Ep 26 "What Do Women Want"

We really didn't get a lot of clarity out of those two guys, like they did tell us for the most part, right, a little bit, a little bit. I'm still look ship vary from Nigga and Nigga because that's the way to guy like you. They want one thing today and something else tomorrow. So who knows. You just have to be real mutable and flexible for these niggas. But excuse me, these men, these niggles. So today we have two beautiful successful black women on this um uture

feel of the Okay. I'm Lexi um. I am an investor. I was born in Columbia, South Carolina, raised here in Charlotte seven okay, okay, and I am Mecca. I am um industry of hospitality. I own my own event company, and I also am a lone officer for a company called Better Um. Been in Charlotte for ten years. This is my city, um, queen city all day. UM. Love to travel, but excited to be here on the show with my girls. And yeah listen, So these are two baddies to y'all exactly. So we're gonna get a lot

of good input this show. So I wanted to start off with something I had posted online, just my observation in regards to men and women. So do you guys think this is true or not? Men feel good when they're doing well. Women do well when they feel good. Yeah, I mean I feel good when I'm doing well, bitch. I like when I got money on our pocket, I feel good. I do agree. I think it goes both ways for females too. Yeah, but I also feel I don't know, but well, you don't feel good sometimes that

motivates you to do better. So true, So I mean you can go both ways. But what's so I think? More so like when I when I posted that it was in regards really just thinking about relationships and when you win a relationship with somebody, like women, you know they always say happy life, happy, happy wife, the life right. So automatically, when you pour into a woman, she's going

to automatically produce for the most part. You know, when you're making her feel good, it's gonna be easy for her to produce, easy for her to make major moves because she's feeling like loved. Men have a to me, men have a hard time of they aren't where they think they're supposed to be. They're not gonna make it easy for you to even love them so that they can do well. So they have to already be doing well themselves, and then you come into the picture. You'll

agree with that. Sometimes I excel because I just want to level up, because that goes for the single women who I really don't have. I know a lot of single successful women that are not supported and loved and relationships. They just do it with themselves. For my instance, that's been my case for the past four years, loving on

myself because I haven't been in a consistent relationship. So it's at this point in my life like, hey, you want to level up, got do the work, stop up the tears, like you know, let go of whatever you got going on, and you know, keep moving. That's a fact. But ain't nothing. But like when you break up with somebody and you want to get in shape, you want to earn more money, you just want to take pictures and let him follow you and see he saw that ship.

You know, like women do well when they feel good. You see what I'm saying, Well, that's what do we need to make us feel good specifically in a relationship? What do you guys mean that at question? And look that's what the guy said too. That's a loaded questions, right. I mean, my most important thing when it comes to relationship is being in one with my best friend. You have to be my best friend, and I have to be able to talk to you. I have to be able.

You have to be able to listen because me, I'm gonna chop it up, I'm gonna talk all that. So you know, you gotta be able to listen. You gotta be able to comfort, love, reassure. I mean, they're so there's just so much thing, so many things that you can do to make somebody feel good. Um, in a world full of beautiful women to sure your girl shoot them prettiest woman in the world. You know you look over your shoulder, somebody like that girl look good but

cost right. But you got somebody that's constantly letting you know how good you look, how good you are, how good you are to him, how you make how you mak him feel, making want to be better. That's a big thing too. But um, all those things make you feel good. Somebody say that's personally, I'm making it a weight. So to he get anything from me, my man had to wait months, and that's what separated me from pretty

much every other woman he'd been around. So you know, you should have that foundation before you even got to know about the dick. So here's the day y'all waited for months. Was the dick was trash, but you like h him as a person though like everything stated, the dick is trash. You got state. Luckily, lucky I had to find out. I don't know what all it did. I don't know, And I don't think that that's a deal breaker. I think that you got me. You can have sex the first night and end up with the

love of your life. That's not a terminal factor. But I mean if the dick was trash. You know, we're gonna have to talk about it. We're gonna have that was the best man you ever met in your life. He the best man with trash dick, but he could have excelled in every other way. See if he excelled every other way, we can have we can have conversations about sex. You gotta we have to time unless unless it's no like no size, no girth, no nothing, nothing.

