In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by Deadmaxis and Aura Grey—partners in life, kink, and the art of rope. Known for their stunning suspension performances at events like Hardbeat Byron and Berlin’s Dark Circus, this couple brings over a decade of love and a deep connection to their rope journey. We explore: 🔹 How they went from a vanilla marriage to exploring kink together 🔹 The emotional and psychological impact of rope in their relationship 🔹 Developing trust through sus...
May 14, 2025•1 hr 24 min
What happens when your birthday brings up more than cake and candles? In this raw and personal episode, Harley opens up about what it’s like to navigate aging as a sexual woman in a culture obsessed with youth. From noticing lines in the mirror to feeling like time is running out for certain fantasies, this episode is a vulnerable look at the internal stories we carry—and how kink can help us rewrite them. You’ll hear: Why the sex Harley has now is so much better than what she had in her twentie...
Apr 23, 2025•36 min
In this episode, I explore the difference between masculinity and toxic masculinity—and why I’m tired of pretending that being attracted to masculine men is something to be ashamed of. Inspired by a scene in Beastars (an anime on Netflix) , I unpack what it means to celebrate masculine power without excusing harm. We talk about violence, tenderness, emotional maturity, and why the sexiest men are often the ones who could fight—but don’t need to. From MMA rings to Formula One tracks, this is a he...
Apr 16, 2025•39 min
Do you ever feel like your body just isn’t showing up for sex—even when your mind is totally on board? Maybe you want to feel turned on, but nothing’s happening down there. Or maybe you feel ashamed, confused, or frustrated when your desire doesn’t match what your partner (or you!) expect. In this episode, Harley Rabbit introduces the dual control model , a powerful framework from the world of sexology that could change the way you think about arousal forever . You’ll learn how your sexual accel...
Apr 02, 2025•27 min
Ever felt too self-conscious to fully enjoy sex? Maybe you struggle to switch off from life stress, or you find yourself stuck in your head during intimate moments. In this episode, Harley Rabbit shares a powerful technique for breaking free from insecurity and fully immersing yourself in pleasure—by stepping into a kink persona. A kink persona isn’t just roleplay—it’s a way to tap into different aspects of yourself, experiment with new fantasies, and unleash parts of your sexuality you may neve...
Mar 19, 2025•32 min
When you first explore submission, it’s easy to get caught up in labels and stereotypes—but what if those don’t quite fit? Do you have to love obedience, service, or degradation to be a sub? Or maybe you’re drawn to pain or bondage, but don’t feel like surrendering control? In this episode, Harley Rabbit helps you untangle your submissive identity, exploring the many ways submission can look. Whether you’re a good sub, brat, masochist, or rope bunny, this episode will guide you in discovering wh...
Mar 12, 2025•35 min
Have you ever wondered if you're kinky enough to belong in the kink community? Maybe you feel like you don’t fit the stereotypical Dominant/submissive (D/s) mold or that your desires aren’t “intense” enough to count. In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the many ways people explore kink—whether through full-time dynamics, occasional play, private fantasies, or even solo experiences. Kink doesn’t have to look one way, and there’s no test you need to pass to belong. We'll also explore some of...
Mar 05, 2025•30 min
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by the incredible Miss Gen —Shibari educator, performer, and rope sadist. As head of Evil Girls HQ in Brisbane and a Shihan (Master Instructor) in Kazami Ryu Shibari , she has 25+ years of experience training with top rope masters and performing in Japan. We explore: 🔹 Miss Gen’s journey into rope – From self-tying as a child to discovering her dominant side. 🔹 The psychology of rope play – How energy, connection, and anticipation shape a s...
Feb 19, 2025•1 hr 55 min
Most people don’t realise just how much gender shapes the way we play in BDSM. Whether we’re leaning into traditional roles—like masculine dominance and feminine submission—or subverting them entirely, gender dynamics influence kink in ways we often don’t even notice. In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, we dive into: 🔹 How gender roles show up in BDSM 🔹 Masculine dominance vs. feminine submission – Why it turns us on 🔹 Subverting gender norms – Femdom, feminisation, and sissification in...
Feb 12, 2025•30 min
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by the incredible Shelby Devlin , a sex and intimacy coach with nearly a decade of experience specializing in BDSM and kink. With a master's degree in sexuality studies and a role as an advanced instructor at the Somatica Institute , Shelby brings a wealth of knowledge to our conversation. We dive into two powerful topics: 🔹 Religious shame & sexuality – How religious conditioning shapes our sexual identities, and how to reclaim pleasure...
