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Okay. Ready? Okay. Welcome back to another episode of Two Parents and a Podcast, which we might need to reframe or rename to Two Parents and Two Pods. Two peas in two pod. Love it. When did you come up with that? On the fly. Okay. It's a good one. Took me a second, but I'm with you. Yeah. Yeah. Last night was the Bubba Raider was up early. 430 a.m. She said, good morning. And we said, oh, girl. Well, ladies and gentlemen, listeners, we are expecting a little babe.
And we are just thrilled. Isn't that how you would say it? Yeah, it is as exciting as it gets. It's funny because we've been so excited. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, it's a really weird dynamic because I think one of the things we pride ourselves off of with the pod and I think you with a lot of... you with your content is like the irl nature of it and transparency transparency and you know this is obviously something that um has been kept under wraps because that's
you know part of the process behind um that's how it works like that that's one thing is like you don't want you know you you obviously wait there's we've been to so many doctor's appointments um But I think I went back and I looked and I haven't worn like the last thing I wore was I think it was was it August 24th was a denim dress past that it's sweatpants and pajamas. But like. And I've been posting a lot less content. I had a lot of DMs that were like, I knew. And I'm like, yeah, well.
But it is interesting because you don't, you know, we take the pregnancy test and then it's not like the next day you tell people. You have to go into this mode of like, okay, even with friends sometimes, like you don't tell everybody right out of the gates. So, whoa. What? Go ahead, babe. No, and there's still a long journey ahead. I mean, absolutely. Absolutely a long journey ahead. So what's on tap for the episode today? I'll just say this. We're thankful to be here in the journey, but...
¶ How pregnancy hits different the second time around
yes a long journey ahead um what's on tap today is we're gonna talk about finding out talk about how long we were trying talk about um what feelings emotions yeah how the first trimester has been um and then and like how being pregnant is the second time with a little baby at home like how that's different than the first time and then we're so we're gonna do just kind of like our little thing today and then we're gonna do a q a episode
on monday so i'll put up a question box like friday or saturday so you guys can submit questions um and then that'll come out like more specific questions so before we get into it i'd like to ask a question please i would like you to ask a lot of questions this episode okay i can do that but because it'll kind of help drive me so first question it is uh october of 2025 yeah how do you feel today versus January of 2024 when we first found out about Tate? So like, what's the mindset?
today in your first trimester versus the mindset of the first trimester with the first baby. And not the physical side, because I'm sure we'll get into that and all the throwing up and nausea, but just like the... The mental, the feeling, the outlook. Yeah, so I think I'm technically out or almost out of the first trimester, I guess, give or take. So it's more like March.
of last time right because it's coming out of my mouth i was like yeah i'm i'm i'm oh i'm out kind of um i can't do the math on the days but i like within a day of being out so I, how it feels this, okay, so the first time when you're pregnant, there's so many unknowns. You don't know, you don't know what's coming ahead in the pregnancy and you don't know what comes once you have the baby. Yeah. Now what's different.
being pregnant with baby number two is i know what's coming and i'm so excited about that it is the most joyful i'm excited for my heart to grow again however it's a lot harder because you're not napping You know, like because of you, I, I do, I do get to nap a lot, but I don't just, the first time, the first time you're pregnant, you're just in bed. You can go off and do whatever you want. And I can just sit there and watch a nice little movie with my soup. Now we've got Bubber.
Being like, bah? So I'm jumping in. I'm jumping in. So the lights have been off for the first however many minutes. We're turning them on. No, let's leave it going. Do we need to restart or keep it going? No, keep going. Okay. YouTube, you're just going to notice like... Jules is walking and the lights are turning on. It's everyone's first glimpse of May on camera. We will get Jules on an episode. She will be featured on a Sunday episode. Yeah, we'll just keep rolling.
Monday. I like calling them Sunday episodes. But by the end of the year, I think that's the deadline. I'm sorry. No, no, no. It's okay. Basically, here's the thing. When you're pregnant with baby number one, you can lay in bed a lot. which is lovely. You have no idea what's coming, so it's just a whole path ahead of you of unknowns, which is a little scary, but you're excited. With baby number two, you're so excited because you know what you're playing for, but you are not laying in bed all day.
you're chasing a little something around. And I've been really sick. I've been throwing up a lot. I threw up this morning and it's like, Bubber's just like, ball? Yeah. And you're like, okay. Yeah. There's also the added component, I think, when looking back. um a year and a half ago versus today of like there were all there's also a lot of other question marks that we had in our lives right like we didn't know where we were going to be living at the time we didn't have
Really like we were going month to month on where we're living. We didn't know the city. We were in a new relationship. New relationship. I think that's one thing that we don't go back and talk about enough on this podcast, you guys, is Harrison and I met. Oh my gosh, our anniversary is coming up. November 4th. This is when I just need to be very smooth that I've had that marked on the calendar for a very long time. And you have my gift. And I have your gift.
do you know obviously i'm kidding how could i ever forget i'm implementing a new rule right now which is every time that i birth a baby i get a present with their months like birthstone on it Well, we've discussed that. Do you know what April is? I'm very supportive. I don't. The diamond. Oh. My cousin told me that yesterday. I said, oh, I will make a new rule tomorrow. Really? Yeah.
