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Thoughts May Vary

Gabriela Ulloa & Meadowlark Monaghanredcircle.com
Thoughts May Vary is a podcast about changing our minds. With the common threads of mental health and nuance weaved throughout each conversation, TMV encourages us to share what we’re learning in real time as a way to illuminate the process. Garnering the power of community, writer and journalist, Gabriela Ulloa, and mental health consultant, Meadowlark Monaghan, invite you to help make personal development less isolating and far more genuine.  For more, follow the podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter at @thoughtsmayvarypod and Meadow & Gaby at @itsmeadowlark and @gabyulloa_ Join our Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary We post an extra Thought each month, exclusive videos, newsletters, and more tea and more fun (plus, we'll be dropping merch there first ;) Music By: Keiran Miles
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Episodes

Goodbye For Now — The End of TMV

thank you for everything see you over here G: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_ https://www.tiktok.com/@gabyulloa_ https://www.youtube.com/@gabyulloa_ M: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsmeadowlark https://www.instagram.com/itsmeadowlark https://www.youtube.com/@itsmeadowlark

Oct 14, 202428 min

123. Unpacking Endings & Beginnings

In this unpacking, we’re both feeling deeply into our intuition and our own endings and beginnings cycles (yeah, this was filmed on the eclipse). 0:00-0:52 it’s spooky season! 0:53-5:40 g is taking a pause on EMDR 5:41-8:16 reflecting on old beliefs 8:17-14:35 rewriting the fear of taking action 14:36-17:39 is it delulu or is it self worth? 17:40-18:26 quick tmv thank you 18:27-19:45 this is your sign to go through your old journal 19:46-22:51 m’s experience with subtle intuition 22:52-25:39 the...

Oct 07, 202439 min

122. Our Skincare Routines Will Never Be The Same ft. Kayleigh Christina, Co-Founder of Clearstem

We are thrilled to be joined by our new friend, Kayleigh Christina, Co-Founder of CLEARSTEM—the acne-focused skincare brand that we cannot shut up about. Kayleigh illuminates the nuance of the comedogenic (aka pore clogging ingredient) scale, gives us an extensive checklist for internal and external health tips when going through an acne breakout, talks PCOS & hormonal acne, and overall becomes our skincare fairy godmother. Enjoy! 0:00-1:38 HUGE thank you to Clearstem for sponsoring today's ...

Sep 30, 20241 hr 14 min

121. Talking About Mental Health Without Being A Jerk | Mini Q&A

Welcome back to another Q+A! Today, M+G move through everything from not sounding to "therapized", and signs from the Universe, to M's viral moment, media that's inspiring them, parent-dynamics, and their current favorite skincare. 0:00 Meadow's viral moment 2:18 What media is inspiring M+G right now 6:43 Emotionally immature parents 10:03 Unpacking signs from the universe 15:29 Current skincare favs + skips 22:54 Sounding too "therapized" vs. pop psychology terms Don’t forget to DM us on IG or ...

Sep 23, 202427 min

120. Creating Structure Around A Spark Q&A

How to balance structure with acting on creative inspiration, how to not take things so personally, a sty in the eye, and Bethany Mota. We can’t explain it either. 0:00 Gaby has been emotionally placating Meadow 7:21 How to structure a spark 12:40 How to stop taking things personally 18:15 What are some ways to get over anxiety around uncontrollably situations (specifically in relationships) 24:10 How to deal with nostalgia all the time 29:32 What are you looking forward to in the fall Don’t for...

Sep 17, 202439 minEp. 120

119. Mindfulness, Creativity, & Doing The Thing

We’re back from summer break! The first 12 minutes, M+G discuss the way in which the movie, It Ends With Us, has been promoted. Trigger warning: domestic violence is discussed. There are resources below and if that feels activating to listen to, feel free to skip to 12:23 to dive into a classic unpacking. M talks emotion regulation and creative expression while G plays fruit ninja with her intrusive thoughts. 0:00 Catching G up with It Ends With Us drama (TW: Domestic Violence) 12:23 M’s unpacki...

