EP. 23 "It Cost to Be The Boss"

episode that we talked back. It is your girl a j ah. You know, there's a big difference between communication and comprehension because it's like if two people don't understand each other, fuck communication. We could talk all day long exactly and do you but do you comprehend what the funk it is that I am trying to communicate? Right? And are you communicating to comprehend? Are you just trying to get your fucking point across? Because that happens a

lot too. Yeah. So I just gotta learn to um, I just gotta learn to shut up like you don't get it. I no, I have to also learn to listen. You know, when I was just saying, are you communicating to get your point across? That's me. I'd be like waiting on my turn. I don't even listen to what the funk he's saying. Are just waiting on my turn

to speak. Look my older sister, she like a super drouper customer service professional dog, and when we would get into arguments, she'll stop everybody and say, listen, you talk, and when you're done talking, everybody else has to repeat what you said before they respond. That's good, exactly, But imagine trying to do that in the argument because you're not thinking about what the funk they said. That's the problem. You're not even you're not even listening to what they said.

You hear a piece of it, and then you decide what else they're gonna say so you can respond right. One thing I can't stand is for someone to act like they understand what you're saying, but then they start the question off or their response off with But they get on my fucking nerve because you don't You didn't hear anything I said. If you have any rebuttal no,

that's not true. It is true. I don't like when a person I don't like when someone apologized and then go on after they finished apologize justifying what they did. Why are you apologizing if you feel like you've got a justification for your actions exactly, don't apologize today and then a couple of weeks him. Now you're back on the same fucking ship you apologize for a couple of weeks ago and now justifying it all over again. This

this is the type of ship I fucking yell about. Dog. Yeah, so y'all this week I'm trying to fucking woo saw. I didn't have a good weekend for real, And yeah, I don't saw an all fucking week dog, how was your weekend? My nigga ghost to me, is you sure it's your nigger? He for the streets? Apparently you want my life to begin with temporary nigger. That's how it goes down. So he's sad about it? Yeah, how sad? Like this sad? Or this sad? Like six inch sad

or like two inch sad? Two inch? Two inch? Said? I wasn't sick over the weekend. I was six and sad over the weekend. I wasn't here. I'm going there. I was here with Mary J. Blige. If you savage do not listen to Mary J. Blige, you might slit your dad wrists. I was about to jump over the balcony. N he lived in California. He lucky and flights was high. Pull up and be like, just come outside, I just

want to talk. We're gonna jump you girls. So this weekend stupid internet news, um shop, what the fund do you think about La La and Carmela as Anthony? I love La La. I feel like everybody like La La except that nigger. Um. I remember one summer I was in the club in Miami and La La and Carmelo was next to us. It was club bed in Miami, and they had a section next to us, and it was like to their beds, so their bed was right

next to our bed. And it was La La car Mellow and Solange was in the bed too with them. And I had took off my shoes because I couldn't. I was on the bed, you know, so I couldn't get on the bed and my my heels. And we got drunk. We were having a good time to promoter, like put us in this section, and he was feeding us liquors. So me and my home girls was faded and then we were ready to go, and I couldn't find one of my shoes, so I was looking all

over for my pump, my sandal and Lilon salons. Was like, what is she not game for fire? What is she doing? Bitch? I am not trying to fun Carmelo? Are you whoever y'all with? Really that's what he was acting. Yeah, Kevin asked, what is she looking for? I'm not looking for your nigga, so don't worry about it. I just want my shoes so I can leave. Girl. People be getting these men that they know they can't trust, and you around head

can't look yourself in the marriage super insecure. Like if you're gonna get a hole, you don't get a womanizer. Just learn how to deal with a womanizer. Right. So when I said all of that to say that that was like at least ten years ago, if not more so, she's been probably having you know, insecurities about infidelity with him for a long as time, So I know she's probably at a space like you know what, boy, fuck you, I'm tired. Yeah, I'm tired, So I command her for

moving on with her life. Yeah, but girl, you couldn't tell me that they were not already divorced. For some reason, I thought they'd been divorced, because it just looked like she was out here living her best life for the last oh they've been. Yeah, they've been separated. I think so because her, her and Kim been out here holding together and I've been here for it. So like, it came out today that this woman who's um basically accusing Pamela Anthon need um a fathering a set of twins

of hers. This woman is a Brazilian yoga instructor um apparently, and she's she'd be um basically extorting niggas. From what they're saying, she has a track record of extorting different, you know, celebrities. So what's her name? What's her name? Her Instagram handle is Brazil Yoga and um, her name is hold on, Joanne the scammer shut up. Basically, hold on, let me tell you that's been scam do yoga and babysit said luised, all at the same studio, probably second

