Nobody opens their relationship thinking, "You know what would be great? More calendars, more processing, and less sleep." And yet… here we are. In this episode, we get honest about the moment when non-monogamy stops being sexy and starts feeling like work. From emotional exhaustion to double bookings to the pressure to be the "cool" partner who's always down, we talk about the side of the lifestyle that rarely makes it to the highlight reel. We unpack burnout vs. disconnection, the guilt that c...
Jan 14, 2026•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 25
In this unexpectedly playful episode of Pinky & Ava Pajama Party , Pinky opens up about a major first: stepping into the role of Top during a recent scene—and what that experience unlocked inside her. From the emotional high of her book release party to a tearful, vulnerable reaction that caught her off guard, Pinky reflects on how saying yes instead of no shifted her energy, confidence, and sense of self. She talks about letting her inner Domme out, feeling unexpectedly energized in scene, ...
Dec 29, 2025•56 min•Season 2Ep. 23
In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we're joined by Paul Weinfield —musician, meditation teacher, life coach , and retired professor of religion from Columbia University and Hunter College Paul shares his personal polyamory journey and explores ethical non-monogamy through the lens of spirituality, religion, and mindfulness. Together, we discuss how presence, compassion, and non-attachment show up in poly relationships, how religious frameworks influence our views of love and commitment, and...
Dec 21, 2025•54 min•Season 2Ep. 11
Rules. Everyone has them. But where do they come from—and do they actually work? In this episode of Three Shades of Grey, we dive into the rules couples create when entering non-monogamy, with a special focus on swinging. From no kissing and no single men to same room only and no repeat partners, we unpack the most common rules, why people make them, and what they're really trying to protect. We talk about the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements, how some rules help couples feel...
Dec 14, 2025•57 min•Season 2Ep. 24
Pinky and Ava turn up the heat as they dive into one of Ava's favorite pleasures—and one of Pinky's former fears: spanking. Ava teases Pinky as her "pampered princess," while Pinky gets real about how letting go of control and stepping into trust changed everything. With a safe space, a little surrender, and a lot of curiosity, Pinky discovers that pushing boundaries can feel very good. It's playful, it's daring, it's deliciously intimate—just the way pajama parties should be. LINKS: Three Shade...
Nov 28, 2025•51 min•Season 2Ep. 22
On this episode of Three Shades Dee per, we're joined by Robert Johnson , founder of Shameless Care , and his partner Anna Osmun , a Physician Assistant, to uncover what most sexually active people — lifestyle or not — don't know they don't know about STIs. They break down the biggest myths, explain how Shameless Care makes testing easier and more discreet, and explore why options like DoxyPEP are reshaping the future of sexual health. Robert and Anna also talk about hosting their own podcast , ...
Nov 21, 2025•55 min•Season 1Ep. 10
In this special episode, we celebrate the release of Pinky's debut book, Awakening: The Growth and Empowerment of a Woman in Open and Poly Relationships . Pinky opens up about what inspired her to turn years of experiences, emotions, and lessons from non-monogamy into a powerful collection of poetry. She shares how writing became a tool for healing, self-expression, and reclaiming her voice as a woman navigating love without ownership. Anthony and Ava dive into the themes behind the book—empower...
Nov 14, 2025•54 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Pinky and Ava talk about being hot—but not in the way you think! In this candid and empowering conversation, they sit down with Dr. Cherie Little , a doctorally prepared, dual-certified Family and Women's Health Nurse Practitioner and founder of Xena Health in Las Vegas. Together, they get real about women's health issues that are often ignored or misunderstood—like menopause, hormone replacement therapy, and painful sex—while sharing laughs, insight, and a healthy dose of honesty. Key Topics Di...
Oct 28, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 21
In this illuminating conversation, Anthony and Pinky go "Deeper" with Tantra experts Mikhayla Harrell and K aitlin Nolan to untangle centuries of myths and misconceptions surrounding Tantra and the Kama Sutra — and explore how these ancient practices can deepen connection and pleasure in modern non-monogamous relationships. Far from being just about sex positions or sacred rituals, Tantra and the Kama Sutra invite us into a practice of presence, play, and embodied awareness. Together, the guests...
Oct 21, 2025•59 min•Season 1Ep. 9
What happens when curiosity meets consciousness? In this episode, Ava and Ramone share their five-day journey at the New England Conscious Arts Festival , a transformative Tantra experience that brought together about 130 open-hearted souls—most exploring non-monogamy, self-discovery, and deep connection. From eye-gazing ceremonies to "liquid love" sessions, emotional alchemy, and even firewalking; Ava and Ramon open up about what it's like to strip away shame, lean into vulnerability, and embra...
