Ep. 3 “We don’t STFU”

How was your weekend? Girl? They extended to quarantine in Charlotte. Yes, they extended the ship and I'm just tired of saying. I'll be watching them videos from Atlanta in Houston. I'll be wanting to go. And there's like a part of me that's like, girl, fund that ship, just lived your life. And then the other part of me is like, girl, be a responsible adult. What the fund is wrong with you? Go out catch that book here. All weekend, I watched

then funck on Bridgetina. I watched that back and forth a couple of times, and nothing do some vegetables just doing stupid ass, dumb shit. I made a TikTok, I did a silhouette challenge. I don't never do no fucking TikTok. That's how bored I was. I took a children's app and slutted it out with a silhouette challenge, just like all these other adults everybody board forgive us. What can you do? What'd you do over the weekend? I don't

do much of nothing. Man, laying around the house, cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I just feel like the fucking lunch lady, A big booty cafeteria lady. Ain't ill my beans? Yeah, well you look like the little lady when I call you with that body all you get what you get? Right? You want these pancakes or not making pancakes or some ship and I call you, don't get these same old pancakes. You're gonna get the same old push put them out

on the side. So look, we do celebrate Black history from January one to December thirty one year around, yes, But for the month of February, we do want to have a little bit of a little known Black history and some baddies who talked back. Yes, honey. So I have a woman who came before Rosa Parks. You might not know about this. Her name was Clawed at COVID and at the age of fifteen. She got on the bus.

She did not get up before Rosa did it. They made Rosa the face of that movement, but Honey clawed that at fifteen, sat down and she said, and I quote, it felt like so jouring. The truth was on one side pushing me down, and Harriet Tubmant was on the other side of me pushing me down. I couldn't get up. Little sis did not want to get up. Fifteen years old, y'all get in the back. I was here first period. So the spirit to her as not the movie. I know,

that's right. We salute you, Claude, that cold black Patty who talked back ship to me, it sounds like a little bit of colorism in there. Why she wasn't the face of that movement. M well, that's what another episode right there. So obviously we can't have a podcast called We Talked Back without talking about talking back. Do you think talking back is not not being submissive? It's like not one of the characteristics of a submissive woman, a

virtuous woman. Um, that's a slippery slope because you can talk back in a way that is respectful, in a way that is you know, more communication than talking down. On the motherfucker you know what I'm saying. Like, so sometimes talking back and be like, well, you're stupid, you don't I'm the leader, I'm the you know. It just depends on the delivery and the tone. Honestly, when you're talking back to your man, what do you think? Possibly I mean, but I'm just not doscile and I just

don't sit back. I don't either. That's likely why I got no man. I'm learning how to be more submissive and still have a voice at the same time. Yeah, because for me, like not talking back, it's just me not saying anything. So he's either like zero or a hundred. So if saying ship, is that considered being submissive? Yeah, so something that might be being submissive to others it might be passive aggressive, but I ain't never not saying ship.

Even the nigger could be like say one more motherfucking thing. That's where I got it. I'm like, h I was mow say something like something coming out of my mouth. I just I gotta you know, I gotta say what I mean. I mean when I say all the time. Right, So what you think about what's the girl from uh the real genie? My I think that's her name. Um. She was saying some things about her relationship with young Jeezy, So she was saying basically how she loves being submissive

in her relationship with her man. She didn't really say geez or whatever, but she was saying, like, you know, she's used to being her own boss, being her own manager, doing this at a third and when she comes home she takes pleasure and being able to take that code off and let her man run things. But what exactly does that all? And tell us it just like picking out what food we're gonna eat today? Like, what does

being submissive really mean in a relationship? Because I feel like the black community has taken this and ran with it because they feel like black women are incapable of being submissive in a relationship with a black man, which isn't true. When I did a poll over the weekend and I had like quite a few hundred people respond Really, you did a poll, like two men or women? I asked both, I said, ladies, are you submissive? Said? I let him run ship? And then said girl, fuck that?

So half half a little over half said that they were. And then I asked the men are black women submissive? Let me find these results because it was crazy. It was twenty eight percent said that black women were submissive percent percent. So black men, according to this pole, don't believe that black women are submissive to them. But who are those black men? Because I feel like if a black woman has like a real man, like, being submissive will come naturally because you trust him, you know, to

lead you in the right direction, so you're following. So when you say real man, what is a real man? A man that is capable of taking care of all aspects of your life? Following him is easy because you know he's making the best decision for both of you. If you are in a household where you're paying fifty percent of the damn bills, you're gonna want to have a voice. You know what I'm saying. This man can't say, Hey, I'm about to go out and buy a brand new carter.