dick in there. They I'm pretty sure they fucked, you know, in order for her to well, obviously they had to have had sex for her to even be able to hold that over his head. But you know what we give it. We're given her a hard time. If he would have kept his to himself or to his wife, this wouldn't be a problem at all. But I like, at this point, do I even expect, expect, especially these rich men, to keep them their dicks to themselves for

their whole life. Here's the thing. The people in their relationships are the people that need to be respecting it. If the people in their relationship aren't respecting it, how do you expect anybody outside the relationship to respect it? So you also have to define what respect is in your relationship too, being loyal to the person that you you know took an oath too. Yeah, but sometimes loyal doesn't mean no outside pussy. I don't really have that

unrealistic expectation on my nigga. I really don't or or myself. I was just about this say that. Listen, I am a one upper. Play with me if you want to, We're gonna both be on the same type of time. It's not gonna be a situation. Um, I'm gonna be a dumb bitch for two fucking long. Either either I'm gonna leave you or you're gonna stop playing with me. Those are options. I just I don't even let's say I get with someone today and we fall in love

and we get married. I don't have the expectation of him not having sex with no one for the whole entirety of our lives outside of me. I just don't feel like that's a realistic It's not. So then that's the conversation that you need to be having in the very beginning of a relationship. It can't be a situation where we haven't been together for ten fifteen years and you can't stop getting outside pussy and now all of a sudden is a conversation about open relationship. At this point,

I'm gonna do that with a new relationship. I'm not even about to try it with you, because now the trust has been broken a long long time ago. Right, You don't even deserve a bit to be cool with that at this point. You deserve the headache I've been giving you about the actual correctly activities you've been doing. I would prefer to get out that relationship and have that discussion with a new person, honestly, because I mean the damage and in the animosity you already have towards

each other, like sometimes that ship cannot be repaired. Right, So now I'm waking up every morning when Anna, who are Anna? Anna? Animosity? Ain't that what her name? Yes? Girl, that was her name? So I am definitely for a la la um. You know, just being happy if this is this is gonna make you happy if you haven't been happy for a long time, and um, I just

went through. I just feel like, you know, in relationships now we have traditional expectations, but our our relationships are no longer traditional, you know, And I think we need to reevaluate our expectations relationships so we can be happy. I don't think it's it's a coincidence that are divorced rates up, in our marriage rates down. We are being real about what we can provide each other in our relationships and what our expectations of each other in our relationships.

And that's why she ain't working, Yeah, because people be trying to really own own people out here instead of just experiencing them. You can't own somebody, you don't own people, and should change. So just just just always needs needs to be an open line of comprehension, right, Basically, the communication is an open line of comprehension that I like that I'm gonna put that on some draws. Stupid, all right, So now look before we move on to the next segment,

let's have a word from our sponsors. And look, this is the last topic we're gonna talk about from the fucking internet, Meg the Stallion and the ship that's going on with the baby and Tory Lanes. What do you think about that whole situation? Um, I just want I'm ready to find out what the funk really happened with Meg and Tory Layes, so we could put this ship in the bed. Okay, I didn't hear it. Did you do it or did you do did you do it

or not? Like I didn't hear anything about charges being dropped. Even now, lawyers if he has a good lawyer, lawyers are pretty good at de Layne delayed inevitable. But that does not mean that he's not guilty of shooting her. So I guess um she felt like you know, her and the baby have a particular type of rapport because they do. They have made some hits together. You could have done a song with anybody in the industry, the baby.

Why Tory Lanes if this is arch enemy of one of your good friends, or maybe she doesn't consider make the stallion a friend. Maybe it's business and it ain't personal. I mean, I've been beating up bitches all last summer, so I don't know. But look, you don't think that this is just imagine a narcissist type man, Right, you're gonna make a song with the nigger that clearly fox with me. I'm talking about Tory Lanes. Oh yeah, so that is something like slimeballs ship Tory Lanes is on right.

I feel like the baby shouldn't even feed into that. That's some slimeballshit. It's some slimeballshit I've been making. Me. Why wouldn't he want to make a song with the baby? The baby is popping? You know, hey, fuck that I would want to make a song with the baby if I was Tory Lanes. Meg wanted the song with with the baby for the same reason, Like he's hot right now, and the baby wanted a song with Meg because she's hot as well. Yeah, yeah, he hot with the fucking

police he had in these streets. Man, you can't deny it. People people listening for him, I think they just want to know what happens, just want to not like make the Stallion. That's how I feel. Well. I don't care are they going to court or what the fuck? Court takes a long time. Sometimes justice takes a while sometimes at aeberties. That don't mean it's supposed to be rushed right. Just because they celebrities, he's supposed to not get a

fair trial. I'm like that party came to her defense or whatever this and knows it the type of man I like like party, like, I need to be comfortable knowing if I pop off at you, my nigga gonna beat you up. Yeah, but baby, my shoot party is we know he would kill her. Now, I don't even think it's gonna get that far, you know what I'm saying, Just like we didn't think it's already gonna play when

it comes to this situation. Tory didn't shot at her. Uh, the baby doesn't shot and kill the nigga in the walmart. So it's already niggas who played and uh party is a big god. Okay, both of them alone, niggas that have to come if they was the square up, it's not a square up situation. They're gonna pull guns out on that. Look because Mega starting like sucking five eleven six ft herself and parties taller that her. So yeah, like that Nigga is I would love to see Megan

