Advice Letter (I'm Leaving, But Should I Be Quiet About It?)

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Subject I'm leaving. But should I be quiet about it? Dear down. So I found out that my job is planning to fire me. My boss wanted me to clear out his emails and the dude didn't even take the time to archive or hide important company documents. I don't know what to do. They were talking about letting me and a lot of the stuff go on the next few months. I was kind of in shocked when I

saw them. I was going through just the leading what looked like mostly junk of this guy uses his work email to sign up for a lot, and then I came across some emails that are like downsizing staff and getting rid of the fat. It was almost disgusting the discard they had showed for the people who work for and with them. I'm at a loss. I don't really care about this job. I'm an executive assistant making middling pay, and I have kind of been looking for an out.

This at least gives me a deadline. But that's not everyone. I'm twenty three, I can start over, but some people have been here ten fifteen years. I definitely feel in my soul that I should tell them. But here's my issue. Among the folks getting fired is a particular brow nos er who wouldn't believe me if I told her the sky was blue. She always kind of thought I was aiming to take her spot. But I didn't even want to be here for another year. Let along move up.

I worry that if I tell her then she'll tip off the bosses, But I also know that I can't expect to tell everyone else and it not get back around to her. If that happens, then they might just let me go before I have the chance to get my things in order, find a new job, or maybe plan to move back home. How should I handle this? Who chall you need to mind your business because right

now you're doing a little way too much. But guess what, You're not the only one I to have came across emails from my boss that wasn't in the pleasant way. And I'm sitting here saying all this in front of Jeremiah. Don't be going with you. He shakes his head. But let's let's delve into this letter. So the first thing I wanted to say is that, um, mind your own business. And I say that in the most um positive way.

You know, you came across an email that talked about letting you go that was not even sent to you. So let's dissect the letter. You said, Hey, so I found out that my job is fled planning to fire me. You went on to say, I don't really care about this job. You're an executive system middling pay. You don't care because you say that you're twenty three. Now you're feeling this conviction that you should tell them, But you

have an issue. There's someone in your office who feels as though you have been trying to take their position over the years, and you worry that if you were to say something that they're going to go ahead and tell the bosses or flip the coin that if you tell enough, people will get back to her or him whomever it is you said her, um, and then they're gonna find out if it's you. Now. The reason why you're concerned is that you said you have a chance to get your things in order to find a new

job or maybe a plan to move back home. Um. Like I said, you're doing way too much because you know things happened to take in a matority way, and it's no shade. It just happens when you live a little longer and people you just always say this to me, I will just live a little longer. You'll learn. Um. You have to realize that even if you did plan on leaving already, you have to leave with grace. You have to leave with a stand up character. Just because

you're leaving this job. Everybody knows somebody, They say, what does it? Your net work is your net worth, So somebody knows somebody. And you don't want to leave on bad terms. You don't want it to come out there that you're snooping around the email. Take it as a blessing that you got the heads up. Now when I talk about there's a level of maturity here that needs to to to be applied, is because there are boundaries. Yes, you got the blessing of knowing what was in the email.

And I use blessing loosely because then it dictates your life because if you weren't happy with your job in the first place, Bro, ma'am, you should have been out. What are you waiting on? Why are you staying stagnant?

That's oftentimes that I think it's a problem or become an issue with people who are not living their authentic life, who are not living their best life, or feel like as though if they don't have a purpose, it's because they're waiting for somebody else to give them permission to fly and not realizing that birds are meant to fly because that's why they got wings. Okay, so you said, hey, you're thinking yourself. You want to do every your body

else a favor of telling them heads up? But what does that look like and what kind of commotion what kind of turmoil does that that breed? You're in a situation of your boss thought highly of YouTube let you in on the emails. Just because you are going to let go does not mean that it is sometimes to vindictive vendetta. I don't even know if that makes sense. But it's not like as a ploy to come take you out. It's just about what's happening in the company.

