Ep. 52 "Coming To America" feat. Daylor

I just kinda laid around in the house and relaxed all weekend. I did not step out for nothing. I tried. On Saturday, me and my best friend went out to try to get some drinks, but they wouldn't let us in because she had on the hat. So we just went home. It's cold outside because she had on the hat. Yeah, it was a real swinky place. Well they think they're swinky. What kind of hat? She just had? All that she had on the dad cap? It was designer? What the fun?

They wouldn't let her in and she was not taking off. But I don't think they lead people in with hats on. Honestly, it wasn't. You're sure because you Charlotte is known for that type of ship. They usually they I remember back in the day they used to have a quota on how many black women and black people they was letting the club and ship like that. Yeah, honestly, this is a place I frequent and I really feel like people can't come in with hats on. But I might be wrong.

It might be some on some discrimination ship. But I don't want to put that out there because I do like the place and I had an attitude, so it's probably best that we wouldn't here. But you had an attitude with him at the door. I just had an attitude with everybody. I was horny and I ain't had no dick oh year, and I don't need the girl, and I just had a bad attitude with a bitch at the door with my home girl. I was meaning

everybody that day. So I apologize to everybody. I'm debating on rather than not I'm gona be smashing this year or not if I find a If I find a nice husband this year, maybe yeah, the same. I want to man, I don't want to just random ah, unconditional penis. I want some conditions on the Dick this year, but I don't do ship. I finished writing up my little goals for the year, which Dick ain't on the list, and it's whatever I'm good with. That said a husband.

You gotta put that on the list if that's what you want. It's just okay, I was having this conversation with somebody. It's not that I'm not you know what I'm saying. It's not like that's not a goal of mine. It's just not my focus. I feel like if I focus on the things that I feel like I haven't been focused on the past, all those things will come with it. So I'm just not um. I'm open to all that ship. But you like me and love I

like feeling like that I'm never one of them. Bit just like stock Negers get money girl by okay, like it'd be cold and it winter time and I'm sick of going on trips and going back to the room with a bunch of bitches, right me too, I d P. I don't want I want somebody. I'm very dependent and I want Dick at the beach, just living my feminine energy and the taken care of to a certain extent. I can't let them they can fully take care of me because I just can't. I'm scared of that. But

they're beginning with side day self, y'all. Yeah, man, that's why. So what happened in the world. There was a lot of cars death over the weekends. Oh yeah, death and beef. Dang man. So Bob Saget passed away. They said they found um, um just uh, non responsive in his hotel room. He had just did a show, uh the night before. I believe it was a comedy show he did. He tweeted about it Sunday morning, and then he was found

in his hotel Sunday evening. Damn man, just like that. Yeah, so they're saying, you know, they haven't done autoxy and all that stuff, but he just, um, he just passed mm hmm. Then now you've seen those niggas that was on the boat in Brazil in a whole mountain fell in the water on top of them. Earth is tied it out, sucking asked, Okay, that's what's happening. Earth is like, you know what some of these motherfucker's need to go

know Earth, it's like how we are with COVID. We are a fucking infestation, uh, a sickness to the earth and it's swiping back. Yeah, you know they said last year when quarantine first, n I'm sorry, we forget about you know. And when COVID quarantine first started, like march

um throughout the summer, like earth was healing. They were saying, like smog in the air was, you know, decreasing all these different things just from a little period of time that humans couldn't move around the earth, right it started healing. Animals that we hadn't seen in a long time was coming out like damn, what the motherfucker's they are, Like,

we're back, baby, they're sick of us. And I don't blame them, like I really I'm one with nature, Like i'd be out here tree hugging and all type of ship bit you'll be hugging the trees. Yes, I talked to talked to in my house and I walked outside with those shoes. But that's because I'm from South Carolina. But but that's grounding. Not in the city. Not not in the city though, but in the country. I do walk outside without my shoes. You have to. You should

like you're wearing shoes blocks that energy from the earth. Yeah. Yeah, So I don't gonna be outside like hugging the trees talking to it and ship like weird. That's kind of weird to me. We got I want to see that? Could I record you doing that? One day? We got one of the oldest oak trees in the country here in Charleston, and you gotta see this thing. The way tree it probably was, but it's actually like the land that's on it was was owned by um a black family.

You know. They done came through and scoop that ship. Yeah, my family did a good hanging tree. But the branches, the trunks of the tree grow down to the ground, like you really can't hang anybody from it. The weak big no morbid. It's an angel oak tree. If anybody visits Charleston, South Carolina, is an angel oak tree on John's Island. It's really it's to see. Go see it, prey next to it. Man, sounds good to me. Pray for our ancestors who meant they demise on the angel tree.

