Caller Crystal's Question: "Can we talk about Intimacy Anorexia? What is it? How does it show up with sexual addiction? Does it change the impact on the betrayed partner? Does the path of healing for a betrayed partner look different if they are impacted by intimacy anorexia? And does the path of healing for the relationship look different? I believe I've been in a relationship with someone with intimacy anorexia and there are many things that I can't relate to in my recovery group because my st...
Jul 20, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 46
Caller Adam's Question: "Hey! I'm a recovering SLA and by day I'm a physiotherapist. I was really intrigued when listening to an episode and B got really worked up when he talked about his first mentor in couples therapy. It made me realize that well, of course, there are schools and 'ideologies' in treatment of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma just as there are a lot of ideologies in physical therapy (I'll gladly rant about those) And so I thought, well what are those ideologies and how can...
Jul 18, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 45
Brannon and Tyler have a discussion about some boundaries between where a therapist should be and should not be. These lines often get crossed. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recove...
Jul 13, 2022•40 min•Season 5Ep. 44
Brannon and Tyler discuss the dialectic of Being vs Becoming and how to find the proper balance between the 2. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This clas...
Jul 11, 2022•41 min•Season 5Ep. 43
Caller Cody's Question: "Unique situation; my wife had a couple of affairs that she disclosed, about 2 years later, she discovered my porn and sex addiction. It's been 10 months of sobriety and we have decided to divorce. More minutia to the story. When she is sharing her feelings, I feel stuck with no good choices for trying to empathize. If I stay silent, it's the avoider coming through. If I respond “I know what that feels like” It comes across as me trying to turn the narrative on her. I do ...
Jul 06, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 42
The Patrick brothers talk about ideas to answer the question: What Is A Bid For Connection And How Do I Meet It In My Relationship? Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class sta...
Jul 04, 2022•35 min•Season 5Ep. 41
The Patrick brothers discuss The History Behind Betrayal Trauma And Sex Addiction. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recov...
Jun 29, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 40
Caller James' Question: "As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex...
Jun 27, 2022•44 min•Season 5Ep. 39
Caller Mckenna's Question: "What if I AM my husband's addiction? This is the simplest version of my question, but obviously there is SOOOOO much more to it! My husband is not addicted to pornography, alcohol or drugs, etc. He is addicted to me. It is the strangest thing to navigate. We are currently separated because I am drowning. I feel like I can't breathe with him in my life. And trying to get space from him has only made him try to cling tighter." Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", i...
Jun 22, 2022•44 min•Season 5Ep. 38
The Patrick brothers discuss How Can Trauma Be Good For Us. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from be...
Jun 20, 2022•35 min•Season 5Ep. 37
Caller Emily's Question: "I just listened to episode #57 and episode #92 my question is: what do you do when your partner tells you “you’re just not attractive”. I have been with my partner for a little over five years. About 2 years ago, I noticed something was “off” in our relationship. His complaint was “the sex we have isn’t intense/fulfilling enough” He used to tell me “I go out into public and see all these women who I am more attracted to” and then describes it as this visceral need to ha...
Jun 15, 2022•46 min•Season 5Ep. 36
Caller Tami's Question: "A couple of mths ago I'd responded to a podcast where you'd role played, mentioning that I felt the "betrayer" seemed they were portraying avoidant behavior likely to cause a betrayed to feel there's more secrecy. I am a huge proponent of the betrayed asking anything they want. It has helped me immensely (anxious type- I'll make up and fill holes if I don't know - which is usually worse than the truth!). Anyway, you'd asked about coming on - I'm completely open to it rea...
Jun 13, 2022•41 min•Season 5Ep. 35
Caller Madison's Question: "I am living with an addict and he is not working a program. I have been working a program for 6 years. I have finally decided I have had enough. What are some ways to work through the divorce process without creating lots more damage?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to...
Jun 08, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 34
The Patrick brothers discuss answers to the question: What Are Some Seemingly Good Beliefs That Actually Harm Your Recovery? Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting s...
Jun 06, 2022•41 min•Season 4Ep. 33
Caller Beth's Question: "How do I process, heal, and trust my husband again after there has been a betrayal that has devastated our family and our lives? The betrayal is a camera that was found in our downstairs bathroom that is used by my daughter and her friends. We separated when the camera was discovered but are currently living together. He seemed remorseful for a while but now he is refusing to go to counseling with me and he is not taking action towards recovery." Tyler Patrick, "The Wand...
May 30, 2022•39 min•Season 5Ep. 32
Caller Kathryn's Question: "Married 41 years. Separated 3.5. On New Year’s Day, he said he wanted to show me sobriety ( from fantasy and masturbation) and he was going to begin with a new CSAT and he wanted us to get together twice a week and start marriage counseling too. None of this has happened. I asked him in a text two weeks ago how his sobriety was going. He said he couldn’t say it was going well. His excuses for not moving back home are his resentment and his lack of sobriety. He has nev...
