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U Up?

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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

Episodes

How To Cut Ties With The Guy In Your DMs

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener is trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to is flirting or just being friendly. J&J dissect their texts and DMs to decide. Should she make a move? Plus they discuss why men love vague relationships and what they get out of them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 24, 202127 minEp. 286

How To Talk To Your S.O. About Sex

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s braces and a discussion about how dental customer service relates to dating. The first email is from a listener who wants to know how to get her boyfriend to put in more effort in bed. How should she bring this up to him in a constructive way? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nose bleed and an unfortunate roommate run in. Later, a listener asks if she should get back together with her ex. Is getting back toget...

Oct 20, 20211 hr 16 minEp. 285

How To Write An Effective Standard-Setting Text

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s ever worth it to “chase” someone. After three dates, she felt like his communication became inconsistent and he always had excuses to not meet up, so she sent a text to set her standard. Jared and Jordana debate the effectiveness of her text and analyze his response. Should she keep pursuing this guy? Plus, they discuss why guys don’t take the out when you gi...

Oct 17, 202140 minEp. 284

What Are The Signs That You’re In Love?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about generational differences in wedding customs and why everyone loved The White Lotus. The first email is from an admittedly analytical listener asking how you actually know when you’re in love. Could research ever find you an answer? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a close call with a friend’s parents. Later, a friend group asks how to deal with making more money than most of the guys she ends up dating in their small home...

Oct 13, 20212 hr 31 minEp. 283

When Is It Okay To Have A Serious Conversation Over Text?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener wants to know if he’s in the wrong for asking for less communication. After a girl he was newly seeing started texting him a lot, he asked to dial it back, but her reaction was not what he expected. How should he have handled this situation? Plus, they discuss when, if ever a text is better than a phone call for a serious conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 10, 202130 minEp. 282

How Dating Buzzwords Might Be Hurting Your Love Life

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s decision to download Hinge and what makes someone good at using dating apps. The first emailer asks what the difference is between love bombing and the honeymoon phase. Does love bombing always have to be toxic? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an OB/GYN in training. Later, an emailer asks how to deal with going out with her friends and getting more attention from guys than they do. J&J finish the episode wi...

Oct 06, 20211 hr 26 minEp. 281

Am I The F*ckboy?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week a listener wants to know if she’s the f*ckboy. After being ghosted by a f*ckboy, she doesn’t believe the romantic things he says when he comes back into her life, but she continues to hook up with him anyway. Is she leading him on now? Plus, J&J discuss relationships that drain your dating battery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oct 03, 202119 minEp. 280

Would You Really Want To Know Why Someone Broke Up With You?

Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s wedding decision process and all the reasons you should come to the U Up? Live show on December 8th. The first emailer asks how much information is too much in a breakup. Is it helpful to give someone the specific reason you’re ending a relationship or is it just cruel? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blow job mishap. Later, a listener asks how she should balance wanting to date with loving her consistent routine. J&J finish t...

Sep 29, 20211 hr 3 minEp. 279

How To Confront Your S.O. About Sketchy Texts

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener who saw something suspicious on her boyfriend’s phone. Should she be concerned by this message? How should she bring this up to him without breaking the trust in their relationship? Plus, they discuss how to deal with his potential reactions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 26, 202121 minEp. 278

How To Know If You’re A Rebound

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s orthodontic journey and an exciting announcement. The first email asks how to know if you’re someone’s rebound. If they constantly bring up their ex, does it mean they’re not over them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual request. Later, a listener asks if a guy she’s seeing is doing too much too soon. Is he weird or is she just not into him? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breake...

Sep 22, 20211 hr 17 minEp. 277

Are Different Political Views A Deal Breaker?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week’s episode is all about navigating political and cultural differences in dating. They start out with a conversation about how heightened political differences have manifested on dating apps. Then they answer an email from a listener about a guy she’s been seeing who has different opinions on heavy topics like guns. Do their differences mean they’re doomed? Plus they discuss how you should broach conversations about these topics...

Sep 19, 202136 minEp. 276

Can I Be Confident And Insecure At The Same Time? Ft. Violet Benson

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by recapping Jordana’s birthday celebration. An emailer writes in asking how to flirt IRL. How should she express interest outside of texting and social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very hot car. Later, they answer an email from a listener asking how to be vulnerable with her partner about her insecurities. Finally, J&J are joined by Violet Benson, host of Too Tired To Be Crazy, to discuss her dating life and play a round of R...

Sep 15, 20211 hr 18 minEp. 275

What Does A F*ckboy Get Out Of Being Friends?

Jared and Jordana are back with another F*ckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. An emailer describes her situationship with a guy she met last October. At first he says he didn’t want a relationship and she was fine with that, but they continued to hang out and hook up. Eventually they have a DTR talk and he says he can see them dating in the future, but he needs to figure his own life out. Is he a f*ckboy for giving her hope for the future? Or should she have taken him at his original wo...

Sep 12, 202134 minEp. 274

What To Do When You Let Your “Crazy” Show Too Soon Ft. Giannina Gibelli

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by answering an email from a listener who’s perfectly happy with her boyfriend except that she’s not physically attracted to him. Can attraction grow over time? Is it a deal breaker if it doesn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a bloody nightmare. Later, an emailer asks if she can recover from letting her “crazy” show too soon. Should she address it or just move on? Finally, J&J are joined by Love Is Blind star Giannina Gibelli to chat about l...

