EP 30 "Bihh What is a Simp" with B.F Nkrumah

I'm taking sour side, vitamin C, elderberry, black seed, or chlorophyll. Uh, just whatever you name it. I'm over here putting it in my body, trying to feel better. Take a laxative too, No, I don't need that. Look, but we do have a special guest on this week. Um, god damnit, pronunc you name again? Bama Daily. Good. I'm good. I'm very interested in uh what we're going to discuss today. So I'm I'm just I'm just waiting. Look, so one of my home girls sent me a clip over the weekend, um

from Alive that you did right? Um. A couple of days ago, and I'm like, man, I want to reach out to him. See if you're coming to show because for some reason, So on our show, we have a segment called SIMP Series and we have another segment called

dumb Bitched Worries. So the SIMP series is the equivalent to a dumb bitch story because in my definition of a SIMP is like a niggative be getting played by women, right, and then you have a dumb bitch, well you know, she may go through some things getting played by a guy. But for whatever reason, nowadays, the definition of simple has kind of shifted and it needs something different. Based on social media, is several different um definitions of a simple

at this point. So what I've been seeing is that any man that addresses men as a collective, oftentimes the men would say that man is simple. Have you seen that? So it's like me, personally, I don't think women should be addressing men as a collective. I feel like a man that has his head on his shoulders should address other men, right. We should never have to um confront and address men as a collective, and we should just you know, we talked to women. So women have lunches,

we have brunches. We got all types of pull ups when we talk our ship out amongst each other, amongst strangers. But I don't think that oftentimes men have that type of outlet, So I know, you know, yeah, so you have a you have something going on, like you you mentor men in the community, right, I don't, I don't, I don't know. I don't. I feel uncomfortable with that

term when it's grown men mentor. But that's the thing, Like, but you shouldn't feel uncomfortable because in order, you know, the whole thing is all black women are submissive enough, right, we're supposed to call it. But if you are a black man to me and you can't follow another black man that knows the way, I can't follow you. So if you're unable to be coachable teachable by another man, why should I follow you? Yes, that's really the type

of ship I want to talk to you about. I'm for saying that that that's not simple to me though, No, not at all. You know, like you said, any time you, you know, bring men to the carpet, or any time you are a supportive of black women, there's a contingency of black men, typically guys who are just a little corny. I never see any men of substance even using the words simple. I've never called a man of simp. I don't care if he fits any of the definitions of

a simp. I just that words just not in my vocabulary. But any time you agree with women, there's gonna be some men it's gonna call you a simple But why do you think that's happening? And how is it? How is that simping? And in the social media world, simping would be equivalent to um, like a pick me, that would be like the woman, right, they would say, like that woman too in the social media world pick me and in the simps go together. But in the real world is like a simp and the dumb bitch goes

together on our show anyway. Yeah, so in the in the social media around what what happened was there? I have been quite a few men who have made their living off of bashing men and just telling a women what they want to hear. Um. So anytime anything is said that it's almost you know, anything that sounds something like they would say, God, start calling that man a simlar is crazy, because I hope everybody accountable. Black men

and black women. I get called a simple I get called a man basher, I get called a woman eater, I get called everything because I bring everybody to the car. So you know, it depends on the day, you know, you know what I'm what I'm getting called, whatever topic I'm dealing with, you know, because there's been plenty of times where have been women telling me, oh you eight women. It's like baby, Like just yesterday, I was a simp. Now today I hate women crazy. You can't you can't

correct anybody, right. Um. I've said several times that a lot of the issues that we have going on in the the black community, we could it could lay at the feet of the black woman, you know, because I believe we set the standards, so whatever we say go. So a nation is only as strong as the women as

far as I'm concerned. But talk about this, uh if you can, if you can remember some of the key points of your Live from last week in regards to because this, this particular episode will align with the last few episodes we've had out about relationships. So how does uh the conversation, Um, what a woman brings to the table. That was what your your Live was pertaining to. Yeah, so the thing it was, it was addressing so many videos that I'm seeing on social media where there's a

