What does it mean to be untethered?

On January 3rd , I'm hosting my fifth annual Word of the Year party . It is my favorite event of the year . It's completely free and we are going to be setting your intentions for 2024 .

I personally believe that crafting a single , intentional and aligned word is your most magical New Year's party trick , and we're going to be doing that together at this party on January 3rd , 5.30 pm Pacific Time . You can go and sign up completely free at Jenlesscom slash party . I hope to see you there . Hey there , unicorn , it's Jen .

Welcome back to the podcast . If you are someone who celebrates Christmas , merry Christmas . I hope you had the best , most amazing , most magical holiday . And I also recognize that sometimes Christmas can be a bag of emotions , a mixed bag of emotions . We can have all kinds of things that come up at the holidays .

You can have joy and bliss and happiness and peace , and you can have grief and stress and anxiety and worry and all of the things that can come up , and all of them can be happening in your body simultaneously at the same time . So if that was you on Christmas , just a huge blanket of love .

And one of the things that I would love to share is that we really get to be all of those things . That's something that I have learned on my journey is accepting that all of those things can be running through our bodies at the same time and it's part of the experience that you are having . And all of that wash of emotion is not necessarily you .

You are this inner , amazing being who is experiencing all of that . And how cool is that , how cool is it that all of those emotions can run through your body and you can hold so much all at once . So , sending you a huge holiday hug from me to you , and I get this . So , joey and I , my husband and I this year we had a non-traditional Christmas .

In fact , this is our fourth non-traditional Christmas in a row , because we had COVID Christmas and then we moved to Oregon and so we have not been with our family for four years for Christmas . We haven't had the usual . We have a usual Christmas tradition of going over to my parents' house on Christmas Eve .

We have a ton of snackies and we open gifts and then the next day we come back to my parents' house because that's my dad's birthday and we would have the ham and the whole bit , and it was that way for 30 plus years of my life . That's exactly what we did every Christmas and it was amazing and I love it so much . I freaking love my family .

They're the best , most hilarious . We have so much freaking fun together , and there was a part of me that always wondered what it would be like to do Christmas differently , and so , now that we have moved , I am doing Christmas differently .

We were fortunate that we had friends come to tell in the past couple of years who came , and we had a holiday meal and we did some more traditional things .

However , this year we lived out an actual dream of mine , a real live dream of mine that I have always had , which was to go somewhere cool for Christmas , somewhere different , like have that full , unique experience that you see in Christmas movies , where somebody is going to Paris for Christmas or they're going and doing something wild .

They're going to a beach for Christmas . We got to do that . This year . We planned this adventure to go to Silver Falls State Park and to do the Trail of Ten Falls , which is my favorite place in Oregon . It's so cool . There are ten waterfalls and you can see all ten of those waterfalls on a single hike , and so we booked this cottage .

We're tucked away in Silver Falls State Park in this musty . I mean I can't use the word magical enough to describe this place . It is definitely where fairies live . Gnomes and fairies are living under mushrooms , for sure in this place . It's amazing . So on Christmas Day , we do this hike .

We see all these waterfalls , we experience the majestic power of these waterfalls . It is the best place , by the way , in my humble opinion , to release some shit , because the power of those waterfalls is just going to wash it all away .

So we have this wild , awesome experience , and there's a part of me that's grieving because I'm having this magical experience while simultaneously knowing that there is a former version of me who could have chosen to stay in the comfort which would have felt so good . My family is . I can't stress enough .

I am so blessed that my family is so amazing and I want to be there with them . And there was something more for me . There was this yearning , there was this calling . There's always been this adventurous side of me . It's the untethered gen , it's this desire to go and have all of the cool magic that this world has to offer .

And for so many years I was feeding her in all these little ways . But there was this one way that would not go away and it was about me going out , going forth on my own and adventuring and letting myself live the life that just feels so cool and awesome and aligned for me . And this experience on Christmas of getting to go and do this .

I was holding both things . I was grieving me , leaving that former self behind , and I was exalting in this version of me . That is just like living the fucking dream . It was both and I was toggling between the two all day as I'm having this experience like back and forth . This is so magical .

And then there's like the guilt and the worry and that I'm not there with my family and , oh , I want to be there with my family . The FOMO . All of those things were there and in the back of my mind . And we have this . We all do . We can't just cut off pieces and parts of ourselves .

And yes , we can shift the stories and still , I think it's beautiful to accept that it's all there because it is so . We have this magical experience . And then we go and on Christmas their coffee shop is open and they have this huge hearth fire and so we're all wet and I'm covered in mud For some reason when I hike .

My husband yesterday was like why is there mud all over the backs of your legs ? Like I don't know . I need a physical therapist to tell me why I am the only one who has mud all the way up to my ass when I'm hiking . But this is the truth .

