Ain't I a Woman?

being in the house as much sas down. I ain't got no choice. I barely can get up. Yeah, you gotta take it easy. I've never had five rods surgery, but I've definitely had a woman's surgery and that shit is no joke and they have to cut you over. I underestimated, Yeah, I underestimated this shit. I ain't gonna lie. I thought three days and I was gonna be back outside. Wrong. No, you, if you have a baby, you're gonna be smashing before

them six weeks. Yep. I don't know when my mama had to pull my drawers up and down for me this weekend. It's definitely humbling. You remember we did that episode we were talking about. It was a white girl who had a surgery coming up, and she was talking about like, how now she needs a meete now more

than ever because she has like surgery coming up. And what I said, then, even if you have somebody, you really can't depend on men to do those things, Like, of course you need somebody in the house with you for sure, but mama's and sisters they're gonna come through. Yep. My mama been was here all weekend. She was so good. I couldn't have done it without here. One of my neighbors came in took my trash out today, so that was good. How nice is that? Yeah? And then the

instacurt lady put my groceries away from me. Yeah? Wow, did you get her a tip? I sure did, and sure did, thank you. Oh that's nice. You need to get me Sure you get a ten star review? All right? I definitely gave her all heroes have a cape. What about your weekend? Shit? My weekend was, you know, I just hung out a little bit dinner date weekend. Basically. You know, it's always nice when niggas take the bitches for walks. I said, I was gonna stop saying nigga,

I'm gonna try real hard, real hard. You know. They said that for the past couple of New Years. I know. But listen, fellas, you have to take your bitch for a walk. Okay. If you don't take her for a walk, somebody else can take her for a walk. It's like, gods, what she needs is take your girl on dates. Yes, take your dates, even if instead of park literally take her for a walk, bike ride something. Yes. I got outside a little bit. That's about it. Good weekend, Good weekend.

It's cold outside. I don't know what the hell is happening. You ain't missing nothing. That's cold outside. It's like Charleston is never this cold in March. Absolutely not in tomorrow. Like the lowest thirty nine or thirty six. I think that is freezing. Really that cold outside right now, right now is probably like fifty. But this is not normal weather. This shit is different. I heard it was snowing in La or some shit. Get your house in order, folks. Yes, look,

let's jump right into stupid internet news. Okay, because y'all see what's going on with these banks. Okay, Like Tam said, get your House in order. This is a small sample size of what we could see on a larger scale, because you know, they want to get us on a central banking system, right, but they got to make the US dollar fail first. So the Silicone Valley Bank in California they went under, right Vamba, just excuse me? What the hell? So now like damn shiit same people, so Biden,

Biden basically has billed them out. And it's not like a bell out like from two thousand and eight, where a taxpayers paid for this. One is going to be paid for it by the bank fees essentially, like they're the insurance that they have. And he's also calling for the top executives to be fired from the bank. Apparently the CEO actually sold all his stock the day before the ZAC actually happened, and as somebody to protect his own interest exactly, So I wonder, you know, he knew

what the hell was going to happen. And this bank in particular, they said that the median deposit like it's like two hundred and fifty thousand dollars. So at this bank, the median account balance it's like two hundred and fifty thousand dollars. These are rich people's money y'all playing with And these people were pulling up at the bank for their money and they got the police called on them. Right,

they can't get it. So, because isn't it like only a certain amount of your money like ensured that you can get through the FDI. Yeah, through the FDI, it's two hundred and fifty thousand dollars. After that, that's it. So that's why now nanoment is stepping in. It makes me think of my great grandmother because of the starting market crash in the nineteen thirties, she put all her money in coffee kids and buried it in the backyard. Said she would never put her money back in the

bank because of that. That's not smart either. Like tomorrow, the way it is looking like we will be wiping all asses with one hundred dollar bills in a minute. You need go. You have to you have to make like actual investments and intangible assets land, housing, houses. You know. I wouldn't say stock market for real, even though I funk with the stock market, because I mean that's the same as a bank that yeah, it could crash to yep.

