Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of several....
Apr 01, 2026•28 min
Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroti...
Mar 25, 2026•21 min
Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rules....
Mar 11, 2026•19 min
Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down mig...
Feb 25, 2026•58 min
Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… Except it’s actually everywhere. In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast , from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been woven ...
Feb 18, 2026•20 min
This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening. Sponsor Message This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur , makers ...
Feb 04, 2026•23 min
In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I could have talked to her for hours. We explore why sensation play is so much more than just pain, how d...
Jan 28, 2026•59 min
I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble. This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. When social censorship starts shaping how you see yourself, not just what you post. Mentioned in this episo...
Jan 21, 2026•20 min
For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there. In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big scenes can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough, and how comparison can quietly drain the jo...
Jan 14, 2026•19 min
Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special! This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy. So think of this as your tiny refuge from the chaos. Something warm, playful, and just for you. Curl up, get comfy...
Dec 24, 2025•29 min
If you’ve ever wondered why so many smart, capable, high-performing women melt into a puddle the moment someone takes control… this episode is going to hit home. Today I’m joined by the incredible Julieta Chiara for a conversation that goes straight to the heart of why ambitious, high-functioning women crave the chance to finally let go . We unpack the deep psychological reasons so many of us who “run the show” in our everyday lives are drawn to dominance and submission. That moment where your b...
Dec 17, 2025•59 min
It’s officially December, which means two things: Christmas chaos is upon us, and I am absolutely going to find ways to make it kinky. In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 12 fun, creative, and very naughty ways to sprinkle a little extra spice into your holiday season. Some are playful, some are sensual, some are downright filthy — and most of them work just as well if you’re partnered or solo, and some even work for long-distance. I didn’t expect Christmas and kink to be such a perfect combinat...
Dec 03, 2025•30 min
Hey friends, Harley here! This week we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and surprisingly historic corners of fetish culture: tentacle erotica . From centuries-old Japanese artwork to modern fantasy toys, this genre has far more depth and erotic imagination than most people realise. In this episode, I explore: The surprising origins of tentacle erotica in Japanese shunga art How censorship laws helped shape the genre Why tentacle fantasies feel so erotic for so many people The many fo...
Nov 26, 2025•32 min
Hey friends, it's Harley here. In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur , the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality. Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong studio and grew into a 50-person creative team known for their wild designs and inclusive values. We talk ...
Nov 19, 2025•42 min
In this episode, I speak with Kazami Sensei , one of Japan’s most respected figures in shibari and the founder of Kazami-ryu . Over a career spanning more than thirty years, he has performed and taught extensively throughout Japan and internationally, with certified schools now operating in Australia, Canada, and Hong Kong. In our conversation, Kazami Sensei reflects on his early years of self-teaching, drawing inspiration from the late master Randa Mai , and how his own style gradually develope...
Nov 12, 2025•1 hr 6 min
Why does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just… well, hurt? In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender. I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of his mean side 😈). I also went to Miss Gen’s 10-year shibari anniversary cabaret, which was honestly...
Nov 05, 2025•37 min
This week I’m joined once again by my partner, rigger, and Dom — Slade — as we unpack our recent experience completing Kazami-Ryu Level 1 , a three-day Shibari intensive right here in Townsville. Together we share what it was really like to dive into formal rope training — the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the lessons learned from both sides of the rope. We explore: Slade's lessons in persistence as an aspiring rigger Harley's insights on how mindset can have a major effect on pain toleranc...
Oct 15, 2025•54 min
We did it! Turns Out I’m Into It has officially hit 100 episodes . This week isn’t just about celebrating the podcast milestone, it’s about celebrating you and everything you’ve achieved in your kinky journey so far. From building the courage to reach out to new partners, to finding your voice around desires and boundaries, to embracing your kinks without shame—these are massive wins, and today we’re raising a glass (or a cup of tea, in my case) to every step you’ve taken. In this episode, I sha...
Oct 01, 2025•40 min
When most people hear roleplay , they instantly cringe. They think of awkward classroom exercises, bad accents, or being forced to improvise lines in front of other people. No wonder it feels intimidating in the bedroom! But roleplay doesn’t have to be awkward or over the top. In this episode, I share how to make roleplay simple, sexy, and fun—without needing costumes, scripts, or a Broadway-level performance. I’ll walk you through: Why roleplay isn’t about “faking it”—it’s about giving your hid...
Sep 17, 2025•35 min
In last week’s episode, I talked about the “kink police” — the people who project their authority onto others and try to dictate how kink “should” be done. This week, I want to explore a different kind of projection: when people put their fears onto your choices. Agency in kink is usually talked about in terms of safety — boundaries, consent, protecting ourselves. And that’s vital. But agency is more than just the right to say no. It’s also the right to say yes to risks that matter to you. Here’...
