Caller Chase's Question: "How do I trust my wife enough to let her love me? Through all of my addiction and now into recovery, one of the beliefs I keep telling myself is, I've been so bad to my wife. I\'ve been so awful with my choices, I shouldn't be loved by her, or she deserves someone better. I don't trust that she actually loves me. So How guys, can I learn to trust her? How can I learn to trust myself? // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE A CALL // We would love to answer any questions you hav...
Nov 02, 2022•49 min•Season 2Ep. 179
Caller Collin's Question: "How do you heal from sex addiction?" Have you been struggling to recover from addiction or mental health issues, but feel like you're not making any progress? If you're feeling stuck and frustrated, this episode is for you. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What is recovery, really, and how do I get there? 2. What were the important things to really push Collin to do the hard things, to start to let go of some of those most difficult things and face those darkest dem...
Oct 31, 2022•47 min•Season 2Ep. 178
Caller Toni's Question: "How do I differentiate between the man that he was and that I loved for so long with vs the man he is now? Even though he hurt me so deeply it’s still hard to see him as anything other than the great man that I married. I recognize that he’s not the same person, but at the same time I struggle to see past the facade of who he portrays himself to be when it’s really so much continued manipulation, lies, and exploitation that is happening." // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE ...
Oct 26, 2022•51 min•Season 2Ep. 177
Caller Mia's Question: "I haven’t heard any other recovery podcast address this yet, but I would really like to talk about child pornography and having sexual interactions with minors. I found my husband had sexual interactions with girls as young as 13. Legally, I’ve already reported it, which gives me some freedom to be able to talk about it. I decided that was what was most authentic for me given my history of being sexually abused at 6 years old. Even within the recovery community, this seem...
Oct 24, 2022•46 min•Season 2Ep. 176
In today's episode of the Real Talk Recovery podcast, Brannon and Tyler discuss the idea that addiction is an attempt to find Jesus Christ. In this episode, you will learn: 1. Can people find God through addiction? 2. What is the role of trauma in spiritual discovery? 3. How do our beliefs about God affect our ability to feel His love? "It's the story that we put in there that disconnects. It's the story that we begin to believe and find evidence for that pulls us away from the connection to the...
Oct 19, 2022•32 min•Season 2Ep. 175
Caller Austin's Question: "How do I get all of this head knowledge about recovery into my heart? How do I make that shift?" // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE A CALL // We would love to answer any questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, healing and anything you can think of. Click the link below to submit your question (and if you're open to being a guest on the podcast, you can schedule your call time as well)! We're also curious to know if there are any topics you'd like to hear us ...
Oct 17, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 174
Caller Dave's Question: "In one of your recent podcasts you requested couples who might want to be on the podcast that are stuck. My wife Janel and I have been in therapy and recovery in one form or another for some time and feel stuck. We have discussed possibly being open to getting help or advice from you both as part of the podcast." // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE A CALL // We would love to answer any questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, healing and anything you can think o...
Oct 12, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 173
Caller Mele's Question: "I used to attend Brannon’s betrayal trauma group. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to heal but have found myself in another similar cycle as before. Although a very different scenario, the similar cycle of divorce continues. I wanted to ask, how does one break the cycle of suffering? I believe we can become addicted to suffering, which is why often people turn to porn, poor relationships, food, or anything even just living in pain. So if I have finally realized I’m addict...
Oct 10, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 172
Brannon and Tyler discuss some controversial topics around sex, church, and Jesus. They talk about how shame is utilized within church settings to teach chastity. // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE A CALL // We would love to answer any questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, healing and anything you can think of. Click the link below to submit your question (and if you're open to being a guest on the podcast, you can schedule your call time as well)! We're also curious to know if ther...
Oct 05, 2022•34 min•Season 2Ep. 171
Caller Adam's Question: "I know I need to rely on my higher power, but an overwhelming recent trauma keeps me from wanting to trust and surrender my will over to him. How can overcome my unwillingness to connect with God and others so I can continue on my recovery journey?" // SUBMIT A QUESTION + SCHEDULE A CALL // We would love to answer any questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, healing and anything you can think of. Click the link below to submit your question (and if you're op...
Oct 03, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 170
Brannon and Tyler host a special guest, Ashlynn Mitchell. Brannon co-hosted The Betrayed, The Addicted & The Expert podcast with Ashlynn which ran for multiple years. These 3 talk about Ashlynn's life and work post-divorce and the beauty and healing that can transpire. Ashlynn Mitchell (@this.isashlynn), Mom of 2 tween girls in Northern Utah. Having seen many challenges in life she knows that joy is possible, even when life hasn’t gone as you hoped. She co-hosted the TOP 10 The Betrayed, The...
Sep 28, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 169
Caller Holly's Question: "Podcast 133 was so powerful for me. Rachel spoke to my heart and your responses were so relevant. I’ve listened to so many of your episodes and along the journey of betrayal recovery, they have all been so helpful. I learned of my partner’s betrayal when he had a near-fatal motorcycle accident. When he was airlifted to the nearest trauma hospital, I was given his phone. When looking for contact numbers for family and friends I discovered a five-year-long (that I can tra...
Sep 26, 2022•37 min•Season 2Ep. 168
Caller Anne Question: "I’m desperate for some support or advice. I feel so alone. I’m losing myself to insanity and I am not sure if I’m at fault for not having more self control or if maybe what I’m feeling and how I’m reacting to this pain is normal? My husband says I am crazy & that my boundaries for him are impossible to meet, but then he agrees that he DOES meet my boundaries. I don’t understand him or maybe I don’t understand myself. Please help me to see the picture from the outside l...
