We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion too talked Back. Thank you guys for tuning in for a new episode of We Talked Back. It's your girl a j Hey, y'alls, Tim Bam, I missed you. That's the voice you want to use. Hey, y'all, Hey y'all, Hey y'all. Do how y'all Valentine's davin? All right? We want to know email us tell me how you did that? Gone four thousand over the weekend for a teddy bear? How's your Valentine's? My Valentine's was good. I spent it in St. Thomas.
That's the first time on to St. Thomas. Is a beautiful island. We smoked it like weed because it's damned illegal. Next is smoking weed at the airport. Bitch. He was looking all like sun kiss and stuff. Girl was all out. I was like, let this big. Ain't she's shaking them in the microphone y'all for y'all. Yeah, haven't got I ain't got no titties for that. He's gonna be stabbing
me in my teeth in the summertime. You know, my titty is used to really stink, and they just don't know more like, so I ordering under these titties and between them and underneath them. That's how that's a sign you got a big because mine don't like cup under it. Tempoo's our black history batty for the week. Our Black history batty this week is Bessie string Field. She was a badass bit since rode her motorcycle all over the United States in the nineteen thirties, and since was only
nineteen years old. Now this is during the time where streets weren't paved, there were dirt rolls, that there were rolls at all. She had to face oppression and prejudice based on being black and a woman. But she said, you know what funk that, I'm gonna do what I wanna do, and what I wanna do is robing my god, damn Harley. She lived by a simple credo. What I
did was fun and I loved it. She would navigate through all these different challenges, like there wouldn't be places for her to stay at night, and she would sleep on the back of her bike and her jacket would be her pillow. She would sleep at gas stations because they wouldn't let her sleep in hotels or nothing. Since got married six times she was not playing like all right, thank you yes. And then she also eventually became like a dispatcher for the army, so she would use her
bike and dispatched messages from base to base on her bike. So, Bessie string Field, you were a battie who talked back. We salute you and we celebrate you since. So let me tell y'all what happened without Nika. It was so cold and without I. But I, you know, I have to stick to my guns and do what I say
I'm gonna do. So when outside my building, right across the street of some houses, and I went to the very first house, there was a white house, and I thought about Donald Trump in the White House, and I got angry. So I walked up to the house and I just and I took off, running fast as I could. And then this little agent lady right now, he's like, what the funny are you're doing? She had a knife. She started running behind me, and it was so crazy that like, so I ran through the gate. I know
your mom used to beat your ask for line. What are you talking about? He may have that big collaborator story that quet that's good you up, because I was about to tell you red oh finished, finish, please finish. So she ran behind me. She had the knife like this, like you know, she had a pointing down so she was like running with it. Accident was moving fast. Yeah, I was gone. I was looking back, but I was running. She stabbed herself in the thigh and she's like, I
don't know. So I came back because I felt bad for her because I started to shoot with her. So I came back and then I called. I was like, that went where I need help? This Asian lady stabbed herself, So ambulade came. The amblams came and picked her up. When we her to the hospital, her husband came met me there, gave me reward money for helping her. And that's how I bought the food that the spirits that we ate it. What the bitch da how she gave
me likes. You are an amazing storyteller. That's quick off the dome with the lives. Yeah, I didn't go. Don't trust this bitch. That was too cold. I didn't go out there. I stayed in the house and watched Oh, I watched that movie Judas and the Black Messiah Girl. I was in here pacing the floor, mad as hell. What you want to do, We'll be a nigga knocking fights and white people. I want to fight some black people. Oh,
I didn't see it, so I want to. Yeah, it was like this one nigga who just was always one nigga. I always want juice. There's always one nigga, you know. But then I wanted to fight white people today. The way they killed Fred Hampton, it's just they shot him up. They shot up his bedroom with him and his his baby. Mama. She know she she got shot though. She took she
took it. You know. I can't watch movies like that, Like I gotta really brace myself and really like it stirs my soul and I feel like a lot of it is just like to get us riled up, and y'all niggas ain't gonna do it anyway. From I'm an organizer that I am. Yeah, I want to organize the real niggas, right, that's where real nigger. But you need soldiers and you need organizers, and you need people that just be on the back lines just doing making sure she is situated because I can't be in the front
with the guns. I don't think I'm that woman. You come to my house now, I'm gonna be at the front with the guns. Yea, at your house. Yeah, but in the march down the street, I don't even know if marching is really like it. Don't do nothing with that. White people only respect, disrespect and money, nuns and if they feel slighted any type of way, this country will feel it. But for whatever reason, we can continuously, you know, just get spit in the face and we keep marching.