Every time I go to Charleston in the battery, I just feel like I get a melancholy spirit when I go to like the that pink building that's like right in the center of it's like the market, and it's like a sign up that said, yeah, this is where we used to trade. You'll last set. Shut up, bitch. That is not true. It is it says it was. Well the city had tell you that they didn't really actually trade slaves at the market. But yeah, what they

was trading in goods. Yeah, and one of the largest ports and what were we consider listen to people that they were trading were already here. They were sitting out, asked to nearby islands and ship like that. That's what was really happening. That's why Chaluston apologized to slavery in because they did function to people who were already here. But apology, don't know, give me some money. Where's my reparation exactly that we need? They're still taking land. Behavior

is no, where's the money? Right? So now I don't know the people. What's that? What portion you'd be watching Portions TV show? Um, yeah, girl was rumbling. Did we talk about the fight? Yes, we did, Well, I know we were speculating rather than not her assignment were actually together, married and engaged whatever it is. But this nigga got her name tattooed. Is that girl in a whole spot too? I don't like when niggas get you know, that's like nigga tattooed my name on your neck side. It's real.

Put across your dick just runs. I'm joking. Don't don't tattoo your dick. That's not painful. I don't want no nigga listening. It's the only way I'm gonna ever get your name on me. You gotta die or I have to birth for you. And I'm still not getting your name. But those kids that grow up and disappoint your ass, that would be the only way. I'm not never. I used to get my boyfriend hen the tattooed on my titty though his name fake ass tattoo. Every two weeks

I go back to get it refreshed. No, you're not a lame you know girl? Fuck you? I love that nigga, but not forever, just temporary like the tattoo. Right. But I hope, I hope portion is really happy now. I need to get I need to be friends with them. I need to be friends with Sha because she seems like she's the fucking Africa Your husband whisper, and I just need to be in that little circle group. Why black women always feel like ship they just have all

these felt relationships with black men in there. Now you just want to get you African guy, mm hmmm, because we still want black men, that's the thing. But these Black Americans we want a different culture. But the thing is, if you go on, you want to be on clubhouse like that, like all the Africans that like live in Europe and ship like that. The men got the same typic complaints these niggas complain about us. The women got the same type of complaints about these men. So it's like,

are we really getting better treats going over there? Because listen, Africans, they come with their bullshit too. Yeah, for sure, I'm convinced that everybody comes with their bullshit. You just gotta figure out which bullshit you're willing to pull up put up with exactly. That's my thing. Like, nobody's gonna be perfect, but I gotta be able to tolerate your dumb ship. Like the minute I can tolerate your dumb ship no more,

the relationship is over. Well let's talk to African then, you see we're seeing was available, he got by thirty of them. You know what, I'm I'm all like my uh my roster slim these days. I look up and I ain't got no more. It's usually when you start entertaining one hole right then they all come back. It's like as soon as I started zoning in and zooming in on one man, now I got like fifty other niggas on my damn phone. What happened when I've been

doing ship, I had nothing going on, no action. It's like they got like some type of sensor like, oh she's happy with somebody, let me go fuck it up exactly. But look, let's go to commercial and we got a special guests coming. So look, y'all, I know a lot y'all beuti of these niggas out here, and black women always be like, you know what, I'm gonna get me a African? What do do African men even want? Y'all? Ass Like, first of all, they do, and they do. So we got what our friends on. We got Dailor

on the on the show this week. He is an African American, like a real one, right, you know, he's an African living in America. Nigga, you got don't you got you got your your ship though, right, are you not a citizen? Yeah? Yeah, well yeah yeah yeah yeah, So like that's the true African American. Like, I don't consider myself African American. Well where are you from? Right? Yes? Right? Yeah, you're talking with me on him a j You're not

African American. No, I'm just from Black American from Charleston, South Carolina. That's where the boats put them off. And hell no nigger. They was bringing people from Barbados and Bahamas basically anyway. Yeah, so we want to know, like y'all, y'all want to choose Africans, But do Africans want y'all last? Yeah, they want to girls he's talking about, right, Taylor, Well, no, you can't say that, I think. But I'm about to tell you to go to hell real early in the conversation.

You're trying to set me up. Listen, I don't want to get canceled before the first week of But no, I think it really depends on the person. I don't think that African mergans search out for American women, but you know we searched from African men though, right, why though, I do want to know why this this um I think it's a misconception, but I don't want to hear from your point. So one of my friends, he's African. He's older, he probably like in his fifties. Maybe he's

a doctor. And I remember, like the first time we hung out, he was like, yeah, American women, y'all baby black American men. But but then African men gotta pay the dudes. And I was like, it's like we may expect more out of other men as opposed to Black American men. I just my my, uh experience with African men. They're just very charming and doating. Like I didn't have to pick up a finger for ship. You know, when I was dating as African man, I couldn't take my

bags from the grocery store to the car. I couldn't walk from the grocery store to the car. He would have to pull it up. And he said he would be offended if I walked in the parking lot because I'm a queen and I shouldn't do that. These niggas, that's what he did. Like that's what they said. It ain't all them niggas, Like I do want to go back to what A J said. A J, Yes, you're right.