May 23, 2022•42 min•Season 5Ep. 31
Caller Rachel's Question: "I’ve been in Alanon since 2006, Sanon since 10/26/21. My husband has been sober for almost 4 years. We have been together off and on over 18 years. I’ve heard that addictions can come in three and I was warned early on that I had a long road with my husband. We’ve both grown independently but not together- it’s been really tragic- two people that are supposed to be professing christians and working programs? If God is in center, why arent we coming together? He told ou...
May 16, 2022•44 min•Season 5Ep. 30
Caller LuAnn's Question: "I am having difficulty in letting go. My husband of 7 years was “found out”. He has hooked up with men, online, met 4 different people that have been admitted to me. I’ve forgiven; he acts like he doesn’t think he needs forgiveness. What is wrong with me that I can’t let go!?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong v...
May 09, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 29
Caller Dave's Question: "I attempted to have an affair and was caught. My spouse and I have been working through my addiction recovery and her betrayal trauma recovery. At times she is triggered and talks to me about it to keep communication open and transparent. How do I keep from shaming myself for what I have done to her when she needs me to just listen." Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living t...
May 02, 2022•47 min
Caller Adriene's Question: "This question is for your last podcast regarding what works and doesn’t work in betrayal trauma recovery. I do agree with everything that was said in there. However, as someone who has been through betrayal trauma, addiction with her spouse, and abuse with her spouse I just wish the abuse part could be validated a little bit more. I agree that the abuse model can keep us stuck so we need to change up the model a little bit. However, once I learned about abuse and put ...
Apr 25, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 27
Pam's Question: Why does it feel like when I got better my partner got worse? Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery a...
Apr 18, 2022•50 min•Season 5Ep. 26
With the recent ridiculous scene from the Oscars, Tyler and Brannon break down the absurdity and talk about where toxic masculinity was showcased instead of real masculinity. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a gre...
Apr 11, 2022•48 min•Season 5Ep. 25
Caller Emily's Question: "I’ve been through most of the models over the past 15 years. I agree that the model needs constant growth… are you familiar with Vicki Tidwell Palmer? Her moving being betrayal book and courses are some of the best I’ve seen. It is so refreshing to have a therapist who understands and validates betrayal and whose goal is to MOVE you BEYOND it. We are still married, 21 years and still trying to gain connection and closeness in marriage. One piece that I feel you may be m...
Apr 04, 2022•44 min•Season 5Ep. 24
The 2 Brothers meet this week to talk about "safe" marriages where there is no fulfillment or growth within the relationship. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting ...
Mar 28, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 23
Caller Lucy asked: "I was married to my husband for 40 years when he passed away from cancer. Three weeks before he passed I found out he was having an affair. He passed three years ago and I have since found out our whole marriage was based on lies. I have not told anyone about what I have found, It has truly made it very hard for me to move forward . I need to move forward! My question is do I share this information with my adult children? Our lives with my husband was based on beautiful lies ...
Mar 23, 2022•42 min•Season 5Ep. 22
Caller Chelsea, "My husband has used some porn as a form of escapism, but never really an addiction. His real addiction has been alcohol. He is currently 3 months sober, but it seems like his goal in this is to show me that the alcohol was never really the problem in our marriage, but that the real problem was/is me. He makes zero effort to move toward the relationship, giving me the silent treatment. When I force him to talk, or at minimum listen to what I have to say, he refutes most everythin...
Mar 21, 2022•44 min•Season 5Ep. 21
Caller Claire's Question: "My husband and I have been listening to your podcast for a couple of weeks now and appreciate your insight into this difficult subject. We are at the beginning of recovery but find ourselves in the position of having our roles swapped. I, the wife have the sex addiction and my husband is working through the betrayal trauma. My question is whether you have any insight into female sex addiction or any resources that would be helpful for us. I am finding it difficult to f...
Mar 14, 2022•52 min•Season 5Ep. 20
Brannon & Tyler have a deep dive into the way we view the process we're in. Our Radiant Dawn Women's Conference is coming up soon and we have a few more passes available. This event will be life-changing and unforgettable. If you're on the fence about it, make the commitment and join us and 29 other incredible women on an experiential journey of healing and growth. https://radiantdawnconference.com Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Chr...
Mar 09, 2022•39 min•Season 5Ep. 19
For those that aren't aware, Brannon had another podcast called the Betrayed, The Addicted, And The Expert where he cohosted the podcast with a married couple named Coby & Ashlynn. The show ran for 4 years and revealed the inner workings of betrayal and trauma within a relationship and the added insight of a qualified therapist helping them break down some of the topics that challenge couples in this difficult terrain. The Podcast concluded (the feed is still active) when Coby announced that...
Mar 07, 2022•50 min•Season 5Ep. 18
Caller Jeff's Question: "I have had some short sporadic visits with my son and mostly when he wants something. The other day he came over and wanted to talk about financial support as an adult going off to college. He told me flat-out that I better commit to helping him or he is out of my life for good. He is saying that this is a boundary. I am calling it extortion and manipulation. Even though I am upset by his tone and demands, I will still help him and I can't fault him for his presentations...
Mar 03, 2022•48 min•Season 5Ep. 17
