Are You Flirting With Me?

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And I guess it's something to really think about, because I'm sure all of us are so guilty of putting things off, waiting for a better moment um, a better time, a better space, rather than season what we have right now, and as time goes by, you look at and this tomorrow, then this next week, the next, next month, and hey it's even the next year, and it's like, no, we need to act right now. I was watching this video.

It was on Instagram and this lady was talking about life and she compared it to alphabets and she said, you know, life is through B through D and I was like, uh, what she said, B is birth and then and then you go on to death. But in

between that's the sea. That's the choice. And it makes me think we have a choice every day to live our best life, and not just one, not two, not three, but eighty six thousand, four hundred choices because there are eighty six thousand, four hundred seconds and every day, what are you doing or how are you making your choices? And believe it or not, the choice not to make a choice as a choice of itself, and that's a choice where you just stuck. And I'm calling for more.

I want more for you. I want you to get in the driver's seat of your life and make a decision. Whatever you're filling in that moment, just do it and follow through with it. Stop waiting on the perfect opportunity. Stop waiting on the perfect moment, just sees a moment, because you will never get a moment like this. I'm gonna be honest, I'm guilty for one to be indecisive. I'm not sure if I've made the right decision or

if there's a better decision out there. And as i am in my meditation process, as I'm more grounded, as as I'm realizing that whatever decision that is made, it is right for right now. And that's what I want you to do. I want you to see, is this moment right now? Because yeah, sometimes it's difficult to make a decision. Yeah it hurts to change, and yeah it hurts to stay the same. So what are you gonna

choose with your dash? You know, because that's the dates that we see on the tombstone, right the birth and the death. But then that's dash, that's the choice, that's the life, that's the story. What's your story gonna say about right now? And I want to have you chew on this. Whatever you're going through, remember this, Let every situation be what it is instead of what you think

it should be. Okay, And when you operate and living that way, you realize that all you got is right now, now, right now, get your right right with me and get excited about all right, it's that time again, time to dive into the email bag. Yeah, will you submit your Vitamin D advice letters? What is that? Well? You as listeners, you write me in and you say, hey, down, can you give me your advice on my relationship? What do you think I should do with my career? How do

you feel about X, Y and Z? Should I do this? How can I do this? It's something wrong with me, whatever it is, and you want my advice, I encourage you to email me Vitamin D at dawn day Speaks dot com. Now, let's just be clear that when you write with me or you write to me, Wow, I'm all about inspiring and motivating individuals. But just as the name of this podcast, Vitamin D, it's all about shedding light. And if you want to be better and you want to do better, you have to be able to see

better and that means the good and the bad. So maybe whatever I may say may not rub you the quote unquote right way, but no that it's just me being true and authentic because there's no way or no reason to sugarcoat anything right? All right, now that we got the out the way, let's get to this letter. Okay, subject, are you flirting with me? Hi? Don? I have been dealing with some roommate problems and it's gotten worse these last couple of months. I live in an apartment with

two other people. Two of us are women and the other one is a male. We all went to college together, and my two other roommates are also a couple. The issue I have been having is the boyfriend has been flirting with me. It started off as seemingly sweet compliments. He'd says something nice about my outfit or my makeup in front of his girlfriend, and I'd say how sweet

he is and how she's lucky to have him. But then when we're alone in the apartment together because his girlfriend is the only one that doesn't work from home, he will not only walk around shirtless, but he will accidentally rush up against me when we're in the kitchen or if we passed by each other in the hallway. I can't count how many times he's done this now. The reason that I know he does this on purpose is because he never brushes up against me when his

girlfriend is home. And he also always has a shirt on when we're all home. It's now progressed to where he makes me food and he brings it to me. Again. He only does this when his girlfriend isn't home. I'll be honest. It doesn't make me uncomfortable, and I love being given food, but this has got to be crossing the boundary with his commitment to her right. The fact that he only does this stuff when she's not home

is what makes me question what's going on. And I haven't brought it up to her because I feel like if I tell her what he's been doing that she might take it as me trying to start an issue with their relationship, because I know she can be a bit of a jealous person. I have been in awkward situations with men before, but this is the first time I've experienced a man do this kind of weird stuff. I haven't addressed him directly because I don't know how

I would bring it up with him. Do I say, hey, stop making me food and walking around without a shirt on? He hasn't done anything outright inappropriate? Am I to stand still with this? Should I say anything? Called up? Wait a minute, Oh, let's start with oh. The big oh is that if he isn't brushing up against you bringing food when the girlfriend is there, why would you even try to entertain the idea that is not there or that it is appropriate. That's when I gotta check you.

You know, I'm all about you know, being naive, but I feel like you're being naive to a default. What you need to ask yourself? Why do you feel any guilt? Oftentimes? And I was just sharing with coworker of mind over at kjl AH. I said, when we hide things, that's because of shame. And usually we're in shame because we feel as though there's something that we should not be doing. The fact that you have a hesitation about telling your roommate what's happening with her boyfriend lets you know that

something isn't right. Let's just start there. Oh, now, how do you work it? Work it? You simply sit down and you have a conversation because it's not gonna stop. But this is the thing too, I'm going to need you to be honest, you know. I It's one thing. No, it ain't about being in denial, It's about being honest. To be honest about it. You like it, That's why you don't feel uncomfortable, because when something is unwelcomed, it

