I have an exciting guest for you today. She is another friend from my Somatica course and her name is Jessica Langley. Jessica is a somatic sexologist, based in Colorado and she is dedicated to liberating humans from toxic shame and helping people live more authentic lives. She believes that embodied pleasure is a birthright, and she can help you reclaim your sacred eroticism. Jessica is queer and polyamorous, and if you’d like to learn more about her services you can visit her website https://v...
Jun 19, 2024•55 min
In this week's episode I reflect on the responses I got from speaking out in episode #54. I am so grateful to everyone who has reached out to me, shared their stories, or told me the episode had an impact on them. I was very nervous about how the episode would be received and this really goes to show that most people in this community are good humans! Also in this episode I reveal some of my favorite profiles to follow on Fetlife and Instagram! This is just one of the ways we can be proactive ab...
Jun 12, 2024•37 min
Setting boundaries might seem straightforward, but it’s often challenging to recognise and communicate them, especially in the context of kink. This week's episode dives into the complexities of identifying and asserting your boundaries, with a particular focus on the struggles faced by those with anxiety who may have become adept at ignoring their body’s warning signals. I share insights from my recent experiences at a weekend rope workshop that showed me that saying ‘no’ can actually lead to m...
Jun 05, 2024•44 min
This week’s podcast was the hardest I’ve ever recorded. It’s easy to share the positive aspects of kink—the great experiences and the joys of exploration. What’s hard is sharing the negative experiences. It would have been much easier to keep this private, but my podcast is about sharing my kink journey openly and honestly. I can't do that if I’m only highlighting the good parts. In this episode, I discuss a recent experience where my vetting process failed, and I ended up trusting someone who c...
May 29, 2024•1 hr
In this episode, I dive into a recent adventure that took me to Brisbane, where I explored rope suspension for the first time. While I successfully achieved my suspension goals, it was the floor rope scenes with a talented rigger named Ravel (@ravel_shibari on Instagram) that truly transformed my perspective on rope. Join me as I share about these floor scenes, revealing what they looked like, how they felt, and the crucial elements of successful scene negotiation and trust-building with a new p...
May 15, 2024•49 min
Welcome to the next instalment of our Everyday Kinkster series. In today’s episode I have a chat with Alisa Milard. Alisa is studying at Somatica Institute with me, and she has also just started her practice at Intimacy Illumination as a somatic sex and relationship coach. Alisa shares all about her kink journey, beginning with what it’s like to be a single female sub navigating this world on your own, all the way through to exploring impact play, rope suspension, fire play and electro play! We ...
May 08, 2024•1 hr 25 min
I am so excited to dive into this topic today! Most of us learn about blowjobs from porn, which usually shows some very talented actresses and actors taking a lot, very deeply! This is actually pretty hard to do (especially for a long time) and there is no wonder that so many of us think we are bad at giving blowjobs. In this episode I’m going to teach you my biggest secret to giving an insane blowjob! I’m also going to share a bunch of tips and techniques that are going to be WAY easier than wh...
Apr 17, 2024•31 min
Hey friends! Today I am spilling the beads about my plans for a rope trip in Brisbane! Woop Woop! I am doing a rope class with Slade, visiting the Crystal Chateau, and have organised two rope sessions with some amazing riggers! It is super scary to plan scenes, especially with people you don’t know, so that’s why in this episode I walk you through all the steps I took to plan this experience, so you can do the same! This includes being realistic about expectations,, looking for partners, having ...
Apr 10, 2024•32 min
Meet the man behind Kangacon - Australia's first Ageplay convention. I had so much fun chatting to DaddaG about his journey as an ABDL and a caregiver. DaddaG is filled with amazing stories about his experiences with other ABDL’s, he also shares about his many trips to CAPCon and TeddyCon in the US, and how these conventions inspired him to start KangaCon in Australia. Tickets to KangaCon are on sale now, and DaddaG gives us a great description of what to expect across the 3 day event, including...
Apr 03, 2024•1 hr 2 min
Summary: In this episode, Harley Rabbit concludes the mini-series on degradation play, pain play, and taboo kinks by discussing trauma and its relationship to kink. She addresses the misconception that kink is a symptom of trauma and emphasizes that kink is a normal and healthy expression of human sexuality. Harley explores how kink can play a role in alleviating trauma and discusses two pathways for exploring trauma in kink: repetition with agency and resolution. She provides case studies to il...