I mean that's cool of thought where I don't spend money on women no more, because I've seen my American male friends get the same woman and they will expect me to spend the same amount of more, spend more money than they spend. So no, we were not maga's no mine. I'm going to explain what the maga means back home when I used to be okay, when my friends used to be scammers back in college, back in Nigeria. Yeah,

I'll be doing it especial niggas now. So we used to we used to call the people that get scam magas. This is before Donald Trump, this is before anything we call them. Or if you even you have um someone you're about a scam, you call him a maga. So I feel like if I'm doating an American woman and she wants to take money from me because some African men or the African men give her money, I feel like she thinks I'm a maga. No hell no, So I don't play. I mean, that's s cool of thought

where I'm not spending no money. I'm spending the same amount of mone me my friend as an American would have spent. You know, so you've been here too long? It is with you. I've been, yeah, I've been. Yeah, Yeah, I'm way more bored more than African. Now. See, yeah, I don't like the American as ones is the ones fresh off the boat, so you can take advantage of there right off the plane. These nags ain't coming up

boat because yeah, I'm just joking, all right. So I feel like African women expect a certain things from African men then and then y'all don't want y'all the American women don't expect that much. So you're rather an American woman because African women don't be playing with y'all. Ass tell me I'm lying. I do want to keep quieting that. But no, this is shure. So I'm gonna be honest. I can see where you're coming from, right uh me. Personally,

everybody has a preference, right me. My preference. I preferred dating American women, um, just because it's easier. No, no, no, that's not white. I think they're just being this nigga, he said. My but was a what's your what's your color? But see the thing is, it depends on what country is a very dependent It's Ninegerian and it depends on what tribe. Like I just found out that er um did he call did he call it? Ek bay Nash?

Definitely easy from from a Black women in America, right, No, it is the numbers game, right, They're more Black American women in America than they're African women in America. So yes, if you're dating, you're gonna date more Black American women. It's as simple as that. Yeah, And it's it's also a preference to I do prefer talking to American women because I'm so go ahead, go ahead, say go ahead. It's not it's not it's not even the bad think.

It's just that the conversations that I have, like I'm hood right, no, the mixed thing. I don't say I'm hood by say, but I'm more into like things that my Nigerian friends or Ningerian women would not even understand. Like I can have a conversation about pooh Shics within Ningerian women, you know what I mean, she wouldn't even know who poosh shic sy is, you know. And so and I want to talk about that, you know, I can have that's my free free you know. Yeah. So

that's an example of things. So I want to talk to people that I have adverse um understanding of things. So we can talk about work stuff, business stuff, but I want to talk about that hood ship. I want to talk about that stuff. I need people that the most African women are not like that. They don't really know much about that. Just an example, and it's just you know, it's the preference. I love them though, more like a sister. But but yeah, I don't know. Damn,

you ain't gonna cancel him. You go to see a think piece. Yeah, but it's cool. So as far as like pain the dudes, how do um? So I don't want to compare because I told you we weren't doing that, right, I don't want to compare. But you know a lot of black men have problems with black women. They say we gold diggers, um, when a lot of them don't be ha enough gold. Let's let's be fucking clear, um, Like our standards are too high. Right. So then I

don't want a white man, right. So if I say, well, I'm gonna get me African, they go, I'm gonna I'm gonna get me. Uh, I don't know, I Haitian nigga or something like that. I feel like they got a problem with that too. Who was a problem with that? Black men? Well? I don't think so because the reason why people might be offended because you're actually saying that you're going to go get someone. I don't think they want to hear that. I think you should just go ahead.

And but do you have to sell? How do you go get an African? Like you go to the African You gotta go to the African club and we know exactly where they at and whatever city, right, you're gonna find the African club, You're gonna go there. Get you a nigga. He y'all cleaning the dashiki with their little hat on, and how y'all do is walking there with the fat ass hey? And they love it every time? Got him? But how do you know that guy has money? Though? I come, I want to know the talk process? So

how do you go? How do you know? Okay, that's the guy I want to talk to? Have you? Have you ever chosen? How the wrong friend ever chosen you? Like? How does that happen? Like? How do you pick the guy that you want? I don't necessarily just be about money though, like just about money for you? No, not just money. I mean money is very important, but it is not I'll turn down the nigga with money for another nigga with the same amount money just cooler. You know,

the subject to steal money though. No, no, it's not. It's not just money. Do you feel like that? A No, But I I have never talked to African man who didn't have money or no just even being friends, who didn't have businesses, who didn't have a life together. I don't know any but that's just people in general. No, No, I mean, of course, right, but I feel like the African men that I have met, they be having ship together, like maybe having a whole life together. Now they do

be on some bollstion. Now you might not know that that. You might not know that nigga real name. You might not know he got a wife over here and in Africa, and he's gonna talk in his native tongue around you about you, and you don't even know what the funk he's saying. He might lie about his age too, like I had one one of my friends, like he just did not want to I knew, I know for oh he was at least fifty years old. They did not want to tell me. How I can explain right on

that part. But but but let me explain. So I think it's a generational thing, right, so people that were born like people that are affording above. Yes, that's when you actually hear those things. They might have a wife at home, you know, they might have they might put in a younger age. They do that all the time. And I'll explain why. Because there's this concept you have back home that the younger you are, the longer you can work, that they won't force you out of retirement. Right,

