Vitamin D Advice Letters

like me, and oftentimes giving off inspirational insights. And on this episode, I decided to go back and dig into my email back okay, where I am answering questions from listeners who need advice on love, life, career, relationship, any aspect, just as a means to gain more insight about who they are, the decisions they're making, and where they're headed to go. So I'm gonna keep it real. I tell people all the time, I am an aries. I'm gonna

give you a straight shot. I'm a straight shooter because I want you to be the best and realizing when we talk about Vitamin D it's about shutting like on the good and the bad, because when you can see the way, you can be the way. Okay, let me stop. It's time to dig in this Vitamin d email bag. So, without further ado, it's time for your dose or doses a vitamin damin y right with me and get excited. All right, So it's time to dig into our email bag subject how do I be okay with just me?

Dear Dawn, I'm a twenty seven year old woman living in Arizona, and I have an issue with self motivation and trusting myself. I've always been a people pleaser. As long as I have people around me, I tend to use those around me to find purpose my feelings, and even platonic love for them keeps me moving. If I try thinking about being my own person and following your path where I live for myself or by myself, I

get extremely unmotivated and depressed. I recognize that this is an issue with codependence, but the thing is, I'm just paralyzed with fear wherever I think about moving forward or a spiral into a dark spot. I'm wondering what advice you have regards to getting to know yourself and being okay with being yourself. First of all, thank you, thank

you for taking the time to write this letter. Thank you for having the courage to seek yourself and then thank you for acknowledging that you would like to do right by yourself, and you said it and you identified it in this letter. Their s fear far is coming at you in different ways, and I think it's a fear of loving yourself. Do you love yourself? Because I asked that, because when you love yourself, you do right by yourself, You take care of yourself, you spend time

with yourself. You essentially want to be with yourself. Now, you didn't necessarily point out any way of you wanting to hate yourself. But I'm reading this letter and I see you know that you're running, and I only can wonder is what are you running from? Because as we exist on this earth, this time, this finite time, we have to realize and honor the life that we have on it, and that means to cherish it. And sometimes when we look at fear, fear is false evidence appearing real.

You know, we're running away from something that is unrealistic. And when I say unrealistic, something that doesn't exist. There's no point proof that you will get a received or guaranteed outcome. And it reminds me of a song with N. D R. It's called private party. And it's time for you to learn to spend time with yourself, to love on yourself, because your dependence on your happiness should never

be from what you're getting from someone else's cup. You gotta speak life in to yourself, and that's gonna call you to stand in the merrit each day and to acknowledge and say I love you, I see you, and I love you. Because when you love on something, like I mentioned, you cherish it right, you're allowed to grow. And So one thing that I found that was so interesting, and I think we oftentimes do it. I'm not gonna say this is just you, is that we look for

others as a source of inspiration and motivation. Now, other people and and and different books and different programs should be an extension. But when we talk about self love, when we talk about joy, and I noticed I didn't say happy. Now, sometimes we will revert to the whole notion of the term of saying happy. But there's a difference. Happiness fleets, joy resides, and I need joy to reside. And you actually learned that from the grounds shout out

to them from my improvt. But what happens is that when you have joy and resides in you. No matter what person steps away, what other situations or surroundings that you remove yourself from, the joy still resides inside of you and therefore becomes an extension of the overflow. And so you realize that joy isn't something that you can contain. We see it all the time, whether we see it on a talk show a game show. When we see somebody just said he has to a marriage proposal, relationship,

it bursts out. It's it's like a light. You know, the sun and I've said this before doesn't ask permission to shine. Neither should you, and neither should your joy. Your joy should not be contained based on your proximity of someone else or another situation. So how do you find it? India are said it have a private party with yourself. You need to start journaling and figuring out what makes you happy. See, you're a diligent worker for someone else, but what about being a servant to yourself.