That's two different things. Like there's there's dick and then there's bad sex. And I feel like, if you don't have no dick, what can we work on? Ain't to work on? Trying stuff is making me chafe and get out of here. Yeah, I know what Lexi said. Honestly is the biggest thing I've been I think it's a challenge I faced being a single. Dating is having someone who could be really upfront with you. And that's the biggest turn on for me is where a guy can

comes to me. He was like, hook, Hey, I am attracted to you sexually, mentally and physically, but I'm not ready to settle down. I'm not gonna lead you on. I'm not gonna do all this stuff. But it's I'm not gonna say it's rare, but it's not as common for men to be upfront with what they really got going on, which leads us, which takes us, you know, takes our option away of either dating, fucking, you know, whatever we want to do with this person, you know,

if we're misled. So that's my biggest me too, because the next nick that played with me, I'm taking this sledge. I'm I'm sick of me. Try it. If you're listening, bait, don't play with me, Okay, cut it off. But look, that's you know often well, this is a perfect example to him, Like so you know, sometimes people act like you're not supposed to wait to have things all go ahead, and funk I saw some sh online that was basically telling women you might as well fucking and get him

out the way. No, if you make a nigga, weeight nine times out of tend he gonna talk or do do something that's gonna talk yourself out the pussy anyway. That's importance to making somebody wait anyway, But it ain't nothing worse than making a nigga weight you fuck them. Realize the other nigga was his representative and now you still get played right now, now, Romeo really must die the fuck and hand. That's where it's communication, because like I had, dude, I'm doing right now. We had sex

and I toys. I came doing shy and said, what is your expectations now? No? No, no, no no no, that's I'm sorry to interrupt your nigger. We need to put our expectations on the table before sex. If it's money, you won't say that. If it's a relationship, you want to say that. If you want marriage, you need to say that before you give your pussy. I'm not you don't want nothing though, then then then you sucking and you won't have these questions. Dick. So good, now you

haven't expected talk. You girls like the dick made you want to have expectations and me, you know what, and we have that conversation. Before I always asked them what do you want to do? What do you what do you want? What do you want? Before anything? Before it were so good. Nike was like, hey, church, just open back up and I want to receive. If you wanted to go this sun no, but it was just like okay, when we know the energy is their energy is high. So we were just like, okay, so what were on?

What were on? And I told him I want somebody can communicate with through this process. So if you feel like you need to still have sex with other girls, let me know if you if you're having sex with me, and vice versa, and then we communicate through the process. But a lot of men, just like you know, I don't even want to have that conversation, don't even know how to have. Those are called little boys. They are you know, those are grown boys. Those are adult boys.

We talk about grown men. Yeah, So I guess you know, all men want is somebody that could be vulnerable with, right, but they still till he's half truths oftentimes. So what I'm hearing is that women, we really want honesty day one. Because you don't know me. You don't know me, so you can tell me anything and all I can do is accepted by being honest. You let me decide what I want to expose myself to. Don't put my life in your hands. So rule number one, we want honesty

rights not just from our relationships with men. That's from everybody, right, that's best friend, a friend, everybody you know, honestly tell the truth. But is it how is it easy to tell a truth? It's not always easy to tell truth. But I mean, well, and the Bible say life for peace sake, and do say that chapter. That must be the Queen James version. That's my version, the Lebron James version. I'm about to find it because that's ship crazy. No, honestly,

is definitely number one, number one. I think sex is number two. Okay, what's the presented? What's the percentage y'all think sex is in a relationship? I say sex is like sixty. I would agree with you. I would say, early on on that's the percentage. But as you grow, sex is not. Yeah, when I'm sixty, am I pussy and working on more? But prior to I don't even say sixty because I'm gonna be still sucking at sixty. Fact, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know if

it's that, it's not, it's not. And I was joking sick. Yeah, Well, to me, like sex, sex should not be the only way you and your mate communicate. But I believe it definitely is a form of communication. And if you disconnected in that way, it's gonna it's gonna be problems like Okay, sex, money, What are other reasons why people get divorced or get cheated on? Kids and outside? Right? Financial number one and then losing desire for that partner why people are cheating?

So okay, y'all, Maybe the Bible don't say this where I gotta I don't know where I came for me. I told you it was the Queen James version. Look, we're gonna make a whole segment out of that ship. Some ship the Bible don't say, but does say, let me check the check a Buddha two and get back with us. But then next girl, you are stupid. Look before we move on to the next segment, let's have a word for our sponsors. Sorry, if we made a total list of your perfect mate, what qualities would you

put on that list? Physically and everything? Everything? Okay? Period, I got one. So after LEXI I'm gonna read my list. I'm gonna go with I'm not in a little I'm not a little tiny girl, So I need my man to be tall. You know, he need to have me, say, he need house some arms so he could pick me up. Um, you know, good hair, nice smile, That's the first thing I'm looking at. Your teeth, your smile. That's the first thing. Baby,

he's the prototype. He got a house style. Um, but when it goes past physical, uh, I just you know, you gotta be honest. Tell me everything straight up. Perfect man is honest period. Like if I ask you a question, give it to me. I don't care straight, I don't care if it's gonna not um loyal of course, funny. I can't deal with you if you can't many laugh. If we're sitting in the room and we're not keikinging the whole time, we ain't it. That's what you're not