Because they have a baby that was due in April. They have a baby with the birth month of April. We need to fact check that. Well, they're not wrong. I don't think. Well, I thought I looked at this and I thought it was a redstone. Bubber is, no, cancer, that's a July. Yeah, April, the diamond. The diamond. And Bubber is an emerald. Oh, so I guess, did we think she was May? Bubba's a sapphire. The alternative birthstone is a white sapphire. Oh. No, it's diamond.
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I feel like we're kind of jumping all over the place here. Do we want to talk about how the first trimester's been or finding out? Let's talk about finding out and then how the first trimester's been. Okay. So finding out. Okay. Okay, so we were... Well, let's let's actually do how let's do it in chronological order. We I had my first period cycle was what I thought about last night was that I would call my cycle came back. Okay. And so I had two cycles and I ordered the ovulation strips and...
I actually never used an ovulation strip during a time I was ovulating. I, for some reason could never figure that out, but we, so we had two periods and then I missed my third period. So we got pregnant in the third month, I think is how you would say that.
of trying um one way we understand it and i don't know like i do not know this was just my like sometimes when i talk to you guys that's how i talk in my group text to like the neighbor or like my mom group text which is like From what Harrison and I understand, while I was pumping and breastfeeding but didn't have my cycle, the odds of us getting pregnant were a bit lower than when I did have my cycle.
Yes. But my cycle didn't come back till month seven. Seven or eight. I don't know. And then when my cycle came back, I thought, OK, I probably the odds of me getting pregnant are probably higher now. So I was excited about that. And then the thing about it is whenever we found out I was pregnant, I was also weaning at the time. Yeah. And so I ended up weaning a week and a half early because.
I was just, I felt so sick and I was like pumping in the morning and night. But I will say this. I, because one of my friends texted me, she's like, I thought your weaning symptoms were crazy. And here's the thing. When I was posting my symptoms of like, I don't feel good or I'm so tired. That was before I found out I was pregnant. Whenever we found that I was pregnant, I did a shift in how I was reporting my weaning journey. And I just started saying like.
I've dropped a pump. Like I just started getting really factual with it because I didn't think I had an accurate recount of how weaning was going because I realized my body was a bit confused. okay like i was weaning and i was pregnant and naturally i think when you're pregnant i think your pump supply probably dries up a bit however again with my cousins i did have a cousin who said she breastfed and was pregnant
The female body can do incredible things. Yeah, and truly incredible things. What were we going to say? Just keep going. I forgot to talk about how we found out. Okay. Well, that's kind of a good, a good transition into it. I was just going to say how like, whatever, what I was going to say, it doesn't matter. Do you want to talk about how we found out now? Yeah, let's do it. So we were in Vancouver and we were having the best time.
Like when the weather, Harrison always says this, when the weather is good in Vancouver, it's next to none. Best city in the world. And it's a teaser, right? And it is, it is the best, most beautiful, most fun city in the world. And so we were having the best time there.
And back to us, you know, having a newer relationship when we were pregnant with bubs. Every time I've been to Vancouver or Whistler, it was like I was pregnant. So I was sick. Then I was like freshly postpartum, you know, or I was.
seven months pregnant and this time that we went i was like feeling good yeah i felt great the first leg of the trip like so good and harrison's parents would watch bubber harrison and i would go out with his sister brother-in-law's friends like we were having a time like truly we had so much fun and then there was like three days left in the trip and we were his mom had suggested we go to this animal farm we're driving over this like beautiful bridge to the animal farm
having the best day ever and i say that because i looked at him and i was like i am so flat i feel depressed i feel anxious and i just i do not feel good and we like pulled over went to um a gas station because you had a craving for this is what i should have known peanut butter crackers i was like i have to get those ritz peanut butter crackers right now and your guys's gas stations are crazy in canada they didn't have them
He brought me out a chomp stick. And I was like, like every pregnant girl hates me. And I was like, get that out of the car. Why do you have that? It was like a McCorsky's deep jerk Canadian grass fed jerky. And then I said, Harrison, it has to be like a chip or something. And he went back in and he came back. I guess they don't have one in that gas station. And I'm like, let me go in. I go in and I'm like, there's not one thing in here I can eat. But so at that point, I'm thinking this is.