Our leader has gone down. Anytime we like build super infrastructure like Tolsa, Oklahoma, they destroy it. Like it's just countless times where we've tried to rise up and it has just been completely destroyed. We have great leaders. They take them from us, but we helped them times oftentimes. Again there's a judas who helps take our great people down. Yeah, because a lot of times everybody wants to be the
chief Indians. You have to be an Indian. Some people are born chief, some people are born leaders to be that way. Yes, everybody isn't born that way, and that's that's what creates a hater. They just can't be who that nigga is because I couldn't be a safe Thomas this weekend. Now she's bloting to see my fucking bracelet, and I sleep. She got this cute bracelet on, y'all, and she spending the night. I'm gonna get her drunk a little costume jewelry. It's so cute, though, Why you
didn't buy me one when you bought it. I know I'm not that type of friend. I always I want to try to be that friend, y'all by just be so sweet, may just be so sweet. I'm just not that thoughtful. I don't even be thinking like maybe I am a little bit selfish. I'm gonna work on that. The next time you go into t J Max and you see a cute little bracelet like that, you got it, friends, I'm gonna work on that. Now. I got to send
all my friends so cute ship, because I ship. Tammy always got like a light, a little cute, little thoughtful little book to write some And here's a grand book I bought for you. It right down everything you're grateful for. I did one time and never again, not again, because one day I just meditated and I just came to and I'm like, you know what the book was there? I wrote some stuff down and that was speaking of
meditation session. Um well, not necessarily meditation manifestation. Did you see what's been going around VI Simone the video she made and went viral, and she was like, basically, be the nigga you want, Like if you asking for a man that has all these different qualities, you know, trying to fulfill those qualities in yourself. Absolutely, I don't even understand why, because it forces you to have self accountability.
She didn't say anything wrong, you know what I'm saying. Well, and you talk to your mama and U right, you got other people in your life not that thing too, or you're not that thing to yourself. Most importantly, I agree with her. I want to talk to her about it because she got a new nigger. Right, Yeah, they're looking really good and happy and look they're just gett a new nigga. Now it's like different on the on the single Home Girls. That's why them just mad you
you wait till you got a nigga. Now you telling us why we ain't got a nigga. That's what it is. That's but that I think that's an old video. It's just going it's recirculating. You are who you beat, so all right, there's a lot of women who would be like, I never had a good man. All these niggas ain't ship. It's just just not true. If every man you suck with ain't ship, chances are you probably ain't. Yes, you're attracting, and I feel like I mean, I've attracted plenty men
that were shipped. I just didn't like them, and you know, and I struggled to struggle relationship with somebody else to get them to be like these people I had. I think my issue and I need to unpack and I need to discover what's wrong with me. Is I love men that are unattainable for whatever reason. I body's husband, so you' y'all beat you shut up, Hey, but your boyfriend and they married. But yeah, I just like things
that I can't have for some reason. Or I like men that are emotionally unavailable because maybe I'm it's a challenge. That's why men women always want to try and fix and ship. We're nurturing, nurturing. Yes, you get this. You're in love with the thought of being in love or having this person love you the same way that you
think you should be being loved. But you the problem is you have to find somebody that has the same definition of love as you do, because just because they have somebody else and you may feel like you like him because they're on the tentable. Maybe that's the type of person every woman is going to get. He's never going to be any different. That's he shows his love that way to many different women. It's very well possible.
