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We Can Do Hard Things

Glennon Doyle and Audacywecandohardthingspodcast.com
Life is freaking hard. We are all doing hard things every single day – things like loving and losing; caring for children and parents; forging and ending friendships; battling addiction, illness, and loneliness; struggling in our jobs, our marriages, and our divorces; setting boundaries; and fighting for equality, purpose, freedom, joy, and peace. On We Can Do Hard Things, Glennon Doyle, author of UNTAMED; her wife Abby Wambach; and her sister Amanda Doyle do the only thing they’ve found that has ever made life easier: Drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard things including sex, gender, parenting, blended families, bodies, anxiety, addiction, justice, boundaries, fun, quitting, overwhelm . . . all of it. We laugh and cry and help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, free-er, less alone.

Episodes

227. MEGAN RAPINOE: A Legend Says Goodbye to the Game

Laser-focused on her final World Cup, MEGAN RAPINOE chooses our podcast to go *deep* on her bittersweet decision to retire from her iconic soccer career: Why she is excited – and ready – to say goodbye to soccer; Why representing America is so important to her in this moment; Why she doesn’t believe in sacrificing herself for the team; How dissociation helped her on the field – and hurt her in life – and how she’s working to give it up. Plus, Megan explores the question: Does greatness have to c...

Jul 13, 20231 hr 1 minSeason 1Ep. 227

Fix Your Most Important Relationships with the Enneagram: Suzanne Stabile

We all have that one relationship that needs fixing… Today, Suzanne Stabile is back to tell us how we can use the Enneagram to improve our relationships and love our people better. She guides us through: How to stop misjudging and misunderstanding people; How to start respecting your own innate gifts; How to get rid of codependency; and How to get what you are missing – more thinking, feeling, or doing – in your life. If you missed our first episode with Suzanne, check out Episode 226 Enneagram:...

Jul 12, 202347 min

226. Enneagram: Why You Are the Way You Are with Suzanne Stabile

Enneagram Godmother Suzanne Stabile guides us through: What the hell is the Enneagram and why does it matter? The gifts and struggles each Enneagram type faces; Why the worst part of you is also the BEST part of you; The core desire / fear that explains your behavior; and Why, if Suzanne ever needs brain surgery, she’s finding a doctor who’s an Enneagram 1. And we FINALLY answer the question: Is Amanda a 3 or a 1? (Also meet back here tomorrow for a bonus episode where Suzanne uses the Enneagram...

Jul 11, 20231 hr 5 minSeason 1Ep. 226

225. How to Find 5 Seconds of Peace with Morgan Harper Nichols

Morgan Harper Nichols is here today to help us – finally! – breathe deep and pay attention: What the hell is this elusive “peace” anyway? How to create your own peace practice How she has found a truer way to communicate than words How her adult autism diagnosis helped her finally set boundaries Concrete strategies to find peace even in chaos Plus, she helps us understand why we don’t need to add “Presence” to our to-do list: It’s already right here. About Morgan: Morgan Harper Nichols is an art...

Jul 06, 20231 hr 6 minSeason 1Ep. 225

224. Get REAL Pleasure & Stop Faking It with Vanessa Marin

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin is back on the pod to discuss how we can all make sex more ENJOYABLE. She shares with us: How we can stop faking our orgasms and experiment with real pleasure; How to communicate honestly with our partners about what we want in bed; and Why masturbation can be an opportunity for self-exploration and reclamation. She also offers empowering advice for individuals recovering from sexual trauma. Plus, Glennon contemplates writing erotica. CW: Discussion of sex after sexua...

Jul 04, 202353 minSeason 1Ep. 224

223. Get What You Want at Work & Home: How to Negotiate with Mori Taheripour

If the word “negotiation” makes you feel tense and sweaty and like the last thing you want to do is listen to this conversation . . . then what you absolutely need to do is listen to this conversation. Because it turns out we've been thinking about negotiation all wrong, and today we empower ourselves to think about it differently. Mori Taheripour guides us through the top things we all get wrong in negotiation; the most effective tool in asking for a raise; the ways the vast majority of women u...

