got all the jewels underneath the church like the Vatican. That's what's going on with that nigga. Um, let me see what else you got going on. Okay, dammy, are you taking niggas on dates? In m M. I'll take my nigga on a date, So this is I'm not gonna like, I'm not gonna take a new nigga on a date, right,

So you know, I don't know. It's like, I don't know if people are doing it for like click baid or but the pic mischa ship is just getting out of hand. Um. I think it's younger women too. I mean, maybe maybe they're just adapting to the times. Men just don't have the same type of money the younger guys may just not the women are having to adapt to it.

I don't know what the case may be. But when I see these videos of these headlines about who pays for what and aled is bullshit, I'm always like, Okay, are we talking about new relationships or are we talking about like, uh, you know, existing relationships, Because in a new relationship, hell no, I'm not paying for any damn dates When you're supposed to be courting me, Like, what

are we talking about? Yeah? Like, why why would you you know, why would you be paying for dates if this man is supposedly interested in you and hopefully he's the one that's asking in a date. But like, I'm also a firm believer. Now, if you out here messaging every nigg in your cell phones trying to see who taking you out, you need to be prepared to pay, because if that man wanted to take you out, he would have been you know, you know, you guys got to ask the right question, say will you take me

on a date? Don't say do you want to go out? Because that implies that your pain. You want to take me to dinner? Say that. I don't say you want to go to because where where's your money? Right? So the young lady was like, you know, I pay for dates? Like what's wrong with that? Y'all? Pitches can't pay for dates? Like it just depends, Okay, ma'am. If I'm with somebody for a while, that's no longer dating. Okay, that's my man. Of course, I'm you know, willing to pay for things.

But if we're dating and we're like in the accorting stage, you might be dating multiple people women should not be all here paying for dates. Y'all sucking the game up. Okay, y'all are really fucking the game. We need to have a zoom call about this ship. I took a guy on the date that I was just getting in there. But it didn't cost me ship because I used my A B T car and I got some grapes and some like cheese and pepperoni and stuff like that, and then I took him out to I took about to

where the planes fly over with Yeah. We had a charcouterie board and watched the planes flying over the beach. I didn't pay not one. I pay for gas getting to the place. That's the girl. I went bike riding with a nigga last weekend. And when I tell you, he is still talking about that bike ride like he was like it's fun. Yeah. He was like, man, I appreciate you so much. What the snakes is easy? Easy? Not a dollar when your own bike, sir. I provided

the second bike. Okay, I provided the bike. He was like, this is like a real What was he saying? He was like, this is like a real uh. Y'all was on a limidate that's like a limidd day yeah, Like we rolled from the house down to like the river, so it's about maybe about three miles three or four miles or something like that to get to the river. But girl, you know, and adult dolphins was out, the boats was out. It was really nice. Okay, oh that is nice. And see, listen, guys, you can take a

woman on a nice day if you're playing something. You can take a woman on a nice day that won't be expensive. You just gotta use your mind. Like I'm gonna get I'm gonna rent two bikes. Were gonna bite down to the river, get to ice cream cones, and bike the funk back. And a woman will appreciate that unless she's just like fat and lazy and don't want to But most women will appreciate a date like, yes, a nice day. And then we got caught in the rain,

so it's even more fun because it started raining. So no, that's not fun. It was fun to me. We was out there like some kids, girl, okay, riding in the rain on the way back home. So y'all, I got a random text from a random guy that it was fine. He sent a picture for American Airlines. All right, now I'm gonna play Are you gonna die from turbulence on a commercial airline flight? The answer is no. But let's talk more about it. Right here in the United States,

more than million adults the same voice. It doesn't sound like it doesn't. So let me break down exactly how safe airline travel is and why you should not be afraid of I don't I don't know. That guy sounded kind of manic go on that phone just now. He was talking really fast, right, but he might have been nervous. M hmm. I don't know. I don't know. We're gonna see though, I got a pistol. Look, let's be clear.

