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U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

Episodes

Will Men Settle Down With Literally Anyone If The Timing Is Right?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s entry to TikTok and how it differs from Instagram. Then they chat about a long-awaited first date that Jordana set Jared up on. The first emailer asks if the classic Sex And The City quote comparing men to cabs is accurate. Do men actually end up with the first woman that comes along when they decide they’re ready? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a game of musical bunkbeds. The next emailer writes in about how ...

Feb 02, 20222 hr 38 minEp. 315

Does Anything Justify Not Texting Back For Over A Week?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about Jared’s favorite sandwich in LA and how to date someone with a heavy personal life. The emailer writes in about a guy she really likes except that he routinely takes over a week to respond to her texts. When she called him out on it, he revealed that his mom is dying and that’s why his communication has been slow. Can she pursue this relationship without compromising on what she wants? Later, they play a ...

Jan 30, 202228 minEp. 314

How NOT To Do Long Distance Relationships

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of how Jordana’s husband feels about her most recent U Up? With Benefits episode. Then, they talk about a full-blown presentation someone DM’d Jared to try to set him up with her friend. Should PowerPoints be a requirement for a fix up? J&J go over each slide to tell you exactly how to make a presentation for your own friends. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a visit from a raccoon. Later, a listener asks how she should d...

Jan 26, 20222 hr 30 minEp. 313

West Elm Caleb Is Everything That’s Wrong With Modern Dating

Jared and Jordana are back with an emergency Sunday Special all about West Elm Caleb, a New York guy who’s blowing up on TikTok for ghosting, love bombing, and sending unsolicited dick pics. Maddy gives the timeline of how this all started, and Jared and Jordana discuss the extent of his offenses. Does he really deserve all of this public shaming? Plus, they talk about how the power dynamics on dating apps play into these issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 23, 202248 minEp. 312

Stop Judging Yourself So Much When Dating

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the most annoying person on vacation and Jared’s conflicted feelings about dating apps. The first emailer asks how to navigate the early stages of dating a sober person. Should she address it before planning the first date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was thwarted by a full moon. Later, a listener asks how to deal with their partner being a workaholic. Is there room for compromise or are they just not the match? J&J fin...

Jan 19, 20222 hr 34 minEp. 311

Can Awkward Sex Be A Deal Breaker?

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana answer an email from a listener asking if her situationship fizzled because of an awkward sexual encounter. They went on four good dates, but when they finally had sex, it was a letdown. He started being distant afterwards, so she texted him to ask what was up. J&J break down the texts to try to figure out what happened here. Was it really about the sex? And does it really matter either way? Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about dati...

Jan 16, 202234 minEp. 310

Is It Normal To Have FOMO When You’re In A Relationship?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about how we’re all living in an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and what it takes to really be excited for a first date. The first emailer asks if she’s crazy for wanting to marry her first serious boyfriend. Is FOMO from her single friends a sign that she needs to date around more? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very needy puppy. Later, an emailer asks how to make it clear to her guy friends that she’s not romantica...

Jan 12, 20221 hr 22 minEp. 309

It’s Okay To Admit You Don’t Want Something Casual

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she’s seeing casually. They talked about making plans for the weekend, but he wasn’t sure of his schedule and said he would let her know. When she didn’t hear from him she assumed he just wasn’t interested, but when he reached out later, she gave him a piece of her mind. Is she wrong for expecting him to follow up on plans even though they were keeping it casual? Plus, they discus...

Jan 09, 202227 minEp. 308

Is It A Red Flag If My Boyfriend Stays In Touch With His Ex?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about their New Year’s resolutions. Then, they answer an email regarding a TikTok that lists questions you should ask on a first date to avoid wasting time. Do those questions actually help you get to know someone? Is anything really a waste of time in dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a chicken suit. Later, an emailer writes in about setting boundaries with her boyfriend’s ex. Is an ex ever calling just to “catch ...

