Ep 66 "DREAM CHASERS"

here today. How was your weekend, a J. I did nothing girl. Okay, first of all, let me tell you how about the weekend went all right? So I ain't a motherfucking t bitch. I was about to make up some ship to appease y'all. Dren so sick as you say. I ain't did nothing girl. I'm granny pussy. Okay, okay, Granny pussy, Granny, My granny go out working that Granny p be in the house. Bit girl, just make up some ship. We know. I see, y'all. I'm in her

close friends. I've seen her popping pussy on their hands stand this weekend and her close friends. I'm sorry, girl, I wish I might the last time I was on my head like that, bitch, I might have been thirteen. Now. I have a neck fucked up a couple of times over the years, but this got bad and never grown. Man and tm J like that that top that doge piece off? That ain't it? Hell? Yeah? What the funk you had going on? Girl? I had COVID again. Bitch. Oh,

I forgot I had alive today. Your asked was definitely dead. Over the goodness, I was dead over the weekend. I felt so bad that ship had my head on. Motherfucking Throb couldn't have leave helping. I took a leave. I spoke some crack, nothing worse. I took anything and everything to try to knock their head egg out. Baby. I was on the bathroom floor, on the black room floor. Okay,

But I feel so much better today. I'm so happy to still be here with y'all because that COVID ain't no joke speaking of that, and he's still out here speaking of that. Rest in peace to k slay Man saw that, Yeah, you know he. I didn't realize he wasn't still in the hospital. They said he'd been in there for like four months. I wonder if he had any um pre existing health issues. That's crazy as hell, man, Yeah, that's saying men. He was only five years old. Yeah, yep,

Nigga's dying who we never even died before? Every time, every time it is wicked. She is real wicked. I'm so grateful to still be here. Guy chose me to stay another day. Thank you. You know, evil never dies? Evil never die? Is that how you feeling about your looks? I'm gonna be on this be sound about ninety five, rocking and rolling because evil is that? Why? Is that why I embraced my light and dark side? Okay, yeah, it is what it is. I embraced my light in

darkness too. But I wouldn't consider myself evil. I could. I can't be evil though, That's what I'm talking about. Like, I'm happy as long as you don't funk with me. Oh goodness, what's going on? Man? What's going on? In stupid internet news? So I saw that, uh there, there was a survey survey that was conducted. So it says that motherfucker's is tied to their face being on the internet basically, So the survey was conducted by nord VPN.

A little more than one thousand people in the U s A T and older were asked about how they felt about the Internet, and according to PC mag more than half of the respondent said they would totally delete themselves off the Internet if they could. About forty seven percent said they don't trust the internet, in that they wish the Internet never existed. In a percent said that they don't use the Internet at all. How you feel about it, you wanna work with? Yeah, I listen. I'm

on social media. Instagram is mainly what I'm on. Instagram and clubhouse. I got a Facebook like twelve years ago. Um, and you know they'd be fucking nosy, always asking why I work at Why Like if I log on there to go to Facebook market or something like that. They just asking all these questions. And it's like, for real, Facebook is like the world Wide Web, and they just got everybody in this damn web. And I don't want to be in a web. Like I remember when face

Book not on Facebook, my Space like went away. I tried to log into my Space to delete my pictures off that ship and it wouldn't let me. Is as if you know, once you put your image on these sites, stay on it, right, and you agree to that when you sign up exactly, and nobody ever reached the agreement. I just want to funk with this, so I'm a side everybody else doing it. Yeah, everybody's doing it now. I try not to put my real name online, so

I'll use aliases all the time. When I'm signed off for ship, I got a junk play email that's not connected to me in no type of way. That ship is asigned to Google Google um number. I'm not working with it. I don't like it. I don't like it. I don't want to be google Able, but I guess at this rate, we don't got no choice. Much like how we said about ourselves. I take the good in the bed that comes with it, because I mean it does provided a lot of goodness to the earth too, right,

does it. Yeah? I feel like for black people in particular, like the Internet, it was like the worst ship that could have happened to us, because white people actually get to now see us and see how the funk we are and be in our business without actually seeing us and without actually being around us, so they know, like now how to manipulate things based on the type of ship we put online, So I don't know, man, I

don't like it. The girl where Girl of Powers that be they'll be watching your ass, or the white man is infiltrating the black community with the information that we posted. What y'all don't know is look, what y'all don't know is the band is not actually the black man. They just don't look like they mean, they look like us, but they ain't us. They're talking about Yeah, wait time, wait till I really get this conspiracy segment. I'm about

to put you all on game. I just feel like for me, I know, like if I ever became like for real famous, it's some ship they're gonna pull up that out of twit or some shing I'm saying right now on this motherfucker, that's definitely gonna give me. It's some hot water I already know, and I would be just like Ninie, I said what I said two you said that what pick some crazy ship and they're gonna break me over the colds about it. I don't care though.