You know both of you want to have to pay for right, So he needs half of your So if he were to go out and go purchase this car and European the bills, it's gonna be a whole problem and you're gonna hear about it. Right, So do you think, uh, it was easier to be submissive in a society where women weren't afforded the lifestyles that we have now. Like you know, back in great grandma time, she didn't work.

She didn't work no fucking where. She took care of the kids and that in the household, that was her job. I come from a lineage of women that worked, like my grandma was a bootlegger. She worked at a hotel. She cleaned people houses after hours, like she worked. My grandfather, from what I heard, because I never met him, he was an alcoholic, so he worked, but he was full of ship at the same time, you see what I'm saying. So she always had to say so in her household.

As far as I'm concerned, because the way my mom is, I'm pretty sure she got it from her goddamn mom. Just a fussy ass, leady talking ship, which I really tried my best not to be that woman. I try not to complain about ship a lot of times. But I roll with my eyes y'all, y'all can't see me. Whatever and whatever, nigger, yes, because I got something to say about every guy the thing. And if I'm wrong, I'm wrong, I'll just be quiet. But so when you're wrong.

Do you do you have the capacity to say, hey, you're right and I was wrong. Absolutely, absolutely, I do have the capacity to say I was wrong. But if I don't feel like I'm wrong either, I'm going to just not talk about it anymore, because I mean, I'm not the type of person who wants to convince somebody else of my ideas or what I think about a situation. So I just don't want to talk about it no more. You've experienced that with me as well, right, absolutely, And

that's how I am with my man. I don't know. I don't know how healthy that is. I am capable of letting things go. So if I feel like I'm in a situation where I can't get my point across and your point isn't getting across to me, I'm okay, we're not talking about it no more. But here's the only thing that is going to resurface in different ways whatever, and we'll handle it then. But today, for the sake of my fucking brain, I'm not talking about it no more.

But for the most part, I always got some ship to say. I always got rebuttaled for something which may get on people's nerves. But m so, what about what else about being submiss So Jennie, for people to put that video out there like they're trying to say something to black woman, I kind of felt offended by it a little bit because you know, she has a black man who's willing to lead her, and she's so happy

about it. But that's her second marriage. She wouldn't even give her first husband a child, So now you have this man, which before did you see the herd? What she said she like white meat keeps her lee, but dark meat is just for fun or something. So basically, black men are a condiment. We're a condiment for her as far as I can, like some catch up a Mayo money Mustard type ship. And I noticed what ts are like in the Shade Room. They love to put

the thing out there about splitting rent. It's like clickbait for black for the black community in America. So what's your what is your thoughts on splitting rent with your boyfriend? I rather lived by my fucking self. If I want a roommate, my idea of having a man is not me paying half the bills. I understand, like, yeah, some people may do that in their relationship because it works for their relationship I'm not telling women, um, like, that's wrong.

You shouldn't be splitting bills with your man. Like how if you love this person and that's the situation, y'all are in and it works go forward, especially if you're the situation where the woman makes way more than a man. I don't mind tricking on the nigga. Like, it's just some people in life that I want to see happy with money, like having fun, Like I want my dude to be that person. But like, I'm okay with him making more money than me. I'm not. It's not a competition.

But I probably would never put myself in a situation again in life because I'm not gonna say I've never been there. I don't took a nigga on vacasion before. First of all, the man sometimes get a little he feels emasculated success in comparison to him exactly, and that causes problems because it's like a tug Awards. Remember that episode of Martin when he found out Junia was making

more than him the whole damn food. It may be subconscious, they may not know that that's the problem, and they may be laughing out for other reasons, but it's not my duty to make you feel like a man. It's either you are you aren't. A real man could walk in the room and not say a word, and everybody in there knows that that's a man because its aura. I disagree. It is your job to make a man feel like to make your man feel strong and powerful all the time. That's your job. That's your job as

his woman. We need each other to do that. We need each other for that. Sometimes it just depends how deeply going into it, Like you know exactly, I'm always going to encourage the man, and I'm with you, But have you ever been with what a dude who had less? They kind of act like you owe them something. They act like the world kind of owe them something like you mean less, like like less money than you have

