On this Friday’s Feels ep, J&J review You’ve Got Mail, the iconic Upper West Side rom-com starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, diving into the movie that kicked off the era of online dating while nostalgically saying goodbye to small bookstores. They explore the magic of falling in love online before apps made dating complicated, from over-30 chat rooms to the classic AOL dial-up sound that defined a generation. From slow, meaningful email connections to Joe Fox’s low-pressure dating style, they...
Oct 10, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 700
J&J go virtual and Jordana recaps her time at a wedding and dives into the buzz around ZYN nicotine pouches, the Gen Z trend creeping into adult life. They dish on dating dilemmas like when a guy stalls intimacy and the tricky etiquette of phone number exchanges. Plus, they weigh in on dancing at weddings, and how not dancing can be seen as a turn off. During the red flag dealbreaker segment they learn about a guy who refuses to ever give gifts to couples, to which Jordana jokes, “If I ever ...
Oct 08, 2025•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 699
Jared and Jordana realize it’s October 3rd! The “basic bitch Christmas”is a perfect fall day as it is Taylor Swift’s album release, Mean Girls Day, and a perfect day to drink spice lattes and put on a Gilmore Girls marathon. Jared takes on “Rejection October,” trying to get turned down three times, while they also break down a first date gone icky when the guy pressured a tired listener to reschedule. Plus, they analyze a performative ex sending unsolicited travel updates, showing how some peopl...
Oct 03, 2025•31 min•Ep. 698
Jared starts off the podcast with a redflag dealbreaker he heard: a straight guy has been to 30 Taylor Swift concerts. He and Jordana debate whether it makes him a groupie, a walking turn-off, or just a man who unapologetically loves what he loves. They help a woman who writes in who is dating without wanting kids, and why singles constantly get dismissed with “maybe you’ll change your mind.” A listener wonders if it’s icky or picky that her chef boyfriend eats PB&J every single day, and ano...
Oct 01, 2025•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 697
Jared is feeling “very single” these days, a term he never thought he’d describe himself as! Jordana and Jared dive into the latest dating trends, from “Shrekking” and dating down with charm to the etiquette of bringing a plus one to a wedding. They also tackle hilarious friendship dilemmas like telling someone their dog smells, they have B.O., or if a guy has gone overboard with Botox. Would you be brave enough to tell a friend if they smelled? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone....
Sep 26, 2025•48 min•Ep. 696
Dating fails, ghosting, and awkward first dates collide in this week’s episode of U Up? with Jared and Jordana. A listener writes in wondering if he was unmatched on Hinge by mistake or if it was just ghosting in disguise? J&J give another listener step-by-step advice on how to ask out a roommate without creating a “half-boyfriend” or awkward living situation. Plus, they dive into a few red flag dealbreakers: Venmo requests before dinner, and first date Groupons. Red Flag? Or just not sexy? ...
Sep 24, 2025•1 hr 34 min•Ep. 695
Jared and Jordana are joined this week by Dateable podcast hosts Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu on U Up? Julie opens up about her journey as a self-proclaimed “type A dater” and how letting go of control ultimately led her to the right partner. She was just married last Saturday, with Yue officiating the wedding. Yue shares the shocking story of discovering her long-term boyfriend was cheating while she was writing a dating book, and how interviewing “the other woman” on their podcast became one of ...
Sep 19, 2025•47 min•Ep. 694
Jared and Jordana dive into the small etiquette moments that can make or break a date, debating whether table manners like placing a napkin on your lap or holding a fork the wrong way are serious red flags. They explore celebrity engagements from Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce to Brooklyn Beckham and the real-life pressure couples feel on their own timelines. Listeners write in with wild dating stories, from a guy who lies about it being your birthday to a baseball hat worn on back-to-back first ...
Sep 17, 2025•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 693
It’s Friday the 12th, not the 13th, as Jared hilariously discovers when he falls for a meme about Halloween’s “666-year Friday the 13th” joke! Jordana sympathizes after being duped into thinking the Astronomer CEO apologized on LinkedIn, which sparks a discussion of Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow’s “conscious uncoupling” and how to handle messy breakups with humor and style. They answer listener questions on dating, debating whether a two-year age difference is an ick and if it is rude to ask ...
Sep 12, 2025•39 min•Ep. 692
Fall is for flirting, but dating comes with its own set of challenges, especially when reality TV obsessions, sports fandom, or constant phone use get in the way. Jared and Jordana break down what makes a relationship work, from the perfect season for flirting to navigating jealousy and attention struggles. They explore how being overly attached to your phone can impact intimacy and connection. The hosts also tackle first date ex talk, navigating a partner’s sports obsessions, and even the quirk...
