Ep 21. " What the Hell Are Modern Woman?"

Do you know that Mayweather gets fifty of pay per view sales or Logan only gets ten? Damn? And I think the white boy has uh two hundred fifty thousand guaranteed and Mayweather five million guaranteed two hundred two. I don't know who negotiated his contract, but he already lost the fighters as far as I'm so maywere that I here really beating people up for the check, right, But no matter what happens, he already won exactly. But you know, like we're talking about boxing, like you can win a

hundred fights, but that one fights you lose. Boy, you. I'm gonna never let you forget it like Lebron right now, you know what. They need to leave Lebron the funk alone. God damn, they can't stand to see somebody like you're not gonna win them all. Like people can't stand to see he's not the underdog for sure. But like when you're on top, it's like people be waiting for you to fall, Like, yes, that nigga foully lose. He's mediocre like me. Yes, people literally don't be um satisfied until

you back where he at. He never right back what they had. But you know he's on a losing team right now, right shame. We still love you, Lebron. You to go. Hell yeah, and look, i'd be telling people Lebron James is my cousin because he got the same last name, and like everything on my daddy side of the family tallest. Hell, even the women be like six one six. Your family just had the same slave owner. That's all why the slave owner couldn't have been a

black man last same James. It's black. Yeah, it's a non fact that black people's own slaves, for sure. But speaking of slavery, oh, let's get into the today messed up, you guys. I'm sorry that we're talking about slavery. Speaking of slavery. Before we get into it today's topic, let's um go to and ask a black friend for this week. Yea. You know, I had um some criticism from one of my friends saying that we're not going to get a lot of questions from white people because we mean in

our responses to them. Really are we? I don't feel I don't feel like we're me. We've only had a couple we only we've only had a couple of people submit questions that I remember. I believe out of the couple, two of them were pretty much the same thing. How do you deal with um, white guilt, white guilt, white guilt, and you know, people saying that they don't have white privilege, Like, how do you deal with having white privilege? That's not

something I can really answer for a white person. So we've had probably just a few questions, maybe five or so. I don't know how we could have been any now, you sir. I don't think we were mean at all, but mm hmmm, that's how they feel. Hey, look y'all need to stop being stuff goddamn sensitive isn't that what um? Narcissists usually people? You're too sensitive. I'm not working with your head. You're just too sensitive. Al right. So today's

UM ask a black friend comes via email. The person would like to remain anonymous, so we're not saying any names or emails, all that good stuff. UM So here it goes. It says, one of my black friends noticeably uses the term cracker. We're referring to white people. It's not super excessive, but enough to make me right until we talk back. I have never challenged him about it, but since I would never call him the N word, I just wish she would refrain from using the term

because it may refer to me. Do you believe that black people truly can't be racist? Is reverse racism a thing? This is a good one, tim, m hm, this is a great one. UM. I don't know if I believe in reverse racism because I think of racism UM is a way to oppress others. And I don't feel like this person can oppress you or keep you from having anything by calling you a cracker. It just probably just

hurt your feelings. Most most importantly, I don't know if maybe it's a form of prejudice, not reverse racism for me, but I mean, if that's your friend, just tell her you don't like it. It's a guy, oh yeah, oh well tell him you don't like it, Like Yo, stop saying cracking around me, bro, exactly because the life person was saying the N word a lot. You know, they would get checked about it a lot once exactly, like if they grew up in the hood, like who why

are you using the word nigga? Like right, So just check them on it, Like if you don't like that anything that anybody is doing that is especially your friend or even not your friend, that you don't like in your presence, it's sore to address it absolutely and again, like what Tam was saying about, um, black people not being able to be racist, I believe it is prejudice. And I believe all groups of people have some type

of prejudice. Um beliefs um that could be coming from real places, like you know, even with stereotypes, they come from real places, right, So I believe I really do love chicken and watermelon. I love that ship. It's not a not a joke. I love that ship. This is why the watermelon costs so much. Why is watermelon eight dollars for a small wa watermelon that don't even have season? Exactly y'all selling GM a watermelon for eight dollars. Let's

get back on track. The fuck literally was just in Walmart. I do not want a seedless watermelon for eight dollars. Who y'all playing with? I was trying to find me a watermelon just so I could put mustard on it like Lizo did over the weekend. What it tastes like? Yeah, me too. There's a trend about putting mustard on your watermelon, and I wanted to taste it to see what was going on. And when I saw the price of watermelon, I was like, I'm not paying that for that fake watermelon. Yeah,