I have. Like I said, I don't took a nigga on vacation before, and broke niggas be the most disrespect to me. Like broke men are usually the ones that's going to cheat on you. Yes, deck in time, that's it. Like while you running around, you may not be able to fun him as much as he would like to get fun because you gotta work. I just wish rich niggas are the ones who cheat the most. They have the capacity and the money to do it. You know, broke niggas they can't cheat. They probably cheat, but not

as good as cheat. Girl, Like you know that dropping a woman off to work and taking her car, that's a real thing. And a lot of women have men dropping their ass off the work and they're going to funk on some bits who work from home. Verizonizing just shout out to Verizon, we love y'all. Girl, ain't working all that oldt. I'm dropping d d off. I'm rof

so I don't know. I'm not opposed to me and Smiths for the most part, but if something doesn't make sense to me, it doesn't I'm gonna say something about it. Like I am not the type of person that just shuts the funk up. And I feel like that's why black men like others. When I say others, I mean, you know, outside of the black community, they date others because it's safer, Like they want to do what they want to do, and they want a woman that's gonna shut the funk up about it. Let me tell you

what my ex used to use. Throw this word at me a lot and it used to piss me off. Nag, you're nagging, nagging? Why are you always nagging me? As if they do? Why the funk? I gotta keep saying the same ship. That's why I'm starting to feel like a nag because I'm saying the same thing over and over again and it's penetrating. Right, Yeah, that ship used to piss me off. Nag and you nag and me? Black women always nagging? Who started that nigger who just wanted to do what he wanted to do? Same way

with a nigger who created gold? Digger like it was a nigga with no goal. You don't have no gold for me to dig, So how the fund can I be a gold digger? Sir? I'm gonna do better about with my next nigger. I'm gonna do better. I'm gonna do better about. Let me start my current nigga. Pick my battles. I don't have to debate every thing because I've been known to like go toe to toe about everything in this next relationship, sometimes I will shut the

funk up. So what kind of things in your last or that relationship where the guy was saying you were a nagged? Like, what kind of things were you nagging about about, like when you finished drinking your beer, throw the ball at something. You ain't gotta like take everyone every single time. But when I get up, I shouldn't have to pick up beer bottles all day from all over the house. Now it'd be little ship like that. Or so he to do this thing where he I

didn't know what it was. Okay, So I used to come home from work and I find little two pieces of tape in the stairwell, two little pieces of tape in the kitchen, tape too, yeah, masking tape, two little pieces of tape in the bedroom, two little pieces of taping the downstairs bathroom. Like Eventually I was like, Yo, what the fuck up with these little two pieces of table all over the house every day when I get home? How to clean it up? What are you doing? Said?

I don't crying. Let's tell you what this nigga said. This nigga said that he'd be beating this dick and he put tape over the front and back camera because he don't want anybody to like extort him. You're like he heard that they could record you while you're watching videos and like seeing the tape like random places after I was like, so, nigga, you mean to tell me I'm talking about taping the stairwell kitchen dicking my kitchen,

basty motherfucker? This where? Give me what? So held don't be his dick downstairs and then walk up the stairs like take this why you probably get on Instagram right quick? In the stairway? What the funk? So I know when and where are you even beating your dick at right? So it's just like I'm magging. That is not nagging, nigger? What the fund is up? That's just a cop out to make a black woman shut up? Are you nagging?

So you put it on nuts like we're doing something bad when your mom would be telling you the same damn thing. Clean the bear bottles up? What the fund? Are you doing all his tape? So maybe we're reminding them of their mom when we're just asking them to be a damn adult and clean up after themselves the period? What's all this tape over the house? And are you really beating your dick this much? That was a question, like all the time, why are you beating your dick

this offense? Was he watching Florid and beating? Yeah? Yeah, maybe he was addicted to himself. I can't even understand how much it too. Finally I had to dive to ask the question, like, what is this tape all over the house? That's weird as hell? Man, hold on, before we get into anything else, let's pay some bills real quick. So based on this this I g poll like, what kind of responses did you get from men? And I hope it was men and not women because we didn't

bitches always speaking out of turn. Now because this show, it shows the names of the you know, the people who respond. So I just said, what does it mean to you for your woman to be submissive? And someone said, you don't have to be submissive, just take care of the house and I would provide and protect you and the kids. Makes it work. Don't nobody want to be battling their partner. Another guy said she respects our roles in the relationship and that she knows how, when and