Jun 29, 20231 hr 3 minSeason 1Ep. 223

222. Jia Tolentino: The 1% of Life that Makes It All Worth It

Jia Tolentino joins us to discuss how to finally accept all sides of you: Why your un-productivity matters most; When your shame is good; How to make your real life bigger than your internet life; How to let motherhood energize you instead of drain you; and How to stop scrolling in the middle of the night. Plus, we talk acid trips, the sorority rush that Jia and Amanda shared, why Glennon’s friends track Jia’s words – and whether Glennon’s mug shot will inspire Jia’s next show. About Jia: Jia To...

Jun 27, 20231 hr 4 minSeason 1Ep. 222

221. How to Lose Half of Your Guilt

Glennon, Abby, and Amanda help us shed guilt through a freeing reframe inspired by a conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy. Listen to learn: How to know what is true guilt and what is just the uncomfortable ickiness of defying expectations; how to hold boundaries in order to live shamelessly within our own values; and how to maintain empathy by staying with our own emotions instead of internalizing the emotions of others. Also, we need your help inventing a word for the “not guilt” feeling! Get Dr...

Jun 22, 202344 minSeason 1Ep. 221

220. Why So Many Women Don’t Know They are Autistic with Katherine May

Author Katherine May recounts the moment she – at age 37 – discovered she is autistic and recognized herself for the first time. Living as an autistic person in a world that often misunderstands her, Katherine shares: How the prevailing understandings of autism erase the lived experiences of autistic women and girls; The way autism looks and feels for adult women; and How she navigates social interactions and sensory overload. Katherine also reveals what she hears most often from people who thin...

Jun 20, 20231 hr 9 minSeason 1Ep. 220

Craig Melton on DATING!!! – with Logan Ury

Logan Ury helps Glennon’s former husband and co-parent, Craig Melton, navigate the wild world of dating as a grown up: How to identify your patterns that aren’t working for you; how to know if something’s really a deal breaker; why dating in your twenties is like “start-up” while dating later in life is a “merger”; an honest audit of Craig’s online dating profile; how to ensure you’re meeting who you want to meet; and how Craig factors whether or not Glennon and Abby will like who he’s dating. A...

Jun 16, 202354 min

219. How to Make a Friend & Find a Date with Logan Ury

How the hell do grown ups date and make friends? Behavioral scientist turned dating coach, Logan Ury is here to help us make dating and meeting new friends easier: how to identify what you really want; why we should stop searching for “the spark”; why we keep going after the same people that are wrong for us; how to talk to our kids about their first love experiences; why we need to have “other significant others”; and the eight questions you should ask yourself after meeting anyone new. About L...

Jun 15, 20231 hr 3 minSeason 1Ep. 219

218. Kelly Clarkson: Red Flags, Divorce & Starting Over

In this deeply personal conversation, Kelly Clarkson – beloved artist, truth teller, and goddamn cheetah – joins us to discuss: How Untamed gave her the clarity and courage to divorce; Why she stayed for as long as she did; The lowest point of her life; What broke her heart the most in her marriage; How to recover yourself after slowly disappearing in a relationship; Her incredible new album chemistry; Embracing singleness; and Why she’s a stronger parent today. About Kelly: Kelly Clarkson is on...

Jun 13, 20231 hr 8 minSeason 1Ep. 218

Your Joy & Pride Infusion for Today!

We need more JOY. In today’s bonus episode, internet sensations corook and Olivia Barton delight us with their performance of “If I Were a Fish.” Plus, Glennon and Abby coach them on how to not let criticism keep you from sharing yourself with the world. For our other conversations about delight, check out: Episode 216 How to Find DELIGHT Today (and Every Day) with Ross Gay and Episode 217 Start a Daily Delight Practice with Abby, Glennon & Amanda. corook TikTok: @hicorook IG: @hicorook Olivia B...

Jun 09, 202322 min

217. Start a Daily Delight Practice with Abby, Glennon & Amanda!

Glennon’s hilarious misunderstanding with a TSA agent she’ll remember 'til she dies; Amma’s delightful response when Abby rushed onto the soccer field; and the delight Amanda experienced the day she switched it all up by not freaking out. Today’s episode was inspired by our conversation with Ross Gay – if you missed it, check out: Episode 216 How to Find DELIGHT Today (and Every Day) with Ross Gay. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/priva...