blanket statement of what do women bring to the table? And, as I said in a love ever heard the question frame in a way where somebody's actually trying to learn. It's typically used to say women don't bring anything to the table. It's like a rhetorical question. And so my my thing is, first, I've never had a conversation when I'm sitting down with a woman to actually say, well, what do you bring to the table. I never even had a woman asked me so, what do you bring

to the table. It's kind of a weird um the question to ask. But there's all of these little forms and all of these podcasts and all of these videos where men are are asking what women bring to the table. And I'm like, well, one of the things I teach my men, right, one of our first classes is I'm defining who you are, right. And I don't think any of the men that have came through, and this is not a knock on them, because I didn't know who I was myself. We're not taught to actually identify who

we are. So when I have my first initial conversation with the brothers before they joined, I asked me, who are you? Nobody can actually tell me who they are, so we go through a process of actually learning who you are. So when I said in that clip that the men don't know who they are, wasn't a knock against the minutes because we were not taught to actually

learn who we are. But when you learn who you are, you're not going to be asking a blanket statement of what do women bring to the table, because you understand one that every woman brings something different to the table. Every woman has a different character, every woman has different beliefs, every woman has different set of skills. When you know who you are, you know what kind of woman that

you want. So I'm not going to ask a blanket statement of what the women bring to the table because it's gonna be a million different things where you understand the talents, the giftedness and everything that each woman has. So I need to be looking for a particular type of woman that fits and flows with who I am. So I'm not just going to be going on a

bunch of blind dates. I'm not you know, that's the only way you're gonna be sitting down with somebody you know nothing about other than that, you should be observed with somebody and you should be seeing some like Damn. I like how she lose. I like what she's doing. I like how she runs that business, or I like how she volunteers or whatever it is. I like how she's in church, I like how she's at the masque,

whatever it is. Like, I'm observing who you are from afar, and I feel like you and I can be compatible as opposed to just having this blanket statement that, well, what do women bring to the table, Because you can bring something absolutely phenomenal to the table that I do not need, that does not mess with me well at all, that that does not compliment me, that does not mean you're a bad woman. Well, I could bring something to the table that is absolutely phenomenal that does not compliment you.

So this blanket statement of what do women bring to the table, to me, it really doesn't make sense because when you're flowing in your I am, when you're flowing through who you are, you are going to attract people who are going to compliment who you are, what you're doing, and where you're going. I think that men who asked you know what women bring to the table. It's almost equivalent to the the black woman saying they don't need a nigger, I don't need a man. It's like, that's

what it is to me. That's exactly what it is. So I mean, it's not true. We all need each other. So um, like you're saying, like finding somebody that compliments what you already have going on. I feel like the men who have ship established in some way, they aren't the ones that ask me what you bring it to the table, because oftentimes they really don't need you to come with much. But you have a lot of men

that just need a lot of help. And instead of admitting that they need help, and that's the type of woman, they're looking for somebody to help them in business, um, somebody to help them with their children. You kind of have these expectations of people. You didn't lay any of your expectations out, which you can lay expectations out, but to ask somebody what you bring to the table, to me, it's kind of disrespectful. And I think women we may

get an attitude about it. If you ask a guy like what he brings to the table, he may not get an attitude about it. He may just tell you whatever it is that he brings to the table. But I think, like you said, when it's asked, when when women are asked what they bring to the table, it's negative. It's never anything positive. It's always with a negative connotation

behind it. Yeah, and my and another point that I was making in the video is a portion of that is because a lot of these men are just going after face tips and asks, so they don't even like So when I posted that video, I got thousands of views, I got a whole bunch of comments. Everybody's mad. So the next next day I posted, well, brothers, what's your type? Then what do you want? What is what is your