The effects of weeding. Yeah. I'm thinking. Like my brain isn't in pregnancy when you go there because you, you know, it feels like that the symptoms you can. You can definitely feel them. Do you know if we're being totally honest what I thought? What? So I had taken pregnancy tests the two months prior or one month prior and they were negative. Yes. So I was thinking.
Okay, this feels a little bit similar to the time I found that I was pregnant, but I didn't want to say it out loud to you in case it was negative, which I wonder if a lot of girls will... identify with that like I didn't want to take another pregnancy test and it'd be negative so I was like I don't know what it is but I knew I was gonna check interesting interesting so in my head I was thinking this peanut butter cracker craving
is spot on to one other time I've had it. And that's when I was pregnant with Bubber. Yeah. The other reason why I didn't go to pregnancy is because you're, this is a lot of information. But we'll use the adjusted verbiage. Cycle. Your cycles, your first two cycles, there was a big delay. Yeah, I was 50 days late on the second one. Which is normal when you're regulating.
With where things were, it just felt like. Sorry, I wasn't 50 days late. There was 50 days between the two. So it felt like me knowing nothing about how any of this stuff works. Like it just, we were too early. For it to... Like the timing...
You know what I'm saying? Yes, which is probably why my ovulation trips never happened on a day I was ovulating. And I asked my OB about this. I was like, hey, my cycle was 52 days later. She's like, yeah, you're just like your body is re-regulating and recalibring. it's totally normal for it to be a regular on your first year back, which is probably why I couldn't figure out when I was ovulating.
Yes. Probably. I keep saying yes, I have no idea. I don't either, but now that you're saying that. It makes sense to me. My yes is not confident. My yes is... Probably. Makes sense. So... So we leave the gas station. We get to the farm. It feels like... Didn't last very long at the farm. One of your favorite things in the world is seeing Bubba with animals. I love animals. And we lasted a good 10-15 minutes at the farm. I was just like, I gotta go.
We got to go. And I was like, I got to go get these peanut butter crackers. I was starving. The farm didn't sell food either. No, they did sell food. They sold ice cream. That didn't sound good either. I needed salt. So the CVS equivalent in Canada is called London drugs. So Harrison drives us to a London drug and I go in, I buy every cracker, every peanut butter and pregnancy tests.
but didn't tell me about a pregnancy. Didn't tell you about this. Get back in the car. We go home. I take the pregnancy test. It's immediately has the same amount of lines the canadian pregnancy tests are not the same ones in america it's some off-brand pregnancy test where the photo on the front has two lines And so I took the test and I'm looking at it and it has two lines. And I think, surely they didn't put a negative test on the box. That's probably what positive means.
There was no brochure inside of it. So I'm Googling it and I'm like, what is a positive pregnancy test look like for whatever brand it was? And it's given me a plus sign. But there was no plus sign as the option. So I just turned to Harrison. I say, I think I'm pregnant, but I can't figure this test out. And he's like, when did you get a pregnancy test? It was so confusing. Like, I heard I think I'm pregnant.
and it's like oh okay like amazing that makes a lot of sense and then you're like but i i and then you reference the stick and i was like you're like we need to get a stick i was like i just got it at london drug is it positive
And he comes over and he's looking at it and he's like, this is positive. So then we hugged and he like tackled me on the bed and we were so excited. We got Bubber because she was out playing with his mom. Grabbed her, gave her a hug, told her. And I took like a five hour nap. And I was like, see ya. It was joyous. It was so joyous. It was definitely a different way of finding out. Yeah, but it was so, like...
We, you know, you have to put, because now we've digested it, right? But you got to put yourself back in that moment. And we were so excited. And when I tell you I was like three and a half weeks or four weeks pregnant.
well i was three weeks i guess because then we came back and i was like i got to go to the doctor and we went to the doctor for the first time she was like sweetheart you just have like a sack she was like you she was like oh you are early she was like but you don't even have like the baby's not even in there yet and Harrison was like so is she pregnant she was like she is pregnant but she is like four weeks
So we've gone back in every two weeks since then. Yeah. Now we have arms and legs and a head. And last time there was like the little brain in there. It's pretty wild. It's unbelievable to see. What was cool this time? Like versus last time that we didn't get to see last time because last time, as we all know, we went to a pediatrician. At least you went to the OB this time. Went to the OB this time. But since we found out so early...
last time we didn't get our first scandal probably eight weeks, but this time we went at four, six, eight, 10, 12, blah, blah, blah. Right. And we really got to watch like this last time, the last two times. There was the arms, the legs moving around, the brain. She called it the butterfly. And they're like, that was pretty cool to see it develop like that. Very cool. I do want to add like a minor hedge on these weeks that like.
