Talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks back the relationship. And I definitely used to call it nigga, a son of a bitch and he used to get so good as his mom had passed dumb. No, never, I was never calling him you know, he was really taking it first, almost like are you talking about my mama like that? I'm not talking about your mama. Son of a bitch isn't like it? But
what is the son of a bitch? Though him? But so his mama is a bit so that's why he takes especially if he at these Okay, all right, yeah, now if we want to talk literal, but we're not talking literal of them. Are women having problems from these men?
You see what I'm saying because they were raised by But that's the thing where I have I have dealt with women over the years who have told me like I wasn't emotional, I didn't get mad about certain things, like oh, show me some emotion, like I had women like purposely try to send me exactly they sure do, like they'll call me a bitch ass nigga to get me the show emotion. And when I almost punched the ship out of you. Then I'm a bit your ass nigga.
You know what I'm saying, Like, I'm like, come on now, nigga, exactly. But but and just for the record, I have never ever hit a woman that I have dated in my entire data women you haven't dated, maybe one. But she had got super disrespectful with my mama and my mama house and were family. We were all family. We moved past it. It was all with it, you know. But you know, I mean her brother would have stole off for me, you know what I'm saying, or stole off
on my sister if I said that, you know. But we all families, so we all have just completely moved past it. Yeah we Yeah, we are definitely patched that up. But I've never, out of anger like hit a woman. I've never felt the need to. And I feel like that's because I always feel like I'm the prize. So like, I bit, call me whatever you want to say, go out here with these other niggas and you don't see that you're gonna get worse. You can call me whatever you want to try to get me mad, call me
a whole ass nigga. Bit I just know that I know, thank you. I'm glad you don't. But I just know that the niggas out here ain't ship, and you're gonna go out here and you're gonna get one of them. I feel like we say that a man. I don't look, I don't say nothing. I just say. I just say. I just say, choose better. I always tell you something good men, so I say, but I also know a lot of terrible I know, I know a lot of
terrible men relationship wise. Now, I would definitely say as far as relationship goes, I feel like ninety percent of the men are bad for relationships. When we talk about good people, good fathers, I feel like easily seventy or I feel like of all men are good, genuinely good hearted and are good will will be good fathers and given the opportunity. But I just feel like a lot of men who are quote unquote debbie dads, they suffer
from bad advice. Because I remember when I whenever I when I was going through my custody situation, so many of my my homies were like, man that ship, for that ship, Man, pay pay your child support, let her do. I'm like, pay my child supporting. Just let her do whatever. When your son get old enough, just explain to that you're gonna get to a point here, gonna want to know his daddy. Then you could tell him about his mama.
You won't eventually see all that. Bro, you want me to go fourteen years without fifteen when I see kids? Out of mind for a lot of men. So this is what I want you to say. How do how do we get that percent of? What can men do to get that? Of I feel like they I feel like they just I feel like they just don't know how to be good. But men or not been as
far as relationships, it's the same way with women. I feel like a lot of women of them are bad in relationships because they just don't know what a good relationship looks like. We don't don't have we don't like a lot of a lot of I mean, let's just be honest with you. We could we could get into we can just go into systemic racism. We can go into just the overall things that society has done to the black family on purpose to divide us. We could
we could get into that. But we most of us know these things, but without these positive images out there of a black family. You know, it's hard for anybody to really emulate anything. So do you think that a man that doesn't take care of his kids, do you think that man should have any friends or should he be ostracized in the community, Should he have any friends?
I don't think. I don't. I think that more men need to step up because I always say, there's women, we be having lunches, brunches, conferences, all these different things, so we could sit down and talk about our bullshit. But men you'll claim you have nobody to talk to. And if there's a good man, if there's a man who's a self complaim good man, you need to reach out to these niggas who ain't doing ship and speak to them and talk to them, and then it won't
always look like it's the woman fashion these men. You see what I'm saying. We need more help from the good men. The quote unquote good men need to reach back to the other men who are struggling, who just have a group of surrounded by a bunch of a lot of men don't be receptive. So I would say, from my experience, I get a lot of young men in my inbox texting me demming me whatever on the
regular basis who want me to mentor them. But I know that I'm an exception to the rule in a lot of ways because a lot of these niggas just be old men. They don't be o G s. I know I'm an o G. I try to get the best advice. I know. I was raised by by real o gs who gave me great advice. But then I know a lot of my friends sometimes to give me bad advice. But because I know that y'all are just my friends, y'all really gonna be on my side. A lot of times. I do talk to the o G s.