Sep 10, 2025•1 hr 31 min•Ep. 691
In this episode, Jared and Jordana tackle dating red flags, starting with a listener’s story about a guy wearing obvious shoe lifts, sparking comparisons to push-up bras, stuffed socks, and bald men in hats. They dive into the dreaded height conversation, unpack why “short king” talk is a lose-lose, and share their own insecurities. The duo also dishes out expert advice on solo travel in their “Go Solo?” game, weighing options like hostels, group tours, and adventure spots. Plus, Jared reveals h...
Sep 05, 2025•44 min•Ep. 690
Jared reveals a potential red flag: falling asleep to The Golden Girls , and yes, Betty White is involved. In this episode, Jordana and Jared break down texting disasters, from one-word pre-date replies to three-day gaps, and debate whether you’re genuinely excited to see someone or just excited to date. They weigh in on whether meeting the right person at the wrong time is actually real. Plus, they dissect the ultimate minimalist text: the dreaded “thumbs-up” emoji. Learn more about your ad cho...
Sep 03, 2025•1 hr 31 min•Ep. 689
Kat Sadler, creator and star of the Hulu series Such Brave Girls, joins J&J on U Up to talk dating, relationships, and her chaotic personal life. She opens up about her disorganized attachment style, stories of making dates cry, and navigating love while dealing with past trauma and parental influence. From comparing the energy of New York versus London to debating whether coworker gossip is a relationship essential, Kat keeps the conversation lively and unfiltered. She also shares behind-th...
Aug 29, 2025•34 min•Ep. 688
From fro-yo runs in his parents’ Neil Sedaka-signed red Jaguar to unexpected parking lot meet-cutes, Jared is enjoying his Del Ray Summer. A listener shares a quirky first-date story where everyone says her date looks like Lil Dicky, and he eventually snaps! Jared and Jordana debate whether his reaction was fair or a red flag. They also tackle tricky dating dilemmas: when it’s fair to ask for a breakup refund after a partner cheats, how to date confidently with an invisible disability, and wheth...
Aug 27, 2025•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 687
Kamie Crawford is on the podcast, and we learn right away how she’s the 1% dater who found her boyfriend on the very first day of swiping! As the eldest of five sisters, she shares their collective conclusion on men and how she gives her sister's advice. She opens up about the unsettling realities of dating while Miss Teen USA and how men reacted to the title. The three also debate whether certain breakup moves are petty or justified, including Kamie’s infamous story of spitting on an ex’s belon...
Aug 22, 2025•48 min•Ep. 686
Jordana kicks things off by reminiscing about Billy Joel and a second date she went on, while Jared shares a story about a voice memo mishap that didn’t go as planned. In our listener emails, we dive into issues of cheating, mistrust, and an unemployed boyfriend. Jared and Jordana also dissect an “Icky or Picky?” as one listener discovers their date is a potentially full-blown Disney Adult - yep, it's a thing. Per usual the warps with the signature Red Flag or Deal Breakers covering everything f...
Aug 20, 2025•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 685
This week, comedian Whitney Cummings joins J & J for a chaotic and hilarious deep dive into everything she’s done once and never again—from Ozempic to dating emotionally unavailable men. She gets into her current relationship, why she’s officially tired of mean girl energy, and her take on what makes a real friend (spoiler: they’ll tell you your outfit is trash). They also get into freezing your eggs and how men vs. women interpret toxic behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit mega...
Aug 15, 2025•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 684
This week J & J dig into Jared’s hilarious origin story as a summer camper in New England, and how it still resonates with his life today. The episode kicks off with listener feedback on Jared’s ongoing Summer Dating Challenge, followed by a laugh-out-loud “Icky or Picky” that’s both “yummy” and divisive. Next, the hosts answer a listener’s question about how to date more intentionally in a world full of people still "figuring out their relationship type." Finally, J+J wrap up with a Red Fla...
Aug 13, 2025•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 683
Jared and Jordana sit down with Sophie, who’s originally from the UK and now building her life in New York City, to unpack a long-distance love that won’t quite let go. After a whirlwind month together, she and her high school crush tried to make it work across continents, but mismatched communication styles and visa hurdles got in the way. Now he says he’s willing to wait until her “New York chapter ends,” but Sophie’s unsure if that’s romantic or just unrealistic. Is it love, pressure, or emot...
Aug 08, 2025•47 min•Ep. 682
Jared and Jordana unpack the dos and don’ts of dating in the age of social media. Jared explains why unfollowing your ex immediately after a breakup is a crucial act of self-care and shares the three things you need to consider when managing your breakup posts online. They talk about the subtle ways we use stories to check if someone’s watching and break down which ex photos to keep, edit, or delete to protect your new dating life. We also discuss a listener's question, do you need permission to...