why to allow me to lead her. So if your opinion half the bills, what's the roles in the relationship? I guess each individual relationship has to establish their own roles, because some women take that out for leaving their relationship and some men probably are comfortable with that, right, Yeah, I want a man to like be knowing what the fun is going on and is capable of making decisions for both of us, even even if you go to a restaurant, like you already know what I like to eat,

like he might order both of our foods. No, I don't want nobody to order. I've ordered my man food before because I know what he likes. I know what he would eat off the menu. Don't order shifting me. I'm looking at you like you're crazy. I do not play about my food losses like a sally What you're trying to say? I'm fat? First, I'll have don't scratch that with that. Niggas said, I'll have the lobster bens to start Hennessey stock Car. When you see that low,

bring me another like, don't do that. Don't do that al right. Someone else said, give that man some head. Wow, So giving head is being some amissive interesting I mean, man, I don't I never met a man. I take that as put it in your mouth and shut the funk up. I've never met a man who didn't want head. Have you? Have you ever met a man like? I don't like getting my dicks up. I have an ax like that he did, like I barely I barely had to suck dick, and then my current relationship, like, I suck a lot

of dick. So now I'm like, god, damn it, nig like didn't even like head like that it was nothing for him. Like that's weird because he just said it didn't feel like nothing to him. And I know I can give good head, I believe anyway. I never had somebody say, hey, I don't never run to that good head today. You know what the women do said they don't give good head, some women, not me, not this So what is good head consistent? We'll talk about that later.

A lot of spit, I guess you know it depends on the man, because I had somebody tell me one time that he did not appreciate me spitting on his dick. Yeah, yeah, I've had that too, Like I don't want all that. It's going touching my balls at this point. What so you know the one dry head, right? Okay, Well, let me go get this uh fucking sand paper and I'll just struck it up and down your dick, sir. You want some cereal pussy, some cold pussy. What that dry

head and cold pussy. The fun's going on. But he used their own. If you like it dry, give me this shape, he dick if you wanted all right, So that was where give that man some head? Uh, someone said, humble enough to listen, but but sure enough to follow with all trust, with all trust. So hard, I know, man, especially when you're coming from a household with the mama. Yeah, like she made all the decisions. And now I got to figure out. You didn't grow up watching that, you know.

So I grew up in a single parent home. My father was always around, but he didn't live in the house. But my boyfriend his parents were together, and their relationship was an interesting one. I just felt like she was. She did teach me some things about being more submissive, like how I am with making plates and putting it at the table and taking it away from the table, and being that kind of woman, like not saying, nigga, make your own ship. You know that is something that

a lot of women are like that. What is that about? You know? Anywhere? Like if we're out of the barbecue, if we're at home, anywhere, I'm making your play. Nobody can make my nigga place nobody, because Mama, I gotta know the funk you don't. Mama, set your ass there, I got down exactly, make yours to mama, sit your down. I know what he liked to eat, right, So yeah, all trust that's hard. I trust be though, but it's hard, like that's not is that real life? I can give

you about nothing. So what else they're saying to uh, they say, just shut the funk up sometime. Now, you know that's a bit chassnigg going nor job you want to be to stop telling him to go get a job. That's all that is. But no, sometimes sometimes we should just shut the funk up. You can have a good nigga doing all the things right and you still got a old something byring it, byring a big Where I come from thro the Tyler Perry movie, it was Teana Taylor.

She was, um, what's his name? Wow's baby mama. Obviously I don't watch that much TV. Yeah, she was like this aggravating this baby mama, and that's how she was saying, Oh my god, but you do have those women who do make it hard for these men out here, good men, you know, just shut the funk up sometime. It's valid to me sometime. All right, let's see what else they said. She respects that I, as the alpha man follower of God, will lead in positivity with both of our best interests

at heart. Okay, okay, man of God. Girl. Some of these nigga still finding themselves and they want somebody to follow them. Nig you don't even know where you're going, and you want me to follow you. Cut it right straight to hell. I need to see your damn resume. Right, Be what I asked and not make me ask all the time? What is that? Be what I asked? What you ask me. I can't beat myself a puppy and

make me ask all the time. When I think of that, like I just wish she would cook and clean or something. I don't know what. Then, Okay, So I feel like being submissive would be easier when your only responsibility is the household, but when you are also responsible for bills and stuff like that, it's kind of hard not to have say. So, Like, I know some people that you know where the woman is a breadwinner. She's not gonna play him and be like, look, nigger, you're in the

control for real here. So she is a type of woman that makes him feel like a man, but she's still the breadwinner, so she doesn't emasculate him at all. Like he struggles with being the man he wants to be. That that's in his mind mentally. I just, you know, I feel bad for these brothers out here. Sometime they got they got a hard man to goodness, they got it hard. I saw yesterday on social media where these men were asking women for money. Did you see that ship?

