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Every single one of us is creative. Too many of us have lost our way. I'm jealous. And I've been on a commute my entire life on a continuous search for the next thing that will bring me the ultimate level of happiness. Finally, I realized I'd never get anywhere unless I took my journey to the inside. Because the truth is, it is your inner creator, who guide you to your purpose. The creative commute is your shortcut. I'm here to speed up your journey, filling your tank with inspiration, practical tips, thoughtful conversations, and yes,
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lots of silly metaphors. to reconnect you with your inner creator. It's the creative fuel, you need to close the distance between where you're at and where you desire to go. Because if you seek a life of meaning, if you're unhappy in your current job, or life looking for more, or if you're just not sure if what you're doing is enough, this is the podcast for you. I'm Jen Liss. Thank you for being here. Let's get started. Hey, creative commuters, I wanted to share a bonus episode with you this week, because there's been a little extra something that has been on my heart this week, I've been sitting with it a lot. And I just want to share my thoughts on it and actually to share something that I heard from somebody else that I think might resonate with a few people. And so I didn't want to hang on to it for multiple weeks. And wait, because I knew that there's probably somebody who could benefit from this.
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the thing that I've been thinking about a lot, is that it's okay to change. You know, maybe you were meant to do one thing in this life. And at the age of five, when somebody asked you what you want to be it was that thing and you're that thing. No, maybe you wanted to be a teacher, and you're a teacher, and you were living out your amazing dream. And I think that is freaking awesome. And I still hope that even if you're one of those people, you get a lot out of this podcast. But if you're somebody like me, who is a multi passionate creator, then I have a message that I think will resonate with you a lot today. And it's something that I wish I would have thought about, or that I would have heard about or just really sat with and considered sooner than today. And that's because I've changed a lot over time. I'm a person who I just I like to learn about a lot of things. I like to do a lot of things and that has made me feel at times like there's something wrong with me, honestly. And if you know me, you know that I did hair for 11 years prior to completely switching, I went back to school and started a new career as a creative copywriter. And, you know, I've had this journey, even over the past year of figuring out okay, what's next for me? What, what more can I do? What is next. And at every one of these intersections, I've had these feelings of guilt and loss. You know, when I left hair, I had so much guilt, there was so much guilt in leaving that profession, and definitely a lack of understanding, have very, very frankly, expressed misunderstanding from even some of my hair clients. And I don't blame them for that. I think I carry that on my back. And I think I'm actually still I'm just now actually starting to release it. So I want to share this because I think that there's probably other people who feel this too. You know, maybe many of us were meant to do lots of things, we enjoy doing lots of things. In fact, even if you are that person who knew what you wanted to do when you were five, you've still learned a lot a ton of things along the way. You know, we're always changing, always growing ever evolving. Human beings. And a lot of us are at our happiest place when we're growing. You know, and it's okay to change. I don't know if you need to hear that. But it is okay to change. In fact, I think it's it's good if you are somebody who feels like you need to change, to change, or to start something new. Like that is completely okay. I actually saw this post on Facebook and I actually started it really kicked this in for me because I was already thinking along these lines, but then I read this and I'm just going to read it back to you because I think it's really, really
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powerful.