Cancel culture only last for like two weeks, you'd be, yeah, I should last for two weeks. The best thing you can do is just not respond Okay, don't respond. Let the ship blow over and then come back like any ship happened. But it's always gonna be that one motherfucking comments like, bitch, we don't forget right, we don't forgot about those allegations against you, bitch. Damn that was three weeks ago, hope to attention to No, where the fun

is Kanye? I'm concerned about him, girl, I'm glad he's taking a seat because people is getting mad at our continent. People's all in our reviews like another Kanye day, as if everybody wasn't reporting on Kanye. But we were going Kanye. I mean, I hope he's okay. It was fun. There was a lot of going on. Yeah, but this this part, the sad part, is a mental somebody's mental break was for our show. I don't think Kanye was having a mental break. No, I really don't know. I don't think so.

I don't think he was having a mental break. But did you see um Shaquille O'Neil was on that podcast The Pivot, and you know a couple of weeks this damn Channing what's his name, Channing Child Crowder. Channing Crowder was a guy who said that Russ Wilson was a square, right. So now this week they have Shaquille O'Neil on and he asked Shaquille O'Neil about his divorce from Shanny O'Neil and to me, it just sounded like he was trying

to give Shaquille O'Neil and out. You know what I'm saying, as if this is the type of man who doesn't take accountability for ship. You know what I'm saying. He was basically like, well, it was two people in the marriage, right, like that wasn't all on you, And Shaquille O'Neal corrected him and said, you know what, no, it was on me because she was a good woman. She took care of my kids, even handled a business aspect of our lives, and I was sucking up. Period. He took accountability and

that's what. And I'm not saying like women don't be coming with they both ship, because everybody has their thing, right, But what he said was he wasn't protecting her. He wasn't protecting her, he wasn't protecting their vows. And I'm pretty sure of protecting her he means like mental mentally, like you keep going through ship with something with a man. Why am I supposed to stay at what? At what point? Don't do women leave? Right? And he just was taking

accountability for it like that. I'm sure Seanie heard that. I was like, finally, motherfucker, they're friends though, you see what I'm saying, Like he said that on several occasions, like they're good, they're friends, Like have their kids grown people? Now? You know what? What do they have to fred about? But I'm sure I'm sure when he probably said it to her already. I'm sure if he said it to the world, he's made those words to her. I like

shock for that me too. I respect it. But it's always in hindsight that men see this kind of thing, you know, it's always no longer got access to you, not just man people. We always see the air of our ways in hindsight, not in a moment. I don't want to just put that on me because I know I would look back and I don't. I could look back and be like, damn, you did that. You girl get your ship? You know, shame. I'm here for shout out the man. Oh made the Stallion drop the new

song at Coachella. Um, it's called us a bit and it samples Joe to See and Wu Tang's freaking you remix? Did you hear that ship? Did you hear? I heard it? Like you know, I like that for the young girls. Okay, I like that for me in the gym, when I'm trying to do the squat gym in these squats, or when I'm I like fucking nigga anthems, I do, but then I'm old for that ship. Why you don't have to like, you don't have to live by it. You just have to enjoy it. While I was playing and look,

I'm about to get deep again. The for frequency of that fucking music and have you sucked up out? Yeah, because yesterday my attitude was bad. I woke up and I heard that song and I played it like three times, like and you'se a bit like I was all in a mirror, like pointing at the mirror ship like if for her see yourself fake flexing and Mike fake flexing on the nigga in the mirror, and my energy was really my frequency was low early in the day yesterday.

That's the trust and stay Yeah, I had a stay as attitude. He was like, I don't want to be like that. That's how it was. I ain't gonna lie, but that song did have me Like I got my squad on yesterday and I was like, I'm gonna kill these holes just amer Well. I was squatting to that ship. Hey look, I definitely be a whole drug dealer, fucking drive by type nigg and when I'm in a gym, us like, you don't have to live it. And that's the problem with young people. They don't know how to

separate the music from their reality. It's just like TV. You watch a movie, you don't you see uh Dizell talking about looking back and God, shoot on me. You don't want to go outside and shoot up a neighborhood because you see that, right, So why do we let the music influences so much? I don't know, because it's the it's the frequency of the music, that's just what it is, like and like it's just the actual fucking frequency, the medium from the meeting, the speakers. Yeah, she's going

to change your damn mood. It did. It really did that for me. But I enjoyed every minute of it. But I did last night I had to like put on in the ire and Ericabo, dude, to like elevate my vibration for real? Who the hell was she talking to in that song? Like, what grown man you're calling the bitch mag um? Who you think? I think it's still talking about him. But she said she kept taking playing b pills. Well, okay, let's not assume the songs be by anybody, but she was saying that ship with

a lot of forest. Yeah, I like some ship to get off her damn chest. No, she said, this song is very in our quote, this song is very motherfucking personal to me, and it's to whom it made the fun concern. And I really feel like my ladies will will funk with me on this one. So drop that ship. M hmm. You saw, first off, your bitch in the click. That's how she came in there. You saw Tory Lanes in the damn club with all her damn enemies. Basically

just whack how y'all clicking up against a woman? Right? Is she bigger than all of mega? Probably? Donkey kongdom niggas. That's the problem. Y'all got the team up to beat her? Shame? Yeah, what about this guy who on purpose? They did that? That wasn't a coincidence? Hell, yeah, they probably called each other. Yeah, man, And then when we get there, we're gonna take a photo.