the one. I'm real silly. I was trying to date this guy from Baltimore one time and he was just so so just there, just waste of space. He waste space. It's very serious all the time. You like, Yo, I'm for boltible. So that's a waste. That's It's like sad in Baltimore. They are actually are you guys listen? Are you guys Baltimore? Are y'all blue? No? I have a whole full love list I created January thirty one, and

did you finish your list? I mean, I feel like there's so many things you can name in a perfect man it is. I just feel like it. Oh you got a lonely right the should say lights Siracha on his ead detailed because you know I was taught you gotta pray for details. You know you want something, you got to pray for it all A man that prays. You have to be a believer. That's my number one. I believe you gotta believe in something. You know we might not believe in the same things, but higher our

But um, yeah, Mom, that starts. It's very simple like committed, fun, compassionate, for giving, always family, man and a husband mm hmmm, constantly growing, mentally healthy. UM loves to travel the world, makes me feel confident, entertains my weirdness, supports my mom and sister. UM loves God, defends me no matter what, allows me to be who I am. UM and loves to help others. And then I put foreign and tall so no so no black Americans, y'all. Yeah, I don't

like black American. Damn y'all. You don't want to let me tell you ain't nothing wrong with that. I said this before. One of my best friends, she's white and she has only ever dated black men. She has two kids, one from a Biracier, got other Haitian and she's done with Black American men, So ain't in us because she's white and she's six. This bu be going to the Dominican Republic for a current nigger. It's just the morals in America and you knowed the Black American men are

completely different when it comes to overseas people. It's just different. It's a different mindset. And I could be biased, but being raised in a Nigerian American household, there's different qualities with foreigners versus Black Americans. Is that a deal breaker for you? Like, it's not a breaker man a black man, that's everything else that you described putting on for him.

Oh no, absolutely, if he's if he's you know, if somebody that really really truly am liking digging re Vibe embodies that list is a good list girl, So yeah, that can't be the worry off. The only thing I had a question about. I need that that's important because all those things that you say are important to me as well. However, sex is very it's very important. It is you know, that's not on this list, but it's definitely in my journal. Like okay, like, how are you

going to know that right off the back. We're not gonna know none of that ship right off the bed. It's gonna take time to learn all that stuff. So what about the part about supporting your mom and sister? What's that about? Because that's my only family, Like, I don't have grandparents uncles, So when it comes down to like my family, family, that's all I got. So they have to be a part of the whole situation as well. About support, I sorry, support meaning like um, you know,

making sure they're good, asking about them. So he gotta be their nigga too. No, not even those, but just he's got to know that because sometimes family is a reason why people don't work out too And so when when people have different sides and feelings about people's families, you know, like that canter marriages and relationships, and that's not going to be an option for me and my man,

Like my family is your family and vice versa. Like I thought Nigerian's head like always had big families because everybody was tea and there y'all don't really be relating. Um, so I do have a big feeling. But a lot of my uncle's aunts are passed away. My dad had nine brothers and sisters, there's only like three of them left, three or four of them left. That's okay, No, but most of them do come from big families, and yes,

that is true. A lot of us, say Auntie cousin, just based off from the same tribe and we just really really the parents might be up at the same school together or something like that. Okay, so y'all learn something. Y'all want to hear my list? So hi, So how this list was compiled? Because you know, my little stock should I be doing? Tim one of the ladies on there, we were just talking on Zoom one day and I

was telling her different stuff. She was like, you know, she's one of those I AM people like putting out in the universe. You're not trying either doing or you're not doing type people. So she compile the list for me, bitch while I was talking and then sent it to me on Instagram. So here's my list, and it starts with I now have a and that is mentally clear, spiritual, A choosy lover loves me for me, monogamous, good with his hands, fit, nice body, with a broad back. I

love a black man's back. That's my favorite part. Of a black man. That's how I know God is real. Attractive to me between the ages of thirty five and fifty, can have kids between five and twenty. A dog, lover, grateful, secure, confident, reformed whore. Yes good, we're ship even though we're reformed hood nigga. I love those hood niggas who made it. Um A good provider, respectful, and a protector. That's that's

my list? Is that a Yes, it's high maintenance. It was just like if we could have the perfect person, you have the perfect everybody's anny, you're gonna get you want to get, you'd be grateful to get. That's real, Are you right? No, that's fine. What if he got all that ship but a little back? First of all, I don't fun tadpoles or sperm, no, everything else, but his back ain't strong. You ain't gonna you're gonna talk, sorry, because if that if that strong, you know that know

that's that's real. I believe my man coming is gonna happen. I believe so. He may not be everything on the list, but it's gonna be a majority. I think everything on your list is absolutely a trouble. Um. It's only long because you had the time to sit down and write it down. But you find out You're find out man. Yeah, I agree, but listen some of that your list though, persisted money, money, and did got to create a living.