You deserve to be served and nobody can come to fill your cup up with you, because remember you are the source that's working with this overflow. So when it comes down to being an extremely unmotivated and you're feeling depressed, you have to realize and you have to dig and not why am I feeling this way? Why is it that I'm not worthy to be celebrated? Why is it that I have to look with outside rather than going

with him? So I want to add on some meditation with that, because you're okay with just being who you are, But you gotta ask yourself do you love yourself? But more importantly, do you want to? Because this life is a journey and we're gonna go on to different processes how to move forward and how to acknowledge things. But you gotta want it. You have to want your best

life as bad as you want to breathe. And you gotta understand that when we're seeking out here to get our best life, it's not something that just falls into our lafe. You living your best life is a choice. It is a decision that you need to make. What say you, this is not a moment of badgering on yourself. I don't care how old you are. What I'm more concerned with, and please as me, is that you've identified something that you want to be better at. And that's

what we got to understand with life. This isn't about be having a perfect destination. But this is about enjoying, understanding, and living throughout the journey. They're going to be ups and downs. They're going to be moments where you hit a roll block where you feel confused. But as long as you find the love within yourself, please don't tell

me nothing is impossible. And you'll realize that once you step in and loving yourself, that you've seen the light that no matter what dark spot, that you can fathom to find yourself. And you know what the light looks like. There's one thing to be in a room and not to know that the lights are off, But my goodness, when the lights are on, you'll never go to another dark room again. Do you hear what I'm saying? So?

How do you be okay with just you speak life over yourself until it bursts out of joy, out of your eyes, out of your ears. Every extension of you should be all about loving you. I'm excited for your journey. I'm excited for your decision of acknowledgement and saying that I'm ready to do the work. Well, I guess what. You don't have to outsource anyone. It starts with you. Wake up every day and say I love you. That's it.

Just start there, say I love you, and I promise you more good things and abundance is going to be on your way. All right, all right, let's move on to the next letter subject. Is it okay to just be normal? But dear Dawn, when I was growing up, I always assumed that I was meant for something great. I'm now guessing this is just from my exposure to movies and books. Also, I'm fairly certain most people feel

like this when they are younger. Anyway, after thirty five years of life and moving around the world, finally settled in Germany three years ago, I have never found that thing that sparked something in me. A couple of times I thought I was close, but I guess I was wrong. I'm not at the point where I just exist. I work a regular, full time job, I have a significant other, I have pets and hobbies. Nothing really gets me out of bed in the morning except continuing to exist. Always

thought or hoped life will be more than this. Was I wrong? Listen to the show and you talk about following your dream, But what if you don't have a dream, And I don't know if you want a dream is there something wrong with just existing, neither harming nor helping anyone? Hmmm. This was real, even down to the subject of the lever. The first thing that stood out to me is that you said, is it okay to just be normal? M

What is normal? And what does that mean? The reason why I want to say normal, by the defines of which you presented to me, I'm gonna say no. And I say that because, as you said, and I quote, I always assumed that I was meant for something great. Mm hmm. I don't know about you, but I often don't see great and normal and the same sentence, wow, yeah, No, I just don't. And you talked about the fact that, um, perhaps you got this because you watched movies and now

that you're grown up. Now, see, that's where I find that that's the issue, or oftentimes that's the concern with the problem, is that we're forgetting to have that connection of who we were when we were a child. Hear me out. You know that when you were a child, you believe that anything was possible. That was your magic, that was your superpower. When you watch those movies and you read those books, you got back to the excitement and see with that excitement. That's how you find your purpose.

Now you go back and you say, hey, Dawn, is there anything wrong with just this thing? Neither harming nor helping. Yes, stream problem. It's a stream level of disrespect. And I'm not talking about to me because listen, whether you go out there and besides you live your best life, it will not affect my day to day. And I don't say that to sound disrespectful. I'm keeping it real. I can't beg you to be great. I can't want a

better life for you more than what you want. But I'll tell you this, there's more, because at one point in your life you said you knew you were meant

for something great. There's this movie, a Disney animated film I saw called Onward, and the whole premise of this film was all about the connection of being a child where anything was possible, How you had to follow your gut, how you had to go off to your instincts, how this land that existed in so much of magic, people got so used to things being easy and being comfortable that they forgot the superpower that they had inside of them. What do I mean by that? You had fairies driving

motorcycles you had wizards using light switches. Okay, how am I making this correlation? Fairies fly wizards, they can zap lights, they can start fires with the flick of their wand yet outsourcing other means. But guess what, they lost the connection of who they are. They lost the imagination of what resides in them. And because of the fact that you said when you were younger, you knew that you

were supposed to be great. And while your proximity of your environment maybe didn't allow you to be on that plane in that moment, it didn't allow for you to be sailing that ship. You had images, whether they were presented it with words, with with actual visual pictures or movies, or with my could be And you said, you know what that could be me? So now I ask you why not you? You made a point to mention after