i do think we may directionally be off one or two weeks and so i don't want to i don't want to like um neither of us are the best with dates jules Never been good with things. Okay. But directionally, yes. Sorry. Was that necessary? Okay, cool. Yeah, it's been I'm doing April. I guess that's probably the other necessary part middle of April. It's It's been unbelievable to watch and It's been unbelievable
To obviously see the growth, but going through it, having Bubba there as well has just been an added joyous element. I think Bubba knows. I don't know if we've said this yet, but we do.
you know, feel very, very fortunate to be in this position again. And, you know, we recognize what a blessing this is. And we don't want, you know, that isn't... that is not lost on on us no truly truly and this happened with the first one too like filled with so much gratitude um and it is a blessing yeah that's that was my caption i was like another blessing on the way because that is how i do feel
um well and i have to say like candidly like i'm still nervous of of course as as am as am i like a hundred percent because you know we we We understand the risks. But I say this. I was thinking about it the other day, talking to one of my friends, and I said, you know, I'm going to let myself feel the joy even though I feel scared.
like i am just i'm gonna allow myself to feel the joy but all cautiously optimistic um and just like grateful and i do i don't talk about this stuff very like a ton but i do just kind of like the plan is higher than me is how I view it. So it's out of my control. I'm going to do everything on my side. But for like, I just think it's the biggest blessing that we're even this far.
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Free shipping. Exclusions apply. With that being said, let's talk about the first trimester. And I do want to say, I have rough pregnancies, right? And I think two things can be true at the same time. One, I'm very grateful to be here. But two, it's hard. Yes.
I'm throwing up more this time than last time. And I have a lot of DMs which are saying, I hope you're not as sick as last time. And I'm like, somehow I'm sicker. Then, yes. I mean, last time, I... i recall a ton of gagging and very little throwing up lots of spit like lots of saliva or what is that called acid or slim yeah there's this time bile thank you that's the word we there's a lot
A lot of thrown up. I feel for you every day. I don't recall the last day that you have not thrown up. This morning, Harrison was like, you're going to kick today's butt. And I was like, no, today's going to kick my butt. You're doing amazing. But I made myself get out of the room. I was like get up and get out. And so where I got to give it to Harrison is like you have had. But before we talk about me, I think I think there's a lot more to like talk to on on.
your day-to-day and the symptoms you're dealing with well i made a list early on okay for this moment amazing so i think i was like you you like i'm watching you and every day like is a fight and i get why it's a fight you were literally growing a human um but i think it's important to talk about because it's so different for everyone and and yeah
So this is week six to eight of being pregnant ways. I knew I was pregnant. Okay. Cause you're not fully like my six symptoms haven't really kicked in yet, but these are things I wrote down that. rang true from the first time as well as the second time number one my nose grew and you cannot convince me otherwise and it's ever so slightly but I notice it like I notice it when I put the camera back and my nose grew the first time and then it shrunk back
I know that's crazy, but I noticed it. I thought that was more of a symbol for your heightened sense of smell. No, my nose physically grew in size. No, that's like a thing. It's a thing. Pregnancy nose. Yes. Yeah. So I've had pregnancy nose for 36 years. I actually had no idea that was a thing. And it's ever so slightly, but I notice it. I think it's just like swelling. Yeah. Not like... Oh, I did not notice. I don't know. Right. But is that not also a good...
Foray to build off of your heightened sense of smell. But if you don't, if you recall, pregnancy number one, the smell of you, your deodorant. made me want to throw up and then it went away in the second trimester i love the smell of you right now but you know why that is why
You switched deodorants to mine. Women's deodorant. I used your deodorant. Women's deodorant. You ordered the three pack and I took two of the three. The only thing that can get you about me is if you eat a sandwich and then come and talk to me. Yes. Cannot handle that. OK, number two. Generally, the food on my breath, if it is going what I've noticed, if the food on my breath goes against like my craving, your cravings, then.
um that can unfortunately lead to you hitting the trash can yeah it's not good um okay number two my teeth were so sensitive i could hardly brush my teeth or drink anything besides lukewarm water That's gone now too. Okay. Number three, I became a clean freak again.
I don't know if you noticed, but I was like sanitizing again. And this happened the first time, but like the bathroom sink has to be like so clean. You have to rinse it out. If you're brushing your teeth, you have to leave the water running. That has not faded. I was told to leave the water running right before we recorded. I think it's crazy to raw dog like just like spitting your. Sometimes you don't wash it out at all. You got to wash out the sink a bit.
You don't have to, but it's good to do that. No coffee. I can obviously have it now. But at the time, like, could not get near coffee. One time I had an egg burrito and a coffee from Swedish Hill. And all the neighbors watched me throw it up on my way inside the house. My hand goes numb. That's gone away now too, but this happened with the first pregnancy.