Who like where you fucking right? Photo? Op right photo to make sure you spray the top of your head in because we're gonna get the whole things like, let me stop, let me stop shaming him. I like ball ahead, me too. I'm sorry, I'm sorry to worry about the ball. How about Leskan Keisha? Keisha said, she is leaving your bitches if she's in the club mid turn up in

her man call you're in with that girl. What if you meet the man of your fucking dreams and he just working late one night or you know, out late, like he may not be out right, but all night in the club like you want to get back to him, and he hit you up and be like all right, I'm heading home now where you at? So okay on a case by case basis, But she said, any time, if that nigga call her, she leaving, that's my man, that's my man, and that's good. But girl, don't leave.

I'm out, Okay, if you're that bitch that's gonna leave every time, I've never mad, don't call me about that nigga, don't call me because you're mad at the nicktime what you're doing. I want to get out, no bitch, fuck you men say your hord with him a bitter tonight my name. You said that was picked me behavior. I felt like it was it was given pick me. But she already picked though, and she wouldn't be with her

man who picked her. She want to like just not have an identity because you got a man, You don't have an identity outside of your man, Like you can't be with your friends and solidify that relations That relationship is important. Just I feel like my friendships are just as important as my relationship with my man. So absolutely so, I don't wanna, you know, I don't know. You know, I ain't got no man. Maybe if I get a big guy might change my mind. Bit I don't know.

We might not even see your ass that you're getting a super healthy relationship. Ain't nobody gonna see that, but anybody like a Honestly, when you're in a super healthy, healthy relationship, you spend a lot of time with that person anyway outside of your friends. So once you do come with your friends, I'm not gonna just up and lead because you call to on what you're doing. I ain't having fun without you, nigga. Well turn on something on the TV. I'll be back. Yeah. I like to

be on the couch with a man too. I love that. But if I choose to be with my friends, and that's where I'm mad till it's done, because they're important in my life too. And she told about all right, if you're in the club, TI, I think, just don't come with no dick, though I can't actually already told you it's a problem. I do not want to make love in the club with a bit. Whyever, why you gotta make love on time? Let that man go to sleep. You'll be there when you get there. No wake him

up when you get home. Let him cater to you like uh, when I come home, they take you on your shoulder, you roll over. Let that nigga do that. All right, y'all, let's pay some bills. We'll be right back. Okay, We're done talking about men for the day, y'all. I'm done talking about I thought you said he was done. I said I was done having sex with two. But you're getting all meals, dope calling all meals now you know,

I'm just chilling for real, I don't wanna. I mean, I feel like I have to talk about that as against since I got this show, but I ain't got the funk with him period. That's it. That's it, you need to break. Let's talk about something outside of these niggas, and let's talk about chasing your dream. We all got a dream, especially, I feel like as Americans were afforded a life where we get to dream some places they don't even I don't even know kids talk about having

dreams or go you know, ship like that. So I found this list of ten mistakes to avoid when chasing your dream. Think this is something good to be to share with our listeners, right yeah, hell yeah, because we all had chasing dreams right right right now. So the

first thing is letting discouragement overwhelmed you. Now, I know I've done that where I feel like somebody are like try to play whatever I'm talking about or what I think about, or like say somebody already doing that, Like I want to start this bread company, bitch, everybody's selling bread, you know, not down got this bread you have to have? But I have had, like been discouraged by some something simple. Is that something to somebody said, or there inability to

think big? Have you? Um? Of course? Yeah, you know I've been writing a book literally for a decade, and and you know I have intro, I got a couple of chapters writ and any time, like I have sent something to somebody, if they don't respond in a certain way, I get discouraged. Yeah is it not good? We'll get in your head. Yes, Like I'm like, damn it is it not good? Or what you ain't read? What I read? I thought it was fired. But we gotta stop doing that. Ship.

Don't let discouragement overwhelm you. It's a part of the process. So it says, take the risks. Are you going to be scared? Yes, you'll be petrified. Remember it's going to It's not going to be a straight path. Take many steps and be consistent with your work. Even if you don't reach the goal you said, you'll learn, grow and perhaps even find new opportunities through the process of stretching yourself, believing yourself and the possibility of your dreams coming true.