Jan 05, 20221 hr 1 minEp. 307

Is It Possible To Separate A Potential Love Interest From Their Income?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about money and dating. First, they answer an email from a listener who makes ten times more than her boyfriend. Should she decline his offers to pay for dates? Then, Jared and Jordana are joined by Kurt and Steven, the stars of Joe Millionaire: For Richer or Poorer, to discuss the new show and how much money matters when it comes to love. Finally, they debate some unpopular opinions about jobs, money, and ...

Jan 02, 202244 minEp. 306

What Does “Settling” Actually Mean?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by reflecting on this year of the pod. The first emailer asks if she’s being too picky or not picky enough when it comes to dating. Should she swipe right on fewer people or give those matches more time to develop a connection? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing condom. Later, a listener asks if guys like her less because she offers to pay for dates. Is it a turn off to men? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker abo...

Dec 29, 20211 hr 8 minEp. 305

Why Do Some Women Reject “Sweet” Guys?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about being single around the holidays. Then, they dissect the breakup texts between a listener and a woman he went on two dates with. Why would she keep flirting with him after saying she doesn’t want to go out again? Plus, they discuss why she says he’s too sweet for her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 26, 202128 minEp. 304

Jordana’s Wedding: A Dramatic Reading (U Up? With Benefits Excerpt)

As a special holiday gift, we present to you an excerpt from Jordana’s wedding, as read by J&J on the latest U Up? With Benefits. To hear more, subscribe now on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and check out the episode entitled “Jordana’s U Up? Themed Wedding”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 23, 202110 min

Does Every Situationship Deserve A Breakup?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion of Jared’s first appearance on @deuxmoi and how men approach commitment differently than women. Then, an emailer asks how to break up with someone she’s never even met. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a fast and furious adventure. Later, a listener writes in about a situation with her long distance boyfriend who doesn’t want to move to be near her. What does his resistance mean for their relationship? Finally, they play a round of Red...

Dec 22, 20211 hr 25 minEp. 303

Why Does He Keep Texting Me Without Planning A Date?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener submitted screenshots from a guy who rescheduled a date because he was sick. He kept the conversation going for a while but eventually left her on read. Why would he put in the effort to keep texting her to ghost later? Should she ask him what went wrong? Finally, they play a new game called J&J’s Final Say where Jared and Jordana weigh in on Instagram polls about bringing your S.O. home for the holiday...

Dec 19, 202132 minEp. 302

Does It Matter How Many People They’ve Slept With Before You?

On today’s episode Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s new favorite first date spot and Jordana’s first date shirt. The first emailer asks if the number of people you’ve slept with matters in a relationship. Should she be concerned if her boyfriend initially lied about his “body count”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unexpected guest. Later, an emailer asks how she should approach dating while freezing her eggs. When should she bring this up to guys she’s dating...

Dec 15, 20211 hr 10 minEp. 301

All Too Well (Taylor’s Version) (J&J’s Version)

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about Taylor Swift and the ten minute version of All Too Well. Jordana shares how her own dating experiences have informed her perspective on the song, and they discuss the nuance that is missing from the Jake Gyllenhaal conversation. Plus, they talk about how failed 3-monthers can actually make you a better dater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dec 12, 202136 minEp. 300

Jared Reviews Jordana’s Wedding

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s wedding and her feelings about being married. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a trip to the emergency room. Later, a listener writes in asking if guys are no longer approaching women in bars post-lockdown. Is this a new trend in the dating world or are these guys just not into her? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Photoshop and charcuterie boards. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to fi...

Dec 08, 20211 hr 15 minEp. 299

Do I Really Need My Stuff Back From My Ex?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s trying to get her stuff back from her ex. What is his motivation to hang on to these things? And what items should you just let go of in a breakup? Plus, they discuss how the reasons for a breakup get spun by each side of the relationship. Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries about fish pictures and goat DNA. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more ...

Dec 05, 202133 minEp. 298

You Are Your Explore Page

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode by planning a full night out for the U Up? Live show. The first emailer asks if she’s the asshole for swiping left based on height. Should she stick with her preference or try to be open in case she misses out on a great match? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roommate that didn’t realize what she was walking in on. The next emailer asks how she can make it clear that she’s networking and not flirting with men she meets at events. Finally, they ...

