Vulnerability Opens Up Opportunity

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all parts of it. And if we're gonna talk about shedding the light, that means we have to shut it on the good and the bad. Because if you want to be better and you want to do better, you have to be able to see better. Right, That's like how we established the vision for our lives, the vision for us to come. Shoot, that's how we see. So that's how this podcast came to be. Um, you can get it everywhere as far as on all platforms you

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tell somebody and tell somebody. Look, this is my dream and I'm busting my butts that we can get the subscriber list up so we can make that money so I can keep this going because in my vision, the world is gonna Vitamin D. But I can't do this without chewing me Like we're working together on this, okay, uh,

and it's manifesting. I know it's possible. In fact, you know, usually this is where I'm saying, you know, without further Ado goes to that dose of vitamin D. But I'm gonna get straight to it because since we're talking about vitamin D. You know what, I was talking to my baby last night. Now I don't have any kids, but when I'm talking about my baby, my nephews. I have two nephews, uh l J. And I'm called up to my Jerry Berry, James and Jeremy. But l J and

Jerry Berry. L J was my first baby, and so now he's fourteen, so you know, I'm adjusted to the you know stuff like he ignores me. But you know, I don't get the call back like I usually get back, you know. But it's interesting that when you stay open to receive those relationships that they they evolved. But I sell that to say I have we've been playing tag or I guess I've been hounding him waiting for him

to call me back. And you know, if you got if your mother or a proud auntie, your uncle or at least auntie, I can speak for myself, you know, dumb hype. Dumb hype because if you're inside to call me, but anywhere, let me get to us. So I was talking to my baby last night and he said, Auntie, he came out of nowhere with this. He was like, you know, this idea just came to mind that somebody

was like, um, Dawn day, that's what Auntie. And he was like, yeah, because you're gonna be really famous one day. And I just I just said, thank you so much, nephew for speaking life over me. And I said I'll receive it on shot that I received it in the name. And I guess, you know, usually get all emotional and sentimental, but this part, it was just so amazing to see that my babies believe in me. And I feel like, if you're going out to your dream, like that's how

a parent it should be. It should be something that everybody recognizes. And it isn't an affirmation that somebody is giving you. It's more like a confirmation. But I felt really good because it's gonna happen. And I guess if you checked out a previous episode I put up, it was entitled do you Really Want It? And I was talking about kind of like everything of how I got to vitamin D right now and when we have to really make the decision about what we want in our life.

You know, I feel like oftentimes like we say we want something, we say we want to do something, but then when we look in the mirror, the person looking back at us isn't matching the things that we said. Now, what are the traditional excuses? Um, you're waiting for somebody else to give you an opportunity. UM, you're waiting for this opportunity to present itself to you. UM or you're just waiting for the perfect time to start. And I can't reiterate this enough. The perfect time is to start now.

The perfect time for the opportunity is for you to create one um and build your door, create your seat at the table, and you do it by taking one step in front of the other, put in one foot in front of the other. Buch leads me to my next thing. You know, I talked about this as well um previous episodes about this whole proning process and UM, how do people and things are just falling away and just get into a space where I'm not holding onto things?

And I guess I want that for you for the season that we're stepping into, not just season of of literally of of of the weather, but this season of life. Like I feel like we need to know the seasons that we're in like, are you on the planting season, are you in the needing season of your soil? Are you in the watering season? And are you in the

reaping seasons of your life? Um? And that goes to whatever your vision was, whether it's your career, whether it's your relationship, whether it's your kids, um, whether it's a goal, whether it's school. I don't care what it is, but understanding what that season is, um, but making it apparent about what it is you want. So, as I was thinking about that proning process, I know that my dreams

are manifesting. That's why I'm not so gun hole about things that aren't working, because as I've matured, it just lived a little bit more. Ain't nobody trying to carry nothing else they already got to carry. And what that means is is that if it's not serving in the betterment of me, if it's not serving in the betterment