Oct 14, 2025•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 22
Its a real sleepover this time! Pinky and Ava are cozied up in pajamas, kicking back with laughs, secrets, and a little mischief. In this special pajama party episode, the ladies dive into a round of "Would You Rather?"—but not your average playground version. These spicy, flirty, and thought-provoking questions were generated by ChatGPT, keeping the fun unpredictable and oh-so-naughty. From playful hypotheticals to steamy scenarios, Pinky and Ava don't hold back as they reveal what turns them o...
Sep 28, 2025•54 min•Season 2Ep. 20
In this episode Anthony, Pinky, and Ava sit down with coach and educator Jon Simons of GSRM Coaching for an open, nuanced conversation about the wide world of BDSM. Together, they explore how BDSM exists on a spectrum—ranging from the soft, sensual caress of feathers to the intensity of barbed wire and beyond. Jon shares insight into the many ways people engage with kink, the importance of communication and consent, and how curiosity can unlock deeper connection and self-discovery. Whether you'r...
Sep 21, 2025•1 hr 7 min
Think being a single guy in the lifestyle is easy? Think again. Pinky and Ava put Anthony and Nirvana Lover (aka P*$*y Destroyer) in the hot seat to talk about what it's really like. They cover everything from etiquette to ego checks, building a good name, and yes… that time Hot Mama "pimped" them out. Buckle up—this is the single man's guide to staying in the game without becoming the cautionary tale. #ThreeShadesOfGrey #NonMonogamy #LifestyleCommunity #PolyLife #SwingersLife #OpenRelationships...
Sep 14, 2025•1 hr 20 min•Season 2Ep. 21
School may be out, but Pinky and Ava prove the learning never stops—especially when summer adventures are the teachers. In this episode of Pinky & Ava's Pajama Party, the ladies spill the tea on their travels, trysts, and everything in between. From steamy liaisons to unforgettable getaways, they share the lessons, laughs, and little indulgences that made their summer sizzle.
Aug 28, 2025•1 hr 14 min•Season 2Ep. 19
What happens when swinging and polyamory overlap? In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we dive into the term "Swolly"—a playful way to describe those who enjoy both. The group sits down with Coach Meshai from Expansive Connection , who opens up about her own journey in embracing a swolly identity. Together, they unpack the pros and cons of living at the intersection of swinging and polyamory, the misconceptions people often have, and what it really looks like to claim space in both communitie...
Aug 21, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Buckle up, because this Naughty N'awlin's 2025 recap is anything but tame. With Ava stuck at home living that #MomLife, she grills Pinky and Anthony about their wild, laughter-filled, and occasionally chaotic journey to the Big Easy. From travel headaches that almost kept them from the party, to Pinky pushing herself out of her comfort zone (and loving every second), to a whirlwind of classes that ranged from eye-opening to downright delicious—this episode serves up the play-by-play you didn't k...
Aug 14, 2025•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Ever wonder what really gets Pinky and Ava going? In this intimate and unfiltered episode of Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party , the duo dives deep into their turn-ons—and they're not just talking bodies. From the thrill of emotional freedom to the buzz of a partner's confidence, from shared laughter to shared lovers, they explore the layers of satisfaction that light them up. It's real, it's raw, and it's ridiculously relatable.
Jul 28, 2025•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 18
In this deliciously nerdy and insightful episode, we're joined by Sir Sublime —a self-proclaimed "lazy top," kink toymaker, and connoisseur of all things rope, impact, and mindplay. Together, we unwrap the art and intention behind BDSM, diving into the nuances of dominance, the seduction of sensory play, and why best practices matter in the kink world. Whether you're a seasoned sadist or just kink-curious, Sir Sublime reminds us that "everyone kinks their own way"—and there's no one-size-fits-al...
Jul 21, 2025•58 min•Season 1Ep. 6
In this episode of we take a moment to own our sh*t. In the past, we might've made it sound like there's only one right way to start a non-monogamous relationship. But thanks to some wise friends of the show—and a little bit of grown-folks (Foxy) "magic"—we realized we goofed. Non-monogamy isn't a one-size-fits-all situation, and there are many ways to build strong, thriving, sexy connections right from the start. So, we gathered around the mic with our extended poly pod squad for a heartfelt (a...
Jul 14, 2025•51 min•Season 2Ep. 19
It's time to clear the air, and maybe burst a few egos along the way! In this episode Pinky & Ava get real about one of the most frustrating misconceptions in the non-monogamous world — that being open means being easy......Spoiler alert: We Don't "F@(k" Everybody!!! The ladies share some cringe-worthy, hilarious, and downright annoying stories of people who thought "non-monogamous" was code for "no standards." From awkward assumptions to bold propositions, they set the record straight on wh...
