Stop Holding Onto "Things"

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stress that enough. I was on Instagram and I was on my girl blues page Blue to Lose Mom at Blue Centric, and she was on there talking about some coaching services that she offers, like life coaching, spiritual coaching, like all this jazz and um they're supporting because I love my girl. She's started talking about how she doesn't make or how she makes decisions wrap and her way of making decisions are choosing not to make them or

operating fall. And as she went on to explain FALG, she said it was an acronym which she had picked from something else. But she also said was a little gym that she was offering um for free. That's traditionally part of her coaching package. And she said FALK is an acronym for fear, obligation, and guilt. What she said that out win because I can be an indecisive mofile. Okay, I don't know about you, but anybody know me. I can meet the indecisive like a mug. I probably get

it from a mama. But when she said that that Willie hit a nerve. It really adjulted me because it really made me think about many times how I've made decisions and what has halted me from taking decisions or feeling hasnited and not feeling at peace. It was some type of fear of one, is this the right one?

What if something better is around the corn? It obligation as if perhaps I didn't have a choice, like it was my due diligence, like because I am Dawn, or because I am part of this, that's what it's about.

And then three guilt because perhaps I didn't want to let somebody else down, probably because I didn't want to offend somebody prohably because I wanted to make sure I show up in the best way that you know that if Dawn decided to make decisions, if Dawn decided to do something, it made her look good, and if she didn't, perhaps it didn't show me the best of light, none of which yielded anything that made me feel good, yielded anything that made me feel joy, yielded anything that made

me feel like abundance. No. But when she said that, it merely made me think like, m hmmm, Because in operating in fog, that's not honoring self, that's not edifying me, Because now I'm operating in a sense of everything that's taken on the context around me. And I wonder how often times are we doing that in our lives, not operating a sense to down some one else, to shunt

someone else, but operate in a way that honors herselves. Because, as she explained, just as if there was fog outside right, if there were fog outside right now, would you be so quick to driving there fifty miles a hundred miles an hour? What's your lights off? Then? Why make these types of choices and decisions in your life? If you know how to say, like if you want to look at the desires and the wants space or in your choices.

What if you think that you're making a sound choice, not realizing that you're operating getting fog, fear, obligation, and kill. Now you know, I say, what doesn't serve you, doesn't deserve you? Tell me how does that serve you? Now we can comprehend this if we're driving a vehicle, But how about we think about that if how we're operating in our lives. Take a minute and think, Take a minute to breathe. If it doesn't feel good, chill, sit back, little home me. And when it's right, it feels right,

you can move with it. And even if it just yield the perfect decision or what you feel is the perfect or right decision to end, you know you feel good doing it. And that's what it is about. I just spoke the other day about the I n G. How are you living? How are you doing? How are you being? Let it not be in for all fear, obligation, guilt. Ain't nobody got time for that. We live in the life of abundance. We live in life on purpose and

for purpose because we subscribe into that vitamin day. They say, if you want to be better, you want to do better. Hell, you gotta be able to see better. Hod who I see you get your rightmind right here with me and get excited about your life. Well, we're doing something different today. The cameras aren't on. The cameras aren't on because I have a whole breakout of situation on my face and it's been happening for a minute. It's sarting to bother

me because you know, I'm all about skincare. Scar Care is my ship. I didn't have to get off vulgar. But I mean, I'm for real because I really am for like the moisturization, I'm for exfoliation, I'm for sun block, anything that's protecting and preserving the skin. Because, as I say, I need to hold so I don't really do too many fragrancy things, too many um over the counter with too many cents. I like to keep it natural so I know what's going on, what's going on my face

because for me. That's my selling point. That is the bug. So I said, I have to say, um, I once to a dermatologist because you know every you know, once a month I'll have a breakout situation. And so I was like, okay, why be good when you can be great? Let me see if there's something that can support, whether it be a top of cream, perhaps I can enhance um, a moisturizer, or to get into right and all uh, right name because you have the right name, right name,

you know, those types of things. So I wanted the first time, and she asked, do I experience any breakouts on my face once a month during that time of the month. And I'm like yeah. She's like, oh, would you like an oral prescription? Immediately I said no, that's not my thing. My mom was always like not for that, and just taking extra things to put in your body because you know, when you stopped taking it, there's an adverse reaction. It's like your body become dependent and it

starts reacting with it. So have you So anyhoo, I go back up there again for a second appointment. She asks again, why be good when you could be great? That's what's flying in my head. So I'm like, you know what, let's do it. Because there's been moments, you know, here being on the podcast, I'm trying to cover it up or Jeremiah is trying to adjust the camera so that we can get a good shot. Um, and I said, well, let's just do it, and she said take it. You

