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We Can Do Hard Things

Glennon Doyle and Audacywecandohardthingspodcast.com
Life is freaking hard. We are all doing hard things every single day – things like loving and losing; caring for children and parents; forging and ending friendships; battling addiction, illness, and loneliness; struggling in our jobs, our marriages, and our divorces; setting boundaries; and fighting for equality, purpose, freedom, joy, and peace. On We Can Do Hard Things, Glennon Doyle, author of UNTAMED; her wife Abby Wambach; and her sister Amanda Doyle do the only thing they’ve found that has ever made life easier: Drop the fake and talk honestly about the hard things including sex, gender, parenting, blended families, bodies, anxiety, addiction, justice, boundaries, fun, quitting, overwhelm . . . all of it. We laugh and cry and help each other carry the hard so we can all live a little bit lighter and braver, free-er, less alone.

Episodes

83. Brené Brown: What to Say to Get What You Need

1. How to know when to dig deep–and when to quit digging. 2. The greatest blocker of connection–and how to remove it. 3. How to handle our fear (without obsessively controlling our people and our environment). 4. Why we all deserve a standing ovation for navigating relationships over the past two years. About Brené: Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the...

Mar 31, 202251 minSeason 1Ep. 83

82. Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better

1. Why Hannah describes her later-in-life Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis as “an exfoliation of shame.” 2. How neurodiversity affects Hannah’s relationships–and how she connects to the world through what’s “interesting” instead of what’s “important.” 3. Hannah’s revolutionary commitment to stop using self-deprecating humor about her body, sexuality, and gender–and why we might all consider the same commitment. 4. Why it’s easier for Hannah to share her personal stories “in bulk” on stage inst...

Mar 29, 20221 hr 7 minSeason 1Ep. 82

81. Pro-Aging: Why the Best is Yet to Come with Ashton Applewhite.

1. Why we’ve been sold a lie–and the truth that we actually get happier the older we get! 2. The two most important–and shocking–predictors of aging well. 3. Busting the most prevalent misconceptions and about getting older. 4. How believing the myths about aging literally harms our health and makes us more vulnerable to the fears we hold about aging. 5. Glennon paints a mental picture of her older self–and encourages the Pod Squad to do the same. About Ashton: The author of This Chair Rocks: A ...

Mar 24, 20221 hr 9 minSeason 1Ep. 81

80. This is 46: Why I’m Pumped About Midlife

1. How Glennon is using her 46th birthday as an intermission–to slow down and decide what to bring with her into Act 2. 2. The counterculture power of knowing what is enough, and letting ourselves go. 3. The way to transition from Role Living to Soul Living–and why Glennon has Joni Mitchell on repeat. 4. The real meaning of “crisis”–and the idea that living well now means reimagining everything we learned in the first half of life. 5. Amanda’ s good news that if you don’t feel like Glennon does ...

Mar 22, 20221 hr 10 minSeason 1Ep. 80

79. The Power of Rethinking Everything with Dr. Yaba Blay

1. Why the construct of beauty is oppressive, but the essence of beauty is freedom. 2. What living with integrity looks like. 3. Why Dr. Blay doesn’t need any more allies—and what she really wants from an accomplice. 4. How “Karens” have been around for centuries—and the direct line from “Miss Anne to Karen.” 5. Dr. Blay’s greatest hope for her granddaughters—even if she doesn’t like it. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy L...

Mar 17, 20221 hr 5 minSeason 1Ep. 79

78. REGRET: What if we’d done things differently?

1. Amanda shares the biggest regret of her life: the one that still wakes her up in the middle of the night. 2. The five biggest regrets of the dying—and how to make the necessary changes to avoid them. 3. Why we should reframe regret as proof of a life well-lived. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mar 15, 20221 hr 1 minSeason 1Ep. 78

77. Double Date with Brandi & Catherine Carlile!

In this hilarious and heartwarming in-person double date with Abby and Glennon—and their dear friends and brilliant artists Brandi and Catherine Carlile—we learn: 1. Why Brandi was completely dismayed the first time she met Catherine; 2. Who made the first move—and why it made Catherine sweat; 3. All about the Carlile family compound—where they are raising their girls surrounded by family, band members, and exes; 4. How they communicate and deal with jealousy; and 5. Why Brandi believes this con...