Megan party against the Baby and Tory fist fight. They need to go ahead and set up a celebrity box match and it should just be Party against Tory Lays and the Baby. No. I want Mega jump in there too. I bet she beat Tory Lays asking the fist fight. You skirt say you're skirts anyway? Do we haven't asked a black friend? I think we do for this week. I'm gonna read it for you guys. Hello A J and Tam Bam. I have a question for your black friend's segment. Does black people love their dogs like we

white people do? Do y'all let your dogs sleep with y'all? Do you kiss your dogs? My dog is my child? How could you not just love them? Thanks? Becca, Becca, Now, I'll be honest. So I have small dogs, A small dog, Like when my dog first comes from the groomer, I would let her sleep with me. She hasn't slept with me in a couple of years though, because she got like this, her colon hanging out her ass and sometimes

they had like a little blood on it. I see in some little bookie out there hanging out the Yeah, because I gotta make sure I keep her as shaved dog because it's just I don't know what the funk. I literally be having to clean the dog ass. She's an old lady though, so yeah, and I'm definitely I don't let dogs kiss me in the mouth. My dog mouth smells like ship. So back up. Some black people, as you can see, a j is one of them, let their dogs sleep in the bed with them. And

we do love our animals, we do. I have, I have had pets, dogs, and I've let them. I don't let them sleep with me, and I don't kiss them in the mouth. I don't play that ship. But I did love them very very much. But why y'all be letting y'all kiss, Why y'all be letting them do that?

I don't understand that part. Yeah, because I remember it was a guy who died, He passed away because he was letting his and there was video online and him letting his pit bull lick them all in the mouth, and then he ended up with some type of flesh eating back back that took his nose off and ship right, Yeah, man, you stop doing that, y'all white people. Stop doing that. It ain't safe. Listen, you could die. It's nasty. And I've seen two dogs on my elevator just now when

I went to start Bucks. One on was looking the other dog asked in the elevator, and everybody was just acting like that was okay, that's a freaky ship. And then they gonna go home and let them kiss you. Yeah. Dogs bacteria like people like to say, oh, the dog mouth is cleaner, No bitch, that is for that dog though, that ain't for your human body. Whatever bacteria it is that keeps their mouth clean. So why would you be looking at my dog? Listen? How call the parts are weird?

I don't even like I don't even like dogs in the restaurant with me, Like, why is your dog sitting here looking staring at my piece of chicken on my plate trying to get a piece? Leave me the funk alone. I remember I got like a discount on my meal at this restaurant here in Charlotte because they had their dog on the patty over us, and the dog kept

on coming over my table asking for my chicken. Look, I'm like, bro, I was like, yo, get your dog, because even if we got a dog at the house, like my dog doesn't go in kitchen, no, and no, she doesn't go in bathrooms like she does. Dead boundaries, right, y'all, don't have no boundaries for these animals. Like the animals be training, y'all. Ass. I remember I had when I was living in Europe. I had this homeboy. I can't think of his name right now, but he's a white boy.

And we worked at the bar together and we got off early because the bar was slow. He's like, let's go smoke some weed. I was like, let's go, so we can't. We was kind of drunk too, because we was stealing shots that night. And we went over there and uh, his wife was there. She was drunk already too, and they had like some kind of hairy ass dog. And when I tell you, it was dog hair. All

the house was covered in dog hair. I was sitting like I was sitting like just my butt was clenched up on the couch because I was like, I'm covered in dog care. And then dog kept on coming up to me and I didn't want to touch it, and he was like, just pat him, just pat him. He likes you just pat him, and I was like, I don't want to fucking pet him, and he would not leave me a law about petting the dog. I end up leaving. I don't even want to smoke like you

with other people dogs. That dog was all up on me every time I had on black pants. Every time he comes closer, I have hair all on my black pants. I'm like, man, I'm getting the funk up out of here. Bro alright, So so Becca, Becca, right, so Becca, We just don't. We just don't. It's just not sanitary. And you know some people do, though, some black people do, but they look at in the bad but in the mouth, kissing in the mouth. I don't know, we don't. I

