Self Love

dig me. It's all about you living your best life. It's all about you living your life on purpose and for a purpose. Can you dig that this podcast is simply about you getting excited about your life? Do you dig what I'm saying? Like only for you to feel good? Like who doesn't want to feel good? You know, it feels good to feel good. Think about like when you were a child and you were having fun and you

didn't have anything to worry about. It felt good. Whether it was you on the playground, whether it was you having an imaginary story, you were feeling good. So this is all about coming back to the goodness. And see I call it vitamin D because Vitamin D is all about shedding light. So you get vitamin D from the sun. You know, my name is Dawn something shedding light into your life? Can you dig what I'm saying? Okay, so

we gotta so. If you're new, welcome, As you spend more time with us, you'll see how it unfolds more. And if you're returning, welcome back, family. How are you doing. We are in the second week of February of one. Now, you know I told you on the first episode, remember who you are? One? This is an and one season. We're talking and one. Okay, we got a vision. This

is and one. We're adding itt and I may have mentioned this, but I also talked about the whole idea of resonating and joy because you know, happiness is fleeting, you know, it's a moment, but joy is a state of being. Okay, we gotta walk in that, we gotta reside and that we gotta really feel in that. And so I wanted this episode this, uh, and I'm gonna start doing this more and more to really unfold the principles of what vitamin D is and just things that

I think the basics of what we stand for. It's gonna be like our creed, you know what feels good in the moment. And like I told you before, and if if this is your first time hearing it, Vitamin D is a gift for me as well, and I pray that it's a gift for you. But I'm learning new things. I'm discovering new things. They say the journey is the experience, and the experience is the journey. And and one of the main things that you will hear me say at the end of every episode of Vitamin

D is that you are your greatest asset. Because it's like a life bank account. Right if you think of any account, you can put things in and make a deposit or you make a withdrawal, and oftentimes we refer to as a liability. One cannot coexist without the other. Like you're allowed to get credit so that you can purchase new things, right, but it takes debt to acquire credit. But understand you when when you can learn how to balance, And that's what we have to do with life, just

like the end and then yang. Just like with Vitamin Z, we're shutting up the good and the bad. And it's not negating girl, you know, um disregarding another. It's saying you see it because one thing that vitamin D does is it allows you to see. And when you can see that whole notion of the fear, false evidence appearing real, will guess what it doesn't exist, and if it doesn't exist, you reside and enjoy. When it doesn't exist, you decide

to live your best life. When it doesn't exist. You can be everything you are destined to be because you have nothing to fear. Okay, oftentimes we get upsetten situations because it didn't unfold how we thought it was gonnaun fold. For whatever reason, we had this construct that, oh, I wanted to acquire this, I want to succeed in that.

And if it didn't work at the timing that we wanted it, or perhaps we didn't receive it in the way we thought we were supposed to receive it, we forget the gift that everything is happening for the greater good.

When you were side and joy, you understand that everything is shaping you so that you can have the whole capacity to hold whatever it is that you're coming and see that's the gift of life and see in order to receive the gift, that's going to require you to be the present, Hello, present, presents present, come on all right, So as we unfold more and more, I want to dedicate this dose of vitamin D simply to self love.

So without further ado, it's time for your dopes a Vitamin D D. Right with me and get excited about your lives real love. I'm searching for the real life. Someone that kept my heart to real love probably messed it up. But what's real love to you? Now? In this conversation, we are getting to the heart of the matter. Huh. Now, So when we talk about heart of the matter, we have to think about you know, home is where the

heart is. It's where we were side right. And when we talk about being our greatest asset, you have to love it just because when you love, you honor something. There is an appreciation. And you know, as you're in this finite time called life, there is an authority that you have. There is a dominion that you have. There is a duty, a calling for you to live your best life because you were given a gift and understand that the greatest gifts are the gifts that keep on giving.

I mean, look at it. Look look the gift of light is life. Stop what huh? Try it? When we talk about like the gift of life, right, and what it means. You can't negate what light does. And I was thinking about today. You know, I've been seeing on a few past episodes this little light of mine. I'm gonna let it shine. There's light that's inside of me, right, there's gifts. Right. We celebrate life each year, and when you think about it, you're celebrating another evolution around the sun.

