When is it okay to never get over something? When is it time to stop unpacking in therapy and start moving forward? Where do you start if you don’t have the tools? Today, we answer all of these and more with licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon. Vienna Pharaon is the founder of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy and one of New York City’s most sought-after relationship therapists. Vienna’s new book ‘The Origins of You’ teaches readers to change unwanted patt...
Feb 05, 2024•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 95
From setting emotional boundaries around loved ones in the beginning stages of self work to coping with the present moment… you know the drill. You ask, we answer. Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 0:00 Morning pages 01:07 Go see "Origin” 09:19 Art & activism in relation to mental health advocacy 10:15 The power of questions 13:35 Q1: Tips & thoughts for going off birth control after 10 yea...
Jan 29, 2024•47 min•Ep. 94
Today we’re unpacking all things sexual wellness alongside Sex & Relationship expert, Dr. Tara! Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. We asked you on Instagram what sex and mental health questions you wanted answers to and Dr. Tara delivered. We unpack confidence and...
Jan 22, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 93
This episode is a toolkit to understand the power of intentional language and how to be a master manifestor. Today, we unpack the power of language, emotional manifestation, choosing a path of least resistance, how to hear yourself clearly, why everything should be more simple, the importance of imagination and play), plus so much more. And, we get to do so alongside family. Please welcome Anne Louise, visionary entrepreneur, author, speaker, executive advisor, certified Master Hypnotherapist, a...
Jan 15, 2024•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 92
What is it about our ability to recognize all of our self growth in the past… and yet we seem to forget that who we are right now, will change and grow again and again in the future? Today we unpack the “end of history” illusion, our umbrage with New Years, and Meadowlark shares a life update :) 0:00 Intro 4:14 M's unpacking 11:42 M's announcement 14:23 Sharing personal information on the internet 25:08 G's unpacking 37:52 What is it about failing or meeting a new version of ourselves that feels...
Jan 08, 2024•59 min•Ep. 91
In an attempt to walk our walk... rather than showing up half-heartedly, we are full-heartedly showing up to tell you we're not showing up. In other words, we are gifting ourselves the next two weeks off to live in the present moment, give our team a well-deserved break, rest, reflect, plant seeds, and dream up our next year together. A "future planning guide" is live of Patreon (more on this in Thought 89). Take some time to dream up what you want for yourself and turn them into actionable goal...
Dec 25, 2023•7 min
In this wild ride of a Thought, the cohosts catch up on everything from the spirituality of plastic surgery, the importance of having hobbies, to recognizing when and how it’s time to become a “girl’s girl”. “It’s not that deep… it’s basically the manifestation of what happens when women have been pitted against each other historically, pervasively, and systematically” (if you don’t know us like that yet, please understand our humor is extremely facetious). 0:00 Intro 2:33 G’s Lip Filler Adventu...
Dec 18, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 90
This short and sweet Thought all started when a psychic told Meadow to update her five, three, and one year plan… you wish we were joking. For folks with colorful mental health journeys (present company included) it can be challenging to identify long-term goals or dreams—let alone, putting those into practice via habits, discipline, and strategic planning. With the end of 2023 upon us, here’s how these two knuckleheads are reflecting on their paths and visualizing their futures. 0:00 Intro 3:05...
Dec 11, 2023•32 min
How to cope with career setbacks, tips for finding a mentor, and what to do if you don’t know what to talk about in therapy. As always, you ask (the incredible, thoughtful, delicious questions) and we’re here to provide just one answer. Take what resonates with you and leave the rest. You know how to empower yourself and your healing more than anyone else. Q1: How do you balance intuitive spiritual practices and a productive working life? Seems impossible! Q2: If you don't know what to talk abou...
Dec 04, 2023•34 min•Ep. 88
Cyrus Veyssi is here and we couldn’t be more over the moon about it! Cyrus is everyone’s favorite Iranian American non-binary content creator, spreading joy across the interwebs with their humor, intellect, family fun, clack backs, and snatched looks. Today, Cyrus joined the familia to unpack: corporate America confidence, shifting definitions of “success”, using comedy to combat anxiety, advice for someone who doesn’t know how to talk to their family about their queerness or mental health, how ...
Nov 27, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 87
Welp, looks like we may have been practicing gratitude wrong (according to the research). Today, we adjust our coping strategies in light of the holiday season. We chatted about the emotional baggage the holidays hold for us, how we've been doing gratitude wrong, and the research behind how to practice gratitude. Then, you shared with us what you’re grateful for! 0:00 Intro 04:20 We’ve been practicing gratitude wrong our entire lives 01:28 Thoughts on Thanksgiving 04:23 Thoughts on Christmas 07:...