Excuse me, we'd be like just trying to get that person to act, like how do you want them to act? You're supposed to experience as soon as they act like that, do you really want that man once the woman leaves him? Like see friends, you meet a guy right and he somehow either he tells you up front or you find out later on, and he has an old lady, do you really want him as his old lady leaves his ass? Sometimes I know people that are in relationships that started
that way, though got a whole family. Would haven that she took from another woman. I don't think he's taken because well, he left, he was ready to go, because the home record is the motherfucker's in the home. But at the same time, I don't know if I would like I'm like Olivia Polk, I like the unavailable. You fits, that's what she's so fit to remember. You didn't watch, But what is that? Maybe maybe that's something you may
be able to find out in therapy. I need to see a therapist about that, because there's plenty of eligible men that which I want to talk about this. Why none of y'all nigga sent me no flowers? You love me so much with my d M, but you didn't send me no goddamn flowers? Did you? For some of them? Yes? I did, But let me tell you that the flowers didn't come neither, will you, nigga? Keep it moving? You know I'm fumbled the pussy and that's not Mary had
a little lambage because that's so small flowers. What sixty dollars at the most that's a small gesture to flowers is more than sixty dollars girls a nice ones. So now, amongst celebrities, especially, gifting has become like a war. They get on social media and they try to outdo each other when it comes to gifts. I don't even know if it's about the person anymore. It's about making it look good for the ground, that's all it is. Because y'all gonna get that same dick. You don't get that
same pussy tonight. Y'all keep buying each other stuff, Yeah, big stuff. Did you see Like there's the R and the Future had like the matching uh necklaces. I didn't see that, just that. I mean it's cute. I try Future trying to be a better man. No, he didn't do that for all. I hope Laurie ran his ass to death, and I hope she really about it. And I was like, now, yeah, let me go get me a nice whole movie star. And then with rap stars,
why athletes, I'm just gonna get this movie star. Yeah, because Michael B. Jordan he hadn't really been with that many people that we know. I don't remember anybody he's girls. He was, you know, always around a lot of white women. So she probably got his ass all the way together. Bring him all home, Laurie. That seasons vagina on him. Laurie. So, speaking of therapy, so I posted hoeing doesn't heal, and there were a lot of women that banks are different
sexual healing. Babe. It's a real thing, this is, but it doesn't. You can't detain away. I don't feel like you can. I try so like if you're single and I don't even want to stay single, Like let's stay For instance, you're in a relationship and your man cheats on you, Do you go out and cheat? Do you go cheat back as for get back or do you just leave? What should a woman do? Because that would
be one reason the wing howing doesn't heal. So you're healing from or trying to heal from a heartbreak, right and you got this nigg in the pocket somewhere in the back pocket you're ready for me to get in a game, Like do you let him jump in the game just because your man cheated on you? Are you gonna be fulfilled after just letting somebody else use your pussy or you just be like now you feed it for new dick. After that, you might be opening up
the floodgates, the dick gates. Women, hoeing does not hell because at the end of the day, you're just letting somebody else use your vagina. No, so you got to stop thinking about your vagina in terms of someone using it. You it's yours, so you use it how you want to. You don't let them use it. You use their dick, not use your vagina. But you literally letting somebody go inside your body. Right, so because you choose it. Though, because you choose it, you take you when you say
that giving them power over your vagina. No, your vagina has the power and you're using it how you want to use it. But would you use that dick if we want to put it that way, what you use that dick? If the dick you want? Would you be using that dick? Carently not exactly, but sometimes it's important to you know, Let's say you're going through a breakup
and it's over. Sometimes that a b dick is like good to get through and what if you're just what if you just sucking a bunch of different people after this breakup? As long as you're doing it was possibly and safe. You know, you're a grown woman. I don't agree with transferrent energy like that with so many people. But if you decide to do that, that's your parogative. You wrong, Like, I'm not mad, but it's not going
to heal you from the pain. I feel it's gonna cause it may cause more turmoil because just like you just said, all these different energies, if you're already in a down place, you don't know what these other people doing in life for real everything they may be going through it. So hopefully you're using a condom if you just on a fucking whole rampage right quick, because all you're doing is letting these people ejaculate that energy off into your room. So now you're really trying to figure
out why the fun you feel just so discombobulated. It's because you got all the stressed and men want to beat the pussy up. They're relieving their stress onto you. So there's no way you can heal from just having fribulous sex. I hadn't learn that they're like one consistent dick in my life. Now. I was a situation where I distressed. Right, you're a single, single, you got like two you might be fucking around with okay, but just going going on a whole rampage, like really real life holing.
Unless that's what you do for a money, Yes, unless that's what you're doing for a living, What are you doing it for? You're hurting you? Like you know, women will like let's say, so when they love dies, they start sucking everybody. They're going through a breakup or they're dealing with some type of trauma that has it's a release for some women. They just want to feel good,
but it's only momentarily. Then then after you come then all whatever you're suffering, do you really want to dick or do you want somebody to be there for you? Because after these men have sex with you and then they leave will and like and they fuck you through the jeans, they pass, they do anything. You don't kiss you, you know, rubbing you, He don't love on you, and you just get dick. I don't want that. I like
affection moding dick me too. I love like that type of intimacy, like rubbing, kissing me for nothing, just to rob me your dick cross mask while I'm cooking. I like it like that and spitting my mouth and ship excuse me, but nigga, like grab you body, nick and choke the ship out of you and call your dirty bitch and then spin your mouth. No, not your name. I saw it on a video. I don't know, so no, I got a home world. That's her specialty. She liked the choke. I like choking. It just made me feel
like so dominant, Like shut the fuck? What the that's that wrong? Man? Energy? You got hold on before we get into anything else let's pay some bills real quick. Back to the topic at hand. Does holy actually makes you feel good momentarily? It was brief. After you come, you come to your sense. Well, my niece first became sexually active. I bought her a vibrator to try and save her from some of the heartache that you you're