And as the term is as disgusting as you said, it may sound trimming the fact the access. Now, if you want to do this and apply this to the correct way, perhaps you need to figure out how to make yourself more valuable. But guess what, that's not an option for you because you already planned to leave. But for everybody else it may seem like the right thing to do. But there's a thing where you just need

to mind your business. Now. Like I said before my time coming up, I too came across emails were it wasn't necessarily spoken positively about me, and I pride myself on the way at work. I probably myself on my work athlete because that's my name, and when you're talking about my dreams, I don't play. And there was talk just saying that I got distracted, and it was mainly because I thinkured because I was excelling and not everybody

can take the shine. And I don't mean to sound raggedocious, but you could not make a complaint on my work. I was doing things to inforstrate relationships, raising money, creating opportunities as an intern, and while you were employed, I was only a couple of years younger than you, and I had people up there talking about, oh, she leans, she too good for this. Oh little does she know? We behind all the tricks, and I'm thinking I'm showing

up being present. But one thing that I will say, whether it's at least in your situation, it wasn't like they were talking bad about you because of what could seem like a hate oration or just negatively they're simply saying possibly because of budgets, they can't keep you for saying there. But even in my situation where I knew that it wasn't necessarily something positive, I had to make the right decision to move with character, because that's the

stuff that will follow you like a shadow. It will be something that people can sniff on you before you can open your mouth. It will be an energy that people can at the moment did you walk in the room. It will be a wit for a smell that could come through an email before they even met you in person.

Because people talk, and you have to realize that you have to take everything with great So yes, you might want to be Superman superwoman, but fall back as they say, slow down, Jim Shoe, you're moving too fast now you said that. You also don't want to say anything because you haven't gotten yourself in order, so you're so concerned about everybody else. You don't even have your stuff together.

Thank God, like you said, you only twenty three, so maybe you got time the ways thank got you in a situation where an option of you is to move back home. Other people ain't got the option. So you have time, you have more flexibility. So while you appear trying to just cause a fire because you're smelling smoke, you're not even realizing where that smoke is coming from. You're not even realizing where that smoke can blow so and I say that because you haven't even got your

own stuff together. And that's another thing that we talked about this podcast, how you are your greatest asset. If you are not good to yourself, what can you do for someone else? So, now you're in the situation a bundle the confusion because you're trying to figure out and rectify everybody else's likelihood of how they can do something, and you haven't figured out. You keep being messy, you

keep looking at the emails. You didn't say you did it more than once, but I'm assuming that probably once you saw it, you're probably more attempted to go back in there. You're going to keep playing with fire. You will get burned, do you know what I'm saying. So I think personally in this situation, you need to focus

on you. I'm focusing on you is one Why are you on the job that you found you have no business and I know that you're only twenty three, but you kind of have to start getting into the habit of making decisions about what do you want? Like see, like you said, the stakes aren't that high because you're young. You have an option to go back home. But what happens when you create the habit of being in situations

that you know that doesn't deserve you. See, like I was saying in my situation when I had decided to leave my internship, because I too had some of the parts and emails, and just as I looked at how I've grown, my decision of leaving a job, job or to blossom from a job, because I have to reevaluate the soil. I mean, what am I planting in this soil on right now? That soil wasn't fertile, whether it because if somebody else is doing or because my placement

wasn't there. So took in at your situation, your placement isn't there. Nothing that you you want to grow from, how you want to move forward with your life is in this job. So I'm not really sure about what good can come of it, whether or not you up here blasting and tell anyone someone else and you don't even have your own stuff together, play your position in

mind your business. That's what I think is the best way to go about this um because anything further of going to tell somebody else you can cross the lines. You don't know what the circumstances you don't know what that can bring out in somebody else that could cause a major confusion that could be rectified with something simple. Just because somebody is letting go here doesn't mean that

they're not going to be transferred into another opportunity. Just because they're releasing somebody from this position does not mean that they're not in the talks of a higher position in the company or another department. And here you go, because you think you so being again bowl. You want to beat your chest to be captain save somebody with your cape on and not realizing that you can cause a mass of confusion. And you need to get yourself together and figure out what it is that you want.