So definitely natural resources those things aren't going anywhere. But they're definitely trying to get us on a crypto um currency type platform, and my thing, my only problem with that is like, what's the conversion going to be? You know, what's the conversion from my US dollar to whatever crypto going to be? Is it going to be, like will I lose half of my money so you might get a crypto one under? It is going under. All of this shit is going under. But I think it's they're

trying to. I think the government is trying to get more regulation around cryptocurrency because if they get everybody on crypto, like if everybody had to do Bitcoin instead of the US dollar whatever, you know, country currency, there's more control involved with that. They can turn your finances off when they want to because it's all digitized, but it's essentially still the same thing even with fiat currency as far as I'm concerned. What I don't understand is how they

can do that. But we're still voting an election booth with a god down piece of paper. But okay, but really we don't though. It's kind of like some of those machines are electronic, what is the dominion that owns some of them? But a lot of places have electronic ones, which I think can have a little bit more manipulation. Yes, people can throw pieces of paper out, but I can literally program your shit to change. It's a little bit differ. So I would prefer to keep the paper route. Let

me tell you. As I was sitting around hurting, I was scrolling my social media and I saw everybody upset that Angela Bassett was snubbed by the Academy for the Oscar that she was nominated for for Best Supporting Actress in Wakanda Forever. And she I mean, We're gonna be honest about it. She ben should have got an Oscar if we relying on white people to give us our awards,

but she definitely should have been got up. Jamie League Curtis should have been got one too, because but anyway, they Angela Bassett didn't get the Oscar, and niggas was mad as fuck. I was upset too, absolutely, But I just feel like, why do we Why do we care what white people think? Why do we need these these awards that was never meant for us to validate us in our careers, because she should have been had at. Everybody knows it. Jamie knows it. Yeah, And so Jamie

Lee Curtis. She she won Best Supporting Actress for Everything Everywhere, all at once. It's alright, movie, it's kind of on the esoteric side of things, but good movie nonetheless. But come on, Wakanda forever, all of these great movies. She's one of the best actresses out here. And this is only her even her second time even being nominated. The first time she was nominated was for Best Actress in

two thousand and four. So here it is now twenty years later and she's finally nominated again, only not to get the award again. It's for her me too. I hate that because you know she's to us like she's one of the best. Who's better than Angela Bassett. Let's be clear, who. I don't know anybody better than Angela Bassett. And if I hear you had my kids around that tramp bitch, we're gonna regret it for the rest of your life. Get your ship, get your ship, and get yo.

The way she was talking like that's how black women be for real, Like you'd be talking yourself into a rut. Okay, right, We love you Angela Bassett. If you're a fan of we talk back, we love you I have been an Oscar Award winner in our hearts since the beginning of time. Right, so, waking up the ship this morning. Shit, m so speaking of the Oscars the internet again, the internets are in an uproar um comparing Sierra to Savannah James today. Um because of her choice of attire for the awards. She

wore a barely there naked dress that was after party. Yeah, it was after party, and several women were dressed the same way. But for whatever reason, in our community, it's almost like Sierra isn't it worthy of the life she has? To some people, it's like she was just this this super chicken head that only deserves a man like future, you know, like staying your place, chicken head, baby Mama.

I don't know what the energy is. She is a married woman, she does have children, She's still fine as hell. I'm confused, and this is entertained. Why do people care so much to other people got on if her husband was happily standing next to her, What does it matter to y'all? Matthews exactly. I don't. I don't get the hate and disdain nowadays for Sierra. I don't get it. It'd be people who ain't got her first husband or wife or the potential for one. That's got the most

horrible things to say about Sierra, like relax, maya business. Right, it's not really maya business per se, but it's almost like, Okay, these people are entertainment, are in entertainment. I ain't talk more shit about the bitches I see at the club dress like that, because let's be clear, people be outside looking like that, like like their celebrity. As soon as our heal, I got this same dress here and I'm gonna put it on. So that dress gonna a little

bit different on you. But oh her so bad? A laugh? That dress a little bit different. I don't, I don't. I don't think you should shame. But let Sierra alone. Let that lady do what she want to do. Now. One thing, you know, I don't have a problem like um just I don't know. I guess if I were

married and had kids, I wouldn't wear that. I wouldn't personally. Yeah, I wouldn't personally, But I'm not here to judge her for she probably felt empowered to wear that, right, I honestly I wouldn't wear that now just because my body type. She's slim, though, I feel like she can get away with it and it be okay. I would wear that as a beach cover up without a problem, right what

the thong dated suit underneath. But there were several several several you know, she was only black woman dressed like that, but there were there were a lot of model U Victoria's Secret models, a lot of different people. It's almost like that was like the theme for the after party as far as because I literally just wanted to make sure like its Sierra the only naked naked bitch at

the at the whole thing. But I mean, it's been dresses like that at these awards for years and years years, But it's just like when a black woman does anything, it's a problem. And then trying to trying to compare Savannah James and hers, like why did y'all pick this one woman against this one woman? There was a lot of women with fully closed dresses and a lot of

women who were naked in their dresses. So I mean, it's the difference, manya business right, I guess it's just like the athlete husband, you know, that's probably what it what it boils down to. But they don't even play the same sport. Right, if y'all want to be that particular, find somebody in the NFL. Yeah, just leave it alone altogether,