you gotta go to a farmer's market. Yeah, but um yeah, back to our ask a black friend, Like, black people are not at this point, We are not in a position to put laws and bills and things like that in place to systemically oppress the white people. So really, if we use the word cracker, it's literally us just talking ship. We can't we we it has no merit

behind it because we can't do ship. We can't exactly, we can't do anything we can't do anything to really affect you're getting a job, getting housing, getting food, uh, taking care of your family. We can't. So I understand his sentiment absolutely, and yes he should address it like you should not. If you feel uncomfortable, you know you should address it. But in the South, a cracker usually is a redneck for real, for real, you know what

I'm saying, which they can. They are damn their equivalent to any nigger out the projects because they're just as ghetto, because it's all a state of mine. Um. The way they act, you know, the way they dress, the things they do. The culture of a cracker is different from a regular traditional white person as far as I'm concerned. Yeah, so I don't feel like that. Sometimes I use the term cracker when I'm talking about a cracker, though, you know what, I'm saying that I got white friends like

they like to say, I got black friends. I wouldn't call my white friends a cracker because they just aren't crackers, right, I want to say, And that's a cracker ass cracker, I don't just use one. I'm sorry, we are we offending you. I apologize, and we probably should not talking about you though we should probably apologize in advanced First of all, yeah, but we listen, we're sorry for your friends.

You should talk to that person and tell them not to say that in your presence because it makes you uncomfortable. And you probably aren't a cracker because if you listen, I don't feel like crackers listen to our show. But if you do, please keep tuning in. You appreciate you. Yeah, let's look at the historical term, the historical meaning of cracker, right, you know, the government, it's probably made up of some crackers because they stay whopping us right on our ends exactly.

So that's where the turn cracker even comes from in the first place. So listen, it's not a salt team. Check your friend. Check your friend. If that's really your friend, they'll understand. But I really don't think that they're talking to you personally. I know you may feel that way because you might have some crackers in your family, m but I promise it's no malice behind it, especially if you consider this person a friend. So yeah, that's just that on that. So the crazy part is we would

not give the same exact advice flipped. If the conversation was flipped totally different exactly because they are in more of a position to really affect what we do on a day to day basis and how we live our lives as a body of people. Like maybe that one white person has no bearing on the black person's life, you know, just between the two of them, but as a body of people, y'all do. And that's why you can't just be going around saying that in words. Right,

we'll fight and we'll fight you about it too. It's probably not good. You know. Black people are really like some uh, black people embody like a lot of empathy, and that's how we that's why we're in a position we are now because we just naturally like kind even though we're really nasty to each other, we're naturally like kind. So like that word could get your ass what before anything else, right, because it comes from a place of

painness embedded in our spirits. Yeah, like nigga, excuse me before you even though it and the most kindest, nicest person that don't even bother anybody mussed around and beat the dogs out of you. Hold on, before we get into anything else, Let's pay some bills real quick. Let's get into a topic today. It has nothing to do with you know what, it really doesn't have anything to do with slavery. But we are living in a different time, right,

So that's why I was talking. That's why I said, speaking of slavery, but maybe hold on a little bit and make it may have something to do with slavery a little bit. We want to talk about this term modern woman, um, as opposed to a traditional woman. There's a lot of talk right now in the Black community in regards to modern women. Are mordern women? Finish? Um, ain't nobody fucking with modern women? What exactly is a

modern woman? Like? What are y'all nigg is talking about? Actually, last week we had three really really really successful Black women on one of them is engaged to be married. I guess we would consider them modern women. You know, they're able to finance their entire lives without a man. So really a man is a necessity. How women have always been a necessity to men, you know. So now

we're more in a position to have more of a voice. Uh, we're making more money, we're getting more educated, um, and now we're considered like this modern woman as if it's a negative thing. I'd like to think of myself as a like a hybrid kind of we do want to maintain that independence, but I also still exactly and I still want to be treated like a damn lady. I

still want to be treated like a woman. I still want you to sit facing the door so you could see who walking up behind me, like my nigga, like that used to be your own guard. Argument Because I'm sitting, I like to watch you coming in, right, But he's like, you want to get up and fight first or what, So sit here, okay, So going forward, I know that my back is facing the door, so he could see who coming in the door. So that's Those are just some of the things. Um I've seen some ship on Clubhouse.