ain't never met a black person that do that. Yeah, So I don't know. That's for y'all. Nothing, that's yeah, thank you back up for listening. Appreciate you. Just kiss me with your dog. Oh boy. So look, let's get into today's topic because we're done talk talk talk talk

talk about a bunch of ship m hm. So you know, a couple of months ago, we were on Brilliant Idiots, and some of the comments um on YouTube for that particular episode, like it was so many different men that just wanted to sick the character of Kevin Samuels on us UM And this week looks like Kevin Samuels has kinda changed his tone a little bit. Now He's always been like, you know, telling men about themselves before he

started on women. But women are Black women is what has made him more lucrative and basically beefed up his career because we interact more. We're gonna talk shit, we're gonna check you. So now he's like super like souped up his platform, you know, m hm, basically fucking with black women. So that this week, So this week, Kevin Samuels is saying that men should pay for everything if they want to be the boss. You can't check a bit because you've got nothing check. You've got nothing to

check with. The only place you dominate is in the bedroom. Dominate on the balance sheet, Dominate on your wallet, which is your accomplishments. Any woman that you choose to deal with her money should be no good with you. If you hunt man, you paid everything? Why because it keeps her in her feemity when she's with you. I don't give a ship, but you don't want to put the work in so now when we say something like that, it comes off, you know, as if gold Diggs broke

gold dig and as bitches. So this is why I always say, you know what, we don't need to address men. Men need to address men. And that's the bottom line. Men need to stop trying to address women and women need to stop trying to address men because men kind of take it better when they see visually see a man and what they do for their woman and when I'm man talks directly to them. So, what has been happened over the past few months, Kevin Samuels has has

been addressing women, specifically specifically black women. Right, He's been addressing us, and so it's empowered bitch ass niggas to come for us for some reason. Right, So now that he's on a ass because these same men, he wasn't talking to the type of man that he even um these Okay, so these women wanted high value men, right supposedly,

which really I don't even think that's the case. We just want a man that we could build with essentially, right, nobody's saying I just want this millionaire because his claim to fame came about what this one woman who just says she wanted a man to make the same amount of money as she did because she just found it harder dating men dating down right, And seems like in the black community, black women are the only ones in this world that don't practice hypergamy like we're We're just

not some post the date up period. We're just if you got it, you're supposed to get a man down here. That's not right. So all men, all I ever wanted from a man, I just wanted. I want all men to aspire to take care of their family. You don't have to be doing it today, but you have to

be a man with a fucking plan. So even when saying like men should pay for everything, all men shows should aspire to that, right, But black people in the trenches in America, it's just not a realistic goal for exactly the majority of Americans, you know, especially if you're a young. Relationship niggas be broke when they young. So I mean, if y'all can come together and figure it out, and then Bill, well that's beautiful, But first of all,

are you why are you trying to control? Like it just seems like he's teaching them a control tactic and he's like, if you want to control your bitch, that's why he used the term bitch, and I was just like, seeing, that's my problem right there? Is it? Is it because you're trying to create healthy relationships? Are you trying to women? Yeah? He's really bad for the ecosystem. That's how I feel. I don't care how men feel. Are some women who go to him for advice. I definitely am not going

to a man for advice. Now. I do like to talk about men when I'm experiencing issues in a relationship, just to make sure I'm not tripping, but I don't really need I want their perspective, not necessarily advice. Kevin Samuel's has a very skewed perspective on relationships, and people can say the same thing about us, but we know what people know, what the funk we'll be talking about

that dude. There's some things that he says that I can I'll be like, all right, but if some of it is just like especially when he you know, has women on and they are in the opposition of his thoughts, he cuts him off and hangs up on him, and it's just like listen to what they have to say, you know, because this whole thing is is this my show? This is my show? But you would have a show without these women calling, right, So you can't even listen

to what they said. See that's why I'm sick of you fat bitches, and then hang up on them like dang, a fat beach. Can't have a perspective. You gotta talk to shame. So I mean, if if we are all in the trenches, we gotta work together. It's like, how do we build wealth if only one person is getting into the bag. It's impossible, you know what I'm saying. Most Black people in America are not coming from affluent family, so we have to be the start of an affluent family.

That's when most of us, I believe, specifically millennials. Millennials are doing well. But the most part, like we got a lot of students on debt and that's one thing. And the children of millennials are like fox school, I'm about to figure out how to get this bag. They on YouTube, they're doing different shops are lip gloss and now stuff about the young women. So people talk about city girls, right, I don't think that city girls. I

don't think. To me, city girls really don't promote promiscuity. They don't. They're basically saying, you can't have ext to me, access to me if you don't got the bag. So imagine like young girls like in the twenties like that probably, um, they probably not funking with dudes if they don't have no money. If women stop sucking, everybody will get the bag. All men will get the bag. They'll have the because young men ain't gon have no money right out the gate.