So we're covered in mud and we're wet and we I get a coffee and he gets a beer and we sit in front of this fire and just like . It's like feels like a freaking movie to me , but in the coolest way .

And we go back and we have some leftovers and we sit down and we watch the TV and I start to become overwhelmed by the former feelings , the grief of what I have chosen to leave behind and the choices that I have made , and my ego starts to really spiral .

It starts to tell me all kinds of stories about how I've made bad decisions and how this has led to this and that , and then , before I know it , I'm spiraling in an emotional spiral that I've caught up in and my husband God love him , he listens and he lets me let it out .

And I cry it out and sobbing on Christmas night after having this , like amazing , magical experience , and I just needed to let that run its course . Once it had run its course , it became so clear to me that I was grieving .

I was grieving this piece of me that could have been this story , that could have been the Jen who could have stayed in Wichita , kansas , her whole life .

And it's important that we do grieve those parts of ourselves , that we give it time and that we give it space and we let ourselves feel the sadness , to feel the regret , to feel all of the things that come up and let them , let them wash through us and wash away like the waterfalls . We call it a waterfall of tears .

Let the waterfall run , because it helps you to run clear , and that's what I felt like . There was this huge cathartic release for me . Now , also , for anyone listening , we are in a full moon , the last full moon of 2023 . At the time of you listening to this , we are still in the outer edges of that full moon .

This was a big release when it comes to our relationships our relationships in particular and being our most authentic selves with our loved ones .

This is a huge opportunity to step into your authenticity and to leave behind the things that you have been blocking love from your loved ones because you're afraid of them seeing or knowing , or experiencing these other pieces and parts of yourself .

And so , for me , this adventure , jen , this travel , jen that my family has always known , they've always known her , but there are parts of me that I have kept them boxed because I didn't want to be different , I wanted to keep things the same , I wanted to stay and be so happy . But there was that adventure Jen .

She wants to be out in the waterfalls , she wants to be out adventuring , and so I was leaving her behind by staying .

So there's always these things that we are potentially balancing for ourselves , but we have to let ourselves untether from all of the FOMO your own life FOMO Because all we can do is live in the present moment and to continuously say yes to ourselves on the journey that we are on .

And if you have a nudge to have a different experience , let yourself have that experience

. That is untethering , that is living your most authentic life . That is true to you right now , in the present moment . Not the one that you think you should be living , not the one that somebody else thinks you should be living , not the one that you think would feel so good , but the one that , in the present moment , what is my next beautiful step ?

Because living your next beautiful step is going to lead you to the most brilliant , most magical , most amazing life that , when you're 95 years old , 125 , 145 , I'm into considering this idea of biohacking for all of us , whatever age , you're going to look back and be like holy baloney , that was freaking brilliant . That's what I desire for myself .

That's what I desire for every single one of you who is listening , for all of us , anybody who is a seeker , who is feeling called to listen to this podcast , that something with my message is ringing true for you .

There is an untethering that you get to do and during that untethering , it's okay if it's a little scary , it's okay if it's sad , if there is grief , because for every bit of grief there is so much magic and truly .

The more we untether , the more we come back home to who we truly are not who we thought we are , not who we thought we were supposed to be . The brighter , the more magical , the more in your purpose you become . Being on purpose is being your most authentic self . Your joy is your strategy , what the world needs from you , your contribution is .

Your greatest joy Is your truest light , is that most authentic expression of yourself ? So , in the edges of this full moon , or whenever it is that you are listening to this podcast , what is your most authentic expression of yourself ? And not somewhere in the future ? Today , what feels true to you ? What do you truly , truly want ?

And if you say you don't know , you just have some untethering to do . And there's a million ways that you can untether .

Considering any question that I ask in any episode of this podcast , considering any story that resonates with you , considering what your best next step might be , considering what might feel really good to you right now , all of those are opportunities to untether .

Now , for me , breathwork is the best way that I can , because it gets me home to who I am , it taps me into my brilliance , it helps me feel it , it helps me remember because I forget . I forget on my own path . We cannot see ourselves clearly all the time .

This is this weird thing of the human experience that I have to think is completely on purpose , so that we just fumble and trip and fall . And yesterday at the Trail of Ten Falls , I had 11 trips . So we had 10 falls , 11 trips . I tripped enough that eventually we started counting . I think it was on number four .

So then I would trip and Joey would go five and I would trip and I would go six and I was like , oh , I hit 10 . Okay , I cannot trip again . I've tripped 10 times for 10 falls . And then I tripped right at the end again , those big hiking boots . But we're always going to trip on our magical journey . We are always going to fall and skin our knees .