Sep 03, 2025•32 min
Ever met someone in the kink scene who acts like they invented BDSM? Yeah… those are the kink police. 🙄 In this episode, I’m breaking down elitism, rope snobbery, and why anyone telling you there’s a “right” way to do kink is full of it. We’ll talk about: Why your kinky journey is 100% your own The difference between confidence and ego How to spot predators who isolate newbies (major red flag alert!) And why rolling your eyes at gatekeepers is totally valid Whether you’re brand new or a seasone...
Aug 27, 2025•30 min
This week, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my journey — from being a guitar-obsessed, heavy metal teenager to chasing a music career, and eventually finding my way into sexology. On paper, those two worlds couldn’t be more different… but in this episode, I share why they’re deeply connected for me. I talk about the moments that made music feel like my safe place, the way eroticism reaches the same deep, hidden parts of us, and how both music and sex have taught me about connection, vulnerabi...
Aug 20, 2025•30 min
Ever wondered what makes a great flogger—and how to actually use one? In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by local kink maker Chainwire , the man behind Hurty World’s handcrafted floggers, to explore the artistry, technique, and sensation behind one of kink’s most versatile toys. We dive into: The craftsmanship of floggers —from leather selection to balance and weight What to look for when buying a flogger Techniques for play : thuddy vs stingy, warm-up vs intensity, and creati...
Aug 06, 2025•56 min
Welcome to Turns Out I’m Into It . In this unforgettable episode, I’m joined by special guest Cruciator to explore one of the kink world’s most taboo topics: fear play. Cruciator has been active in the BDSM community since 1992 and is the owner of Fetlife’s Fear Play group. With decades of experience conducting high-intensity scenes—including multi-day abductions—he brings a grounded, thoughtful approach to a kink that is often misunderstood. He’s also a seasoned educator, offering in-depth onli...
Jul 23, 2025•1 hr 7 min
In this extra juicy episode, I am joined by sex and intimacy coach Sam Charles for a very hands-on dirty talk masterclass. What starts as a playful lesson turns into a real-life demonstration of navigating boundaries, expressing desire, and negotiating a spicy scene in real time. I open up about my own edges when it comes to using words during sex, and Sam creates a beautifully safe space to explore those vulnerabilities. Together, we co-create a scene that goes from light flirting to full-blown...
Jul 09, 2025•1 hr 14 min
In this episode, I’m sharing some honest reflections from my recent trip to Brisbane—where I pushed through some big travel anxiety to have one of my favourite rope scenes yet. I open up about what it’s like to manage anxiety while trying to do the things you really want to do, and how I’m learning to meet that part of myself with more compassion. I also talk about the rope scene I did with Deadmaxis (who we had on the show on episode #87), and what made it feel so safe and connected—even with p...
Jul 02, 2025•1 hr 7 min
What if I told you there was one skill that could make you more attractive as a play partner, safer to play with, and help you create hotter, more connected scenes? In this solo episode, I dive into what I believe is the most important skill in kink : attunement . We explore: 🔹 What attunement is 🔹 How to attune to yourself and how to attune to others 🔹 Why attunement is crucial for both Doms and subs 🔹 What gets in the way of staying present during play 🔹 How attunement makes scenes hotter...
Jun 18, 2025•48 min
I’ll be honest, I used to think pony play sounded… a little silly. But after discovering Rapidash’s stunning photos and hearing the depth of feeling behind his scenes, I realised there was a whole lot more to this kink I didn’t understand. It's actually incredible! In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined by a very special guest: Desmond—also known in the kink world as Rapidash. Desmond is a passionate pony player who generously opens up about his journey, the beauty of pony play, a...
Jun 11, 2025•57 min
In this solo episode, I share a very personal update from my kinky life. I’m four years into a deeply loving dynamic with my Dom, and while I feel supported and safe, I’ve also been feeling stuck. Living in a regional town means fewer opportunities to explore kink in the ways I crave—and that’s pushed me to make some scary (but exciting) decisions about what comes next. You’ll hear about: The beautiful and frustrating reality of being a regional kinkster How my dynamic with Slade is evolving aft...
May 28, 2025•32 min
In this episode of Turns Out I’m Into It , I’m joined once again by the incredible DaddaG—event organiser behind KangaCon and long-time member of the ABDL community. With over 20 years of experience as both a diaper lover and caregiver, DaddaG brings a deep, compassionate perspective to the world of age play. We explore: 🔹 Different age play roles – AB, DL, Daddy, and switching 🔹 Consent, boundaries, and what to ask before your first scene 🔹 How to approach a partner about your age play desir...
May 21, 2025•54 min