Money and dick. That's why you're gonna get what the fun you want because money and dick that's the top. Want other things like that. Okay, I need all right? So I would like a man who has some type of spirituality. He needs to have some type of relationship with God and be growing in that. He don't have to be on the quiet or nothing like that. You need to have something. I mean, he can't be I don't know. Do past the smoke weed? Imagine being the first lady you don't have to go to. I'd be

the first lady of the church. No, it's a church in New Orleans where they smoke weed and they praise God while they smoke a weed. I could be the first lady there. How high make sense? My friends go to that church and maybe outside maybe songs and smoking. God did not Jesus and God whoever, he didn't say nothing about weed being bad. So I don't see why not. But most of the decaus I know, don't you smoking. They don't. They don't smoke at church, they definitely smoke

at the house. A lot of money and sex definitely matters. That's why a lot of females are staying single because if they're not getting that, I don't need so if you you what else? I like some swag um, someone who's not too flashy. I hate a flashy if you got a seventeen chains around your neck too much, and that ship could all be real chunky ass bracelets up two watches. I would like niggers like that because yourself, Yeah, because it's kind of like that. I can't stand. I mean,

be confident, but if you're too cocky with it. And I just feel like men who have on all that ship is sure making up for something they're lacking. Right, they can and you could tell like most of them ain't came from Like is this new to you? Most of us? If we had a party, why are you doing all that? If we had a party where it was like a no jewelry party, it would be no niggers dead like that. Say we've naked without his bracelet,

my black asshole, I'm not going to No, No, we've party. Now, y'all go to head rocking the natural puffs I still have. I'll come with him, a we've that look natural. I'm like Samson now he is from the Bible. Men are getting so caught up in is the physical pants of females. If I can't have like if you want me to correct anything in my body, like I had a guy something the other day, like, only you had a tummy tuck, you put that all in your like you can put all that in your trip have he has he seen?

He said, if you only had a tummy tull. He was like, you know, you can move all this to the But that's what he said to me. This is a homie. It's just a friend. Nothing else. This is a friend. But don't be like, well look you, let's see if we can put somebody out of your dad. Right, I don't know him, we're just on friends. If he said that to you, then you can tell him like, well let me see you, dick, let's see what we can do something about that. But I'm just saying that

was rude. But men are visual creatures, right, very visual. But then it'd be a nigger shaped like a fucking spongeball. Wrris A. Walren covered them back me McDonald's ice cream, calling down his back and sucking little legs, no calf myself. You need to tell me to like, come on now,

men are way more shallow than women. I don't give a god damn when none of them saying if you're not going to catch a fine ass dude with some basic bitch, but you can always catch a shine as woman with some nigger you just described with the check basically. So so does that make us more shallow or them? I guess we're both shallow. Their shallow as far as aesthetics, because, like they say, all women think they're attending what all men think, they deserve it in and happy y'all don't

deserve its in. You deserve the bitches that you couldn't. I remember I was working. This was when I was in London, and this nigga was talking about his wife and they got divorced, not soon like very soon after that. He said his wife was not a bit ley, she was more like a reliable Honda in front of her with everybody at the table, and she was just sitting there.

He looked like and he looked like a motherfucking pinto. Okay, he was that man looking too bold with with looks and what they expect a reliable Honda is what he compared his wife too. And then he said, that's grounds for divorce. That's grounds for divorce. That's the fact. I'm so every man. She feels like he deserved it in and every woman that he did in his eyes. That's why on my list, I said, um, you know that

they look good to me. I don't really care about how anybody else feel about them, but um, girl, that has definitely grounds for divorce. I wish you, nigga might be. You know a lot of women put up with abuse like that. They do from some basic guys nigga who don't control nothing outside his home. He just control whoever, like the kids and the wife that's in the house. You go to work, you don't run it over there. Your family, your outside family, don't run it over there.

So these are constant people you could, girl, I would beat his ass up on site, said the same things out talking to listen, yeah out here talking about violence. We don't promote violence, girl, Yes the funk we do nothing. If you suck, girl, I just definitely stand out. I want to hit the nigg with a sledge we don't promote violence. That's one that's funny. I never t is domestic violence. That's one thing that I will always look away.