Mar 10, 20221 hr 10 minSeason 1Ep. 77

76. Brandi Carlile: Live From My Couch!

1. The two disagreements between Brandi and Glennon that started, and cemented, their friendship. 2. Brandi’s lifelong quest to continuously “calibrate” herself so that her outsides are in tune with her insides. 3. The trait Brandi loves most about Catherine—and the sticky note on Glennon’s desk with the same message. About Brandi: Brandi Carlile is a six-time GRAMMY Award-winning singer, songwriter, performer, producer, #1 New York Times Bestselling author and activist, who is known as one of m...

Mar 08, 20221 hr 3 minSeason 1Ep. 76

75. ALOK: How do we interrupt trauma? How do we heal?

1. How do we make a new thing with our life? 2. What is your fingerprint on the world? 3. Who does history try to erase and why? 4. What does pain do to our bodies? 5 .What is our capacity for transformation? About ALOK: ALOK (they/them) is an internationally acclaimed writer, performer, and public speaker. As a mixed-media artist their work explores themes of trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017), Beyond the Gender Binary (2020), and Your Woun...

Mar 03, 202240 minSeason 1Ep. 75

74. ALOK: What makes us beautiful? What makes us free?

“The days that I feel most beautiful are the days that I am most afraid.” “What feminine part of yourself did you have to destroy in order to survive in this world?” “Why have we been taught to fear the very things that can set us free?” About ALOK: ALOK (they/them) is an internationally acclaimed writer, performer, and public speaker. As a mixed-media artist their work explores themes of trauma, belonging, and the human condition. They are the author of Femme in Public (2017), Beyond the Gender...

Mar 01, 20221 hr 5 minSeason 1Ep. 74

73. Pet Love: Are Animals the Closest We Come to Unconditional Love?

1. Amanda shares the story of Séamus, the newest addition to her family–and how he has ruined her “religion” of the spreadsheet. 2. Why Glennon says that Honey and Hattie are the only “people” who truly understand her–and what each of them teach her about love. 3. The ways we hilariously project emotions onto our pets–and how Abby has fallen for Tish’s pet hamster, Biscuit. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more abou...

Feb 24, 20221 hr 3 minSeason 1Ep. 73

72. Double Date with Megan Rapinoe & Sue Bird!

For their first (of hopefully many) podcast double dates, Abby and Glennon sit down with the icons, activists, and Olympians Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird. In this honest and hilarious conversation, we find out: 1. The delightfully awkward moment Megan and Sue first met; 2. What’s hard for each of them right now; 3. The boundaries they’re working on together; 4. How they communicate and deal with jealousy; and 5. How they help each other show up in the world as champions for change. About Sue: Rega...

Feb 22, 20221 hr 19 minSeason 1Ep. 72

71. Be Messy, Complicated & Afraid–and Show Up Anyway

Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda continue their conversation about Glennon’s eating disorder relapse and the Next Right Thing for their family. CW // eating disorders To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 17, 202250 minSeason 1Ep. 71

70. My Hardest Thing

Today, Glennon shares about her recent eating disorder relapse. If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today. If it triggers: Skip today. CW // eating disorders To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 15, 202259 minSeason 1Ep. 70

69. Pet Peeves: What Do Our Biggest Annoyances Say About Us?

1. Glennon explains her “soundaries”—and why a lack of audiorial yield in public places is her biggest peeve. 2. Abby’s struggle, as a bonus parent, adjusting to a kid-filled life with zero personal space and personal property boundaries. 3. Why Amanda is allergic to the word “fine”—and why she’s stopped saying “I didn’t have time.” To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastch...