of you, peace And it's no shade. It's just because literally, what we're asking for more in life, when we're asking to be elevated, when we're asking to be higher, you realize that it's harder to get higher when you're carrying

so much. That's weighing you down. And that's how I know what I know what I know with going through the proning process and not not tripping over relationships that are dissolving, not tripping on opportunities that I felt or thought that we're mine, that seems as if they're fleeting because what's mine is mine because I see what God is doing, because I see that I'm putting one foot

in front of the other and dreams are manifesting. When I get the confirmation from my fourteen year old nephew that lives in Michigan talking about his auntie and said that he just saw, he was like, see, you're gonna be real big Amen. Amen. And I think also I just want to say this too, like when we're asking ourselves do we really want it right? And we're looking at this proning process. You got a vision board, I

got a vision board. I think oftentimes we're kind of duels us A little bit is that we call them vision boards, but I feel like they're more of like timeline boards. I was talking to my good friend Shallow. You may have heard me talk about her on the previous episode Boys Set on the phone a couple of days ago, and I said, why is it that people call these vision boards? Were feeling like they need to have a new board every year. I said, that's not

a vision board, that's a timeline board. I created my vision board on the last one I did it. Well, I didn't do one last year, so it's probably will be two years come this December October because I did it after the moon of one. The new moon was coming about, and you know they say when you do stuff on a new moon, that allows for things to grow with a lot of prosperity. Like when I was younger, my mother used to always tread my sister and our hair um according to the moon, and you know that

was the whole logic behind that. But anyway, I digress. I'm saying all that to say is that, uh, I'm realizing even this one and a half years later last time I did the vision board, things are still manifesting. And perhaps sometimes that we put too much pressure thinking that it has to happen at a certain time. Chick, be easy. You didn't say you want to see you set the vision, so the pieces have to come together.

I'm gonna say this right now. One of the things that I have on my vision board is to be a women in media, and the women of color are syndicated how to read. That's what I'm doing with this podcast. I know, Dawn, who are you to be this bold to say this? I know I am, I am, and I want to just encourage you to be that bold. But you know, as I told you on this podcast of how I'm learning me and understanding different facets and different seeing different size of me, I'm working on this

level of vulnerability, vulnerability. You know, I've always been that person that somebody says, darn, you're strong, Darn you handle it. It's kind of like that thing You've gotta get it done because it's me. But I realized that why I thought that this whole vulnerability of opening up, uh, this area of calling like I don't have anything figured out, I realized that there's actually strength in that. And um, I had to tap into a Brune Brown because I

told God, I said, I want to be there. I'm telling myself I want to be there to be open to more things. Because when you're vulnerable, you allow yourself to be open to receive, to release, and also um to connect. So what did I say to receive, to release and to connect because it's just open, and it's just like anything, when you allow things to be open, you can you can roll right through it. And one area that I think that UM, that my vulnerability has

always I guess been open with us. My dreams are my dreams, UM. I've always been bold by saying what I want, UM, whether it's moving across the country, whether it's asking for what I feel I deserve or acknowledging or requesting what it is I'm worth. But I look at other areas of my life where I feel as though no ability could really support that UM. Whether it is when I first moved in my apartment, I said about an age of thirty, I said, I'm gonna have

my own apartment to myself. Well, I got in that apartment that pertman didn't have any furniture, so I literally slept on the floor in the comforter, and so people like, well, hey, don why don't you just say anything. I guess for me, a part of it was like, well, I put myself in that situation, so I need to figure it out. But what happens is that when you don't allow where you don't share with people what's going on, you don't leave room for people to support. So as I was

thinking about burnet brown um. She describes vulnerability as the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. Hence open right and now just so that I'm falling along with my words. If we're talking about vitamin D and shutting light, things have to be open so the lights can get in. Hello, dawing day okay um. And she describes it as this unstable feeling we get when we step out of our comfort zone or do something that forces us to loosen control. Did