But okay, we're gonna see what that's about. That was weird. Yeah, let's get back into the stupid internet news like we're gonna tam' gonna give y'all the update next week on that phone call. But um, okay. So Nick Cannon was on Angel Angels Lip Lip Service recently and he made some big claims. He said that of women have bad hygiene. I don't know that Nick Cannon has fu of women

on this earth. I don't know. He might be. He might be trying based on you know, his track record, but he said you know only about where he you know,

he never smelled anything or whatever. And uh, what was funny was Prima Donna commented on them the Post online and said that that's probably because you're sleeping about six different women and you've got everybody pH thrown off, which is the fuck truth right exactly, because you're clearly not using cond exactly, and even if these women have good hygiene, even if he doesn't have a disease, like everybody's pH doesn't mix right, so it's going to cause an issue

even women using you know, the wrong type of soap that could cause some type of problem exactly. So that has nothing to do with hygiene. And I think men really need to shut the funk up when it comes to that type of thing. Okay, that's just really really weird that you'd be on a public platform with that type of assumption. That's crazy to me. And you know, if he wasn't who he was, we would consider him

dirty D. Let's be clear. You got all these baby mamas back to back like community D Yes, community dirty D. I would I can. I matter of fact, I'm going to go ahead and make that statement. You're the reason why the women you've been with pussy stink? Right, was it stink the first time or was it stink after you here? Exactly? Yeah? Like, what the hell is wrong with man? Jeez? Man, I don't know, I don't know. I don't know, I don't know. M hmm. Got to be more careful. We got a transition into no, do

you be a one of Caddon's baby mom? Nope? The fuck? Well? All right? That brings me to my next topic. Actually, I went to the movies last night and I went to see the movie Nope. Um, apparently the It was actually I mean, it wasn't like a cinematic masterpiece or anything, but it was good. Um. I enjoyed it. And I think it had like some symbolic meaning, like you know, uh, what's his name? Jordan Peel is that his name? He? Um?

He always tries to have like some subliminal messages in his movie, and I just think it might have been a message about like taking pictures and videos of ourselves all the time. But I mean, you should go see it. It was actually good. Keiki Palmer was really good in it. I love Keiki Palmer. Uh. I think her character to is lesbian. I'm not sure. I think's all in the movie, but it's more a love story about her and her brother. Honestly, So y'all go watch that. It's pretty good and I

know it did well. People are going back to the movies. I was surprised to see so many people in new movies. Yeah, they said it um ranking over nineteen point five million dollars. I wonder what the budget was for. I like to look at I like to make comparisons. I can really see how people actually made on movies. I'm nosy in that way. Um yeah, I want to see. Because they said Thor only made six point four million, so of

it made? Um wait, Thor meanwhile, took in close to six point four million, bringing the Marvel Disney flick to hut four point two million domestically. Mhm, never mind, sorry, it made six points It made six point four just last week, okay, and then Jordan's Note made nineteen point five on opening night. Right. Yeah. Yeah, I love the movies. I used to go to the movies all the time. This is my first time going back since the pandemic started. Yeah.

I haven't been back to the movies either. I haven't been to the movies. I'm gonna go but I like to go to Matinee's. I really don't like to go to theaters when people other people in there. I like to go like early in the daytime. I just don't be wanting to waste my day with the movie theaters. Why are you saying and they're watching TV? Because I feel like I'm just sitting there watching TV and I don't watch TV as is. So like the last movie

I wanted to go and see was Doctor Strange. I never made it to the to the movie theater, but now it's on HBO, so I watched it already. But yeah, I don't like sitting in the movie theaters. M See. What I like to do is I like to like fill my purse up with snacks that came from somewhere else, food and everything. My bag is full. I like to like smoke a joint in the parking lot before I go in. It's little you got the whole thing, And then I have to go to one of those movie

theaters with the reclining seats and stuff like that. Oh yeah, yeah, then it's it's about I don't know anyway, child. What we got for the listeners this week when we talked back, we want to talk about different forms of relationships or a different type of relationship that maybe we might need to look at if it's a possibility for us perhaps or at least for me. Yeah, we'll be back, y'all. Yeah, let's get into it all right, y'all, we are back and we have our guests with us. Thank you guys

for joining us. Do you want to go by Hucci, Poppy or Ricky? You? Ricky? All right? So it's Ricky and Joe to you, guys. They are in a polly amorous relationship. Is that what you like to call it? Yes, So we want to talk about being black and polly. Talk to us about yourselves first, individually, like who you are, and then we'll get into how y'all came together? You go first journey? Um, ain't you talking about myself? I'm a retired senior. I'm a license SiGe therapist. Uh, I'm

an actor, spicy and man? And where are you from? Missouri? Missouri? Is that where you reside now? No, I'll reside in Los Angeles, l A. Progressive Okay. I'm only been living in l A seven months. Okay, so new to l A. It's expensive out there. I don't know how y'all doing that. Y'all need to come on back to the out right and Ricky, what about you? Um? I am going to raised from St. Louis, Missouri. I've been living in l A for ten years. I am a model, an adult

