‘Twas the episode before Christmas and in the spirit of holiday fun, Santa Claus and Mama Elf are stepping into the studio to do this one. They kick off with a talk about Christmas traditions and funny tales from the past, then it’s time to put some toxic exes on blast. There’s a round of “Petty or Prudent” about an ex’s gift for sale, but how does that compare to what he did to make her bail? The episode ends with a special segment called “Naughty or Nice” that serves as a lesson for overbearin...
Dec 24, 2023•37 min•Ep. 512
J&J are switching things up for this episode because Jared has a date with a listener and, in this episode, they figure out who that will be. They start with the top date contenders, as decided by the Betches office, and narrow down the prospects. Then, they get back to solving dating with an email about trying to date in the same small town as an ex. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about using a Tide Pen on a date, the mention of “the one that got away,” and an unso...
Dec 20, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 511
It’s time for another Sunday Special and the senioritis of 2023 is hitting. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a breakup over religious differences. Then, J&J respond to an email about overcoming the sensitivity around rejection. Plus, they get the rundown on why TikTok is talking about Zach Braff being a terrible date and give their takes on the story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 17, 2023•35 min•Ep. 510
J&J are ready to dive into another episode, but first, they have a very New Yorker debate and give a preview of the “Win A Date With Jared” submissions. Next, the first emailer has a conundrum. Guys see her as a “cool girl,” which is great, but she’s not too cool for a relationship. How can she overcome that placement in their minds? The Awkward Encounter is what happens when one person tries to force romance. Then, the second emailer is reeling from a breakup while battling a diagnosis. Was her...
Dec 13, 2023•1 hr 40 min•Ep. 509
This Sunday Special is all about settling debates between couples, but first, there are some clarifications to set about the eligibility to win a date with Jared. Jumping into the episode, J&J play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about baths. Then, a listener writes in about a tiff with her boyfriend. She hangs out at his place more than he comes to hers. He raised the issue that she isn’t contributing to the upkeep of the apartment, but does she have to if she doesn’t live there? Jared and Jordana ...
Dec 10, 2023•46 min•Ep. 508
Before J&J can solve dating, Jared explains how he ended up in a Turkey Trot and on “Celebrity Row” in MSG. Then, the first emailer has her eye on a cute guy she’s sharing a ski house with, but the friend group already has plans to set him up with someone else. Should she still make a move or back off? The Awkward Encounter is a take home tale about a bad date. The second emailer doesn’t care to be engaged right now, but she really wants the ring. J&J extract the big issue behind the ring reques...
Dec 06, 2023•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 507
It’s our first Sunday Special of December, and Jordana gifted Jared a tarot reading to kick it off. Kelley Knight, owner of Modern Mystic Shop and recommended tarot reader of the Girls Gotta Eat hosts, joins J&J to read what’s happening with Jared. Guided by questions from Jordana, Kelley pulls cards that predict Jared’s love life. Plus, Kelley pulls an interesting set of cards regarding someone from Jared’s past. @kelley__knight, @modernmystic_shop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaph...
Dec 03, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 506
Now that we’re heading into December, J&J are ushering in F*ck It Season with this week’s episode. The first emailer likes the guy she’s seeing, but after posting him in a Facebook group, she’s a little freaked out. How much weight should she give to strangers in the “Are We Dating The Same Guy” space? The Awkward Encounter is a reminder to up your standards ahead of a first date. Then, the second emailer is stuck in an addictive situationship. J&J give her advice on breaking the cycle before en...
Nov 29, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 505
We love a special guest for our Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Vir Das takes a break from his international tour to join J&J in the studio. He walks J&J through his background from India to Nigeria to the US, and how he ended up in comedy. Then, Vir shares the relationship obstacles he overcame, why meeting his wife pre-fame was a key to their bond, and his thoughts on arranged marriages. @virdas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 26, 2023•41 min•Ep. 504
It’s Thanksgiving Eve and your favorite dating hosts are reminding you to beware of that holiday hookup text. In this week’s episode, J&J are ready for the holidays to hit full swing. They kick off with a flashback to high school days. The first emailer asks if he’s a f*ckboy, causing Jared to do some self-reflection. Then, the Awkward Encounter goes from a funny story to an off-the-rails comment that leaves Jordana choked up. Next, an emailer needs to know if she’s got a real shot with her best...