going through, all these different people just sucking. I'm trying to find somebody who actually loves you, just to save you some of that heartache. Bitch. Come and go to sleep by yourself. Yes, have no orgasm. Go to sleep, earl. Let me tell you something. I'm a firm believer, and come by yourself. Yes, I kind of, let's listen. So, but sometimes the vibrator will suck you up for other people though, because the machine can do ship that can't do. No man in five minutes quick, hey, look, no sweat,
no hassle, no breathing on you. I like to take like for like fifteen minutes and then masturbate and see if I like, if I fall straight to sleep like well melatonin, wait till I get like real tired and masturbating smoke. I feel like when I when I masturbate, Hi, you take me a long time to come. Really, Yes, it's like my brain because i'd be thinking about all type ship when I'm high, like bitches the earth talking around the flat I'm thinking about Listen, let me tell
you what I was thinking about last night. Ht Why do they call it stainless steel? Like water went on my refrigerator, it's stainless. Why is it called stainless steel? Like it stays so easy? They should call it stainy stick. Everything stay that even a little water can't get that. You're supposed to use those still cleaner, like I had to go buy actual statements, still cleaner, stainless that's bullshit. Yeah, so I had hell on my car when I'm thinking
about dumb ship like that. Yeah so, I mean, I want to think about all the times where I had the most sets and what I was going through at that time, like what made me just extra promiscuous or I like to call it friendly pussy. I've never been a home and I had some friendly pussy. It's a little happy pussy, little smiley plant way when I go said I've never been a hole. Because we already discussed the two different types of uh sexually liberated women, there
are sluts and there are holes. Let's just do ship for no reason and hose get paid. So if I had to categorize myself, I'd definitely be a hope. I was just a child of God. I don't know where a j is talking about. Yeah, so I think about I mean, you're going through different you meet in different people, and maybe you have some insecurities about yourself and maybe you're acting out via sex, which is not a healthy thing.
So you need to find out what those things are and maybe tweak them, fix them too, where you're more comfortable and you're not having to use your body or somebody else's body is not let So what about that song on Hotels is the intro with the young lady and she's just talking about like she felt like that was the one thing that validated her, was her sexual prowess. She said she felt like like sex with her superpower,
and that was her only superpower. That was a problem though, Like you're using your pussy is the only way you feel strong and you feel validated relationship in life, then that's unhealthy. But if you're busting it open for a real nigga, because you're real nigga and you feel like empowering yourself and you're doing it in a healthy way.
I don't see nothing wrong with that. I feel like maybe only it's a problem when you don't have you are trying to still figure out who you are, or if you're using it to cope, if you're sucking the cope with coronavirus. You know, it's not like there's some women out there hold on corona. Now, that sounds like a drug, like people with drug addiction addictions using expect Anything is an excuse to drink, anything's an excuse to smoke.
So anything could be going on, whether it's good or bad, and it's excuse for you to just go pop that pussy for a real nigga. No no, So a lot of times we need to find like the root cause, what's the root cause to me dropping all these bodies? Why am I doing this to myself? Because you don't
really feel good. I mean, something's going on and you have to identify that something and then you may have more confidence, you may feel better about yourself to where you don't even want niggas when you like that, like you're too good for that ship. That's how I feel non rather myself bust the said myself, Okay, it was just as content kind of a J. I feel like we should get a nigga's perspective on it. It's like, let's talk to a nigga, A man a mind. All right.
So I'm gonna call my great, great friend and cors cos facts. Do you follow him on Instagram? It's dope? All right, I'm gonna hit him out real quick. Hey, co, what's good? How you doing great? You know, I just wanted to hit you out real quick because it's me and a J we're on We talked back right now, and we wanted to ask you a question and see what you thought and give us the male perspective, or at least your male perspective. Cool, all yeah? That so we posted a meme on our page, hold and Don't
heal Right. We were talking about how women sometimes fun to cope with ship going on in their life, and we wanted to know do men hold to heal or do you'll just hold for life? I think men hold for recreations, but I've heard of men fucking girls after a breakup to get over the girl. Heard that that's possible. So have you ever hold to him? I don't I don't know if I didn't intentionally, but you like I didn't, I didn't plan to be like, no, I'm hurt, I'm
gonna gon that just because I'm hurt. I don't think I did that. I think men hold naturally, So is it not natural for women to hold them? Do you think I can't? I can't say that. I'm not a woman, so I can't really say that. But I think I've heard women say that they be like heart broken and then they go through a fuck may this shaise? And they used because its object. Yeah, help cope with them, cope with the pain. But for ship, yeah, for sure, ships and giggles like men like this, men like to
take of the captain. So how do men heal? Men don't heal up from And then like you said, sixty yeah, and it gives me sixty eight no more. Because men don't believe and been a lot of a lot of black our conds. Don't believe in therapy. They don't believe in opening up to the women. You know, they might open up to their mother, like they they don't open up to people that's going to help them get better. So men would just put a little rubbing alcohol and
I said, keep moving. They just they don't want to go to the doctor. They just for a little alcohol. Yeah. Push up, yeah, ginger, push up. So man, that's been problems. And then when you fifty, you got mad problems, you got mental problems, got physical problems like way before fifty year before. If you're lucky, you're right, that's true. But I don't. I don't think men potentially have sex with women to get over pains. I think men now, I think the opposite. I think if if nickeluses bitch, he'll
be hurt for like two and a half weeks. He might the bead, he might crying the bed to like you know, Joe songs and ship genuine, and then after that, I think could be to it. He going to the next girl alive. He's gonna start a new slate. She don't know, myn She don't know the bullshit that he did. He could, like you know, like his under his act was crazy, thank you and look let all the ship out crazy. He did this. But he's not gonna tell the eighty five things that he did to lose the bit.