I have brothers, I have uncles, cousins. I have a lot of people who are able to sort of get me and check you know what I'm saying. And I associate with people who are like me. I don't go and associate with people who aren't like me. Like I said earlier, a lot of these men, they try to level up. If they see a nigga with jury, they see a nigga with women, he automatically becomes big Bro. They don't look at his character, don't look at his morals,
don't look at his values. Big Bro bib. But a lot of look, a lot of them be straight clowns. They just got money, you know what I'm saying. And a lot of these niggas want to want money too, so they're big bro to death thinking they're about to get some opportunities to some money. And let's be clear, niggas like niggas with money. To be clear, of course, you know what I'm saying, nigga, No, seriously, nobody likes a broken nigger. Ben women know that nobody does, um,
and that's that's just real. But I have embraced the fact that I'm older. I've embraced the fact that I have a lot of knowledge. I embraced the fact that you know, Um, I come from a background that has taught me to be smart. It was cool to be smart, it was cool to be on point. But I do know a lot of people don't have that, you know, Like I feel like a lot of people who come from that type of background, they fight their whole lives
to be street niggas. And you've got a lot of these old, these old people who are supposed to be o g s who try to act like the young niggas. They want to live vicariously through the through the young niggas, and like, bro, like just accept the fact you're you're thirty fives and up. You should be transitioning, you know, Like like these niggas are not transitioning, like they want to be young niggas, no growth whatsoever. I've always wanted to grow. But I always know that I come from
a different background. I'm always being pushed, I'm always being challenged. Like I understand that I'm different. I knew. So you know, you don't have any friends that don't have no relationship with their kids. I have like some that have strained the relationships with their kids, and and and a lot of times when I came in, the relationship was already strained. But I always try to let them know, like, bro, you know, the court system is here for you. Like
they will argue with their baby mamas. I hear them on the phone arguing with their baby mamas, and they try to work everything out with their baby mamas. A lot of these dudes have you know, charges that may be on probation. But like dam I own want them crackers in my business, Bro, I don't want them just at the third But I always try to let them know, like, bro handle whatever legal issues you have and go and get a nigger fresh out of jail, gonna get two
days a week with his child. That's just all is to it. But I feel like a lot of people, including women and men, both the children really aren't the issue. They want each other. They're so bitter towards each other that the children, not always, it's not always, but the children are just paused because remember they didn't want the children at first, that they didn't sit down and playing
out having children. They wanted to be together. And they got so wrapped up in each other that the nigger wasn't pulling out or the girl didn't get up whenever he said, get up off and get upout for getting product. So they went so love with each other. The kid was just a product of it. The kid was never supposed to be here. You see what I'm saying, Many of us, like many of us, you know what I'm saying.
I mean, I can't say with me because my days were married, but my mom definitely said I wasn't supposed to be married. Married, my mom said, and my dad my mom said, your dad was done at three, Like I had to hide your pregnancy from him for the longest until you know, he just got to the point where I couldn't hide it no more and he was pissed. He was like like the four ye the fourth. So yeah,
I do understand that. You know, a lot of the children weren't meant to be here, and a lot of times people are just navigating parenthood without proper role models and with kids that they really didn't first the first place. They wanted the other person. So now both are using the kids. And for the most hard, a man can be with a woman and really just I mean a man cannot be with a women really just want to be a dad. Men can do that. Yeah, yeah, bitch, were cool and all, but yeah, I want to see
my son. For the most part, women when they have kids, they go into a family mode, and the family includes the child and the dad. So it takes a long time for them to just settle for the fact that I'm a single parent and it's not gonna work single excuse me a parent that's single. I'm a parent that's single. Or when they finally get over the dude, now they want the family so bad that they're trying to create the family with other men who really aren't worthy of
being in the family. You know what I'm saying. So, and I've been in that predicament before. I have so many women who tell me my most attractive quality is the fact I'm a good father. They're like, that is your most attractive quality. You're attractive in other ways, but that right there. Run it from you money. But how does that make you feel knowing that you don't want kids outside of marriage? Um, he don't want no more
babies at this point period? No, No, I could, I could, I could do another one, but my but the window is closing. That's what we're talking about, closing. I don't want to. I don't want to be fifty with a tom closing or closed. You said, I want you to marry a woman who already had kids, I would how old? Um, they would at least have to be four or five
or better. Job symbol, daddy, chuck, give me a dollar any problem, especially if she got a daughter, come in, baby, got two boys, come in, Daddy got you, Cody got you? But but no. So the only reason why I put an age in limit on the kids is because when the kids are a certain age and my daddy depend no, because I want to catch them young. So they don't say that can you catch them either? They're like yo, yo, yo, you can't take me to the studio. I know, well,
be with all the celebrity rapp ship. You know young dolf, you know the baby, you know that you can't take it. So but what's wrong with that? Sometimes you know what I'm saying. But um, when they're that young, they're still a little bit of an attachment between the mom and dad. So you gotta be as you you got two or three month oh, because even if even if, like I said, a man can be detached and just want to be
a dad. But that woman is gonna get you. Hell, the woman gonna the first woman after don't be the don't be the first woman after don't do not know even the second or the third, the first get up there and the numbers. Now, she's just another bitch. Last one didn't last long either, you know, the last mama