You sent that ship to me, these niggers and something. I was disgusted. I was on the toilet reading that ship this morning, begging for money. That's the quickest way to get rid of me. Asked me for a ride too many times and asked me for some fucking money when I never asked you for ship. That's go that go for men or women. Like God, damn, if I'm just I feel like I'm just doing too much, I'm gonna GOOTI your ask. You're the type you're target though, Like how I look like a trick? You what are

you saying? Not like a trick, but you just very got that very giving spirit and people can feel it. It'd be old people. Motherfucker's no not to ask me for ship. I'd be looking like bit, I'm the last motherfucker resort. I got that face when you come asking me for stuff. Yeah, I had an old ladies asked me for a ride from the grocery store one day, and she was like, God just told her to ask me because I just looked like I look nice and so I just looked like you in your car and

you took her home, didn't you? Yea, she did. It was her birthday, birthday. She was about to try to walk home with I would have put right down the street. You ain't know that, you ain't know you might have been driving to your dad. Girl, this is a little ass lady, A little old lady. What's she gonna do? Well, that's different. But grown ass woman. I have had grown as men asked me for money before, men that I never asked for money before. I'm telling everybody you're playing

it's so much wrong with that. But I don't want to make it seem like a nigga can't fall on hard times and he can't go to a woman that he knows for help. We do it. The nigga's all go to your mama. Mama ain't got no one all right now. You can't go to your mama, don't come to me. They ran the well drive with mama. And then you ain't even my dick at that, Like, that's not my dick, and I don't pay for the dick, So no, I don't have funn at all? Is that

expensive as yet? You're gonna start paying for it? That ps eight, Mama got it? That's something for you baby. Yeah, at that point, I guess we'll be paying for niggas to leave, right, because that's what niggas who pay for pussy. They're not paying for you to stay, they're paying for you to go peacefully. Right. They're paying for no issues because pussy extorts nigga's okay period, especially if you got a woman and you're sucking off, like you won't have

to pay me to shut the funk up. So if let's say, if you was a nigga and you were, you know, going through a rough patch, how do you navigate that with women? Do you not ask for help? So you're asking all of us? So you're just asking them one you think that got the most money? Or do I look stupid to you? Because I feel like usually most people you're not gonna ask somebody who you think on and say no. So at what point did you look at me and say, hey, actually dumb ask

gonna say? Yeah, she won't give me that funny, But that's because I asked them first. They don't get a chance. But listen, if if I had gotten money from him before, then yeah, I might have had that for him. But Nina, this is just a pussy and dick exchange. Surely, like I've never required you. I never voiced you about this pussy before, so why are you calling me? But I don't. Never have nobody asked for me, me for money. It's very rare. I don't want to talk about my knees.

She's a grown woman now, but she might have been eighteen or so. And I've always been trying to put her ass onto games since forever, since she started using her vagina, because once you start using your pussy, that's no longer your mom responsibility or your daddy's responsibility. Whoever using it need to be taken care of it as

far as I'm certain, period. But she literally was trying to Western Union and Nigga twenty dollars, and I'm like, girl, it caused twenty dollars twenty dollars, Like, if you don't know that, you shouldn't be using your vagina the fun. I hate what somebody asked me to let me hold twenty dollars. Ten dollars here, just what are you about to do with this gas dollars? But what are you gonna do with ten dollars? That's stupid to ask somebody to borrow that. Ye, No, I feel sorry for these niggas.

He'll me the girl in the club on Saturday, and come Monday he'd be like, hey, baby, how you doing? Just so stressed? Oh what's wrong? I just have just so many bills they're piling up. I don't really want to share this with you. We just met, Like, no, baby, what's going on? Got him? Yeah? My HVAC went out in my house. The kids need uh school supplies. It's just it's very stressful right now. That's all I can think about. Yes, I can't think about sucking your dicks,

so can't you assist? Right? And that is good? And that's how that works. I know. Niggas be like again, right, every bit I met Saturday, h back went out dad, right, nigga, whether the age back working or now is usage tax? When you hear a bit like this so stressed that long side, she's about to ask you for somebody, hang up, I mean why not? Nigga's don't mind asking for pussy like they're going to ask you for what they want, So why are we afraid to ask them for what

we want? It's not I mean, I get that, but like you met him on Saturday. On Monday, you already sign hard. I don't do that. But I mean, but if that's if that's all she wants from him, like she might as well just put it on the table right then, sat Wait, men could do the same thing instead of playing and letting us meet their representative first days. But I'm trying to hear that. Hey, I try to see that head like me and ask me. Don't come out Yeah, never getting this pussy? What that mouth? Dude?