That's how it is back in Nigeria. But in America you can walk to like your seventies. So people always try to fake their age to be younger, right, so they can they can work longer. But they don't know it doesn't work like that in America. You're better off being older, so you get to sixty five and cash

out on your scis three. Right. They don't think, they don't, They don't get So that's the main reason why a lot of times they fake their age right to be youngest, because they think, Okay, if i'm younger, I can work longer. We'll back home, Like if you're study age, you're kind of forced out to retire. If you're work in civil services. So it's not the fact in America you can work till you did too, you say, until seventy, But here you can worry, you can work. So that's the that's

why they faked your age a little. So it's not the fact that I'm in my thirties and your ass is really fucking fifty and the insecure and you think I give a funk about that. No, that's not the reason. That's why. That's why I said. The older generation they

did that. But it changes by generation. Now people that are in their thirties, they don't have wives at home, Like it's not easy to marry someone at home, but if you see someone in the fifth is possible that you might have a wife back home, and it's forty, it's possible to have a wife back home. But people in your thirties, late twenties, it's really changing. So that's why it depends on the age of the pressing you're

you're talking to. Write. Then his wife was here and she was a doctor too, but they were like going through a divorce and you got the kids and private school and sucking trips in your up in all this botion and just lying for no reason, like that's that usually that's my main thing, like with African man. Like I like African men, but I feel like the ones I've dated, they lie and they just be trying to funk too fast. Man, this is ship they kill me with.

Darling Darling, I love you, darling boy, if you'll get your motherfucking ass. I can't even I can't even argue what you just said now, Tamma, because yeah, they do be loving too. The yeah I heard it, I've heard of a love. They're very aggressive. And I'm speaking in third person because you know that's when my in that case, I clim Baltimore. Right, I don't. I don't, I don't. I'm not like that. But no, no, Helen, No, no, I'm very I'm very practical, of very pragmatic. I am no.

I don't. I don't believe in love, so you know you don't believe. Yeah, I mean I love my mom, I love my dad, but you know that love of they think is right now, I don't believe that. I don't even like the bit because it's it's very conditional, right, My love is conditional. You know, I don't believe in Oh my god, what. I just love you for being you know. No, you gotta do things that I like. You know, it's I don't believe in I kind of wrap.

It doesn't make any sense. Like I believe in logical things. I don't believe in things that are very abstract and love is very abstract. So you can love your parents unconditionally, but you can't. Oh no, my parents. I love them because they brought me this wall to care of me. Yeah, that's why I love them. But you'll never love a woman. Well, I would deeply like a woman. You know, what do you mean by love? What do you mean? I would do things. I have friends that I have like you know,

friendly love. I don't. I don't. Maybe I would say this. I don't believe in romantic but I love people. I care about it. So you'll never be with a woman and get married. Like you get married, you're gonna be like I deeply like you. Baby. Why are you gonna do the accent bit? What is up? What is up? I like doing it? Is it not? You know South African nigger sound? You sound like Columbia South Calarian southa

trying to do African? All right, that's something I would say people that know me, my friends that know they're like, they would definitely say I'm deeply that I do talk

like that, but no, I would. I would marry. But you don't have to be in love to get married, though, I don't believe that you have to be okay, So that that's another culture difference, right, So, which I feel like maybe we may need to apply in America because in Africans, the usually some of them, some cultures or some tribes may have arranged marriages right where you're you're marrying, yeah, like you're marrying a certain family like, but we we

kind of have that in America because grandmothers and grandfathers would be always be like what a family at, what a family from? Because they want to test Oh no, don't meet with them people or them people crazy. That's more on the South though, right right, that's more like a set, right. I think that's that's one thing we probably could bring to American culture. I don't I'm not

against like arranged marriages. I feel like they probably work, I guess because you gotta always learn to love somebody anyway, and you gotta keep doing things to continuously fall in love with whoever you went anyway, don't arrange me the ship. I believe it. I believe it because think about it, right, I understand why they do that. My aunt keeps sexing me up every day she's in back in NINEGERI, Oh she's found this girl. She'll meet someone. Oh, I found

someone for you to get married. I'm like stopped. So to make it happy, sometimes I'll call. I'll call the girl, have one conversation, block on what's up? But why you don't know who? No, I I can't marry someone back home in Nigeria. That's a liability. That's like hustling backwards. Like why would I go marry someone back home? It doesn't make any sense. That's two years of my life not being with her. That's too much money I'm spending to bring that back here. No, No, that's the life.

But she has to come. Mere have to pay for our school, She has to get maybe her master's or get us whatever the case. Maybe and you feel like you have to pay for that. I would have to see. Okay, black American men no different. So no, I'm not talking about you. I'll talk about black American man we got to come about. I'll talking about all this ship like it. It's expensive. It's still expensive. Let me tell you the

HBCU we went to been it in college. Been In in college would go to African countries and they would get the smartest of the smartest people and they would bring them a to our campus and they would go to school for fucking free. We didn't have that option to go to school free. We didn't get free housing, we didn't get free food, we didn't get the scholarships that they received. So we need help from these niggers. Like I needed to take to Walmart Neger, I need

to care. Pat, I'm sorry. You know what's funny, go, I actually heard the vice what do you call the head of the president? I better to call it say that at one time about Yeah, you're talking about roth and artists. But anyway back to what you were saying. Yeah, so I don't think I can go back home and marry someone in Africa because to me, that's like hostling backwards. Its cost way too much. You know, I would not

do that. It's just when I look at every how much I'm going to spend together pressing here and set them up. No, it's like four years of my life just stagnant. So if I marry someone, the person has to be from me. We have to you know, it has to be like a contract, like you know, do you aspire to marriage? Do you? Um? Yeah? Makes sense if it makes it, If it makes sense, I would definitely marry Yeah, I definitely yeah, if it makes sense.