right and moving right along. Black China took to the Internet this past weekend and she had a message for everyone that she was getting her butt reduced to a normal size, in her breast reduced to a normal size, and she also said that her fieler her face feelers would be next to be removed. So I think the era of overexaggerated asses and titties and faces kind of

dwindling down. What you think, I'm happy for it. So we're gonna have an episode soon where we actually talk about body dysmorphia and maybe some of the mental health ship that surrounds that she's been going through therapy. Maybe she um is now more accepting of who she really is. Maybe um she has this stuff caused life threatening issues, you know, especially with the button. Maybe it's just not

no longer trending. I don't know. I remember when Cardi B first came out, when I first came out, once she started like, because you know, to me, Cardi B is one of the best dress in the industry. When she got to hit the runway. I mean like it hit a red carpet or song period, and I remember her saying, like, you know, she wished she didn't get the butt shots because now she wants to fit in those nice dresses and stuff like that, and she can't always fit into things. So I don't know, Um, I

don't know. If your body is naturally like that then this. But to add all of that shit, it just it does look crazy. And I feel like doctors should be hell responsible for some of the botched shit because it don't be matching oftentimes, right look crazy. I would suggest against it. I have a friend who was a cosmetic surgeon and she does like a lot of reconstruction, like you know people have to breast cancer stuff like that,

but she doesn't do bbls. Yeah. Yeah, And BBLS is really dangerous from what I understand, putting that fat in your butt. Yeah, but they can't hit like a like a major artery and it could go bad. Well. I had my little cousin who actually got a BBL and her body her the butt rejected the fat fans for a year and so she ended up with all type of infections and shit, had a hole in the top of her ass they had to pack with gauds and all type of ships. Yeah, that's a lot to go through.

You know what, I think social media we you know, when we have that episode, I think we need to go into how social media plays a huge, huge role in people's body image. Absolutely absolutely so would you say that Kardashians kind of started this thing? What we see now? People been getting surgery, like I know people who have had surgery fifteen years ago, but it ramped up at some hip. I don't don't. I can't say they started it, but I think they're you know, huge platform made it

seem like very socially okay to do. Yeah. Yeah, because I'm trying to figure out like even the teeth, like normal regular people wasn't getting like the teeth done and all that shit ten ten years ago. Well they made it so affordable. Now you can fly out there somewhere and get you a new set of in a dinner for six hundred dollars. I don't want those six hundred dollars teeth. And then when you get back to the US,

ain't no dinners the fun with them? When they mess up, just get them, like get the money, get your money. Up and get the shit at home. You can get the best, get the right ones. Because some of the cheese I don't even think they like separate. I think it's just one long piece they put in your mouth. A lot of y'all look like y'all bite. Okay, I'm scared. I hate that shit. I'm scared. Yeah, I don't know.

Love yourself. God damn it. Shit, I know it's hard sometimes. Yeah, yeah, it's you know, everybody has like things they would like to fix. Like, bitch, I'm definitely gonna get me some lightee. I've been saying that shit for years. I want my broad fat gone. And I feel like, no, no matter how much should I do in the gym, it just it's just not going anymore. Yeah, So I definitely want some light bul on my back. Other than that, I don't want to body fucking my shape up. I want

my double chin gone. That's I want the second one gone. But I know it's probably like if I just lost maybe like twenty pounds that ago. That's really what it boils down to. Shit. Yeah, you got all these bitches taking this um uh we go Vie and oz and peak this uh diabetic U shot now for rapid Yeah, I have some friends that are doing it, and I did the research right and I advised against it. No, I'm not a a licensed UM physician, but that shit causes um thyroid cancer. UM. What else did I say?

It was a lot of different side effects. You know what I'm saying, Like, No, you may not. It's not worth it to me. It's not anyway, do what y'all want to do? Moving along? This month, March is Woman's History Month. So what we would like to do today is talk about what a woman is exactly for the month of March. Let's get into it, all right, y'all. So listen, it is National Women's History Month March first through March thirty first, and you know what it being.

You know, this national holiday that actually was invented I think I read it was nineteen excuse seventy something or nineteen sixty something. Is when different states start adopting just to try to, um, you know, showcase the women who have contributed to American history, essentially women. Right, So with this being a national holiday kind of gets me in the mind of you know, and this day, twenty twenty three,

what is a woman is an actual question? People ask, which is crazy because I thought I knew I had to google it for this episode. I wasn't sure, a bitch and all right, so I googled it and it has two separate definitions. I can't so it said. A biological definition of a woman is when sperm fertilizes an egg, it's X or Y chromosomes combine with the X chromosome of the egg. A person with XX chromosomes usually has a female sex and reproductive organs, and it is therefore