thirty five years age ain't nothing but a number. I don't care if you were forty five when you wrote in here and I quote, nothing really gets me out of bed in the morning except continuing to exist. Mm hmmm, what is life if you're not living in Remember I talked about before, I said, um, you gotta find your joy. And you know, children have joy and when you realize that life is all about having the heart, the mind, the capacity. And when I say capacity, I'm talking about

utilizing the imagination of a child. Because there are no limits, there are no borders. Why are you putting orders on yourself? Yes, there is something wrong with just existing because you have greatness inside of you. You can't be ordinary when you're supposed to be extraordinary. Who are you not to be? I dare you to be great? Not for my sake, because again this will not affect my everyday life, but for you. Because you deserve to get out that bed

because the sun is shining. You deserve to get out that bed because you know somebody loves you. You deserve to get out that bed because you're excited about something that you're going to create. You deserve to get out that bed because you might be healing someone else's life. You deserve to get out that bad because because because just because you deserve to get out that bad because you are important and you got to establish that and

understand that that you are more. You gotta understand and established that that you are worth more than just existing. You deserve to live and I want that for you, So said okay to just be normal, No way, Jose. I want you to get back to that in the mind of the child. I want you to get back to that thing that excites you. And that's where you're gonna find your purpose and you're gonna realize that purpose beats purpose. And guess what that sources you. That source

is that child that resides inside of you. That source is that mindset that said always knew I was destined for something great. Hey, and show luck today because I believe you. All right, let's move on to another letter subject, pH D or travel. M Hi Don. I'm a thirty year old female from New Zealand and I just finished my Masters of Science. I had an awesome time and I loved my project. My plan after I finished my

masters was to go overseas and travel. While I can still do this under a work visa, I was going to save some money and do a working holiday in Canada. Need to save about four thousand, five D dollars and need to be under thirty five, and then come back after six months or so to look at getting a PhD. However, I've unexpectedly been offered a fully funded PhD project that

requires our start within the next few months. Funding was the main issue whether I did a PhD or not, as it is near impossible to do one without a scholarship. So I am now at a crossroads. Do I a take the PhD and hopefully be able to finish within three years and still be young enough to travel or be reject the PhD, go and work and travel and feel fulfilled and such, but potentially miss out on being able to do a PhD if I can't get funding

for a project later on? Is it unreasonable to worry that I won't be able to travel after thirty five? Thanks in advance, appreciate it. Oh, okay, okay, you got me a couple of things. One congratulates. Congratulations queen on doing the dang on thing. Um. I want to say that this is amazing all of your accomplishments, and I truly believe that you staying focused, you will get everything

that you want. But let's get down to the nitty gritty of what you what you you came for the first thing that came to mind, I was had to dig a little bit, and um, I just googled and I saw that you know, the pH D is an eight year program. So I see your conflict. Here your thirty and you're thinking like, hey, by the time I finished this program, I'll definitely be thirty eight, which takes you out of the whole mindset of being able to travel for the visa. Because I I hear your dilemma,

first thing that came to mind. Time waits for no one. We know that time is your most valuable coin in life. It's your most valuable currency because once it's spent, you can never get it back. That's why you have to be very mindful with whom with what you decide to spend your time with. Now let's go back. You're up at a point where you're ready to make a decision.

And one of the first things I would do because I, you know, I do think that we need to stem from a place of making decisions based on our life. I can tell you all day what I feel like you should do, but I think the most helpful instrument is I can give you is give you the tools so that you can make the decision yourself. One thing my mama used to always tell me, she said, don write it down and make a list. Make a list of the pros and kinds of things that you want

out of each. Then I say to you, no need to make a list. Okay, make the list and put the pros and kinds of each. Okay. I see that you're you're all ready to make a decision. Well, you said you can have a couple of months and you still need to save money. Would you rather mix yourself out of a potential pH D because you're still in the process of needing to save money, or do you just go after and do it? In my personal opinion, what I would do with Dawn Day would do. I'm

gonna write down dooptions. I'm gonna accept both because I realized that, Um, as long as I keep moving my steps, I'm giving God something to blast. And in this situation, you don't have the money. Just saved that. So before you nix it out, go on and see if this PhD in this scholarship program is the one that's right for you. You be surprised how things have a way of working out. In heck, you just said it right here.