I don't see how women really do it. I know it's easier said than done, but I physically, physically or mentally, I couldn't do it. Mental is worse, you know what I'm saying, Because it takes a person wave even longer, you gonna have Stockholm syndrome. Like this is just okay, it's just normal living and this is just in my life. And people get stuck. So you will never understand those situations until you get in them. I would never the fuck, if anything, I'm the abuser. Oh, I'll hit you. I

think I'm not gonna like a physical fight. I'm probably gonna lose a little rat poison. I don't know. I have to come out with you to cook me up. So hey, look, let me tell you the only reason why I went and killing niggas because it's tough getting rid of a body. That's it. That's the only reason why. Yes, Like, what are you gonna do? You're gonna be in Nick cutting this heavy ass man up by yourself. Like now I got to bring a dead body like how what

I'll call it all y'all. First of all, need to be like y'all to help you mean, she didn't call your mom and your sisters up? Yeah, I just could not take it no more that I just read that better be there for me, y'all read about that. I will come. I will put money on your books. Y'all read about that woman that killed her husband with a pot of boiling because she and I said, free that woman her whole hero. Listen, nicker, you better call your mom and your sister nickers. My mom will be there now.

Mom gonna be there, but don't be there for sure? If I don't know how, how would? Why are we talking about discarding the body? What we want? We definitely? I have a question for y'all, how okay. I had a conversation with the guy and I was like, what is your expectations when you are in relationship and with sex? How many times do you expect to have sex throughout the week? What the minimum? And what do you say? He said? Once a day is a minimum I deserve?

Like that's what unless you're on your you know here you go once every day? That ain't so? First of all, I like the reaction my pussy because I feel like, if you're giving it to him too much, you got to work towards. Huh what does he have to work towards? Right? I like that. That's what's a day is a lot, Like we're in a commit relationship. I'm only with you, only with me, Like if we funking every day, we're not gonna be with only each other. After some time,

it's gonna be bored. I would I would get bored. Yeah, same old stroke every day, every day. Do you think that's sex? I think variety. I think they like new pussy. And that's one of the things that the nigger should have said on that list, Like men do like variety and it, but they also above a variety, they like

new pussy, Like you're the same old steak dinner. We said that, damn the same way about though, That's what I'm saying, Like we do too, But don't mean I'm going to step out on your score, right you know Whoever, women have a little bit more discernment when it comes to that type of ship, Like, yeah, I might be sick of it, but you don't really have to really do some ship. Women need a reason men need the time and a place for the most part man, so

women do too. But a woman that's happy in her relationship is not about to just go out and smash somebody else unless that's something that you know your made have going on, Like y'all communicate that I have phone sex with you or something like that. But I'm not about to be going out and smashing nobody. I'm happy with,

you know, my relationship. And I think sometimes I think sometimes men like if they're used to having capping whatever, because I don't mention vaciations with their home girls and get fuck because no, n I feel like women, I mean and men ship, they're gonna step out at some point. Na, I feel like, just switch it up a little bit. I don't know that's right. Bring some type of toys,

all type of wing we watch. Then I have personally never been in a situation where I've had other people in my sexual life, but I'm open to it because I know that it's something that I'm curious about personally. And then also I know like men love that ship. I like that I love that ship. Men love having two women at the same time. Mostly y'all growing in me seeing the two women period. That's good with nobody else, y'all y'all grown, y'are too grown from me? Now what

y'all saying? Now, so y'all gotta have a nigked that y'all could do three sins with. That's what you're saying. I've never I'm not saying that. I'm saying I'm open to more time out of the country in Jamaica. But that's the thing. If you do it out the country, how are you how how are you gonna do that because you don't what You're just gonna wear call them with you and her because we're not just gonna be out here messy. Yeah, no, I know. Like that's the thing.

That's where it gets tricky in my mind. I'm like, yeah, that's how it works because I can't see myself sucking any of my friends. Yeah, y'all nasty. I am so child that when he got that. Y'all just too grown from meat. Yeah, I'll funk all three y'all of it right now. See this. Women have sex with women too, Keep it fun, whatever it's fun. I just don't want to ever be in a relationship where we're just going through emotions over and over it's a lot of relationships though.