Dec 01, 20211 hr 6 minEp. 297

When To Take The Loss In Dating

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s Sunday Special with a discussion about Thanksgiving plans and traditions. Then, a listener asks if she was the f*ckboy in the situation and whether or not the guy’s response was justified. Is it ever okay to send a Venmo request for a meal you originally agreed to pay for? Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries featuring overly sexual and overly earnest prompt responses. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delici...

Nov 28, 202134 minEp. 296

The Pros & Cons Of Meeting On The Apps

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the brand new Betches office recording IRL. They start out with a discussion about two NY Post articles about “golden penis syndrome” and divorce rates among couples who met on dating apps. Then they discuss the new Hinge voice recording feature and whether or not they would use it on their own profiles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves shower sex and a flooded pool table. Then they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying ab...

Nov 24, 20211 hr 25 minEp. 295

How To Handle A Breakup With A Coworker

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are helping a listener who’s going through a break up with a coworker. After a pretty rough break up on her birthday, he’s been completely avoiding her at work and making things uncomfortable. How should she reach out to him to end the awkwardness? Plus, they discuss his motives for ignoring her. Finally, they play Sunday Swiping Scaries with dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone...

Nov 21, 202132 minEp. 294

Lightning Round: Thanksgiving Invites, Holiday Gifts, And Nosey Family Members

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about dating during the holiday season with topics ranging from buying gifts to dealing with nosey family members. Plus, they discuss deciding where to spend the holidays when you’re in a relationship, keeping dating momentum going during the holiday season, and tips for bringing someone home for the first time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...

Nov 17, 20211 hrEp. 293

How To Stop Wasting Time On People Who Aren’t Making You A Priority

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re analyzing the texts between a listener and a guy who keeps canceling because he’s busy and exhausted. Will he want to date when the time is right or is he just looking for a hookup? Later, J&J play a new game called Sunday Swiping Scaries where they discuss dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers and decide whether to swipe right or left. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 14, 202140 minEp. 292

Do Exes Always Come Back? Ft. Ricky Velez

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion about the differences between Jordana’s eating habits and her fiancé’s. The first emailer asks if walking away to get a guy to commit ever works. Does it actually mean anything when guys come back? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a misplaced piece of gum. Another emailer asks if being disinterested in sex is a sign she should end her long term relationship. Finally, J&J are joined by comedian Ricky Velez to discuss his new HBO s...

Nov 10, 20211 hr 12 minEp. 291

When Should Couples Start Mixing Finances? Ft. Berna Anat

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Berna Anat, the host of Betches’ new financial podcast Money Please. They start with a discussion about how Berna ended her long-term relationship and how they mixed and unmixed their finances. Then they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend is resisting starting a savings account with her. Is his hesitation about his relationship with money or his relationship with her? Plus, they discuss how money is tied to our emotions....

Nov 07, 202149 minEp. 290

Is Dating Easier For Men?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s final weeks of wedding planning and whether or not dating is easier for guys. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is too close to his mom. Will she ever be his go-to for advice and support? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a hat-fish situation. Later, a listener asks how seriously she should take other women’s warnings about a guy she went on three great dates with. Finally, J&J finish the episode with...

Nov 03, 20212 hr 34 minEp. 289

The Best Way To Approach Failed Situationships

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start out with a discussion about why they love Halloween and their costume plans. This week’s emailer asks if you can set your standards too soon. In her relationship with a self-proclaimed avoidant dater, she tried to call him out for keeping her at a distance and asked if he saw their relationship getting more serious. It didn’t go as she hoped, and now she’s wondering how things would’ve gone if she had waited to set...

Oct 31, 202135 minEp. 288

What Is “The Reveal”?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about the updated Betches office and a recent dating app interaction Jared had. The first emailer asks if “we weren’t exclusive” is the new “we were on a break.” Is exclusivity a technicality? And are there different expectations for people you meet IRL versus on the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a drunken disaster. Later, a listener asks why she feels the need to “win” the break up with her ex. Finally, they finish the epis...

Oct 27, 20211 hr 29 minEp. 287