Sep 09, 202437 minEp. 119

118: Why Venting Makes It Worse

Welcome back to another Q+A! From getting over repetitive stories that are holding you back and healing a trauma bond, to anticipatory grief and alternate universe career paths, M+G answer your questions. Plus, G is feeling good (yay!) and M talks about her working out to manifestation pipeline. Mentioned : Ram Dass on Death & Dying https://www.ramdass.org/death-dying/ Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future ...

Aug 05, 202441 min

117: Unpacking The Fear Of Success

Welcome back! Join us this week as we dive into our favorite topics: wellness routines, personal revelations, and pop culture. Meadow drops her skincare routine and Gaby for lack of better words, is absolutely glowing after getting into her groove. We unpack the fear of success and how to find joy, fulfillment and inspiration in the day-to-day. New skincare routine dropping! Use code THOUGHTS for 15% off all CLEARSTEM products https://clearstem.com/

Jul 29, 202442 min

116: How To Choose Happiness with Karen Guggenheim

Welcome back! In this episode, we dive deep into the pursuit of happiness and wellbeing with Karen Guggenheim, author, social entrepreneur, wellbeing advocate, and founder of the World Happiness Summit—a comprehensive platform to bring awareness about the benefits behind the science of happiness and wellbeing. Today, Karen shares with us her research-backed insights on wellbeing while sharing her transformational grief journey. This conversation sheds light on the power of choices, resilience, a...

Jul 22, 202451 min

115: Why Men's Only Outlets Are Anger And Sex ft. Dené Logan, MFT

Join us for an incredible discussion this week with relationship therapist Dené Logan; MFT, author, spiritual teacher, and co-host of the podcast 'Cheaper Than Therapy'! In this episode, we dive into the collective core wounds of masculine and feminine energies, how a wounded patriarchy has hurt men's mental health, and why there is an epidemic of women having performative sex. Dené gives her words of wisdom on navigating love, motherhood and personal growth. Get your copy of the TMV book club m...

Jul 15, 20241 hr 1 min

114: Talking Relationshit with Kamie Crawford

This week we are absolutely thrilled to be speaking with Kamie Crawford!Kamie is the host of MTV's 'Catfish', ‘Are You The One’, as well as the 'Relationsh*t' podcast.In today’s episode, Kamie dives into her journey from pageant life to Sports Illustrated, advocating for body positivity and diversity along the way. We also chat about relationships, creating your dream career, healing past traumas, beauty standards, self-love, and more. Head over to our Patreon for extra “anything but mental heal...

Jul 08, 20241 hr 13 min

113: Two Millennial Women Do A Q&A

This week, Gaby went viral in a hilarious way and we needed to unpack it! Plus, we're back with another exciting Q&A session, where we dive into your questions about maintaining friendships, facing mental health challenges, and navigating the tricky dating scene. Don't forget to follow us at @thoughtsmayvarypod and submit your questions for our next Q&A.

Jul 01, 202432 min

112: Btw You’re Allowed To Disagree With Us

Everyone keeps calling for community but no one wants to learn conflict resolution; this week we try to figure out why! Join us as we explore how genuine human connections often come from moments of friction. We cover how to navigate relationships, understand different perspectives and share stories that connect us all. Bear with us as we get a little spicy this week - disagree with us, it’s okay!

Jun 24, 202427 minEp. 112

111: Father’s Day Debrief

With Father's Day just behind us, we wanted to provide a safe space for all of the mixed emotions that come with this holiday and give you a rundown of where we are mentally. “Shout out to all my gals with dead dads!” - Meadow. This is a good time to reflect on our parents as humans and what they've taught us. Join us to unpack it all!

Jun 17, 202446 minEp. 111

110: How To Reroute A Thought Spiral | Shadow Work Q&A

This week, we broke down all of your remaining questions on Shadow Work! We get into the nitty-gritty of personal growth and healing while encouraging you to break old patterns and find comfort in making new mistakes. Join us as we unpack the hard truths and practical steps for effective shadow work. HOFFMAN RECYCLING APP GABY REFERS TO: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/hoffman-daily-practice/id1578355464 PROMO CODE FROM JESSICA GILL EPISODE: Use code 'THOUGHTS' for 15% OFF your first year of To Be...