You don't need money, but at least have a plan. You see what I'm saying. Young girls go get a car, they get their license. These young boys don't even be thinking about getting their license. That's not true, man, I have twenty year old cousins with no license, and all my girl cousins got cars and license that they probably purchased on the purchased the vehicle themselves. So you're not interested in this type of ship. Y'all even interested in

women at this point? Someone mate, And that's okay too. But Kevin Samuels is telling men like, if you want a woman, um, if you want to be in control, you have to date, you know, a younger woman. But dating a younger woman also comes with other issues too. That you would. You're gonna expect things from her as if she's a grown woman on your age. She's not gonna be able to deliver on She's still growing herself, and she might grow and realize you ain't the nigger

for her, your old ass. M h. So I feel like I'm just I feel like I'm I'm stepping into a cougar lifestyle. Get me a younger nigga, yo, Not like twenty or twenty one, that's too young, but like late twenties, late twenties. What are what are late twenties men doing with their lives? Well, they dicks are stronger, that's for sure. That's all you worry about. It's some dick. I got money. I got my whole money bringing a dick to man hunting. So you're putting the ad in

the newspaper for a strong back. Yeah, no, I'm joking. Um, don't take me serious. I don't. I've only dated two men that were older than me in my entire life. That's it. They always be younger. I usually have men that are like at least two to three years older than me. Really, they all just feel it that way. I always date younger men. For some reason. Um, I

just don't feel like not much younger though. I don't feel like picking dick up and dropping it off and doing bag lunches and ship I like giving him, baby, here go this turkey sandwich. I put it on rye tomato man that nigger every way with plate with wrapping for you. Hey, baby, I made these turkey wings last night. I don't know if you had lunch yet, but I was just gonna bring you a plate over if you wanted to know. I got that type of time. I don't.

I only talked to young successful men though, right, you gotta have something going on, And I mean sometimes you gotta catch men when they're young. Like sometimes when you get catch a guy where he's already gotten a bag right now, because it just depends on what type of lifestyle that guy had before he got the bag. Was he able to get bitches before the bag or he got to use the bag to get bitches? Which one

to get women? Now you got the bag, you could pick what youever woman you want, right so I would think that it was it would be better to be with a man on the come up as opposed to once he comes up, because women tend to date down. Men tend to date up, but then we're shunned for dating up. Fuck the head who cares what we're showing for. We're showing for pretty much everything that we do. And my question to men is always what would you have

your daughters do? Is is it okay for your daughter to burn a bum, ask guy to the house who can't do shift for her, and and she's still calling you while he's laying in her bed when the rent is kind of when she doesn't have all her rent, you're stepping in to assist. And it's okay that this nigga is laying in the bed with her She needs new tires and she calling her daddy. She needs an

all change breaks and she gotta call her daddy. But she's pressing a wide open depending on I know a lot of women that depend on their home girls when they need help. I have had one of my friends owes me money right now and she's married. Well maybe they ain't got it together. They got it, she just didn't. They were going through something she didn't want to go. She didn't want to ask him if anything, but she

don't have any my money back. The problem is, here's the problem, with that, you should have access to all that money if we're married, did she I'm on your account and look before we get married and I got an account you don't know about. Yes, put me. Let's go to the bank today, baby, so we can get this our business situated. Yeah. Yeah, So, I mean it's always good to have friends that you can rely on, but I try not to do that as much as possible. Yeah, I'm not m I I just I'm learning not to

overextend myself for nobody. So I feel bad for any friend because I got a couple of people who owe me money that I can't borrow the money from. Well they oh you, they ain't got it right, So why I don't wrote it off of course, But yeah, don't bet will you asked me for money, call me and say hey, can I have such a such, don't say borrow. I hate that if you're not gonna give it back exactly. But sometimes people have good intentions and then just don't

fulfill them. I don't know, but you know, I hate to make this conversation about Kevin Sandys, but I mean he brought the topic up for this week about men doing everything for women, Like I love that I really do love it, you know what. I love a man that can do everything. I'll never require me to do everything for me, just because I'm just very independent and I'm just become so used to doing ship for myself

and I can do it for my fucking self. So but if you could bring if you can take care of me and bring the ship, like the little frivolous ship that I like to the table, that would be great. Right now, you ain't gotta let me stop mine. I do want you to pay all my bills. One thing rich Nigga is they'll they'll start there. They will start

imposing on your life. If they're doing a lot of stuff for you, I might might take you to get you know, tempare shoes right now, all of a sudden he telling you what to wear with those shoes and how to dress for him. So now he's customizing you for him because he's financing your entire life. So if you want to mainteen independence while in the relationship with a man who can, you gotta have your own money.

