Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast and I am your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about your life so that you can live life on purpose and for a purpose. And this is your first time tuning in the welcome Vitamin D. It's upon of my name. My name is Dawn and you get Vitamin D from the sun. So I'm here to shed light into your life.
And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if you want to be better and you want to do better, then you're going to have to be able to see better. So join me on this journey of living our best lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest ass at. I met up within old improv friend the other day. His name is Christian. We took in a minute together over at the ground Lands and I immediately
told him, I said, you're genius. I have a lot to learn from you. Fast forward a couple of years later, I learned that he has taught all over the world and probe has went through several programs schooling for it, and I always said, I got a lot to learn from you. Well, we probably haven't seen each other for a couple of years now, we know, with everything going
on with the pandemic. When we sat down the other day and just yesterday in fact, and we had a conversation about where we are in life and what we're doing. And you know, on this podcast, I've been constantly talking about how I'm working on our vulnerability. Well, they say vulnerability is your source of power, it's our way of connecting,
it's our way to saying I'm just like you. But in this conversation with Christian, we talked about how important it is to have vulnerability when it comes down to your characters, because there's an emotion that you're conveying, there's a point of view. But what he broke down something and I want to share with you, is he talked
about the difference between being honorable and authentic. And immediately I was like what, And he said, well, then, if you think about it, vulnerability is more than likely lead by ego. I'm lane Dan, he said, because you're kind of in the way of telling the story, you're instructing it the way to go almost as if you are giving it a direction versus Authentic is just whatever you feel in that moment. Whatever you feel, that is what
you are expressing. Now, I don't believe neither are wrong, but I do think how it is important to really tap into our authentic selves because it's in our authentic selves that we give ourselves permission to exist. We give ourselves permission to breathe. Oftentimes we have a trouble with vulnerability and opening up is because we can't control the narrative after we've shared a part of us. So now I share something with you, I can't and show your thoughts.
But what freedom is that? Being concerned with that rather than feeling or being authentic of whatever it is in that moment. And as I say, you grow from that moment. Be that moment, exists in that moment. It's kind of like when things are led by your ego. We causes a lot of stress, causes you to hold onto things, can't breathe, choked up, Relax and just work on being You give yourself permission to feel whatever it is that
you need to feel in that moment. Be in that moment and grow in that moment and grow from that moment. Just be authentic, get your Vitamin D right with me, and get excited about all right. It has been some time, but it's time to dive into the Vitamin D. Email bag, Um, I have a letter right here, subject should I tell them I know the truth? Dear Dawn, Hey there, I've been listening for a while, and I think I finally
have the shuts but to reach out. I live outside of St. Paul, Minnesota, and have been here all my life. I actually don't have a lot of I'm too concerned about. I've always been told that I have a good head on my shoulders and that I have a lot of maturity for my age at twenty nine. That doesn't hit the same way, but otherwise I take it as a compliment. I have a good job in my own place, a thriving relationship. My only real issue is with my parents.
They're actually my adoptive parents, but they've never told me. I knew from like twelve that I wasn't biologically theirs. When a late cousin told me, I think he was trying to be mean, but honestly it was a release. My parents were kind of helicopter parents, always very concerned that I was well adjusted, and it gave me some perspective. I understood why they decided to keep it from me.
They wanted to keep me from feeling some sense that I wasn't theirs, and they also probably worry that if I knew that, I would love them a little less. That's hard, I get it, so I kind of kept the charade up for all these years. Actually, for a while I kind of forgot, But with things starting to get back to normal, I couldn't shake this sense of sensation that I wanted to reach out to my biological parents. I've been doing some research and I'm pretty sure I've
tracked down my birth father. I want to meet him so bad, but I know I have to tell my parents before I actually take this step and understanding myself. I want to tell my parents that I always consider them my parents, and that I'm not mad at them for trying to keep the image up for as long as possible. I feel pretty well adjusted, but I would be devastated if the search to know myself would hurt them. So I'm reaching out in hopes that you can provide
some advice. Here's hoping. Hey, there, at twenty nine year old, how you doing. Thank you for reaching out. This is an example of being stuck between a rock and a hard place. But it's only hard if you're leaning pressure against it right flat out. I think you should go ahead and tell your parents that you like to reach out to your birth father. I mean, you're twenty nine, you know, since you were twelve, and I'm not sure when they adopted you, but starting at twelve years old,
that's seventeen years in the bag right there. If you just known way, there's no love lost. And I love the maturity of your mindset, are understanding where they're coming from. I even appreciate the fact that you are cautious about the decision that you're going to make. But at the same time, don't lose yourself trying to save someone else.