Feb 05, 2025•1 hr 4 min
Sharing your sexual fantasies with a partner can feel incredibly vulnerable... maybe even terrifying! In this episode, Harley Rabbit dives deep into why it’s so hard to open up about our desires and offers practical, no-pressure strategies to help you navigate these conversations with confidence and curiosity. Whether you're hoping to act on your fantasies or simply share them for deeper intimacy, this episode will equip you with the tools to hopefully make it a positive experience! Discussion P...
Jan 29, 2025•39 min
Episode Summary: In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , Harley Rabbit dives deep into the fascinating world of sexual fantasies, exploring why so many of us feel shame about them and how science challenges the idea of “normal” fantasies. Harley breaks down a landmark study, “What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?” , which surveyed over 1,500 people to determine which fantasies are rare, unusual, common, or typical. Along the way, Harley shares personal insights, busts myths about fantasi...
Jan 15, 2025•34 min
It’s time to add a little extra joy to your holiday season! In this special Christmas episode, I’m joined by the fabulous Wendy Setless , a Somatica-trained sexual health, pleasure, and relationship coach, and the resident sexologist at her local adult store. Wendy brings her infectious enthusiasm and deep knowledge to help us navigate the world of adult toys—from vibrators and strokers to kegel balls and vibrating cock rings. Whether you’re looking to explore solo or spice things up with a part...
Dec 18, 2024•1 hr 19 min
In this week’s episode, Harley Rabbit takes a deep dive into the world of sexual fantasies and reveals one of her most provocative ones—a cock worship scenario rooted in her submissive desires. Harley discusses how fantasies can unlock deeper arousal, help you connect with your core desires, and transform your sex life—whether you're indulging solo or with a partner. She explores why fantasising is healthy, how it doesn’t reflect your real-life values, and how to incorporate your imagination int...
Dec 11, 2024•36 min
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , Harley Rabbit takes on some of the most stubborn myths and misconceptions about women’s sexuality. Whether you’re a woman navigating these expectations or a man eager to understand your partner better, this episode is for you. Harley shares her personal experiences and insights from studying sexology, conversations with clients and friends, and challenges commonly held beliefs that might be holding you back from a more fulfilling sex life. You’ll hear a...
Nov 27, 2024•29 min
In this empowering episode, Harley Rabbit dives into the topic of sex positivity and overcoming shame around sexuality. Sharing personal stories, including a formative memory from high school and a transformative recent experience in a burlesque dance class, Harley explores how societal messages shape our views on expressing sexuality. Harley reflects on reclaiming self-confidence and finding permission to be authentically sexy in a world that often discourages it. Referenced in this episode Chr...
Nov 20, 2024•36 min
In this episode, Harley Rabbit opens up about finally getting her first tattoo—a significant milestone that stirred up childhood memories and beliefs. Harley reflects on how her journey into kink and pain play has reshaped her understanding of resilience, pain, and bravery. Sharing stories about childhood fears, needle phobias, and reclaiming agency through kink, Harley discusses how these experiences helped overcome lifelong limiting beliefs. Tune in for an honest, empowering discussion about u...
Nov 13, 2024•42 min
In this episode, Harley dives into a fun yet insightful analysis of three popular love songs that might make you rethink your playlist: I Lose Control by Teddy Swims, Elastic Heart by Sia, and Grenade by Bruno Mars. Taking on the role of a relationship coach, Harley imagines these song lyrics as if they were clients sitting in a therapy session, sharing their romantic struggles. Harley explores how these songs, while catchy and romantic on the surface, often glorify toxic behaviors that we’ve co...
Oct 30, 2024•34 min
CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) is often discussed from a woman’s perspective, but what about men? In this episode, I’m joined by Dotch, a Somatica® practitioner who once saw CNC as a hard limit but has since learned to enjoy facilitating these fantasies. Dotch shares his journey, from initial discomfort to embracing CNC in a way that feels safer, consensual, and exciting. We discuss the challenges men face, including shame and the fear of crossing boundaries, and offer insights on how to explore C...
Oct 16, 2024•1 hr 11 min
In this episode, Harley Rabbit delves into the concept of intimacy within the kink and BDSM communities, challenging common misconceptions that equate kink with violence and degradation. Harley emphasizes that true intimacy in kink is built on trust, vulnerability, and open communication. The discussion explores various forms of intimacy that can arise in kink, including the exploration of personal limits and the importance of aftercare. Harley also shares personal experiences that highlight how...