A bitch was arguing with a guy because he literally broke up with her because he wanted to sleep. They were out of town at a hotel and she wanted to sleep on the side of the bed closest to the door. And this is it just came up to be like two things that are true at the same time.

So she was single but in a relationship with this guy, but she had children, so she slept closest to the door so that she could be basically on call for her kids, right, but now and they're together in the hotel and he was saying how he was telling her to sleep on the other side. He's going to sleep by the door for you know, because that's an innate thing that some may have. Yeah, the protector right right, And she argued him down about this. They broke up

over it. They broke up over and sleeping on the side of the band. And who's patty though? Is the woman patty or the guy the woman? Because based on this term modern woman capable, she's incapable of being protected basically, mm hmmm, basically, but at the rise of the modern woman. Do we feel like it correlates with the decline of

marriage in our community? I'm looking here and it says in two thousand nineteen only thirty percent of African Americans were married, compared to forty eight percent of all Americans. So do we think that in our community with us to be more educated and having more money is ruining are a black family unit even more? It's very well possible.

And you know a lot of women may not see see it that way, but I believe it's very well possible because you look at things that that have been done to the black community to deter us from the success that we know we are destined for. Right. So, um, you know I told you all I was writing a book before. So in the very first like the introduction of my book, I talked about the history of black marriage. So before nineteen sixty the majority of black people, and

I don't want to use the term African American. I'll tell you about that in a minute. But before nineteen sixty five, the majority of black people in America over the age of thirty were married. We're more married, you know,

in comparison to the white to their white counterparts. But something happened, like different things happened, like you had to warn drugs, the civil rights movement, redline, all these different things happened, and especially the War on drugs, right, um, which caused a lot of black men to be incarcerated for petty ship in comparison to black I mean sorry, in comparison to white men. So it kind of ripped apart the black family dynamics. Um, they took the men

and then they gave women. They gave black women, you know, public house and government assistance. So now and then you also can't have the black man in the home when you're on public housing. Right, So it's like the government is now your daddy, the government is now your husband. Black men can't get a job, so then black men can't take care of their families. And people are using that now as if it's an excuse for some black men, Like some black men are using that as an excuse

to not show up for their families. Um, but it's really not an excuse. Like even an educated black woman, you and that black man could possibly have the same degree. I feel that the black woman could possibly get that job before the black man would. So they're intentionally and it's still a form of white supremacy there somewhearing their

hidden right that's still turning us against each other. Right, because it also says, uh, in two thousand nineteen, just under half or forty eight percent of black women have never been married. Forty eight percent of us have never been married, and that's up from forty four percent in two thousand and eight and up from it's two thousand and five. So the number of us not getting married married is just going up and up and up. Yeah, because I remember at my high school, Sorry, what were

you gonna say? Tom? But then the money we're making is going up and up and up. Two. Yeah, but what do we want a husband our money? Right? That's why I said I'm a hybrid, Like I want both, Like I want a man who's not that insecure to not give a ship about this money, because guess what, I'm giving it to you. I'm gonna give you the money like I'm not. First of all, I'm not messing

with somebody who is mentally broke. There's a difference. There's a difference between a man who's you know, living paycheck to paycheck like a lot of people do, and then just somebody who's out here not trying. If you are mentally broke, I can't funk with you. That has nothing to do with how much money you have in the bank account. That just has That has everything to do with you know, what you want out of life? No ambition,

no goals, no nothing that's different. So should if I get to the bag first here, because I know you'll multiply the same way. If a man gives a educated woman something, she's gonna double it. Right, You give her a home, she give her a house, she make it her home. Yes, So I would give him the bag if I got to it first, I wouldn't be that concerned about And I'm not messing with somebody who has nothing now, because here's my question for men. Oftentimes, do

y'all funk with broke niggas? Yeah? Do they? Well, they go into business with a broken nigga, Well, they go into business with somebody who because the marriage is a business, what you're going to somebody that does not have the proper business plan? No, that doesn't have the proper um financial standing, that does not have any history of being successful at any fucking thing. No, So why are y'all expecting that out of women? It's the same thing. Men

love men with money too. What is the problem? Right, bigimie, big dog, big brow in this guy? What are you talking about? So? Yeah, y'all want men with money too, So what's the problem like? And it doesn't necessarily like the man doesn't necessarily have to have the money today, but you have to always be working towards it. I feel that, Um, if you are with a woman who is not at least worthy of you aspiring to one day take care of your complete family, then leave her.