Jun 10, 202440 min

109. Nothing Beats A Regulated Nervous System

Welcome back! In this episode, we do a good old-fashioned unpacking where we get a little witchy and chat our way through being in a funk, not intellectualizing our feelings, and building self trust. We hope you enjoy! Side note: this is the last week of getting to try Alisa Vitti’s Cycle SyncingⓇ feature inside the MyFLOⓇ app. Details below! Use Promo Code TMVxMyFLO for a free month of access to the personalized Cycle SyncingⓇ feature inside the MyFLOⓇ app. Link must be redeemed at: https://flo...

Jun 03, 202434 min

108. Is Birth Control Making You Pick The Wrong Partner? Ft. Alisa Vitti (Part 2)

Welcome back! In this episode, we're thrilled to have Alisa with us once again. She's our go-to expert on functional nutrition and women's hormones. Alisa is also the founder of the FLO Living App and a bestselling author. Today, we'll dive deep into the essentials: birth control, female orgasms, managing PCOS, and so much more. We hope you enjoy our conversation with her as much as we did! Use Promo Code TMVxMyFLO for a free month of access to the personalized Cycle SyncingⓇ feature inside the ...

May 27, 202441 min

107. Your Period Shouldn’t Suck Ft. Alisa Vitti (Part 1)

We had the honor this week of sitting down with Alisa Vitti to discuss why our period simply should not suck. Alisa is a functional nutrition and women's hormone expert, the founder of the FLO Living app and a bestselling author. She’s been on our TMV bucket list since the beginning and we could not have enjoyed this conversation more. So much so we had to split it into two parts. See you next week for Part 2 with Alisa! Use Promo Code TMVxMyFLO for a free month of access to the personalized Cyc...

May 20, 202452 minEp. 107

106. Guilt, Grief and Grace (Q&A Part 2)

Today we continue our Q&A from last week, this time, talking: improving communication in relationships, dealing with breakups and grief simultaneously and staying optimistic in entry level jobs. We also tell the stories of how we met our SOs. Take what resonates, dump what doesn’t. Music By: Kieran Miles Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! SHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: https://www...

May 13, 202444 minEp. 106

105. Getting Out Of A Shame Spiral (Q&A Part 1)

Today, we're back with another unfiltered Q+A. A loaded episode inspired by our lovely listeners, giving you our thoughts on personal growth, relationships and spirituality. From building good habits and a therapist who called your ex your soulmate, to confronting a 4 year situationship, we're leaning all the way in! As always, take what resonates, dump the rest. Music By: Kieran Miles Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked...

May 06, 202440 minSeason 5Ep. 105

104. Sex, Money & Mental Health with Lucie Fink

Today we are joined by media mogul, producer, and proud mama, Lucie Fink! We chat about all things Refinery29, the financial impact of parenthood, and dealing with negativity online. For more, be sure to go listen to us on her podcast, The Real Stuff, where we get into conversations we have never had before. You can find Lucie on socials @luciebfink and hear more from her on her podcast, The Real Stuff. Our episode with her is linked here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wanted-to-drop-d...

Apr 29, 202457 minSeason 5Ep. 5

103. You Should Ask Better Questions with Danielle Robay

On today’s episode, we are joined by TV host and journalist, Danielle Robay. We chat about why you should be asking better questions and how to get there. We also dive into her egg freezing journey and discuss the value of sharing these kinds of personal stories with other women. We walked away from this conversation with so much energy & insight and know you will too! You can find Danielle on socials @daniellerobay and hear more from her as the host on Hello Sunshine’s podcast The Brightsid...

Apr 22, 20241 hr 3 minSeason 5Ep. 4

102. What is Shadow Work?

In today’s episode, we dive into all things shadow work. We share our own experiences with the shadow — the most rejected and unloved aspects of yourself — and how confronting and integrating these aspects have led to significant personal growth and self-love. And of course, we discuss the work that led us to uncovering our shadows. You’re not going to want to miss this one! To learn more about shadow work, you can download our manifestation journal, Co-Create, enroll in Unblocked Shadow with To...

