‘Free use’ is a kink that has been getting a fair bit of attention on TikTok lately - which is causing a lot of people to feel curious about what it means, and others to feel concerned about why anyone would want to play like this. In this episode, I provide some answers about the many faces of Free Use. Like lots of kinks, there are many ways to experiment with and enjoy this kink, and this may look very different for different people. I also address some of the valid concerns about the type of...
Oct 10, 2023•34 min
Did you know, the threesome is the most common sexual fantasy, across different genders and sexual orientations? Rarely is anything to do with what turns us on, ever so universal…so let’s talk about that. In this episode I give a real-life account of my recent threesome experience. I share openly about everything from asking the right person, identifying potential triggers, getting in the right headspace - all the way up to aftercare. Everyone deserves to experience their fantasy if they want to...
Oct 03, 2023•33 min
I get a lot of great questions in my inbox, so I thought it was about time I did a Q&A episode on this podcast. Today I discuss some of the most common kinky questions I get asked, from how to establish boundaries, how to communicate your desires with your partner, where to get started with objectification, as well as lots more! If you have a question you’d like me to answer either privately or on the show, you can msg me on Fetlife or through my website (links below). Mentioned in this epis...
Sep 26, 2023•37 min
There are a lot of misconceptions around D/s relationships, which on the surface can look as though they are perpetuating a culture of misogyny. This however, is not the case. In this episode, we dive a little deeper into the dynamics of healthy BDSM relationships, and discuss how they in fact, align with feminist values. If you, like many submissive women (and dominant men) ever feel conflicted about your values around equality for all genders, and what you enjoy in the bedroom, I hope this epi...
Sep 19, 2023•31 min
This week I tried being a cam girl! If you’re curious to know what it’s like to get naked on a livestream then you will love this episode! I am all about living by my values of sex positivity, body confidence, challenging social stigma, and freedom of sexual expression. Camming to me, felt like a way to fully exemplify those values. That said, it wasn’t all smooth sailing, and the whole experience was a bit of a rollercoaster! If you’d like to hear a bonus video where I share even deeper about t...
Sep 12, 2023•38 min
This week's episode is all about making things happen! No more “someday” goals people, I want you to pick a date, make a plan, and start living your best sex life! Don’t worry, I’m going to be right there alongside you. To get you motivated, I have set my own kink goal, and over the course of the next few months. On this podcast, I’ll be sharing each step of my journey, so you can see how it’s done. Today we are starting with choosing a goal, visualizing yourself achieving that goal (so you can ...
Sep 05, 2023•37 min
It might all look happy and confident on the surface, but the reality is, social media (including Fetlife!) isn’t the best place for our self esteem. I’m not telling anyone to stop using these platforms - I actually think they do a lot of good as well, but when scrolling your feed, it’s important to be aware of how it’s affecting you. In this episode I talk about the 3 most common pitfalls we all fall into on social media, including Upward Comparison, FoMo and the Low Self Esteem Cycle. I give y...
Aug 30, 2023•29 min
In this episode I talk about my journey with Age Play. This is one of the more divisive kinks in BDSM and it was a form of play I used to be very uncomfortable with. Overtime, through exploring this kink slowly with my partner, I have been able to understand Age Play a lot better, and my little self has now become an important part of my kink identity. What all this has to do with Harry Potter Pj’s you ask? Well you’ll have to listen to the episode to find out why this was such a pivotal moment ...
Aug 23, 2023•25 min
I don't think this was quite what the fairy godmother had in mind, but I had a great night out at the Townsville Erotic Ball! This was a big event for our regional North Queensland community and brought in awesome humans from all over the state! In this episode I tell you all about my experience at this event. I’m talking sexy costumes, traffic light wristbands and fire twirling entertainment! I also get pretty real about the less glamorous side of being social, including feeling awkward and lik...
Aug 16, 2023•31 min
I’ve got an extra special deep-dive episode for you today, where I interview Persephony Falls. Persephony is one of the first people I met in kink. She is a self professed Sadomasochist, has more than 15 years experience in kink, and she is heavily involved in the Townsville kink community organising the local sub-munches here. In this episode we cover everything from kinky Greek mythology, advice for newbies, and go in depth into Persephony’s love of pain (seriously, she casually mentions takin...
Aug 09, 2023•1 hr
Monogamy is something most couples never really discuss. It is generally assumed when we enter a relationship, it will be monogamous, and that is that. After all, monogamy is the only way to show true emotional commitment to someone… right? Well I strongly disagree. Monogamy - when agreed to for the right reasons - can be perfectly healthy. Though this is often not the case. I have frequently seen monogamy being used to justify possessive and controlling behaviour, disguising jealousy as passion...
Aug 02, 2023•33 min
For many people, the idea of seeing their partner in the arms of another person is to painful to even imagine… but for Slade and I, we were pretty excited about it! In this episode, I recount all the juicy details for you, about what this recent experience was like, how the opportunity came about, as well as some insights into the positives of an open relationship. Also in this episode, discover a helpful way to communicate desires and boundaries with a new partner (especially for those of us wh...
Jul 26, 2023•24 min
Last week's chat on Objectification got some super interesting responses! So I decided to go even deeper into this topic today and add some of YOUR comments to this conversation. Objectification is such an interesting topic, because despite its negative connotations, it is a suuuuper common desire and can be extremely validating for people of all genders and roles! Later in the episode I discuss how “sexy” can be found in all sorts of things - from kneading pastry to scary monsters. I share a pe...