Ask for money? That's what it do. Hey, you can pay to play the hell not for really. You don't be selling pussy for real, not for real, about for fake. You ain't abody to just be using me to hell up. This ain't no cheap thrill. Yeah you know, because man will definitely still steal your damn youth. And beauty and everything. Man, he funked up out here about some damn ball and just just losing weight. Yeah, so if I got to go through all that, you got to pay for submission.

You gotta pay me to shut the funk up. And you know, and pay doesn't even mean financial. He can just build you. Look at Ashley, I wish I could see her face. She's looking at me like, Bim, you're talking about no pay. I mean it could be monetary, but you haven't had somebody come into your life and like make you want to boss up more, like just build your spirit in a way. Come in my life. I was driving the clips came along a couple of months later, I had a range Rover and he didn't

spend no money on me, but he spoke life into me. Baby. He gone, he went to jail. ChIL you and these niggas, Man, I don't know what it is. All my niggas end up in jail. I don't know if I got the Kardashian cursed the ghetto version where I just don't say that those to me. I'm lying. I'm joking. You walk around head with a pistel. You said his ass up.

Some you know, like because when I think about being submissive, I think about that movie, Like I know that's like the B D S M type ship, But I think, what else? What else do men expect from women in a relationship? Did you watch that movie? Like she had to? Yeah, I didn't eat a certain way, yeah, a certain address, certain Yeah. So what is it that men want from a submissive woman? What does that really mean? What does that look like? Do we know it's an exchange of power? Right?

I just felt like being submissive. I said what I said and that's final, and walk out the room. And I was sped to sit and while he walking out the room, my whole fucking shoe it's following him, Like, yeah, what the hell are you yelling at? First of all, that's final. I know adults don't start statements off where first of all, But first of all, nigga, who the hell are you yelling at? That's not how we're gonna

handle things. But I just could imagine, like that's what the nigga saying, who wants his woman to be submissive? And then he walks out and then you just go to washing the dishes, or I think about people that I know personally that are like the women who are kind of docile and the type of men that they're with I'd never be with. They're not to me. They don't exemplify like you said, what's that ill man like, it's just certain little characteristics about them that say band

and I just can't funk with. I don't understand, Like, why are you being this like quiet, like conservative little lady for this man? Will you really run ship in this relationship? Or maybe it's a tactic. Yeah, that's what I think. It's. It's a tactic like him think he ruined, and that's what I'm gonna start some covert and that's what I'm gonna start doing. I'm just gonna let this nigga think that he's in charge, and we'd be bad is let him think he running. Maybe that's the thing.

So basically, you submissive bitches are just bad and sneaky, right, That's what it is. It's just a real life covert way of running your relationship and peacefully to keep the peace interesting. I'm gonna apply that. Let's see how that works for me. Subchess moves not check as this chest. Yes, honey, okay, we understand, Okay, we see you, you little sneaky can have nance pictures. We see you are submissive, washing dishes, berfoot It's a tactic. So look, before we move on

to the next segment, let's have a word from our sponsors. Look, so a while in my search to better understand what being submissive really means being submissive, I guess it goes back to like biblical terms. All right, So this article says, rather it is assumed um that the wife to be a passive participant while her husband bosses her around, or that she is to wait on him hand and foot while he does nothing embarks orders at her. It's a

common misconception. Being a submissive wife does not mean you are your husband's slave. To better understand what it means to be a submissive wife, let's take a closer look at the definition of the actual word. So, the word submissive is defined as inclined or ready to submit, or to put oneself under authority of another. So let's look at it. Let's look at what it means like biblically, okay, So to be submissive means to put yourself under the

authority of your husband and Fanshians and Heathens. That's me Um, yeah, I think it's Ephesians Aphisians give five. Husbands are instructed to love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her and an Amphibians two. Wife are told to be subject to your own husband

as to the Lord. And it says when a husband loves his wife as he loves the church, and when women focus on their role to love and be subject to their husband's According to scripture, marriage is loving, kind and harmonious, not abusive or a slave master relationship. Submission is a voluntary action by the wife. It is a God driven desire to please your husband and act under his authority, just as Christians are to act under the