Jun 08, 202356 minSeason 1Ep. 217

216. How to Find DELIGHT Today (and Every Day) with Ross Gay

Ross Gay teaches us how to notice delight and joy in our everyday lives. We discuss: concrete ways to rediscover and capture joy every day; how to rebuild your “delight muscle”; how to dissolve the myth of disconnection between us; and how to “unknow” our people so we can delight in them. About Ross: Ross Gay is an American poet, essayist, and professor committed to healing the world through observing and articulating joy, delight and gratitude. He won the National Book Critics Circle Award for ...

Jun 06, 20231 hr 4 minSeason 1Ep. 216

215. The Bravest Conversation We’ve Had: Andrea Gibson

In the conversation that’s meant the most to Glennon, Abby, and Amanda – poet and spoken word artist, Andrea Gibson makes the bravest announcement we’ve ever heard. Andrea shares how to boundlessly, relentlessly love our lives by: paying attention to the only thing we can control; letting go of living in fear; and feeling less alone and terrified through it all. CW: Discussion of suicidal ideation About Andrea: Andrea Gibson is one of the most celebrated and influential spoken word artists of ou...

Jun 01, 20232 hr 31 minSeason 1Ep. 215

214. Insecurity, Anger, ADHD & Abby’s Retirement

In today’s beautiful, vulnerable, and funny conversation, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda reveal what each feels most insecure about. Plus, Amanda connects with a member of the Pod Squad on raising a kid with ADHD and her shift that changed everything; Glennon talks about anger as a guard dog and her discovery while rock climbing on “vacation”; and Abby explains why retirement from soccer was one of the hardest times of her life and how she navigated that massive life transition. To learn more about l...

May 30, 20231 hr 7 minSeason 1Ep. 214

213. Sex Fantasies: What Do They Say About Us? with Vanessa Marin

Sex therapist Vanessa Marin is back and we’re digging into: why we’re (sadly and ironically) proven to be less likely to try new things in the bedroom the longer we’ve been partnered; how to spice up your sex life when things get bland – including how to find out and explore your sexual fantasies; how not all orgasms (even for men!) are created equal; and the TikTok sex challenges we should probably pass on. For our previous conversations with Vanessa, check out: Episode 195 Sex Talk & That Nigh...

May 25, 20231 hrSeason 1Ep. 213

212. The Pep Talk You, Your Grad & the Country Needs!

For graduates (and all of us), it’s scary and hard to know the way forward. Listen to Abby tell the Class of 2023 (and all of us) the way! Thank you to Loyola Marymount University. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

May 24, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 212

211. How to Spot a Narcissist with Caroline Strawson

Trauma therapist (and survivor of marriage to a narcissist) Caroline Strawson joins us to discuss: how to know if someone’s really a narcissist; how to know if you’re more likely to get into a relationship with a narcissist (and avoid it); strategies for parallel parenting with a narcissist; how the brain and body respond to narcissists; and how to rebuild after ending a relationship with a narcissist. CW: Abusive relationships, self harm For more related episodes, check out: Episode 170 The Mos...

May 23, 20231 hr 10 minSeason 1Ep. 211

210. Calling All Control Freaks: How to Stop Overfunctioning

In this unplanned conversation, Amanda speaks up for everyone who’s been labeled a “Control Freak” – anyone who feels like they have to hold up the entire sky for their families or businesses – when what they really want is to feel supported and safe. Amanda shares vulnerably about: how she became an overfunctioner, the blessings and curses of being one, and the practical strategies she’s using to let go – and what her partner is doing to make her feel like she can finally try to relax. If this ...

May 18, 202358 minSeason 1Ep. 210

209. How to Make Betrayal Beautiful with Maggie Smith

For the first time, Glennon requests a one-on-one with our guest – author and poet Maggie Smith – in this deeply honest conversation about: how to tell the brutal truth without betraying our people, how to reclaim ourselves after infidelity and betrayal, how the shaming of women who dare to tell their stories keeps us powerless and isolated, and how they both have embraced acceptance instead of “forgiveness.” About Maggie: Maggie Smith is the award-winning author of You Could Make This Place Bea...