Just random times throughout the day, I would lose feeling in my hands. And then the last one is overproduction of saliva, which is still happening, but I've combated it with gum. So I eat the extra, the green spearmint gum, and that's really helped. That gum feels like a real new one on pregnancy two versus pregnancy one. Do you know why the saliva production is happening? Why? It's preparing you to throw up.
Ooh, Dr. Minich. As someone that used to throw up from drinking a little too much. I experienced that. Every time before. Jules, Nori is a listener. Nori is a listener. Nori told us congratulations. She knows. And I replied. I replied to her. Oh, she said, Alex.
liked my comment and she's like is that her or is that you it was me i saw it come through and i thought oh my gosh and i said thank you nori yeah let it be clear alex runs her own socials yes let it be clear i'm the one commenting back to you um i also think the saliva is your your digestion slows down i don't know that you lost me there so there's like a cap i can eat at a time
But yeah. Oh, Jules, before I throw up, I'm just spitting in the trash. I Googled it once and that's what it is. Yep. So those are those are the early those are like the six to eight week little things I noticed. OK, so now fast forward. Unfortunately, I'm not turning the corner quite yet. So now we're talking weeks 8 to 12. Generally. Yes. Thematically. Yes, yes, yes. Directionally. Thematically, directionally. We're talking weeks 8 to 12 and beyond.
um i haven't turned a corner yet i do hope every day that i will obviously but i hoped the first time that i would turn a corner and never really did and that's okay maybe my body doesn't love being pregnant Some people when they're pregnant, like if they have arthritis or joint pain or back pain, like it goes away while they're pregnant. And they say they feel better pregnant than they do not pregnant. I think I just have the opposite.
Reaction except for dairy. I can eat dairy again. This has been the biggest. This has been a very big win. Huge win. As the preparer of food to cook with dairy.
It just, it opens up the world of options. And it makes the food so much better. Chicken parm. You can get the eggs to... Cheese on everything. Cheese is on... is on everything i had cereal um that's real milk in my post i feel like there's some more like i feel like we haven't fully like nailed let me describe what like what a day of the past
you know two months has been or what a day in the past month has been for you so i haven't described this to you let me describe it to you now what it feels like morning sickness for me does not happen in the morning it comes on around 11 or 12. And what it feels like is you drank four to five bottles of wine the night before and then switched to tequila and then slept two hours. Coupled with, you have the flu temperature-wise. I am cold and hot. And then the last thing is this.
You know when you have food poisoning and let's say you throw up every two hours, but the 10 minutes before you throw up is the worst and it's right here and you're like, I'm about to throw up. You have that all day. Yeah. And you don't always throw it up. So you're kind of walking. So around 11 to noon, I'm waiting on that feeling to just come. And then it just kind of hangs out.
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to get your free signature makeup bag with your first order. MeritBeauty.com So, and that's generally... I just want to clarify. You've obviously told me that before, just not on the podcast. Yeah, sorry. I have explained to you. I always just tell you I have food poisoning. And that's been like the theme of the past four weeks.
Yeah, I would say that's the theme of the past four weeks. And so with that, and listen, I say it doesn't come on in the morning. It's there in the morning until I get up out of bed. And so from about 730. to 11 or 12 i'm feeling good like our neighbor whenever they come over and drop winnie off he always says how we feeling i say we're great right now it's coming and then when he picks up when he looks at me he's like oh my gosh so where
Where I've got to just give it to you completely is you have made this time so easy on me. Like Harrison has completely put the team on his back. So. It's not like I'm pregnant the first time without Bubber at all. But she cries in the morning. He wakes up. He immediately goes and gets her. He's on bottle duty. He cuddles her. He beads her. He gives her her eggs.
He takes over completely. And then at night, he does the exact same thing. Like, you are on bed duty. And because of this, she is attached to you. Dada. She'll be looking right at me like, dada. And I'll be like, aw. But you have, you've made me every meal. I'll be like, pancakes sound good. And he will whip spaghetti, chicken parm. He whips up every meal. He brings it to me with the best presentation. Like you have done five star taking care of me.
I want to say I couldn't do it without you. I could do it, obviously, because you just do things. I don't want to. I don't want to do it without you because you have been incredible. Well, thank you. And I think you're probably really tired. But the team is on your back, right? Like you are growing a human. And so anything that I can do. to make your life easier is like I jump at the opportunity to do so.