Leave her today if she's not worth it. That's the bottom line exactly, leave, get up right now and going there and be like, hey, Kea, just say working, I'm about to go and walk out that motherfucker. Yeah, leave her if she ain't worthy. Are y'all nigg is waiting for your sons to grow up to take care of a mama? Is that what y'are waiting for? Because I know half these men were raised by single black women right,

never saw a man take care of their mom. So they their whole lives, they've they've been striving to get to a certain point so that they can take care of their mama because they never saw a man do it. Right, Are you saying that you are making the woman that's in your life wait for her son to then get older to take care of her, Because that's what it sounds like to me. It's a it's a hamster wheel. It's just over and over and over again, same, over

and over and over again. What can we do about it? Though? How can we create a paradigm shift that will we can have equality or send my equality in our relationship and still get married and be happy with one another? What the fund can we do? That's the question? What can we do? What can we do um. I think are we better off when we were in the kitchen? So here's the thing home. What with the pandemic, it forced a lot of people to be at home. It

forced a lot of people to teach their children. It forced a lot of people to be more tentative to their household, right, and it forced people to see who they're actually married to, and who they are actually in relationships with, and who the funk they are themselves. So a lot of people, from a lot of people I know, didn't a lot of children to go back to school. They're better off being home schooled. Like I think children need to go to school more so for like the

social aspect of it, right, proper secialization. Yes, But as far as the teaching, I feel like parents should be responsible for the curriculum that the children are getting, not some fifty old, sixty ye old white woman at the schoolhouse. You don't know what they're teaching your kids. You know what.

I don't mind a fifties sixty year old white woman teaching their kids, but I just feel like the parents need to also teach their children the things that they is not solely the response exactly of the teacher to to rear these kids. It's our responsibility, especially the things that apply to our culture and things like that that they're not receiving in school. We have to give it

to them ourselves. I remember I used to make my ex boyfriend's daughter, like six daughters sit down and watch different documentaries and watch like Black Girls Rock and write a report on it. And they were really little, so, I mean, the reports wasn't going to be like but I would make them do it, and I would have to pay them though that would have to like the reward would be like money. But that was okay for me because I knew some of that information. They would

eventually start to retain it. Yeah, yeah, even though they were just doing it for the money. So you know. So that's why I said I'm a hybrid, Like I definitely believe that I should be teaching my children. I believe I should be breastfeeding. I really wan't like when I have a child, I would like to make their food preservatives and you know, not feeding the bullshoot at the store. I believe the woman is responsible for the

nourishment of the family. I have a lot of traditional values values, but at the same time, I do not want to be in a situation where the man isn't respecting me. So men, it has to come with I think that's what the and that's the hard part actually a j because sometimes I remember, like so both of us have like seven values and we're traditional in those types of ways. Because yeah, and I take place to the table. I love it. I love That's one of

the things that make me happy. Like I'll literally make a good meal and I'll stand there after I hang your player, I want you to tell me and tastes good. Like that's one of the things that make me happy outside of family and money and ship like that. Yeah, being a nurturer to man and eight my boyfriend, my ex, we'll get to the point where on Sundays he'll be

watching football all day. That was his thing. That's cool whatever, But he will hold his beer bottle in the air and be like bag and just hold the beer bottle in the air. And they spent me to come get it and replenish it and take the old one to the trash. And that ship used to piss me off because he started to treat me like a servant. Mh, Like he don't even ask no more, were you working at the time, Yeah, I was working. And see that's

the thing. Now let this, let me break this down for for you guys, and why what's the problem you have with modern women? Here's the thing. You want to them in to go to work for someone else, and then you want her to come to come home, work for you, work for the children, work for the house as a whole, and suck dick on demand, all while you just maybe cut grass and then you go out

to your job and work for the white man. Or if you want to run a business like that's all you have, that's all you're responsible for, and I'm responsible for everything else. If I got to be the homemaker and also work, I feel like the homemaker responsibility should be split between us and I'll and I'll do the brunt of it. But don't hold your fucking beer bottle in the sky to shake it in the air and call my name like I'm so fucking made girl. You