Nov 22, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 503
J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re bringing back a beloved segment! In SOS episodes, rather than reading an email, a listener joins the pod to talk out their issue. This Sunday, Rianna joins J&J to explain how hard dating has been since she returned to the apps for the first time since college. Is it because she’s gained weight? Is it her new city? J&J help her identify non-issues, address a bigger problem they’re foreseeing, and give a homework assignment to get over her dating slu...
Nov 19, 2023•31 min•Ep. 502
It’s time for another episode, and with Thanksgiving only a week away, J&J are getting some holiday asks out of the way early. The first emailer wonders if she and her BF are really on the same page about their future, or if his jokes are meant for more than a laugh. Next, J&J take on a mini-lightning round about how to prepare for your first Thanksgiving with your SO or handle the tough questions from your family post-breakup. Then, the second emailer doesn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with her...
Nov 15, 2023•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 501
It’s time for our anniversary Sunday Special, and this year is extra special because it marks 500 episodes of the U Up? Podcast! J&J are back in the studio celebrating the latest milestone and reflecting on the last 6 years of solving dating on this podcast. They reflect on how they got here, the best and worst guests, and their most personal episodes. Plus, they play back “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” segments from years past and guess where they stood. The episode ends with J&J sharing what they...
Nov 12, 2023•57 min•Ep. 500
J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared has a bone to pick with Jorge. Next, a listener is doing just fine in her relationship but wonders what experiences are needed to get her to an engagement. Jordana shares how she and her husband made it past that point, and what hesitations she sensed from the email. The Awkward Encounter is more unhinged than hazardous. Then, another listener is unsure if she should compromise plans with her besties for an important night to her boyfriend. T...
Nov 08, 2023•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 499
It’s time for another Sunday Special, but we’re switching it up with a special game. J&J are joined by U Up producer, Jorge Morales Picó, to find out if men think differently when they’re in a committed relationship versus holding single status. Jared and Jorge face off for a series of questions as Jordana puts them to the test. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 05, 2023•55 min•Ep. 498
It's Halloween, so Jordana came ready to get messy while Jared showed up buzzed–but not in the way you’d think! First, J&J kick off with a pop quiz on spooky season dating terms. Then, a listener asks how he can get his long-distance girlfriend to communicate more. J&J discuss what this could mean for his relationship. The Awkward Encounter involves coworkers too close for comfort and reminds Jared of an awkward encounter of his own. Next, a newly single listener wonders how and when she should ...
Nov 01, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 497
It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, J&J are joined by comedian Sam Morril. He talks unhinged exes and shares a recent text exchange with someone from his past. Then, the trio play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about appetizers on a dinner date. The episode ends with an email asking for validation on a breakup. A listener thought she did her due diligence in breaking up with her ex, but after time had passed and she ran into him, he accused her of not being honest enough because sh...
Oct 29, 2023•57 min•Ep. 496
Something major happened and J&J are kicking off this week by announcing the news! After Jordana spills what’s new, a listener writes in asking about how much having a “type” hurts her chances of finding a true match. Then, J&J switch things up from an ordinary episode and make an awkward request. The episode ends with a visit from Jaz Zepatos, a member of the Betches team. She talks to Jared and Jordana about her open relationship, from how it came to be to how she continues to maintain a stron...
Oct 25, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 495
Today’s Sunday Special fits double the podcasts into a bite-sized episode as Jared and Jordana reunite with Girls Gotta Eat podcast hosts, Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine. With one host single and the other in a relationship, they discuss their experiences dating in NYC and LA, and the DM slide that led to Ashley’s relationship. Then, J&J ask how not wanting kids has affected dating including when and how this decision is addressed and the stigmas surrounding women that don’t want kids. @g...
Oct 22, 2023•46 min•Ep. 494
In this week’s episode, J&J settle a few doggy debates among our listeners. Is it worth telling a SO that you hate their dog? Would sharing joint custody with an ex hurt your dating life? Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter turns out to be pretty wholesome. Jared and Jordana also hear from a listener dealing with ghosting regret, but they think she’s ignoring part of the picture. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about asking your ex for a post-mortem favor, stealing gr...