I do I do want to talk about it's hard on the guy to like because I'm out your teammates like I'm done Yeah, and obviously different different for everyone because pregnancy affects everyone different people are different you know kind of work schedules and so on and so forth but i'm i'm proud of how um we're collectively no i don't want to make this about me i want to make it about you you like this is it
it truly everything i'm doing is so small in the grand scheme of you gotta take your thank you though because okay you're harrison you're doing a lot thank you and and what i'll say is is the bright it is nice like the bonding that's happened between bubs and i over those past four weeks has has been um has been a very special time I do want to add one thing about the observation of you as of your symptoms. Okay. A consistent state of nausea.
like yes i and it feels like it can come out of nowhere but then i'll just like look at you and you'll be like um you'll be you know hunched over like Maybe on the in the car on the side on the bed and like you just get so nauseous and it's like it it really is both crazy and sad And sad to see and then the other thing I'd add which I kind of touched on before, but like your ability to the way smell affects you. Like we walked into an elevator and.
an elevator that smelled like a nice normal elevator and she just threw up. And so like the way the wrong scent can just completely rock your... your senses is is is pretty wild to see it's making me nervous to go out in public because the first time when it happened the first pregnancy the one food there was two foods i couldn't eat anything from chick-fil-a made me throw up and then ribs or brisket
And I ate those a couple of times because they sounded good, so I'd always convince myself I could have them. But one time I threw up in the hotel hall, but I was very close to the room. So I could always make it to my destination. This time I'm unable to control it. And I found myself throwing up in public a lot more than I ever want to. And that's making me nervous. It makes me want to stay home a lot. I really just want to stay home.
Yeah, well, it's, I mean, it's really fucking savage that you're... But it's all worth it. I say all this, like, we're recounting it, like, we're so excited to get this baby here, and this is the process to do it, so... Like I'm, I'm completely fine with that. I just, I do want to talk about it honestly because I think a lot of women go through the first trimester and get their butts kicked. Yeah. Yeah. And, and the joy is.
Far outweighs any sickness. I'm going to do it again and again, you know. How does it compare? And I feel weird. Obviously, I know these answers. So I'm asking these two. because I think the viewer would find them interesting. He's being a podcast co-host, not a fiance. I don't like the word either. Thank you for reading my mind. I said it in an email the other day. I was like, I'm going to have my fiance take. I couldn't believe you. What was I going to say? Husband? Yeah, just lie. Yes.
And then there can be the rumor mill. Are they married? Are they not married? You can pull the court county records, apparently. I did see that. Who did that? Somebody pulled some county records. You told. They won't want us to say their name. Oh, yeah, yeah. You told a story about it. How does this first trimester, how do you remember it compared to the last? First trimester. So this is the thing. The second you have your... Okay. Everyone told me...
The moment you have your baby, you will forget how hard pregnancy was and how hard birth was. And that happened to me. I had her, and I was looking at this little bundle of joy, and I was like, the first trimester wasn't that bad. My epidural didn't work. The birth, it wasn't even that bad. I was like throwing up every contraction, sweating, crying, and screaming. And I was like, that really wasn't that bad.
So now I'm back in the first trimester and I'm like, this is so much worse than last time. And my friends are like, no girl, I think you forgot how bad last time was. So I think your, your mind as women erases how bad it was.
¶ Why we left NYC and how we ended up in Austin, TX
is why we do it again and again this first trimester as the observer feels like almost an apples to apples experience that you're like as as the observer that that you had the first time around with them Major change being the throwing up. But I'm just as nauseous and in bed. Just as nauseous in bed. It feels emotionally things are very similar. The food craving swings of like wanting one thing 15 minutes and then 15 minutes later that thing you never wanting to like look at again.
I'm back on my steak and mashed potatoes, though. It started yesterday. Yes, I noticed. How many of those did I order in New York? Probably for three weeks straight did I door dash. But, like, I guess what I am somewhat surprised by is, like... last first trimester was all on the go and this first trimester so settled and like we're we're eating at home and we're cooking so many of the most of the meals but let's explain that because i i think one thing you and i do is we we
glaze over the past. And so that for some new listeners could be confusing. So Harrison and I lived in New York last first trimester and I moved to Austin. Not I, but we moved to Austin, but I transferred to Austin when I was seven months pregnant. And so when living in New York, we lived in like a small apartment.
We ate out a ton because we didn't want to cook at home. Going to the grocery store in New York is just different. Like you only buy what you can carry and carry a long way. So you're not really buying that much. And then for two months, we traveled around and we tried out different cities because we knew we didn't want to have Bubber in New York. So then we landed on Austin.