Without letting discouragement rob you of the faith you have in yourself. Boom So number two, denying your currents that wuation hold on. Let us go back to one, because you know, sometimes people be having more faith in me than I actually having myself and that motivates me and that's okay too, and that's great to have those kind of people. Like people think I'm a super superhuman. Sometimes I'd be like, yeah, that's me, and then in real life I'm like, man, I'm fucking lazy, and well, hold on,

I miss a little piece. They said something about being consistent. That's my problem. Consistency. That's a lot. You're not alone. The world is a lot of us in that boat. It's definitely like I'm being honest with myself and y'all today, y'all. Number two, denying your current situation. If your current situation is not not ideal, don't live in the now. If you do, you won't be able to deal with the obstacles you're currently facing. Doing nothing won't change your situation

or bring you any closer to your dreams. Before long, you will hit the wall and crash and possibly fall into a depression boom. Instead, they're talking to you, me, everybody listening, all right. Instead, accept the situation you're in and the word toward change and work towards changing it. You have more power than you realize. Trust and believe in yourself, however small the change happens. Be grateful, Yes, gratitude M that's the number one thing. Yep. Yeah. The

work is the process. You know people always be waiting for like the finishing product, But the finishing like it's actually the process while you're going through it. Right, you know what I'm saying. It's no ending, right that the whole ship. It's a journey. Yeah. Yes. So three Dwelling on the past, that's my problem. I love there me too. Listen to this. Holding onto a painful past will fill you with doubts when you're trying to pursue your dreams.

You won't be able to handle obstacles that arise, and you'll spend your energy on worries and regret. You'll be afraid to make decisions because of the past, because of past experiences, you'll hold yourself back from claiming opportunities when they arise. So let the past be gone, but cling to the good memories, and when things are rocky, look at the past and smile. Let the bad be a learning experience. Let learning produce growth, and let growth bring you closer to your goal. MM. Hmm. So I am,

and I can admit this. I am a bit pessimistic. I dwell match. I remember one day I was on the phone with my friend and she was like, I'm like asking for feedback on the ship that I'm talking right, And she was like, you know, you've told me this like a lot of times, because in order to tell you the current situation, I got to go back and tell you all the ship. You know, a chronicle, right, Yes,

how I got to this place. But what you're doing is, if it's trauma that you experienced in during this conversation, you reliving it over and over again. So not don't not not talk about it. You gotta talk about the things, but you gotta forgive yourself if you got to forgive somebody else. Do that my problem. I do hold grudges, and I know that about myself, i'd be holding grudges, but I feel like, um, I'm working on it. I I have released a lot of anguish behind certain situations

because I did feel like it was hindering me. And that's the process too, because you know, maybe I wanted to smack the motherfuckering and I didn't get the opportunity to. Now I'm mad about it still, all the examples you could that was the way you regret not smacking that nigger. It wasn't about a man. Okay, look waiting So I read something yesterday about letting the past hurts of your life just be like water between your fingers and once

it rolls through, it's gone forever. You can't bring it back. And just let it go. Yeah, I think people, period, we need to be more like water and just float and just move and just you know, ship, ship gonna happen, right. Roll with the punches, like literally, I think we as black people roll with the punches more than anybody, though you don't think so, yes, but probably not as far as be too many punches, man mental health is concerned, we probably could be better. But we also laugh at things.

So that's that's a little people trying to take laughter away from you, Like you can't laugh, you're not allowed to laugh at anybody else's problems. But this should be funny sometimes, Like if we can't, like, that's what make I know I laugh at all? Ship? I all got no business laughing at all the time. Yeah, I mean that's the part, Like, I mean, you know, it's just

not funny when it's your goal. Right when they're be talking like because I know, like right here on my temple, my edges is kind of thing right here, and biggest make edges jokes, I'll be mad, motherfuck you, motherfucker, I met your mama, ball headed to bitch Jesus all that, and then that ain't funny. No edge shaman, didn't no edge shaming. Right. But when it's something else, when we talk about like a bigger impotent and somebody cutting jokes about that, I'll be in there, like you don't laugh

at hardness town, Yo, you're so stupid. Let me relax. Number four. We can't take ship serious. Like, yeah, me neither. I'm childish, okay for life procrastin nyting number four, Let me say that again, talking about me like that, procrastinating procrastinating, Yeah, for y'all in the back. Look, I don't even do the ship i'd be wanting to do. It's really bad. When you don't do ship that you actually want to do. You're not alone. It's a lot of us, all right.

So it says time wasted cannot be recovered. It's just like a river. Once you touch the water flowing past you, it will never flow back towards you again. Do what you're supposed to do when it's supposed to be done. Okay, So at the beginning of this year, I was saying, I am going to do what I say I'm gonna do, right, because when somebody asked something of me, I always show up for them, like, no matter what it is, Like I mean, if I don't want to do some shot,

I don't have to know it's a completely statement. I'm not gared to tell anybody no. But I usually show up for other people before I show up for myself. So what if you do that for yourself though, whatever you say you're gonna do, do it. That's how you get things done daily, even if you know maybe you need to write it down, Like I feel like I might need to start writing down things I need to do.

That's always gonna tell you. I'm gonna start updating our calendar so we can have actual goals pitized exactly, Like that's gonna that's how we're gonna get to our goals, writing them down, seeing them, visualizing them. You know, even if you got to do um, this is the first year I ever did vision board. Yeah, well, You're always finishing my damn senses because I know your head. Look, this is the first year I ever did a vision board, and I got it as a screen saver on my phone.