He's just gonna tell like crazy. So Nigga's just do that and then it's like it's like a cold thing because I've been there with like you lose your girl and you know what, you know that you deserve to lose your girl, but you still be mad for like two or three weeks, like I said, and then he just come to like I'm just finding another girl to just thought over with. Right, So Colling, that's crazy. We
can agree, then, thank you. We can agree that calling women crazy is like a cop out where is of course the girls whom we're doing too, who were nigga is really be crazy. So if I say, nigga, you crazy, you're really crazy. Yeah, a woman don't tell their home girls everything they did to make a nigga or leave him alone, and then you said you do. Talking is my therapy. Whoever to funk on, Listen, I'm gonna telling what the hell happened. I'm gonna tell all of them
ship I did. I'm gonna tell you, definitely tell you all this the nigga did. Talking is why niggas leave me alone. But you think you think that y'all can honestly admit that y'all take a good man away before that. I don't like that. I don't like to chase. I don't feel like I've never chased a good man. Yeah, not take my chase. That's the wrong word. You think you think you, your your personality or your actions scared
a good man away before. Absolutely. I can say absolutely for me because sometimes I like my personality is a lot and everybody can't handle it. I can't say you a good man either, because I have talked to people who later aron they want to tell me, oh, I should have chose you this in the third all waiting now married with kids and ship. Are you really a good man? Professing your fucking love to me? Does that
make him not a good man though? Don't Yeah, because of a listen, I'm saving their relationship, but not busting the wide open for a nigger. That's a fact. Yeah. So is he really about because he's ready to smash if I allowed to? Sometimes people saying relationship about getting him? How so explained? Please? Because the SoC because you have sex with two where he realized how much he loves girl. Damn, my pussy is not that wack, sir, I don't know who you play. First of all, I'm breaking out. Let's
supposed to be breaking up home. No, it's a little and look whack now, but she doesn't give good hits. She didn't listen. Oh and you got a good It could be every day. Okay, I've heard that. I've heard that I gotta leave through alone because I kind of like you better than my girl. And you don't even like me like that because you know I've got a girl.
You're not gonna take tribute. No, I'm not funking nobody who got a girl like that now, But guys who may be single at the time, and I'm talking to them like my personality may scare them off because I'm like a wild card. I feel like men a lot of times they find more comfort and knowing exactly who you've been with throughout life. So like, you don't know me, like I may not even be from the city, so
you can't go ask somebody about me. So that gives them a little and might scare them off a little bit. But the only thing that running is off from me is my mouthpiece. That's it. Then love everything else about me and then be like, yo, you don't know how to shut the funk up. That's the truth. I'm working out.
I'm good. Everybody needs to work on shining some men don't hold to heal, but women don't ye him, but they don't they hold it get in trouble, and that's why they need to heal, because they hold in the first place they hold to have a good night. But what I've heard from men who are now like married, stuff like that, it's like once they get to a point where they no longer need to be out here in the streets, like everything else in their life falling together.
