Hard conversations are hard. It's all to easy to think that by avoiding them we are keeping the peace... but we're not. We're just keeping the resentment, frustration & tension. In today's episode, we talk hard conversations, why we avoid them, resentment, fear & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating o...
Mar 03, 2025•52 min•Ep. 109
Would you consider yourself a calm and centered presence in your kids life? In today's episode, we talk about why it's so hard and so important for your kids, what it means and looks like, and how to actually become more calm and centered. Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doi...
Jan 22, 2025•41 min•Ep. 108
If you're anything like us, you're really good at saying the wrong thing in a heated moment... In today's episode, we hit on how to not do exactly that when your kids are upset. Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doing this helps more people find the podcast which means even mo...
Dec 23, 2024•19 min•Ep. 107
Sometimes it's not about adding things, but taking things away. In today's episode we talk 5 things we had to let go of in our relationship in order to survive. Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doing this helps more people find the podcast which means even more people can ben...
Nov 11, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 106
Parents are supposed to build us up, but sometimes they can can tear us down. In today's episode we talk about forgiving your parents, why not forgiving is hurting yourself, what forgiveness is & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doing this helps more people find the...
Sep 20, 2024•52 min•Ep. 105
Letting your children fail is hard. Watching them experience disappointment, frustration & discomfort is painful. But sometimes, it's what they need. In today's episode, we talk making life easier on our kids, letting them fail, consequences, shame & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on A...
Sep 02, 2024•42 min•Ep. 104
We all have our moments where we're tough to love... In today's episode, we tackle the question of how to love each other in our less than lovable moments. We share stories, techniques, what worked for us (and didn't), and even talk about training your husband like a dog! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or rev...
Aug 03, 2024•51 min•Ep. 103
Conflict in a marriage doesn't mean it's doomed to failure. In today's episode, we talk why conflict is necessary, how to fight fair, and practical steps to learning how to manage conflict in your marriage. Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doing this helps more people find th...
Jul 01, 2024•45 min•Ep. 102
What's best for the relationship is not always what's most convenient for you (or your partner). In today's episode, we talk forgiveness & resentment, having difficult conversations, modeling a relationship you'd want your kids to have and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts f...
Apr 01, 2024•55 min
Sometimes the line between perception and reality is blurred. In relationships, what you intended to communicate is different that what was received. In today's episode, we discuss how to walk the line between perception & reality, why perception is more important than reality, how to handle this better and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode...
Mar 16, 2024•44 min•Ep. 100
How do you react when you feel disrespected? For most people, the answer is some for of “like a child...” This lead us to the realization that most people did not feel valued and respected as children. Today, we're talking about ways to ensure that we break this chain and make our children feel valued and respected. Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode,...
Feb 24, 2024•41 min•Ep. 99
Words have power We all know this, but how do we actually guard the impact of our words on ourselves and those around us? In today's episode, we cover keeping our mouths shut, intentional listening, having an "eject button," body language & tone, and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple...
Jan 14, 2024•44 min
In today's episode, we share the most impactful changes we made in our marriage to go from near failure to happier than ever. We talk why you should run your relationship like a business, the weight of being the model for our kids, learning to speak emotion instead of logic, dropping expectations & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would y...
Dec 30, 2023•1 hr 13 min
Childhood experiences, whether traumatic events or subtle conditioning, can surface at any time. When they come out in our romantic relationships, it can be especially difficult (& dangerous for our partner) to navigate... Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doing this helps...
Dec 16, 2023•50 min
Many of us dream of passing down generational wealth, but what about generational knowledge? What kind of knowledge can we pass down that will change the trajectory of our family tree? In today's episode, we talk generational wealth vs. generational knowledge, protecting vs. providing, boundaries, the sex talk and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the epis...
Dec 03, 2023•1 hr 2 min
"Believe in yourself" is easy to say, but harder to do. This week, we talk about how to develop this faith in ourselves, growth mindset for adults, parenting doubts, "fake it 'til you make it," and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doing this helps more people find the p...
Nov 18, 2023•37 min•Ep. 94
Anger has a bad reputation, and understandably so! But can it ever be useful? In today's episode, we talk anger, victimhood, the people who benefit from making you angry, how to use anger constructively & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Podcasts for us? Doing this helps more people...
