Stop Comparing Yourself

And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if you want to be better and you want to do better, then you're going to have to be able to see better. So join me on this journey of living our best lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest ass act. It's time for you to show up, show up so that you can show out and understand that this showing up is going to require you to step

into the light. Step into the lights so that you can be seen in all of your glory. And I'm not talking about just a full front of you. I'm not talking about aside view. I'm not even talking about out of filtered view. I'm talking about a three sixty rotational view, seeing all sides of you and always and all colors in all shapes, all dimensions, and every environment, weathering what ever storm, because all that is is you.

And sometimes when we're going through things, we have a tendency to hide, We have a tendency to put on the front as if everything's okay. But what about just being seen? What about embracing the fact that you may be experiencing a trial of tribulation, feeling what it is that you need to feel in that moment, being transparent about that moment, and then growing from that moment, because it's in that growth process that the magic lies. It's

in that growth process that you become relatable. It's in that growth process that you are revealed who you really are. In the growth process, that's what you get up so you can show out. And to think about it so amazing when you decide to step into who you are and whatever room and whatever setting is, that you inspire people to do the same. It's almost as though you speak before you open your mouth. Your presence is felt before it is saying are you ready to show up

and show out? Is it gonna be challenging. Yes, well you want to run away, Yes, but it's who and I don't care how far and fast you run. You still are you and everything about you is perfectly fine. Now there's gonna come to a time that you have to embrace everything that you are so that you can become everything that you are meant to be. But don't think that you can become something from nothing, meaning, don't think that you can just transform your life from something

that you are right now own. Because everything you all right now is the foundation for you become. So what are you building all? Have you had a chance to spend time with yourself, to see yourself so that you can truly be yourself? Are you ready to show up so that you can show out as people count on you. If somebody that's looking at you and said, because you did, they can, because you would, they will. So what do you say? What do you say about you showing up

to be the best that you can be? Life? It gets light, shine bright, get your right, mndy right with me. I get excited about your lives. I was talking to my friend's mom the other day. She's a bit clar boyant. So there are times that I've spoken to her to get this insight on life. How are this conversation I left a little uneasy, a little uncomfortable. And it reminds me about how we should choose to live our life, and why it's so important to eat the meeting, the

spell off the bones. How it's so important to realize but God, how it's so important to have faith in yourself. How you must activate, in charge your life as if you had blinders on and your ears are pluged, so that you can stay focused, so that you can listen to yourself. Now, I called her because one thing she talked about, this was probably a year or so ago. She kind of mentioned the things that were going on

with the pandemic. She even went on to say, she said, at some point, the everyday items that you could pick up the store. Soon there will be no more stories are going to be shut down. And I guess I had been in the stories and I'm looking at Think products and I'm like, things are going and I just wanted to call it an update, like oh my gosh, you know right. But when I called for that, she

immediately began to ask you, well, what's going on? What's going on with you and I'm like, well, I'm not actually one of the best places I feel as far as growth and making room for Dawn that I've been in a while. I became disgruntled about the conversation because not because I don't want to be charged and challenged about what growth is. But she began to say, you should be further along than when you are right now. How Dawn, you give so many people ideas, but you

don't leave them for yourself. How look at this next person that you helped down, how further along they are from you. My spirit was very uncomfortable, but yet I wanted to make room to receive her, to hear what she had to say. Now, I know that myself and what my mother taught me, Janie Hill, is that you always operate and good, and that good means that I don't have to hoard my blessings or things for myself,

because when we talk about abundance, that's an overflow. Like could you imagine guys saying I'm not gonna bless you anymore because I gotta say some blessings for someone else. That's not how it works. So when she began to say those things, she said, don't you're giving those ideas. Yes, I'm gonna give you idea because if I'm not gonna use it, I know that's your dream. Why would I hold that from you? Why wouldn't I want that the best for you? She then said, Hey, you know your

friend over there, Uh, they're going on. Uh, they're progressing further in life than you. That really made me uncomfortable, and I had to tell her that immediately. I said, one that made me feel uncomfortable. It made me feel uncomfortable because I never look at my friends and compare what they're doing and what I'm doing. I begin to even saying, I said, you know, you make this mention about being further along. And this is where I started

challenging me, because now I became defensive. Why am I defending myself about who I am and what it is that I'm doing with I said, I'm getting ready. The process is happening, and if you're not careful, if you're not mindful, you'll listen so much to the outside noise of people who aren't living your life for a vision that wasn't given to anybody else but you. Because there is success being able to take a chance on your dreams.

