U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com
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In this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the chaotic brilliance of the 90s rom-com My Best Friend’s Wedding. They unpack the iconic “Say a Little Prayer” scene and ask why George isn’t the real lead?! George is loyal, hilarious, and flies to Chicago twice with zero expectations. Jared jokes he’d do the same for Jordana! The two debate who the true villain is: manipulative Julianne or emotionally unavailable Michael. They also question why everyone in the movie is kissin...
This week on U Up? Jordana recounts a chaotic suburban showdown between her dog Ron and a rogue bird, complete with screaming, bird smacking, and an emergency vomit, an instant Jersey Shore Sammi Sweetheart moment. Then, J&J dive into listener emails starting with a baffling date: is four bathroom breaks in three hours a red flag or just…hydration? They weigh in on whether an ex checking your LinkedIn weekly for months is creepy or kind of romantic ("The sad version of The Notebook"). Plus, ...
It’s summer and Jordana’s pool dreams are on pause thanks to Long Island’s signature pace: dial-up internet speed! She and Jared unpack the clash between millennial efficiency and suburban business hours. Then, it’s a deep dive into modern dating quirks: should you cone or cup it on an ice cream date (and what does it say about you)? Plus, a howling ritual sparks a debate, red flag or just a full moon vibe? They also weigh in on whether a social media presence is a dating necessity or just menta...
In this episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared get cozy (Jordana’s new super soft tomato-knit top yes plz) and tackle the fine line between a compliment and a fashion read. “Comfortable” isn’t always a compliment! From decoding the art of dressing for a first date (hint: you only need one killer outfit) to unpacking the emotional baggage of co-parenting and overly close ex-relationships, they cover it all. Listener dilemmas spark juicy discussions about red flags, cringey sexual phrasing, and what ...
This week’s Friday Feels kicks off with Jared reading a wild email straight from Hinge warning him that he may have matched with a scammer, which shocks Jordana but begs the question, did she have big boobs? From there, J&J spiral into a hilarious breakdown of dating app red flags and how scams somehow still get the swipe! Jordana defends her claim that eating tuna on a plane isn’t a crime, a lot of people love tuna! Then it’s time for some truly petty (or prudent?) listener emails, includin...
Jared’s back from his first official week in Delray Beach, and Jordana wastes no time roasting his full Florida transformation complete with Joe Dirt vibes and surprise gifts for the crew (check out on YT!) In this ep, J&J weigh in on a Couples Court case where a boyfriend suggests his girlfriend ditch the hair dye to cut costs, sparking a convo about appearance, control, and whether your partner gets a say. Then, they dive into the age-old question: are women funny? A listener’s date doesn’...
Summer is here as Jared shares his 4-step plan to beat dating app burnout, including why taking yourself out to dinner alone might be the reset you need! Then, J&J dive into a wild “Petty or Prudent?” email from a listener who exposed her cheating ex in a Facebook group, was it justified or just messy? They unpack the fine line between closure and revenge. Later, a married listener asks how to be a better wingwoman for her single sister without overselling or making things awkward. From dati...
Jared and Jordana unpack the emotional rollercoaster of casual dating with a 30-year-old man who swears he’s not looking for anything serious, but still plans elaborate dates that scream boyfriend energy. They ask: is it really casual if it feels that intentional? Then things get hilariously weird with a naked farmer, some questionable yoga rules, and a date who’s just trying to process it all. Plus, the hosts share the texting abbreviations that give them the instant ick—WYA, prolly, and NMU—an...
From the scarcity of eligible men to the rise of sober dating, J&J explore in this Friday Feels ep how gender dynamics and societal shifts are reshaping the current dating landscape! The hosts unpack why ambitious women feel like they're settling and why men seem overwhelmed by options. Listener emails spark juicy debates, like whether it’s a red flag to bring your own Crystal Light to a date, and if saying “I love you” for the first time during sex means anything. With honest insights and h...
J&J discuss scheduling conflicts and vet visit blunder to confessions of infidelity and the emotional fallout that follows! They read listener emails that unpack cheating dilemmas, post-divorce pettiness, and the struggles of physical incompatibility in otherwise perfect relationships. With signature humor and honesty, the hosts explore red flags, dealbreakers, and the importance of communication in both romantic and platonic relationships. From the aftermath of a wine spill to the complexit...