Mar 27, 2024•28 min
Summary In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the concept of arousal beyond romance and challenges the idea that love is the sole source of arousal. She introduces the concept of the four emotional aphrodisiacs: closeness, anxiety, guilt, and anger. Harley shares a personal experience of fulfilling a fantasy and discusses a study on peak erotic experiences. She delves into the connection between negative emotions and arousal, emphasizing the importance of finding a balance. Harley also explore...
Mar 20, 2024•22 min
Summary In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the difference between abuse and kink. She shares personal stories and examples to illustrate the importance of agency in kink scenes. Harley discusses how agency creates a safe container for exploring negative emotions and sensations, such as embarrassment, anxiety, and pain. She emphasizes the need for consent, negotiation, and boundaries in kink play to ensure the well-being of all participants. Understanding agency is crucial for both tops and ...
Mar 13, 2024•27 min
Today I am starting a new series called Every Day Kinksters. The idea is to interview regular, everyday people, either from Fetlife or wherever, and ask them about their journey - because we all have a story to tell! Today’s episode came about because I was talking to one of my classmates, Will Denison, and he casually mentioned he used to do live sex shows… so of course I stopped him right there, and asked if he would tell his story on my podcast. Thankfully, he agreed! Will is someone who’s li...
Mar 06, 2024•46 min
Recently I’ve had quite a few DM’s from subs who are new to kink, but are unsure on how to find a good Dominant partner, and how to stay safe in general. So, I figured this would be a great topic for this week’s podcast! First of all, if you are a sub and you’re just starting out on your kink journey, well done!!! This is an amazing world, and you are going to learn and experience so much more than you could in your vanilla life. That said, I totally get this can be overwhelming at the beginning...
Feb 28, 2024•37 min
This week it was my absolute pleasure to speak with artist, kinkster and fet!sh photographer KinkyLens ! I know many of you enjoy taking sexy photos of your kinky explorations, and this episode is packed with tips and advice for capturing those magic moments on camera. Len speaks about his experiences, including what it’s like to photograph couples having sx! He shares about his journey in k!nk, beginning with magazine cutouts of lingerie, all the way up to working and teaching as a professional...
Feb 21, 2024•1 hr 3 min
This question brings up a lot of feelings for the best of us. Maybe the thought of your partner fantasising about someone else feels really icky for you? Or maybe you are like me, and you need to have all sorts of fantasies during sex, but you feel guilty about it, like you’re disconnecting from your partner? In this episode we will discuss the role of fantasy during sex, and hopefully disarm some of these negative feelings. Fantasy is a healthy and normal part of the erotic experience, and is n...
Feb 14, 2024•28 min
There are many things in life we’d like to happen quickly. The 3 minute planking part of your workout, waiting for the microwave countdown timer, or the last hour of the work day when your partner just texted you an eggplant emoji… Unfortunately, sex usually isn’t one of them. Today’s episode is all about Premature Ejaculation; what it is, and what you can do about it. I was lucky enough to have an anonymous guest offer to be on the show today, and share his honest experiences with PE. As much a...
Feb 07, 2024•52 min
There are lots of reasons we keep our kinky lives a secret. For some of us, secrecy is part of the fun! For others, it might be about privacy. But for lots of us, we keep this stuff secret because we are afraid of what others might think, if they knew the truth about us. This creates a source of shame, and leaves us feeling like we have to hide a part of ourselves in order to feel accepted. I recently had an important conversation with my mum, where I told her about my kinky lifestyle. It wasn’t...
Jan 31, 2024•29 min
Not everyone is super well matched in the bedroom. You might be an amazing couple, but when it comes to sex you’re just not really compatible. This is the case for a lot of long term couples, but it doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship, or that you have to sacrifice a fulfilling sex life. While there are lots of things couples can do to improve their sexual compatibility, outsourcing sex is also a fantastic option! In today's episode, I will go through 5 amazing pieces of advice for ...
Jan 24, 2024•27 min
Most of us have grown up in a culture where monogamy is the norm. If you enter a relationship it is pretty much expected that you will be monogamous. But times are changing, and alternative relationship styles like polyamory and open relationships are becoming more popular, and more and more people are becoming more curious about them. I wanted to do an episode specifically about open relationships or ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationships where I could address some common questions and mi...