Like if you have a family, or maybe you might be married, right and you stopped working around on your wife or the girl that you really you you're in love with, but you keep working on these holes out here. Once they stop that dumb ship and do right by the woman in their life, everything else just starts going well for them. Now I agree with that. I had that, but yeah I had that. But a lot of guys that I know that's very miserable. They like they don't
get coucie. They get couchie two tons of mind. They gotta pay all the bills. They don't got money to go out no more that they gotta pay everything, you know, like they gotta be a Provada provider man. No, No, it's not it's not gonna when they got to be Provada and they're not getting before they getting tired of the same opus. But let's talk about that. I know this is going in a whole another conversation. How many times if you if you got a girl, right, how
many times a week are you expecting sex? Um? Three? Three times? That's it? Every other day? Yeah, I gotta nigt complaining about not getting some pussy. Like literally, were together for fourteen days, right, and three out of three month? No, no, no no, three out of three out of the fourteen days we didn't have sex. And he's looking at me like, we fucking three years and something. So you get him three, you get him pus three every two nine, nigger, what's
what's three months? Fourteen? No? He eleven times year? So no, we had sex eleven times but not and then the three times three days out out the fourteen days we did not have sex. He was uh oh yeah, he he shot all right, And I'm like, you're because you keep feeding him at sea moss girl. Take him off for that, like, I know I've been fucking like you ain't a fucking what happened? Yeah, he was, he was a little breedy three times a week. I'm gonna take
that name. You said about mattery though, like I'm used to like already. What what makes you think women don't get used to the dick. I'm not saying y'all don't. I'm saying that it costs. Like I think a man got, he got a many many expect more because they got to spend more. So that's how niggas think, whether it's right or wrong, and they can like, yo, I'm paying seven thousand dollars in bills I want, I should get
pussy whenever I want. Because I think if a woman was paying seven thousand dollars a month in bills and they lived with it, and they're laying next to a stink foot nigga every every day, you're gonna want some head and some dick. You want your actlete every day because we're like nigger. So I'm not here laying that to a like you know, like that's that's how men think,
Like yo, she's taking a lot of my brand. And I think you know pussy and you don't want me to cheat, You're gonna sunk me up about cheat too. So it's like what I'm gonna do yeah, but a lot of that's why a lot of married men are visible. That's why they go to dr three times and years. You know you're during gonna know yo, Yeah seven dollar hollars, but y'all shows dope. I'm gonna keep it going. Thank you so much, thank you for joining us today. We
appreciate it all right. Just hut me up. I got to do it in person soon and we let a okay, I so again. So women just be hoing to he intentionally and nigga's just hosed by nature, so we'd literally be laying the bad things about me. I'm gonna go like they don't do the same ship, Like why why, why the funk are we so different? Because women are from Mars and men are from Venus? What was that bitch up from Charleston, South Carolina? Got mafia bit? Hold on.
Before we get into anything else, let's pay some bills real quick. So I went to find some healthy ways to not fuck to heal, so healthy ways to heal. So um, there was a list that I found. Yoga was on it. So you can do your downward dog without dick behind you, just good by yourself. Um journaling, so you can list the things, list your strengths right down your feelings, and don't draw no dicks, no draw,
no scribble um. Forgiveness, that's very important. Forgive yourself for whatever you're going through, and forgive others, and don't forgive them for them, forgive them for you. Mirror work, now, this is the one that I do by myself when I'm high, and it's fun. I'll be cracking up. It's where you talk to yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, how you a boss bitch? Are you a bad bitch? How you the ship? And can't nobody funk with you? So look in the mirror right now, a j tell yourself,
who are you saying that? The mic though, so they can what else? Who are you looking at mirror to? No is serious as it see, Mirror work is. It's kind of hard, right, It's hard to look at yourself in the mirror and talk to yourself. Okay, well, when we push it off here, we're gonna stay it in the mirror together. And I am pride, I am power, my badass mother who don't take no crap for nobody. You don't know what the movie that is? You don't watch movies then you watched too much. Want that girl,
get your life, all right. The next one is breath work for healing. And there's this thing called harmonic breathing and it's the ancient form of breathing that has you utilize two breaths and one x hell for at least seven minutes. So it's kind of like that kind of situation, right, and um, it's kind of like a form of meditation. So that's meditating for a breath work for healing. Uh. One big one that we all can use in our
lives and we need it's friendship. Friendship, spending time with your girls, getting to have you know, having fun with your girls. That's a way to cope with and heal without fucking. Okay unless you sucking your home girls, and some of y'all be doing that, but don't fuck them. Counseling and therapy that is a very important one, that big one that we all really need to utilize. We as African Americans, we are really just starting to talk
about mental health in a way that we haven't. You know, I don't remember growing up talking about our our mental health. Getting the therapist is a real big thing. And your friends cannot always be a therapist. Like, like I said, I like to talk, and that's an outlet for me to be able to just have a conversation with the people I know that love to care about me. But they can always the blind leading the blind sometimes because I have something for is that will be like, bit
you sucking up? Or that'll make sense? Or why are you doing that? I have some friends like that, so it's important to have those type of friends. But so you want somebody outside of your life, a professional I can give you real lives guidance, you know, even adults. Adults see guidance too. For me, I feel like it's sometimes it's hard for my friends to tell me the truth about myself because I get like combative with my friends when they tell me the truth. Sometimes I know,
you know, luckily I like to argue. Sometimes I'd be like, you know what, why I don't see like that because I'm not getting my point in class. Okay, let's just start again tomorrow. So I know I need to like seek professional help when it comes to that, because a bit to tell me about myself and I'll be ready to fight. And then I get instead of receiving the information, I started telling them about their ship. They ain't even
got nothing to do with the right girl. You know, I started bringing up the ship like, so yeah, counseling is a very good one. Um. Another way is to help someone help someone, regardless of their gender. A lot of women will help a nigga before they help their own friends. Help your friends. And if one of your friends happens to be a man and he needs to help help him, did um it says. Another one was to laugh, so you know, spend time watching something or
doing something that makes you feel joyous inside. And then it also offers to cry. So a lot, especially Black people, we hold our cry. Oh not me. I look at myself in the mirror like you were like, ugly bitch, stop crying. So you can tell yourself that in the mirror. But you can't say nice things see yourself. I know, I gotta work on that. This is therapy right now. But you get all right, So when we get after we hate this ship up, we're gonna stand in weird.