You unexpectedly got a scholarship, a fully funded scholarship or PhD project that you didn't even see was coming your way. Go ahead, go out there and work a couple of months, see if you how close you can get to four point five thousand, and if you do, then you can go out there and and and make a better decision there. But I think I see a lot of attachment to money.

You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. And when I see attachment to money, you're not looking at the idea of what the possibility to come of what can come to that? And what do I mean by that? Who's to say that this pH d project that you're working on and and and what's to come after that won't take you around the world? Is it you won't be able to see travel around the world? Is it

about when because you can't operate and fear? Not when we're talking about living our best lives, that's not That's not what's gonna happen now. I suggested that you make the list so that you can see the pros and cons of each. The only thing that I see that screams out to me where I take a strong stanza as I see that you're operating out of fear And what do I mean by that? Do I want to say fear of lack? Well, I think they can be used interchangeably because you fear what you don't have, you

fear what you don't see. Hey, So in this situation, operate as if they're both coming. Operating the notion of you working to see if you can say the money. Operating the notion of fulfilling the paperwork and going through the protocol for this PhD project because you never know what can happen. This project may take you to the very places that you choose to see overseas in this project. You may have a extra holiday throughout the program and still be able to do that. But don't nix yourself

out of the running, not for something that you dreamed up. Now, this was a situation was taking a toll in your body and you're saying, hey, I need a breath of fresh air inhibiting my functionality with life. I'd say, you know what, put it down, because your sanity is worth more than anything. But in this situation right here, go ahead and work. See if you're saying the money, Go ahead and go on with this PhD program. This is

a one in a lifetime thing. Who knows if you're gonna be at the right mind set the patients, Because in life, here's another thing, additional things happen, then you're gonna fall in love, then you're gonna have a children, So there's always going to be something. But I'd say this, eat the fruit that's bared on the tree. Okay, as long as you're not missing it sounds like a win win situation, walking both paths and see which one pants

out first. And you have to remember, um, as you give God something to blast, you realize more things will come around you to blast. Just how this wasn't expected. You're gonna have another path where the path that's going to be an unexpected Okay, so trast yourself, go out there and take a chance. Go ahead and get that PhD and save the money and see what happens. Okay, all right, let's move on to the next letter subject should I change my crowd or change my crowd? Okay, yeah,

I read that correctly. Dear Dawn. I'm a few years from thirty and I have been hanging with the same friend groups since I was fourteen. We're all pretty much a group of underachieving stoners. But as of last year, I've went through a lot of trauma, f ups and self growth. I want some stability in my life. I want to truly to be able to enjoy life at once without any chemicals. Within the last year, I've given up so many bad habits in the end, putting all

the drugs down and pursuing my passion. I feel like a new person. My friends want to hang out, but honestly, I just don't want to. I still will talk and chat online, but I don't want to be around the bud smoke and risk of relapsing. As of right now, I literally don't hang out with anyone. I come home from work and go straight into honing into this passion that I'm chasing. I say passion because it's something I

truly love. I'm not even sure that this is what I need to be doing, but I just want to have something to clean onto during this time, and it keeps me out of trouble. Not really much of a social life. I'm wondering what can I do to improve my situation with my old crew, or should I just focus on finding newer friends who aren't stoned all the time. Uh. Brother, I don't know if you're a male or female. Well, let me just say this. It sounds like you answered

yourself in this letter. One thing that stood out to me is that you can't fit squares in your circle and you realize that everyone who was in your circle is not in your corner. When I say that, you answered your own question. I'm gonna literally, I'm quoting what you said in the letter before I decided to break anything down or to dive deep. Quote. I wanted truly to be able to enjoy life for once without any chemicals. I quote. I feel like a new person. I quote.

I don't want to be around bud smoke and risk relapsing I quote, focus on finding newer friends. Well, listen, you're stepping into a new thing and you can't continue to move forward while looking backwards. What do I mean by that? Well, here's the thing. I say. It's backwards because there's a level of growth that you've had. And yes, you've known these friends since you were fourteen years old. But you gotta understand is that in life, we progressed

by moving forward, we progressed by growing. We progressed because we've evolved. And it sounds like you've had a taste of life. And when I say life, remember life is about living and once you realize you're living, you're growing You're not just existing, You're not staying in the same molde. You are coming into a new thing. Now. Is there a whole situation where you have to ditch them completely?

