#Ask A Black Friend

predominantly black. Anyone can jump in at any time, and I do, but I feel self conscious, like am I invading this space which signifies so much more for black culture than my own? Or if I'm in a bar scene and it's clearly mostly black people, but I would like to check it out. What's the best rapport? What are things to think about slash consider when joining in on the festivities if I should be joining them at all?

You ladies rock and you've brought me such helpful info and great laughter as a single lady trying to make it in this crazy, crazy world. And I did thank you for her question, UM, and I didn't ask her a question. Also, um, because my thing is black people we are usually like pretty inviting, and it's a problem that is one of our problems because we are so inviting and inclusive, we want to make sure everybody feels welcome.

I think the problem she feels is more of an insecurity on her end that no black person can assist with. I can't make you feel any more comfortable than I'm already making you feel. To be like, you here, you already here. Now, you gotta read the room. In my you read the room because we are environment but not always. You know, there are terms where you might be the odd man out and people looking at you like what

the fuck you know? So you just gotta read. Read the room, read the environment, and you know you can feel the energy if you're welcome or not. It's the same thing with black people going into these are whites only pies, you know, like, you gotta read the room. You need to look. And we ain't about to stick around and try to make y'all like us either. We're gonna do it our face, write the funk up out

of there. But white people are punkerers, Okay. They just start and they teach their children from young that y'all running this ship. I can go any place y'all want to go. And that's how didn't show up in the world. Right. But black people, we know we ain't staying someplace we didn't want it. If I walk into a restaurant and I'll see no black fans, I'm like, should we should we be eating here? Yeah? Read the room. That's my mess, you know, tipping culy though we are inviting and we

are in. When we see white people dancing to black music, it's entertaining for us. I ain't gonna lie. It's always a good time to see, like, you know, white people enjoying black shit. So I mean, just to enjoying yourself, right, That's what I told usaid, be yourself, And I said, have you actually had any issues in predominantly black spaces? I said, we can't help you feel less self conscious. You may need to explore why it is you're feeling that way, um, as it's in an internal issue because

black people are oftentimes more than inviting. That's what I said to her, and she was like, you know, truthfully, um, I've been in a lot of black spaces and it felt so welcomed and even enjoyed being the only white person. But then a friend, then a white friend of mine, said they went and go into a specific bar mostly black folks hang there without being there with a black friend. This friend self considers himself progressive, a progressive white guy

from the Bay Area. I thought it was weird he said that, but when I started doubting, But then she started doubting herself. Is what she's saying, um, and then she just thinks us. So the parades and stuff like that, that is a big cultural thing in New Orleans, and I wish that other groups of black people in America would have held onto their culture in the way that people in New Orleans do. I have treat my lineage back.

Charleston is a place where people have held on Yeah, but I'm talking about the parades, like we do parades and stuff, but like wearing the feathers and all indigenous things, like a lot of that has been lost there, you know what I'm saying. But we are essentially the same people,

you know what I'm saying. So I understand like her jumping in the parades and stuff like that, but if they are allowing that down there like it, have fun, do it yeah, but I agree with your friend in a little way, like I'm just going in the black places just thinking sweet, because it ain't always sweet, you know, like so like it's it's black places, I won't go without a big guy. No that no the place. So let me tell you one thing I do know is

white people are safe in America. Safe, safer, They are safer mm hmm. They're more more safe than a lot of us. Yeah. So yeah, I mean it's just that's an internal issue and I don't know how to really assist, but I think we give some pretty good pointers on you know, just be yourself, queen the room, read the room, chill out. But yeah, that that thing, and sometimes take your black friend with you. Get some black friends, or

get some black friends, how about that. Listen, we all may have been one color at some point, right, but for whatever reason, we're starting to uh uh incarnate back hair different colors. Yeah, because you could have been a white lady before. Yeah, I think so. Uh I think I was a white man. Oh but just like the Earth is coming back together, you know, there used to be like one solid mask in his in his coming back together, we're gonna be all one color eventually not

we probably won't see it in this time. You're saying that, and that's what they're scared about them, that's what they're scared about for real. But anyway, look, that's another show too. Thank you for your question, girl, Yes and yes, what a dumb bitch stories that? So listen, we're gonna talk about Cuff of season next week because we're kind of late anyway, because Cuff of season already started. But so you mean to tell me all y'all coughed up in

successful good relationships. Me ain't got a dumb this story. And I don't know how long, but I know y'all out there still dumb bitching it. Um,