May 16, 20231 hr 3 minSeason 1Ep. 209

208. Can You Find Gender IN You or Just ON You?

Glennon explains what she meant when she said, “I just can't find gender in me. I can only find it on me,” in this beautiful conversation that began with a question from a college freshman named Nick. Please revisit our conversations with ALOK here: Episode 74 ALOK: What makes us beautiful? What makes us free? and Episode 75 ALOK: How do we interrupt trauma? How do we heal? To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more abou...

May 12, 202345 minSeason 1Ep. 208

207. PSA: How to Not Be an A-hole

Today, Abby, Amanda, and Glennon learn new ways not to be assholes. In this follow up to Episode 191 Why Etiquette is B.S. & New Rules for Living, we share Pod Squad wisdom about ways we can all make the world a less annoying place. Join us as we learn how to deepen our conversations with people by not saying the first thing we think of, spreading “tell me more” energy instead of “let me tell you about me” energy, and not asking “surface” questions that aren’t surface at all. Plus, we debate hol...

May 11, 202353 minSeason 1Ep. 207

206. How to Follow the Wisdom of Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride

Embodiment teacher, Dr. Hillary McBride, joins us to discuss: what embodiment and disembodiment are; dissociation as survival response, somatophobia, and how to get more comfortable with fear. She offers concrete practices to stop blaming our bodies, and help us become attuned to our body’s messages. If you haven’t listened to Glennon’s latest episodes about her recovery journey and embodiment, check them out here: Episode 199 Why Glennon Says We Should All Be In Recovery and Episode 200 Don’t T...

May 09, 20231 hr 15 minSeason 1Ep. 206

205. Why Good Photos Make Us Feel Bad

Amanda’s epiphany on Alice’s school Picture Day about the destructive messages we’re inadvertently sending our kids; our forced pursuit of happiness in photos with our families; why family photo shoots bring out the worst in us; and why we should allow ourselves and our people to just look like we look. Check out past episodes mentioned: Episode 196 How Glennon & Abby Learned to Talk Dirty with Vanessa Marin and Episode 125 WHY ARE THERE NO PICTURES OF US?!? To learn more about listener data and...

May 04, 202346 minSeason 1Ep. 205

204. Priyanka Chopra Jonas: How to Care Less About What People Think

Priyanka Chopra Jonas dives deep into: the night she fell for Nick at the Met Gala, walking her baby through their harrowing NICU journey, her strategy to make Malti Marie think she’s cool, and why accountability is good – if we know the right people to be accountable to. About Priyanka: Priyanka Chopra Jonas is a multi-faceted talent, New York Times Best Selling Author of UNFINISHED, and one of the most recognized people in the world. She is an actor and producer, with more than sixty internati...

May 02, 20231 hr 4 minSeason 1Ep. 204

203. How to Create Your Own Belonging with Michelle Zauner

Michelle Zauner on how to begin healing our mother wounds, using her sensitivity to deepen her relationships and be a rockstar, why she’s obsessed with sheetcake and winnebagos, and why she is still “afraid of her mental health.” About Michelle: MICHELLE ZAUNER is best known as a singer and guitarist who creates dreamy, shoegaze-inspired indie pop under the name Japanese Breakfast. She has won acclaim from major music outlets around the world for releases like Psychopomp and Soft Sounds from Ano...

Apr 27, 202359 minSeason 1Ep. 203

202. Are You Being Gaslighted? with Dr. Robin Stern

What is gaslighting REALLY and what isn’t? Plus, how to know if you’re in a relationship with a gaslighter, the three types of gaslighters, and how to break free from a gaslighter and reclaim yourself. About Dr. Stern: Robin Stern, Ph.D., is the co-founder and associate director for the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and an associate research scientist at the Child Study Center at Yale. She is a licensed psychoanalyst with 30 years of experience treating individuals, couples, and familie...

Apr 25, 202358 minSeason 1Ep. 202

201. What We’re Watching, Reading & Listening to Right Now

Is the most relentless question of your day (other than what do you want for dinner?): WHAT SHOULD WE WATCH TONIGHT? Here to help. Everything we’re watching, listening to, and reading on today’s pod: Yellowjackets, Succession, Calendar Girls, 90 Day Fiancé, and so much more. Let’s start a Pod Squad list. What are you all watching / reading / listening to? P.S. Succession Spoiler Alert! Skip through from ~20:38-23:20 if you need to! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visi...

Apr 21, 202346 minSeason 1Ep. 201