usually a signed biologically female. You see how they do biologically? Yeah, so you know this could be a joke, like men could possibly just be a broken X. Yes, so everybody woman. I know there has been things in the past where people say, like everybody is a start out, yeah, and then the man, so who knows the fallas basically, maybe being a man is a deformity of yo jokes. They

don't want to hear that. I was just arguing with somebody online about how women used to like, as you know, we evolved, but I believe it started female, Like there had to be a woman, right because men cannot you cannot like procreate with a sock. Okay, So Pat partheogenesis is the process of a female organism reproducing by itself, like a seahorse. Yes, like female seahorses in different yeah, different animals in a while. Yeah, but I believe women

did it at one point. Y'all better hope we don't learn how to man women like men are being born. I look at like looked at some data, and there's a lot of women being born like this last decade. But you know what, I feel like women have always outnumbered men. Crazy. It also said that a female human being a person assigned a female sex at birth, or a person who identifies herself as a woman, that's a female,

that is a woman. But if you look up man, Claire cut Dry her adult male human being, so you would have to one would have to try and figure out why is it that it seems like there's an attack on the Why excuse me on the X. Why is there an attack on women? Why is it like

a Claire cut definition for man? Because I've said this before, it's almost like this is the ultimate form of patriarchy when a man can say bitch, I'm you because I feel like it and people don't see this as patriarchy, but it is to me, because you know the men who were born female, they're I'll be pushing there. Yeah, you don't even hear from them. Where are y'all? All right? So also I google one other words, well, sis Jesus

gender gender identity. So, gender identity is a person's innate sense of their gender, chiefly used in context where it is contrasted with the sex registered for them at birth. But now you have a judicial judicial system which legalizes people changing their sex. Can they put it now on their birth certificates? Can they change a birth certificate? Can they change a driver's license? Or what's showing up on these official documents? Is it what you were at birth?

Because now you're going to have to ask people what's your what chromosome are you? What were you on your birth certificates? Right? And you know a lot of you were born Yeah, a lot of trans people feel like they don't have to disclose that. They're trends, like that's the whole thing. Somebody seeing you physically and thinking that you're a woman, that's what they go for. They're up. You haven't seen that video on Instagram? It was a Hispanic guy and maybe the lady was in the car

hispanic too, but it looked like a white woman. Oh man, right, arguing he was listen the guy. The woman in the car was arguing with a Hispanic man outside the car, and she was like, what do I look like to you when she turns the camera on herself? And transsexual? I don't. They don't like the word transsexual, right, I don't. I don't know, I can't really. I wish we had like a trays person on with us who could just

had a hand pamphlet or a booklet. We all to make sure we you know, yeah, listen, nothing we say here is meant to be offensive. It is meant to be funny. That's it. Not even funny. We're trying to understand. Yeah, but also I want to tell jokes, okay, yeah, I want it needed to be funny too. I make light of everything though, so don't take a personal right. So the guy was like, you look like a man, and she was so upset because they want us to see

them in the way that they see themselves. But if it's fair, right, No, it's not fair because I'm not going to be delusional with you because you maybe you don't have enough money to actually look like a woman and the way you want to You're six foot and you're walking in look like a man to me. But it's fair to want people to see you as you see yourself, is what I'm saying. Not in this case, Tammy,

Do you see what I'm saying? You like you physically present as a man, dressed as a woman, right, and then you're upset with people who don't see you as a woman. Exactly? How how am I now um being disrespectful to you because I can't trick my mind to see what you see? I told you once before, my homegirl, she's a chiropractor, right. She has a client who is a woman born a woman xx. She presents as a woman, right.

She's in a relationship with a trans woman, white trans woman, which is a man, right, Genetically a man that's a trans woman is a genetically a man. Right. But she wants to be addressed as sir him he right. But she doesn't dress up like a man. She presents as a woman. But I, in my mind have to look, have to go by your pronouns. But you look like a woman, and you present like a woman. It's not like she's presenting like a man to where I can

you know my mind? Am I click in my mind to make sure I call him sir and stuff call her sir. It's like, huh, it is hard. It is. It is an adjustment that it's a new adjustment, and I feel like, but I mean, call people what they want to be called, right, Yeah, I don't. I guess I don't have a lot of those people in my life. And if I were to run into somebody in this and they let you know what it is, of course I'm gonna do my due diligence to make sure I'm

being respectful to them. But the thing is, I believe, like just publicly online, the different conversations I see it, or it gets to be disrespectful to actual women. Here's the thing. Just don't be angry with me if you see me trying. You know, it's one thing to be blatantly like just like fuck how you feel you a nigga? Right, it's one thing, right. We ain't boostying, right, we ain't boostying right. But if I'm out here trying to get it right, but I'm sucking up because it's new, don't

be mean to me about it. That's not fair. Absolutely, I'm not being mean to you about your shit. So I get what you're saying, and as and as an actual woman. If I say I don't want to be called sists, seem like an actual woman, they would be offended by that's their business. As an actual woman, I don't want to be called sists. So at what point do you respect my my um my stands. Yeah, I don't like bitches in my dns tell about you my favorite Auntie girl? Fuck you. I'm not your trans anti.