Sentence like well, like business sense. If it makes business sense, yeah, if he makes business sense. Everything has to be married has to be about I mean I know, yeah yeah yeah, but you know he has to see me about how does how is it going to make sense for budd of us? I really mean what I'm saying though, you know, but yeah, well I believe you. Yeah, you never loved nobody in your life, have you? I said, your mom and your daddy. I think I was in love when

I was seventeen. I think that's the last time I was in love seventeen. So if it was possible, then why is it not possible? Now? I was stupid? You know, there's that I got up. I'm like, what the hell was I thinking about? But you know, I stopped beating up when I started going to therapy and I understud that, oh, you can control your emotions. When I figured out I could control my emotions. I'm like, oh, I'm not funny

in love anymore. Like, hell no, I'll control my therapy because you're using your yeah therapy to use it as a defense mechanism to never fall in love again. Yeah, but why do you want to fall in love though? Like, tell me the benefits to fall in love? I do want to know it feels. Really it didn't feel good to you if it's mutual and if it's okay as an adult. If it's mutual you and your person, you're falling in love, right, Because I I do believe that being in love is simply just a state of mind.

So if you're not doing things daily to continuously falling in love fall in love, you're going to be falling out of love. So if you find this person, y'all can talk about anything, y'all can do ship together, Like why why the fun would you not be in love with him? So it's I can love someone not being loved, right, I don't know. Maybe So my definition of being in love is taking somebody else's life into consideration as if it were your own. That's my definition of being in love.

That's way too fun. I'm not I'm just not that. It's just like y'all had as, ladies, these niggas and shallow. So you want your African nigga, right, he don't want to love you, and I gotta make business sense to funk with you. But but but but listen, that's how we should be though time. But you got Black American men saying they don't give a funk about our degrees. They don't give a funk about how much money we make. Do Africans give a funk about degrees? Do Africans a

funk about how much money we make? I know he's a rhetorical question agent because you know me. You know I'm a pocket watcher. I watch your pockets. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't even hide it. I'll go on my Facebook and say, ladies, if we make up seventy hundred thousand like this coming, I don't hide it. Let me tell you why I'm watching, right, And I was having a conversation with someone recently others I want I want to date someone who has something to lose, right, That's what

I'm interested. And I'm not interested in that wild No, if you sound too crazy, No, I want this someone. So I have to watch your pockets to know if you have something to do, but you pay for shi it, right, Yeah, I don't mind paint it. See, the more money you pake, the more money I paid, Like, I will pay because I understand you have the value you. I don't think they're trying to take advantage of me, So I like,

I don't want to tell you what I tell me. Fellas, Please listen, fellas, listen, stop BOMBOO or Facebook or go on LinkedIn. All you gotta do typing, Listen, All you gotta do is typing. You know the professions that pay good money, right, so typing something like d I d I Diversitate Equity and Inclusion for Wells Fargo. I don't want a name. Can I call companies here? It doesn't

I'm not say anything bad. You're going to see a beautiful black lady that looks good because they always want to present someone that looks good, like, you know, beautiful black for this US linked to pick up bitches. We're gonna start doing that at two bitches. Like listen, that's the real I've dated website. No, I mean, here's the thing. Everything everybody's literally doing. Yeah, but LinkedIn know they're they're doing it. I think that. I don't. I don't think

it's very I don't think it's common yet. But people that know, tell me, tell me, tell me the process. Now you go on LinkedIn. Go on LinkedIn, right, so you can search for NASE practitioners, right because you know they make good money, like a NUSE practitioner. You know, you search for NUSSE practitioners around your city. Then you

see the pictures. By the time you add one, you're going to see the network of hard and of course a beautiful lady, a NUSE practitioner has a network of other beautiful, successful black women, and you know that's what you do, and then you pick your girl from there. Well, you know, but that's where you have better prospects. So

that's that's what. Yeah, So I don't. I don't. I'm not one of those guys that says, oh, I don't care about what you do your degrees, you know, No, I do care about that, and not like I want something from me. I just want to make sure you're stable. You know. That's we don't turn linked into a dating website. Are you? Are you on LinkedIn? I am? I am.

I haven't updated in a while, because you know, when Lincoln first came along, I was excited about it because I was in corporate America at the time, but then you know, once I got laid off, right, so I'm like, let me update my resume this in the third I'm looking at Lincoln. I'm like, these motherfucker's is using this to profile people. That's how I feel about LinkedIn as far as like actually trying. So that's what he's doing. He's definitely like he is. But I'm talking about for playing,

I'm talking about I'm talking about companies. I'm talking about a wealth like they're using it to see if this Ashley is black or white. So no, I'm not interested in that. Lincoln has got to meet so many jobs in seriously, because you're African, Like African men gonna get a job in America. I'm sorry. They just assumed that they're looking smart. I literally spent three hours with my homeboy who's also African, doing his fucking Excel report for his job, and he making like a hundred and fifty

thousand dollars a year. I don't know how to do a pivot, a pivot table and V look up. I don't know how I do though, I how to do a pivot table V look up all that should excel. I am proficient in in excel. Yeah. Here, I'm a business professional, so I know I know how to do all that dumb ship so that should it doesn't matter. Yeah, but I can said I prefer, you know, I just don't. I don't I know one of those guys. I prefer with a woman to have something. She has to have

something going on for herself. She has to have something to bring to the profibial table. I know y'all hate hearing that, but she has to have something. That's that's how you end up, like you know, you just end up messing with someone that doesn't. Yeah, I don't want to call it any names. You know, A pop buch is just a do nothing. Ask girl who just uh, she's not an asset, she's like a liability. Yeah, hold on, tam, let's say some bills. So why do y'all aside up? Timber?