Jun 28, 2025•55 min•Season 2Ep. 17
What happens when your non-monogamy is no longer a secret? In this episode, we go deeper with Mr. and Mrs. Jones of the We Gotta Thing Podcast to unpack the emotional journey of being outed to their church (and family)—and how they handled it with grace, honesty, and strength. We share our own fears around exposure and talk about how to prepare for conversations you might never want to have. Whether you're out loud or staying low-key, this episode is filled with tools, perspective, and solidarit...
Jun 21, 2025•1 hr 14 min•Season 2Ep. 5
In this double bonus episode of Three Shades of Grey, Anthony shares the summer plans for the crew and takes you inside his first-ever Splash Mocha, an interracial and hot wife hotel takeover in Atlanta, Georgia. While he couldn't make it with his wife Pinky or girlfriend Ava (thanks to #MomLife and a preference for smaller scenes), he experienced it all with his babygirl, Bree. Anthony sits down with Socrates of The Bull Brotherhood and Michael C. of Keys and Anklets to unpack their Splash Moch...
Jun 14, 2025•49 min•Season 2Ep. 18
The girls are back in their jammies and this time they've brought a special guest— Dragonfly returns for another round of real, raw, and playful conversation. In this episode, Pinky, Ava, and Dragonfly dive deep into the delicious topic of pleasure: from the power of self-connection to the fun of toys, and why prioritizing intimate time with yourself is more than just self-care—it's self-celebration. So grab your favorite toy (or take notes for later), because after this episode, you won't have ...
May 28, 2025•59 min•Season 2Ep. 16
In this powerful episode of Three Shades Deeper, we sit down with the incomparable Cindy Gallop —advertising icon, entrepreneur, and founder of the groundbreaking platform MakeLoveNotPorn ( https://makelovenotporn.tv ). Known for speaking boldly about sex, Cindy shares how she "accidentally" got into porn—not the industry, but the mission to revolutionize how we think about it. Dating younger men led Cindy to discover a troubling gap between porn fantasy and real-world sex. Frustrated by the lac...
May 21, 2025•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode, we dive deep with Bobby , one of the driving forces behind Splash Takeovers , the multi-city lifestyle hotel takeover experience. Bobby shares his personal origin story and how he found his way into the lifestyle, giving us a behind-the-scenes look at his journey from attendee to organizer. We also explore the wide range of Splash events held throughout the year in cities across the country—and get an exciting preview of new events on the horizon. Bobby talks candidly about what...
May 14, 2025•55 min•Season 2Ep. 17
In this episode of Pinky and Ava's Pajama Party , we welcome back relationship coach Elizabeth Cunningham for a deep and juicy conversation about eroticism and pleasure . Elizabeth reminds us that eroticism isn't just about sex — it's about the full range of aliveness, desire, and connection in our lives. Together, they explore how to tap into your wants and needs, whether in polyamory, sexually, or in other parts of your relationships. Plus, Elizabeth, Pinky, and Ava offer practical ideas for a...
Apr 28, 2025•1 hr 19 min•Season 2Ep. 15
What happens when a triad and a quad walk into a podcast? You get one unforgettable conversation full of laughs, insight, and lifestyle realness. In this episode of Three Shades Deeper , we sit down with two incredible couples in the non-monogamy space—Swinky Life and The Accidental Swingers—to explore what it really means to be polyamorous. From love and labels to communication, compatibility, and the beautiful messiness of human connection, this is the kind of episode that goes way beyond the ...
Apr 21, 2025•1 hr 15 min•Season 1Ep. 3
In this episode, we sit down with the incredible Dragonfly Lee and her partner E from Pure Orgasmic Love, two passionate guides in the realms of non-monogamy, somatic work, and holistic intimacy. Pinky first connected with Dragonfly at Naughty N'awlins, and it was clear from the start that her energy and depth of experience needed to be shared with our community. In this conversation, Dragonfly opens up deeply about her personal journey — from navigating health challenges to embracing a life of ...
Apr 14, 2025•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 16
In this special International Women's Day episode, Pinky and Ava welcome a friend of the show, the one and only Chocolate Fox! She's a slightly sadistic, top-leaning Domme/switch, a swinger, and proudly poly—so you know this conversation is going to be deliciously dynamic. Together, they dive into the world of BDSM, busting myths, sharing practical advice, and sprinkling in their own spicy stories along the way. Whether you're a seasoned kinkster or just curious, this episode has something for e...
Mar 28, 2025•52 min•Season 2Ep. 14
In this episode of Three Shades Deeper, we dive into the world of relationship coaching—especially for those navigating non-monogamy. Our guest, Elizabeth Cunningham, is a relationship coach, speaker, and polyamory educator who has helped countless people create thriving, authentic connections. We explore the real benefits of coaching, from gaining clarity in your relationships to handling challenges with confidence. Elizabeth also shares tips on how to find the right coach, what to look for, an...
Mar 21, 2025•1 hr 17 min•Season 1Ep. 2