content creator. Well, I'm a content creating creator all over the board. Okay, the adult content creating pays the bills. Okay. Um, And I am pan sexual, so okay for our listeners that don't understand what pain sexually is, what is that? Because she's not sucking frying pans, y'all? But you know, you know what, some some pans are quite sexy. You know what I'm really um, pans sexual is basically, I really just love humans, Like I don't care what you

identify as. I don't care you're about your sexual orientation. If we vibe, we vibe. So I mean, I've had to tell people because some people like to argue all your bisexual and I'm like, nah, because I've dated trands before, so I really don't. I don't care if you got a dick or a pussy, if you gave straight by try whatever. If we vibe, we vibe. It's all about our chemistry, the human connection. Okay, that's so interesting. So all right, how did you two guys meet? We met

years ago? I want to say, maybe like twelve years ago. We knew of each other because he was I guess so a friend of mine was his side check m hm. And then me and me and her are no longer her friends years ago past, and we finally got to actually sit down and meet each other. Uh two years ago? Yeah,

two years ago in Vegas. And then y'all just how did y'all become like a thing like we fox when we met in Vegas and that was like in August sometimes, and then we just in contact during that that time, and um, I was coming back to Vegas and she had a mutual friend and she was like, yo, she had a mutual friend of like, yo, you wanna have

a three soon with Jody? So Jody My Jodie. So her friend was down and she was like, yo, when you had a threesome, you know you mine after that, and pretty much we had a threesome in front of like five other women I was watching. I think it was like seven. Okay. I tried to downplay it, but yeah, who came later? So they just set you up, Jody. They literally said, I felt like drive by. They were sitting in a room watching me have sex. So it streight did y'all is there any footage out there? I mean,

I'm just there. We need that for research purposes. That to us, so all right, okay, that was the fucking But then how did y'all decide like, Okay, we're we want to be a thing, We're gonna be partners, are together. Um, Well, before we even decided to get into a relationship, I had already discussed with him like, hey, I haven't had a child, I've never been pregnant. I want to make him maybe with you, will you be the father of my child? And he was like that's what you want? Okay,

And then it was that easy. We kind of just kind of like just kept growing. But you know, I ain't pregnant. We were planning later, not right now, but we want to be my baby daddy. That's what happened. I want to appropriate with you. And then later on, I don't know, I don't know if it was a year later, but wasn't a year baby or maybe like maybe five months I was like, hey, I want to build with you, and I think that really made him buck with the knees. He was like, yeah, it was

the bill word. It was the bill word. It was like, I want to grow with you, I want to be more. It was she put her intentions out there and she knew what she wanted. So that really like, y'all, I'm with that. Okay, So that made y'all a couple. But then how did you y'all decide that we're gonna polly ally this thing? Well, I'm polly um okay, I don't care what situation. If it forbid, something happens and I'm

no longer with him, I'm still gonna be Polly. So growing up, I would see I was raised by my father, and I would see him just got a woman here, I got a woman here there, And they all know about each other, but they all hate each other, and I'm lying to all of them. And as a young girl, I'm like, okay, so you're happy with all of them, but you keep lying to all of them. But they know you're lying to all of them because they know

about each other they've even met. So why don't everybody just be happy with what's going on instead of you having to lie all the time. So growing up, you know, when you start dating, everything is everything has to be monogamous. And I was like, got older, I started to see like I might be a cheater. But then once I started just being open with it, saund like, listen, talked to this person. I talked to this person. It felt

so much better than lying. And when I realized that I could go out and guys are like, damn, girl, you gotta you gott a boyfriend, I'm like, yeah, I got three. You want to be the fourth one. They'd be like yeah, I'm like, okay, you gotta cover this building. And it was just that easy exactly. They don't care, and women don't, well some women care, but they were like, okay, and Jody, you don't mind her having other male sexual

partners because as a black man, that's not common. Like black men is like very territorial with their women, like they a lot of time they treat them as something to be owned. And he says, a human who has experiences, I don't mind, as long as we talk about it all the time. Like that's always been the biggest thing

in communication. Not only did I was I was like a jigga for a moment and growing up, so it was more always always decide to I'm used to women having another man, and I was used to it, but now in this situation, it's more like, so I had girlfriends in Paris and I used to cheat on them. I'm open and it's just more of a sign relief of just being able to communicate. That's yeah. So me and Tam we talked about open relationships a lot because the older you get, you realize, like a lot of