know we can advance. Well, I kind of been leaning it off on it and my face is breaking out now. To me, the only variable is that of the prescription. I'm wondering is my body reacting from not having the prescription in there? I know, because this is ridiculous, the fact that we cannot be you can't see me right now doing this, that's a lot expect see for somebody such as myself that gets into skincare, like that is

my thing, Like, yes, sell me on since skincare. Listen, if you are if you are trying to sell a product and it's since skincare, more than likely I'll get into it. Anyway. I'll say. All that to say is that, um, that's a bit of annoyance. Uh, We're gonna figure this out. Another probability that I'm wondering is I've been really having this fix for peanut butter yas crunchy peanut butter. Well on the jar they describe it as nutty yas honey. I would take me, um a tablespoone of that peanut

butter honey and drizzle some honey on top. Oh baby, oh baby back baybay. Uh, that's my chest nails, you know, like for and I think I've probably been od doing it. And you know, peanut butter has a lot of oil, so that's another probability too. So I'm not gonna all the way throwing on the prescription from the doctor, from the dermatologist, but I will give a little bit of consideration what's happening with the peanut butter. I didn't realize

I love peanut butter someone like I love it. In fact, I was just thinking I love nuts in general, pun intended and no pun intended, whatever you would take it. But like you, all my candies, like my favorite candies, peanut m and ms. I love a chunky Do you want a chunky? Is it's milk chocolate raisins and peanuts. I love chocolate, chip walnut shout out to milk jar, cookies. Um,

all of that my stuff. So I need to figure out that situation and perhaps if you know anything, Kimmia, shoot me an email him up for social media Vitamin D Dawn Day and let me know if you know some good skincare products that I can use, because I'm not here for this. Uh and uh, let me tell you this soon. I've done God kicked off of Twitter.

You out. Well, I shouldn't say I got necessarily kicked off, but my account is gone, and it's gone because I want to, like a social media sabbatticle, like I just needed a moment just to be drawn, just to not focus, not worried about posting likes anything. I just wanted to be free. When your mind's made up, that's Destiny's child anyway. So every other account linked in Facebook, Instagram, I don't know. I left to talk. They're just like girl, just go.

But no, no, now Twitter wants to do a different moment. Twitter says that you cannot be gone longer than thirty days. If you are gone longer than thirty days, your account is dismissed. Well, I had an alarm set on my phone and say, hey, Dawn, make sure you go out logged into your Twitter account on June night or before June night I say by June nine, or before June ninth. Anyway,

June ninth was in there. I had been really lax of days ago about it because I set the alarm like two days before, a week before, like I'm one of them alarm people, you know. So it wasn't about necessarily forgetting. I just wasn't in an urgency to do it. So I was laying there, and the day before June ninth that it was due to be fixed, I'm just laying there. And then June nine came, after twelve o'clock. I try to log in, it says this account does

not exist. Damn, That's what I said to myself. I said, damn, because I'm thinking about all these memories that I have, memories such as The first thing that came to mind is um a tweet from Baby Smith. She retweeted my New York Times article. That New York Times article was a big moment for me. In fact, I gotta right here in the studio. It says, a voice for radio with ambition like Oprah's by robbing Fan. I was in the New York Times. Y'all go ahead doing day Oh.

This was on Thursday, December six. What Isa, that's over a decade and I'm still here. But anyway, and you know her retweeting that I met one of my good girlfriends, Dr Ronee Matthews and she has a book out. Mommy, I can't breathe make sure you check that out if you have allergies or you know somebody with allergies. But I'm just saying the memories. And even Queen Latifa was following me. I don't know if she did. There's somebody

from her camp and doesn't matter was there. And I guess whatever, her memories of whatever, and I guess I'm thinking about it now. Twitter was like the first social media of everything. Right, well, let's wait, hold on, slow down, Jim Shoe. Jeremiah just said my space, slow down, Jim Shoe. Let me take it back to the old heads. What y'all know about that MySpace? Oh no, let me take it back to the old heads. What y'all know about that Black Planet? What do you know about black Planet?