In this Friday Feels, we're joined by Matchmaker Maria, author of Ask a Matchmaker: A No-Nonsense Guide to Finding Love. Maria returns to the show to dive into her viral “12-Date Rule,” a dating method that promotes emotional connection before physical intimacy. The results? Over 500+ engagements from a single U Up? episode alone! Who knows how many more overall! She even dishes on how she once tried to set Jared up on a date. For those skeptical about matchmaking, Maria shares insider tips on...
In this episode, J&J tackle a juicy batch of listener emails from kissing on first dates to baby pic icks and leftover disasters. We start off the ep with Jared finding himself stuck in planning hell, trying to lock down a date with one girl over 10 times! Should he keep trying or just wish her the best? One listener asks whether making out too early sends the wrong signal, sparking a deep dive into intentional dating and the 12-date rule. Then, it’s an “Icky or Picky” scenario straight from...
In this week’s Friday Feels episode of the U Up? Podcast, Jared and Jordana take on the viral article that has everyone side-eyeing the West Village. From party buses to the “clean girl” aesthetic, they hilariously dissect the Gen Z lifestyle dominating Manhattan, complete with identical Adidas Sambas and curated matcha runs. The conversation sparks a nostalgic look at their own NYC moves and how zip codes became status symbols. Then, it’s time for two jaw-dropping listener emails: one from a wo...
Is it weird to like your ex’s engagement photo on Instagram? Jared poses the question to Jordana, kicking off an episode full of honest, hilarious, and sometimes cringey dating moments. The hosts dive into a listener’s story about being judged for her body count, exploring how sexual history conversations can shift a relationship’s tone. They break down a musty dating dilemma what to do when your date smells off despite checking every other box. Another listener struggles with her boyfriend keep...
On this Friday Feels ep of U Up?, Jared and Jordana are joined by Grammy-winning artist Maren Morris for a candid, heartfelt, and hilarious conversation you don’t want to miss! With her new album Dreamsicle dropping today, May 9, Maren opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of writing music, including the tear-jerking song “Kiss the Sky” that had both her and Jared crying on a plane. She also shares the ups and downs of her recent divorce and the journey of dating women for the first time. M...
In this episode of U Up?, J&J dive into a tricky dilemma: can a promising romance survive the jobless stage? Then, they react to a guy who sent an AI-generated glam shot of his date before they even met—icky or picky? It gets weirder when a listener gets a Google Form survey after a first date. Is “red flag” even a strong enough term? 🚩 They also unpack a marital money mystery: what happens when your husband suddenly won’t split the tax return? Plus, hot takes on sober dating, parental medd...
On this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, a listener shares a dating dilemma after learning her Hinge match has a blind, crossed eye only revealed after she asked him out. Was it honest transparency or low-key eye-fishing? Then, a Cute or Creepy case: a woman reads Harry Potter aloud to her boyfriend every night, sometimes in bed, sometimes with head scratches. Jordana loves the intimacy of the ritual, but Jared thinks is borderline weird and childlike. Jordana questions if it was a different book....
This week on U Up?, a listener asks whether a relationship can survive without sexual chemistry when her otherwise perfect boyfriend just isn’t into sex. Jared and Jordana also debate a Red Flag or Deal Breaker: is it a turnoff if your boyfriend uses prepaid Visa gift cards to buy an engagement ring? Plus, a cringeworthy dating moment when a Bumble match splits the bill, then retracts an extra tip to save $12. From low sex drive to money-related red flags, J&J break it all down with humor an...
On this Friday’s episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana dive into the drama surrounding Kaitlyn Bristowe and her ex-fiancé Jason Tartick! Specifically, the internet debate over Jason naming his new dog “Teddy,” the baby name Kaitlyn had saved for years. Was it shady, intentional, or just a dog name? Then, they read a listener email from a woman who feels like she's always "hosting" her dates. Trying so hard to be fun and charming that she forgets to figure out if she actually likes the person. Jare...
In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana dive into the emotional complexities of how often we say “I love you” in relationships and how to handle jealousy when a friend’s situationship turns into a full-blown romance. They respond to a listener who feels insecure about not hearing "I love you" enough from her boyfriend, despite a strong connection. Later, they unpack a listener’s jealousy over a friend’s relationship glow-up, likening the shift to going from doubles to singles tennis. Can bei...