Did you say why you like African men? Um? I'm like African men because my experience, they're very catering. Ya, So I didn't have to lift a finger for anything when I want an African man they made me feel like a queen. They really do. Yeah. I mean I'm catering too, you know. I you know, I have my friends over to take care of people, like I'm catering,

but I'm not, like I'm not a dummy. That's what it is, you know because sometimes, like we talked about it, like some American women that maybe they've experienced to African men that would just give them money or just you know, and they try to take advantage of me like, oh this is I'm gonna send me like a cash ap request. And now that's to look like what what does this? What do I look like? You know, I know every

the audacity those women want smooth. You got to be smooth. Yes, you do have to be a little you can't just send them. But but it works because the reason why they're doing this because he has worked on that. But I'm not just that maga. Yeah, it's not gonna work with manifested magat. The hell I never knew. Yeah, that's what magat. But what does it mean in Africa? Though? I mean the definition it doesn't there's no, it doesn't really.

It just means what it means I can't working from But oh No, it doesn't mean there's no just being maga. That's what we call I kind of extinct with the origin of that working. But growing up as a young adult, that's what we called people the American scams. Magat about to get scams. Oh that's my maga. Yeah, and they don't even know that this is maga. That's how I'm introducing. No, that was this is I'm pulling out with my maga.

Like listen, right, maybe at the club, bitch, I'm coming with my mag that's the whole at the club that you're coming with my mega, coming with my magay when your maga the victis you on vacation and you don't take pictures with your maga right right, No, ain't no pics with my maga. That's not And I'm blocking that nigga. Yeah, it's familiar facts. I recently went on a vacation with a guy and I was on the phone with a j on the vacation, Like, yo, as soon as I

get off the plane, this nigga. No, when I get to the terminal, this nigga is blocked, Like why he just did not show me a good time? He was just he was African. He wasn't African, but he was like very very demanding, and do it this way. That's the other side. I am the man. I am the man. We wait here for the just nigga. Relax. We're on vacation. So it's a it's a cultural. One thing about me is I had to learn how to have to learn

the American whale because the court is very um. The cultural difference is very very There's a lot of cultural differences. But I don't care what people say. It's not it's not the same thing. So when I came to America, I had to learn. I said, I worked us to be a cat. She had war grains and I worked at Marshalls. I had worked two jobs when I first learned in America in like a week, right, And I had to learn that, oh my god, that's you can't talk to people like that. You have to like say

things common courtesy. Where yeah, but the way I talked to my name, you're and friends know how I talk to my American friends. I have to be American friends, like, okay, say politely say my name. Friends like I'll just say how I feel. Right, We're very straightforward. I'm very direct, but you know, me come in a little bit younger at working in customer service, I had to learn how to speak, how to understand that. Hey, you know, don't be too aggressive because it was like, nigga, who are

you talking to? Yeah, that's not how it's gonna go. But didn't you know all that before you went on vacation with him? He was sweet, He was sweet, but being around him for more than two days, yeah, she kind of got different. You should have got different rooms. Yeah, yeah, because we had that as we girl, if we are getting fluid out on that episode, we're talked about getting fluid out, get your own room. But we had spent time together. You know, it wasn't like our first encounter.

You know, this was just like he just started. He switched up the temple. I don't know, So I think you need to a younger African tam baman. I got, I got, I got a few um do a lineup for us? Okay, YEA, have I set that up? Yeah? You can talk. You have tell me what you like though, and I'll I'll set that up for you. Okay. So I have, I know, a couple of alcohol for a couple of friends. I got a couple of dollars no money. But and I say that, I did not say that.

I said it's not all about the money. Okay, don't lie on me. I have a couple of friends that I definitely like you. Okay, let's set that up. I need to be treated very nice. So the guy that I was dating, I did like him. He was not the one that I went on vacation with nigger. I'm talking about the one that would wouldn't let me lift

a finger to help myself at all. He was just so sweet, he being there making me a goose is soup and pound and yam and jella rice and like I can't carry my own bags and he and they're rubbing my feet. You're such a queen. But I just did not like the way he came. What yah, I ain't like how he came. I'm confused, what do you mean? Like like when he came it was weird? Man? This all right? This this is out that came. He'd be like, he was like, bro, what the fuck is dat? What

is that? I don't like kill a pussy? It wasn't having this seizure. No, I asked him. I asked him, why did he like? Eventually, after because he like, you know, I was like, why do you come like that? And he was like, because I'm so filled with joy? That's what answer. But it was weird. Man. I couldn't do it. I had to throw him back to the streets, sucking sound like a villain every time? Who are you laugh? Like an englishman? I got he was getting out almostarted

