Lessons in Love: Uncovering Your True Self in Relationship
Episode description
A Conversation with Don St John
What we talked about:
- Why being in a committed relationship can be one of the best venues for the healing journey
- The configuration of the codependent relationship
- Getting to the core and facing fears, vulnerabilities and uncertainties are important to live a life of fullness
- Who you’re likely to be attracted to is what you most need to heal
- Asking yourself what you have learned from your old relationships and what growth has been catalyzed?
- Growth requires continual attention and willingness
- The different kinds of attachment styles
- How understanding attachment styles can be used as a tool to understand the quality of relationships with your parents and how it influences future relationships
- A major step in personal development when one can realize that they can be this AND that
- Learning to listen to your heart
- The three dimensions of being and the importance of identity, connection and responsibility in relationship
- Taking responsibility to become the author of your own life
Dr. Don St John
Don St John, Ph.D., is a somatic-relational psychotherapist, workshop leader and author of the award winning book, Healing the Wounds of Childhood. He is an authorized Continuum Movement teacher and Hellerwork Structural Integration practitioner and trainer. He has taught and given presentations in the US, Canada, New Zealand, and Brazil.
Dr. St John studied Gestalt Therapy at the LA Gestalt Therapy Institute and Neo-Reichian therapy with Drs. Allan Darbonne and Jack Lee Rosenberg; the Psychology of Selves and Voice Dialogue Method with Drs. Hal and Sidra Stone; Hakomi with Dr. Ron Kurtz; Coherence Therapy with Dr. Bruce Ecker; AEDP with Dr. Diana Fosha; and CIMS with Dr. Albert Sheldon and Beatriz Winstanley. He has taken immersion courses and core training in Dr. Sue Johnson’s Emotionally-Focused Couple’s Therapy. He is certified in Somatic Experiencing, the work of Dr. Peter Levine. He has also studied cranio-sacral therapy and for twenty years has been studying and practicing Continuum Movement developed by Emilie Conrad and Susan Harper.
Don's doctoral dissertation, written at the Western Institute for Social Research, focused on the consequences of and recovery from relational maltreatment in early childhood. He lives in Salt Lake City with his wife of 38 years, Diane, co-founder of Paths of Connection.
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His Book: Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture: An Adventure of a Lifetime
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