Feb 10, 202259 minSeason 1Ep. 69

68. SARAH PAULSON IS PLAYING GLENNON ON TV!!

1. Glennon reenacts her first emotional and hilarious email exchange with Sarah Paulson about the Untamed TV show. 2. Sarah contemplates how she will prepare for the role of Glennon–and why she’s “never been more excited about anything truly ever. ” 3. Glennon, Sarah and Abby discuss who will play Abby–and how they will recreate the “There She Is” moment. About Sarah: Sarah Paulson’s acting work includes lead roles in FX’s anthology series "American Horror Story,” and playing Marcia Clark in "Th...

Feb 08, 20221 hr 7 minSeason 1Ep. 68

67. How to Get More Joy with Martha Beck

1. Why it’s important to prioritize our own needs, wants, and feelings–and how that creates freedom and peace for those we love. 2. What Glennon says was the hardest thing about telling her kids that Craig and she were getting a divorce–and how truth telling frees us all. 3. Martha’s helpful strategy for how to choose freedom over fear when we’re faced with a tough decision. About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard deg...

Feb 03, 202250 minSeason 1Ep. 67

66. How to Come Home to Yourself with Martha Beck

1. How do we tap back into living by our inner compass after living by consensus and following outer voices for so long? 2. What Martha said to Glennon and Abby when they told her they were in love but scared to move forward—and how that advice changed their lives. 3. How to make a plan to cultivate joy when it feels like you are army-crawling through life. About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social sci...

Feb 01, 202259 minSeason 1Ep. 66

65. How Do We Make–and Keep–Good Friends?

1. How chronic social isolation throughout the pandemic has impacted our friendships–and why that’s affecting our mental health and cravings for connection. 2. Glennon, Amanda, and Abby each make a Next Right Thing plan for prioritizing friendship in their lives. 3. How we grieve a friendship ending when there’s no cultural template or ritual to acknowledge that deep loss. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about...

Jan 27, 20221 hr 8 minSeason 1Ep. 65

64. FRIENDSHIP: What is it and why do we need it now more than ever?

1. Why the connection of friendship is emerging as the single best thing for your wellness—and three things that define a healthy friendship. 2. How friendship has changed for Abby since retiring from soccer—and why Glennon fears commitment in friendships more than other relationships. 3. How to recognize ambivalent relationships—and why they can be just as bad for us as toxic ones. CW // eating disorders To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.co...

Jan 25, 20221 hrSeason 1Ep. 64

63. How to Live a Little Happier with Dr. Laurie Santos

1. The simple exercises Laurie conducts with her students at Yale to help them reset their brains and restructure their days in order to access happiness. 2. Why being “time famished” is one of the most common obstacles to happiness, the signals our bodies give us that we are starved of unstructured time, and what we can do to build more of it. 3. How understanding that our brains are wired as “comparison machines” incompatible with happiness can lead to improved wellbeing. About Laurie: Dr. Lau...

Jan 20, 202241 minSeason 1Ep. 63

62. The Big Lies & the Truth About Happiness with Dr. Laurie Santos

1. One easy thing we can do to increase our happiness by 1% when we’re feeling tired and overwhelmed. 2. Our misconception that happiness is about our circumstances–the next promotion, the new relationship–and the reality that often people with fantastic circumstances are miserable. 3. Why our emotions flow directly from our thoughts–and how we can improve our wellbeing by changing our mind’s interpretation of events. About Laurie: Dr. Laurie Santos is Professor of Psychology and Head of Sillima...

Jan 18, 20221 hr 7 minSeason 1Ep. 62

61. Are Your Friendships Draining or Charging You? with Luvvie Ajayi Jones

1. How do we build a squad of friends–people we can trust our truth and imperfection with, and who take responsibility for one another’s care? 2. How to know when it’s time to let a friendship go–and how we release one another without the hard feelings. 3. Why when we have a problem trusting others, it sometimes has to do with a lack of trust in ourselves. 4. Why Luvvie says her friends have rewired her brain, and answers the question: Can Black and white women really be friends? About Luvvie: L...