it yo, yeah man, that's right now. That's why I stopped working with him. Everything else was cool, but I could not live with that. Who doing that? Can't you coaching to change? He's um, that's his ship, that was his ship. That was how he did it. I couldn't do it. Did you tell him me you didn't like it? No? I didn't tell him, So why did you communicate that with him? Yeah? Okay, that's I'm not if that's listen. I feel like how you come is your right. I

don't want to change how you come. You need to find somebody, You need to find your nemesis. Bitch, what you're even villain? So that's what you're doing. But you just gotta deal with two minutes once a week, right, that's doing a lot of time, Like you gotta do the You gotta were your options. Listen to me and daylor be talking right this nigga? Who if I'm in a relationship with somebody or even just on some smash time like you sucking me once so we pardoned me.

It's one week enough for you. These African niggas is sucking once a week, y'all. Y'all okay with that? That's a lie. That's just daily. I need you to suck me at least three times a week. Man, come be funk on twice a week. We can negle ship on twice a week. Three times a yes, that is not a lot. You must not do on be getting no good pussy dayler. You talk about three times a week, you don't a lot of Thursday, Saturday and Sunday. That's four.

I don't. I don't. I don't have sex on the weekends. No, I have to know. It makes thing, it makes them white. What in the world I gotta explain why let makes them? Why I don't working the weekends. I don't have second daytime like I don't. I don't know that. You've got too many restrictions on I do I do? I do? You gotta stay sane, man, I want you to his Dick is a Nokia. He got nice and weekends go crazy. I remember that. I remember nice and weekends because that's

what I just kept to a break. What was the phone company back then? It start with it asked, not Sprint, not Samsung. What was no uh NICs? A weekend? Disrespectful ship? Everybody? Everybody? Everybody had nice the weekend. But yeah, the reason why I don't think so, No, I'm too because that's what I can't. I can't imagine that, Like, you know, I got stuff to do, like in the evenings, what what do I have time to have sex? Months? Twice a week, three times a week. I'll be busy and I'm not married,

So you know, how am I going to do? I don't want people staying coming to my house all the time. I don't want to, you know, I want to. I want my peace. Sometimes at least three, three or four times, I gotta do yoga at night and calm myself down. You know I can't three times a week. You practice firm retention and ship like that. You're one of those. No, I don't believe us. I'm not that deep. I'm really

not deep. So I I just be you know, I don't have time for Maybe three times a week is okay, but that's pushing it so weird that in a week. Why I can't get dick three days. I never had no nigger tell me that I couldn't have the dick more than I wanted it, you know, like but you but you'd be busy though, how can you? I don't think you can do that one or three times a week?

Nig is be fake busy child? Please. But I had this African dude I to talked to you in college, be mad at Beneedict and you know, like what I found from dating him is that a lot of African guys who come over here for like um on scholarships and stuff like that, or the education of visas visas, they have to have like a real live plan when they finished school, like either they have to get a company to sponsor them or they gotta get married. And

I told this nick I would marry him. This nig was calling me on Christmas Day like we got to discuss this marriage and it's a big business, I know. But then I talked to somebody else and it was like, girl, people be paying like fi dollars, Like she just gets to be paying money funny for the marriage, and I

was like, I'm not just doing that for free. But now don't like we still follow each other on social media, and I'm like, I probably should have married this nigger, like the fuck, just be with him like the fun Like I really I probably should have. Maybe what hit him up? He's still single? No, he probably they're posted a white bitch. One day, I was like, what's wrong with the witch? Everybody got their things whatever. I'm going to keep that conversation. But listen, let's go back to

but people are marrying. Yeah, you can definitely get someone to marry. You can marry something, but you have to like really be involved with in people, right because not really not really. Immigration is not gonna like just stupid, No, that's all. It's not. It's not my home girl. Talk about my home girl. She was with a she's married and married now, and um she was like that was one of her concerns. Like they was already cohabitating, you know,

and together. He bought her ring engaged to her, like he was fine as fuck. She was concerned, like he just wanted his papers and I'm like, girl, you're not about to find nobody else to put up with your bullshit like this nigga loves you like he was African, like he's from I forgot he was from, but I was like, he loves you like you know what I'm saying. So after talking to her, he went to counseling. This bitch married his ass on her lunch break. They st together,

they had a kid together. They live in Chilling, So it's kind of hard to tell if someone wants to marry you for papers or not, because if someone is desperate and they need those papers, that would do anything you want. So it's kind of hard. Is there risk? I would say this though, you know, you can be up front and say hey, if you want to marry

for papers, this is the amount you're gonna pay. And then then sometimes some people be honest and tell you, okay, now he was not for that, but he was there that I knew he. I knew he loved her because this bitch used to be farting a lot, like just I don't fire in front of people I'm with, Like, first of all, that word does not have an First of all, it's fucking fart f a R. It sounds sticker that it makes it sound much what they and front what you ever wanted is fart whatever the word is.