see like you need some therapy about that trump there. Yes, I almost took one of them bottles and cracking over his boyfucker head babe shaking the glass in the sky. Girl, I want to karate kick that shut of his that was That was my fault because I got him so spoiled, which just you know, just doing everything in that capacity for him where he just got to the point where he just felt like he could just scratch his nuts on the couch, nuts on the couch and hold the

bottom there. That's why I fixed the fixed the fixes respect. Black women and black women need to equally have respect for one another, and that'll fix everything. We don't respect each other, how it is easy to respect. Listen to the music that these children all right, First of all, we had the kids are the future, right, Um, so are we the music that we're they're feeding them? Are we teaching them to respect each other? Hell no, But there's nothing in our music that is aligned with us

respecting each other as a unit. But that starts with us as black women. You know, did you know that black women are the number one is consumed, number one consumers of music. We are the ones spending money aside from white people, We're the ones spending money on this music. We get all of TikTok videos going on, these nigga songs, all of ship. So one may say that a nation is only as strong as the women. So we're allowing this ship. We set the standards and we're not working

with the music. Niggas is not making money off this bullshit. No more Future cannot have a new album come out telling people to go Papa Molly and all this bullshit, which I feel like he's changed a little bit. But yeah, we we shouldn't allow that ship our community. That's up to us, right, But it's so conflicted in my soul because I enjoy it. Yeah, I mean too. But the thing is is that we're adults, right, We have the we we have the amount the brain power to differentiate

between real and what's entertainment. You see what I'm saying. These kids don't, so when they're in the car, like little Dirk brother just got murdered, right, Yeah, so the men that probably murdered her and were on drugs hopping in the car listening to some fucking rap music on the way to commit a fucking vicious ass crime, like

they shot him in the head and he died on impact. Like, we have to be careful of the things that we listen to, the thoughts that we have because it's really programming. That could be a whole another topic for a whole another day. Is rap music detrimental to the Black community, and it's it absolutely is. You know, we actually fought for this in legislation, like freedom of speech and all that ship to be able to talk this crazy and

fucking music. Like people don't realize, like black people. You see how we start moving when music starts playing, and how we moved to the beat. And you know, it's funny how when white people moved they can't get rhythm. Is certain type of white people that can. It's a real thing with vibration. I even think about, like with the radio stations and how most black stations are on like a nine to like a thousand and one frequency. It could be a reason that they put our stations

are our radio. Black black stations and black music are certain radio frequencies because those frequencies really feed your your ship, your body. So if you're listening to all this crazy ass talk on a certain frequency, it really can affect you mentally. And if you're a young impressionable adult, young impressionable child, how do you different? And then you're living in the hood, you know what I'm saying, living amongst this stuff, you don't even know that there's a way out.

You don't even know that there's a possibility that you, like you can change the trajectory, that you can change the trajectory of your life. But this is all your surrounded by, it's responsibility. So if there's going to be some change, unfortunately, it really lies heavily on women. It definitely lies on man men too, because it's just too easy for men to now leave their homes. It's still easy for you to have a baby and then not

take care of that kid. And I don't know if that's stemming from slavery too, because they you know, they really was just literally breeding us, moving people from plantation and plantation, so you had no choice but to leave your family. So now it's like we are voluntarily splitting up, voluntarily leaving your children, acting like they don't even exist, like that's something we can't help. Black men gotta change

that bullshit. But for the most part, black men are with black women, black women are Black women are with black men. As far as people not taking care of their responsibilities, I feel like more black men need to talk to more Black men who are doing well and doing right by their community and by their families need to then go out and have conferences, have brunches, have hunches like black women do to congregate and communicate and

talk about all our issues. But I think they do do that a j what like maybe fraternities they do it a lot. But I mean, the average black man is not even telling his friends what he's going through. Yeah, you're right about and not talking to people about their problems. And you know what else, I feel like black men should start doing more. They should start taking care of each other as far as the health is concern. Like these niggas will see the nigga killing themselves and be

like he grown. There's a grown man, Like especially once you start getting closer to forty, Like you see that your friend is unhealthy, and you don't say anything about him, how he's eating, how he drinking. He needs to go to the doctor and go see a doctor, bro, Like you're not doing enough. And then y'all dying and wearing a T shirt with a nigga face on it and he was right there and never said nothing to him about his health. Yeah, black men just don't talk enough.