Jan 17, 2024•19 min
Happy new year! If you are wanting to have an exciting year of kinky experiences, it’s likely you might need to do some vetting. So what is vetting? And how do we do it well? Personally, my vetting process could use an update, so I did some research and found my top 10 questions I will be using to vet potential new play partners. (Honestly, I wish I’d known about these years ago). Each person's vetting process will be very different! Feel free to cherry pick from my list, as well as come up with...
Jan 10, 2024•26 min
Today we are doing a deep dive into Age Play! I was lucky enough to sit down with Bear, a kinkster from Perth, Western Australia, who is very active in the age play scene over there. Bear is extremely passionate about this space, as you will be able to tell in the interview. He is a little himself, and he also runs workshops and has recently opened up his own physical store Kelmscott, specialising in Little and Pet Play gear. We cover a lot of ground in this conversation, from the various differ...
Dec 20, 2023•1 hr 10 min
Last night I got to experience something I’ve been wanting to try for a long time - I got to go into my friend's pool and be tied up in ropes! If this sounds super dangerous, that’s because it is! But with careful planning, the right people and knowing your own limits, it is possible to have these experiences in a relatively safe way. In this episode I take you through each step of my first time water bondage experience. I discuss everything from planning the scene, to trying underwater, to how ...
Dec 13, 2023•31 min
Are you curious about the darker, more extreme or taboo side of kink? I know I certainly am! In this episode we are taking a deep dive into CNC and Abduction play. I was fortunate enough to interview a Fetlifer who goes by the name of Cruciator. Cruciator has decades of experience in kink, and specializes in abduction play and multi day scenes. Although Cruciator clearly has a wealth of knowledge on many aspects of BDSM, In this episode we’ll focus mostly on his abductions scenes, as this is som...
Dec 06, 2023•1 hr 8 min
Most kinksters (myself included) struggle with shame. One of the reasons for experiencing shame is because what turns us on is often in opposition to our personal values. For example, you might identify as a feminist, and the idea of a dominant / submissive relationship might feel wrong to you - yet for some reason these dynamics turn you on. Or maybe you feel strongly about treating all people with respect, but you’re secretly turned on by the idea of degradation play. You might be asking yours...
Nov 29, 2023•20 min
It’s all well and good if you are into romance and passion - you know, the kind of sex you see in the movies - but what if you're not? What if you don’t fit the mould of socially sanctioned sex? Well many kinksters don’t, and that can lead to feelings of shame, guilt and being abnormal. Although only one very narrow type of sex is usually ever represented in film and TV, the Three Dimensions of Sex teaches us that there are in fact 3 distinct types of sex. In this episode, I take you through eac...
Nov 22, 2023•26 min
You are such a good girl / boy. Well done for clicking on this podcast. I’m so proud of you for being curious and wanting to explore kink! In this episode we are talking about praise kink. This has been blowing up on TikTok lately and I thought it would be a fun topic to explore on the show. I discuss what praise kink is, what it looks like and how it might bring more confidence to your sex life! I have lots of stories to share about how praise intersects with my other kinks, and how it has dram...
Nov 08, 2023•29 min
What is Sleep Play? Well, Sleep Play is a kink where one person is asleep (or pretending to be asleep) while the other person engages in sexual activity with them. For some people, this sounds super creepy! But for others, there are lots of great reasons why Sleep Play can be a fantastic turn on! In this episode we will discuss how Sleep Play may look very different for different people, as well as give you the tools to discuss this kink with your partner(s). If you are enjoying this podcast, do...
Nov 01, 2023•33 min
Have you ever found it challenging to utter that two-letter word, "no"? In this episode, I discuss the reasons why saying "no" can be an uphill battle for so many people. I also explore the important role personal boundaries play in nurturing not only your self-worth but also the health of your relationships. I will give you five of my personal favorite strategies to make saying "no" more manageable. This is particularly tailored for those who identify as people-pleasers, like me! My mission is ...
Oct 25, 2023•36 min
Collars carry a lot of meaning within the BDSM community, and that meaning can be very different depending on the person. I asked the community on Fetlife to tell me what collars mean to them - and I got some wonderful responses which I share in today's discussion. From a simple fashion accessory, to a way to shift into a submissive headspace, to a symbol of the D/s dynamic - collars can mean a lot of different things! There really is a lot more to collars and ownership than what appears on the ...
Oct 18, 2023•29 min