authority of the Church. This article also says, while the husbands are to be the head of the household, the wife is not commanded to keep her mouth shut and never give her opinion on matters. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue, and that's Proverbs. The wife can and should share her thoughts on important family and household topics with her husband, but she should do so in a way that is pleasing to God. How choose your words carefully, don't argue to prove a

point um, just to be right. And it says like in a in a biblical marriage, the wife is the helpmate of her husband. She should support him and give counsel. So technically, in Biblical terms, sounds like the wife runs it. And we can look at that throughout history, like back in the medieval times or like the eighteen seventeen eighteenth century, like women were under men. But if you watch these movies, they rand ship. They were always the ones in the

bedroom given counsel to her husband. Still we're still doing We're still definitely doing right. So that's what I mean. And it says ultimately he is to make decisions based on sound biblical knowledge and his wife's wisdom and faithful instruction. The wife is to support her husband and back his decisions even when she doesn't agree. This might be from the Old test the New test Man. We already know that Wise was laying up in the bed. Whoever wrote

the New Testament. The wifs like, you need to change that ship because this thing says, uh, there's one scripture to buy what that says, um dal should not fordicate with the neighbor's wife, But I don't say shit about that bitch round the corner. So I'm pretty sure that ship was switched up in the New Testament by somebody pillow talking with their damn wife. Do you think maybe because like our generation, like we kind of question everything

because we have more information. We have the Internet, you know, so a lot of people question religion, a lot of people question um, you know, just everything. We're always searching for hire a better understanding of everything. So maybe that's why we've gotten away from the traditional Yeah, that the biblicul traditional husband wife dynamic in the homes. Well, I think there's a lot of different factors that play a part in that, you know, social media, Internet, like all

this information. Gender roles are changing. I'm still a woman, I mean, was born a woman and identify what you just gender roles genders are changing, you know, so we're entering the age of Aquarius. We're in it. A niggas little pis just different. Damn. I feel like these niggas want to be like they want to be the bad bitches.

Think about the eighties. When I look at the Isley Brothers, I don't understand how anybody talks about how the meagles dressed and like those niggas had their shirt tied up like skinny pants on and makeup. So ain't nothing change. Ain't nothing new under the sun. But I'll tell you what men and women were in the household, so that that that is different. We now a lot of us were raised by singer moms, like you said, we didn't see that that husband wife dynamic. Like my dad was

in my house until I was about eight. But for the most part, I was raised by a single woman. So and she's like a boss follow but I kind of want they're to come in and be like you know, but he has to have money, right, well, obviously he has. That's for submission, so noladays. And even then you paid for submission. You see what I'm saying, not paid. The wife wasn't working anywhere. You see what I'm saying. The man was a breadwinner. So yes, I'm going to listen

to you because my livelihood depends on you. It's just different now because we have to take care of ourselves. It's not because we want to. It's a lot of situations where we just have to, like we got no choice. Ain't nobody doing it for you? Exactly? Because I know that my age fact went out that ship doesn't work every time. Niggas is tired of hearing that, right, But I mean a man who got it. You may not even have to ask in any type of way. I know you love nothing more than like when a man

sleep money into your pa. I used to I had one of those couple months back, a jerking because their dad. Damn man. I feel like you might be the fans at this point. Let me let me recalculate this bullshit because he outlets. But yeah, so men, I really feel like you have to pay for submission. They may need to read this article so they can get a better understanding,

or they may need to read the Bible. I don't know what you want, but they want a woman that you know allows them to be a man and do what they want to do and make a decisions for the household. Then your woman cannot be bogged down with stuff that's in the house and then having to go outside the house and get the bread too. So let's say you're dealing with this multi millionaire who still like ship though he got all the money, but he disrespectful.