you catch it? Let me go again? Unstable feeling we get when we step out of our comfort zone or do something that forces us to loosen control. I see how that could be have been better when it comes to my relationships both into minted platonic um. I see how that can even be better with myself putting myself

out there being more daring. But I think the reason or what has prevented I would say that got in a way is when we talk about these myths to thinking about vulnerability, Like one a lot of folks for like it's weakness, you know, and that's usually like maybe you've experienced it about telling somebody first that you like them, or you know, being the one that's going in for the kiss, or um perhaps even asking to love one of like how their health is doing, asking somebody else

to do that. I don't care what it is. You put yourself out on frustrate, right, but it's only there the kid you seek to get your answers. When we talk about being out of comfort zone, when you talk about and I said, used this loosely about putting yourself on blast, but it's putting yourself out there to be seen. Catch it another one, not this. I'm gonna go into this one because I feel like this woulda be me.

I don't do vulnerability. Now. I don't know if I ever said like I don't do it, but it's the thing of m probably in the sense of not opening it up and asking for help and support that that kind of shut down some doors. And also um a backfire because it was almost a sense that I wasn't connecting UM. And I think that's one of the things

that's so important we talk about vulnerability. You gotta allow yourself to be seen, you know, and it's a weight that you carry when you're constantly trying to protect yourself or comfort yourself. Take it off, Take it off. I said this before and I'm gonna say it again. Gami said on red table Tall, nobody can beat you with your own truth. What's your truth? Then this as a third one, here we can go at it alone. Like I said, the second one, probably the third one. It's

always this thing like I can handle it now. I think a lot of it has to do with nurture and nature. And I say that because I grew up in a single player a hound fold. Like my mother was the epitome of strength that I've seen, because here she is, she raised two kids, she had a three year old and three month old, and then your husband dies and then a year or two after that you

battle cancer. So this whole idea of having to take care ofself and having to get done how in the sense how that vulnerability start doing me that I mentioned in step two or the second one, is that I didn't make room for somebody to come support. And that's why I want you to make room. After songs, we're going after these dreams thinking we have to do it alone, or being in this sense of having to have all

the control of it. Well, what did I say that vulnerability is vulnerability is you do something that forces you to loose in control. There's the things like when you think about a company, you think about playing a position, when you think about connecting, you have to open it up so somebody can step in. Now, I know, I think I'm a bad mamajamma, and in many retrospects, I consider myself a god. But I realized that other things have been placed in front so that can support me

on my way. So when we go with this, I can do it alone. Aspect, you're literally putting up a wall and not letting anyone in. You're literally shutting down that communication. We are here to communicate. Heck, the very thing eighty percent of your body is based on the communication of two hydrogen molecules and one oxygen because we're made eighty percent of water. So at what point do we step into life feeling like we gotta stop communicating? Heck,

let me tell you something right now. Just when I was talking to Pronou, I'm gonna get real. I'm gonna call names, but I'm just gonna keep it real. Um, one of my what I want to say friends, But I'm like, I don't know, do you call it a friendship. You know, sometimes we hold on to two friendships just because and it's just like we gotta get to a point in normalize and the fact that you I'll grow people and there's no animosity and making it seem like

it's okay. But I say that because we talked about this whole realms of communication. And while I'm talking about communication with self and open of vulnerability, I want to just give an example what happens when you block off

communication and you gotta be aware to see it. So like I was saying somebody I went to college with when I said, it was like my best friends, like my brother, like you know, like that was like it was us And I don't know, I can't call it what happened over the years, but what I will say is this is that we got to a point of just even a bump in the heads. And Um, everybody's not a great communicator, and I get that. I understand that, Like I probabe myself on being a fantastic communicator. Um,

that's my strength, that is with my gift. That's where it's at. And this friend or I should say former friend, doesn't really have the means to communicate like that. But what I realized is that when we get about I don't want to force anything, and that's what I want to encourage with you is I'm talking about these dreams, as we talk about these timeline boards, as we talked about this communication relationship. We're at a headbut I'm saying, do you want to talk about it? You haven't called