Wait a minute, come on, are you checking with me now? If we're a situation, if we're celebrating this next evolution around the sun, do you understand that that's a new year around the light? Remember, light yields life. You heard what we talked about with Dr red Cross Envitamin D and how imperative it is. Light yields life. But here's the thing. When you talk about self love, you can't miss out on a certain attributes of it and its things that it's unfolding to me. It's unraveling to me.

But what I what I'm starting to realize with self love is there's a permission, um that you give yourself to experience life. Huh, what was the last time you gave your self permission to be you? Because I feel like oftentimes we put ourselves in boxes of restraints where we have the color inside the lines that we have to do the norm. But when do you go out and take a chance on you? When did you go

out to be so open and vulnerable. Well, you're not even thinking about how much you're gonna lose, but how much you're gonna gain. When did you realize that that self love from you doesn't require you to change who you are because there are no attachments when you talk about love, because love is free and if you are love and you are loved, why wouldn't you be free? But at the same time, it's also have an appreciation

of your boundaries. You know, when I was working with one of the renowned speakers, Lisa Nichols, one thing I learned and it's always stuck with me. She says, Um, you have to allow you have to allow your note to others to be the yes to yourself. Huh. Well, here's the thing. Sometimes we get in a situation where we're so uh balance to try to appease other people, right,

we try to conform ourselves to follow a career. We probably the conform ourselves to go into certain relationships to acquire certain things to want to change who we are because we're seeking some other approval. But when you talk about love, love has already contained, it's equipped. So in setting that boundaries, you are saying, hey, I'm saying no to you so I can say yes to me. Whether that's if you're somebody that works a lot, which that's me. Don you are not going to say yes to every

single thing. You have to set a boundary. Perhaps you're an individual who loves on your family and you love to do things for them, but you find that every time you're over extending yourself. And when you overextend yourself, remember we talked about the life bank account. Well, guess what your account goes into the negative? Because when are you giving time to deposit back into yourself? That's love. Now, remember what I said about now requiring you to change.

I didn't mean that you can't change for the greater good. I'm taught think about changing for other people, saying no to appease someone else. Now, when you talk about love, that kind of change is good. Whether that's loving yourself in a healthier lifestyle, loving yourself to equip yourself in a relationship. Now, if we go onto a biblical stance. Think about it. The Potter's house. God Jesus is love, and I've talked about it before. We talked about molding

and sculpting. We talked about the pressures. We talked about the water, the tears. We talked about you know, the pinching, the squeezing to mold it self so that we can pull the capacity of what is meant on our life. Right, and then we're testing the fire. Now, if you didn't catch it there, how about we talk about what allows the diamond to shine are the multitudes of cuts that have been placed within it. This diamond was once a piece of coal, cold, and all of this pressure from

every angle, did you hear me? All of this pressure from every angle unimaginable. Transform this state. And we talk about life, We are transforming the state of our existence. The whole goal is to get elevated. Whoa, The whole goal is to get elevated. So this diamond is changing in the existence. And if that wasn't enough, it's sliced and diced from even more pain for me, even more disdained. But even regardless of all of that, decides to step in the same thing. We evolve around every year of

our life. The light. Do you see what I'm saying? What allows the diamond, the shine of the multitudes that cuts with the place within it. So when we talk about love, how are you going to say the no to others so that you can save the guests to yourself? Because when you do that, you give yourself permission to live your life such as you and you understand that you have to set boundaries and you know what you also have to understand. You gotta understand that also self

love is about forgiveness. Huh. We make mistakes, were not perfect. Hello, I'm gonna give you another example. When Jesus was down here in this whole story, he even fell three times. That was in the flesh moment. Forgiveness of myself is saying, even remembering my mother. You know, my mom's anniversary is coming up, But even remembering my mother. I was a little kid. I didn't know anybody. I was probably like eight years old. And my mother, she was known to

have super long hair, like thick. They hear her hair could be in a ponytail and it's all the way in the middle of her back, if not like in the chair sitting there and she said she didn't like the way I did something, and she was handling her chemo treatments and I looked at her and I said, well, what if I didn't like the fact that your head was bald? I didn't know what I was really saying.