And so for the last two months, we were settled at our house, but we didn't own our house yet. Now we own our house. We've redone our house, like our bedroom I love. We cook all of our meals at home. So this pregnancy is a lot more stable. yeah in that regard um yeah we thought we always thought eating out so much the first time i was like that that's why i was so sick it was all the oils no it had nothing to do with it um i want to tell a random story
OK, so last night we had a block party and I didn't go. They shut down this little half street and the fire department comes by and hangs out and all the kids go in the fire truck. And it's a really like. fun uh family oriented thing last year when we went um uh Bubba was like newly born in her stroller so it was really cool like the year on year difference
And I met the people that are finishing that new house. Oh, you did? Yeah. Oh, cool. And she was like, how'd you end up on Austin? And it reminded me of the story that the only reason... why we are here is because we got turned down from that apartment in soho and had that apartment had we been accepted to that apartment in soho we would not be here so the quick story is
um alex we uh so the lease the uh lease in new york was up we were looking for a new place we needed a place that you know could fit obviously bubs hopefully a third room for you know other future child guests whatever and the market was just so limited uh for where we wanted to live and the type of place we wanted to live and we finally found a place the sickest loved it in the heart of soho loved it i truly loved it and we applied we got um
I think we had to do eight reference letters and the co-op shut us down. Yeah. And then I proceeded for about four weeks, maybe more.
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that landlord accepted us do you know what i think about now that you're saying that is is what would be so different about it is every morning because when you first have your baby like you go on walks a lot right and we would get the stroller we would put it in the elevator
We would take it down. We would walk through our lobby out onto the cobblestone streets of Soho. And we would push her around there. Yeah. And to me, the big thing that jumps out is like the community and the support that we have here. just like how strong that community is and how strong that support is. And I think there's very few cities in the world that actually, let me take that back. I think.
Doing that in New York would be very, very, very hard. And like going to that block party and seeing neighbors of all ages, many with kids our age, many. having kids either graduated or out of the house like that was just it was like man like we were in we're in a great spot austin's great because it's a lot of transplants so it's a lot of la new york
It's international and a lot of people have moved here and they're having kids. So it's really, really fun. But here's the thing to some New York moms. A lot of New York, the motherhood is so chic. They're on the subway. It's awesome for them. It's not conducive to our lifestyle. Yes. And our view was...
If we were going to stay in New York, we wanted to stay in Manhattan. Yeah. And we didn't want to do the suburbs of New York. The mindset was if we're going to do the suburbs of New York. We'll move. We'll move. try and do something, try and find our Austin, which obviously we found. And that was part of it. It's like life in the city is so hard. It may sound ridiculous to someone that like we were having issues finding a three bedroom apartment in New York. Like it was that hard. Like.
We were looking and the apartments were just like. There's no natural light or there was no shower. And they were tiny. Or a door. Or you had to walk up seven flights of stairs. Remember that one? Crazy expensive. And yeah, you literally get rejected. Rejected. Yeah. I mean, they fly off the market there. It's wild. We landed where we were supposed to. Yeah.
¶ Do we know the baby's gender yet? 👀
Shout out the neighbors. Shout out the neighbors. Shout out our whole street. We would never know them. That would be wild. I can't imagine. They are just our village. Him and I, one transition that's occurred. Jules is trying to get me to move on. No. We've now started phone calling. Now him and I, there's like probably six or seven phone calls a day that are happening. Just about things. You're a phone caller.
He's a big phone caller. Yeah, but the neighbor T and I, we never used to be phone callers. We would be more of just walk over and listen. Now a lot of... Tons of phone calls between the two of them. Hey, what's up? Nothing. Yeah, you guys are funny. Okay, so we're having a baby. Yeah, we're having a baby. We're going to do...
I don't even want to do the thing, like the things we DMed feels weird. Well, what else should we talk about on this episode? What have we missed? Oh, Boy vs. Girl. Oh, let's do that. I don't want to do, I want this one to be a non... things we dm like okay special i like that so we'll talk let's talk let's do let's discuss um there's a lot we missed people can submit their questions um
I already know one question and we're not going to do it now. But people are going to ask, how does this affect the timeline of you guys getting married? Oh, that's a good question. Yeah, I'm going to guess some other ones. Maybe we're already married. Again, check the courthouse document. I haven't had the energy.
You know, TikTok was just, like, so confused by my post. I thought my post was really obvious. I think it was just the order in which people were receiving it in their algorithm. Okay, yeah, I kind of... I understand how to announce things on Instagram now. People liked it. Okay. TikTok is still a little bit confusing to me. Alex is so nonchalant. We love it. We're having a baby. I don't feel very... It's a result of like, this is the best.