So that's what I would like that. I think that's another way to combat what's going on in the black community. Black men need to talk to each other more y'all writing books telling women how to think like a man and act like a woman, Like, what the funk? Why don't y'all tell niggas how to be men first, and make sure your homeboy isn't sucking up in love, life and business. Check him, check him, check on him. Talk to each other, congregate. Tell you, tell your friends you

know what's going on with you? What you got a problem with Black men just be having so much pride when they all got shipped. Sometimes you don't got ship and you got and you got a side ego come before the fall or some ship like that, like that ego cometh before the fall. Yeah, yeah, it's the ego, man, you gotta I don't have ego when it comes to the people I love. I try. I strive not to let my ego get the best of me. I feel like in order to be successful, you do have to

have some ego. Ego. You have to have a little bit of narcissum as well, narcissism. Narcissism, you have to have a little bit of narcissism, a little bit of ego to get through this goddamn life, and a lot of humility though, yes, absolutely so those I don't know. This is a great conversation though. We don't want me a husband though, and I just feel like my mouth

is gonna hinder me sometimes. I don't think so, because you've told me some stories and I'd be like, that's all you're saying, did you like, in comparison to me, that's all you said that I would have said this, I maybe like in comparison to you, but in comparison to people with husbands, we both talked too much. My nigga skin gotta be this thick. My skin thick. You know what I'm saying, Like, I feel like not mine? You ready to cry? I'd be like, that's why they

ain't even your baby. I mean, he'd be like, that's not your hair. How could you say that? Look, if nigga want to win an argument with me, I don't care. If I got a million dollars in the bank you called me fat, you win. As soon as you call me fat, you fucking wind And I might hate you this. I don't be trying to go there with niggas. I already learned my lesson about putting my hands on men because I used to be a domestic violent, domestically violent woman.

But I had one nigga, get me together. You got me right on together your life. As I slid down the wall, I was like, you know what, it was like a cartoon character, you know when they hit the wall hardness, slide down. That's how I felt like. I was cooling down that wall, and I was like, you know what, I really should keep my hands to myself. Then I didn't hit nobody, since exactly nigga saved your life. You hit the wrong man, right, Modern women, I hope

you all not here beating niggas out right. Keep your hands to yourself. Modern women and don't always been well for you. Right, So I'm a hybrid. I'm traditional and I'm modern at the same time. Can you can we

be that? Yes? I believe you can be that. Like you know, um one of the ladies from last week, she was saying, like the husband, he'd have to be okay with outsourcing, like outsourcing the meals and stuff like that, like when you got a certain type of certain type of money, like we can get somebody to clean the house, we could get somebody to make food. But I definitely want to be in a loving relationship with a man. Like people say marriage don't have nothing to do with love,

Are you kidding me? I guess they may be thinking about like how people have arranged marriages, which even then they grow to love the person they're with. It has to be a certain level of of um love and respect in a union, or my Funcker's would just be killing each other. That they'll just be killing each other ship not as much as they don't kill each other. Will get their asks and mirked right quick. Quite woman,

But we ain't just out here killing men. Within the last couple of years, I know at least three women who have been murdered or at least like shot up by a man that was supposed to love him. Yes, but they just wanted to possess them. I guess that's another thing with me, Like I'm not trying to possess anybody. I want to exist and I want to experience people. I don't want to possess anybody to I feel like

you belong to me, Yeah, like you're a thing. And I feel like some men they see women as things. Like I said, it's an asset to what they already have going on in their lives. So if you have a man who is a provider, when he brings a woman on, it's more like, because I want that woman. I want her. I'm not bringing her into my situation because I needed her to pay half the bills. Is because I want her hair, So I'm gonna make sure I finance her whole life. Like you've got these broadcast

niggas out here. Sorry, y'all get sicket a little bit before we're in this discussion. You know, you gotta add that in there. They want to talk about not caring about a woman's degrees, not caring about how much a woman makes. Half y'all men half to half the men in the black community on child support. You definitely care about how much woman, how much money the woman that you're worth is making. A lot of them need help,

just like black women need help. The problem is that black men and black women are all we're all in their trenches in America. We don't come from families out you know, super affluent families, you know, um generations and generations of money. We don't come from that. But if we expect to build generational wealth in the United States, we gotta work together. That's just it. That's the only way we gotta work to. Are we going to I'm going to, I'm violent, I'm going to. I want to.