people are in fake, you know, monogamous relationships. And then now like the traditional traditional monogamy is just like just sucking one person at a time, right, that's what we consider monogamy at this point. But a lot of men don't realize that there is somebody out here for everybody, right, So instead of lying to women and forcing them into because we've seen this right now with Tristan Thompson, was it Tristan Thomas and Chloe right, that man is not

a monogamous man. So when you meet women, you tell them that and you give them the option, you know, if they want to sign up for that ship or not, you know what I mean, Like you give people exactly right, you're taking away their power choice of choice. That's what people fall into the point of we're selfish. We don't want to give the option of losing something that we already have, so we don't want to be open with people and tell them like, yo, I got lobster over here,

but I'm gonna keep that. But why do I use that analogy all the time to food? Like you get tired of the slice of pizza, and you get tired of the shrimp. You want to slice of pizza every now and then, and it's like, hey, doesn't mean you don't like shrimp anymore. I want to change your palette

up a little bit. But but as a man, why why why are we even looking at it um as if somebody you're going because you can tell this person that's from the beginning, just like Ricky just said when she meets people, like she let them know right right, Like if you let them know in them begin and then it's not going to be a situation where you're trying to now cohet somebody into some ship to keep

them where men are natural hunters. So I feel like it's more of I don't want to lose my opportunity, like we I could give you you ain't never had before, never had before? Why you can't pussy the truth? Because we want the pussy no matter what, Like if we're gonna set the trap and we're gonna try to get it, like no matter how it is, it's just like, yeah, I'm not gonna be honest with you. I may tell

you afterwards, you know, and some people don't. Men usually wait for a question to come to us as well. So I say men don't have integrity? Is that what we're saying? I have six with a girl and she woke up the next mornings like you don't have a girlfriend, do you. I'm like, well, we already fun, so I'm not about to tell you the truth either. So she ain't got it, like I'm you didn't care before, So like it's not a we wait for the intentions to come like we want we want to be told before

we approached. Hmmm, So are are there any boundaries in this kind of relationship? Well, we have boundaries and every polly, with every relationship, whether is polly or monogamy, anything like that, there should be boundaries. When there's no boundaries or the boundaries are not discussed, that's when the issues start to rise. So with us. Our boundaries, um are If he feels that he needs to venture off and find another partner, um,

I want us to talk about it first. Same here, we talk about it first, we discuss it, and we move forward. I would like to meet them. And if he just having sex, I mean I don't, I don't know. But if he feels like, hey, babe, I want this person as a partner, I feel like I should meet them because what if they're out somewhere and something happens, who she gonna call me? And the police? Probably? But you know, you just don't you just I just want to know who's dealing with my man because he's a

part of me. That's my business. So basically you have to have a relationship with that person too. You feel like you would like basically have a relationships with No. I don't need to have like an intimate relationship with her, but I should know who she is. You know, I should have at least a friendship or something, because if she doesn't want to be with me, that's fine, But nine times, without a chance, she's gonna want to be with me, So, UM, I would I just feel like

I should know who that individual is. You know because say like say, I'm you decided, Hey, I want to be in a relationship with Jodi, but not Ricky. I would still want you to have a conversation with me, and when we see each other, we should be cordial. I should be able to show you love, you should be able to show me love, and everybody just go out their day. So this type of relationship there's no jealousy involved. Ever. Well, I'm not a jealous person. No,

I'm not. I don't believe he is either. I'm very confident, I guess that's what it is. I'm confident in our communication and I'm confident that I'm doing the best I possibly can. So I don't ever get jels because if I'm getting somebody everything, you know, I appreciate it, that's your loss. So I don't get jether. Yeah. I think we just saw um. Did y'all see Laura London on Angie Martinez Show and they can see yeah, the one

to eclip. She basically essentially she didn't say Polly, she didn't say open, but that's where the conversation was going at, and she was talking about ego and how you know

that jealousy thing we feel when when somebody's stepping. Stepping in our territory is ego And if you say you love somebody, I don't have ego when it comes to somebody I love, Like I would literally overlook a thousand things out of love for this person, right, So I think that, Um, yeah, Like, if you're trying to possess somebody, that's definitely coming from a place of ego. And how do you got to just experience people? You know what

I'm saying. I don't know. So so for for Ricky, do you have other men that you then have to introduce to Jody or is this just something that Jody explores most of the time and you deal with other women. So it's a joke amongst like as friends where they always be like Ricky really is the last year? She just got a sexy ass nigga on my side. And don't get me wrong, um, but don't get me wrong, like I do I aesthetically I like women more like you see a woman, you just gotta look, you know.