Jay Shetty is back in the U Up? studio to catch up on his world tour and his new and unexpected love of pickleball. Jared and Jordana ask him some of your most burning listener questions, from navigating dating and emotional maturity to understanding what it truly means to “choose yourself.” Jay opens up about how people tend to respond to breakups and shares why trying to fix someone might actually be a red flag we often ignore. Jared also presents a few real-life dating scenarios, giving Jay t...
This week on U Up?, Jared and Jordana tackle listener emails covering everything from dog discipline to dating app strategy and even bad breath. A Confused Dog Mom asks if hitting a misbehaving pit bull is a red flag or deal breaker, while a self-described “catch” wonders if downplaying his profile might actually attract real love. Another listener faces a hygiene dilemma with an otherwise perfect partner. Plus, they dissect Justin Bieber’s cryptic post of Hailey set to Beyoncé’s Irreplaceable, ...
Jared and Jordana interview Dr. Jaimie Glick about a recent breakup where she was told she was too successful. They delve into the story from the initial spark to the slow realization that her partner was avoiding financial responsibilities. The discussion explores the complexities of dating across socioeconomic lines, the impact of success on relationships, and the importance of financial transparency.
J&J are back with a fresh batch of dating dilemmas! First, Jordana’s journey into puppy parenthood has her seeing dog owners in a whole new light! But when a listener’s date casually mentions feeding their dog human food and giving it steroids, is that just a quirky habit or a major red flag? Jared and Jordana break down what pet parenting says about a person (and their dating potential). Then, they tackle a frustrating situation: What do you do when your friend hypes up a great guy but refu...
On this special Friday Feels episode, Jared and Jordana welcome two incredibly hilarious guests, Andrew Chappelle and Cody Rigsby of the Tactful Pettiness podcast. These longtime friends take us on a journey through their rise in two powerhouse brands, Hamilton and Peloton, sharing hilarious and heartfelt stories of ambition, friendship, and love! Plus, they spill the tea on how they went from frenemies to business partners, their wildest breakup stories, and the struggles of dating while in the...
Chelsea Handler joins U Up? for a hilarious deep dive into her dating history—celebrities, non-celebrities, and even a near-miss with Andrew Cuomo. She spills the tea on how the former governor slid into her DMs (but didn’t seal the deal), the power players she’s dated, and why she’s got a thing for skiers. Chelsea also shares her “soar like an eagle” dating philosophy, admitting she’s not looking for "the one" but enjoys having fun on her own terms. Maybe Chelsea is Jared’s ideal woman?! The co...
It’s a Friday Feels episode, and we’ve got the hilarious Nimesh Patel joining Jordana and Jared! He’s here to talk about rebelling against his traditional parents and how life has changed since becoming a dad. Jared shares with Jordana and listeners that Nimesh has been crushing it on TikTok…without ever monetizing it (yep, that’s money gone)! Nimesh shares the peaks and pits of being a first-time parent and how his marriage has changed since having a baby. Then, they dive into a listener’s dile...
In this episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the art of meeting people IRL. A listener asks about making real-life connections outside of dating apps and wonders how to approach people in person. Bar Comment Baits are Jared’s go-to method for starting conversations. Simple questions like “Did they have food at this bar?” or “Which team are you rooting for?” These small, natural ways to start a conversation can lead to meaningful interactions. Then, an awkward encounter leaves a listener...
J and J are talking to professional organizer Summer Rose to discuss the surprising connections between organization and dating. They explore how decluttering can transform not only physical spaces but also emotional well-being, making individuals feel more confident and ready for relationships. Summer shares insights on the emotional ties people have to their belongings, the benefits of hiring a professional organizer, and how organization can serve as a form of couples therapy. She shares insi...
In this episode, Jordana's feeling a little bruised and Jared is unpacking the paradox of love’s give-and-take. First, J and J dive in, tackling a tried and true listener dilemma—should you be dating when your life feels like a total layover? Then, they break down the all-too-relatable struggle of texting purgatory on dating apps—are NYC men just looking for pen pals? Next up, Petty or Prudent features a long-lost (and very aggressively reclaimed) pair of grandma’s sneakers. And today's Red Flag...