It's your mama's sister, not me, bitch. Listen, I met this girl and her her instagram was Auntie. I'm not gonna say her whole ship, but it starts off like Auntie starch to such, I said, girl, if you don't change your goddamn Instagram name, like, imagine your ship Auntie tam, I don't play like that. And you and your third only only bitches who only like just turned thirty call theirself Auntie. Wish you're getting closer to forty? That is like offense. Who are you talking to if I'm not

your Auntie? It's offensive? Right? Who are you talking to? Right? I don't even like my nieces called me that called me teamMy bitch William exactly, y'all can cust do what the fuck you want because you're not my kids. No, I don't let my nieces cut a little bit, but you're gonna have to keep it cute around me because you will respect me. Like my sister. Y'all be power tripping black mama's and black aunties, be pot triment, Like,

we're not gonna do that. I was talking to my home girl a day and she was like, yeah, the kids is mad because they had to go to school and it's snowing. She was like, we live in New Jersey, Like why they why it snows here all the time? Type shit? I said, but you don't remember not wanting to go to school, Like it's like work. They need a break. Those kids be tired. She was like, well, they just was off on Monday. I'm like, okay, have you never wanted five days off from work for free?

Don't mean you get it so, but it is in real life as a grown person. Stop acting like you don't remember not wanting to go to school. I remember not wanting and I remember also still having to go, right, but they can still come. I guess my thing is is that I'm not about to like challenge my kid on some shit that I did too as a child. You know what I'm saying, like complaining, yes, shut the fuck go to school. That's the eleventh commandment that I

should not. I'm playing back to women. Yeah, um, I don't know. I wish things were much simpler, Like, you know, some things are offensive being born a biological woman, like giving Caitlyn Gender Woman of the Year. Lash Air was ayah, it's her fault, but I think she got Woman of the Year, but she did have like a sit down with Michelle Obama last year during woman's history. Many it's just kind of like, I mean, I understand, like things are changing, but what about me? Can I be women

of something? They're gonna say, y'all have been women for all of this time. Now, let us that's what we at. That's crazy. It's it's a lot of things that I just don't understand. Like I don't understand trans women participating in sports with biological women when we know biologically that trains women would be stronger physically than a woman, But are they stronger than the men that they're competing with?

So now they couldn't compete with the men. So you throw them with the women to beat up on the women, and when like, fuck that is wild. That's not fair. I don't we can sit we all can sit in that like this is normal, but it is not okay. No. I think maybe their own like league. Yeah, and then they would think that it is disrespectful because they identify as a woman, right but genetically like a woman can't

compete with you, not physically. Yeah, in the sports when it comes to like wrestling and it's trans bitches is beating our egg? Watch that. I'm sorry. I said, it's not fair. It's not fair. And again we should be able to talk about it as we talk and not be mad at us for saying what everybody's thinking. Everybody's thinking it okay, I said it. Fuck it. So, because it is National Women's History Month, let's get some history

on exactly what that is. So as as recently as nineteen seventies, women's history was virtually an unknown topic in the K twelve curriculum or in general public consciousness. To address the situation, that Education Task Force for Sonoma County, California, commissioned on the Status of Women, initiated a Woman's History

Week celebration for nineteen seventy eight. So this is how long I feel like I've only heard about maybe I don't know, last five years or so that I actually heard about one of those history month year since we've been podcasting, That's what I've been hearing about it. Yeah, the day, March eighth, International Woman's Day was chosen as a focal point for the observance. So so, Tammy All, what is a woman to you? A woman to me is my mama and my grandmother. I can speak to

a black women. I wanted to say a woman, I'll speak to a black woman. Unfortunately, I hate to say strong black women because they I hate the term strong for a woman. But I feel like my my mother and my grandmother had to be that. Uh. They were resilient, loving and hard at the same time. Um, they bled every month and you knew it sometime because they was bitches during that time. I ain't gonna lie. Um. A woman is birth in life to this earth, you know.