That is especially marriage. That marriage. Yeah, it's sad. I don't want to be there. No, I want to have fun. We're having fun, so tam. So you're saying if it's if it's too normal, you're gonna suck the relationship up. And that's the biggest thing. I think it's fun when you are able to have open communication about everything, like if your man can come to you like babe, I'm bored and sex like I'm bored with you, I'm bored with pussy everything like right. I think that's what we

need to hear. Also, I think oftentimes the men step out. They don't tell their woman what the problem is so that she can correct it. They just go outside their relationship. They go outside the relationship to complete their happiness instead of talking to the person you with so that they can have the opportunity to fix whatever it is. You know what I'm saying, You just got that pussy and he's been used to it. He's used to it. You don't that's not fixable. But that's so you're saying, no

men can be um. You don't think any man could be faithful. I don't I don't think any male really wants just want one woman for their entire life. I don't believe that. I don't agree with that. I think there's somebody here that truly just are about one woman for the rest, like after a certain phase in life,

like yo, I don't want nobody else. Be a mutual agreement sometimes, but other than I believe that men and like women, one woman for it's a mutual agreement and it's not one woman, no more no. But I'm saying there's times where it's like, okay, bab, let's make it excited. Let's do this, like like she said, if it's fun, it flows, and you know, you want to do something that's like you know, yeah, but there's no longer one woman. Okay.

But as far as, like you said, stepping out on the relationship, okay, So we're just saying in general, you might want to bring somebody else in your relationship. Right. So that's why I like a man to be experience. I want you to have been with every woman possible. I want you to have had your three sims. I want you to have done all that stuff before you even meet me, Like and if you're not, if you feel like you are experienced everything, and we start talking,

let me know that, keep doing what you're doing. And then look, but so you want a forty seven year olds with I don't care how hold he is. So that's why I put man. I should have been with a good amount of women, really, So that's why I put on my list were formed whole because I like men who can get bitches, and I like a man who knows how to fund me and can read my

body and that type of stuff. But yeah, I don't want you to still be out head chase a pussy because how you getting money and pussy at the same time. I just you're not. You're not. I was the one that I need to chase pu see with And look, your man, it's gonna be hard for you because that's every man's stream. Let's slow down together, baby, like with that mindset, because he's got me thinking about the Okay, okay, okay, girl,

by got it. This is don't pay me exactly because we talked about it's for enter team of purposes only, especially when Tam talking bit the ship. I've been here crying over there. I don't got no niggers, I don't got no bitches. Girl. What you just don't follow me up? Y'all? Alright, look so and that no, let's take a second Capades bills and we're back to you guys. And guess what.

We have a dumb bach story. Dumb bitch stories. So, because we've all been a dumb bitch at least once or twice, we have two dumb bitches on the show with us today. And I like dumb bitches. In a moment I listened, I shared my dumb bing stories. A j has shared her dumb bing stories. Do y'all know what it is? That's what I wanted to give me an example so I can kind of like a time you got played a time where all right, let me give you an example with me. Is this guy I've

been dealing with and he went to prison. Yeah, he was giving me a lot of money before he went to prison. He can't. He went to jail, and I hadn't bossed up, so by the time he got home, I had my own little bag. So I was living in Europe a food back home when he got out of jail, took him shop and bought him some shoes,

use and all that ship. And then I flew back to Europe, And once I got off the flight, I checked Facebook and he was hugged up with a bit in the sneak because I bought him in a picture on Facebook, and I was ready to get back on the plane and come back to the United States. I never played like that, not like you've been played in a way before. Absolutely. My biggest thing is I've been ghosted. So it's like, Okay, what was, what will happened? What happens?

How many times have you have you been like, um ghosted habitually? I've been ghosted out of my years of dating a lot um. I've been ghosted that actually hurt me, probably three times that actually like And most of the time it's because this man has a whole situation going on, and the feelings got strong, got caught up, and now it's like, oh, I gotta choose my girl over you.

You just somebody I'm just having sex with. You're not nobody that I can really know or I can be with because I got this going on, and so yeah, I don't have anything, Like, I don't have anything exciting. Do you like? She fail? I mean I wish I did. I got stood up at a date. I don't have no excess first of all. But no, um, you don't have no excess, no time to one and only. I just don't clean nobody. Hey, look if if you ain't coming, it ain't count. You know, we met when we were twenties,

so we've been in a relationship for a long time. Um, I'm looking with a relationship almost seven years next month. I can't wait for the wedding. You know what I was with my first boyfriend from I was seventeen years old, and I didn't leave him alone till I was twenty seven years old. M and then I was a hole for sho after turn on the lights, turn off the lights on? It ain't funny for real. I had a boyfriend in high school. Hey, he wan't really my boyfriend,

but he was my boyfriend for real. Um, and it was like what junior senior year, I don't know. It was embarrassing, But the whole time to this day, I think he likes this girl, right, that was his best friend at the time. He promised her that he would take her to prom. So I had to go with one of my friends boyfriends friends who I did not know clearly, Yeah, I honestly have no idea. What his name? I'm sorry to this man. My man took another girl from the same prom to the same prom. Oh that's