But um and right now, I'm just happy with just this one man in my life as of now, I don't see I'm not really seeing all other dudes. Like we'll be out and about and he'll see them looking at me and I'm just I'm livius. But um, women, Yeah, I've had somebody else as far as a woman, but that didn't last because she was trying to play games. I only play games when it's connected to a console,

so we don't play my games over here. And I mean in the future, I can't say like I'm gonna be be with another guy or I'm not right now, I'm not looking to be with a guy. I'm happy with the guy that I have now. So all right, help me understand in our listeners the difference between an open relationship and polyamory. Is there really a difference? Yes, I would say so open it's more a couple and open is sexual base. Polly is more of emotional base. Well, um,

and that's what it is. Like open, like, oh, I can go ahead, this person is person, but Polly is more of emotional we're actually having dates, we're actually experiencing each other's company and time and actually learning that particular person. It's open, it's like one nice things. So what however you want to say, like like you don't get to build emotional connections exactly in the open relationship. Are you sitting. It's the introduction to like, kay, like, babe, this is person,

be this, this is gonna be in our life. This person may make me mad one day and you have the experience and deal with emotion. I'm dealing. So that's more of like the actual full connection because probably just I think open relationships are sexual just truly sexual. Base probably is just having a great friendship with everybody. It's one, yeah, because I think when we think Polly, we think like when men have more than one wife, and so it's a commitment. Well that is that's a type of Polly,

but then it's polyandry. Yeah. Yeah, so Polly amory is like you're not married to know, and people always, especially with our relationship, everybody views it as like, oh, I'm the one who wants to three, I'm the one who want the the women. But it's actually reversed because she's the one who want and you know, I'm here, you know, I'm applying, and who am I to tell her no? Not the dicks supply and the girls, you know, the girls, I don't know, like they like going up to him.

They liked being like hi, Jody, and then you know, talking to him and it was like, so, how's ricky? It was like chick bait. He's chicken because you have never entered I'm gonna say, all the girls that I know are her friends now, like all the people recently she's mad about to ask woman I've introduced it like women were talking where they hit her up more than me. I'm like, damn, I lost I lost female friends. Women friends to to my girl, she still all your bitches still.

You know, a lot of times the girls don't even want to, like by myself, they don't really want to talk to me because I don't know. I don't think I come off as a bitch, but they they don't really say anything. And then it's like, let me ease my way in with the guy. Hi, now we're friends, and don't like, who is that? I think I was?

Cardi b you know, because Cardi is bisexual. She talks about a lot and she was saying how it's easier for her to haul that men than women, Like she gets really shy, we're trying to haul at a woman, So maybe that's me. It's easy to haul at whatever I want. So all right, what would constitute cheating for y'all.

What would be cheating? Is there cheating? Oh yeah, it could be me going out with somebody guy or girl and and not telling him, having sex with somebody and not telling him, or even like, I feel like an emotional bond is way like deeper than any That's not what polyamory is, though, the intimate bonds with other people know it is. But I for our boundaries, I need to tell right and he needs to tell me. So if I'm if I meet somebody out, I meet a fine woman out and I want to court her or whatever,

I'm like, hey, babe, listen, I met this girl. That's what she looked like. Snap, Can I take a picture of you real quick? Send it to my dude real quick? You know? And where I'm telling him like I want to take her out on a date, I want to do this, I want to do that. And that's that's what we're that's our relationship. Now. If I'm like not saying nothing and sneaking around, that's cheap, I'm lying. I'm basically lying. She definitely did that. I don't have to

write a girl. She took a picture, she sent me the picture and then she was like, can I sucked her. I was like, yeah, like and that's what happened. Like if she just has sex with her, did anything like that without telling me, that's cheating. So what she sent you a picture of a nigger and said can I fuck them? You would be like be safe. Yeah, damn, that's so progressive because niggas don't be thinking like that

A lot of times. They'd be like, if you're gonna bring your ass home and stop, you got to find a bit out there to bring home. She's already there though, Like if she's hanging with this dude and already it's already set up, like she's gonna do anyway. If I take that away from her, she's gonna feel certain type of white you know at the end, like girls, But I should have sucked that nigga, blah blah blah, Like, no,