What we get to do is remember , and what helps us most on that journey is to surround ourselves with believers . If you can't quite believe yourself and believe in yourself , find people who will believe in you . This is what great coaches do . This is what amazing friendships can be there for , amazing colleagues can be there for your partner .

Find the believers , find the people around you that believe in you . If you don't have those people , it's time to open up to the possibility of finding them . And as you find more and more of those people , the non-believers start to naturally shed away .

Because you start to feel what it is like to have people who believe in you so long on this magical journey . They are there to catch you .

So as you untether , as you come back home to what it is that you truly are , to your greatest joy , to your brilliance , to the magic that you are born to create , to co-create with loving force , with loving energy this is what we are all here to do is to bring more creativity , more cool ideas , more awesome new things that make us laugh and giggle , and

silliness and happiness and joy , and things that make us think and awe us . All of that . That's what we all came here to do , as human beings on this planet , I believe . So , as you're on that journey , we forget . We forget , we get tethered . We get all tethered in the things that it's like oh , I should be doing it this way , I should be working more .

I should be doing it this way . My social media account should be growing , my business should be further along than it was . We can start to get tethered in all of these egoic , ridiculous , silly thoughts , we forget to stop and celebrate and to see where we truly are .

So , because I myself also had one of these experiences just the other day , I want to offer you the things that I think we all need to hear . These are the things . I ask myself the question what is it that I need to hear right now , at the end of 2023 ?

Coming in and embarking on a new year , thinking about how can I show up in a more authentic , true , most joyous , most creative , most powerful way , because isn't that what we all want ? To be just fucking magical and fucking powerful and having so much fun . What else are we here to do To do all of those things ? What is it that I need to hear ?

And these are the five things that I needed to hear , and perhaps they shall resonate with you too , my fellow untethered soul . One you can do it . Two you are fucking amazing . Three you do know . Yes , you know . Four the world needs what comes easy to you . Five there are people who will hold belief for you when you can't .

So I hope those five things offer some little bit of spark , some little bit of magic for you . Come back and listen to whatever minute of this podcast it is for you .

I want to hear your voice notes and record my voice saying it to you , because all of these things are true , but your brain will get you all tethered up in all kinds of bullshit and you won't believe it anymore . You won't be able to hear it anymore and these statements will cut right through that crap and get you back home to who you are , or breathwork .

That works really well for me . So , my magical , untethered unicorn friend , keep moving forward , keep following the magic and keep untethering , and we are here in it together .

I can't wait for all of the amazing interviews , all of the amazing conversations that we are going to get to have , all of the ah-has that we have together in 2024 as we continue this amazing life .

Now , speaking of breath work , I would love to have a moment of breath with you here at the close of 2023 as we step into this next most magical year , so taking a pause wherever it is that you are .

If you're driving , you can either come back to this or you can keep your eyes open and stay aware If you were seated , allowing yourself to get comfortable in your seat , feeling the seat beneath you , allowing your hands to rest in your lap , by your sides , perhaps on your heart , wherever it is that it feels good to you .

Together , let's take a breath into the nose , out through the mouth , taking another breath into the nose , out through the mouth , continuing with that same breath into the nose , out through the mouth , focusing on expanding the belly on your inhale and relaxing every muscle in your body , letting that breath fall out on your exhale and , as you breathe , reminding

yourself of all that you are , this current version of you that is here with you today , your former versions of yourself , those future versions of you , maybe even noticing how both the past and the future versions of yourself are actually alive , right here with you today .

Continuing to breathe into the nose , out through the mouth , letting that breath fall out with an audible exhale , if that feels good to you , welcoming all that is you into this present moment , all of the joy and the magic , the grief , the disappointment , all of those things that have made up every version of you .

Feeling into how all of those amazing things make up this fullest expression of who you are in this moment and in every moment , and also how this current version doesn't have to hold any of those things tightly , how it can all move with you and for you , with your breath .

When you're ready , today , we will take a collective inhale into your nose , pausing at the top , feeling into the magic of all that you are letting it go with a final exhale , truly unicorn . You are such an amazing human being . There's so much possible for you .

Step into this next year , into this next 365 days , with the intention of feeling into whatever beauty is meant to come your way , opening up your eyes when you're ready . Thank you so much for joining this episode . Thank you for listening to this podcast . Truly , it means the world to me that you would listen to it .

If you did enjoy this episode , if you enjoyed this moment of breath , there was something in it for you I invite you to share it with a friend , or to take a little screenshot of this episode right here and share it with all your friends by sharing it on social media . If you tag me I'm untetheredjen on Instagram I will definitely reshare your post .

Thanks again for listening . I will see you in 2024 . I hope you just keep shining your magical uniform light out there for all to see . See you next time . Bye .