a listen. That is definitely an adolescent story. I look after that. I was not playing with these niggas. I don't you learn your lesson right there? What girl? And then I did a tripper. I don't even know. I don't even really remember the poem. I spoke too much of my memory is coming. But oh yeah, that man for sure. But um we went to the I had a hotel room. Afterwards, they went to a party and everything ch'all. And I was in there looking like a dumb bit. So you are really good. He was in

the hotel about yourself. I had my friends, they're like some of them and their man's and I told my problem day to go to because I and then yeah, so who was the prom this today? I have a story? Mine was mine was I got played hard on this one. Because he was a longtime friend. We went to college together. Always been cool. We've you know, like, I went to him for advice, job opportunities, just a great resource as a friend. We all went on to Miami for my

birthday last year. He was there for there for work and had like six girls with me, and he, you know, saw all the girls I was hanging out with. And then all of a sudden, I get a phone call, maybe like later on two months after my birthday from him saying, hey, you know, I don't know what's up with your girl, but she's she's super whack. And I'm like, where's this coming from? This is one the girl who want to triple me. I'm like, where's this coming from?

What you're talking about? So I did, you know, found out the story, you know, try to dig into us hee, what's going on? And then when I confronted her, I was like, because I told her some personal stuff about him because she knows my girls. So I told him like, you know, hey, he's got a kid, he takes care of his kid. Nobody really knows he has a kid. Whatever, But he took a personal because she confront of him about it. But I was like, why would she confront

you about it? Where did this come from? And how did they know each other? They met my birthday and he followed all my friends after that after my birthday, So this guy made him been intimate again. We're good friends, you know, and I sat down with my girl was like, yo, what's going on? This is what he's telling me. What happened? So she pulls up her phone goes to I G and this man going in, I want to fly you out,

take you shopping. I only want you. Me and me and neck are nothing like we're just you know, we're just cool. We're just cool. I was just intimate with him a month before my birthday, two weeks for my birthday, and went in on all this stuff like I'll buy whatever you want to buy, Like just going in. I'm just like, this is one and this is one of my friends. What's your friend? But look you see my face and like see you on We on the same page. Listen. So I compared her. I was like, why didn't you

tell me he was in your ends? She was ignoring everything he was saying, but at the same time I had to confirm her, like, YO, look, when any of my dudes, any of my name is coming in your dams, come to you in a proper you come to me immediately as a friend, You let me know immediately. And he of course, men're gonna lie. But I didn't think because this is my homie for over ten plus years, he's gonna lie to me like that, but he did.

But as my girl don't ever you know girl colde like yeah, yeah, because they have you looking at the girls away. He came to you first about her because he thought it was okay. But wait, why did he even think that was okay? And that's the thing, but you know what's when men get money and they have access to things, they feel like they can do whatever.

They have this ego about him that's just like you know, he felt like, oh I can get her and I can still keep neck in my back pocket because you know, I'm you know, like you've been the constant over the years. Yeah right, that's why you gotta do the same thing on there as get money, get fine because look I'm a blessing too, right No and me and it was just cool like he had a whole situation which just cool.

But it was this disrespect for me because the day you could have just told me on me like what again, the honesty, I'm digging your girls? I want her, can I you know, can I get her number? More likely I would have give her a number like what I wounderstand you know what response about giving but he just took the right for me to even like present the situation.

She didn't want him, She definitely didn't want him, but it was just like, dang, post me my homie, homie, Like, there's not no dude, I'm just having sex with this is like a friend, so a real friend, So yeah, are you? I thought, at least that was heart breaking. I'm gonna like that was a little hurtful girl. The nigger and I don't know about your friend. Well she didn't wait how okay, wait wait wait? So you said he was upset because you had told her stuff about him,

and she relaid the stuff back to him. So they had to have had a conversation because she was getting tired of him contacting her, like he was going on Instagram and she was just like, don't you have like a biby mom? Why are you on my ship? That was so okay, friend, you are right for friend, But it was still I had to find out because I had to set her down. It was never her coming to me like yo oh dudes and my d m s and this was, um November, we don't even November.

All the way until January, there was constant communication between them two, And I mean because I'm telling, telling, I'm telling if it was funny, I'm telling, I'm telling right away. Yeah, absolutely, dude, is this your king? So what I'm hearing is Lexie would like a man with good hair, and Nickel wants honesty. Money, we want taking money now, we want money. We want all want good sex and money. Everybody wants that look.