I'm not gonna take that away from you. If you feel like that's what you want to do, that's what you want to do, Who am I to stop you? So with our relationship, it well for me, I look at all my past monogamous relationships and I don't want none of that in this relationship. So like I've from what I've learned and from my experiences, monomy is all about control. Yes, it just seems like it's just always, Ah, you're my girl, you're my partner, you're supposed to be

with me. You shouldn't be going out to Jenner with nobody but me. Like way, they don't make sense. If I could get pregnant by anything in this world, and anybody in this in this world can give me an orgasm, why don't have to just give it you? It don't even make sense to me by biologically, we're not designed to be with one person. That was some man made bullshit and based off religion. But even in the Bible, like when they say, uh, some Solomon had four wives

and he didn't marry all of them. He was fucking just his body count was four. Yeah, that's what he had sex with a woman that that was probably Yeah. Yeah, I don't even the Bible. When people bring up the Bible, that's just scary. Really really No church in a While. We had an episode. We had an episode no church in a while because Kanye you know that that song no Church in a While. Yeah, So that line on there. He was like, we formed our own religion and the

only felony is you fucking somebody without telling him. That's the only felony. Let me ask you this, how do you How does your families feel about your relationships and your choices, your life choices. Yeah, you can talking about the Bible in it. No, So my family is very support of whatever I do. That My mom is like, yo, as long as you're being safe, as long as you're healthy, I don't care what you do. Whatever life choices you make,

that's your life choices. And I'm supporting about what you know, monsterly support and loving like that. What about your dad? Me and my dad have a strange relationship. My dad was in carslready most of my life, so it's like I didn't meet him in town like twenty three, so it's like we don't have to Yeah, yeah, you didn't raise me, So that's that's the understanding, Like like you're just gonna have to go with whatever the funk I

got going on, Pops right right? What about you, Ricky? Honestly, I don't I don't know, and I don't care because at the end of the day, this is my life. I Mean, in the past, they've kind of like said they're two cents about it, but at the end of the day, like, I'm gonna still do what I want to do. So was in our position. Some some of the family was like why is she doing that? Like she just all of them getting cheated on, And then the other like it's like split you got some that's like,

why is she doing that? She just want to live loud and free and blah blah. She's never gonna find anyone that's gonna love her. No one wants that. And then the other side is like, she's so loving, we love Ricky. Just let her do what she wants to do. And then then it's me, I don't even funk what you got to say, because I asked right, y'a don't pay y'all don't pay no bills over here, So it don't make a difference what your opinion is that mm hmm. What else? Like what other? Oh? I have a question

about safety? So with sex, is there any boundaries when it comes to condoms and eating pussy and you know, because I mean there's diseases that can be passed even with oral sex, Like what what type of godlinestea I have for that? Well, I'm not having sex with anybody without let him know. And um, most of the time we we word we get tested. Everybody gets tested m M because lately I think M majority of the people that we've dealt with together on a sexual level, it

was all sex workers and we all get tested. So person, ya'll never roll the dice on a Saturday night. There ain't never been no dice. Everybody be rolling the damn dice. No right, yeah, me and him, I'm protected even before I was with him, like dealing with in my past, I kept my status clean and I hope they kept their status clean. But we I would have discussions with people, and a lot of times it would be the guys.

I'd like, so when last time you got tested? And I want to know, because niggles cheat off the women test, Like if the women they don't have nothing, then they yeah, you know. And I feel like now when your girl got tested, when you get tested, I don't play that because theybe out here putting their love things in anything chill, a hot bowl of soup, a warm apple pie. I feel good. I found out that they're doing it with bacon. They're wrapping bacon around it. What wait what because bacon

is greasy? So we give it the slip. Niggas is wrapping baking around? They did? Is it is? It's not cook baking, it's baking. What a waste? That much? Is baking costive? But guess what they've been doing that since they was living in castles. They still do that. It's like illegal to have to own sheep if you're not married, and that's still like in the law books you have to have a wife to own sheep because they say the sheep pussy feels like a woman's vagina. Why do

they know that because like a sheep, they sheep. Yeah, poor animals. You don't see that guy, a black guy just went in Charlotte for smashing the horse. Yes, yeah, it was a black guy in Charlotte went to jail for having sex with a dog. Like the neighbor caught him sucking a dog in the backyard. Yo, I feel like people have been doing that. Ask on up with hot worms? Me and Joe was just talking to heartworm disease. Was just talking about like how some of the gay

guys sometimes maybe having gerbils in their bodies. Oh yeah, I wasn't what actors thought that was a joke. It's real. They just want to rode it running around in their ass because your ass whole out, it'd be tickling the prostrate when they'd be climbing up in their booty bold trying to survive, to hold out. I hope it bite your to the hospital with them things stuck up there. But yeah, because what was that actor? He had to go to the hospital to get a gerbil removed from

his asshole. I don't know the actor, but I know whole what you're being the hat out. A whole lot of gerbils up there, gerbils, hamsters or whatever they are. Stop putting them animals up your butt. Don't do that. Stop dealing with animals period on the sexual So that's not that's not a part of the l g B t Q like bestiality. I'm just asking, is it not? Hell No, you're supposed to be with humans, You're supposed to be with adults. I'm asking. I don't know, Listen,