I wouldn't say that, but I would say that as you make your decision and you figure out what's the right thing, you have to keep in mind that if it doesn't serve you, it doesn't deserve you now because they are part of your roots. These are people that you know. There is a such thing as keeping a healthy distance. Do you need to danch them? I wouldn't

say that, but keep the healthy distance, you know. I always tell people that you have to sometimes treat people, things, situations as if you have an all white outfit on What do I mean by that? Okay, imagine it. You're stepping out, you are flying crisp from head to toe all white. Are you leaning on walls? Are you sitting on cars? Do you sit in the ground? Do you roll around in mud? No? You're very mind or you alert. You are particular about your surroundings and whatever is coming

too close to you. Does it mean that you hate it? Doesn't mean that you don't want to go outside and perhaps go on a field. No, but you're gonna be mindful of that ditch. You're gonna be careful of that puddle. You're gonna be mindful that you don't just fall out and lose control. And that's what you have to realize within your own life. You have to protect you yourself with your proximity. If you have this all white outfit on,

you are not going into a pig's style. You are not going to be standing there with the pig as it's rolling and splashing and mud. Because remember, you are stepping into a new thing and you have this new white outfit on. And I want to say thank you for loving on yourself, thank you for realizing who you are.

And I think that's what it's all about. Do you have to dish them, No, continue to talk with them online, continue to have that relationship with them, and don't carry any burden as if they're going to be upset with you, because you're real friends, your true friends. They're gonna want to see you grow, they want to see you step into a new thing, they want to see they want the best for you, regardless if that doesn't mean that you're on the same playing field. It's just like any relationship.

When somebody is connected to you an extension of you, you realize it's a part of you. And when you want the best, when it's a healthy relationship, they're gonna want to see you prosper and grow. But what happens when people are on the same mindset? You know, they say birds of a feather flock together. Now the question is how high do you want to soar? You got your wings spread? Are you looking to go to new heights?

When you talk about all this bud smoke and you talk about all this these chemicals, you got to realize that it's clouding your vision. Now you said that you're going on to a new thing, right because you like the feeling of this new person. Well, guess what this new person can see some things. Remember we talked about on the last letter about stepping in the room when it's dark. But it's a difference of what that room looks like when the lights are on. H the lights

are wrong. Not tell me what do you see? When the smoke is there, You're bound to hit a tree, m You're bound to run into a window because the vision isn't clear. Well, on vitamin D, we're all about keeping the vision clear now in your situation, based on what you wrote, you said that you don't want to relapse. If there is a situation where you feel as if your foundation that has nothing to do with someone else, that your foundation isn't solid, you're gonna risk bawling because

when you fall, who's going to pick you up? Now, say you found something that you can fight for. And I often find that when people are stuck in a situation, I'm not sure that it's always a sense of you don't want to be better and you don't want to do better. You just haven't found your source for something

to keep you going. Whether it's in a situation where you need to find yourself love, whether it's a situation where you need to find your purpose, whether it's a situation where you're trying to be a better partner in a relationship. You have to have something to keep you moving, and you've gotten that. You've gotten that with this new

passion of yours. Now you didn't specifically say what the passion is, but you know that it's steering you in a direction, and it's steering you in a path that's leading you away from where you don't want to be. Continue to go after it, because again you're stepping into a new thing. And as a new thing, you realize that new opportunities come forth. You know, you start to continue to attract abundance, and you start getting addicted to feeling good. And I don't care who you are, I

don't care where you're located. I don't care how long you've been on this earth. I don't care what you have it had. You can't tell me that it doesn't feel good to feel good. Who doesn't want to feel good? You show me one person who says they don't want to feel good, and that said, I'll retire. It feels good to feel good. And after sixteen years of growth and looking how you said, I don't want that former life anymore. I'm gonna tell you right now, you deserve it.