I'm standing behind you and hold your shoulders and I'm encourage you to say nice things to yourself. But okay, so right when you need to cry, let it out, like y'all be holding that ball in your throat so tight, like holding that ship and let it go, bitch, let it out. If you're feeling stut right now, are you listening to this? Let that ship out, release it to the universe so it can be done, and apologize to yourself yourself, sorry, right, but give yourself. It's okay, bitch.
We all playing suck up. Okay. And then another one is to work out. Exercise releases endorphins, and endorphins make you happy, so when you're taking care of yourself, you're gonna feel good. And go get some real workout clothes. Don't be in there with the big stretched out white tea like. Go get some real workout clothes, maybe some sneakers and match fit. It's gonna motivate you because you are look cute. You look here, and you're working on
making yourself even look look even better. And the last one that I found a good line, it's a hug. Come here, girl, let me get your hug right now. M hugs heal, hugs feel good. AJ has big titties, so her hugs feel even better. I'm gonna charge this, bitch man. We havena DEVI car that bitch, because I'm not gonna take all the sexual harassment for for their free I'm sorry, well bad, I'll see you, but i'm seeing your invoice. I'll see you forty. That's the going rate.
That was good, So try to implement those. They're called fourteen ways to heal without fuckings. That's what I said, on said fourteen ways to heal emotionally. Yeah, that's a good list. I think we should all look within. Don't go looking outside of yourself for healing, because it starts with the because the better you feel about yourself, the less access these outside entities will have to right. And you know we we allowed the world around us stuff beat us up all the time. I know I do it.
I'm watching social media and looking at these bitches on here. I love to see black women being spoiled because I don't feel like we're spoiled enough. But to have you feeling less than like ship images that you see, what have you feeling? But you have to remind yourself and speak goodness of yourself and love of yourself all the time, and remind yourself, like listen, if you hear the sound of my voice right now, bait, you are that bitch, bitch,
you hear me. You are bad you. There's no one else on this earth created like you, not one soul, and where you're going, there's no more you. So don't let nobody tell you that you're not that ship, because you are so. Stop using your pussy. Stop letting them use it, only you use it. But if you're using it, I am a firm believer. If you are using your vagina, please assured that you are being compensated. Please make sure that you are being compensated. You're not just out here
frivilously using your vagina and your rent is past. You do what makes you happy, so you cannot be happy when your tires is bald and you know all change you mean? I agree, I agree, but don't be a prostitute. Don't listen to it like man, girl is the oldest profession. You can have sex with someone just because you want to have sex and not be financially compensated for it. Right, how many times though this it's like a three pack or four pack? I just like you should do what
makes you happy. As long as you're happy and fulfilling it, then do that. But if you are unhappy and you fucking that's a problem. Absolutely, this is a great conversation. This was. Are we gonna get in the mirror. I'm gonna get in that mirror. Let me tell you the hardest part from me. When I get in that mirror, I'm gonna take my wig off before I do. I don't like my no problem, I don't like these meek wheel raised without doing it when she had the white bower,
took her lashes off, took a wig off. You're looking at your real self. It's different, different, but I'm gonna do it. We're about to do it right now as the kid take her whef wig off, because let's sleep that little shopping partners and always glue down tight. I'm gonna take mine off though, So do we have Oh I do have a good random sex back for today, let's hear it. So this random sex back. There's a
bird out there and it's called the bower birds. So there are a couple of different species of this bird, but they all kind of do the same kind of thing. So the most notable characteristic of a bower bird is there extraordinarily complex courtship and mating behavior where males build a bower, which is like an attractive dwelling or like a retreat to attract mates. So they build these beautiful bower nest type things to attract the female bower bird. So in and around the bower, the male places a
variety of brightly colored objects he has collected. So these objects, usually different among each species, may include hundreds of shells, these flowers, feathers, stones, berries, and even discarded plastic items coins, nails, right for shells, or pieces of glass. The males spend hours arranged in these collections. Several studies of different species have shown that colors of decorations males use on their