You gotta have fuck you money. Mm hmm. I remember when I was like twenty three, I was dating this like Dominican drug lawder and you always talked about this Dominican drug law. It's funny every time you see. That's what the fun was. And he was paying my rent, right, and I mean, he was taking care of me, but he was trying to put me in an apartment in downtown Atlanta, and I knew that was gonna be way

outside of what I could afford by myself. So I just went to marry it the child and got me like a little apartment right next to the big chicken roswell roade that I could afford. It was still nice too, but it wasn't because I already knew he was gonna try to control me more than he was already controlling my life. At that point, I can't And I feel like, to me, men who are like that, who can't take criticism from a woman, who don't want a woman that

talks back. It's some men who like aggressive women are assertive. I won't even say aggressive because I'm trying to figure out why people always associate aggressive with masculinity, because I'm assertive, right, I'm all all of a sudden being masculine. No, why would you want some timid to ask woman that says more about the man than it does about the woman

like you. You are probably a simple or probably like a beta male, and so to make yourself feel bigger, you get the small woman, right, You get this woman who can't think for her fucking self and who just let you run circles around her because you can't put up with a woman on your level mentally physically, um, not physically, sorry, I don't want to be not physically but financially sound and financially sound woman because then you

can't control what she's doing. Like that's that's really simping. Saying you want to take care of a women and women rule the world is not simping. Saying you want something timid asked woman, that's something to me? Did you whack at the bottom at the end of the day you at I'm about to start faking like I'm timid so I can get me a nigga. That's what being submissive is all about. It's about manipulation. That's what I'm

about to do. I'm like anything. I don't know, baby, don't you know whatever you may like, I'm gonna start barking and hopping on one foot foot. I'm tired of be it out here about myself a little Damn. I got some friends like that, like they'll transform for a nigger like they have. They have mastered the art of fucking manipulation. Basically, they put on like the super soft voice for the men, and you know they I'm a gonna start start really nice. I'm about to start doing that.

My daddy said that, that's why I ain't got nobody, because in my mouth, that's what my daddy told me on Father's Day. Well, I'm glad your daddy at least has some advice for you. My daddy just was like, be by yourself, baby, being married to somebody for ever hard. That's the honest truth. Though, it's the honest truth that I can respect that too, But that nigga told me to be alone. So fellas, I'm just gonna tell y'all, right,

now here you go, motherfucker. God damn, I'm tired. Ship. Listen, they love telling a black woman they're gonna die alone. First of all, if I get the bag, I could buy anyone of y'all bitch ass niggas. How about that, just like y'all could buy any woman. Once y'all get the bag, what die alone, I'll buy your daddy, nigga, I don't align with the things that a j is saying. All I have to say is on one ft and they got tired. I'll be damning by bark for these niggas. Man,

I gotta ghost it this weekend. I'm I'm vulnerable. Man. The university moved him. Yeah, I mean you know what I'm about to call telling the hallway the psychic. Where is my basketball player? Right? Where is Serge Ibaka when you need him, Serge surgeon Baka. I ready to bark, fee, I'm ready to bark for you, but you gotta put in a really soft ways. Oh my god. But here's the thing. That ship ain't gonna last with me. I

just can't. I can't help myself. I gotta talk. Hey, Like when the nigga says so crazy ship to you, it's just start bubbling up inside your body like like a thermometer. That fucking ran line just started raising up and raising up. Boy, horns come out, and it's even come out. And I was talking before I even know I'm talking. Man. Real men don't want that ship, man. Real men want a good, nice, assertive woman who knows

what she wants. That's what real men want. I don't know what these young guys, these modern modern men are talking about. We need to have them all. We're gonna let's next episode. Let's bring some guys on and tell us what do you want? Like fucking the notebook? What do you want? Do you want me to shut the funk up? I'm writing down. Shut the funk up? Sometimes cook suck thick. Shut the funk up a little bit more like, tell me what you want, yeah, because we

don't know. I can give you four out of the five exactly. We don't know what y'all want. And I don't think theyn't know what they want either. Men don't know what they want because they wake up every day different. They think they're simple, but actually men are more complex than they actually would like to admit. I don't think women are that complex. I'm pretty easy going, I make easy to love me. We are super complex, yeah, but I guess it's in different in different different ways, in

a different way. We're just not alike. Men and women are not alike. And that's just the bottom line. So the sooner we realize, hey, we're different. So I don't want to be a man, and you could never be a woman, whether or not you say you are, you know it could just never happen. So we're just different. So instead of us talking to circle saying what women need to do better and what men need to do better, the bottom line is mutual respects people. That's it mutual respect.