He don't hear what other women he's not blatantly out here what other women, but he is and you know it. Are you gonna submit to that? I mean, I guess a lot of women do because they're being taken care of, so they have retail therapy on the other end of that, Like I don't. I mean, regardless of what, if you're man, that's just out here sucking on you and embarrassing you. Nobody want to have a bunch of money with no edges. You just stressed out, your hair coming out at the

top and the crown. But toxic as millionaire niggas like tossed you back to the streets. I don't care how much money you got. You are the devil. But there's a lot of women who are made for that, Like those women are made for that role to be with those type of men, and those are the type of women that they get, women that they can control with that money. Like you can't do nothing if he's not if he's not financing it. You can't do ship without him,

but you can't eat without him. I don't ever want to be in a situation like that where I don't know where my next meal is coming from. If this dude isn't providing it. I remember when I was younger, I was living in Atlanta and I was dealing with this Dominican drug lord. This nigga tried to put me in like this nice as apartment downtown, and I would not let him do it because I knew that was something I could not afford without him. So I got

me a little partner to marry at a bit. It was nine hundred dollars, like, this is something I can do. You're not gonna put me in this three thousand dollar apartment a month and then rule me, because that's what was gonna happen. He was gonna run my entire existence in that city. M you got me up, home boy, I let you pay this nine hundred dollars a month. I always was smarter than that. That Well, that's why

most black mamas make sure. They always tell your daughters, make sure you have your own, and it's very important to have your own. So then you have fuck you money. That's what I call it. It's fuck you money. It's money like, yeah, I could take care of myself with it without you, sir, So I don't mind losing you today, it tomorrow. But if he was someone that I felt like really genuinely loved me and had my best interests at heart all the time, and someone that I could

really truly. I didn't trust him in that way. You know, maybe if it was someone like that, I might have taken that apartment, But nigga, you ain't gonna have me out here looking like boo boo food like this, nigga, I was going to evade the institute in Atlanta, and I had to pay out of pocket for a lot of the fees, and that school was expensive. And I would ask him for to wish him money and he was like, yeah, I got you and then never give it to me, so I got slicked. I was like, y'all,

i've seen this bag. I want to get this bag. You know how much the bag? And then I paid my tuish with that money. I couldn't tell him that I needed money for ship that would better myself. I had to say it was on some frivolous, dumbass ship to get the money, because he never wanted me to not need him child like he would. I want to hold me back in that way if it was like take a class to wish it just anything that would helped me be better and I feel like, never give

it to me. That's crazy. And I feel like that might be some guys with money. It might be like that they want a woman. They feel like we'll always need them something. And he'd be like, where the bag at I bought you? Oh, it didn't go with this outfit because the bag, don't it? This the bag myself. Okay,

So that's I've done. Bitch advice for the day. Use the bag to get the bag and not just some damn LLC because in the state of North Carolina LLC only caused as okay, there ain no money, start with that. If you get the bag, and that's they're gonna buy your bag. Like I saw a post that said that something about like women getting instead of getting a channel bag,

had that nigga, start you a business. Excuse me? Starting the business like doing the paperwork is only a dollars in comparison in this bag that I don't have no money. I can go resell his bag, right, but you could if he's giving you an actual bag. But if he's giving you money and you want to start a business toward that business, that bad you because your business can eventually buy you all the bags you want girl. So what we've learned today classes, we're going to be submissive. Covertly,

we're gonna shut the funk up. Sometimes it's chest and not checked this thing. So with that being said, I have a random sex fact guys, that is very relatable. Okay, So the egg in your body women chooses the winning sperm. So most of imagine conception as a race to the egg where this fastest sperm wins and gets to the egg and passes on the jeans to the baby to be. This is one of those sex facts you should forget,

says Jill Devol, she's a human sexuality expert. The narrative is biased with our cultural lens about men being competitive and see violent words like drilling, burring, penetrating the egg while the egg the woman sits around passively waiting on the sperm to get to her egg. Right, that's bullshit, y'all. In reality, the eggs have sophisticated biological mechanisms that actively choose which sperm they allow in and it isn't always the first one to arrive. Okay, bitch, So your egg

is choosy. Your egg is a choosy bitch, and you not being a tuosy bitch out here. That's why you ain't getting pregnant. But I nigged you with right, because y'all, egg is like girl, this nigga is, I don't want this sperm. Look at these spirums coming over here. Y'all better get on my faith, especially with the sugar daddy old as slow ass sperg. If you act like no baby about to be ugly, so be a choosy lover. Be a choosy lover because your egg is because your

egg is choosing out here, all right, y'all. So if y'all like this conversations day, you can follow us on Instagram right now we talk Back podcast at we Talked Back Podcast and we'd also like to hear your stories, so you email us at we Talked Back in and t at gmail dot com. And what's your social media? Tam? I'm official Tam Bam on Instagram, so y'all follow me there. I'll be posting nuts, get that money hand do an only thing right, and I'm a J You can hit

me up at a J holiday two point oh. They got it all right, all right, and we outpi h