Apr 15, 202447 minSeason 5Ep. 3

101. How To Be A Cool Mom with Lizzy Mathis

Today, we’re unpacking life with dynamic mompreneur, host, tastemaker, and founder of The Cool Mom Co., Lizzy Mathis. Lizzy joins us today to discuss her journey from modeling to creating community-centered platforms, while emphasizing the importance of self-love, and the role of support systems in personal and career growth. Her insights on fostering resilience, positivity, and a strong sense of self amongst her children and community members illuminate the essence of facing life's challenges w...

Apr 08, 20241 hr 11 minSeason 5Ep. 2

100. Allow Us to Reintroduce Ourselves

It's our 100th episode!! We're spending this milestone celebrating our first studio, diving into the evolution of Thoughts May Vary, and sharing more about ourselves, our careers, and how we met. We then dive into some fun questions: What is our most expensive self-care ritual? (Hint: it's witchy). How would we haunt each other in the afterlife? What was our first concert? Are we inbox 0 people? We love you all and thank you for continuing to support the show! Music By: Kieran Miles Don’t forget...

Apr 01, 20241 hr 3 minSeason 5Ep. 1

Thoughts May Vary: Season 05

Season 5 of Thoughts May Vary is officially out April 1st! Thank you all for growing with us. We are so excited to continue bringing you episodes that encourage curiosity, share unique perspectives, and ultimately, give you a space to explore. Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! SHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: https://www.thoughtsmayvary.com/the-tmv-shop Discount codes, extra unpackings...

Mar 25, 20241 min

99. How To Stop Letting The Fear Of The Unknown Get In The Way Of Putting Yourself Out There Q&A

You know the drill: you ask us your mental health questions, we tell you to do what feels best for you (and share our experiences for guidance along the way). 00:00 Mistakes, cerulean, and Love Is Blind 05:49 Q1: How to chill and get grounded when you feel like you physically cannot slow down? 09:41 Q2: How to stop letting the fear of the unknown get in the way of putting myself out there? 14:47 Q3: How to deal with weed dependency and cut down on smoking? 17:22 Q4: Advice for learning and meeti...

Mar 04, 202438 minEp. 99

98. An Abundance Of Creative Energy & Reinventing Ourselves (Again)

This week, we’re unpacking what it means to have an abundance mentality around creativity and intentionally stepping into a new version of ourselves. 00:00 Cycle syncing 04:01 G's unpacking 12:50 Showing up on the internet in a difference capacity 19:13 G's reframing 22:12 – M's unpacking 29:54 – TikTok Fridays 33:13 – A new version of self can come whenever you want 34:12 – Bone to pick with TikTok Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or ...

Feb 26, 202442 minEp. 98

97. Dr. Sam Zand Is Bringing Spirituality To Medicine

Dr. Sam Zand, Holistic Psychiatrist & Professor of Psychedelic Medicine, brings us a lot of hope for the future of mental healthcare. Last time we spoke to Dr. Zand, we focused specifically on ketamine assisted therapy. Today, we cover everything from the psychodynamic history of drugs and mental health treatment to integrating spiritual practices into medicine. Dr. Zand is a practicing psychiatrist who has trained over 100 clinicians in holistic mental health and also teaches psychedelic me...

Feb 19, 20241 hr 3 minEp. 97

96. Our Tools-Based Self Care Routines Q&A

Our tools-based morning and evening self care routines in arguably too much detail, and answering more of your questions. 00:00 G’s miami routine 04:53 Q1: What are our morning and night routines, and how to build one? 21:52 Q2: How do you know when fear is a warning or if it's self-doubt? 25:00 Q3: What are your thoughts on giving advice to friends and how to approach that? 27:28 Q4: How to not feel guilty when you’re not working out due to being sick or on your period or working from home? 31:...

Feb 12, 202443 minEp. 96
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