But I just I know I turned crazy on my period, crazy earth because people can tell like that I'm on my period, and I'll be mad when they can tell I'll be saying some old ass and I ship like, no, just going off for no reason. They're like, you are your period, Like damn, I don't pmss. I feel like the men I've been in relationships with period was on Hearder than Mind Nigga be like, good morning Todammy. I'm like, fuck you mean good morning Nick? You don't ask the

goddamn maniac and you're already a cancer. So yeah, it's about to be cancer season. Fry baby, ask cancer season. What y'all sending me for my birthday? It's gonna be an emotional emotion me all your products and I talked about it on the show. Yeah, we do need to get our our segment. Girl, what you're doing, what you're wearing, where you're going segment popping for sure, so we can advertise some nice products from the black community and work

on that. You guys, but send me your ship now because my birthday is on the sixth Team out cancer stand up. I see y'all. Let's all cry together, cry you know the thing that get me about you? Like you want? Look, Tam Bam will tell me all her little toxic traits, right, but for one reason, for some reason, she just feels like it doesn't correlate into friendship. Who's like that? That's how you act? How so you don't fucking listen. I told you that. I told you that.

I told you that already, Ben, you're gonna break up with yours. That's one of my traits. Yeah, but that ship is not just for men. Yeah, that's my relationships. You would only listened to respond, not to comprehend. I said that in the beginning. Okay, yo, I cannot, I cannot, cannot. Somebody please save me. Nope, hold on, before we get into anything else, let's pay some bills real quick. All right, So we do have a dumb bad story for this week, Tam.

So this dumb bad story comes from April. She actually sents us an email. Alright, so it says, Hi, tam M and a J. I love the show. You guys are always so relatable and very much necessary. Girl, I know, right, She's so sweet. Yeah. So this past weekend was Father's Day, right, and the guy I'm currently dating advised me on Friday that his kid's mom planned dinner for him Sunday. He wasn't asking permission, he was really just advising me of

his plans. I understand the importance of children seeing their parents have a healthy relationship, but I don't like that ship, honestly, and I've been in my feelings about it. He called me late in the evening on Sunday and I didn't answer. He's been calling and texting ever since, but I feel a way I really don't like him right now? What should I do? First of all, bitch, don't ghost the nigga, I gotta ghosted this weekend. Don't gohost because you're yelling

the damn Mike Food caved out. Sorry, I'm sorry, I was triggered. I was triggered. You a little stupid. I don't know, Like, communicate how you feel. Don't just ignore somebody that you're really dealing with. That part I don't like. I understand your frustration, but you're going to have to determine how you can coexist with the baby mama if you're gonna deal with someone with kids. Um, do you trust him? That's a question because that's most important. If

you trust him, then what the fund go? Let him have his little salmon? Did it bring his ass home? Right? Um? And then maybe y'all can get to a place where y'all can do it as a group. You know, yeah, Because what I was thinking was what happens if the two then possibly get married and have a kid? Like, is he expecting her to carry on the same little tradition? Is it supposed to be now me, her and all our children? Because she said kids she I'm assuming it's

more than one because it was floral. So what happens? You know? Is it okay for him doing that right now because she doesn't have kids with him? What happens later on if they continue on a relationship. You have to establish all this ship before and determine how you were going to be a blended family because that's what you're gonna be, whether you want to be or not.

I don't think it's cool for her to not answer the phone for him, and if she had an issue, whether she should have, Um, she should have pressed him about it before Sunday, but she probably didn't, you know, feel obviously, I think we need more information from her because does she feel she doesn't have a real ground to stand on? Or is this somebody you've only been

with for six months? You know, if it's a year long relationship and he read it now his Father's day and I'm about to be with my kids and and the mom, why can't I come? Right? You know, why can't I come? Have you met these kids? Right? Got a lot of questions, that's a lot of questions. So because if I were you have kids? Do you have a baby daddy? Like we're here right, I think she would have mentioned if she had kids, because she probably

would have She probably would have seen something exactly. She probably would have said something like, UM, I don't know, I'm gonna be with my baby daddy, so it's cool. I don't know. Maybe she woudn't even have a problem. She had her own baby daddy, so I gonna assume she don't have any kids either. So that ship is territory that comes along with dating a man with children. So if it's a deal breaker for you to start dating men without kids, you know, how would you feel?

