We share some personal updates...and spoiler alert...there's gonna be another TAPT wedding woo hoo!!! In this episode, we share how we're each handling our many transitions and challenges amidst many life changes. We talk about being in gratitude while also allowing space for the grief of what's changed and been lost. We discuss the loss of identity that comes from transitioning from singlehood into relationship life and how that can impact our independence. Frantzces reminds us that relationshi...
Mar 01, 2022•36 min•Season 5Ep. 11
Listen as we discuss the question, "Can therapists have light days?" And what does it mean to have "light days" in the work that we do? Therapists and healers carry a lot of emotional and mental weight when working with either clients or systems. Dive in as we explore when the shift happened for us in having more "light days" in our work. Learn what it means to incorporate lighter moments into your practice. Frantzces also shared what's in her internet browser as a self-proclaimed deep thinker. ...
Dec 21, 2021•26 min•Season 5Ep. 12
In this week's episode, we discuss SEX! Listen as we discuss how to manage different conversations surrounding sex and intimacy. Especially when one of you wants to try new things and the other person doesn't want to. Or what happens when someone wants it all of the time? Dive in as we explore the differences in personalities, how do you work through someone who may have had more sexual experiences than you, and what if you have someone who's a bit more rigid than you? Learn what we believe is t...
Dec 14, 2021•22 min•Season 5Ep. 11
In this week's episode, we discuss loneliness and isolation. Listen as we explain the differences between loneliness and being alone, and how the imposed isolation resulting from the pandemic and its effects on our psyche. Dive in as we talk about experiencing loneliness throughout and after the healing process. Learn the importance of reclaiming yourself through loneliness and isolation. Key takeaways from this episode: 1. Loneliness can come up whenever we feel alone, unwanted, or isolated. So...
Dec 07, 2021•27 min•Season 5Ep. 10
In this week's episode, we ponder if it is possible to achieve happiness. Listen as we dissect what it means to be happy. We explore how do to respond to clients in their search for happiness, and how do you define happiness for yourself. Dive in as we think about what we would need to feel happiness and joy while also feeling centered and grounded. Feeling joyful is a natural state of being for us. We just have to find ways to make conscious decisions to feel it. So get up and do things that ma...
Nov 30, 2021•27 min•Season 5Ep. 9
In this week's episode, we discuss passion and purpose: is it total bs or is it actually real. Can you actually achieve passion and purpose? Listen as we talk about whether you can live the lifestyle you want AND embrace your passion. Dive in as we question if money needs to be exchanged for work in order for passion and purpose to be deemed legit. We deconstruct the social conditioning of society to extract what is individually meaningful for all (any) of us. Key takeaways from this episode: 1....
Nov 22, 2021•27 min•Season 5Ep. 8
In this week's episode, we discuss the impact of our upbringing and how the relationships with our parents/caretakers have shaped who we are. Some questions we answered were what do we want to take with us moving forward, what lessons did we learn and what are the things we know for sure that we want to leave behind. Lastly, we discussed how do we reparent ourselves in the midst of change and healing. Reflecting on how you were parented is important work to do. This determines what you take with...
Nov 16, 2021•23 min•Season 5Ep. 7
In this week's episode, we discuss motivation and execution. Listen as we talk about what holds us back from accomplishing things and what gives us a spark to completing tasks. Dive in as we question if motivation is even a real thing, how the word is oversaturated and overused, and how people minimize the impact of motivation. Add the song “Go Big” by Big Sean to your new motivation playlist is Go Big by Big Sean. Thank us later. Key takeaways from this episode: 1. Be mindful of how societal no...
Nov 09, 2021•17 min•Season 5Ep. 6
In this week's episode, we discuss the advice that we would give to our younger selves. Listen as we talk about young adulthood, attending college, experiencing the quarter-life crisis, and developing independence. Dive in as we discuss obtaining mentorship from outside of the home, and the realization that we needed to have patience and that things happen for us when we are ready. The moral of the story: wake up and pay attention. Key takeaways from this episode: 1. Stop people-pleasing and say...
Nov 02, 2021•22 min•Season 5Ep. 5
In this week's episode, we discuss how we respond to other people’s mental health problems. Listen as we talk about how we navigate when people come to us to dump their mental health narratives into us, and our struggles with setting boundaries with others in the workplace and in social settings. Dive in as we process how people can misread and misuse our superpowers as therapists and healers. Key takeaways from this episode: 1. Dumping your narrative onto others can possibly leave you feeling v...