We can do. Okay, so gender. Do you care if we're having a girl or a boy? Definitely do not care. And it's something that I always heard. Friends say when they were having kids or had kids, like all they want is a happy, healthy baby. And like that lands more than any statement ever could. And that is.
obviously the priority one through pregnancy and beyond um yeah i think like the added color to it is and this is like a flip of the script where i think for baby number one my mindset was very much like and i think i said this on the pod beforehand part of having a boy And the beauty of that for me would have been like, I can really visualize what that relationship would look like. Because I was very fortunate where it would, all I would want to do is emulate.
the relationship that I've had with my dad and just be the same dad that he was to me. Yeah. And, you know, the way he took interest in sports and helped me with school and extracurriculars and the care and the love like he laid out the perfect playbook on how to be.
a dad to a son and while you know him and my sister have an amazing relationship and i'm sure many would argue better than mine uh like i didn't experience that firsthand i saw it from the sidelines but now like i have that direct relationship with bubs i really understand being a girl dad that like i'll need to rewire my brain on okay like get
getting into if it's a boy how what that looks like yeah if it is a boy but either way like super excited um and um yeah like i see a world of four girls um all running around creating havoc um and that's so much easier for me to imagine than like two boys and two girls right or like
imagine if it's Bob and three boys wow that would be because right now we're in such girl zone we did a lot of pink wallpaper and a lot of pink chairs we really we really identified like we adopted I have a pink wardrobe And Tate's going to be the eldest daughter. It's a big thing right now on the internet. Why? Oh, because of Taylor. Because of Taylor. T-Swift wrote the eldest daughter song. It's just like birth order and gender. That determines a lot about your personality.
eldest daughter is like a type of personality so you're just like a fucking you're yeah you're a boss yeah love it i think is a boss yeah she is a boss bah that's her new thing bah she's a baby now she has our neighbor gave her a baby doll and she got puppy puppy this morning lots of puppies and i said it's a baby you're gonna have a baby bubber now
i will say this about the gender a girl would be a lot more seamless we've got the clothes like we are set up for a girl yes a boy because i it's like holidays for me i like to add in the color like i like pink for the girls not like blue for the boys um
¶ Things We DMed (kind of...)
I'm going to have to contact American Vintage to get all blue sweaters of my pink sweaters if it's a boy. But if it's a girl, we've got it. I know my shops for... If we have a boy, who I'm asking where they buy all their outfits is Alex and Laura. Yeah, they're doing a very good job on his fits. They dress that boy. Every time I see him, I'm like, that's adorable.
So I got to ask them. Yeah, they've nailed ACES fits for sure. I got a new. So do you know what I'm going to let myself do? I'll do a haul. I'll do a TikTok haul of this. I opened the floodgates for Bubber. What I had been doing is no online shopping. Like I was, I wouldn't buy her a lot of clothes. Then Halloween rolled around and I said, if you see something and you like it, you can order it. So I've probably ordered her.
12 to 15 outfits on Instagram ads and TikTok ads. And I've just let myself buy them all. I just said, I'm not shopping for me. And so Bubber's outfits have arrived and like they're all Halloween themed and they are so cute. Okay. And I'm going to set them out. I got minorly distracted on that rant. The boy cannot walk and chew gum. Well, you know, if we were going to do things we DM'd, the text is that I got in.
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He said, I would love if they just stopped food service on planes. Like, why the fuck do people need to eat breakfast on a three-hour flight at 11 a.m.? We can all guess who that came from. Who? He's flying up. We have a work thing going on. I have to disagree. I love the food service on planes. Did you see the Jennifer Aniston Emirates commercial?
she's in her robe and she goes up to the flight attendant and she's like, where are the showers? And they're like, we don't have showers. And she's not on an Emirates flight, but then she wakes up. And she actually is on an Emirates flight. And she goes up to the pilot and she's like, how do we keep flying this plane around? Because the planes are so nice. She wanted to stay on the flight. I've never been on an Emirates. I would love to somehow go.
this is now going to turn into a normal thursday episode because what i'd love to do is i'd love to talk about the uh saudi comedy festival on plane did you guys not see this Oh, this was very, very interesting. But I feel like...
This is probably where we end the episode. Okay. Okay. All right. We won't derail ourselves here. Unless there's anything else that we need to address. No, I think that we'll address it all in the Q&A. But this was a fun recount. I'm so excited to have now told you guys. I love like bringing people up to speed. Yeah. Yeah. It's super exciting. And both in the reality of what lies ahead.
and being able to talk about it. Yeah. I'm going to go home and take my nail polish off. I can't wait. I did this last pregnancy. I ordered the at-home remover, take it off, and I never looked back. Oh, my God. There's so many things we didn't talk about. The Alex's gives on her being pregnant. Gives? Oh, talk about it. Gives? Next week. What does it give? Like your blue light glasses. Oh, dairy.
That's why I posted that video. I knew I was going to announce, and I was carrying Cheetos and cottage cheese, and I said, whatever. I'm putting them in the video. All right. We love you guys. Thank you for listening. Thanks for listening to another episode of Two Parents in a Podcast powered by Just Media House. If you enjoyed the show, don't forget to like, subscribe, comment, rate and review. Stay connected on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook.
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