But he she used to already fucking farting, Like, bitch, you're killing the intimacy in your relationship. Stop farting in front of your man, Like that's still married, that bitch. So Ship, when Forest was hitting on something, maybe it was into that he was what if he was into that type of stuff. Yeah, maybe he liked farms. He to be putting on that nigger like baby put on me. You know, people like getting piste on. Maybe they like farting,

getting fart on. It's so weird. Putment. What's the word though, how do you say it? Fart or whatever? Say tomato, you say tomato, however you go. It's a fucking part, it's a pot. But I think you'll just give me an idea. Right, I'm going to try to create like an app where you can date ship, Right, So what're you gonna call it coming to America? No, no, no, I'm gonna create an app where you can find ata. I'm gonna figure out. I'm I'm definitely yo. That might

be a whole hit. You need to do that, Yeah, definitely working down it because I actually and I want to. I want to start a service where I'm going to charge um women to hook them up with men that make over six figures, like you know, high value. Right, No, you're gonna call it nash meat? No? No, no, what's that? Miss you? No more Africans than me? What is that means? Ass? Booty meat? Ya? That's a good one. But look, coming to America, Coming to America, I go fucking crazy. That

go crazy, you know what I'm saying. Don't want me gonna be on there. I'll be on the y. I definitely have my real picture on that bitch like pick me you hopping on one foot, bitch, bark like a dog, a big dog. The fun. Don't play with her. Been trying to vacation for a little. We all got no time to play with job black American niggas. No more. Now she like we still love. I'm gonna say I'm gonna city. Though. The African theme is a new like women starting to like Africans is like a new thing.

When I first came here, it wasn't not I wasn't getting no play. I was definitely nineteen about to marry African. Like I don't know what you're talking about, but it definitely has changed. It's changed now now you hear after you hear African music on radio beats like it's really changing and like yeah, because even the style address that African men were, I would not have been attracted to that ten years ago. No, but now when I see in the guy like, oh, he looked like he got

they'd be so cultured. They'd be so cultured it'd be fun. Like they're so clean. I love it. Yes, it looking out clean and smelling good. Do you all have older friends that like African men? Yes? I have. I have a friends one from do a lot of one from Synegogue and one from one n I have a friend she only dates African men. Now that's it, not dating American. So you're you're you're in. You're in Charlotte right time, man, Yes, and they love African man in Charlotte, Yes, are it's

quite a bit. It's this place called but Cordie Lounge. Let me tell you something. I went there one night. The African men are aggressive, though, who is like can give me a second? Like one nigga go another nigga walk up, like we only want the ones that being though Okay, we don't want the general public act to you like jam. We did have that conversation. The agent described the difference between the Africans to be in the general pop and it wants the being Yes, I hate right,

but that's honestly, do you want black American men? That's the gym pop? Though? What's wrong with jam pop? Though I'd be jam up, I wouldn't, but listen, I'm the kind of That's what I do when I go to the club, right, I walk in, I look, who do I know? Once I see someone, I go perch. I'm the kind of a guy that when you mean to bring the bottles, I wasn't want to pay for it, but I've been from like for it. What but a

credit card full of money? Right? I had my birthday party, um and my friends, you know, they all buying bottles for me. They spent like six thousand dollars in the club. Right. I didn't spend the time, and I was happy, like, oh she did buying bottles for me. That I felt like the man you know that? Yeah, But I don't spend in the what I do, don't I do? But most of the times I try to spend on the pig's money. That's what I do. Two day light. So we hit up on a magazine. Y'all goodness, we say awful.

Not honestly, that's not true. I will date a guy that's not in VP. I have I bad guys outside v I P. For sure. Yeah, but the check I know exactly. I was dating this guy. I met him in the v I P section. He was handsome. We were kicking and we were going out. He had a table every weekend, and these tables one cheat. So then we started kicking it. And then finally I went over his house. He had no couch. He have no couch in the right. The only couches he guy is in

the club, Like what the fuck? Okay, no, I don't look on the floor. And no bunky house. I don't get this. Ain't bouncy house. Pussy right here? Okay, no air mattress. You want air mattress? Me see, I'm the opposite. Right before I spend money, Like that's make sure my house is cool, like you just comfortable, because let me tell fellers, listen to me, right, I don't know how many of you. I'm sure there's a lot of people tell us that listen to the podcast. Listen to me.

Spend that money on yourself, make your house comfortable, and women who suck you for free, like, don't go spending in the club, like spending in your house, like buy yourself a nice couch, buy yourself a nice, nice mattress. You don't make your house so comfortable. Nice match. Yeah, listen, I still best sheet from the hotel, like you know, hold on, I gotta beake my house comfortable. Mobes necessary

you get see. I never heard of ni say there's as you get to this nigger house, she's so plush, like like a rent, Like, okay, it is because it is. It is pillows and everything. How the risk? But yet this they gonna stealing down comfort of Sam. I don't think I'm lying right, but that nigger got a whole

linit closet full on people's ship. Thank you so much for joining us and talking to us about this being an African man in America and dating and giving us the tools to get money, because I feel like that's what you was doing, not find love, just get some checks. Thank you so much. Get money literally yo. So let'sten y'all. Have you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday on the I Heart Radio Apple Wherever the fun You get your podcast at your girl a j Holiday two points,

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