Oct 26, 2021•24 min•Season 5Ep. 4
This week's episode talks about perfection and shame with our special host Clinical Social Worker and Child Welfare Superhero Seth Riker. Listen as we talk about how we have dealt with perfectionism, how it shows up in our lives, and how perfectionism impacts us positively and negatively. Dive in as discuss if perfectionism can lead to procrastination and the inability to move forward and let go. How in the world does Seth continue to find the strength to keep going in this field?! By finding th...
Oct 19, 2021•35 min•Season 5Ep. 3
In this week's episode, we discuss how to move on from a breakup. Listen as we talk about tips and tricks to recognizing dysfunction, what lessons are learned after relationships come to an end, and identifying healthy characteristics of a healthy relationship. Dive in as we discuss the impact of self-worth and how your partner choices change when you start to love yourself. Emotional intelligence is a game-changer. Key takeaways from this episode: 1. You just block them. Do not engage in contac...
Oct 12, 2021•25 min•Season 5Ep. 2
In this week's episode, we discuss finding a great therapist and firing a terrible therapist. Listen as we share some life updates and our experiences with searching for therapists and engaging in therapy. Dive in as we discuss our characteristics of a great therapists and concrete strategies to assess the quality of the therapeutic relationship. And…did you all notice that happiness is the common theme in all of our lives? Tonika is no longer in the closet! Yaaasss! Key takeaways from this epis...
Oct 05, 2021•35 min•Season 5Ep. 1
We couldn't let the season go without talking about our favorite topics: relationships and dating. We get a bit wild and uncensored in our very LAST episode for season 4 with this conversation about online dating and relationships in general. We tackle the question of why it's so hard to have a conversation of depth? And why people can't move past, "Hey beautiful." We even work through the insecurities behind the famous, "Did I scare you off" question. Much of the challenges of dating surrounds ...
Jul 06, 2021•39 min•Season 4Ep. 12
In this week's episode, we discuss our thoughts about the Netflix movie White Tiger. Listen as we talk about the fictional story of the main character Balaram Halwai, whose life begins at servitude. Despite India claiming to be a country of democracy we witness the divisions between the caste and class systems and the impact it has on Southeast Asian society. This is an incredible film that has won numerous awards. The white tiger is a symbolic sign that represents power through conviction, indi...
Jun 29, 2021•23 min•Season 4Ep. 11
In this week, we discuss procrastination after watching a Ted Talk by Tim Urban. Some person, Frantzces found on the world wide web. He shared some insights about his longstanding song and dance with procrastination. We may at times find it humorous when we procrastinate on things, but sometimes it could be a deeper issue. What is truly delaying the things that you know you must do or even would like to do? We also wondered if there was a "cure" for procrastination. Is this ingrained, or can you...
Jun 22, 2021•19 min•Season 4Ep. 10
In this week's episode, we discuss Carl Jung’s theory on Shadow Work. Listen as we talk about understanding the unconscious parts of yourself and your psyche, and its similarities to doing inner child work, and spiritual and somatic work. Dive in as we discuss the process of accepting the "good" and "bad" parts of our lives and selves, and what is needed to engage in transformational change. Please invest in the work of Bessel Van der Kolk who remains the father and guru of deep trauma work. Key...
Jun 15, 2021•22 min•Season 4Ep. 9
In this week's episode, we discuss what is home. Listen as we talk about what home means to us, and how that impacts how we show up in the world. Dive in as we hold a vulnerable conversation about the metaphorical and literal meanings of “home”. Where is your home base located in the world? Listen to Home by American Idol Season 11 winner Phillip Phillip @philphil Key takeaways from this episode: 1. Home is where you are being centered, and being grounded. Home is where the heart is. How is wher...
Jun 08, 2021•31 min•Season 4Ep. 8
In this week's episode, we discuss life after the degree. Listen as we talk about what our lives were like right after obtaining the MSW degree, having expectations versus not having expectations of ourselves as clinicians and the field’s overemphasis on choosing a setting and a population. Dive in as we discuss our figure out current ways to customize our professional careers to suit our individual talents, interests, and strengths. Are we masochists or gluttons for punishment for staying in th...
Jun 01, 2021•35 min•Season 4Ep. 7
In this week's episode, we discuss the concept of the Superwoman Complex. The dark side of the Superwoman complex is the fear of showing vulnerability. But at best, doing everything on our own is a recipe for stunted growth and, at worst, a path to burnout. Being continually caught up in the daily whirlwind often leads to losing perspective and a clear, current view of your market or field. Being head down all the time leads to isolation. As seasoned multitaskers, we too often put multiple famil...