I think that's what a woman is. A woman is a mother, woman is a sister, auntie, A woman is you? A woman is me? Right? So that woman is who gave gave birth to you. Yeah, you know, a lot of people not to go back to the same topic, but you would not exist if it weren't for a woman, right right, So to be dismissive of what an actual woman is, UM, it's kind of wild. Um. So when I think about woman, I definitely think about myself. I think about my aunts, my mother, the actual women in

my life. You know, get mad at the word actual. Um. Again, I don't like the strong Black women thrope. I feel like it's not exclusive to just Black women. Women throughout every culture, UM have had times where they had to

be super resilient. We're not in those groups, so we may not see but I don't hear other groups me used that word the culture, and it's kind of like the reason why I hated The reason why I hate it is because you know this is it was an Indian guy on YouTube a while ago, a video I listened to, and he was talking shit about like a women and how we like to say we're strong Black women.

And he was like, yeah, just because you can have a bunch of kids when no fathers and struggle to take care of them and persevere doesn't make you a strong Black woman. So you put yourself in a situation to have to struggle. What does that make you? Then it definitely makes you a strong but shut the fucker.

It definitely makes you strong if you had to. And he was talking about like how how other women from other groups like they you know, their husbands are wealthy this and the third like the people they choose to have children with are not just leaving them with kids and stuff like that. So his whole stance was, you put yourself in a position to have to be strong, Okay, And what the fuck you say it's strong and strong? I don't. I just don't want us to have to

be strong. I want us to live a soft life. I want Black women to be in reside in their feminine energy and not if you're providing yourself. And I think heaven saying that women are a strong black woman, then other cultures view the head. And then now when you're in a hospital and pay maybe like, but you're a strong black woman, but other black people do that to black people of black women as well, you realize that it's not even just other groups of people, it's

everybody just does that to black women. We do it to each other. Yeah, now you're in the hospital, hurting and nobody recognizes your pain because because is actually built off of us and how much you know end exactly some bullshit which we be in pain. Yeah, but yeah, So for me, um, yes, an actual woman, you have to be able even if something happened and you haven't procreated, right, there's a lot of signs going on right now. You

can have a child. So you have to have a womb to be a woman made be functioning or not. If you don't have a womb, you know, to me and my definition of what a woman is, you couldn't you couldn't be a woman. And that's okay, It's okay, Yeah, I agree, it's fine. You know, how can we celebrate Women's History Month and we talk back? I guess it just you know, comes right after Black History Month or we celebrate the different batties, so we can continue to

celebrate awesome ass women in a month of m March. Okay. So I have somebody that I would like to celebrate for Women's History and I found this girl on a little Duvall's page earlier. She is a pilot, a young pilot. Her name is she Naya Noel and her Instagram y'all should follow her is I am all right? So I am n y A n o E L l E. I am Naya Noel. And this is a young young girl and baby she is lying these big ass Look at this girl, y'all can't You can't see her, but

y'all go look at her Instagram. I can't tell. She got the baby's little face. She looks very very young, and she is a pilot and she just flew across country and she is a beautiful young black woman and she's getting to it and I love to see it. And she started a little group called Pretty Pink Pilots.

I love that. I love that. Even getting into air traffic control if you're under thirty years old, because you have there's an age limit to being um being be in air traffic control, So I think you have to be younger than thirty. So if any of our listeners that is a job. If you are into you know, working for somebody, you're already gonna do it, get that job because usually people will start that and then they

that's where they retire from there's an age limit. I feel like more black people need to get into air traffic control. They make a lot of money as well, and also in to being pilots, is there an awesome black person that's not exactly celebrated, like not someone that's a celebrity, a black woman that you or any woman, let me not say, just black, that you would like to celebrate today. Um, not off top of my head,

I happen to see nobody flying a planes. Maybe not not nobody, maybe maybe somebody that you know personally that just like did something great that you just want to celebrate. You know, my best friend Priscilla, I'd like to celebrate her. Okay.

Priscilla had two kids when we were in high school. Okay, And when I tell you like this that this is like a lot of people's stories, and I kind of use her oftentimes, um, over the years for people when I hear them complaining about certain shit like Priscilla did it, I really be feeling like that about her because the way she set her life up, even with having little small kids is a fuck amazing. So I don't want to call her like the strong black woman, but she

would be that, yeah, you know what I'm saying. And actually her oldest child is my little cousin. Essentially, her dad is my cousin and he's not the like she really did it by herself out here. I'm here a lot of black women, so I want to celebrate my best seat. So, y'all, if y'all know a woman that you love and you see her doing her thing, we challenge you to celebrate her. Send her lunch cash or send her money, right, some good words of encouragement, just

to let her know that you see her. So just this one, say hi to every woman you see like, stop walking past each other, not speaking. Yeah, eye contact here, girl, you look good girl? Y. Yes, I don't know. I'm definitely one of those. I'm always like I will stop a girl in the street like, oh ka, girl, I see like girls okay, eyebrows okay baby here, I will say all of that. Yeah, you make people day, right, Mary, celebrate each other. So I challenge y'all to dudd watching

