In my last relationship, and I talked about this last week too, Like I mentioned open, this is before we did this? Was this before we did the recording? I feel like it was you had his email and I saw he was still communicating with some bitches that I had actually forbid him. Like I would never like say you can't be friends with these people, but these particular two people, like they've vandalized ship, They've done dumb ship.
So I'm like, and once we start elevating and these people are still in your life, like they see red when they don't get their fucking weight. So I don't ever want that type of person around me man or woman, And you should feel the same way. But he was still communicating with them, So I'm like, listen, you want an open relationship, Like that's how I started the conversation, Like do you? So, then that way you won't feel like you're having a sneak. You won't have to do
this via email. You could just text them or call them on the phone in front of me if you wanted to, just as long as you know I'm on the same type of time. But that's not something that and maybe this is, uh, this is would you say that an open relationship, you see that more in the white community as opposed to black Like, how many people, how many black people beyond an open relationship? What the guy and girlfriend relationship? Big big lariously. I don't know.
We have a ton of couples and open relationships. But I've met mostly white people. Yeah, mostly white people, like usually weird white people. But are they still together? I feel like this, this would be the um case study. Most of them are married, or that's what I'm saying, Like, I feel like relationships like that may last longer because
what do you have? You have nothing to hide. I think with regard to that, it starts that way if that any point later in the relationship you introduce it, not unless you're just very open with everything else like that. That was a conversation in my last relation because he he was like, you know, before we break up, maybe we should try and open relation. I'm like, no, because when we first met, you were doing you and I was doing me this much waiting on you, so you
no longer have that opportunity. I would do something like that with a new person, where we set those ground rules one yeah, like that, I can't I can't do
that because you've lost that grace. And then I would say to you, as you meet new people and men especially, it's like, maybe don't reveal everything, but like talk about that last relationship and how like this became a problem and like we maybe should have started at the beginning and then maybe it could have seen how it went versus like you literally see him still sneaking and you're like, yo, so do you want to open relationship for I can't
see you like yes, like what the fun? And then just see his reaction too, because it's like you'll see like he'll either he'll either get insecure and be like want to protect his side, bitches, or he'll be like and not want you to do it, or he'll be like, hey, all right, I got three other people I'm already talking to, Like go ahead, you can talk to people and then
we can see where this goes. Like but not to just but like as far as like what happens long term, it's like I haven't really been able to follow up like with people that I met like online or like that I talked to you that we're in open relationships. But it's like oftentimes it just seems like if it started that way, it's better and it has a long term potential versus like whenever it gets introduced later as a ditch effort to save the relationship. No, it's like
having a kid to save your marriage. It's like, yeah, it's too your it's too gone, like you guys know, because I think it's another misconception, or maybe I said that before, but it's like people don't think that individuals and open relationships are committed to one another. Like y'all committed, y'all committed to whatever it is together, whatever it is, and yeah, that's that's an importance, And it just seems like a stronger a stronger relationship as far as I'm concerned.
That's the projection. That's the projection where they project in their ego what they would think. Oh, if I'm in that situation, then we're not committed to each other. Because my version of commitment is you do exactly what the funk I want you to do whenever the funk I want you to do it. That's insecurity. That's ego projecting. That should happen to me all the time. It literally it would hurt. It would hurt my heart though, because people would be coming at me straight up, don't even
know me. They're like, and then they just straight up killing me, just like you are this, you are that, you need Jesus, you need this, you need that. You don't know it's this child. They're in fake ass monogamous relationships where where he's sucking a bunch of business and then one day you like, funk that I'm gonna go a nigger, Like that's just what happens, and it's just is And here's a lot to tell your stad was
all about it. Yeah you okay. So I was saying something earlier and she just I think I got the indicator that she disagreed. I was talking about the long term thing, like if you start with it, it's good. If you try to introduce it later, it's bad. She
had to rebuttal to that. I think. I'm just thinking about the people that we do know, and I don't think they I don't think any of them started out in an open relationship, like we're the only ones I know that have started that, But they did start with open communication and openness, so like they may not have been actively having sets with other people, but they were able to openly communicate about things that they wanted and what they just anything communication wise, if you're able to
communicate with and be honest with your partner, then I feel like it's okay to introduced this idea, like, hey, you know, we're both always horny, maybe we should other people? What do you think, you know, or whatever it might be. I think if you're able to openly communicate with your partner, then I don't think there'd be anything wrong about bringing
up this idea. Yeah, that's probably a projection of mine too, because based on based on my experience with having its start and then it be you know, successful, So like that's probably just that's that's my subjective experience. I mean, like we were openly communicating. We weren't in an open relationship when we started dating. Was it was unspoken