My fast forward, I don't know about fifteen seventeen years after that, my mother dies, and all I can think about it was like, oh my gosh, I can't believe I said that. And as a result of that, for a few years after, I would shave my head bald because I wanted to be that representation that you are not your hair, like truly, your beauty is inside. And I had to give that forgiveness. Adn't because I was a child. I was a child. I have to forgive myself even times I think that maybe I didn't go

home enough. You know, if I wasn't out in New York living, you know, you know, the past, the last couple of years of my mom's life, I would have been there. But I understand that my mom wanted me to live up my dreams, and I was there for her. Because when you find yourself and you're in a moment, you condemn it's a shame. It's a shame of me and who you are because the mistakes you have made. But you can't do it. Told yourself, that's not what

love is because remember love is free. Okay, when you don't forgive you a lot of things to be locked up, that doesn't mean that you have to have yourself to come to it. But remember we talked about the boundress. Now here's another thing. You ready, I gotta take a sip and take a sip in my lacroix. On this one, You're gonna have to be honest with yourself and hey,

catch this. It's gonna require you to be patient because we're constantly growing and for many such as myself, I'm constantly going where you know, I think my actions, I think my words are being conveyed one how But Dawn, take a minute, stop and listen. Now I told you maybe before if you go back on some past episodes, all I made a vision board and it's amazing how I'm seeing all of it unfold. You know, Um we

got on here like coming from behind the scenes. It says, out of the shadows being a woman in color and media, look at me, Dawing day in her podcast, look at Me drawing there on the Love of Jason, Uh, look at me dawing day with cosmic forces. But one of the things that I also have is take your time. You know, I'm an area, so I'm like fire, go go, go, go go, just the same as fire that can keep you warm and to cook your food, that fire can

burn you. So I'm learning to take my time because just as if you come on the light too quick, it can blind your eyes. So when we talk about being honest, it's sitting there. It's waiting for things to be revealed, understanding that things take time. Don't wash it. Think about your roots. Oh, let me tell you the

story that just happened today. So, um, I've been in the process of redecorated my home, and I've been traveling back and forth out of town, and you know, I have a plant and so I think you see a little neglecting a little bit. But I was so excited because outside, you know, we're going to the season and going into spring. Cot On's birthday. But they put some fertilizes around there. And when I was in Detroit last week or a couple of weeks ago, one of my

cousins man man. He was talking about making a compost for the plants. I was like, oh my gosh, there's manure out there. I'm gonna bring it inside. Not even thinking. I come in the house and I'm like, okay, let me dig up the soil. And I was like, I'm gonna put the manure there. But as I'm taking in, I'm breaking the soil apart. I see roots, roots are being pulled up. Oh my gosh, and I'm putting the manure down. And because I'm moving so fast, I forgot that.

You know, the roots are connected to the core. If your roots aren't connected, everything that is an extension of that can die. So now what I hope happened or will happen that this nourishment with the plant is that it could bypass. But there's a chance that the roots have been effected. Now let's think about us. Let's come back to self love, and then you think about it, being honest with yourself. It's going down deep, right, that's what we talk about, this little lot of mine, that's

the core. Even when you think about and I was thinking about this plan that I'm telling you, which I'm thinking, I'm rushing I'm pulling up the soil. When you think about the plants outside, the roots are all going towards the core. Remember I told you at the top of this episode, I said, we're getting down to the heart of the matter. And it reminds me of the song with nd RRA and she she says, we're gonna get

down to the heart of the matter. But my flesh guests, we you got anyway Testimonials volume two and I'm getting n d R She's coming on the podcast, but she I took some some lyrics from there. She says, it's like the thoughts scene to scatter, and the heart is so shattered you realize it's time to get to the heart of the matter. It's about forgiveness forgetting us to you, me and ourselves. But you gotta get to the core of what you're saying. You gotta get to the court

why you do what it is that you're doing. Until you take time with yourself, that's when you see that. And this is what you gotta realize too. When we talk about self love. Self love is doing right by yourself. It's being your true self. Just like I told you about not having restraints, I was just telling my sketchmate, and do you know I do in profit study and profit the groundings. I told you about this theory of the yes in which I love. We were just speaking