That's the vitamin d I got from you. You deserve it because you're worth it. Dreke said that you deserve it because you're worth it. You deserve it because you're worth it. So go out there and live your best life. Remember, you can't fit squares in your circle, and you realize that everyone is to send your circle is not in your corner, all right, So let's go on to another one subject. Is there something missing? Dear Dawn, I've been having a really hard time lately. I just recently turned

thirty three. I feel like I don't really have a defined path. I don't know what I want to do next. I have a good job, a loving husband, we have a house, not too many friends. Lately, the biggest thing is I can't help but think I'm too old. If I want to make music, I'm too old to learn or start. If I wanted to try acting, I'm too older and experience. If I wanted to start a business, I should have done it before. Now I feel like I've been so confused and on an undefined path that

opportunities are just passing me by. I think it's the times, but I see so many people in celebrities online who are my age or younger achieving so much success, and I'm just old and and not skilled. How do I change this outlook? How do I find what I'm passionate about? How do I stop comparing myself and my life to

others and just be happy where I am? It tickles me because you know, I've been talking about how joy and reciting in joy, but this morning, as I was digging in and uh going through the letters that in provided me with, I heard the song plan on the radio, Kirk Franklin Happy and he says, do you want to be happy? And like I said before, you know, happiness can be fleeting, but happiness can definitely lead you to that joy. Right, well, I can say with much certainty

that fear and joy can't coexist. See, fear takes out the light and joy exudes the light. Did you hear me? Fear takes out the light. Remember, you fear what you cannot see. You fear when the lights are off because you can't see what's coming at you. But joy, what do they say? Joy comes in the morning because in the morning there is the light. Joy is unapologetic because it shines the light on the good, the at and in different vitamin D. So do you want to be happy?

Do you want joy? Another thing that um I said, it's a couple of mixtures. There's a couple of things in areas I want to touch based on just because you've mentioned this at the top of the letter you said, Um, you said, I have a good job, a loving husband, and we have a house, not too many friends, but as you get older, and I'm sure you're thirty three, you've experienced it enough. Sometimes I have been too many friends can be more of a headache than a blasting.

So that's an observance that you keep your clothes, your your circle type. Okay, but when you said I have a good job, a loving husband, and we have a house, where's your gratitude? Huh? You didn't just say I have a job that I'm miserable bout I have a husband who cheats, Oh, I have a raggedy house. No, you said I have a good job, I have a loving husband, and we have a house. With a good job. That means your financiers are in order. So I'm assuming you

you have a nice home, a loving husband. Well, you have someone who loves you that's residing in this nice home that you got with your good job. But where's the gratitude of that? And I get it. Like I said before, I see fear all up in here because you've made an excuse on every level. See, as we're go down further, you talked about how I see so many people and celebrities online who are my age or younger achieving so much success. You know, comparison as a

thief of joy. Right, So you're walking or operating and motive. You're not grateful but what you have, and yet you're constantly looking over to what someone else has. Ha. Well, here's the thing. I may misconstrue this a bit, but there's a quote that you have to be faithful over a little in order to get a lot. Now, how does this bridge these two statements that you made? Will

look at it? If you don't see and acknowledge the joy of having what you have because you're constantly looking at someone else, how can you expect to steer your boat in the direction of your dreams of your best life if you're consistently looking at how someone else is steering their boat in the direction that they're going in. Huh. Another thing is is that in a sense, there will always be somebody who has more, who has better, But that's all based on the perspective of what they want

in life. Right. And when you talk about making excuses about whether or not you know you wanted to to to act, but you're too old. You wanted to do music, But are you too old to learn or to start? Well, what do you want? You gotta understand that dreams don't work unless you do. And you said how everything keeps passing you by? Yes, because remember, like I said, time doesn't wait for no one. You gotta go out there and grab it by the horns. You gotta go out

there and give it a shot. The worst thing is that it's not going to happen, or even worse, you sit in misery that you never took a chance to try. Remember, nothing beats a failure but a try and understanding in this process. And you will hear from so many successful people.

You're seeing them at the tip of the iceberg. But as you see icebergs that are in these Antartica and the oceans and all this kind of stuff, do you know how much ice is underwater and how many cracks, whether there be ships and different animals that it may have bombarded that ice, but it's still had enough with and know how to still rise above the water. And you understand that it doesn't happen overnight. How do you think they're consistent with the success? Now, some people do

strike a look, but it takes a direction. Now, if we want to talk about people who are in overnight success with the society, is that they went ahead and took a chance. How can you expect all these dreams and all these things that you can see other people succeeding at if you don't up out the box and

take a chance. You gotta take a chance on yourself because no matter what you have, no matter how much or how little, you'll never be able to appreciate what it is that you have if you don't see what's in your hands. Do you hear what I'm saying? You have to want your best life and what it looks like. And it's not about what's missing, It's about what you