Sep 25, 2024•32 min
I got up to some exciting kinky shenanigans this weekend and I can’t wait to share! Slade and I did our most elaborate roleplay yet, which was a CNC schoolgirl fantasy. This has been a fantasy of mine for a long time, and was also my first time exploring middlespace. In this episode I share the details of the roleplay and what I learned, as well as how it felt to explore a more complicated for of ageplay where I was actually getting to sooth some old wounds using the repetition with agency pathw...
Sep 11, 2024•52 min
In this episode, I talk with Jeanne Baade, a sex and relationship coach who discovered her sexuality later in life after growing up in a conservative christian household. Jeanne shares how she first experienced a clitoral orgasm at 48, and her journey into kink and BDSM. We explore simple ways for beginners to dip their toe into BDSM, like using blindfolds, scarves and rope harnesses to build trust and connection with a partner. Jeanne’s humour and storytelling make this conversation both insigh...
Aug 28, 2024•1 hr 4 min
In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that might not be the sexiest, but it’s crucial for anyone exploring their sexuality, especially in non-monogamous relationships. I’m joined by Dr. Sara Whitburn, a General Practitioner specialising in sexual health and the Deputy Medical Director at Sexual Health Victoria, to tackle all the awkward questions about STIs. We’ll be covering what you need to know about common STIs, including what you should be testing for and how often. Dr. Sara answers th...
Aug 21, 2024•48 min
One of the most common challenges people experience in their sex life is issues with libido. Whether it's a mismatch with their partner's libido or a sudden drop-off, these issues can be frustrating and confusing. In today's episode, I introduce a controversial exercise called “Keeping Your Pilot Light On.” This exercise focuses on finding ways to comfortably tap into your arousal in your day-to-day life, outside of the bedroom. We delve into the ethical questions this topic brings up, particula...
Aug 14, 2024•34 min
Get ready for part 2 of our conversation about men’s profiles on Fetlife. If you're a man on Fetlife struggling to represent yourself authentically, these episodes provide invaluable tips and advice on how to do just that. In today’s episode, Slade shares how he implemented the changes we discussed last week, including doing his first writing, updating and refining his bio, and being more intentional about his photos. Finally, we explore Slade's vision for using Fetlife as a platform to genuinel...
Aug 07, 2024•53 min
Ok guys, if you're on Fetlife and not having much luck with the ladies… How much effort have you really put into your profile? Be honest! In this episode, I'm joined by my Dom and long-term partner, Slade, as we dive into men's profiles. Slade himself is guilty of not keeping his profile updated, and like many men, has a lot more to offer than his current profile showcases. Together, we go through his profile piece by piece, incorporating valuable input from female Fetlife users about the red an...
Jul 31, 2024•54 min
If you are interested in rope bondage, you need to listen to this episode! Ravel is an experienced rigger from Brisbane Australia, who understands that rope is so much more than just technical skill. With a background in theatre, dance and performing arts, Ravel talks about bringing intention to your rope scenes - that is, knowing what kind of experience and emotions you are wanting to cultivate, before you even touch a rope. Throughout the episode, Ravel offers loads of practical tips and ideas...
Jul 24, 2024•1 hr 2 min
I know this is an experience on a lot of people’s ‘Fuckit lists’ so I thought I’d share some details that might help you in organising a similar experience... 🌶 In this episode I start by talking about the planning process, recognising agency, and some key factors that helped me transition into the right headspace for kinky play. I also share about what it’s like to include a CNC / free use type of role-play, as well as suggest using props to indulge all your senses. Lastly, I have a chat about...
Jul 10, 2024•32 min
I am super excited to have the incredible Chained Valkyrie on the show today. Valkyrie identifies as a pleasure sub, and as you’ll find out, there are many different kinks she enjoyed as part of her submissive identity. These include Impact, pet play, ABDL, degradation, and many more. We also cover the use of intermediate safewords, comparing yourself to others in kink, as well as the good and bad of sharing so much of yourself on Fetlife. Valkyrie is so open about her kinks and clearly has a lo...
Jul 03, 2024•1 hr 17 min
What the hell is “fawning” and what does it have to do with kink? Well, that’s exactly what we are talking about on today’s episode. If you are someone who struggles with people pleasing to the point of crossing your own boundaries, this episode may be especially relevant to you. Also in this episode I share my recent experiences joining a yoga studio to improve core strength and flexibility for my rope bunny practice. I also share some surprising other benefits that are helping me experience mo...
Jun 26, 2024•33 min•Ep. 58