what is your types? Cricket? Those same guys that was calling me a simp and all of that, they don't come double back and say, well I want this type of Well, because you're you're you're you're picking a woman based off of how she looks physically, and since that's the only thing you cared about, now you're in the room with it, like, well what do you bring to the table. That's because you didn't like anything about her prior to one to even talk to her, like I

need a woman to be physically attractive to me. But I have to be attracted to more than just how you look in order for me to want to engage with you. I don't want to. I don't want to engage with any woman simply off of how she looks. That's just not how I roll. Because again, I know who I am, I know what I do, and I know where I'm going. So I can't just be following or or trying to talk to any woman because she

looks at It just doesn't make sense. So how does this then become a simple amongst the men in the black community? How does one become a simp because you're addressing men and how they should be impertaining to women. Well, you're only a simp to a small portion of of men.

You would like when every time I click on one of the fort one of the profiles of the men who called me a simple, it's like you're you're a total aware, like you're a total awared, or you're you're yeah, like you're mad at women because they don't like you. You know, you're you're you're a bland guy. You don't have any cherica, you don't have any you don't have any charisma. You know, nobody in your neighborhood knows you're like you just you know you're and you're upset, you know.

So they always say stuff like you know you're you're trying to You're saying this because you're trying to get women. I've never had a problem getting women. I'm like, like, like, brother, I don't. I never have to jump on a woman's side on social media to get a woman to like No, but you project everything because you can't get a woman. Maybe y'all should start sipping. Since you think this is the way to get women, maybe you should start slipping.

Like any time a man is getting attention from women, it's the small pocket men that's gonna call you a simple whatever you're doing, and they just need to get their selves together. Yeah, it's usually the men who ain't never got any women from elementary to high school too now and their adult lives. I promise you go to that post, go go to that video. I'm gonna go and click on all of the profiles of the guys that call the sex And when you do that, I want you to say, I want to know what you

date any of them. That's what that's what I want to go to the profile of all of the guys that called me sent a simple and I want to know what you and I already know the answers. No, that's their problem. Okay. So I feel like the simps have a spokesperson. It's a certain other, another man that's on social media, and as of lately, he's been turning his rhetoric back towards men. But he built his platform

off of women bashing. As far as I'm concerning, he gave a voice to what I would consider a simp. These guys who would be calling you the sim the comments, right, he gave a voice to them. He's like the voice of the man who never had access to the women he thought he should have access to. You know, So now you have this guy's telling you it's the women's fault. It's the women, it's the women's fault. Why you've never been able to get the woman you wanted? Who you're

talking about? Yeah, you know what I'm talking now at all. It's some things we don't we don't disagree with him as well. I feel like some way, somehow women get his message completely mixed up. His He has one message, is that regular women should deal with regular men. That's

the that's the crux of his message. But that is this message, right, But then you have regular men who don't think that there are five's at best, and now they're talking down to women that made a collective or a consensus, maybe this this woman if we're talking about it's the it's the how he talks about the physical um aesthetics. Seven woman. I don't like you, see what I'm saying, because then you have these five at best men talking crazy about you know, he said that Sweetie

was a six. He has a weird scale, and that's because he removes the seven. But to him, yeah, because would be average. But basically to him, a six is not bad. He said Beyonce, Yes, yes, you think Beyonce's eight? Uh? Eight? N She's definitely not a ten. Who's the ten? Who's the ten besides me? Excuse me? Who am I totally infatuated with? I just feel like all women should feel

like they're a ten, you know. And see that's I think, And and that's why Kevin Sanders has has a voice because there, for some reason, is this notion that every woman just beautiful like men understand. I'm not attractive if he if he's not attractive, so I need to do other things if I'm going to want to get women. But for some reason, every woman is walking around feeling

like she's a tent. And that's why they're on kept of Samuel Show asking, uh, you know, saying I deserve a six figure man or a man making four and thousand dollars a year, just like maybe you don't fit that that mold. Yeah, but if so, how he even popped off was because he had a woman on there who was making a hundred thousand dollars a year, and all she was looking for was a man who made