Nov 20, 2023•39 min•Ep. 86
Within every expression of gender, we each dance with a balance of masculine and feminine energies. Today, Amy Natalie joined us to walks us through how masculine lives in our mind, feminine in our bodies, and how we need each of them to create more harmony. Amy Natalie is a feminine embodiment coach, podcast host, and new author of “The Feminine Way”. She’s all about awakening our authentic selves, embodying feminine leadership, and helping us understand how masculine and feminine energies live...
Nov 13, 2023•54 min•Ep. 85
How do you let go of anger and disappointment from childhood? When do you know it’s time to pivot? How do you trust a career change? From organizing your coping strategies on your notes app to obtaining strategic internships; you asked and we answered. 0:00 Intro 4:08 Q&A 04:19 Q1: What are some healthy coping mechanisms for stress and overwhelm? 11:48 Q2: How do you let go of anger and disappointment from childhood? 19:37 Q3: How do you stop being crazy even though you're self-aware about b...
Nov 06, 2023•45 min•Ep. 84
Is trauma a necessary tool? Could something easy be productive? What’s your current mental health fixation? We’ve been waiting two years to get all four of us in a room to philosophize with our fellow mental health sisters—the Okay Sis x TMV crossover is finally here! We welcomed Scout Sobel and Mady Maio to the show with one giant unpacking, touching on everything from self-optimization, hustle culture, the benefits of trauma, and so much more. 0:00 Intro 6:44 Mady’s unpacking 14:55 How could s...
Oct 30, 2023•54 min•Ep. 83
Jade Iovine, writer and host of the Live From Bed podcast, made her way out of bed today to chat with us about many TMV heavy-hitters. We’re talking: no connection in perfection, getting out of negative self-talk, co-creating your future, how to be a supportive partner to someone struggling with their mental health, the cat/dog theory, reframing cringe, and so much more. Jade is clearly aligned to the TMV familia, ready to unpack everything from moving through depression to why croissants are th...
Oct 23, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 82
How to be vulnerable while feeling safe, how to find “your people” without putting yourself in a bubble, and the art of being interpreted… Today, we’re continuing our conversation on Expansive Friendships. If you haven’t already, go ahead and listen to Part 1 of Unpacking Expansive Friendships feat. Sam Abrahart. In Part 2, we cover: 0:00 – Intro 05:39 – Q&A begins 06:19 – Q1: What are your thoughts on friend groups? 14:20 – Q2: What to do when you're struggling with friendships that you tho...
Oct 16, 2023•49 min
What are expansive friendships? There’s no better person to chat with regarding authentic, aligned, and perspective-shifting friendships than friend-of-the-pod Sam Abrahart. Sam is one of our co-hosts dearest friends, a mental health advocate, and the founder & CEO of The Mayfair Group. Her brand is ubiquitous amongst cool girls (Bella Hadid, Hailey Bieber, Sophie Turner + more) and is known for their advocacy for mental wellness. Today, Sam joined us to answer your questions in Part 1 of Un...
Oct 09, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 80
“Ni de aquí, ni de allá…” Today’s unpacking largely revolves around the intersectionality of a mixed identity and how those living at the intersection of any two or more cultures can often feel society’s push to conform — leaving them floating in the in between. The co-hosts begin to unpack this complex and nuanced lived experience through their own lenses, fully acknowledging that this unpacking is just scratching the surface. 0:00 – Warm up 7:09 – M’s Unpacking: organization vs. intuition 17:3...
Oct 02, 2023•48 min•Ep. 79
How to explain your partner’s mental health to your family, what it feels like to be a witness to signs and synchronicities, and more of your brilliant questions, answered. Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! 0:00 – A skincare lesson 3:18 – Q1: How do you wind down after a long day? 14:32 – Q2: Tips or resources when you feel directionless 17:11 – Q3: What does it feel like in your body to be tuned i...
Sep 25, 2023•47 min•Ep. 78
The @lexie Podcast x TMV collab you’ve all been asking for! Our dear friend and podcast host, Lexie Lombard, joins us today to dive deep into grief’s never-ending story, being upset with her therapist, the nuances of art, and of course, Rick Rubin. We ask the hard-hitting questions like, “what if aliens are hot?” and get into the art and money connection. Make sure to check out her incredible, one-woman show the @lexie podcast anywhere you get your podcasts! 0:00 Intro 3:24 M & Lexie’s grief...