There is success of saying, Hey, I'm gonna leave a comfortable job because I believe in myself that much that I decided to take a chance. Isn't that growth? Isn't that success to transform into something else? Even so much so, I even recalled that said tire, I said, thank you for sharing, But I disagree because when I look back, I have this picture. I probably was Jeremiah's age. I was in New York at Radio City Music Hall. I didn't even know the building that I was in, but

I looked back in the picture. It's an old coworker. We worked together at WBLS in New York. His name is Andres. He goes by e J. He's on Kiss one or two seven out here in l A. And it's a picture of us standing in the hallway, and behind us it says Premiere Networks. I didn't even know what it was. I was there because a friend of mine worked at Premiere. And you know what I'm thinking. I was up at Premiere because Duyanne was helping me put together my radio checked my hear check demo. That's

what he was doing. I'm getting emotional because you're gonna out the hole door, because here we are almost tim plus years fast forward. I'm in Sherman Oaks, California. Oh my back right behind me, like right there, it says Premier Networks, and I hurt media. So don't tell me that I should be farther along than where I am. And not because I'm feeling emotional because I'm mad. I'm just this is joy for me because it ain't nothing like saying something having a vision for a dree and

it starts manifesting. And when these things are spewed at me, and I say spewed, that's probably sounds like a harsh word. But when she's saying, hey, Dawn, you give ideas for

other people, will you even help other people? Even want to say, you know, talking about Jeremiah and talking about how amazing is and I said I know, and she says he's gonna going through the great things and I said I know, and she said well, and I was just saying, I was like, you know, I'm so grateful for him because you know, I've been able to do a lot of the things that I want to do right now just to be and she said, well, he ain't gonna always be there with you, so what you're

gonna do after that, I said, well, that's okay. And I said, and when he goes on to do great things, that's fine too, because that's what it's supposed to be. You're supposed to help people. And I think that further, she'd be a testament of the environments you're in and what you're doing if it promotes you to grow, because remember, that's a success. Now, in my mind, I'm like, are you implying that, Hey, I don't give you too much advice.

I don't give them too much advice so that he doesn't sore what you know, We don't do good based on what somebody else is gonna do for us. You do good to do good. And despite the countless ideas I've given to people, huh and help them with their confidence and sore. I know I'm reaping my benefits because I look at the circumstances, the opportunities, and the back doors that I've been able to walk through. And I call it grace. I call it favor because that's what

I put out there. So don't you ever get to a point you hear me that you feel like you got hold back on your love, on your joy, because what if somebody go ahead and magnify it and live, You've done your part again saying hey, you know, I feel like you should be further along. What y'alln't heard me talk about on this podcast of making room? Huh? Seeing don huh? This vulnerability? Huh? How am I supposed to be further along than where I can show up to you? Ask? Because if you can't see me, how

can I see me? How can I be me? How can I shine? How can I be an example? It goes along with the lines of when we're asking for things in life and defining whether or not we have the capacity to hold them. If I say, God, you put the vision in my life to be bigger than Oprah. Now I got this vision, but God said exceedingly and be odd. Hey catch it? Don't I need to show up as me so that you can see me. So when I tell you about something I recommend, you're gonna

believe me. Huh. What I share news about what's going on, You're gonna believe me because you know me. I'm making rules so I can know and see myself. So oftentimes we can look at different things in life and say this is what we want, But sometimes you just gotta slow down and say, wait, do I truly have the capacity to hold it? Am I willing to open up to have the capacity to hold it? Mm hmm. And that's why I even left the conversation that was a

little disgruntled. I felt a little drained, but I was at ease because there wasn't no stress because I trust this process. I can't tell you how everything has been working out, but the fact that I've been able to have my peace of mind and grow that says something. But be mindful of what you allow to get in your ears, because what that was what I received, And I don't look at it as she was being a mean person. I looked at it more so is that

she's speaking from her experience. But I have to remind myself of who I am, who'se I say I am, what I'm connected to, and the vision that came to me, and understanding and trust, think having the confidence where I am and where I'm going. That's all this life, this, this this whole game of life about it's your confidence. It's how you move. Do you have confidence to declare what you want out of life and to go after it? Not mean worried about other people because you can't compare.

In contrast, see for me and having a faith, it's exceedingly and beyond. It's far more than what I could ever imagine. So when someone says to me and judgment about my process, where I'm going, or what you're doing, you have to remind yourself deficient what's given to you. Now, if you're a dreamer like me, and you go for exceedingly and beyond how you expect to comprehend this, ain't that a trip? Ain't that a trip? You get excited

exceedingly beyond the far more than what you imagine. And then when you can't imagine it, when you can't figure out the steps, all of a sudden you want to feel down and out what happened to the confidence? Exceedingly and beyond, far more than what you could ever imagine. So if I get caught up in the imagination of others that wasn't given to me, do you see the how it can derail your life? So I want to charge you eat the meat and spit out the bones,

get rooted and trust yourself. Don't be one to hold onto your blessings, let them overflow. Never look at somebody else, a comparing contrast, and more importantly, my God, have faith in the vision that was given to you. You're worth taking a chance on. You're worth someone believing in you,

are worth somebody to inspire. Okay, So again I'm not mad at my friend's mother, but I'm just reminded about my vision for my life and where I'm going and and and that's probably why they say gratitude is everything, because I could sit here and say, oh, at this age on you could have had this, you should have this or with these experiences. But we talk about success, when we talk about growth. I think about that little

door at Howard. I'm beginning that booth at six, I am to produce my radio commercials, doing my drops, and thinking about that, doing that, stood in front of that sun that staid Premiere Networks, thinking about this doing right now, it's talking to you, right now, it's behind my back, and imagining that going. That's the come by God. So live your life all a dream big, okay, and don't let nobody else tell you where you are and where you're going. Right with me, and get excited about your lives