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It says a great reminder. At age 23 Tina Fey was working at a YMCA. At age 23 Oprah was fired from her first reporting job. At age 24, Stephen King was working as a janitor and living in a trailer. At age 27, Vincent van Gogh failed as a missionary and decided to go to art school. At age 28, JK Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare. At age 30. Harrison Ford was a carpenter. At age 30, Martha Stewart was a stockbroker at 37, Angela was a stay at home dad working odd jobs. Julia Child released her first cookbook at age 39 and got her own cooking show at age 51. And not realize that Stanley didn't release his first big comic book until he was 40. Samuel L. Jackson didn't get his first movie role until he was 46, Morgan Freeman landed his first major movie role at age 52. Kathryn Bigelow only reached international success, when she made The Hurt Locker at age 57. Whatever your dream is, it is not too late to achieve it, you aren't a failure, because you haven't found your thing yet. And it's okay. If you don't know what your dream is yet. Even if you're flipping burgers, waiting tables are answering phones today, you never know where you'll end up tomorrow. Never tell yourself you're too old to make it. Never tell yourself, you missed your chance. Never tell yourself you aren't good enough. You can do it, whatever it is, that sets your soul on fire, you can do it. I want to add a little something to this because I think there's something in this for those of us who have found what set our soul on fire. But it doesn't anymore. It's okay to change. And it's okay to do something else. It's okay to thank that thing that brought you joy, whatever it was for getting you to where you are today for giving you the skills and the thoughts and the wonderful people in your life today. And to say that you're ready for something new. I personally wish that I had heard this from somebody and that it had sunk in, in my brain sooner than today. It's okay, to change. And if you don't want to change, that's okay, too. If you're still on the path, and you know where you want to get that, that is a wonderful, beautiful. If you're already there, then Hello, yes. But I think there are those of us who hang on to things and we hang on to a lot of feelings. And we just start to carry this backpack full of things. We don't even often realize we're carrying guilt expectations. And all of these negative feelings that we're just still carrying on are these people that we used to be, but we've changed and we're just carrying it. You know, I, I was thinking about this, those who know and love us best. Those who really love us and care about us can sometimes be the hardest people to talk about our current state or our current feelings with. And why is that? And I think there's a lot of things involved in that. But something I've been thinking about this week is that those people, your your co workers, your friends, your family, they know you as someone they know you as the person who does blink, as the person who says blink as this person, but you're changing. You change all the time. So do I so does your mom. So So do your sisters, your brothers and your best friend, we're all always changing. And so it makes it really hard with those who we love most, and those who love us most, because we have expectations. And we start to carry those and our backpacks. And we're holding on to those things that people expect of us. And that's why sometimes when somebody that we don't know as well, it's easy. It's easy to be who we are today and to talk about things
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with someone who doesn't know us that well. And I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with those of us. I think that it's probably a natural thing that happens because it's good because our loved ones can keep us grounded. And I do think that there is some good to this. So I'm not saying that it's all bad. But what I am saying is to look at your backpack and examine what's in it. Is it full of things that you can put down? Are there things in that backpack that aren't serving you anymore, that are just weighing you down, that are making it harder than it needs to be? I mean, think about think about a mom carrying a diaper bag. What if you're 52 years old and you're still carrying a diaper bag, you don't need butt cream anymore. You don't need those little cheesy puffs. I mean, they probably are actually pretty tasty. I've never tried one, but you probably don't need them. anymore? Are you still holding on to things that served you long ago that aren't serving you anymore? Are there things that you have in your bag that you don't need? Just think about it. Think about what expectations, fears, thoughts guilts, what are you holding on to, and I just want to let you know that you can let them go. You can drop the entire bag if you need to, if you don't need them anymore. Drop them, put them down. I heard from this lady who said that she was a realtor. She had a beautiful, wonderful, amazing, fabulous career that she loved. It was awesome. her life she was married, and they had this beautiful romantic relationship until she lost everything. Her business collapsed, her marriage collapsed, she lost everything. Everything was stripped away from her life. And she was down to nothing. And she said it was only then that she realized when she was down to her bottom level, she realized that she was holding on to this bag. And she was like, What is this bag, I don't even need it anymore. I don't have any of that anymore. I don't need this stuff. And she's like, I realized I was holding on to all of these things that I didn't need. And so then she actually what I think is great is that she has rebuilt her life from the ground up and she is thriving. Again, I just want you to know that her life is actually amazing. But the message that I think that comes out of her story is that you don't have to wait until your life is decimated. Before you can look at your bag and decide what you can put down. You can actually do that right now. You can actually do that today. by stopping and realizing what you've got that you're holding on to that no longer serves you.
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just a little bonus episode because it's on my heart. It's on my mind. And I wanted to share that because I think that we all could probably do a little a little examination of what are the things that we're carrying? And could I potentially put some of that down? Is that stopping me from being creating all of the wonderful things that I want to create for myself in this life? So give that some thought this week? Let me know what you think of this podcast. Feel free to drop me a an email or a DM anywhere on the social media use my email is creative commute to jen@gmail.com and leave a review on the podcast as something struck you today or in any episode. And I will see you next week. keep creating and becoming that wonderful, magical unicorn person you were born to be right
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