haven't discovered. Because again, you're so busy looking at everyone else that I'm wondering, have you taken a chance to look at yourself to see what it is that you want? You're gonna constantly be looking at somebody's race, because other people are on their path in their best life. But guess what, you only got one path? So so what they got their cars? So what they got the house? And what they got the shoes? And they got their album, they got their record. But what did you do? What

has your name on it? Where does your dream resign? How do you want to feel when you wake up. How do you want to love on your husband? How do you want to reside in your life? How what you know? People come out and they ask questions. They're ask me for a device, but guess what. You gotta decide what you want and sometimes of not knowing what you want, you gotta spend your time and your proces of discovering what it is. That means you got to

spend time with yourself. You gotta figure out why you're so consistently looking at what everybody else has and not looking at what it is that you want. What do you want? What do you value? What do you appreciate? Yeah, I'm going hard because there's things like this that makes me stir up inside. Because there will always be a level of discontent. There will always be a level that you are enough. I'm here to tell you that you are.

That's what vitamin D is all about. Vitamin D is about shedding a light, but it's also about exuding the light that's already inside of you. Everything that I speak about on vitamin D, you notice I ain't telling you that you gotta go out and get something, that you gotta go out and purchase this or you need to be around search of situations. I consistently tell you that you gotta find belief in yourself. You gotta find the want in yourself. You are the key, you are the ignition.

And when you talk about being living your best life, you gotta go out there. You gotta take a chance because you're worth it. You're worthy and you're worth it. Do you hear me? So? No, nothing is missing. No, you are not lacking anything. There's nothing to fear but fear itself. Concern yourself with being great. And the only question that I want you to ask yourself, it's who am I not to be? Okay? I have one last letter that I want to tackle subject change my careers

from my partner. Now she's gone. Dear Dawn, I'm from Atlanta, and I don't know if I still have time to do the career I wanted, software engineering. I was on track for that, but I had a relationship last year. We had plans of moving in together once I had finished college. My ex gave me an ultimatum to change careers to something else. She rejected most of the alternatives I said, and ended up in a chef career. However, she still decided that wasn't enough and left me for

someone else. She ended up staying as a friend who barely talks to me. Every chance she has, she cheers me on on how good I'm doing get my chef career, despite that every time she does this breaks me apart. I don't know what to do. I used to love being a chef because I thought it was giving me a chance of a life together with her, But now it's just a constant reminder that I was a fool

and got played by a narcissistic person. The worst part is that the career is taking away all of my money, so getting out of that now will just screw me over. I feel like if I was able to work at one hundred percent each day, I would be able to But just now I had an emotional breakdown and started crying because I remember her. I don't know what to do. How can I somehow reckon saw these aspects of my life? Mm hmmm, it takes a fool to learn that love

don't love nobody. I don't even know if the worst step, but that's the song that came to my head. Um less time. I'm not going to even badge you because I get it I get it because love or what you thought was love, or somehow a one sided love was involved. You know, and love sometimes you want to just give and you want to make sure that other people are happy because it makes you feel good. And you know, Indy r reseat and she said love is not about how much you can take, but it's all

about how much you can give. And you wanted to give a life that she appreciated. The only issue that I have here is that you weren't evenly yoked and whether that was a case of she wanted something else for your life thing you envisioned. But more importantly is that you and this is what I received. I'm not sure that you showed up as the software engineer that

you were seeking. What do I mean by that any relationship I wouldn't think that someone is in and it's a long standing relationship where you're you're looking to move to the next level. There is an understanding of who you are as a person, right with your desires, with your dreams, what your gifts are. And I find it interesting that while you said that you wanted to do or to be a software engineer, or you you wanted

to follow that career path. You got a left uppercut, but I think it's because you weren't sure what you wanted. And then if we go even deeper, let's let's go under some more layers. It's kind of had an idea of what we spoke about on the last letter, and it's about loving you and knowing who you are, knowing what it is that you want. And when we talk about what it is that you want, you gotta identify about the life that you're seeking to live and know

that it has to be for you. Because remember when we talk about having a partnership, right, and we're seeking out a partner, we don't want to come half empty. We want to come with overflow and coming and overflow is out of self love and coming out of self love and means that you're honoring yourself. And then when you're having a partner, because again it's just two whole beings coming together, then it's just a burst of more and more overflow. It's seeing each partner for where they

are and not where you expect or hope them to be. See, if I know that you have great potential, if I see something for you, I'm not coming into the relationship and one shouldn't come into the relationship figuring out what I can change, but more so what I can magnify, what I can amplify. Your relationship should be like a megaphone. But guess what, this relationship maybe could have been a megaphone. But I'm curious to know the words that were coming