Jan 13, 202250 minSeason 1Ep. 61

60. Telling the Truth of Who We Are with Luvvie Ajayi Jones

1. A hilarious, profound take on judging people, and why Luvvie’s telling the world–and has often told Glennon–to: “Fix your face.” 2. How to prepare for hard conversations with those we love–including the lists Luvvie brings to those talks that help keep her calm and vulnerable. 3. The importance of sitting with the fear behind the questions: “Who am I when I am not giving something to somebody?” and “What is my worth when I have nothing to offer?” 4. How we can affirm our teen Troublemakers to...

Jan 11, 20221 hr 3 minSeason 1Ep. 60

59. Be Still: How to Listen to That Something Inside That Always Knows

1. What if we stop trying to figure out whether our feelings and intuition are “right” or “wrong”– and instead, just acknowledge them as real–and move toward them? 2. How Glennon is experiencing a little shift in peace, joy, and non-reactivity through her newfound relationship with meditation. 3. Why a lot of our suffering exists in the space between the Knowing and the Doing–and how life is at its best and most exciting when we shorten that gap. To learn more about listener data and our privacy...

Jan 06, 202246 minSeason 1Ep. 59

58. New Year, Same You: Good News About Bad January Branding

1. Why do we spend our lives trying to become what our culture ascribes as “good” only to burn ourselves out, wake up, and realize: I thought it would all be more beautiful than this? 2. Why Glennon says that stillness has been her greatest teacher–and how she was able to find it in her most rock bottom moments. 3. How listening for and committing to the next right thing then leads us to the next thing–and why we should rush towards whatever looks and feels like freedom. To learn more about list...

Jan 04, 20221 hrSeason 1Ep. 58

57. Walking Our People Through Hard Things with Kate Bowler

1. What we should STOP saying to people who are struggling—and what to say, or do, instead. 2. How Kate received the support she needed because people were willing to embarrass themselves in their attempts to show up—and why we shouldn’t be scared of doing it wrong. 3. Kate offers some words to a Pod Squader feeling anticipatory grief—and how to accept that we can’t always make it okay for the people we love. About Kate: Kate Bowler, PhD is a New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and ...

Dec 30, 202141 minSeason 1Ep. 57

56. What to Do with Our Short, Precious Life with Kate Bowler

1. Kate describes the overwhelming feeling of love—not anger—that she felt when she was sure she was near death. 2. Why it’s time we throw out expressions like “Everything is possible” and “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger,” and rewrite our cultural cliches. 3. Why Kate delights in celebrating the holidays—and how to survive the holiday season when there’s grief and loss and fear in all of us. 4. Kate and Glennon bond over their love for swear words—and how using them is a reflection of...

Dec 28, 20211 hr 6 minSeason 1Ep. 56

55. Eff Perfection: Let’s Rest in the Rubble Together

1. What if we deleted the picture in our head of how it’s “supposed to be,” and looked at “what is” right now, as enough? 2. What makes a good apology–and why we shouldn't pretend that it is possible to reorder what we did to people. 3. Glennon describes “the ache”–and how it’s really love, coming and going, and making life more beautiful. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://po...

Dec 23, 202153 minSeason 1Ep. 55

54. Unexpected Joy: How do we redefine success so we can find joy?

1. Glennon, Abby, and Amanda share how opening up and being vulnerable on the podcast has changed their lives. 2. What your preparation style says about your personality—and how some people bring their “magic” while others bring index cards. 3. Abby recalls “the biggest bomb of her life”—and why she was nervous to join Glennon and Amanda on We Can Do Hard Things. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad c...

Dec 21, 202156 minSeason 1Ep. 54