Sep 21, 2022•46 min•Season 5Ep. 64
Caller Andrew's Question: "My behavior regarding my addiction was so different than the rest of my life. How do I tell what was addiction/avoidance attachment and what was really me and is in my dna/personality?" Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betr...
Sep 19, 2022•46 min•Season 5Ep. 63
Our friend Glenn was one of the first caller's on the podcast. He showed up in a big way that day and we're happy to reconnect with him. If you'd like to see his first episode, it is titled "God, where were you? How Do I Overcome The Feeling That God Abandoned Me?" and was published on June 29 of 2020. Brannon Patrick LCSW (@brannon_patrick), is co-founder of Therapy Utah . He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a pr...
Sep 14, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 62
The 2 brothers talk about the power of self-reflection and what to do when your partner is not accountable to themself. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforr...
Sep 12, 2022•38 min•Season 5Ep. 61
Caller Allie's Question: "Why do I look for proof my husband isn’t trustworthy? Porn addiction hides in the background of my marriage. Things will be good for a while and then I’ll go searching for evidence that nothing is as good as it seems. I usually end up being right. He had made some great progress, and there is still such a long way to go. How do I let go of trying to uncover my husband's secrets when I am afraid he won’t try to overcome his addiction on his own?" Brannon Patrick LCSW (@b...
Sep 07, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 60
The 2 brothers discuss the shame cycle that can come from having a problem with pornography, especially for those who have an expectation of being perfect. Brannon Patrick LCSW (@brannon_patrick), is co-founder of Therapy Utah . He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to LiftForRecovery.com for more info! Tyler Patr...
Sep 05, 2022•36 min•Season 5Ep. 59
Caller Kevin's Question: "As a recovering addict to pornography and masturbation, I struggle with communicating with my wife about my sexual desires because of some shame and not wanting her to feel pressured into having sex. She has said she struggles with feeling pressure and responsibility, which lowers her desire or makes her feel stuck in a bad situation. How can I check in with my wife in a healthy way that allows us to communicate honestly and transparently, without feeling shame or press...
Aug 31, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 58
The 2 brothers talk about how sex addiction and recovery can affect the power dynamic in a relationship. Brannon Patrick LCSW (@brannon_patrick), is co-founder of Therapy Utah . He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to LiftForRecovery.com for more info! Tyler Patrick LMFT (@the.wandering.therapist), is co-founder ...
Aug 29, 2022•43 min•Season 5Ep. 57
The 2 brothers discuss the importance of a good mentor, especially in life and recovery. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info! Tyl...
Aug 24, 2022•31 min•Season 5Ep. 56
Caller Sam's question: I have been in recovery for the past 3.5 years. I am 41 with a wife and 5 kids. I was in a very dark place before finding recovery. One of the things that helped pull me from that dark place was hearing a podcast of someone who had a very similar story to mine and who had the courage to be honest and come forward to make changes in his life. I was serving as EQ President in my ward at that time while acting out regularly. So my question is this: how should I think about sh...
Aug 22, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 55
Tyler Patrick discusses how to not give up on recovery, even when failure can be depressing. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info!...
Aug 17, 2022•49 min•Season 5Ep. 54
Caller Claire's Question: "I am 8 months into recovery and doing really well. Can you discuss the difference between PTSD, anxiety and shame and how they manifest in the body? I am still not fully processing these things consciously due to my addict reaction to bury and run from hard emotions. This leaves me vulnerable to relapse, something I came close to doing a few weeks ago. What is the best way to face and process these?" Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapy...
Aug 15, 2022•50 min•Season 5Ep. 53
Caller Daxton's Question: "I am a man in recovery from addiction and I am also learning how to manage ADHD in my adult life. I was diagnosed with ADHD after graduating high school. Since starting recovery, I have found mindfulness to be an invaluable tool for addiction recovery and managing my ADHD. As I’ve worked on mindfulness, I have seen it help me manage my ADHD in some very palpable ways and at the same time, I’ve found that my ADHD makes mindfulness pretty hard sometimes. In all of your w...
Aug 10, 2022•46 min•Season 5Ep. 52
Caller Ben's Question: "How do I hold space for my betrayed partner when they continue to respond with anger and distancing?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting ...
Aug 08, 2022•48 min•Season 5Ep. 51
The pendulum can swing from zero disclosure to 100%, but is that the right balance for a healthy relationship? How do you determine what to share as the addicted partner or as the betrayed partner? Honesty is vital in the process. Learn more about what Brannon and Tyler think related to this challenging topic. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love ...
Aug 03, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 50
Brannon shares some stories and background about how Garth Brooks has impacted his life in a positive way. This one might seem squirrely but has some really good principles about living life fully. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovest...
Aug 01, 2022•32 min•Season 5Ep. 49
Caller Scott's Question: "How Do I Learn To Stand Up For Myself When I Feel So Much Shame Over The Things That I've Done?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at connect@lovestrong.com or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soo...
Jul 27, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 48
Caller Jesslyn's Question: "How do I stay healthy and make good boundaries, as well as stop unhealthy mentality and cycles during family, get togethers with people who confuse rigidity for righteousness and not get triggered when they say hurtful/judgemental things?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach ou...
Jul 25, 2022•46 min•Season 5Ep. 47