Sep 18, 2023•55 min•Ep. 77
In this Thought, the co-hosts update each other on their recent unpackings, including: discrepancies in how we treat folks who use substances based on their artistic talents or notoriety and the growth that comes with learning to fight productively with a partner who has a different communication style than you. They also briefly touch on a new term heard to describe suicide. If that portion may feel activating to you today, feel free to skip through 17:48-23:30. 00:00 - Coming in hot 6:57 - Blu...
Sep 11, 2023•44 min•Ep. 76
And we’re back with another expansive guest episode. Please welcome Sephora Beauty Director and Mental Health Advocate and Certified Clairvoyant Reader, Melinda Solares. In today’s thought, Melinda and the co-hosts unpack the integration and duality of corporate and creative spaces, growing in authenticity / how that leads to to conscious decision making, Melinda’s “aha” moment with spirituality, becoming clairvoyant, connecting with your ancestors, plus so much more. Thank you to Melinda for he...
Sep 04, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 75
In today’s chatty unpacking, the co-hosts unpack strategies for creative ruts, parceling out anxiety pings vs. authentic pings, and holding space for grief/death and all the complexities of spirituality as a human existing in this world. 0:00 Hurricane + boyfriend banter 8:48 G’s unpacking creative flow states 14:24 Anxiety vs Downloads 22:20 M’s unpacking complexities of life and death Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacke...
Aug 28, 2023•36 min•Ep. 74
Pull out those notebooks because today’s lesson in community care is a powerful one! Today, we are welcoming Minaa B. LMSW, to the podcast to learn all about her new book,"Owning Our Struggles" as well as healing in community care. From how to be a better peer to culturally competent mental health care, we spoke about how self care is the bridge to community care; and community care is the bridge to community healing. Throughout this conversation we covered: Minaa’s new book “Owning Our Struggle...
Aug 21, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 73
Please welcome back one of our most favorite people, Johanna Kandel! Johanna is the founder of The Alliance for Eating Disorders — the nation’s leading nonprofit providing referrals, education, and support to individuals experiencing eating disorders and their loved ones. After recovering from a long battle with various EDs, she founded The Alliance, bringing her personal insight into the incredible work that she does. Last time Johanna graced TMV (“Thought 55. Johanna Kandel On Supporting Yours...
Aug 14, 2023•54 min•Ep. 72
This week, the cohosts unpack a summer of self growth and healing. They reflect on progress’ presence after years of quotidian moments and choices, as well as enjoying relationships for what they are. They talk gaslighting depression, honoring boundaries, and allowing others to work toward their authentic selves on their own terms. Then, they answer your questions! Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode!...
Aug 07, 2023•49 min•Ep. 71
Well well well, if it isn't the hypothetical smoke circle of the century back at it again for another pod ep. Maryah Greene is a New York based Plant Doctor & Stylist and founder of the plant design firm, Greene Piece. She is a former elementary educator and graduate from the Bank Street College of Education. Seemingly unrelated, Maryah’s time spent in the classroom coupled with her journey as NYC’s go-to plant specialist, sprouted her debut picture book, Good Things (published by Penguin Ra...
Jul 31, 2023•51 min
This week, the co-hosts unpack the vital role that failure plays in personal development and share their top coping strategies for navigating creative blocks. In a world full of “cringe” and “pick me’s”, not being afraid to be seen trying is a superpower for growth and self discovery. As friend of the podcast Tefi loves to remind us, fail faster to learn quicker. Every "no" you get told, is getting you closer to that "yes"! SHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: https://www.thoughtsmayvar...
Jul 24, 2023•34 min•Ep. 69
Our dear friend and your TikTok tia is back! Please welcome back Tefi Pessoa, our first TMV regular. This go around, Tefi and the cohosts covered it all: Balancing gratitude and movement in career growth Gaby’s surprise present was Tefi’s presence Tips for when it’s time to pivot in life Abundance mindset in a capitalist society Parasocial relationships + media boundaries How to navigate success bringing folks around that don’t always have your best interests Lying to your therapist Tefi’s mothe...
Jul 17, 2023•1 hr 19 min
Welcome back to TMV! This week, Meadow + Gaby unpack something you’ve heard a whole lot about on the podcast before: inner child work. The cohosts define inner child work and give a brief psychology lesson, differentiate inner child vs shadow, share about their first time interacting with their own inner child, describe all the myriad of ways to connect with your inner child, and more. Post a picture of your inner child on IG and tag us! @thoughtsmayvarypod 5:22 Inner Child 101 12:34 M&G’s f...
Jul 10, 2023•55 min•Ep. 67