and I was telling him. I said, you know, it's so interesting. For so long I've wanted to get locks, and I didn't because I thought that it was going to restrict me from opportunities and and and things that I wanted to do. Was gonna put me in the box of people are going to be labling. I look back and probably they was really um by changing for me. And it was literally like one of my good girlfriends, SHELLEYE. Slacks,

says that of a transformation of a butterfly. She has her book Life Is a Butterfly, And thinking about in that cocoon when I had to step out and get brave and get naked and I was growing my locks, and how is it my podcast I told you want to love Jason my weakenst segment on the Steve Harvey Morning Show, It's Dawn still has our locks because it's

about being true to who you are. Remember that whole thing about being honest and even as my hair the beginning process, it's not what I can say the best or the cutest, but it's part of the process of the journey. And just like when we talk about when the roots are going in, whether you're going after your dreams, whether you're sowing your relationship with yourself, with your guy, with whomever, whatever, it's going to take time. I'll even

tell you this. I got excited today. I Um. I was sitting here, um really excited about the fact of just the revelations that I'm having my life and knowing that I am on the path of this aspiration of being big in the open, like it's happening, Like I can feel the magic. You ever felt magic on your life when you expect greatness? See, that's what love. You just expect the best. Right, So I'm so excited, I said, Oh my gosh. I felt like I was like, you know what, I'm going to down to this a vegan

cafe and I'm going to get this smoothie. They have something called a Banana Banana black Magic smoothie. And I ran into this young lady and it's amazing that when you go after your mind what to do, what you wanna do, how the gifts and things unfold and the gift that I got from her. Um. She was telling me of what she studied with yoga. She says, nothing meant for you will pass you by as long as you are putting yourself out there and actively seeking the opportunities. Huh.

Every time that I've decided to be bolded by my dreams, every time that I decided to travel, to take a trip, to go out an opportunity, I had to put myself out there. Now, if anything's meant for you won't pass you by, you gotta understand it's a double edged sword here. Okay. Remember how light yields life, right, Hydrogen and oxygen yields water. Understand that the life that you feel that is meant for you will not necessarily exist if you aren't doing

the work to achieve that life. See, that's why the self love part is important, because you honor what you love. So don't sit there thinking that things will fall into your lap. That you will find love without being loved yourself. And that even means being vulnerable if you're not putting yourself out there. Because remember, like attracts like one plus one equals to certain actions yield certain results. So are you open to loving yourself. That's self love. That's what

you call self care. It's about being in the now with the yes and type of attitude because we're building, we're growing, we're receiving, we're seeing, we're believing, we're achieving, we're consistently conceiving who we are because we're embracing the now, this moment, this moment to say whether or not I want to be more, whether or not I want to be extension, whether or not I am content, whether or not I can see who I am, where I am,

and where am I going wing. Why self love is so important, it's because you understand the things that you pay attention to. Are you paying attention to yourself? Remember we talk about tap in, tap tap tap in? Are you tapping into you? Mm hmm. And if you aren't, why aren't you? Why would you? And remember we talk about this thing about patients. You gotta be honest and if you aren't, understand, that's okay because the journey is

the experience, and the experience is the journey. Everything happens at the right timing. When you are in the now, you will understand why things had to happen the way they happen. Even with myself. I had a conversation with my boss, and it was about me standing in my authority, you know, really being um up from and honest about what do I want, what do I want to achieve? The first time, I'm nervous and sweating. I got my mom's picture of her and I I'm burning a white candle.

You know, the tears are common because I had to be bold right Then the next year, you know, I still took notes and have all the crying going on, and I asked for what I want and then I get did it again, and I realized, is that now that the stakes are greater, I'm in a sound mind because I've done it before, just like no difference when

I was in college. And I'm sitting in the studio for like I'm literally renting out audio studio for at least six hours on a Saturday, so that I can be prepared to sit with you right now talking now as I have to be honest with my own self. Love is I want to get to a better part of my vulnerability because as I'm unfolding and I'm loving Dawn, I want to be more in the present. Now. Remember I told you how my vision board. I have to take your time because I want to be able to

see love when it sees me to receive that. I want to be able to open our vulnerability. You know, it's so easy, at least for me being somebody that comes off and I'm consistently giving advice and it feels good. But you know, like Beyonce has a song who saves the hero after she saves the world, there's still that part of vulnerability where we have to give ourselves permission to be. I have to give myself permission to be so that I can receive the love that I want.