I'd be needing clarity. Job let me, you's gonna get show, take it off. Don't put that girl me tell you can't nobody take ship from me? How about that part? Okay, I'm asking because I want clarity, so we are allowed to ask questions. Well, so, so a j the thing is the gerbil or the rodent thing. It started because gay men were doing that. Two. I guess reach have a different type of we're guys, but that is not part of the lgbt Q plus all them let us,

it's not part of that lifestyle. What they Yeah, those men maybe gay, but they also have issues and they like animals. That's weird. All right, let's get back on topic. We went somewhere else with that. So uh um and the polyamory relationship, do y'all want to get married or it's just marriage off the table? You just would rather be in relationship forever and never put like ring on it, Like what does that look like? At first, I didn't want to get married because I just I really don't

want a wedding. But if he was to say, like, hey, baby, want to get married, I'd like maybe when? How? But right now I am not like, I'm not like in a rush. Marriage kind of scares me, m but I do I do want to be with him forever to like that. I don't think that's beautiful. I don't think we need like a piece of paper in the government to be like y'all together. But then again, sometimes when you get married, there's different opportunities. You know, what about you? Jody?

I agree? Now marriage is a business contract. Really, what you're signed? Jody virgo um virgo? I know you like I already know, already know Ricky is aquarious. I saw that. So what do you say you do? Want to get married? Enough? I'm with it. It just had to hit me, but I feel like it's a marriage contract. But I agree, like I don't need to go and get a piece of paper to say with Mary do other things like

I'm with her, She's my forever girl right now. Yeah, I guess people think about I think about like, well, you could always do a will right instead of having a marriage license, because people think about, like, you know what if something happened to this person, you know how, how would we're talking about finances and things being left. This is why people think getting married is so important.

ALC together exactly. But it's still paperwork. So what is the big difference between an LLC in a marriage degree? Why not? Right, there's no difference, So why are we so afraid of that? Yeah? It was the fear. People have kids, but they're scared to get married. That's an eight ten year commitment. That's a lifelong commitment where you have the baby. Yeah, because you you said, uh, will you be my baby daddy? Now will you be my husband? So why I figured, well, yeah, he does have a child.

And at the moment when I did ask him that, I was just more so focused on I need to bring one baby into this world. And I want them to have his jeans. I want them to have. I want them to have like, yeah, I want his genetic makeup from the mind to the feet, I want all that. And she liked your feet eat everything about you. I guess that's the luxury of waiting, you know, because when people have kids, like real young, you end up like I got this fucking kid around here with this nigga

DNA stupid. So you get to wait, and now you understand like how important lineage and DNA is and ship like that to make sure you get the proper mate. Because that's why them old people always be like who his people is? Where are he from? Because they want to know who the fuck you procreating with all these people you you might be creating with your cousin exactly. That's everywhere, girl, let's not listen. The first week I moved to St. Louis, I saw some niggas on a

horse with red cups. Okay, let's be clear that is the country is country. I'm like, where the hell did I just moved to? Like? Why the fund is these niggas on? What's that part of django or django? He was like, what was that up for? Now? What that nigg up? Or? No? Stair girl with the red cup Chippawa? Yeah you was really in St. Louis? Yes, I lived off at Chippawa. Oh wow, yeah, I was going raised here.

She's I'm happy. I'm going sorry. Is there any advice that you would want to give our listeners that might be ready to jump into this polly lifestyle? What would you what advice would you leave in with? First, learn yourself and love yourself. You need to know what you like, what you want, what you need, and you need to know how you're going to react when something's not gonna

happen the way that you wanted to go. And you just really need to authentically just love yourself because, like they always say, if you don't love yourself, you can't let nobody else properly mm hm hm. And be transparent whether you're doing Polly or not. Right, Yeah, transparency, be very transparent, communicated as much as you can. Uh, and

be understanding. That's the main thing I think for men need to learn to feel a lot of things that they were taught and understand a woman is equal to you as well, and it's not about controlling the person. It's also about welcome this person your spaces. You will welcome in that person space as well. And just understanding gang you need both types of energies to make things work.