out from the megaphone, the source, which is you. Now, you said you wanted the software engineering job, but I'm not sure that you knew exactly what you wanted. And you can say all day that she was a narcissist, and she couraged you to saying something which can very

well be true. And that's why I chuckled at the beginning of the letter, because I know what it's like to love on somebody so much that you're willing to sacrifice what it is that you want for them, Because in that moment, there was nothing more beautiful than that poison. You would consistently drink the poison because without it, you still die. Someone I die enjoying it. But the only problem is is that now that she's gone, you're still making room for her. What do I mean by that?

She's as you put it, she got you to change your career path for a relationship. Then after that wasn't enough, she moved on, But yet you still managed to keep her around as a quote unquote friend so much so that she can still cheer you want. But it's still a void. Remember that void that you said that angst Like she's cheering you on great career and you're like, wow,

but it hits you. That's what I mean about that poison because you still get the idea, the satisfaction of having her as a friend in your life, but you realize on the double and so what about the fact that it's still causing you angst and anxiety? So now I have to say to you, when do you choose yourself? It's just like a tree. A tree doesn't get a

chance to dictate what weather it's in. But once you have a strong connection your roots, you realize that whatever the weather, you will weather the storm because your roots are solid. Again, that's what vitamin D is about. It's about tackling the source. So in your idea of what you're saying about your career, what is it that you want you change your careers for your partner? Now she's gone, she's gone, so why are you still there with her. Why are you having access to that? You gotta learn

to love yourself. Remember I talked about earlier on and answering these letters about how you gotta treat people like you gotta white outfit on? Well, where is your white suit at? Because you're starting to get a little dirty. Every time that you go down back down memory lane and have an emotional moment, it breaks you off your path. What happens, It knocks you off your foundation, the same

as a tree that is uprooted from its roots. But see when you step and you walk in assurance, when you know that what it is that you want, and when you start to give attention to things that serve you, you'll know why in fact, it deserves you. It deserves you just as what you are. And I'm telling you right now you cannot afford to live a life I'm not doing what you're passionate about. Do you know how much anxiety and depression that you are looking forward in

your future? Because no matter which way you look at it, it's never going to be enough. And that's what happened here. Just like I read in the previous letter, this woman was so used to looking at everyone else and what they had. She wasn't able to identify what it is that she wanted. You know what it is that you want? And now it's time for you to go after it. She's made her decision. She's going on to live her life. Are you ready to live yours? Are you? I think

you deserve it. I think you deserve it because you're worth it. But again, I can't want something more than you want it for yourself. Do you hear me? It's time to let it go, and it's time for you to go after your dreams. And I understand that will be a transitional process, but hey, you made it through this breakup. What can't you make it through? And I can tell you went through a moment. I know, I know you did, but just like you were able to keep going, Go ahead and switch and go back to

your dreams. Get twenty seven, but you got a whole life ahead of you. Get you a side hustling job, Get back in there and get behind that computer, Get behind them books, get in them classes. Do whatever you need to do, but just make sure that it's for you. Okay. I hope that makes sense. I enjoyed this, you know, I always enjoy it and you know, I talked with so much passion because it excites me when people are

making decision to live out their best life. Because at the end of the day, that's what I want you to know, and I want you to walk into that. And even though I may go through these letters and giving my opinions, remember your truth is what matters to you. And as long as you have the tools to discern what's for you that I know that my job is done. I'm here to give you an outside look on things and situations that I feel may aige you for the

betterment of you. Remember, the joy has to reside in you, and when you had that joy, all the lights flicker on. So if you were listening and you enjoy some of the comments and you still would like some feedback on something you're battling with, maybe be a relationship, whether it made me love, whether it may be purpose, whether it mean just because I want to encourage you to go ahead and submit your letters. Email them to Vitamin D at dawn day Speaks dot com. That's Vitamin D at

Dawn d a i speaks dot com. We will surely get in the email bag and as you know, in is on the lookout. So continue to live out your life. Continue to understand that you're worthy. Continue to understand that you or your this asset, you deserve it, You're worth it. And if you can't necessarily wait until next week, you know you can get more vitamin D by following them on social media. Right, you can follow me at all social media at Dawn Day speaks again, that's Dawn d a,

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