However unrealistic it may, it may be whatever you want in life. Put that ship on what's unrealistic for you? But you dog, let me tell you what the funk on there? I do have some unrealistic Why do you like it's unrealistic? What's the nigga from Lovecraft Country? The actor? Oh that the one with the real wide knows that nigga find his Hell, yes, he on your vision board? Who says you can't have him? Bitch? Look I could probably have him or someone that looks like him. Jonathan

Majors Jonathan Major's I want him. I think he's um. He's in this movie with coming out with Um Michael Michael B. Jordan's both of them in a movie together. Yes, like, yeah, he has out there with his shirt off, and I don't know what was going on, but I knew that I was gonna see that movie as soon as it came out. Oh, he just looks so godly and like he just looked like a protector mad manly I just know God is real when I look at him. Why Bell Pepper, Nicknos got it? Hell yeah, but I got

that grown man. Oh my god, damn VISI your board. I don't see I don't see the problem. I don't see what's I'm realistic. He's just another human man. Thank you, fan. Alright, so let's hit the next one. Neglecting your body. Don't forever forget to take care of your body. Treat it like a temple. If you don't, you will get sick mentally and physically, and this will prevent you from working

towards your goal. However, har are you working? Take time off to exercise, and don't forget to eat healthy foods. Don't starve yourself. Don't don't forget to pray. It will nourish your soul and give you inner peace. Take care of your body's guys, you know exactly. So I mean, I feel like all of these things kind of running again. I know, were only on the fifth topic anyway, But

buy some nice gym clothes. If you trying to lose weight, you wanna go to the gym, Buy some nice gym clothes that kind of motivates you to go to the gym when you're looking good in the gym too, Like it's just you know, yeah, I don't be up that big, stretched out white T shirt shirt. But you know what, if that's all you got to wear a bit, go in there and get in shape and whatever. That too, but yeah that too. But if you can get you some cute stuff, get you some cute stuff that do

make you feel better. But I definitely better playing fitness. I got in the best shape of my life in a big gass Planet Fitness T shirt. I made sure I was covered up. I didn't even want to be bothered by nobody. Girl, I'm at one time I was so serious, Oh my goddamn health. I was wearing those uh like the plastic like I can't stand right? Yes, and get extra fine? And what happened after you get extra fine? Get you stop stop doing all the things that led you to get an extra because it has

to be a lifestyle change, and that's the hard part. Yep, yep. So take care of your diet, make sure you're eating the right foods. I know, listen and introduced that ship to your kids early, man, so they grow up with it already as a lifestyle. Because I wasn't raised in a household where people was exercising. Yeah, so then now when you get to be an adult, it's like a real like yeah, you gotta reset and it's hard. What

was I about to say about the diet? So yeah, I don't eat meat like that, right, So y'all see chicken is like, well how much chicken? Like fifty dollars a pack? Now, y'all niggas don't want to stop eating meat yet? Lap cholds like sixty dollars? What else you'll be in the ox tails? All right? Now, I was like eight dollars, Well, box lock still mean Hamburg and me all that stuff is expensive. I got an our stale meal from this restaurant. It was twenty eight dollars

from the Jamaican spot. That was a live half a box of rice, half the boxes full with mother fucking bes a raise and three our sales on there for twenty dollars. Like man, so I'm I'm I'm planning on starting me a garden where boy, I just really like, I don't know if y'all been paying attention to logistics like the truckers and stuff like that. Uh, paying attention was going on with Mexico and stuff. Have you noticed that your fruits and vegetables be getting going bad real fast.

That's because they've probably been sitting on the highway in a fucking truck for a week before it even got to your local grocery store. So we're about to be at the point where we need to be growing our own food. So I've been looking for like a local um somebody I could buy like um seedlings like it was kind of already sprouted, because I mean, I've never I can't make it grow. I'm gonna just be honest, and I really be trying because I feel I feel like it's on a real live my mama makes it grow,

and I feel like it's her. Shut up, you're so there, stupid, not in that way. Yes, I could definitely make it grow. I can't grow hair ex definitely in that spot right here, people here. But my playing, I bought me a money playing that ship is dead. Whole Food's got him on sale right now. That's what I'm gonna go buy another one. That's where I got first. I want to get me some seedlings, man, I want to get me some seedlings and start a little garden. Take your vitamins. Get a

multi vita is good for your body. Chlorophylla, how do you feel about I do chlorophy Yeah, I do, black seed oil? Ye? What about colodo, colodial silver. I don't know if I'm saying that right. Yeah, I haven't purchased any of that. I do. I do use that, but if y'all don't know a lot about it, someone told me to start taking it, and I trust her, so I did so last well not last week. Two weeks ago. I did go get some botox are die sport whatever

in my forehead and it didn't take. But I did go. No, it didn't like you can't see me for real, girl, I just saw you the other day. Well it's right, it's back regular now. So it didn't take. All I got is two extra pimples on my dad in forehead. But I bought. The last vitamin I bought was M S. M. Y'all can go research this. It's real good for your joints, your hair, your skin. It helps with the like elasticity

um in your skin. Like. It's a good a good vitamin to add to you um, you know, your regiment. Just to put that out there and M S. And Mama, Sierra, Mama, Okay, check that out. Thank you for all right. Back to our list. Number six waiting for help to chase you. M knock all like asking for help. Most people don't, so knock on doors. Will doors be shut on you? Sure? More than you can count. Sometimes we ask for help anticipating get in our way. Sorry, it doesn't work that way.