That creates balance. Things can't be one sided. Yes, we should have been talking about that, that masculine versus that feminine energy because people think you got to operate in one or the other, you know, but you need to balance them exactly. Got to have both. Yeah, both beings need to know when they both need to be balanced so they can come together and be equally yoked. Right. Yeah, the hard part, that's the hard part. It's really and it's really not I don't think I feel like that's

the hard part in the relationship, finding that balance. Because you see TV. Jakes was just like we're raising our women to be men. T. G. Jacks just said that you have masculine feminine. Yeah, that's I think that's the problem. That error is very stuck in. Like we can talk about the Bible. The Bible is one side. They don't value women in the Bible as much. I was just having a conversation at all. When you remove that and you teach men that constantly, they grow up thinking women

are not equal to them. So that that that makes a toxic kind of form of masculinity, like, oh, women shouldn't be this, should be that. But no, if if she's part of you, like she should still have the same equal amount to help complete you. Everybody want to complete circle. Like I said, the yenang, it's still masculin and um feminine energy on both sides. Yeah, it's that.

It's that Adam and Eve creation story that function up when people recognize that black women in particular are the gods, Like the closest thing you're gonna get to to God on earth. You'll be all right. Because I'm a direct descendant of Lilith. I'd like to think maybe tam is too, But listen, and Adam received his directions from God directly to Adam, So why the hell we blaming even the Bible, even if we want to look at that story, why are we blaming the women like they demonize women in

the Bible. And that's why we have all this ship going on now in the real world, because you know, even if you don't believe in Christianity or the Bible, it's a good reference, gud for how its gonna be, you know, and how ship is going. And we can see you playing out right now. Patriarchy is running out fucking muck. Yeah, oh yeah it is, yeah, because these niggas is not balanced something they I feel like they're trying to check our pussy away from us. They are.

All right, you guys, please plug yourself for our listeners. Plugging your businesses, your social media platforms, anything you would like people to know about you. Please pug it. Jody, I'm Jody roar Um on Instagram, TikTok, I'm Jody roar Love on whatever is it? Twitter, and then Twitter and that's pretty much it. Very come. We got Ricky and Jody. Okay, yeah, so follow them. Follow Jody there, what about you? Ricky Um on Instagram? I am you know, it's who Chi Pappy,

but some people say who Kie Poppy? U um on what is it? Twitter? On everything else? I'm the black Asian. I couldn't use the black Asian on Instagram because they keep deleting me, and so that black Asian yeah yo, yeah, de black Asian. Why do they keep deleting me? I'm a But there's the other sex oh, and I'm glad your name. I'm a. I'm a sex worker. I'm a black woman that's a sex workers. I can't do what the white girls do on the internet. So I can

be in a bathing suit and I'll get flagged. It's like I have to do certain things at a certain time a certain way because I can't follow with the other. You think it's like a system thing like the algorithm, or you think it's actual people doing it. I think

it's both. I think it's AI and people. I think I got some haters for mentors, right, and then it's definitely AI because I get in trouble on TikTok and I really don't violate anything on TikTok, but AI, after after seeing a documentary and doing a little bit of reading about artificial intelligence everything about us, it's a threat. So I just I just found out that fat is

a cuss word on Instagram. I got Yeah, it's that's like being derogatory towards people who are Fatma that doesn't want to come back on so we can discuss why

we're a threat to AI. Oh, I don't mind coming back on it talking about that because I just I really feel like that's a that's a joke, as this just seems like the more we progressed in life, and just as human beings, black people are in those spaces to create all this stuff in technology, So just automatically, it's like you got all these lighter complected people who are creating artificial intelligence and they're literally telling these robots

dark skinned too much, too much, hits too too much. Booty, that's a threat, black Man too. Buck, that's a threat. Dreadlocks, that's a threat. That's so sad. It's just so sad. But everybody, but they don't like Nigga's boy. Everybody want to be a nigga. Tell it's time to be a nigga. Thank you guys for joining us today. Man, we really appreciate y'all. This is a fun conversation. It was enlightening.

We loved that and we definitely have you back on maybe around Christmas time about Christmas, Polly and that have nothing at all the money, I don't know. We're gonna call it jingle balls. That will be the name of the episode. Stupid. Thank you all, Thank you all for having us I live listen to y'all all every week. Y'all get me through. Appreciate that. Man, We appreciate that. You'ld be saying. I'll be saying that in another room and she's playing it. So we're saying we appreciate because

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