Nov 04, 2023•39 min
We all KNOW we should choose growth over safety, but it's a lot easier said than done! In today's episode, we talk how to actually choose growth over safety, how the safety isn't actually that safe, how to use the pain of the past constructively & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on Apple Po...
Oct 21, 2023•50 min•Ep. 92
As we reflect back on our recent 10 year anniversary, we answer the "magic time machine" question and share the advice we'd offer ourselves at the start of our marriage. We talk healing together, learning emotions, the problem with expectations, training your husband like a dog, keeping score & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you p...
Oct 14, 2023•54 min•Ep. 91
No marriage is perfect. Anyone claiming otherwise is full of crap! In today's episode we talk about how to weather the struggles of a relationship between two imperfect humans, growing together with your partner (or not), working through your own issues & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick rating or review on ...
Oct 07, 2023•59 min•Ep. 90
Frederick Douglass said "It's easier to build strong children than repair broken men." This is deeply true, but the reality for most of us is that we must reparent ourselves into strong men & women in order to be the parents the can raise strong children. In today's episode, we talk: raising strong kids, reparenting yourself, letting your kids question you, what it's like to get called out by your kids & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse lik...
Sep 30, 2023•50 min•Ep. 89
In today's episode, we're joined by Melissa Smith from the Family Brand. Melissa shows parents how to transform their family cultures, create relationships that last, intentionally grow together, and find the courage to live the life they want for their family. Along with her husband Chris, she co-hosts the Family Brand podcast. We'll cover what a family brand is and how to build one, we'll hear her story of how her husband and her repaired their relationship from separation and near divorce, we...
Sep 23, 2023•44 min•Ep. 88
It may not be what you want to hear, but what upsets you in other people reveals more about you than them. This is especially true in your close relationships. In today's episode, we talk "always" & "never," repeating patterns, what your kids are here to teach you & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick ratin...
Sep 09, 2023•46 min•Ep. 87
Blame is a dangerous game. It's easy to externalize all of our problems because it feels safer to blame others, but blaming ourselves isn't the answer either. In today's episode we talk blame, how taking responsibility is different than blaming yourself, parenting mistakes and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a quick ra...
Aug 26, 2023•55 min•Ep. 86
Here's the bottom line: we see others as a mirror of ourselves. This means that the things that anger us in other people can be incredibly informative of where we need to grow. What does that even mean? In today's episode, we go deep on this, the things we admire in others, role models vs anti-models & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, wou...
Aug 12, 2023•46 min
It seems like common sense that to get to where we want to go, we need to walk away from where we've been... but there are a number of hidden ways that we can be clinging to the past. In today's episode, we talk the stories that we tell ourselves, love vs. fear, creating the exact situations we don't want, and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode,...
Jul 29, 2023•35 min•Ep. 84
"Should" can become a dominating force in our life if we're not paying attention. They signal stories and expectations that we are creating, and today's expectations become tomorrow's resentments. In today's episode we talk about always and never, why maybe your kids should NOT be listening to you, the damage that expectations can do in relationships, and more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids arou...
Jul 23, 2023•46 min
"If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm." We've all heard this quote before, but how do we apply it to our lives, our relationships, our own growth? In this episode we dive deep on what an enemy is, the enemy within our relationships, fears, insecurities & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening with younger kids around, we warned you! If you enjoyed the episode, would you please leave a...
Jul 10, 2023•45 min
There are so many people debating & theorizing about what makes a good man (or a good woman) these days... and while these conversations are worthwhile, too many people putting in their "2 cents," aren't actually doing what they say others should do. The debate has distracted from the actual doing. Marcus Aurelius said, "Waste no time arguing what a good man should be. Be one." Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors, but if you are listening w...
Jun 24, 2023•46 min
C.S. Lewis says "When the whole world is running towards a cliff, he who is running in the opposite direction appears to have lost his mind." When you're going against the grain, it can sometimes feel like you're crazy, and others will probably treat you like you are! In today's episode, we cover why other people are threatened by your growth, what "crabs in a bucket" are, going against the grain & more! Just a warning: we do occasionally swear in these episodes. We don't curse like sailors,...
Jun 11, 2023•54 min•Ep. 80