that same thing. So he automatically went to the physical um asking her, you know, to rate herself this in a third, but I'm just asking for equal at this point, and exactly that's regular money nowadays. Well, a hundred thousand dollars really isn't a lot, but that's because most of the country's poor, because a hundred thousand dollars is not the average. It's only a small fraction of people who

are actually making that. When you really look at the numbers, the average, the average man is making like forty dollars a year. Really I don't know about that. Now, go ahead and look it up. I just saw McDonald's offering thirty five dollars an hour. Right now, there's no way that people. That's how I signed up. McDonald's signed for thirty five. I'm about to go work their part times. The McDonald's rather corner for me is starting up. They might have been giving that up. If you get a

COVID shot, yeah probably, yeah. Yeah. Everybody's not making a hundred talking dollars. Now, y'all might be in a circle where people are making that money. I'm in a circle of people that's making that money. But the average the average person is not making a hundreds. So do you know a lot of single black men who are making a hundred thousand dollars? Okay? Do you know? Do you know? Definitely? No tent Okay, do you know? Then, I'm don'na think I know twenty Are they single men? Are they single?

Are they single? M No, I'm the only one over there single. I gotta give my life. I gotta give my life together. They'd be going, they being on trips and something they can tell me about the pictures. I'll be like single ass I know, they said that's what I say. I gotta get my life together. Got I gotta get my life together? Um yeah, so um yeah

so that when not when I listened to the chemisting. Now, what I will say is a lot of those bottom barrel men have have lashed onto him and have somewhat taken has taken his message and kind of twisted it. So you know what he's talking to them, and I don't, I don't know. Let me says, I don't like the way he talks. So I do not like the way he talks to me. That's that's very that's very problematic.

I don't like the way he talks. But when he's just talking about all right men of this stature, if they're single, they're not really looking for a woman who already has kids X, Y and Z from his experience, because he's in this round talking to these man and I definitely um agree with that. Where I don't, I don't care. Now I might have like a one or two child maximum, but but then you have these regular guys who are all these women bringing the table with

somebody else kids. These women don't bring nothing to the table but somebody else's kids. So his his message is being used to be little women. And I just where are these women? Because I know all the women, the women that I know, they're be getting money. So I'm trying to figure out who are these men dating? Um is it because it's bottom of the barrel man, and there's bottom of the barrel women. So my philosophy is you are who you eat, you are who you beat.

So it's something in you, something in that person you see in yourself basically if you're working with him, so what type of women that you're attracting? Like, it's about partner selection at that point. And I always say like if a woman has never been with a good man, like, chances are sheen either if you've never ever had a good man. A lot of those guys probably I don't

know if they ever had a woman. Like when you go to the loo to the profile, you know they're taking the ball because they ate women like yo, I'm telling you, Like those guys they've got whoever that they could get like, and then they're mad at any man who gets any attention from women. And it's it's just it's crazy shame. It just feels like Kevin Samuel's It's

like the mascot for bidter men. And it's not just not even just men who can't get people or can't get women, um, it's also men who like fail marriages and feel relationships that are bitter. Now I feel like he's a mascot for them as well. He's definitely become that. I don't, I really do not believe that's his intent.

If you ever watched, like when he's being interviewed by somebody else to listen to, you know, how he can't, you know, start doing what he's doing and why he doesn't you know, when he's really getting into you know what the crux of his messages. It sounds, it sounds solely different, but it's like women are misunderstanding. Both both men and women are misunderstanding his message. The women are getting mad at him, and then the men are too.

Can use it again. So I think he needs to, you know, switch up something so it doesn't cost so much. So many, so many things recently he did started because he started before he was so big on social media. He was speaking to men. He had conferences and things like that geared towards men to nobody. Nobody cares when you when you when when you talk to men that way.