But as a community, I was on the Shade room yesterday, and did you see those kids in Chicago on top of the police cards working and the police trying to drive, and they just it's kids. It's kids being raised secondhand embarrassment watching that, yes, as kids being raised by the unraised. So grandmas are like our age now in their thirties because they had their kids at fifteen. It's just it's just messy out here, man. And um, there's black people

and then there's niggas. There's people, and there's I love all of us because I mean, not just to laugh at them, but everybody is necessary. You have that like like Charlemagne always saying you have to have the righteous and the ratchet, like it has to go together in that way. And I still feel like I'm a hybrid of that. Look at this fucking show, like we two educated women, we'll be talking all crazy like we it's either we could be either one way or the other

and both spontaneously exactly exactly. And it's fun. The fun because I can go listen you can take me everywhere from the trap house to the White House, and I'll be able to conduct my exactly. And it's a whole skill. It's a whole skill. So look, before we move on to the next segment, let's have a word from our sponsors. Yeah, so we talked back and just I'll talk about these niggas. Man. I I firmly agree that the funds of the responsibility it kind of lies on the black woman. Man. We

set the standards. We set the standards for the world. We set the beauty standard at this point, now we set the standard for these men. Stop sucking. But here's the thing, all right, it's my and that not a change everything if women stopped. But you know that's not gonna I'm trying to fun. After we hang up, it's her birthday. Sex I had sexident. Oh y'all, y'all go to a J's page and wish her happy birthday. It's her birthday, she's turned it's plus a few thirty something.

I'm all right. So the music I kind of do, not the lyrics that just feel the beat. At this point I don't even like because some of the words are just kind of just so you listen to the rap music and you can hear the words and it's like, oh, this is so degrading to my soul and spirit. However, the drums and the rhythm makes me want to dance.

I usually listen to that ship when I'm on a long trip, where really I listen to R B R B R B. I listen to UM, R and B when I'm driving now in the gym, straight trap, shit, little baby, dub baby future, everybody, everybody, I'm listening to that ship. But um, but we live in a society right now where is pay to play. That's what these girls are like. I don't know. Young girls are like just it's money for pussy and that's that's it. Okay, But listen, if the man don't have the money, you're

not giving out the pussy. Imagine when we were growing up, bitches just just fucking, just fucking for what reason. Don't you think these girls probably having less sex than us. I don't know, forty dollars, it's a lot of forty dollars out here. Listen, these girls are in high school with Gucci bags and Louis bags. I don't know the parents buying it or the fucking nigga's body. I don't know who purchasing it, but I feel like they are

very high meetenings. Okay, I don't feel like they're busting it wide open just because maybe I could be wrong. I don't know. I believe these I look on Instagram and I don't know. I believe they are just because I feel like men feel like you owed them sex faster than when we were young. No niggas be three days and then one day they could be like ready to get some pussy. And you had that happening here recently. Yeah,

like what, I didn't even bring my pussy. I don't bring my pussy this early, leaving at home exactly a matter of fact, I ran out of pussy, got it. I had a guy that I was talking to and we just weren't equally yoked, I'll say that. And he said he had sent me some money. I was in another city and I was told I was about to go shopping. So he's at me some money, right, He sent me a text message asking me for that money back because I ain't never sleep with him. What when

did he asks for it back in the text? Months later? Oh that's some bullshit, that's your money at this point. So basically, you're asking me to borrow some money and get out of my face. I'm not for sale for one. If you do anything for me, doing out the goodness of your heart, okay, because that's how I operate. I do things out of the goodness of my heart. And I didn't like I've I offered to do nice things for him too. It wasn't like he just I was

just a taker and he wasn't you know. Yeah, man, I didn't give it real gold Digg is tricked first. I buy you a little trinket, and I just seen him a bunch of laughing faces and said, no, no, I'm not sending you nothing back that money but spent when I was in New York out of here, Shane. Am I wrong for that? No? Hell no. I wouldn't never sent him no money back. You sent me that money as a gift, funk, I look like sending it

back two months later? The hell that's because so if you had slept with him, you wouldn't been able to get your pussy back, right. That's why you just gotta keep your rejoinal to yourself. Yeah, man, we need to stop working as much man, and I bet you, I bet you everything. That's that's like the movie shy Town. That's and that actually is based off of true true events. You know, when all the women stopped having sex shy Town,

shy rack, sorry Shyra. Yeah, the movie sh Iraq. It was like the women's started sustaining from sex to fix the community, to stop all the violence and ship Like that's a real I really feel like that maybe we could do that again. How could we do that? What