Aug 06, 2025•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 681
Jared and Jordana are back with another movie review episode of The Materialists , directed by Celine Song and starring Dakota Johnson, Chris Evans, and Pedro Pascal. Spoiler alert!! J&J break down the film’s portrayal of matchmaking as cold and transactional, and ask whether Song set out to take down the matchmaking industry altogether. From red flag roommate situations to Coke-and-beer drink orders, J&J debate every messy decision and chaotic romance. Is it a rom-com, a satire, or some...
Aug 01, 2025•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 680
Jordana shares her firsthand experience at a concert when she witnessed the viral moment Mr. Met fell off stage at Citi Field, breaking it down with Jared as pure comedy gold. Jared and Jordana read a listener’s email about a guy’s shy hopscotch move on a first date and debate when quirky crosses into “icky.” They dive into a friendship dilemma about hooking up with a best friend’s college fling years later, exploring honesty and boundaries. Plus, Jared calls out the major red flag of guys askin...
Jul 30, 2025•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 679
Dating in your 40s? Jared and Jordana break down why it actually gives you the upper hand, less game-playing, more clarity, and faster exits from the wrong situations. A listener writes in about a promising new connection and a big reveal, prompting a convo on knowing what you want as you get older. Then, they react to a jaw-dropping first-date horror story involving a drunk, naked sleepwalker and a ruined mattress. The debate continues: is peeing the bed a dating red flag... or just a funny sto...
Jul 25, 2025•31 min•Ep. 678
Would you go to a concert solo? In this episode of U Up? , Jared and Jordana play “Would You Go Alone?” and debate when flying solo feels empowering versus just sad. They break down the “casual clock” - the timeline guys follow to keep things casual while still reaping relationship benefits. Then, a listener's email sparks a debate: is groaning at helping an elderly woman a red flag or just bad timing? They also run through a list of mama’s boy behaviors, from outfit picks to dentist appointment...
Jul 23, 2025•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 677
In this episode, Jordana and Jared welcome Brooke Miccio and Danielle Carolan, co-hosts of the popular Gals on the Go podcast. They dive into their journey as college influencers and how social media shapes modern dating and relationships, especially across Gen Z and Millennial cultures. Brooke and Danielle open up about living with their boyfriends, relationship boundaries, and how to navigate shared spaces without losing your mind! Jared reacts to Brooke’s viral TikTok claiming she’s been “sin...
Jul 18, 2025•45 min•Ep. 676
In this episode, J&J debate whether FaceTiming your mom every night on a romantic weekend is sweet or a total ick. A listener writes in about her boyfriend buying Sydney Sweeney's bath water soap, and the hosts weigh in on whether that’s quirky or cringe. They dig into whether dating an anonymous internet troll is ever okay (spoiler: nope). Jordana’s pool is open, so they break down the unspoken rules of hosting outside vs. inside in the summer. Plus, someone in an ENM (ethically non-monogam...
Jul 16, 2025•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 675
Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka joins J&J this week for a hilarious and heartfelt deep dive into dating, breakups, and family drama. They kick things off with a wild listener email about a broken engagement, and whether you owe the entire ex-family an apology. Atsuko shares the story of a third date turned trauma bond after her now-husband paused foreplay to sing to his mom on the phone. The trio explores how vulnerability, cultural differences, and mental health shape our relationships. They also ...
Jul 11, 2025•50 min•Ep. 674
In this episode of U Up? , hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried unpack the toughest parts of dating, from breakups and body image struggles to spotting red flags versus deal breakers. They dive into an eye-opening conversation about Hinge’s new note feature, sharing expert tips on writing playful, effective messages that keep the vibe light while weeding out the wrong matches. Plus, they discuss real listener dilemmas including “Is multiple cat Instagrams a deal breaker?” and how to handle forg...
Jul 09, 2025•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 673
This week’s Friday Feels episode gets deep and personal with special guest Case Kenny, author, mindfulness expert, and the man behind the viral quotes shared by Oprah, SZA, and Selena Gomez. Jordana and Jared sit down with Case to talk about his new book The Opposite of Settling and explore why the best relationships amplify who you already are. They dig into what it means to have “out of town confidence,” how optimism and trust shape our dating lives, and why independence is the real secret to ...
Jul 04, 2025•53 min•Ep. 672
Jared and Jordana are kicking off the summer with a sizzling episode of U Up?, just in time for Fourth of July weekend, aka the perfect holiday to meet someone new. They dive into the difference between “main street” and “back alley” dates, and why your best romantic opportunities might be hiding in plain sight at a rooftop BBQ. A listener writes in after being kicked off Hinge by a jealous date who reported her when she didn’t want to keep seeing him after date three which brings on the game “H...
Jul 02, 2025•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 671