Oct 18, 2023•59 min•Ep. 493
J&J are back for a Sunday Special and, while the weather is shifting, some things never change. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about what happens to sex toys after a breakup. Then, we hear from a listener about a classic issue: dating app fatigue. She’s stuck in an up-and-down cycle of being on and off the apps and, while she’s self-aware that this might be affecting her dating success, she feels like this is an individual problem. Jared and Jordana share a reality check,...
Oct 15, 2023•27 min•Ep. 492
A lot has changed since J&J were in the studio a week ago: Jared and Jordana had a first in their friendship, someone wasn’t happy about Jared’s Benefits episode, and Bumble added a new approach to dating on the apps. The first email is about backing out of a talking stage after Jared’s voice gets in her head. The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes in hot. Then, the second emailer questions how she can get her boyfriend to spend quality time with her outside of dates. The episode ends with a round o...
Oct 11, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 491
This week, J&J are joined by comedian, Emma Willmann! They start with talking about the stereotypes between straight and gay relationships, how she and Jared became friends, and what her new podcast, Ask Men Anything, is all about. Then, a listener wonders whether it’s why people keep asking, “How are you still single?” As a 30-something, gay man, is this meant to be a compliment or a red herring? Jared, Jordana, and Emma discuss. @emmawillmann Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...
Oct 08, 2023•46 min•Ep. 490
J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared feels garbage about a post-show interaction with fans in Atlanta and Jordana recalls humbling experiences from the early days of Betches and U Up? Live. The first email is a commitment conundrum that one listener is having with her boyfriend. Why does he keep agreeing to plans only to back out last minute? The Awkward Sexual Encounter blows in more ways than one. Then, the second email questions how logical it would be to continue pursuing a ...
Oct 04, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 489
It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Nimesh Patel stops by the pod. J&J engage Nimesh in a “Petty or Prudent?” debate about answering your SO’s ex on their behalf. Then, Nimesh shares his experience with interracial relationships before they dive into a lightning round about interracial dating questions sent in from Instagram. @findingnimesh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 01, 2023•47 min•Ep. 488
There’s one question that has stumped our universe for centuries: Why do men? Emma Willmann is on a quest to find out the answer in this podcast from Betches Media. Each week, Emma is inviting some of the funniest and most interesting men she knows into the studio and pulling from the Ask Men Anything inbox to ask your biggest, weirdest, and most pressing questions of earth’s most mysterious beings. Check out a preview from Jared's episode here, and then go over to the Ask Men Anything feed to h...
Sep 28, 2023•28 min
J&J have the honor of sitting down with Gerry Turner, the Golden Bachelor, himself! But first, Jordana is catching us up on married life in the ‘burbs and Jared is excited to see Huntington firsthand. The first email asks whether wanting to be “virtually courted” is holding her back on the apps. Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of firsts. The second email is from a listener who just heard from her cheating ex after almost a decade. Is she right to feel upset? J&J wrap up with an interv...
Sep 27, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 487
Seasons are changing, and so are dating norms! This Sunday Special, J&J kick off with excitement about what’s to come–cool weather, new reality dating shows, and Halloween. What Jared feels for football is what Jordana feels for Bravo shows, but with the latest Summer House drama, she’s noticing a new pattern amongst love stories playing out on reality TV. Then, they discuss an email about catching feelings ahead of a 3-week international trip. How soon is too soon to suggest a European getaway?...
Sep 24, 2023•40 min•Ep. 486
Fall is officially days away, and J&J are predicting a shady season ahead. They take a trip to Plug City before reminding single listeners what the goal for meeting IRL should be. The first email retells a bad date, wondering when and how she could’ve left early. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of sweat. Then, a listener needs tips on how to tell her husband he’s a bad kisser after 7 years of marriage. Is it too late for her, or can she teach him how to improve? The episode ends with a new ...
Sep 20, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 485
J&J are ready for another Sunday Special, and we’re starting off with a “Petty or Prudent?” about an invoice being sent after the breakup. A listener scratched her ex’s car while they were together, and offered to pay for it then, but her ex didn’t ask for the cash until they were over. Who is in the wrong? Then, an email comes in asking how to handle a big family trip after a breakup. J&J give tips on how to get around grandma’s persistent questions and the stress of being single again when you...
Sep 17, 2023•30 min•Ep. 484