See if you can find me cupcakes seven seven seven? Oh, I'm scared if they still have that up. Honey. Oh the picture should be of me an advisor. I should have my lip liner wrong because this is when you had the brown lip liner and you put the frosty the frosty cream in the center. Honey. Yeah, this is when I had a perm honey, so I had to smooth ball. Yeah, you couldn't tell me nothing. Cupcakes seven seven seven, hollidt me let me know if it's there, hit me up. Oh my gosh, I'm scared. I don't

even know I told you that. But anyway, back to formation. Twitter has a lot of memories on there, so immediately it's gone, I'm thinking like damn. But then I'm thinking, I'm like, well, if I've been gone away from thirty days, did I really miss it? And you know, I'm a firm believer of how you do anything, it's how you'll do everything. So what am I missing? Why am I tripping over holding onto something that I haven't even checked

in over thirty days? It makes me think of how many other things I could be holding on in my life. And it really had me to do a self check. And it stuck so hard to me because I've told you before my mother was award she kept everything and I'm not here to judge. I'm not here to point blame because we do with the best that we can with what we have and what we know. And that's what we call grace. Grace for that space and for

my mom in her instance, she was losing everything. You know, I may have told you my mom was known for her hair. She would have her hair in a ponytail. Honey, that ponytail would hit to the back of in the middle of her back. She could sit on her hair in a ponytail. How ponytail, That's how I think her hair wasn't how long it was so from her, you know, losing her husband having cancer which resulted in her losing

her hair. And if you know any black woman, any woman at all, parents is an important part of an identity he had. Even men can say that, right her mother died. They're just just financial Trump's just think aftery thing. So it's like, I can imagine why we hold onto something. We hold onto something to keep it constant, hold onto something to get a strong cold, hold on to something to get anchored. But what happens when we're holding going

to so much stuff that we start to sink. Now, if I'm gonna go aligned about what vitamin D is all about, Vitamin D is all about being better. And if you want to be better and you want to do better, you have to be able to see better. Well, how are you going to see if you have so much stuff? And stuff is the just in case? The stuff is what if it happened this way? The stuff

is I can't breathe because there's so much stuff. So I'm charging myself to look at things a little different because if I'm making room for abundance, I gotta make room for stuff to come in, even things that are taxing on me emotionally. If it is draining me, it is taking too much away from me. So therefore the relax station period is closing up. You know what I'm saying. It's like, for example, let me put it to you

like this. Think about an apartment, right. Tell me, what's the difference between somebody that may purchase a three thousand square foot department in a five square foot department. If the person with the three thousand square foot department has so much stuff in it, so much stuff that you can't move around, so much stuff that it's hard to walk around, so much stuff that you barely can look

out the window, make room. Making room looks like letting go of that relationship, replaying that old thanky thing back and what could have been, what should have been, what would have been versus what is so allowing yourself to let go of that. Guess what? Now we can make room for a new thanky thing, thang thang, and that

goes the same with it. You know, maybe not feeling so good depression wise and stressed out, figure out ways to release that, to relieve that so that you can bring in those joyous memories so that you can start the feel good. Because what do I say, how you do anything? It's how you'll do everything, and it's time to make wrong. That's what we're talking about. Abundance, right, That's what I mean when I say abundance. I don't know about you. So what do you want? What are

you asking for? Huh? I'm just curious, as I know I know what I want, and I'm just clear now that if it's so much stuff, I don't have room to breathe, I don't have room to be, I don't have room to exist. And perhaps in so many ways that's what grace is looking like that I give myself that I'm making this room. Yeah, So I want to implore you just as though, I implore myself and say, it's time to make wrong, so get rid of the stuff so you can make room. So, as of now,

I don't have a Twitter account. Maybe perhaps I'll go ahead and try to create another one. I don't know. I don't see what happens whatever whenever however, for whatever the weather. But now that I look back, I guess I didn't miss much after all. Right, everything happens for a reason, all right, So um, let's do some housekeeping. Would you like to be on the show. Do you have an idea or topic for the show. Well, I

want to encourage you to shoot us an email. Email us at Vitamin D at Dawn day Speaks dot com. I would love to hear from you, perhaps even had love to have you here in the stood y'all. And also, do you need some advice about love, relationships, your career, whatever it is with your life. I want to encourage you to hit me up Vitamin D at the Dawn day Speaks dot com. And I wanted to be clear.

Let's be clear again, I said, I want to be clear now when you right in, you know I'm gonna keep it rare with you, right because I love you and I want the best with you. Well, they say, if you want to be better, you want to do better, you have to be able to see better and that means shed and line things that may not be so good. Okay, all right now, I'll be clear. Now you know I'm planning to be here for a long time, and we need to get our family together, get the trial together.

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I don't know for how long, but I'm here for now. All right. Well I'm a head out of here, you know, always saying how many business and making dreams come true? And I damn sure ain't gonna figure about mind. So until next time, always remember you are your greatest days at get your viamin d right here with me, and get excited about your lives.