If doors closed, go in through the window. If that means changing the course of your plan, please do so. Change will not mean losing your dream. So y'all, don't be afraid to need help because you never know who might want to support your ship and get help you get to the next level. Yep. Number seven, taking it personally when people judge you. That one is huge for me.

I don't be giving up, not not just random people, like when we have Yeah, yeah, it's the people I care about or their opinions I feel like I care about. That's when I'll be feeling away, Like when it's just even though I love all y'all listening to the show and one of your motherfucker's in the comments like Tam Bam is fucking stupid and I hate what she has

to say, I'd be like you don't care. I don't care how you know, but but it is someone that I admire, our love, and they passed judgment on me. I do take it very personally. So it says here they will judge you by how you look, what you eat, how you live. When people judge, it has more to do with their own fears and insecurities than you. Turn a deaf ear to these judgments. Feel proud of the

journey you're taking. Okay, I got a quick story. So a couple of weeks ago, my ex UH sent me a text message and he said, I saw an old picture of you today. Man, I'm sorry. Like what. It's a whole long ass message, but essentially what he was saying was to me, how I interpret it. You saw an old picture of me made at that point I had been chunky a J, skinny a J. Whatever. You

know what I'm saying. So basically, you're using that image to justify how I responded in the past to you being nasty to me, as if I had the problem when somebody says crazy ship to you, and it definitely has more to do with them than you. He said, I saw a picture of you. I'm sorry. Yeah, Like he said, I'm sorry, man, like as if he didn't understand why I would trip about certain things. It was because of his fucking at picture. You know how many

skinny pictures I got, how many fat pictures I got? Like, what are we talking about? I was soused by and look but listen. But you know, I'm always on the diet. I'm always like trying to be as conscious as I can about my health. That's saying, like me, not that same day, A couple of days later, you drove down here and dropped chocolate on my on my porch. Why are you trying to sabotage me? Like you dropped all the chocolate shit, I like chocolate cupped almonds, Uh, those

little um little chocolates with the gold sht around it. Like, why the funk would you bring that after telling me that you saw a fucking fat picture in me somewhere, gir, I wouldn't eat nothing that that nigga tearing them almonds up. So that's the thing. You always say you on a diet. You ain't always on a diet. And that's what I'm saying, Like, I feel like he was trying to sabotage me because the flesh is weak and in my myrob. I love sweets, I love love love fresh Big Goods and J J B.

This dessert, I don't know, it's not American. I don't know where the fun she gets this world. But it looked like a fucking football with a line of icing down the middle. Right, what the fund is that? Like? Where is that? Friend? That it's from the Asian market in Charlotte, from Super g Mart. They got like an Asian bakery in there, girl, Like you know all the motherfucker's sets. It's all a good faction. I love it. I love that. I listen, I love bread man. That's

a problem. Like I feel like I started eating more bread when I stopped eating me. That's very common though, ause you know, like a lot of people who are vegans or vegetarians, they are on the thicker side because they eat more cars to substitute for what they're probably missing with meat. Yeah, so I took that text very personally. Child, if a whole weekend up, don't let that nigga your weekend up. My whole weekend, girl, Like I'm just I woke up feeling like I'm that bitch and then I

get like a damn long ass fucking text message. Yeah, but I feel like what you're doing right now is number eight and that's what I'm about to cut you off so you can hear it. Number eight. Dwelling on the negative. It is impossible to only focus on the positive, But dwelling on the negative all the time is like a bomb waiting to explode. Your thoughts will hold you hostage from making progress, progress, and your mind will be

filled with doubt. Allow yourself to feel the negative prior you have to, but don't let it take over you. Releasing your negative feelings will leave you at peace, and you will be able to focus on the positive even in tough times. A positive attitude will help you decide the best strategy for achieving your goals. So let the nigga roll like the water two in your fingers. Fuck him and everything he had to say about you and your old pictures, fuck them all pictures. However you look,

you look like how you look right now. You find this healthfor period period. So my mom said, stop saying period. So right, she said, stop saying that period. But meditation,

that's what I got out of that. Meditation will help you not dwell on negative things because your mind just be so clear, and you know when the negative thing does come, I guess it's like really like you have to really practice, you have to really practice dodging negative ship, you know what I'm saying, Like me, may it just be like, okay, out of out of a day, right, you got two negative things. If you just discard and ignored one of them, you did good. Okay, you did good.