I've said it on previous episodes. How you do anything is how you'll do everything. Get in the mode of understanding what serves you, because if it doesn't serve you, it doesn't deserve you. I know that this doesn't serve you because you had already said that you don't really care about this job. The thing that's striking me, and this is why I'm so passionate about it, is because time is our most valuable coin. One s spent, it's going forever. You are wasting time and a job that

you don't want to be in. You're an executive assistant making middling pay. Yes, money is important, the fact that it's meddling pay. I'm more concerned about the fact that that's not what you want to do. Now, you said you want to look out for everybody else ten or fifteen years, where you gonna be at the next ten or fifteen years. You're trying to save everybody else and you don't mind drowning. So what you're gonna lead them to that on under I'm just saying, and I'm not

trying to be shady or anything like that. And here you have a co worker who you say that's not in your corner, that can either do one or two things. She'll tell the people off the bat what's going on, or you've already kind of summarized what can happen. On the other end, everybody gets to talk, and of course, if Brown knows that she's probably friends with everyone else, it's gonna tell anywhere. So then you have to evaluate

how do you win. That goes back to the first thing that I said, mind your business, and there's a level of maturity that things to be done, because now you need to look at all moving parts. Now. I'm not taking this away from you because it's not like you just went ahead and you jumped at it, because you wrote in and you're asking. So I'm saying that you need to leave this along. But more importantly, you

need to find out what you wanna do. And um, you know little Wayne said this, He said, real jeez, move in silence like lasagna? Catch it? Are you gangster and all gangster? For your dreams? Gangster? About your play? Gangster? How you how you're gonna make your next movie your best move? You don't. I have to bring the alarm on this. You need to figure out what it is that you want because of right now after value and it's a lose lose situation while you're trying to broadcast.

You gotta understand what's the bread crumbs for you to lead you to your destiny. And thank god you are fortunate. Thank god you got a glimpse, thank god that you got a heads up that you're about to be wading in the water by yourself. Now you've got a little bit of a life raft, you got a little bit of an extension to get to where you need to be. Now, how do you make your next move your best move. If you're in a situation that you have a uh a finite time to decide what your next move is

gonna be, take advantage of it. Do you hear me? Now? Me, I'm a dreamer, so I may not always have all my moves calculated because I got my purpose and I know what my vision is, so that allows me to have some free flexibility. So if I knew that I wasn't happy, whether it was tomorrow today, I know that greater is coming because if it's designed for the purpose I have my life, everything is working for my greater good.

I may not understand that. That's just my spill on it, but I say to you, mind your business and um mature a little bit. You don't need to be going out there disrupting everyone else's life. I know you want to help, but if you're in a situation, if you're telling everybody and you can't even control of how it may get back to the wrong person, you have no business talking. You don't have any credibility. Not one thing

you did not say is how long you've been here. Yeah, you just said that you didn't plan on being there for another year. And that you didn't want home Girl, Uh you want to stop it from home Girl to think that you were taking her position. So how many people are gonna believe you in your credibility? I mean, you're twenty three years old. You just talked about the fact that there are people that have been there ten fifteen years, basically half your age, more than half of

your life. And um, looking at you going about find information and on top of the fact, what you're gonna telling them out? You found this out? What you're gonna say you went through the email? What what are you going to say? Hey, I was cleaning out emails and because I was nosing overstepping boundaries, I saw that we're all getting fired. What I don't know if I would trust you. You got to move with integrity. Integrity is

everything that's your character, integrity over everything else. So that's your answer. Minda business? Okay, But guess what. Thank you for writing in. I appreciate you, and I I'm not overlooking the fact that you had a good heart and your good intentions were to help people. But based on just life experience and just based on people, that's not something that you should handle. That's why you have certain people that are managers, that are directors, that are vice

presidents because they know how to relay information. We know how information come across and people are losing their lives about it. We just had a whole pandemic last year. Do you know how people were out of work? And here we're not, We're just stepping out of it. And here you go up here releasing news that people about to get fired, Like that's not cool because anything can change. I don't know about you, but I live in an impossible lifestyle. So what could have been on that document?

Donna could be erased the next book. Anything is possible, So um, get out the business. Okay, all right? Uh so I want to welcome you that. If you have some advice, or maybe if you want to comment on the letters, shoot an email Vitamin D at dawn day Speaks dot com. I'll welcome you. Relationships, career, um, life. I don't know anything you wants to't light on. I'm here for it. I'm here for you, boo. And I

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