this episode, celebrate your sisters outside. What's your agenda to your sisters is celebrate them. I'm here for that. So when we come back from break, I do have a dumb bitch story. I can't wait to get into it. All right, We'll be right back to dumb bitch stories because we've all been a dumb bitch at least once or twice, all right, So, and look, this girl sent me a damn picture at all, so I know what the people look like. So, she says, been with this

guy for about sixteen months. Me and his youngest BM have had words on two occasions. Their youngest kid is almost five. She posted on Facebook an old video and pick from last year, saying, happy sixteen years, Happy birthday, baby daddy. Y'all want him so bad, I'm cushan, I'm not going nowhere. That's the whole capture and of the

post for his birthday, right, She said. I told him today he needs to tell her we are together and the back and forth Facebook subliminal and BS need to stop if he is serious about me, or go be with her because I'm not going through this shit anymore. He says he has no problem with that, so we shall see. But I feel like I'm right to give

him an ultimatum after sixteen months. I've expressed the importance of boundaries before with their relationship, and I'm ready to walk away if he doesn't make the right, If he doesn't make this right, even though I really want to be with him. What do you think? So and then she sends like a picture of the guy with the post from the BM. So I asked her, like, how many how many kids? How many bms? He has? Three baby moms, five kids, last two are four and twelve

years old. Lady, yeah, must be what the youngest says. First of all, what grown? I mean? They just got the one five year old? Sixteen years in and you out here talking about you? Wait? Is that? What is that? What I said her post? First of all, you are grown. You're an old ass lady because you've been working with somebody for sixteen years. How dare you call yourself Chrishan Khan? That's who you say? Thirty five? Both her and the girl?

How are you talking about you? Krishan? That is a young girl trying to figure it out out here, like she got a lot of trauma and a lot of you know, and that's what you're talking about. Look, I asked her, how the hell does she see the post? She basically said, the girl has her block, or they have each other block. But you know she obviously if you want to see my thing is why are you lurking? If you weren't lurking, you would have never seen her post at oh so it's on her page. It's on

the baby mama's page. So don't post my nigga talking about that's her baby daddy. Don't post my nig girl. We know what it is like. So, okay, you have a decision to make. You don't have any kids with this guy. He has three baby mamas? Are you strapping up? Are you trying to be the fourth baby mama and sixth with the sixth child? Right? Like? It really? Is that what you want your life to be at thirty five?

So I'm like, that's what she wants. She says she want to be with him, so that's what she's signed up for. But there is a thing called boundaries and don't disrespect my relationship. He needs to check her, right absolutely, So you know you can't you can't fault anybody outside the relationship, right, So definitely, if it's a situation, he definitely needs to handle it, right. I don't like, I can't do you know what I want you to do?

You know exactly what the same shit you would want me to do if my baby daddy was doing that, right, yeah, like control your people, yeah, because no, she wouldn't be accepting that bullshit either, right, exactly. Yeah, so I don't know. I think he must be still sleeping with her. Yeah, because yeah, where a man would probably be like, why are you posting that? Right? See, no bms, no mama's, no sisters, no problems, no baby mama, no sister, no mother. Damn who I agree with me? Shut up? He fined

too that, Derek Luke. Yeah, where is Derek Luke? We didn't say that in the last couple of years, Derek Luke. We want Derek Luke on the show. Come talk to us, Derek. We want to see where you've been at. I'm with men when they say women are out here having kids with men who already have kids, because there are. I'm finding that there are some single men out here who don't have kids, who haven't started a family, who you can start a family with. You don't necessarily have to

be with somebody who already has kids. But the older we get, you know, the more difficult it becomes. Right. Yeah, So I told my guy friend he said he doesn't want any more kids, and I was like, you know, most him and have kids, So you're gonna end up with somebody with kids helping take care of a kid. That that isn't depending on how old he is and kids might be out of the house. Yeah, grown, big kids, they still there, always be a child, but they're not.

Let me let him, let him keep thinking that he got to be with a bitch with little kids, Okay, because why not be with somebody who has your kid. I'm confused. You don't work out like that always anyway, girl, run run, He's still fucking his baby mama. That's what I think too. Get up out of there. Still get that man, ultimatum. Grown people don't do well with ultimatums. They are who they're gonna be. That situation was going on prior to you, even though you've been there for

sixteen months now, it may never change. So that means she would to fight by that nigga, you're hearing me trying to fight, right, You're trying to fight. Can't you fight? That's question? Can't you fight? Fight? Because that girl says she'll fight. She beat your ass about her baby, daddy. Can't you fight? I'm not trying to fight at this age in my life. I'm not trying to fight by nobody. Did you fighting? Can't get up the next day? You know, like you the last time I got in a fight, y'all.