But if you if you find a way to focus on all the positive things that happened. I don't know how we let the negative ship be more important than the positive ship that happens to I think it's because I think it's just this realm that we're on. This world is negative. The world we're living, we're living in is negative. So I think when you have negative thoughts they manifest quicker because we're in a negative fucking universe. Like shit is negative in this world. See that. I

don't feel that way. I don't. I mean, I feel like there's a lot of negative in this world, but I feel like equally there is goodness in this world, and that's what I focus on. I don't focus on that. I don't get you know, there's a lot of good people are like you are a great person. Do you know that? Sometimes, like more more times than not, you're a great person. Thank you for YouTube. No, I've I've been meditating, and I really feel like i'd be opening

up my third eye, y'all. Now, I wasn't gonna tell you all this because I ain't what y'all know. Y'all be like, bit you ain't got by two eyes. But I really do be like i'd be feeling like like this. I mean, it made me, Yeah, it makes me cry. I'll be in there and I'll have, you know, my eyes closed and I'll just be sitting and I don't even have like the sounds from outside, just whatever is, maybe not so much music, but just whatever is around

me can just be whatever it is. And I'd really be feeling like I have like this white light that starts shining really really brightly over me. No, lie, y'all, I'd be feeling it, and it'll just feel like even if there's a light in the room. Maybe I don't know because my eyes are closed, but it feels like it just got so much brighter for whatever reason, and you start seeing without dark, you wouldn't know what light is.

And that's what you're seeing what do you mean, without the darkness, you wouldn't even know what light is, right, So what your eyes closed like that and you're seeing that white light like that's the healing. And I can see it and it just gets so bright and overwhelming. And then like everything that I hear is like it exists in it don't exist at the same time, like

I don't even know how to describe it. But it's just so yourphoric and I and I'll be like so overwhelmed with gratitude and just so overcome with gratefulness and I just start crying and ship. She is magical. So if y'all don't meditate, y'all should start. It's hard for people to meditate. It's hard to get out your thoughts with your eyes closed. Just do five minutes a day. Start with one minute and literally you don't even have to close your eyes sometimes, Like sometimes I don't even

close my eyes to meditated. My I be wide open, right and just like but my brain is focused. I typically have my eyes closed every time. I don't think I've ever had that that exact feeling that I'm talking about. I've only felt it three times in my life and every time I felt it, my eyes were definitely closed. But I know, like, wait, monks they definitely meditate where their eyes open too, yep, and they do chance. Have you ever tried doing chance and stuff like that? You

can download them on like on. The only chance I ever do is when I'm mad at the nigga, I'd be like, Nambyo holdering yo. But you think that's gonna curse episode, I don't know. That's just our seen team to do it. I'd be like, I'm about to get start, but that's not what. That's numb your whole right, niggas alright, never die. Comparing yourself to others This is another huge one. Let me say it again. Comparing yourself to others. Comparison leads to jealousy and envy. It can kill friendships if

it's not tamed. Celebrate the success of others instead of being jealous. Let them know you admired them. Turn the focus on what you have instead of what you don't have, and be grateful for. So with social media culture and all that stuff, like, it's really easy for people to slip into the comparison mo. Right, you know what I'm saying, Like you comparing your life to somebody else's um but right, but not even I don't go ahead, I get motivated.

I guess when you see somebody doing well, either you're gonna hate on it or you're gonna appreciate it and being and be inspired. I'm going to be the latter. I'm always inspired when I see somebody else doing better than me or doing doing something like I'm inspiring to do. Like I'm motivated by that, you know, at all time, I'm I'm motivated when I see people doing better than me. But instead of feeling jealousy or envy, sometimes I feel like I'm not doing enough or I'm not enough, you know,

That's what I feel. I don't necessarily feel like, uh, why does she have that instid of me? Like I don't feel that ship I'll just you know, I'll just feel like I have this bad feeling about myself, like why ain't not enough? I felt. I don't feel like that now, but I felt that way. Like when I see somebody having something that I want that I don't have yet, I don't never feel like fuck her with her? Na. Man, When I see somebody, it's always confirmation for me that

I can do that. Too. That's just that's just all it is. It's confirmation for me that it can be done right now. But when I was younger and all I would I would doubt the doubt with that, would that that's what would happen when I compared myself to others, it would be self doubt instead of jealousy and yvy not so much no more. Yeah, stop comparing yourself to people, especially Instagram people. You'll don't know what the hell least people because a lot of that, Yeah, they're living in debt,

you know what I'm saying. They living off credit cards. There's nothing wrong with that. Ship. I don't want to put nothing in my personal name either, but they're not they're not living what y'all see. A lot of them are on the Graham keeping up with the Jones is address up for y'all, ass and they're the Graham. Life is more important than the real actual existence. And that's not cool. I listen. I'm definitely and it. Y'all bitches done did this before too. Y'all have been out with

someone and y'all just sitting there is boring. And when they pull out their phone and start recording, you're like, yeah, like you're having a good time, but you really ain't. As soon as the camera go away, y'all go back to not doing ship. As soon as my man call my man, my man. That's so is my nigga call him out? So, yes, don't do that. That's like, that's comparison. Is a dream killer, yes, and it's really detrimental to your mental health. You are enough, Your dreams are good enough.