As soon as the video surface of him talking to a woman, and he got a million Yeah, because whenever whenever I called men to task, listen, women preach this. You know I love this that as soon as this, as soon as I switched to women, the same women who was on my side, they hate me. They don't want no accountability. So that's also that's also let it fly. So even if you were to say something like that, but the hit dog will always halling. Man and woman yep,

on both sides hate his message. I just hate his delivery because he'll have a conversation with a woman who has called in, so she did call in for this abuse. But she'll ask him, well, what do you rate yourself? And he's like, see, that's what's wrong with you, bitches, and hang up on him like what's that? I know what I'm saying immediately, what's wrong with you? The wrong with Like, yeah, I don't like his delivery. My favorite one when he was like that sounds like a big

bitch of the back. Big bitches need love too, though, that's the thing, like, and big bitches get love. I don't know what he's talking about. Yeah, but he's not. He's not saying that they don't. You're just saying every woman that calls in his show one of man that's

making six figures of more. And that's where he's like, baby, you're you don't fit that mold a god that's making this money as options and you're not going to be But why that's in the black community though, because yes, and generally right of black American men and women probably make forty thousand. You say, that's what the median are the I don't know about that. We have to look

at those numbers. But that's only in our community. That's in our community, right, So now we go to the next community, which I don't it's not A hundred thousand dollars is not the standard for any race. We're talking about business owners like truck drivers making like, yeah, y'all need to look this stuff up. That's the like maybe cilinar population or less. I don't know. I'm gonna have to look at I hate looking at statistics because who put that ship out there, Somebody who wants to control

a narrative. So I'm just going based off of my small sample size of people that I know, and that's the that's the problem. You're going on your small sample size. So it's people that I know and m people that you know. What can you say about the men that you know thinking money? That's what I'm saying, Like, so that's two women who know men that get money. It's men here that get money now rather not he wants to give it to you. That's different. I'm not saying

it's not some men out here that's getting it. I'm definitely around men who are, but there are a lot more men who are not. That's just not the average. That's not the average. The average guy who's a cop, it's not making a hundred thousand dollars a year. And he has a degree, he may be making a hundred thousands. I know two police officers in Charleston County, and I

know they make a hundred thousand dollars. That sounds like you think they make a hundred thousand dollars, Because that that didn't sound like I know that that they're going like, Listen, the average salary of a cop is not a hundred thousand dollars. The average teacher is not waking nobody. You know, when you look at all of these professions, well, most of these professionals are not paying you a hundred thousand dollars. I'm looking it up unless you're going a lot of

a lot of overtime. A lot of uses aren't making a hundred thousand dollars. Nurses don't make a hundred thousand dollars. Are a hundred thousand dollars is not average salary though, I just feel like, I don't know, it's people like, it's a lot of people starting to become billionaires, a lot of black billionaires, and I just feel like a hundred thousand dollars a black billionaires Kanye and Rihanna. Yeah, No, I'm talking about we're starting to see more black billionaires, young,

young black billionaires. Rihanna just became a billionaire off a couple of people. So I'm saying, who who Who are the black billions. But the fact that we are seeing it means that we're getting more money out here, and I feel like millionaires at this point, it's really hard for to see a black billionaire. But we definitely are seeing a lot of black millionaires. Because you can make a million dollars on social media alone, you definitely can't.

It's definitely more people making it. But again, that's just not the average. It's just not it's just not the average. Like you're really in the upper like I think if you make a two dollars, you're like like top three percent of earners. Really, So there's nineteen black billionaires based on this list on Google. Of course jay Z is on their Oprah is on there, Robert Smith is on there, Kanye's on there, and some other people, and I don't even think this person is in America. Ye, So yeah,

we definitely see more black millionaires nowadays. Yeah, there definitely are. I don't know, but yeah, these are all the round table talk discussions that go on in the black community right now because I think we're all just out here trying to figure it out, how to figure it out for our future, you know what I'm saying, Like, I feel like the generations before us, they got they just didn't set us up for ship and we're more consciously.