I was in Live in Miami, of all places in the club, and we whipped out of a chance. But the next day I felt everything, that whole donkey kicking me in my ship. I was limped through the airport and trying to get kick backwards like that backwards, Yeah, because I was in the back of the head, y'all. We do not could violence. I was very young when that happened. Volens is sometimes and I was attacked, so I was defending myself. I did not start anything. Let

me just put that out there. It's necessary sometimes. I was a hacked in a rental dress. I was so mad. I'm so mad. I had risen this two thousand dollars dress for the night so I could be a bad bags father to night and that dress and it was one of my friends Beef. I didn't even know these girls. They were actually girls from New York. And my friend was like, oh, yeah, me and this girl got a

situation or whatever. We don't get along. We're in a VP, chilling, having a good time, sparkly in my little rental dress and her the girl and her friend walk up and you know, I'm on like I'm watching because I know it's smoked, right, um and y'all this is a long time ago. Okay. So we're in the promoter section or whatever. They come over. They're talking to the promoter. They were sitting on the top of the couch. They one of them climbs up into the couch. The other one is

on the floor. So she keeps bumping into my friend, like on purpose, for real. So my friend was like, please stop bumping me. Nothing disrespectful, Please stop bumping into me. So then I stood up. But I stood up like on no aggressive shit. I just stood up because there's a lot going on. So I stood up because I was I was vulnerable sitting Right when I stood up, the friend that was standing on the floor punched me in the face soon as I stood up. Goddamn, on, go on go. Just soon as I stood up, a

bitch hit me in my face. But little did they know, they thought it was just me and my homegirl in the section. It was six to us. We just like me and my homegirl was sitting next to the promoter. My sister was right next to me, sitting on the couch. And then I had full home girl sitting on the other It was a big ass couch, right, So I got hit. I turned, I got hit. My sister was like, you hit my soul bitch right in the side of

her face. And it was just on. It was a melee in that big motor just got up and walked away. He's just like, this is ran. I'm disgusted. I was, Yeah, I was disgusted because that's not why I came. I came to have a good time. Did you fucking people dress up? Though? Yes? Did you return it? Fucked up? I had to pay for it. It was ruined. It was ruined. You should have took them the court for that dress. That would have been a nice ass judge Joe Brown or one of them judges I should have.

That would have been because I actually was like like an executive for Hennessy or something. Oh no, oh girl, I would have random muck on her ass. You. I mean, yeah, I should have the girl who hit you? Yeah, oh no, bitch, when I tell you the man letter, I would have send that bitch of the man letter so fucking fat. And I think she like got on Twitter talking about like, oh yeah, her red bottles was fake because it was

rubbing off. I was like, no, I rubbed that shit off on your forehead, bitch, the red bottom, the red was rubbing off on her. Yeah, the red bottom comes off the shoe. That hadn't said that way. We're talking about beating bitches up for Women's History Month. This is all. It's a part of women's history all my life. I had what We don't do that anymore here we talked back. That is a story from very early, like late twenties in Miami. So shit that love stories. That was funny

as hell. Man, but girl lead that nigga, right man? We need to do like seed dating, don't speed friends. We're gonna do a speed dating and speed friends. What's the speed friends? Like making girlfriends? Yeah, that would be nice. Yes, we can host that in Charlotte for a day. Let's do speed friends for what History Month. I'm here for that. It's little, it's little. Do you have any last words? I feel like that's a new segment we need to add to the show. Like since we talk back, and

we always got to have the last words. Uh, love your sisters, love your women, love the women in your in your life, call them today and give them some nice words of encouragement because we'll be going through it. We'll be going through it. Call your friends, Call your mama, Call your aunt who've been fucking with her baby daddy for the last thirty five years, and shit like, call

all the women you love. That's my last word. Call your home girl that's still shouting her baby daddy, y'all talking about sixty years and she krew shun her rock her ass. She needs a love. And then also show love to our trades women, because I have friends who are trains women and I love y'all, so you know, I'm still trying to understand. I don't get it all the way yet, and that's okay. I want to. And we got love for y'all too, So love everybody out here.

Women's mom Yay, that was nice. You're so smart. Anyway, y'all, I enjoyed this episode. If you enjoyed this episode, please tune in every Thursday on your iHeartRadio Apple wherever the fuck you get your podcast at s your co host aj Holiday y'all follow me on Instagram. It's Aja Holiday two point oh. Check out we talk back unt dot com when you got tam what else? I'm official tam Bam on Instagram, y'all following me. I love y'all once again.

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