makes you feel uncomfortable. And best believe, if it truly bothered you, he would stop because you would express yourself. And no one wants anyone to feel uncomfortable. So when you say, oh, hey, John, she has a tendency to be a jealous person, well look at you. First of all, it highlights the behavior of her boyfriend, and then the context of how you guys are living together and how she he asks when you two are alone. I'm thinking about thinking back to a college friends mam. She shared

with me. She said, you never leave your husband downstairs with any of your friends, never alone, never in a space. Because what we need to realize too is that what we have all of our morals and we know what to do and what not to do, we're still human and things happen. And what you realize is that you can place yourself in situations with the variable or the percentage rate of something going quote unquote in your favor

and not in your favor can happen. So as a human and if you're attractive, same sex or had a role, depending what you're into, these things can naturally happen. But the thing is is that you haven't set a boundary. Can we be honest and say that you actually like it? Can we be honest the fact that you like attention? Can we be super honest? Hey, guys that dating Michael ever? Get your dose about indeed with Dawn day and get excited about your Do you have a crush on your friends,

boyfriend or your room mate? Now you said y'all went to college together, but you didn't insinuate that you guys are friends. But I'm assuming so. Furthermore, going back to my friends said about never leaving your man at home with another woman, a woman or other female friends. That goes a testament to show and no shade how young you guys are. Why is this man making you fool? Hold up, that's where we are right now. Let's hold up right there. The fact that he is doing things

when his girlfriend isn't there. What does that say to you? Why are you pretending like it's okay? Furthermore, would you be okay with your partner, your man doing that to you? You know, what goes around comes right back around, and what's going around and this is how apartment It's not cool let's just be honest. But see, that's why I gotta ask you when you're right in, do you really expect me to be honest? But more importantly, are you

ready to be honest with yourself? Because to be acting like, oh my gosh, I don't know if I should say anything. Is this an issue? Hell? Yes, the issue. You know. One of my love languages, Yeah, one of them is you feed me. The other one is affirmed me. Okay, and baby, he's feeding you and it sounds like he's feeding you something good, and it's just interesting. You said, I don't know how it would bring it up with him. The conversation isn't with him, it's with her. He knows

what he's doing is inappropriate. You don't need to address that. How does he know doing well? He's not doing it when his girlfriend is around, because if it were okay, if it were deemed permissible, the behavior when changed? Why? Because remember what I said, you only high things that you're ashamed of, and you're only ashamed of. But if you feel like you're doing something wrong, so I guess I need to ask you. Are you ready to step into the light? Are you ready to keep it? G huh?

The issue that is going to ensue or is brewing, is the fact that this is continuously happening and nothing get stopped, nothing has changed. Why is that? Why is that Okay? You said that he does it on purpose. You're stating whether or not you should inform her says, well, maybe it's not on purpose if you did not live there with him, if you were not in pro close proximity, perhaps as somebody that you can stay away from, you can't stay away from him. And the fact that he

keeps feeding you. It's only a matter of time when it's gonna take it to the next level. I mean, come on, you got the touch, you got the feeding, and the next thing adorning with the compliments. Then it's the look, and then he walking around with his shirt off. Law, Well, I ain't trying to take you to church, but let's call a spade a spade. Stop playing with me. And if I see him annoyed, I am, because the fact that you're trying to act like is there anything wrong?

Clearly there's something wrong. The fact that you are hesitant in telling her, let's her know. And honestly, I don't think there's a way to go around this issue. Unless what's she's gonna do put some cameras in the apartment. So I guess we're best to start thinking about other living arrangements, because I mean, honestly thinking, like, what is

the excuse going to be? The Only thing that can change the situation is that he starts to walk around with his shirt off while his girlfriend's home and making food. And I'm telling you right now, if that was my boot, that would not be okay with me. That's not something that I'm flying with. So what do we do in this situation? She says, I'm at a standstill with this? Should I say anything? The answer is yes, You're only gonna find yourself deeper and deeper underwater, And ain't nobody

got time for that. Listen, we're here for a good time, not a long time. Why carry access baggage? You can't go nowhere with it? What's gonna what's gonna develop from it? Let's just say hypothetically, you enjoy it, y'all have a little moment. So he decides to leave her, What does that leave you with? They say? How you? Uh? How you get him inside? You lose them? Do you still feel like you can be productive with this? Type of relationship or situation ship, What do you want to grow

with this? You just have to have a flameworheck, you can go get somebody around the way or another homie. It ain't gots to be him. But what I say, what you guts to do. You're gonna have to get out of that apartment. And I don't know where you are, but I know here in Los Angeles the rent is too damn high. So you better start planning now, start figuring out the new year's coming up. So I'm sure they may have some some deals coming up with some

leases or whatnot. But this ain't gonna work, baby, Nope, No, this is not gonna work. So honestly, it is the best policy only because how are you going to continue to function in this type of environment? If it annoys you, I can imagine it's going to stop, but it doesn't because you haven't expressed that it makes you feel uncomfortable. So that's what I gotta say on this, Um, honestly

is the best policy, and more so for yourself. You know, feel like when we have shame and we're hiding from things that we're doing things that aren't right, it causes us to get dirty and acting funky. And I don't know about you, but I'm just trying to move the right way, not trying, I am moving the right way. I want to move with clarity and discernment and just being pure so I can attract the right thing like

attracks like don't let it be massy. All right, Um, that's enough for the Vitamin D advice letter and now it's time to get on some some housekeeping. Do you need some advice on your love life for a relationship. I want to encourage you to send me an email Vitamin D at Dawn Dave Speach dot com. I want to hear from you, and just like I said earlier in the episode started off, I'm gonna keep it real with you because if you want to be better and you want to do better, you have to be able

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