me back, I'm not carrying it. If you're not picking up the phone line to receive me, there's nothing to be sent. So what I'm saying is doesn't mean that I'm not open, but you have to get to a point with yourself of what you have to stand on your own feet about your integrity with self. What I have liked to to resolve this relationship yet, but if you're not ready, you're not ready. And we see that in so many cases of even relationships with people that you with. We have to get out of this whole

idea of trying to force stuff. Now, that part is not vulnerability. Vulnerability is saying what it is that you want, being open to receive, but understanding that loosening that control that if it doesn't go your way, one you're gonna be okay, and two you're gonna keep it moving because even with the communication, communication don't start with yourself. You don't see it in these hydrogen molecules in your body block all right, I'm not banging with oxygen today. No,

they worked together. That's part of the survival. And it's like, as we come together, we have to work together. But as I'm talking about this friend, I can't force you to want to communicate. And I realize it's just going back to the promise in the vision because if you're there, you're there, and if it works, it works. But if you weren't stepping up to the plate to do it,

there's nothing that can be done here. And I think that's what I think is one of the key things that I want to get across of when we're talking about vulnerability and opening up for the whole point of it all. Because I knew reaching out to him that perhaps he wouldn't have anything to say, but I said, let me put myself on fund street because I know the healing that I want to do with myself. So let me just say this again, we're talking about not

using your vulnerability. Do you know how how you do anything is how you do everything? I tell Jeremiah, Jeremiah, all this all the time. If I am stopping my vulnerability of not being able to communicate with somebody else outside of me, do you understand how that backfires and hits me where actually vulnerability will do me well, I

won't even know. I won't even understand in the sense I won't even effectively communicate because I won't even know what I'm feeling because we are made of these materials and these molecules that are meant to communicate. Hen So why they always say you gotta go with it for your dreams. Huh? But here's the thing. If it doesn't flow, it can't go. So yeah, this was just about dawn

walking into fact, reaffirming the aspect of dreams. Um two, Understanding how big vulnerability plays a factor in that, being open to see it being up and to understand what it is you want, and really understanding that the greater the risk, the greater the reward. Are you ready to be vulnerable with yourself? Are you really ready to sit down and be honest with yourself about what you really want? If it frustrated, I bet there's some miscommunication going on.

I think it's time to have a conversation with yourself. I think it's time to be real, to understand what it is that you wanted, what it is that you don't want. Because yet again, when it comes down to do you really want it? When you're saying the things that you want in your life and when you're looking in the mirror and the person looking back at you it's and matching up, then what is it what you can say, Hey, Dawn, I want to be this multimillionaire.

Hey Dawn, I want to owe my own media company. What do they say? Faith with our works? Instead, you don't have to wait for it to materialize. See so you think it's so you are, you have to already be it. I'm not waiting for the million dollars to come into my account for me to start acting like it. I'm already imagining the lifestyle that i want, the type of trips that I'm taking, the reach that I'm gonna have,

just everything. It's already here. But it takes a level of vulnerability to even reach outside of that, to even see outside of that. So perhaps it's also blanketed it with the level of grace. Have your your vulnerability, but then blanketed with grace, Grace to understand the season that you are in your life right now, Grace to understand that you have to open up in order for things to come in, Grace to relieve yourself with this whole idea that, um, you don't have to hold on or

horder things to make sure that it's yours. You know, when it's real, you don't have to hold onto it. It's gonna come back. I expensed that a couple of times, even with UM working with individuals just coming up a radio, people not wanting me to be involved with different things because it wasn't aligned with what they were doing, or

perhaps um, my attention was going elsewhere. But it's like when you really love on somebody, when you really care about somebody, when you truly want the best, I don't have to hold onto you. I don't have to hold you on like a leash, because one if you're meant to be there, you'll be there. And if it's meant to be it's going to work out. So that's where I want to work at. UM, that's why I want to be at because this whole thing about self sabotage, say,