God forbid, if anything would have happened to your birth father, you know that you have the opportunity to do something and not doing it for the sake of someone else would essentially only robs you. As I say, how you
do anything, it's how you'll do everything. We gotta get in the motive communicating, We gotta get in the motive serving ourselves, and this mode you're gonna have to show up for yourself, and it's going to be uncomfortable, But just as how you explain it to me, have that sit down with your parents, because at some point, and
in actuality, you deserve to know. At some point we realize that we are adults, and we're grown enough to make our own decisions, to handle our responsibilities, to choose to live our life how we choose to live our life. So am I talking to the twenty nine year old you or the twelve year wrote you? Twelve year old I can understand you still figured it out. You don't
know what steps to take, you don't know which to turn. Well, twenty nine year old, you've left a little You understand grace, You understand that perspective, but more importantly, you understand right now how important it is to communicate. So now that it's time for you to speak for yourself, what you
got to say? I know what's going to be uncomfortable, But how uncomfortable would it be if you never had the chance or slipped away right in your fingertips, Because you could have and then you start singing and shouldar could have withoud the blues. Have to sit down with your parents, because God forbid anything happens. You don't want this to develop in some sort of resentment. Perhaps there's other things that you need to learn about yourself while
you do things a certain way. What's the connection to your your lineage perhaps what type of um not on a pessimistic side, what type of diseases or what's in your bloodline? How do you know you to be connected to you so that you can thrive as you and you know, I heard some people say, well, and this is not what you're coming yet, but what if my parents are who I thought they would you be or who what if they were mean and they rejected me. Well, you'll never know unless you try, So go ahead and
do that for yourself. Go ahead and have to sit down with your parents, let them know that you know and find yourself. Do something for yourself because you deserve that. Okay, So yeah, that's what I'll say. I say that you go ahead and you talk to your adoptive parents, let them know. And you know, I'm very impressed by the fact that you're not holding any resentment towards them for all these years of them not telling you. That's a lot of maturity in itself. So the fact that you've
been able to hold this water for this long. I think it's time for you to let it out second rate and say, Okay, that had nothing to do with it, but um yes, go ahead and tell them. Serve yourself, find you, find some new things, and who knows, maybe you all can have dinner one day and collaborate. Okay I might have reached, but speak up for you yourself and go ahead and do that. Okay, all right, So now it's that time where I love it. I'm going
to dive into the vital chest. Now, you know, the vita chess is where we have terms in there, terms that I like to use. Right, put on my improv hat and I give you another way of looking at the words. So when you hear, you're like, oh I remember doing this something like this. Okay, So I'm gonna shake, shake, shake, shake. My body would have been invited chess. Okay, one, two three. I got a word and the word is manifest. Yes, manifests. We know manifests is having it so that things can
come into fruition. Now, I want to look at my phone right now because I want to get the Dictionary definition of manifest and by definition it says clear or obvious to the eye or mind. Mm hmm, placing it into reality. When I was looking at this world right now, I see man I fast and as a verb a list to display or show by one's acts or parents, to demonstrate what are you manifesting in your life? What are you speaking into existence? Are you acting as if
you are? You know? As Meek Mill says, if you want it, you got to see it with a clear I view. What are you saying? What do you want? It's signed a manifesto reality? Call it forward, bring it to fuition. You know you've got powers to do that. You know you've got the ability to speak life. You know I got life tatted in my mouth. So it's sign for you to get excited about it. Where things
are coming? All right, let's get some housekeeping. Um. If you enjoyed this episode and you want to tell somebody or perhaps you think you should be on the show, I want to encourage you to shoot an email Vitamin D had doing day speaks dot com. Also, if you have a letter that you would like to cement because you need advice, own relationships, your purpose, just a situation that what you're going on. I want to encourage you to email me Vitamin D at dawn Day speaks dot com. Now,
you know I say this every time. I want to be clear so that you understand we are on the same page when you're write it in know that I'm gonna keep it real with you, because what do I say? If you want to be better and you want to do better, you have to be able to see better. Okay, So I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. I'm gonna give it to you all in real. Oh baby, I like it raw. Hello, somebody? Um, Also, can you tell somebody to tell somebody else to tell
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