You don't want you to your boyfriend to go have dinner with his baby woman and the kids. So here's the thing. I have been in a similar situation like this on multiple occasions. But it wasn't a father's day, was the kid's birthday. So now I'm around these children and when birthdays come up, you and kids mom are having like the birthday parties and I'm not invited. M

I've been in situation twice. Yeah, I didn't push the issue about it, but then you know, my most recent relationship, we talked about it later on and he was like, well, if you were there, why would I invite you. I was like, I literally was at your house when y'all left to go to the birthday party. I don't know what you remember, but that's what I remember. Like, I just didn't you know, I'm not going And that's fine, especially if you haven't introduced me to your children's the

other parents. I'm fine with that. We ain't there yet. My eggs, my eggs um. You know, he would do stuff with the baby mama and the kids, and I didn't feel away because she was ugly, and I was gonna beat her up when I saw her, So it's probably best that I ain't there. Why the funk was you gonna beat her up? Because she kept sucking trying me like she don't think it's because they were so fucking around. No, they wasn't. She was on a whole

another continent. I don't even know how they could suck around. I was. We were living in Europe and she was in New York, so they can't funk around. I don't know how they could. And girl, I see your picture, you as ugly as hey. I'll get your little ugly as no no cause. And the bitch let me not even play like a get and pregnant and impregnated. She

she had said right, she had said some ship. I had went through his phone and she had said some slick shit about me, and he didn't check it in the way that I felt like it needed to be checked. So I went ahead and called her so I could check it. I was polite, I was like, you know, since you're talking about me like you know me, I just felt like maybe I should go ahead and introduce myself probably, And I was like, look, you're not gonna win. Look at me, look at you, So give it up. Stop,

let's just be friends. Don't call my phone anymore, big so your kids can have pretty siblings. No, the kids were actually really cute kids. They were sweet kids. And that's the only reason why I didn't beat up their mama, because I felt like, if I beat up their mama, then they're not gonna like me no more. Well you got to what, tam You ain't the best choice, right all? Yeah, I almost didn't know. And look, we are working progress

every day we try to be better. So April, talk to you man, I you you know, if you really want to be in a relationship with him, have a conversation with him and let him know how you felt about it. And I mean, he seems like he called to you at the end of the night, but you were being childish. You ain't answer the phone for him. If you had had a problem. If you had a problem with it, you should have addressed it on in

front of Friday, Yeah, before he went. But she like she said, it sounded like he was just Hey, I'm going to dinner with my kids and my baby mama on Sunday wasn't the option or an entry point for her to object. So still say how you feel. Always, always see how you feel. Listen. I can't sleep at night unless I um let the mother know how I feel. I know. That's why I'm mad at that niggative ghost to me this weekend. You can always tell him, should

text it. No, I ain't saying nothing else. Fuck him, yeah, fuck him. If you're listening, fuck you. I ain't like you like that, no way. If I'm talking about it, I'm hurt. Oh well man, that's because the psychic said every time I get my feelings hurt, I just go back to that psychic episode and I listened to what he said, It's gonna happen in my life. I'm like, I ain't supposed to care about this ship because the psychic said, I ain't supposed to be with you anyway. Nigger.

You a't even one. You ain't neo nigga, You ain't surgeon bakah. But what's the girl named angel? April? April? April? We're sorry that you was because I know your feelings hurt. You were sitting there, what you what you eight? You probably had you a slice of pizza on Sunday, your motherfucking little Pepperdi Pizza with Tears Season with Tears al you mean bit, You know she probably already hurt feelings

and you're talking crazy like that. She's gonna be laughing. Yeah, we're gonna laugh at our pain if you can't if if we're gonna sit here and laugh at my pain, bitch, we laughing at George to April. All right, y'all. So if you enjoyed this episode, as always, check us out every Thursday on the I Heart Radio app or wherever

the fun you get your podcasts at. And I would also reiterate make sure you guys are checking out black Effect dot com um to check out all the different shows that Black Effect Network has lined up for you guys. You got all genres. Oh you know what I want to add. It's a movie about to come out. It's a Disney movie and it's called Summer of Soul. Y'all really need to check it out. It's about when Woodstock happened.

There was a Black Big Black festival and they recorded it and the footage has never been released until now. So it's about to come out. Y'all need to check it out need a simone. I mean, it's just so black, so beautiful summer soul. It's gonna be on Disney, so y'all look out for that. And the other thing I want to say is, um A J said it last week,

We're gonna say it again this week. If y'all know how to use Premiere, if y'all know how to use these fucking platforms that are good for a video, we want to show y'all us a little bit more, and we need help. We're getting fined. We've been working out, yea, it was. It was kind of fat when we did really idiots. We're not that fat nowhere, and we want y'all to see. Hey, but it's always fun, y'all. Let's

not forget that, tim It's still funk, y'all. But and then and look, and that fat bitch is gonna always be inside me, bitch. It can come out at any time, So get dumped. I'm official tam Bam on Instagram. Y'all follow me, y'all want to send me something for my birthday? D m me. I'm accepbling all gifts and cash ups. I know, right, Yeah, I f all of us that we talked Back podcast on Instagram. And this is a

j holiday to point Oh, Oh that sounds sexy. Touch your tedious, say it again to point Oh, I'm wet. I'm wet now, Now you owe money I got I'm gonna cash you after two dollars, two dollars spot Bye y'all, Bye,