it's real, almost self sabotaged myself the other day. Um, you know how I told you that I study at the Groundlings, So you've heard me say this before. The Grounding is one of the best things I've ever did in my life. Um, when I talk about vulnerability, I'm exposing myself every time that I get in front of there with performers. But the whole idea of the whole yes, And so in the program, I finished the core track. But now we get into a point where it's like

the performance track. This is one time for the big girls. And when I say big girls, I mean for the girls get on stage. And then perhaps if you're granted because of your talent and because of you're you're resources to far relationships, you may be granted to be a spot. But even before that, I had to say this classes online through zoom and we're doing monologues and do you know, do you know they had through a suggestion out there and I think I was unfamiliar. But the first time

I can't my my webcam got disconnected. And the second time because I got uncomfortable and they throughout the suggesting to know that I cut it off and I wasn't gonna go back in and I'm in this whole emotion right now where I'm trying to figure out my level of descernment, like what's fear? And one am I sensing like something that is for me and not for me? And I think we have to go through our levels of meditation to understand it, to hear ourselves because we

got to be in tune. Okay. So I was sitting and I was like, I ain't supposed to be in this class, but not realizing it was fear because everybody in that class is better than me. And I say that, and I use that loosely. I said that because it's based on experience. But guess what, if you're trying to be a team and you're five, you better hang out with the teens, right. So that's why I'm in the class. But I was like, Dawn, this is what you want doing.

This is what you've always dreamed of to be a performer. During Growlings Dawn Improv, it's helping you with your podcast Dawing Improv. Grownlings is helping you with your voice hovers auditions. Dawn Improv Growlings are helping you with their and TV shows. During Improv, Groundings is helping you with your everyday life and communication. You're gonna tell me you're gonna self sabotage. What's wrong with you? But why? Why do I feel like I'm not the only person that's ever did that

with your self sabotage with huh what you're wasting time on? Huh? How did you strike yourself out of our opportunity? Huh? Well, I'm so grateful. I'm to teach you to class. She email me, she said, hey, it's okay. I said something like, oh my router or something got jacked up. But I got back on there and I showed up for myself. Now, one of the things that I had to congratulate on to give a pat on the back is because I came back. But I also didn't look at myself with disgust.

That's why I said that even with the whole pillar of vulnerability, how you have to blanket it with grace. One, I had to be honest with myself. I said, done, where you're feeling a little insecure, I know, Remember this is the big thing because this is Dawn being strong. Dawn, you know doing, you got this, But guess way, you gotta check yourself before you wreck yourself. Dawn, I must have got my tailback on there, and I want to

encourage you. So I experienced it too, of not always feeling it as confident, not always be the top person in the room, and I want to make sure that I get in more situations like that. So I did my monologue. Was it all together? No? And I was. I was able to be open with and I was like, oh my gosh, I felt so uncomfortable. Oh my gosh, I felt so naked. And the level of support I had people coming up, Oh, that's what happened to me when I were my first um amount of log But

here's the key. That's what happens when you're vulnerable. Vulnerability allows for that communication to take place. Vulnerability allows for us to attract, to connect and say, oh, I'm just like you, you just like me, we can do this together. That's the connecting. So when I decide to come forth and be like, okay, this is how I really felt.

And as I was saying, I felt so egy because I was like, oh, I didn't know, but it felt good and it's gonna make me better because I'm gonna be great and if I'm taking this to the moon and the stars. This is only the beginning of the level of vulnerability that needs to be seen. So I want to make sure that you understand that it has to be the same with you. Go out there and get it for yourself. Go out there and do it for you, because you deserve that, and I want more

for you. Okay, my nephew believes in me. He said, I'm gonna be a big star. Yeah, both of my babies. Um, So I want to know if you're gonna believe in yourself. Hey, listen, you don't have to answer and tell me that. You ain't even gotta scream at the screen or to speak. You just look at the mirror and you tell me what do you see? And maybe that's a good way to uh motivating inspire yourself. Do you see what I see? I see greatness, I see abundance. I see blessings over

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