bowers match the preferences of the female bower bird. In addition to the bower instruction ornamentation, male birds perform involved courtship displays to attract the female. Research suggests that the male adjustice performance based on success and female response. Uh mate searching females commonly visit multiple bowers, often returning to preferred bowers several times and watching males elaborate courtship displays and inspecting the quality of the bower. To this process,
the female reduces the set of potential mates. Many females end up selecting the same male, and many underperforming males are less without copulation. Females made it with top mating males tend to return to the male the next year and search less during you sell you read the size project, bitch. So basically what they're saying is nicky, you gotta have a house. The bat bird have a bomb mass that's
his ap, bitch. You got an ap and the chain o the bout birds to attract a bird to track his bird his bottom got If we're supposed to be to sophisticated animals, why do these female bower birds no to select the highest value male and he then they come back year after year to make at that same Now a lot of them come back for the same bird, don't you know that right? That's what I'm saying, Yeah, they sold about bird, were having all the bitches with
the nicest a PM. Don't sound like I don't never forget what we are doing though, So why don't we just act like we know what the fun is up? Because the animals, some of this is just a straight old chicken bottom of a bowl, bird, pigeon. So that's how right now, section for the day. You don't have to be a pigeon of me about Burger. Yeah, Sonny, get you a nigger with a house at least to fuck you in, or maybe just a headboard. Let's start there. The one time I had this and it was a
mattress on the floor with a nice comfort on it. No, and the problems. But the problem is that woman let him fuck them on that mattress, and that's why he think it's okay. So if all women were on the same page, like, listen, nigga, you got at least have a house, car, job, and a headboard and we in there. Niggas would not get pussy if they didn't have that bare minimum. But here's the thing. I've seen too homeless people fucking l a. So it's they deserve each other.
But you have homeless niggas think they deserve attend. I had a niggers stopped me and asked me for some money, and I gave it to him and then asked me where was it that this Carolina bitch? That night I went to the Walgreens. Is that stups down the street by Harris Ceater. First a dude to ask me for a ride, Then he asked me for a place to stay and then he asked me if I had a boyfriend, at what point do you think you could do anything
to me? And I just looked like, I need a homeless nigga, But listen, you do be taking homeless people, which I'm not taking a home has grown man. And I can't even give a man who looks my age asking for money, and I have a hard time giving the money. I listen, I met this right down on UH Central in Charlotte. I meant this finest homeless nigger right, And I was like, what you doing out here? Like baby,
damn baby, Like listen, he made this. He gave me this elaborate story why he needed money, and it was sounded like something that he rehearsed. You know. It's like my daughter has in masks and she wants to rights betree cereal and I want to go pick it up her. So if you could, like really elaborate story. And I was like, listening, cut the ship. I'm gonna give you some money, but keeping one hunting with me. You're not about to go buy no cereal for your daughter with
a mask. He's like no. I was like, listen, don't do that. Don't use your daughters to feed your addiction. And he probably even seen his daughter in years. Right, his daughter was in Raleigh. She wasn't even in Charlotte. He told me. I was like, listen, I got in mess. Don't use that. That's not funny, that's not cool. Don't do that. I was like, you're very young. You're still young,
and you're a good looking man. Maybe have a mental illness, and then when you don't have support, you don't have family to help you, you end up on the streets. It was so sad. I almost took him home, but I've changed my mind. I gave him the five dollars and I kept on going to you, you might have got to fight out of football. He's fine. To was sad. I hated to see him out there like that before we go. Did you see Beyonce with her ass out like she's scared? She's scared to talk about Beyonce for
the bee Hive? Come sorry, girl, what the fund is Beyonce doing her ass out? Girl? She met she feels like she was missing out or something. M hmmm, girl, if you don't talk about this, I don't want to talk about this. Is crazy out here saying nothing about Beyonce's certain motherfucker's ain't gonna say nothing about Beyonce say gay people, Jesus that it knows about three people ain't got no problems with Alright, But if you guys like the conversation, hey, that's up on Instagram at We Talk
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wanted to do that. Maybe I want I need a man. This is the year for me. God said I'm gonna find love this year. He a j Tella, y you that special man for me? All right? We out by