I want to say, I wouldn't say the generations. I would say the generation that one generation right before us that the most the most terrible black people. They birth the most terrible black people. My grandfather's generation they own they own all the score. It was my parents, it was my parents general probably we had and yeah, I was just talking with a friend about in the war. So they sent a lot of our men to the Vietnam War. So my grandfather's a lot of the men

got killed in the war. They got a lot of them looked on dope then bringing the crack. So that but that that generation right before us is where everything just went left. Yeah, I think that's where all these conversations are coming from. We just have different ways now communicating collectively, like the clubhouses and instagrams. Now we could talk more and it's just really about trying to figure

it out. But it just there's the lack of respect on both ends, and um, that's that's that's the majority of our problem, just to mutual respect in social media just messing. I mean, you can, you can do some good on there, but it's it's man, it's just it's messing up people's minds. Like it's really detaching people from reality and every and everybody feel like they need to

live a life virtual reality. Girlfriend. Yeah, it's like like you know a rapper girlfriend of buying the car and be like she's putting the pressure on your women, Like no, she's not I'm not. I'm not expecting my girlfriend who's the teacher, to buy me, uh Bentley Like, like, why do y'all, why do y'all think that you're supposed and why do do y'all think y'all dr dream Like y'all, y'all ain't never gonna have to pay y'all ex wife three hundred thousand dollars a month. You've never seen that.

Compare yourself to those people virtual reality. It ain't no principle because have these dudes ain't paying the child support on time? You got kids? Okay, so ain't paying the child support on time? They probably don't have to contribute to no spouses support because you'all was paying fifty fifty the whole time. Like what are we really even talking about? So we're gonna do our SIMP series next, but before we get into that, let's take a second at the

pay these bills. Today's SIMP series is brought to you by one of our listeners from Instagram. Um it says Hi A J and Tan Vam. I'd like to think that I'm the only man that listens to the show, but that's probably not true. But I wanted to actually get some simp advice from you. I live in d C, and if you know anything about d C, there are a lot of beautiful, successful black women in the DMV area. They usually have their way here, though the men may

not admit it. I do pretty well for myself as a government contractor, but I swear I cannot keep a woman around. I know what women like, so I always display acts of service and gifts, of course, but these women are brutal. It's almost like they literally want a nigger rib. I did my monthly budget and I've been spending on average two thousand dollars a month on dates. I don't consider myself a simp per se because I don't cook and i'd be eating out anyway, So it's

just nice to have a woman accompany me sometimes. Do y'all consider this simping? It ain't simping, if you got it. I mean, like, if I don't use the term simps, I'm gon't call anybody a simp. But he's definitely being used. I mean, he's something about him that these women just don't like. He's probably leading with his money. I mean two thousand dollars a month, that's I mean, I'll spend a lot of money in a year on dates. For two thousand a month is a lot. Where are you

taking all the time? Though? But he said two thousand a month on dates? He didn't say on himself. Now he said on dates if he's eating out, going to the club. V I p dreams, But that's not a going so that's a date going off to the club and all that. It just depends on what you're doing. I guess, so I would He mentioned dinner, right, so I would assume he's taking women out to dinner if he's already gonna be eating out a lot anyway. He

just likes to not go by himself. As for what he's saying, So if he invites a woman with him, is that consider himthing like in that woman's mind, she may be telling her friends, girl, his name might be on the phone under food. I don't know, but that's still a good person that just you know, this woman just may be missing out on for real, not taking him seriously just to get a damn remember exactly. Man, If I'm not calling a man a simple because he

takes women out, what like? That doesn't even that doesn't make sense? Love? Who doesn't take who doesn't take women out. His friends that don't take women out like I like to be I'm not I'm like Netflix and chill, but I like to be out. I like to be out so and I like to have a woman with me. So like I under I understand that. But it's something that he has to work on within himself that, you know, to attract these women or to keep these women and

not just take them on. You know, but just because you take a woman on the date doesn't mean she likes you, like she's getting to know you. That doesn't mean you're likable. You you might just you might just be a terrible person. Right with good tasting food, yeah, like yeah, you know what you know, you know how to eat, but you don't know how to have a conversation over there, right, So you're talking about the wrong things.