will we call the movement? We just I mean, we're just gonna have to beat some bitches up though, because they're just gonna want to stow smash these ning is on the low, Like if everybody just stopped working for a little while and of the enforced men to step it up. You cannot get no pussy if you don't have a headboard on your bed, if you don't have nice pillows on your bed, if you have a comforter, if you don't have a bad set, if you don't have a car, if you don't have a job or

something form of income, you can't get a pussy. That's your sin. You shouldn't be able to. I don't even think you should be really focusing on pussy if you don't have a headboard yet. So the headboard. You can get a headboard on Wayfair for like a hundred fifty dollars. They got headboard. Girl. I had this nigga one time, went to his house, went upstairs, blow up, mattress, went back downstairs, right, Mattress, And I explained in this bouncy house,

I told him why he couldn't get this pussy. A couple of months later, I get a fucking picture message. He got a nice little bad set. He wanted me to see that he got a bad set. I great life exactly. We gotta be honest with these dudes. Man, No, this isn't this, ain't it. I'm pretty sure somebody allowed you to fund them on this block, Mattress, But I can swer it is. Your house being renovated is something while you're on there? What? What's what's going on? But

you are a single man living alone with a blowout Mattress. No, how does your back even feel? Okay? Right? A lor So we gotta go into our next segment, which is random sex facts and love is six. Yes, what are we talking about? All right? So today's random sex fact and it's really not random. It closely aligns with what today's topic was. It says love makes for better sex. A recent study presented at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association found that the most mind blowing sex

comes with being in love with your partner. And it's true. It is true because you will have said, let's say your man has he's not very well in doubt, but you in love with him. That little dick be hitting good. He's like that little dick. But when you fall out of love with him, like this a little dick fuck, you know, little last dick. You can't him, you know, you know this sucked, this slurp on that little blunt right that love you as fake choking on it the

stroke his ego. No damn well, I should ain't hitting on nothing. And there you fall out of love, right boy, oh boy, because look, women minds leave before that person be it. Do be hitting though, because you in love in your mind mine has told you like, oh, this is the most special little miniature dick I've ever had in my life, and I wanted forever until you don't. So for people say that you don't have to be in love to be in a marriage. Like marriage is

not about love, it most definitely is in sex. It's it's I mean, you may not be in love with the people you fucking, but unless you're a car hopper, in order to really enjoy it, you have to have some type of feelings for the person you're having sex with. No right, Yeah, exactly, unless you funk for a living. And that's how you get your paper right, And then there's that part. I enjoyed this conversation today, me too.

We need to have more of these, uh semi intellectual conversations because I know people just think we're super ratchet and just be cussing and saying niggers and bitches and holes and dick and pussy like all those like those words cock suck your cock, like that cock dick with black people, black women, Let me see that dick. Send me a cock shot. Now, I do say that cell

phone save lives. Bit a cock shot will save you. Okay, you might like a nigger and he's seeing that little dick like listen, I don't even go get to the point of loving this little dick that See that's mean Because one if a guy was like, see me your pussy and you're sitting that Roastby sandwiches and they'd be like, I'll eat that Arby's bitch. Your feelings hurt. I wish people would stop talking about coochie and dick with the coochies.

You haven't seen those pictures on Instagram. It's like different coochies and how they're shape and ship like. People are born that way. It's not like cheese ran through some people. Labia Libya or whatever. Labia is hanging out like that's just how their vagina is. Like, why are y'all associating that with somebody who's extra promiscuous and who that had a lot of sex men just on no ship, even

with Brad. It's genetics, you know what I'm saying. Everybody, I'm not gonna have like the super you know, firm sitting up right breast like the fund is wrong with your Everybody ain't gonna have a big dick. We're talking about them. What about a skinny dick with a big head? You like, those are like a soldier. He's like a soldier helmet. Yes, mushroom like a mushroom head pencil dick with the mushroom I like, um, you know, I don't mind it because the head has got the girth, but

I prefer girth the shaft all the way around. Yeah, m hmmm, warts my spirit. All right, y'all. If you guys enjoyed this episode, please tune in to us every Thursday UM on the I Heart Radio app or wherever you get your podcasts at that's and yeah, keep sitting in those dumb bit stories, keep sitting in those sympons. You can follow me on Instagram at official tam bam follow a j at aj holiday two point oh. All right, we all y'all. Bye,