May 25, 2021•21 min•Season 4Ep. 6
In this week's episode, we discuss resiliency. We share our experiences with the term in regards to our clients and our personal lives. What impacts resilience? Why do we need it and how do we build it? How do we become more resilient? Why are some people more resilient than others? Key takeaways from this episode: 1. Some people are born with an innate resilience ability. Whereas others have to "do the work" to cultivate a practice of staying with unwanted feelings to better understand them and...
May 18, 2021•25 min•Season 4Ep. 5
In this week's episode, we continue to discuss how the Chauvin verdict and events surrounding it impact our work...and also how it impacts us personally. With our very FIRST guest host, Dr. Holly! She specializes in working with Black professional women who experience microaggressions in their workplace. Today we talk about our suggestions and perspectives on what needs to be done in order for us to heal. Key takeaways from this episode: 1) Dr. Holly argues that this is not our fight. How does r...
May 11, 2021•46 min•Season 4Ep. 4
In this week's episode, we discuss our reactions to the live television airing of the David Chauvin verdict. Yes, friends. We literally were recording during the live verdict. Listen as we chat about how the verdict is representative of accountability and not justice, and how we hold on to hope while trying to find inner peace for ourselves. Dive in as we end up asking ourselves a lot more reflective questions rather than providing any answers or solutions. In true TAPT fashion, our conversation...
May 04, 2021•28 min•Season 4Ep. 3
In this week's episode, we discuss client autonomy. Listen as we talk about DMX’s appearance on Iyanla: Fix My Life and his plea for decision making over his change process, and the moral and professional dilemma of directing clients with our agenda and when to step back and let the client lead the work. Dive in as we discuss our own preferred treatment modalities and clinical training, and the impact of our approach on our clients and their ultimate shift towards change. It's difficult watching...
Apr 27, 2021•28 min•Season 4Ep. 2
We are back for Season 4! We have missed you all! In this episode, we discuss what we have been up to and what we have been doing since our Season 3 finale episode. In this episode, we discuss how we are dealing with the panini (Hee Hee Hee) and our plans as a brand, friends, and a podcast. Join us as we remind you all to continue doing the work, have fun, and remember that you were chosen to do this work. Wait. Oh. Snap. We may just have a guest speaker featured this season. Stay tuned! For que...
Apr 20, 2021•12 min•Season 4Ep. 1
This is our last episode of the season! We can't believe it's been a whole darn year that TAPT has been in motion. We appreciate all the support and response so far. So, we decided to switch things up a bit and do a TAPT Out Remix! We've put together a "hodgepodge" of clips that we've enjoyed throughout the seasons to share them with ya'll! Which episode is your favorite? Let us know! In the meantime, TAPT is taking a break (as we normally do) in-between seasons. We're thinking of creating a TAP...
Dec 29, 2020•34 min•Season 3Ep. 12
In this week's episode, we discuss our personal reflections of the now historic year 2020, and our New Year’s reflections moving forward into 2021. Listen as we talk about the impact of Tiger King on your psyche and well being, what we have had to endure, and positive coping skills that we use to get through these tough times. Dive in as we discuss the finding moments of clarity and affirmation, and how everything eventually comes to the surface. And you know what?! We launched our podcast in 20...
Dec 22, 2020•29 min•Season 3Ep. 11
In this week's episode, we discuss attachment styles and our own experiences with reflecting on childhood and adult attachment styles. Listen as we talk about how attachment styles show up in various parts of our lives, how therapy can help you become aware of your own attachment style, and how attachment styles can change throughout your lifetime. Dive in as we discuss how painful it was for the three of us to have this conversation, the importance of creating a life outside of an intimate rela...
Dec 15, 2020•31 min•Season 3Ep. 10
In this week's episode, we discuss the pressures of the holidays and how hard it can be to say no to your family. No matter how much you get along with your fam, family time can be intense. It's easy to get caught up in all the guilt-tripping that happens around this time. A lot of us are tired of slaving in the kitchen even if it can be fun. By the way, give Sabeen her hot salted caramel hot cocoa mix throughout the year and not just during the holidays! Key takeaways from this episode: 1. Not ...
Dec 09, 2020•19 min•Season 3Ep. 9
In this week's episode, we tackle the vulnerable subject of rebuilding trust in relationships. Listen as we talk about what can break trust in familial, platonic, and romantic relationships and how to rebuild trust with clients. Dive in as we discuss what makes us feel safe and protected, and a new wave of cancel culture, and how folks refuse to repair relationships when trust has been broken. Key takeaway for this week’s episode: 1. We can talk about trust without talking about communication. W...
Dec 01, 2020•24 min•Season 3Ep. 8