You're saying the wrong things. You know, You're parents might not be all the way Like, it's a hundred different things that could be going on that you just you need to hire a hitch, right, So no Instagram listener, we don't consider as something. Um nah, So we had a net we had and when I can remember like an actual sim story where dude took money out his four in one K to give a woman for school, supposedly because she actually used the money to pay for

a lawyer for another man. That would can be considered but but but still but still yet you were finessed. So are you really a simple You thought you were helping somebody that you cared about all this. Yeah, but I mean that's how some series works because it's dumb bit stories. You're not really dumb bit. You just got played so exactly. And if if you take money out your how deep was your relationship? Like the fact, how deep was that? Yeah, that's what it was. The sex

would never do that to me. I'm thirty nine years old. I'm gonna say never. I didn't. I haven't had some fun and that's all it is. It's fun. Just will never happen like that. But what kind of relationship did you? How long were you talking to this woman that she would do this to you? Like that's pretty yeah you would. I don't use if I would use the word, I would use the word for him. Come from man to

your four old one gay? Like, if I'm paying for your school, we need to be living together, right, Yeah, I think I'm paying for your school because he wasn't what if I if I think I'm paying for your school, we have to be living. I'm helping you fill out the forms, like now what are you majoring? Look? Get these books? Like I'm not just handing you money to pay for school. Like oh, boys, we don't even live in the same place, like nab bro. Yeah, you was

doing too much. And look I know that the guy, the guy whose story that was, he does listen to the show. Listen. We ain't trying to play you. Hapend to the show. We're just using it as an example of what asimp could possibly be. I mean that one time. That's okay, Yeah, you learned your lessons? Who a very expensive lesson? Should take her to court? My man, if you're listening, you can. You can't take her to court. It gave her He gave her money for a specific thing,

and she used it for something else. Yes, but what is that because it was a gift, he gave her money for a specific she lied that was she she got the money under false pretense. Can possibly yeah, he would, look uh again, jud Judy gonna get that money back. Judjudy ain't gonna like that bitch. But you can't. You can't ask for something under false pretenses, right because that he definitely got finess. So this guy, yeah, this guy just giving away food or whatever else some v I P.

Drinks or whatever. That's not necessarily I mean two thousand a month, I mean shoot at the end of the year. So he's spending the same money that guy probably spent on. I wish you would have told us, like how much how much you getting for two k a month? Because you probably have your in goal is to get some couch. You may just need to just pay somebody just outright, or are you looking for a wife, because maybe you should stop dating as much and maybe have more face

time dates. I don't know what you need to do, but that's that's a bit much. So Now, if your goal dating all these women is just to have sex with it, it's easy to spend two thousand dollars if you're going now to eat though, in a month? Is this just on like on him and her? Two thousand

happened fast? It's sound like it's multiple people. He said he just can't keep them around, So it sounds like you know who happens available and get getting fed, spend to grand but I'm saying, what are you spending five d every time you take you on a date? Once a week? That's that's just a lot. Like how many damned dates? And am going on? Two dates? Five hundred dollars? Happen fast at Del Frisco Flinch in the build. We ain't going out again. I'm going I'm going out again.

You know your ass going hungry him hopefully I'm not going nowhere right now is a waste. Don't waste your money on me. I can't even taste it, sir Sa Devoma Daily plug yourself. What you got going on? So we know you don't want to call it a mentorship? What do you call the organization? You have grown boys? Uh man, I don't have anything going on for grown boys. I have things going on. Then I actually gotta get

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