Jul 12, 2023•19 min
Mentioned in this episode Harley Rabbit Audio Fantasies. Use the code INTOIT23 for 25% discount Coming Together - by Danielle Harel PHD and Celeste Hirschman MA (book) Get in touch! Website: harleyrabbit.com/podcast Fetlife: HarleyRabbit We are taught that sex is all about having an orgasm, but there is sooooo much more to it! Great sex is about all the wonderful and complex feelings we get to experience during that play. Whether you like to feel adored, desirable, worshiped, dominant, or you li...
Jul 05, 2023•33 min
Mentioned in this episode Harley Rabbit Audio Fantasies. Use the code INTOIT23 Coming Together - by Danielle Harel PHD and Celeste Hirshman MA (book) Why I want you to see me naked (Fetlife blog post) See my face photo and show your support! Get in touch! Website: harleyrabbit.com/podcast Fetlife: HarleyRabbit Privacy is a big deal in the kink world, and it’s important to be sure you are comfortable with whatever you choose to share about yourself. Once it’s out there, it's very difficult to tak...
Jun 28, 2023•30 min
Being in charge might look easy, but the role of a Dom is anything but. In this episode I interview my Dom / partner Slade about his journey as a Dom in kink, uncovering some of the challenges and lessons learned in our 2 years together. We cover lots of topics including how Slade has overcome feelings of shame around his dominant desires (something a lot of men struggle with). We also discuss the importance of communication and aftercare for both partners, as well as managing decision fatigue d...
Jun 21, 2023•39 min
Some kinks are playful and fun, like being spoilt with attention, or bathed in chocolate sauce. But what about the less empowering ones… what if you’re turned on by r*pe fantasies and degradation…? In this episode I am finally able to answer the question “Are my kinks healthy?” And the answer is most likely yes. Though the reasons behind that answer are suuuuuper interesting! If you are struggling to accept your kinky side, or you’re maybe a little afraid of it, or maybe you’re simply fascinated...
Jun 14, 2023•23 min
Sex is a fundamental human need, yet in modern society, it is a topic deemed “inappropriate” in most settings, especially if the sex you desire is anything outside the vanilla. This lack of conversation around sex, leads to poor information, poor communication with sexual partners, and ultimately… an unfulfilling sex life. In this episode I explore how sex and kink is consistently shamed in our society. I give examples of how even indirect messaging has led to unconscious judgments in my own min...
Jun 07, 2023•19 min
I’ve got an exciting episode today! Last week I told you I was planning an upcoming impact play scene at a private party… well this week you get to hear all about how that went! I share all the details about what naughty shenanigans took place, so you can get an honest insight into what an experience like this is actually like. For anyone wanting to play at home, I give you my top takeaways to having a positive BDSM experience. From managing nerves, to what to look for in a Dominant partner, to ...
May 31, 2023•31 min
In today’s episode I share with you why this podcast was immediately banned from Instagram and Facebook (spoiler alert… it’s kind of infuriating). I also share about how I’ve been doing a deep dive into my kinks and discovering new things about myself through making a kink vision board! Sounds super weird I know, but hear me out! You might like to try it too… Lastly, I talk openly about how I have been negotiating an Impact Play scene with a new play partner. It’s a little more formal than I’m u...
May 23, 2023•20 min
In this episode of "Turns Out I'm Into It," host Harley Rabbit delves into self-acceptance in kink. Through sharing her personal experiences, Harley explores the ways in which shame and self-doubt can hold us back, and how learning to accept our kinky selves (no matter how weird and wonderful) can lead to more fulfilling relationships and experiences. Harley shares openly about how this journey allowed her to finally stop hiding, and find a community who understood this kinky side of her persona...
May 16, 2023•20 min
Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of consensual non-consent play. In this episode of "Turns Out I'm Into It," your host Harley shares her personal experiences as an erotic audio artist and how her work is enabling people to explore their kinky fantasies through the privacy of their own headphones. Harley also opens up about her journey with consensual non-consent (CNC) play, a kink that she once felt ashamed of and has since come to embrace. Through discussing different forms of...
May 10, 2023•20 min
Show notes Welcome back to Turns Out I’m Into it! In today's episode, we're going to dive a little deeper into the fascinating world of kink and BDSM, discovering why these activities can help manage stress, anxiety and bring us closer together with our partners. Contrary to how it might look on the outside, kink is so much more than just whips and chains. It's an experience that can affect us at the deepest levels of our minds and bodies. In fact, certain kink and BDSM activities like rope play...
May 02, 2023•21 min
Show notes Welcome back to "Turns out I'm into it!" In this episode, we're diving into the world of privacy and anonymity in kink. We'll explore why privacy is so important, and how you can protect yourself while still putting yourself out there. Protecting your privacy doesn't have to feel super serious. From choosing secret code names, to being part of a secret underground subculture - there are plenty of great reasons that keeping things anonymous can be super fun! So come join us for another...
May 02, 2023•18 min
Show notes Welcome to the first episode of "Turns out I'm into it!” This podcast is about having open and honest conversations about sex, BDSM, and kink. Your host, Harley Rabbit, shares her own personal story of discovering her kinks at a young age, and how exploring them has become an integral part of who she is today. Through her own experience, Harley explains how exploring kink became the foundation of trust and openness in her current long-term relationship. She discusses how BDSM helped t...
May 02, 2023•18 min