I told you, I told you Vitamin D was about that. A teacher is forever a student. That's life. Remember, we never stopped growing and changing. That's why it has to be a yes, and because you have to be open to receiving, so you can't just stop. So if we're gonna talk about what self love and what it means, you gotta know all those boundaries. Huh. You gotta know how to say no to others, So it's saying yes to yourself. You have to give yourself permission to live. Mhmm.

You have to remember that you don't have to be in anyone's box of restraints. You don't have to color inside the lines. And that is free that if it's holding you captive, that's my love. Love doesn't have to hold because love just attracts. Remember, just like the light, It just attracts. And then when you find somebody that has that same love because you got it, you just start bouncing off each other and it just starts to do this whole edifying. Yeah, that's the difference. That's what

that love is. And as you're understanding that, you're constantly growing, you're constantly changing. Love is about that forgiveness. M hm. No one wants to be condemned that. That's not what love is. If God is love, one has God ever shamed you for being who you are? If you are made in the image of likeness, when are you ever condemned for being who you are? Of good? And with that revelation, that's how the patient takes place because you

don't just learn this overnight. It takes time to get it because there are times that you're gonna have to stretch because you're grown wing. You're gonna have to work to get those muscles. You're gonna have to keep running out the chase because you gotta get your lungs, you gotta get the resistance, you gotta build up your endurance. Okay, because remember when we're talking about self love, we're getting

down to the heart of the matter. And when you love yourself, you understand you gotta do right by yourself because nothing meant for you what pass you by. But remember like attracts life. That is what self love is. Remember where we're doing. A whole evolution abound us. We talked about this right and if you aren't your greatest asset, do you understand why loving that asset is important? Do

you understand why it's important to put it first? Do you understand why it needs to be value because it's appreciated because it's the asset. It is you and everything that's an extension of you, whether it's your spouse, whether it's career, whether rush your children, your cousins, your project. You love that. Why when you love yourself hu because remember that's an extension of you. It's about being but that yes and attitude. So can you say yes and to yourself? Are you ready to say yes and to

loving you? I love me, Yes, and I'm great? Yes and I'm beautiful, yes. And I'm gonna be this millionaire yes. And I walk in authority over my life. Yes. And I can make my wildest dreams come true. Yes. And I love me, don't you. And we're getting to this point where as we get into the heart of the matter, that's the cord, that's the light, that's the vitamin deed, that's that's the center of us. Right Understand, we have to kill and for the roots that's grounded in the core.

And we're gonna keep extending and keep groaning and keep changing with the seasons. Because even if the seasons changed, right, huh, that's like these adversities, all my leaves fell off. But guess what, I'm still rooting. And when the next timing is coming, I'm ready because the fruit is already there because I'm still connected. So stay connected with yourself, love on yourself. You weren't your greatest ass said Okay, we're gonna have more great Vitamin D principles coming up. And

I'm so glad that you are here. I'm so glad that you enjoyed it. Thank you for investing in you. Can I say thank you, thank you for loving you, thank you for showing up and you say, you know what, I want some Vitamin D in my life because I'm ready to get excited about my life. What we're gonna keep doing that is gonna be expecting some surprises every Monday. You're gonna definitely get your doughs of vitamin D. But I think I'm gonna add some more additional wing, some

additional treats um and but tween. Okay, And the only way you're gonna be able to find out is if you get get you keep listening, okay. So I'm gonna keep a little secret, right and you know that if you want to reach out to us, to me to end and perhaps we'll talk about on the show, you can send an email to Vitamin D at Dawn day Speaks dot com. That can be an adviceliner, that gonna be a topic of conversation, that can be a question,

it could be whatever. However, as long as it's a conversation between you and me, that's how we be on the Vitamin Date podcasts. That is so definitely hit me up because I want to hear from you Vitamin D at Dawn Day Speaks dot com. And guess what if you can't stand it and you need more Vitamin D in your life. In between, make sure you follow me on a social media at dawn day speaks you got it. And in the meantime and between time, always remember you are your greatest asset. W