Sep 08, 20211 hr 20 minEp. 273

How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Text Back?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special. This week, an emailer writes in asking if long response times over text are always a bad sign. Do long messages make up for taking 48 hours to respond? Are these long waiting periods okay at any point in a relationship? Plus, they discuss what enthusiasm actually looks like over text. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 05, 202130 minEp. 272

Should I Accept A “Hangout” Date?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Greece, an update on Jared’s week of shows in Chicago, and Jordana’s feelings on the first Betches baby. A listener emails in asking if you can be too busy to date. Is it even worth it to schedule a date two weeks away? Or does she need to reprioritize? The awkward sex story involves a misplaced naked man. Later, an emailer asks how to go back to “real” dates after you’ve done a “hangout” date. Is there a more serious ...

Sep 01, 20211 hr 14 minEp. 271

What You Should Ask Yourself Before You Break Up Ft. Logan Ury

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Logan Ury, author of How To Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, is back to share more wisdom with Jared and Jordana. They start out with a discussion about post-pandemic dating from Logan’s research at Hinge and how it might be different from what “shot girl summer” predicted. Then, they discuss why we often look over the consistent, “nice” person and tips for going on dates the right way. Finally, they answer an email from a listen...

Aug 29, 202148 minEp. 270

Lightning Round: Dating In The Age Of Social Media

Jared and Jordana are back with your comprehensive guide to social media and dating. They answer 10 questions submitted by @uuppod Instagram followers and give real solutions to all of your social media issues, from how to craft the perfect DM to when to make your relationship Instagram official. Plus, they discuss which social media behavior should be a red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 25, 20211 hr 9 minEp. 269

Does Playing Games Ever Work?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special episode. A listener shares screenshots of texts between her and a guy she had been dating for about 3 months. They met through mutual friends, but he was sketchy about her meeting his other friends. After an awkward situation where neither of them made the move to say hello in public, she decided to call it off. Did she overreact? Or did the situation prove that they’re looking for different things? Learn more abou...

Aug 22, 202124 minEp. 268

Why Would He Act Like My Boyfriend But Not Want To Date?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jordana’s upcoming trip to Greece. Then, J&J answer an email from a listener for our newest segment, F*ckboy or Nah? Does honesty make someone exempt from f*ckboyhood? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a mystery for Jared and Jordana to solve. Later, they answer an email about money etiquette when on vacation with your boyfriend’s family. Should you make an effort to pay for something or enjoy the hospitality? They finish the ep...

Aug 18, 20211 hr 12 minEp. 267

Can You Set Your Standard Too Low?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The listener’s first date with a guy she met on a dating app went well, but the second date was rescheduled and the third was canceled. She sent a text setting her standard for following through on dates, and they ended up deciding to take things slow and keep it casual. Over a few weeks of being friends with benefits, his communication gets more and more inconsistent, and he ultimately tells her they can’t hook u...

Aug 15, 202128 minEp. 266

How To Date Multiple People At Once

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the wedding industry and the fear of being judged. The first email asks how to juggle dating multiple people at once. When does she have to choose one guy to focus on? Does she need to tell them she’s dating around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a dangerous food fetish. Later, J&J answer another email from a listener asking how she should bring up that she’s unsure about having kids. Finally, they play a round of...

Aug 11, 20211 hr 14 minEp. 265

When Is It Time To Block Someone?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to end it with a friend with benefits. A listener shares screenshots from her FWB who won’t take a hint that she’s no longer interested. Did she lead him on? How can she cut ties without feeling guilty? Plus they discuss the female version of a f*ckboy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 08, 202124 minEp. 264

What Does Being A F*ckboy Actually Mean?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana discuss a DM Jared received asking whether or not a guy is a f*ckboy, which prompted the question: “What is a f*ckboy anyway?” J&J break down what actually makes someone a f*ckboy and where a lot of people get the definition wrong. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an infection in an unexpected area. Later, an emailer asks how to break off a relationship with her professor without getting anyone in trouble or impacting her grades. Finally, they play ...

Aug 04, 20211 hr 15 minEp. 263

Your Love Language Is Whatever You’re Getting The Least

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special all about love languages. Jared starts by explaining why he doesn’t like them, and then they answer an email from a listener who asks how to get more words of affirmation from her husband. Is it annoying for her to keep asking? Plus, Jordana shares a similar issue she had with her fiancé and how she dealt with it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 01, 202126 minEp. 262

Is Cheating Always A Deal Breaker?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about what makes a good first date. The first emailer asks if she should change one of her Hinge prompts. Will some guys always try to make it sexual or is her prompt putting out that vibe? A listener’s romantic vacation goes to sh*t in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend of 10 years cheated on her. Can they still make it work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Bre...

Jul 28, 20211 hr 25 minEp. 261

How To Date In Your Twenties Ft. Dr. Meg Jay

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about how the phrase “30 is the new 20” has affected twenty-somethings’ mindsets and how gender stereotypes play into dating problems. Later, Dr. Jay explains how the “strength of weak ties” can help you meet your match. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who asks if it’s even worth it to date in your early twenties when so much of your future is ...

Jul 25, 202151 minEp. 260

Why Am I Offended If I Don't Even Like Him?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener whose ego is bruised after a guy she thought was really into her updated his dating app profile. They’re not exclusive, and she’s still using the apps, so why does it still feel personal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate butt dial. Later, an emailer asks how to set boundaries when her boyfriend lives with his parents. Should he be m...

Jul 21, 20211 hr 1 minEp. 259

How To Know If The Timing Is Off Or If They're Just Not That Into You

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a wedding. After 3 dates, he sends her a text saying he’s not ready for a new relationship after his last ended, but that he’ll let her know when he’s ready to “pursue.” Is there still hope for something in the future? Or is he just letting her down easy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 18, 202127 minEp. 258

Lightning Round: Your Summer Dating Questions Answered

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about summer dating with topics ranging from group dates to vacation communication. Plus, they discuss how to meet people off the apps and whether or not serious relationships are possible during IRL Summer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jul 14, 20211 hr 23 minEp. 257