What you wanna be is good enough. If you want to funk with that nigga, Major's the Major's nigga. You can funk with him if you want. Like these are, you can have everything you want. No, I'm not saying I can't funk with that nigga. I know it's attainable, But will I ever run into this nigger manifest? It he on the board look a lot along with this ocean front mansion, right, and you can have that too. And Barbados because that's where I'm going and you can

have that too. Yeah, anybody listening, you can have the things you want to. Just go get it. I believe in you, alright. Number ten trying to get approval for your dream. Your dream is a vehicle and you're the driver. Don't let the passengers map the road for you. Stop trying to win over the people who don't believe and you and criticize you. Only seek help from those who support your mission and encourage you because they will cheer you along the way. That's period. Oh let me finish this.

Hold fast here, dream, Get up to fight the storms, keep the banners shining, never give up, and never get in. Stand up and face that fear. Baby, your dream is counting on you. Do you believe you can pursue it? And all as long as you can believe it, you can't have it. Y'all. This is written by a black woman and Davis this tiny Buddha dot com. Right, thank you and Davis. This was a dobe little article for us to share with our lists. I'm gonna reread it

later because you can't read neither. I bet sure I read that good, did y'all understand? Y'all? Listen? Hit us up if y'all think I read that good, because she'd be getting on my ass. I listen, I can admit that I can't read. Girl will steal me a three, y'all. I gotta dream no more, no aj to read this. Let me tell you. But if I sit down and write some shing, baby, you're gonna think. You're gonna think I don't know whoever wrote that ship. You're gonna thank

somebody for real wrote this job. I got time to concentrate. Well, if y'all couldn't understand what the funk I said, then y'all could go read it yourself. A tiny boodha dot com um uh in the article is ten mistakes to avoid when chasing your dream by and Davis'll check it out.

Ye go look back at it when you're feeling discouraged. Yeah, I mean we all can to see this put into words, it's dope right right, because these are all the all the things, the mental language, the different procrastinating, all these different things we go through. But you don't really put a label on it when we're doing it right. But this makes you um each time you read something, I just thought about what the hell I'm doing right in your own life? That aligns within him? Yeah, absolutely, as

a lot of changes, a lot of changes can be made. Yeah, I know, I'm full of ship. I've been working on it. Yeah, we all learned, we all full and and look the first step to recovery is admitting that ship. Okay, that's why I can definite. Then I wanted to say the Future said that he's not toxic. It's the women that he was dating. You've seen that. He said, yeah, he said they're all toxic towards him. And that's what I thought about, the first step admitting the problem. And it

ain't everybody else. Now they might have a hand having seven other women, they might have a hand in it, but god damn it, where is the accountability If y'all know we're talking about just right quick, this is so off topic from dollars great ship we just shared and here we go ending the great ship and not even talk about that. I want talk about it right quick now. I will talk about that next week, because you know I love to hate future ass But this is the

one word that stuck out. So he did an interview with Julia Fox right. The one world word that stuck out was girl. She'd asked him if he if he wanted more kids, and he said, yeah, if I get married, I want like three more because because I've never had more than one child with the same girl, the same you. He's childish. He's just childish, the same girl I mean, that may not be a big thing, but it's a woman. These are grown women lives you're playing with. The kids

are girls, these are grown adult women. You're a grown adult man making these fucking childish ass and steaks over and over again. Maybe he's thinking a boy, Maybe he thinking he's only speaking in terms of gender and not, but there's probably like some underlying That's what I'm and that's what I'm picking up on. Are you picking up what I'm dropping, because that's exactly what I'm saying. Like he needs to grow up. That's just it. There's no way y'all think we want um a Russell future over

Russell Wilson type man. No way, but there are. But now I don't think in a serious way. Right, How old is that young girl he was dating? Girl? Yes, she's in her early twenties. You know what I'm saying. I'm so proud of her for not getting pregnant by him, and and um and who else the one before that, Um, the one that's with Michael B. Jordan. Now, young women, they're getting smart. These are young women, you know, grow up, stand up, stand So So now, just to get back

on topic, y'all, I think everybody should check out this article. UM, me and Tam, we just wanted to do something a little bit different aside from talking about these niggas. We still ended up talking about these niggas, but it's cool, Like, I love these men, but we got a lot of goals we're trying to share for this, for the show, for our personal lives. Um and I feel like for us this article and it helps us with business and

it helps us in our personal life as well. Yeah, definitely hit home and I hope it hit home for some of y'all too, And I hope it helps you to be motivated and encouraged to go receise goals, ladies and gentlemen. Yes, check your diet, checking mental health, check your thoughts, get them thoughts together, man, meditate, pray, eat clean. You are what you think is and you are what you eat, and you are who you beat. So watch the penis that you're consuming to all of that, Yes, Saddy,

so listen. If you guys enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday on the I Heart radio app boy Ever to fun. You get your podcast at. This is your co host aj Holiday two point oh holla, and it's me official tam ma'am on Instagram. Y'all follow me please. I love y'all. See y'all next time. God Willing deuces Fye