And if you don't eat this pussy, you don't like me, Like you don't like me, You're not just to do your face, don't look like a hot Crispy kreem. Don't know what you're doing because it ain't mean all right it looks So what I'm hearing is crazy. We ain't no representations one in relationship. One has been single for years and you know, like like what we like? Alright, So I'm on fact retriever dot Com trying to find

us a good random sex fact. It says couples usually wait six to eight days before they're willing to enter into an exclusive relationship. What the fun Why don't you believe? What's what's funny about? I mean, like, what's six or eight dates? Dates? Yeah? To say that your elusive, that's a lot, not not enough how many would you and I have before? Y'all we probably were together for like six months before we were exclusive. You had a conversation

and said we together. Young people do that, just like younger people do that adults for something like I know you said y'all man when you were twenty, right you Now you could be thirty years old dating the man. Like these guys don't want to sit down and kin up a conversation and say, hey, today we together going forward. It doesn't happen like it happens when we're young, but not as grown people. Everybody want to keep this little like little gray area so that if they do funk up,

there's no accountability. It gets really messy. And accountability is a huge one that is on my list too, Like you, okay, you gotta be you gotta be accountable for your own actions. Like and also the lack of communication. If you're not talking to me every day, I don't feel like I'm important to you. I don't even need every day because at least saying every day. But people act like when you're talking to dating, somebody is supposed to text all day.

I'm not texting nobody all fucking day. I'm not talking nobody all day, but I do expect good morning, have a great day, and I'm doing at least you have a good night. You know what I hate every day? I ain't want to nigga. I ain't want a nigga text you good night, but you ain't talk to them the whole day, Like what, I don't know anything that you really don't like that's putting in all that effort and be like good morning, beautiful, good morning, this good

mor and that. Like now you're pissing me off. So do y'all let him, you know him into him? Like after do you let a man know that you're not into them as the first date? Oh? Yeah, I will, but I wan't say. So what do you say? You're just working on things in my life right now and I just see you can't do that. Um. It probably would be either I'm real direct because I really really don't like you, or if I kind of like you and I don't want to like maybe maybe save you

for later type ship. I might um give an excuse like that, like oh I'm busy, or this week was crazy, this and the third but that's that. That'd be the bullshit. If you don't like somebody, you need to let them know. I don't that part right. What you're gonna say, Hey, I just really don't like how sharp your teeth are, and I don't want to with you. No, you say, hey, thank you for the date, but I don't feel like we're compatible. We're compatible. My energy wasn't there tonight, or

I'm just not as attractive I thought I was gonna be. Yeah, that might hurt somebody's feelings, but I wish I don't say ship like that. I'll just be like I put it on me like I don't either. I go go. That's a good way to do it to him. You kind of put it on put it on you instead of because then they get kind of like on a defense kind of. Nobody likes rejection, but men especially do not like to be rejected. No females do. We can handle it better. We handle everything better, no more. I

think men can handle it. I think men can handle it, just as the candle half the ship we can handle Because I like nibe, you might be they can handle it. Text me, he don't like me, Okay, I didn't know you was gay. Okay, that parts is wrong with you. That's a whole time to listen. We want to have these lovely guests back on because even with this episode, did we really well? Actually we gave three lists, didn't

we look? Oh yeah, in impossible impossible. Look guys, you'll have a little bit of insight now into what women want. So if you're that guy, hit nake up right, nicky, you're looking. I'm not really looking for nothing. I'm looking like I'm looking for my damn self right now. I don't say I'm looking, but my options are open. My doors are open. If you want to walk in and talk to me, let's have a conversation. If you plug yourself,

go ahead and plug yourself naked. Oh I guess the easiest way probably were I g So my Instagram is Queen Underscore in in e k A oh yeah absolutely. So. I do have an event Um company. We do events in the city of Charlotte. Mostly is to bring back business to restaurants, bars, lounges. Um. The hospitality industry took a big hit during COVID, so we come in to social events on their off nights. So usually it's going to be an event during the week, but it's a

great diverse crowd. We have them once a month. Please come through. Our next one is July at Nivole, a rooftop in the Epicenter. It's gonna be super dope, great vibes, sexy vibes and gonna be awesome. Um. Tickets are on sale. We do have a website. Website is we are Hoco ho c O dot com. But please register. I can't wait to see all y'all there aj you should pull up to. There's an Instagram as well. We do have Instagram.

It's Hospitality Coalition um so hoko. If you just type that in Instagram you will see it and pop up. But yes, we're doing something once a month, trying to bring different vibes to the city. So maybe I appreciate. I'm that the last one. I'm the next one, the one after that. We out there yourself. Okay, it's Lexi Johnson on Instagram at x i I Johnson. You know, probably won't be at for too long, it won't. She

got her list girl. And then if you guys want to follow, um, we just started party throwing parties and you know, party promoting and stuff. It's one seventies six marketing Underscore Group. Right now, we're doing parties in Columbia, but we're gonna bring them into Charlotte Metro, you know, colap Day. It's a whole lot of things on ICE right now. Let's so what we are here working, y'all.

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